Pearl - February 22, 2025


Pearl Proves Why Modern Women Don't Want Relationships ｜ Pearl Daily


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Today on Pearl Daily, we re going to talk about the modern woman life cycle and why I don t think women actually want to be in relationships as much as people think they do. I m going to tell you why and why not.

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00:00:00.000 Today on Pearl Daily, we're going to talk about the modern woman life cycle.
00:00:03.780 So as you guys know, we've talked about this life cycle on my show before.
00:00:07.520 So the first is modern women will go to a high priced institution and get a degree that 1.00
00:00:12.380 nobody cares about and put themselves in a bunch of debt to burden themselves the rest
00:00:16.960 of their life.
00:00:17.880 All they learn in school is how to be disagreeable and how to use men for money.
00:00:22.340 Modern women will get a job that is too stressful that does not care about them. 1.00
00:00:25.940 In reality, the job is not that hard or stressful, but these women will convince themselves 1.00
00:00:29.940 that it is.
00:00:31.420 For example, the thirst trapping girl thinking she's a real journalist and famous because 0.99
00:00:36.720 of her talent and nothing to do with her looks.
00:00:40.060 There's an example.
00:00:41.380 Modern women feel entitled to a certain lifestyle when they begin their careers and will buy 1.00
00:00:45.880 houses and cars they can't afford, spend all their money on travel while ignoring their
00:00:49.640 student loan debt.
00:00:50.740 Women will wake up around the ages of 33 and 37, rush to have kids and find a husband or 1.00
00:00:55.440 both. 0.97
00:00:56.180 Modern women hit their late 30s, early 40s, try to get pregnant by a loser. 1.00
00:00:59.940 Modern women will start on antidepressants and become alcoholics. 1.00
00:01:06.180 Modern women will buy a dog or a cat and die alone. 1.00
00:01:10.280 Okay. 0.98
00:01:11.340 All right.
00:01:11.800 Starting at the first step is going to college.
00:01:15.360 So women have set out to prove that they don't need a man and they don't want a relationship. 1.00
00:01:22.260 They certainly do not want marriage.
00:01:24.320 We are in social infrastructures and entire industries in place to perpetuate the strong
00:01:30.460 independent woman life cycle. 1.00
00:01:32.420 Recent studies show that 40% of women say that having a romantic partner was not important
00:01:38.040 compared to 20% of men and 60% of divorced women said that having a romantic partner was
00:01:44.260 unimportant to them compared to 30% of men.
00:01:47.000 An article outlining all of the stats of men wanting relationships more than women.
00:01:52.740 As a person who does interviews, as a person who interviews adult film stars on the regular,
00:01:58.740 I'm used to hookup culture.
00:02:00.460 I mean, it's kind of what I report on.
00:02:02.040 It's been my life.
00:02:02.820 And for the longest time, most men told me that they were not into a potential romantic
00:02:07.720 relationship with me.
00:02:09.460 Around the time I was married, I had several men who were ready to settle down with me.
00:02:13.440 They had made their desires known to me, and honestly, I was not feeling it with most of
00:02:17.560 them.
00:02:18.140 The only one I really wanted was my husband.
00:02:20.700 After having been let on by guys claiming they wanted marriage as often as I was, I honestly
00:02:25.160 believe that men don't want love.
00:02:26.760 In fact, a lot of comments I get on my medium and the remarks I read on Reddit kind of reinforce
00:02:32.200 that belief.
00:02:33.060 However, I can't deny numbers.
00:02:34.840 And it seems like the numbers suggest that men really do want to have relationships after
00:02:38.940 all.
00:02:39.640 How do I know?
00:02:40.260 Well, I did research on singles in America, among other studies.
00:02:45.960 Since the pandemic, men have started to prioritize finding a relationship.
00:02:49.700 According to match.com's research, 42% of all men are looking for a relationship when
00:02:54.860 they go online.
00:02:56.280 This is far higher than the number of women, 29% who are looking for the same.
00:03:01.980 Additionally, 62% of all single daters are now saying they have a committed, meaningful
00:03:08.680 relationship is now a bigger priority than before.
00:03:11.580 This seems true among people that used to be cool with a hookup.
00:03:16.400 31% of men and 33% of women noted that being single is stressful.
00:03:22.560 27% of men noted that loneliness is a challenging issue of being single.
00:03:28.720 So, you know, there's this idea that women want relationships more than men. 0.99
00:03:32.860 But the challenge I have is if that were true, if that were true, then why don't women get 1.00
00:03:38.880 into relationships when they're young?
00:03:40.920 And it's interesting because I've been getting stats from people.
00:03:43.780 And if you want to interview your like, I'm sorry, if you want to send me your stats of
00:03:48.140 how many women you've slept with and how many wanted relationships with you, you guys would
00:03:53.060 be amazed at how many guys told me they slept with like 50 women and maybe seven wanted to 1.00
00:03:59.240 be in a relationship with them.
00:04:00.980 I've gotten it the other way around.
00:04:02.500 Like one guy said he slept with 36 women and six wanted to be in a relationship with him.
00:04:08.060 And I'm going to do a show going over all the numbers I've gotten, but I don't think women 1.00
00:04:12.660 want to be in relationships as much as people believe.
00:04:18.400 Now, the saddest part about this recent phenomenon is that most women will want a relationship or 1.00
00:04:24.840 marriage sooner or later.
00:04:26.420 The previous stated social infrastructure keeps women from focusing on a relationship until 0.92
00:04:32.760 it's, I honestly, sorry, sometimes I read things and then I disagree a little bit.
00:04:38.260 You know, I don't think women actually want relationships ever. 1.00
00:04:41.940 I think they say they want it the same way.
00:04:45.180 Okay.
00:04:45.820 You guys, you know, have you ever met a fat person that says they want to lose weight,
00:04:49.740 but they won't do any of the things that want, like any of the things required to lose
00:04:54.600 weight.
00:04:55.000 That's women. 1.00
00:04:55.700 So by the time women get around to getting into a relationship, I don't think it's because
00:05:01.360 they want one.
00:05:02.340 It's because they have to have one because they're usually past the wall, have a bad attitude,
00:05:08.300 bad habits from trauma or another man's children before she decides to settle down.
00:05:13.180 How many examples have we seen on social media and the news in the last five to seven years?
00:05:17.920 Let's face it.
00:05:19.060 Men are more honest about everything than women. 1.00
00:05:21.080 And they're far more likely to be realistic when it comes to being asked about what they
00:05:25.180 want in white life.
00:05:26.160 And they're far more realistic about the prospects of marriage and children and don't feel ashamed.
00:05:31.460 They don't feel ashamed to want wife, kids in a family.
00:05:35.240 Now, it does go against the sisterhood to say that you want any of those things, because
00:05:40.960 if a modern woman does claim she wants to be married and have children, you know, you get 1.00
00:05:46.580 shunned by a lot of women in your social circle, especially in many cities.
00:05:50.860 And the thing is, single women, they live a rock star lifestyle. 1.00
00:05:55.840 I mean, single women today live a lifestyle that's super like celebrities lived like 10, 1.00
00:06:02.940 20 years ago.
00:06:03.840 I mean, they're on boats, yachts, getting attention from like the great, like the best top, like
00:06:11.800 the kings of society.
00:06:13.600 You know, I think it's so simple.
00:06:15.720 Women don't want to be in relationships because it's more fun to be worshipped or do the fun 1.00
00:06:21.160 job or like all of that kind of stuff.
00:06:24.580 Even some traditional conservative women will shame a woman if she wants to serve her husband 1.00
00:06:29.920 and family.
00:06:31.200 You know, they shame large age gaps.
00:06:33.840 So where does that leave modern women? 1.00
00:06:36.120 There will be many women that miss their chance to find a husband. 1.00
00:06:39.940 The strong independent woman train is a one-way trip and there's no going back. 0.89
00:06:43.980 This is not the case for men.
00:06:46.200 A man can get married and have kids in his 30s, 40s and 50s.
00:06:49.540 And there's going to be a lot of women that wake up, look around and realize there's no 1.00
00:06:53.280 opportunities.
00:06:54.500 The party is over and they're going to die alone.
00:06:57.940 I think I will never understand is a woman that's sad because she doesn't have a man in 1.00
00:07:02.000 her life.
00:07:02.620 Yeah, our partnership's great.
00:07:03.900 Yes.
00:07:04.300 But I'm telling you, your female friendships will give you more emotionally than any man 1.00
00:07:08.520 can.
00:07:09.120 You yourself can give yourself more than any man can.
00:07:13.000 Instead of being the victim and being like, oh, nobody spoils me.
00:07:15.680 I don't have a boyfriend.
00:07:16.820 Start thinking like you're your own boyfriend.
00:07:19.500 Could you guys hear it?
00:07:20.760 Can you hear it?
00:07:21.540 Be like, what would I do if I was my own girlfriend?
00:07:24.020 I would spoil her, take her out to meals.
00:07:26.100 I would get her a manicure.
00:07:27.520 I would take her on a trip.
00:07:29.060 I would take her out to the movies.
00:07:30.940 You're going to become your dream partner.
00:07:32.700 And I'm telling you, your life will completely transform after that.
00:07:36.180 Focus inward.
00:07:37.040 Focus on yourself.
00:07:38.100 Spoil yourself.
00:07:38.880 And you will never feel like anything is lacking in your life.
00:07:41.940 Okay.
00:07:42.140 Let me know if that audio is working.
00:07:44.140 Okay.
00:07:45.380 We're going to watch a couple TikToks on this.
00:07:47.880 And then I'm going to attempt to do a call-in.
00:07:51.460 Ladies, men's primary focus is not relationships. 0.91
00:07:54.300 They are biologically selfish.
00:07:57.820 And they can come in the comments here and deny it until they're blue in the face.
00:08:02.300 But this is the facts.
00:08:03.940 And the quicker you realize this as a woman, the happier you will be in this life.
00:08:09.400 Once you realize that a man does not give an F about you, you will be happier as a woman.
00:08:17.200 When you start to think this way, you will naturally prioritize yourself. 1.00
00:08:23.160 Oh, shit. 1.00
00:08:23.700 That's Serkana. 1.00
00:08:24.980 I did not realize that was her.
00:08:28.100 Serkana, you got to stop with these filters.
00:08:30.160 I didn't recognize you.
00:08:31.580 I like I seriously did not recognize her.
00:08:33.580 That is something that as women, we should have done many years ago.
00:08:36.900 We should have done centuries ago. 0.87
00:08:39.300 And I don't just mean being out here for survival.
00:08:43.020 No.
00:08:43.740 I mean really de-centering men and centering ourselves.
00:08:46.720 Men's primary focus is not relationships. 0.95
00:08:50.500 It's career, status and personal goals.
00:08:54.200 Where's relationships in that?
00:08:56.140 Doesn't exist.
00:08:57.640 Because men don't center their lives around relationships.
00:09:00.860 In fact, they see relationships as just like an addition.
00:09:03.680 As something that's just kind of there.
00:09:06.160 Just kind of there lingering.
00:09:07.880 They don't go out seeking relationships.
00:09:11.360 They go out seeking pleasure.
00:09:14.840 Oh, yeah.
00:09:15.220 And we're gonna trigger some men today.
00:09:18.400 Because they're not gonna like that.
00:09:19.860 Oh, no.
00:09:20.620 We care about love.
00:09:21.560 No, you don't.
00:09:22.280 No, you don't.
00:09:23.320 And the younger you realize this.
00:09:26.300 As a girl as well, by the way.
00:09:28.540 The happier you will be.
00:09:31.000 Because ladies, men do not give an F about you. 1.00
00:09:34.540 And they never will.
00:09:35.960 Because they are not wired to care about you.
00:09:38.740 They are wired to feel fulfillment through doing things like providing and protecting.
00:09:47.660 They get a hit of dopamine from doing those things.
00:09:51.820 So when they take care of you and they do these manly things that they are supposed to do.
00:09:57.940 That are their duties, they get a hit of dopamine.
00:10:03.180 They're happy hormones.
00:10:04.220 They feel good.
00:10:05.060 That's it.
00:10:05.760 That's as far as it goes with a man. 0.55
00:10:08.320 He's never gonna feel anything else for you.
00:10:10.640 He's not gonna feel that undenying love that you've been taught in the fairy tales.
00:10:16.560 That we've been taught as young girls growing up that, you know, there's Prince Charming.
00:10:21.920 There was nothing charming about Prince Charming.
00:10:25.220 And all the princesses, they were silenced.
00:10:28.640 They had to sacrifice things in order to be princesses.
00:10:31.780 They were controlled.
00:10:33.180 They were watched.
00:10:34.500 The fairy tales really aren't fairy tales.
00:10:38.100 And the quicker you realize this, the happier you will be in life.
00:10:42.580 And you will stop putting your life on pause and wasting all your good years.
00:10:48.620 When men don't care about you, they don't care about you. 1.00
00:10:53.620 They don't.
00:10:54.760 They've showed you consistently, time after time, that they don't care about you.
00:11:01.780 They don't care about women. 0.98
00:11:03.280 Men only respect other men. 1.00
00:11:05.920 When has a man ever really valued your opinion?
00:11:08.660 Okay, that part's true.
00:11:09.980 I don't know, you guys are watching me, but in general, yeah, they do not care.
00:11:14.660 They do not care what women have to say. 1.00
00:11:16.140 Oh, wait.
00:11:16.640 Oh, wait.
00:11:17.640 When has a man ever valued your opinion?
00:11:20.700 Oh, but it-
00:11:21.260 Is my voice too loud now?
00:11:22.920 I might need to turn it down.
00:11:24.000 I'm gonna keep playing it, though.
00:11:24.940 If his friend said the same thing to him that you said to him, he would take his friend's advice.
00:11:31.140 He would listen to his friend.
00:11:33.200 He would value his friend's view above yours.
00:11:37.080 But yet you still want to sit here and be like, oh, no, no, no.
00:11:40.380 Like, my man, like, really cares about me and he really listens to me and he really, you know, like, listens to what I've got to say and he cares about what I have to say.
00:11:49.860 Does he?
00:11:50.500 Does he?
00:11:51.060 Or is he just doing it because he feels like he has to and he wants a happy life?
00:11:55.080 Ladies, wake up and smell the coffee. 1.00
00:11:57.720 Men do not give an F about you and they never will. 0.99
00:12:00.700 And I'm saying that not to be horrible and not to be mean.
00:12:04.180 And I have been-
00:12:05.000 I have been targeted on here.
00:12:07.940 I get hateful DMs by these triggered men.
00:12:12.820 But you know what?
00:12:13.300 I don't care.
00:12:14.140 I don't care.
00:12:14.720 I continue to post this content.
00:12:16.460 And I continue to send out this message because this is a safe space for women to finally find their voice and find their power. 1.00
00:12:25.320 Yeah, you know, it's interesting because Serkina, she was almost half right there when she's talking about how men value what other men have to say and they don't.
00:12:35.100 Men aren't as interested in women as they are in other things, but we really wouldn't exist without them. 0.99
00:12:40.880 So I can't really say they don't care.
00:12:42.480 In general, good men are steady and consistent and predictable.
00:12:45.660 It's why as women, we think you're boring. 1.00
00:12:47.860 As women in general, we like chaos and drama and disruption of routine. 1.00
00:12:51.960 That's what makes us feel alive and engaged in life because we want to do what we want to do.
00:12:58.380 Structure holds us accountable and we don't want accountability.
00:13:01.500 So we want to do what we want to do when we want to do it and thrive on that instability because, again, it makes us feel engaged and alive.
00:13:08.900 Ergo, why we are attracted to bad boys because they're chaotic and we think that's exciting and it adds drama and passion to our lives.