Pearl - February 13, 2025


Pearl Reacts To Kevin Samuels CONFRONTING Femcel Over Her High Standards ｜ Pearl Daily


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00:00:00.000 So we're going to now talk about socially awkward women. Now socially awkward women is
00:00:07.100 something that's not really talked about. We hear the word incel all the time and women
00:00:12.700 will refer to any man that goes against modern feminist ideals and incel. The actual meaning is
00:00:20.100 a young man who considers himself unable to attract women sexually. Women control the nature
00:00:25.660 of the media. So all you hear is men bad and incels. What's not talked about is socially awkward
00:00:32.080 women. Kevin Samuels referred to them as femcels. You can call them fuckwards or Cheyennes. The
00:00:39.620 conversation of social awkwardness has to include females because according to statistics one in
00:00:45.120 four, Americans say they're socially awkward. I think that number is underreported, especially
00:00:50.620 in Gen Z. And also because women are generally not honest in many surveys, young people are the
00:00:57.260 group that identify as most socially awkward, while 60% of Americans feel anxious in social
00:01:02.960 situations. The average American spends 34 minutes a day socializing. Femcels are women that never
00:01:09.040 developed social skills to attract men and also cannot navigate friendships and social situations
00:01:15.280 with women. As mothers continue to fail their daughters by not teaching them how to be women,
00:01:19.640 more and more femcels are created. As more and more women are going to college to get degrees that
00:01:25.420 no one cares about and more and more. It's recently only that we are seeing socially awkward women on
00:01:31.300 social media and can listen to them talk about what their lives are like. That's what we're going to
00:01:36.420 talk about today. Socially awkward women. So what circumstances are women socially awkward? Many times
00:01:43.100 women who did not want to use their looks to get ahead or couldn't, usually couldn't. Do you know what
00:01:49.560 I mean, usually couldn't because Megan, no woman like Megan Fox isn't going to use that.
00:01:54.480 And you know, that's why like a lot of times beautiful women, they might be bitchier, but
00:01:58.980 they're really not as socially awkward because like everyone who isn't trying to talk to them,
00:02:03.340 like they're the center of attention in every room they walk in. Usually they're fives and sixes
00:02:09.080 who, if they became socially aware, stop dressing like a grandma, could be an adjustable six,
00:02:15.640 but they get pumped and dumped enough that they are not because they're not attractive enough to
00:02:20.500 sleep with eights and without, especially not without girl game. A lot of socially awkward women
00:02:27.080 are too afraid to look stupid to try. So they won't improve their social skills. They'd rather just
00:02:32.860 be inside and not talk to anybody because it's too hard and they don't want to be embarrassed.
00:02:37.680 They have too big of an ego. So they go where they do not have to look dumb in order to excel,
00:02:45.040 which is work usually because their jobs aren't like crazy hard, right? They, they try, but not
00:02:51.000 at the right things. If they do do it in an area where they're not socially awkward, it's an area
00:02:56.680 that's not really attractive to men. Women pay the price harder for not having social skills than men
00:03:02.700 because one men are okay and can be content being alone. Women were really not built that way. We
00:03:07.940 need community. I mean, men don't really like people. Women flock to the cities because we like
00:03:13.400 to be around people. Men say F them. Men can pick it up, but also can make up for it by being really
00:03:19.560 competent and making money. Even if a guy's socially awkward, if he's very good at his job, people do
00:03:24.460 respect him. The biggest problem with socially awkward women is their obsession with the negative side
00:03:29.660 of things. This obsession leads to them not taking risks, not getting involved and not exposing them
00:03:34.680 to normal trials and tribulations of life, risking rejection to make friends or avoiding situations
00:03:40.960 with men, which is preventing them from having a dating life. The traits of socially awkward women,
00:03:46.480 they overthink everything. They're a constant battle with their brain. They don't know what to do with
00:03:51.980 themselves in social situations. They have their own language to themselves. They don't understand
00:03:57.860 social cues. They can't stand silence. They ghost friends, families, and partners when social
00:04:03.220 situations get overwhelming. No middle ground when it comes to behaviors, either extreme or nothing.
00:04:10.140 They don't know how to flirt. Physical clumsiness. Complain about photos all the time. The biggest
00:04:16.380 problem with socially awkward women is their obsession with the negative side of things. This obsession
00:04:21.420 leads to them not taking risks, not getting involved, and never exposing themselves to the normal trials
00:04:26.980 and tribulations of life. Avoiding making friends and situations with men. We're going to look at a
00:04:33.420 interaction between Kevin Samuels and a socially awkward woman.
00:04:38.620 What's the issue you have?
00:04:40.700 Okay, so I met a guy on Tinder in January and every week we would go, we would meet once a week and we
00:04:49.980 would just go out to a park, get food, and then fool around a bit. But there was no sex.
00:04:56.420 No sex?
00:04:58.420 Well, I'm a very conservative person.
00:05:01.620 Okay, so this woman here on the right, you see the potential. She could be a six, but you're going to see she's got zero social skills.
00:05:13.620 Now I know they're roasting me in the chat. They're like, Pearl, Pearl, Pearl, you're socially awkward. Yes.
00:05:18.060 Yes. I'm a quirky lady, you know, but I'm talking about a different class. I'm talking about women that can't hold the conversation. They can't. Yeah. We'll keep going.
00:05:29.060 Okay. I'm just, I was just being clear. I was just being clear.
00:05:32.060 Yeah. So I told him that I want to take it slow. I want to build a good emotional connection with you first before I go there. And he's not used to that. He's used to, you know, having it.
00:05:43.220 Okay. So you met him in January?
00:05:45.180 Yes. Correct.
00:05:46.420 Okay. So what's the issue?
00:05:48.220 So he told me that he would wait for me because he really liked me and all that. And then our last date was on Valentine's and we did the same kind of dates we did in January, which is going.
00:05:59.520 And you haven't heard from him since?
00:06:00.700 No, he's just been very distant because.
00:06:03.320 How old is he?
00:06:04.600 He's 30.
00:06:05.900 How old are you?
00:06:07.200 I'm 27.
00:06:08.180 How old are you? How old do you anticipate having him wait?
00:06:12.060 Sorry?
00:06:12.860 How long do you anticipate having him wait?
00:06:15.140 Well, actually, he broke up with me via text message on Friday.
00:06:20.800 Okay.
00:06:21.280 When I reached out to him.
00:06:23.180 Right. But he.
00:06:24.860 Yeah. Okay. Like how long? We got to, we got to think about the male point of view.
00:06:28.500 This is where the trad cons, they really miss it.
00:06:31.800 How long is a man going to wait for a woman?
00:06:35.160 So let's say she's competing.
00:06:36.680 She's like a five.
00:06:37.960 Let's say she's competing for a seven.
00:06:40.420 Now this guy, that's a seven.
00:06:41.600 He has the option of dating like fives and sixes, let's say, or maybe it's like a strong,
00:06:47.220 he's a 7.5.
00:06:48.380 She's going to go two points higher.
00:06:49.780 Now a man that's a five might wait, but he's not, she's not going for him.
00:06:55.600 Like she's going for like a seven ish guy.
00:06:58.420 Is he going to wait longer than like a couple weeks, a month for this?
00:07:04.480 No, she's got a gluck, gluck 5,000.
00:07:06.700 You know what I mean?
00:07:07.760 Do you know what I mean?
00:07:08.320 Like this isn't gonna, you know, even if she's like more innocent and more pure,
00:07:13.680 it's just not going to work.
00:07:15.200 He, he would wait for a Margot Robbie.
00:07:18.440 Do you know what I mean?
00:07:19.320 He's going to wait for that.
00:07:20.760 He's like, take your time, sweetheart.
00:07:22.760 How long do you need?
00:07:23.820 Three months?
00:07:25.520 I will Steve Harvey a baby, but like, you know, I think knowing your position is really
00:07:31.340 important for women.
00:07:32.420 This is where we shoot ourselves in the foot because, you know, a woman that looks like
00:07:37.220 if we go back to here, we go back to here, a woman that looks like this might give us a
00:07:42.820 dating advice on the internet, but that's not your position.
00:07:46.440 Well, if you want to get dating advice and I'm not even, you know, we want to look for the
00:07:51.320 women on the right that are dating the Brad Pitt's and we're like, how the fuck did you
00:07:55.480 pull that off?
00:07:56.740 You know, the women that everyone's like, how the hell?
00:08:00.040 And usually the answer is she got him young, you know, that's, but like, let me go back
00:08:04.720 to this Tinder girl.
00:08:06.340 Okay.
00:08:06.480 So the situation is what, you want him back?
00:08:11.300 I want to maintain a good friendship with him.
00:08:14.640 You want friends.
00:08:15.660 You want friends.
00:08:16.280 You've known this guy for a month.
00:08:18.220 You're putting all kinds of importance on somebody that you met in January.
00:08:22.220 I just feel like we have a good connection.
00:08:23.900 All right.
00:08:24.080 Someone said she should have got her guy in college.
00:08:27.140 Yes, guy should have.
00:08:28.540 Yes.
00:08:29.580 But this isn't should have.
00:08:30.760 This is what is.
00:08:31.640 She's here.
00:08:32.160 It's time to learn.
00:08:34.220 This is where call her daddy gives better dating advice than traditional conservatives.
00:08:39.900 She's aged out of purity.
00:08:42.040 Like she could have played the purity card like the wait for me.
00:08:46.160 I mean, you guys might have waited for her at 22.
00:08:48.500 You know, you could have bought that.
00:08:49.880 But at 27, I mean, like you guys went when I say like a 27 year old virgin, you guys are
00:08:54.980 always thinking of hot women.
00:08:56.480 They're not hot.
00:08:57.600 Like they're not hot because they would have had a guy that was a Brad Pitt looking guy
00:09:02.820 that would have.
00:09:04.080 I mean, he might have smashed and like, you know, bounced, but they would have had to
00:09:07.360 take her.
00:09:08.360 Well, that's what you feel.
00:09:09.900 He wanted.
00:09:11.000 OK, if you feel like you have a good connection, then why don't you want to take it to the
00:09:14.340 physical level?
00:09:15.240 Why?
00:09:15.540 Why?
00:09:15.820 I didn't.
00:09:16.420 Why didn't you?
00:09:17.400 Yes.
00:09:17.960 Because I want to take things slow.
00:09:19.720 Well, see, that's the thing.
00:09:20.700 It's all about what you want.
00:09:22.560 See how selfish this is?
00:09:24.380 I want to take it slow.
00:09:25.500 I want you to be on my terms, according to my thing.
00:09:28.860 And then when he breaks it off, you still want something that's not there.
00:09:32.520 It's very selfish.
00:09:34.080 But how about if he leaves me after?
00:09:36.180 Well, then.
00:09:36.940 See, and that's the thing.
00:09:37.800 So the socially awkward women, the fear of getting pumped and dumped overrides like the
00:09:44.140 benefit of a relationship, like what you could get.
00:09:47.360 But like the fear is too strong.
00:09:49.080 She's like, well, what if what if he leaves?
00:09:50.980 What if he leaves?
00:09:51.720 What if he might leave?
00:09:52.960 What if he might leave after you've been together for a year?
00:09:55.880 I mean, it's only the dumb guy, like the guys, the guys that are like, oh, if a woman makes
00:10:01.620 me wait, she's more pure are kind of idiots.
00:10:04.620 Like, I mean, they got bamboozled by whoever they were dating.
00:10:08.480 You know, that girl read like Steve Harvey's three month rule and he fell for it.
00:10:13.620 But women, we don't like suckers.
00:10:15.440 So this is why I say some women that are like virgins at old age, they're better just giving
00:10:21.480 it up.
00:10:21.980 And the conservatives, they'll crucify me for it.
00:10:25.660 But I'm sorry.
00:10:27.100 This woman is not going to get married unless she starts putting out.
00:10:31.040 Otherwise, she's going to die alone.
00:10:32.600 Like, that's just going to be it.
00:10:34.120 Then buy a cat, buy a dog and die alone.
00:10:37.500 Relationships are risks.
00:10:39.440 I don't know what you ladies expect.
00:10:41.620 You want guarantees.
00:10:43.240 What if you don't like him and you break his heart?
00:10:45.260 You expect him to just be all right with that, right?
00:10:47.280 I wouldn't.
00:10:48.940 Doesn't matter.
00:10:49.500 No, of course, because women are always the innocent ones.
00:10:54.160 But at a 52% divorce rate.
00:10:56.400 This is what I would tell her.
00:10:57.860 Okay.
00:10:58.280 First, you got to switch your whole outfits.
00:11:01.140 If I were her, I would buy boobs.
00:11:02.700 Look, I don't think every woman needs to buy boobs.
00:11:05.480 Her, I think it would help her a lot.
00:11:08.260 And then listen to some caller daddy.
00:11:11.880 Listen to some caller daddy.
00:11:14.140 And you got to start putting out.
00:11:16.740 And if I were you, this is what I would tell her.
00:11:19.060 And this isn't like nice advice.
00:11:20.820 This is what I would say.
00:11:21.980 I would say, look, okay, Pearl, that's bad advice.
00:11:24.360 Okay, go seduce a man.
00:11:26.100 Let me know how that works for you.
00:11:28.160 Now, that's what I would say.
00:11:29.200 Look, we got to figure out what your league is for men.
00:11:32.140 You might get pumped or dumped.
00:11:33.620 You might go out of your league.
00:11:34.860 But you got to start somewhere.
00:11:37.300 70 to 80% of breakups are initiated by women.
00:11:40.440 Ma'am, the man said he liked you.
00:11:42.640 I give them about a month.
00:11:43.960 And if things aren't moving forward, I'm out.
00:11:47.080 Look, I'm not saying you got to do it first date.
00:11:49.340 But like, over a certain age, what the fuck are we waiting for?
00:11:52.840 Like, it's, are we, I mean, okay, you wait three months.
00:11:57.320 What if the sex is terrible and you don't, and you realize you don't even like him?
00:12:01.540 I mean, we're, we're grown.
00:12:03.080 We're not, we're not 22.
00:12:05.440 This is, we're adults.
00:12:06.920 Yeah.
00:12:07.280 And he, and he dated you for a month.
00:12:10.080 Yeah.
00:12:10.520 How long before you were intending to have sex with him?
00:12:14.620 He's 30 years old.
00:12:15.680 He's not a virgin.
00:12:17.720 Ballpark it for me.
00:12:18.940 Maybe two months in.
00:12:20.280 Did you tell him that?
00:12:21.500 No, I told him I had bad experiences with men in the past.
00:12:24.420 Well, there you go.
00:12:25.800 And so her bad experience is again, going, shooting too high because look, the, the Brad Pitt got like the eights, the eights don't, they care about purity, but not in the way, like players do care about purity.
00:12:40.780 They don't want a girl that's had sex with any of their friends or whatever, but they don't value it in the same way that, I don't know, the relationship guys do, or I don't want, I don't know how to say it.
00:12:52.340 Like the guys that can't get a lot of women do because the guys that have like been around, no, like they, they've hooked up with a girl that's like a virgin or damn near.
00:13:02.140 And it wasn't really all that they thought.
00:13:04.340 Like they realized that being likable as a person is way more important.
00:13:08.380 Being a pleasant person to be around is a more important thing.
00:13:12.540 And so if you're kind of like, if you don't have any experience conversating with men, you're going to be really fucking annoying.
00:13:19.880 Like, it's just not, it's a skill, you know, which usually women like learned because they married young, but like now the sexes are, they're so far apart.
00:13:29.040 Like the men are going one way, the women are going another.
00:13:32.140 They don't even really interact like, like we used to.
00:13:35.340 Ding, ding, ding, ding, ding, ding, ding, ding, ding.
00:13:37.300 Making a man in your present pay for stuff in your past equals no future.
00:13:41.960 Yeah.
00:13:42.220 And you guys are like, Pearl, Pearl, tell her to wait.
00:13:44.560 Yeah.
00:13:45.120 Okay.
00:13:45.680 Let's see how that she's waiting.
00:13:47.120 How did that turn out for her?
00:13:48.280 But it is part of my.
00:13:51.000 Your problem.
00:13:51.840 No, it's just, it's like a trauma, right?
00:13:54.100 So.
00:13:54.440 Okay.
00:13:54.860 Do respect your problem.
00:13:56.300 The world doesn't owe you and me your understanding.
00:13:58.360 Come out, put your big girl panties on and grow up.
00:14:01.780 Please tell me your address.
00:14:02.920 If she was a virgin, I'd wait.
00:14:04.580 Let me see the roster of women that you've hooked up with.
00:14:07.100 Let me see them.
00:14:08.060 Let me, how many, how many women have you hooked up with in the last six months?
00:14:11.940 Let me, let me see.
00:14:13.560 Send me pictures.
00:14:14.800 Let me see.
00:14:15.440 I've seen your trauma with a professional therapist.
00:14:17.380 Exactly.
00:14:18.840 The world doesn't owe, the world doesn't owe you understanding.
00:14:21.840 This is what I mean.
00:14:22.560 Modern women have been painted into, you want to be modern women with all the freedoms and
00:14:27.760 everything else.
00:14:28.280 Then freedom comes with responsibility, accountability and consequences.
00:14:32.460 You're 27 years old.
00:14:34.100 You want a person who's not married to you to understand your traumas that you're doing
00:14:37.880 nothing about.
00:14:39.200 No, thank you.
00:14:40.540 That's a fully formed man who has a life to live.
00:14:43.960 Listen, that is a fully formed man who has a responsibility to live his life.
00:14:49.140 You may be a perfectly lovely woman.
00:14:51.180 And honestly, the cool thing would have been to say, I think you're nice.
00:14:55.000 And when you get your shit together, I love to date you if I'm single.
00:14:58.220 But until then, I'll keep it moving.
00:15:00.560 But that's not where most people are.
00:15:02.400 It's all about you, ma'am.
00:15:03.880 You're not doing anything about your issues.
00:15:06.580 And I'll be honest, man, most men don't want to deal with women who have issues.
00:15:09.640 You shouldn't be out here dating until you address your traumas.
00:15:11.980 You wouldn't expect a man to be out dating if he had traumas, would you?
00:15:14.440 Would you want to deal with his?
00:15:15.720 Oh!
00:15:17.520 Rob says women get hit on so much more often, get an experience except her.
00:15:22.540 No, I'm telling you, they don't go out.
00:15:24.000 They don't have social lives.
00:15:25.080 Like, they just go to work, go home.
00:15:27.280 I mean, you have to, like, it takes work to build a social life.
00:15:29.960 And most women, it's like after college, there's a class of women, it just drops off.
00:15:33.860 I rebuke.
00:15:35.620 Would you?
00:15:36.440 I mean, no, but.
00:15:38.220 Would you?
00:15:39.200 How about if he leaves me after I do it?
00:15:41.680 Because I don't know if he, like.
00:15:42.700 What do you mean?
00:15:43.120 If he leaves you after you do what?
00:15:46.800 After we get intimate.
00:15:48.660 Okay, are you a virgin?
00:15:50.460 No.
00:15:51.140 Okay, well, then he doesn't.
00:15:52.120 I've had that done in the past before where.
00:15:54.240 I'm sorry, man.
00:15:55.020 Okay, well, then.
00:15:55.940 That's called taking an L.
00:15:58.020 All these, look, every woman is going to take an L at some point.
00:16:02.580 You know, there's women that date men for, like, five years hoping to get a ring, and
00:16:07.020 they get dumped out of the blue.
00:16:09.300 She says, you know what?
00:16:10.100 I want younger and hotter.
00:16:12.160 Thanks for the youth.
00:16:13.340 Sorry, lady.
00:16:14.480 It's called an L.
00:16:15.640 Men take L's all the time.
00:16:16.980 I mean, how many of you guys are on child support or alimony?
00:16:20.380 And some of you guys go the MGTOW way, but a lot of men date again.
00:16:24.720 They say F it.
00:16:25.700 I want to do it all over again.
00:16:27.540 Men don't give, like, excuses.
00:16:29.600 I mean, if anything, like, in my experience, divorced guys are great to date.
00:16:35.040 Like, if I would tell young women to go for the, you got to go for the divorced guy who's
00:16:39.520 not bitter.
00:16:40.780 Like, he can't, he can't be on, like, exorbitant amounts of child support because he's just going
00:16:45.940 to hate his life.
00:16:47.160 But, like, usually men kind of learn from their mistakes so they can hold frame, like, better
00:16:52.000 in their next relationship.
00:16:54.000 They become, like, they go through tribulation.
00:16:56.180 Like, they become better men over time.
00:16:59.960 There was a girl that messaged me, and she was infertile, right?
00:17:03.660 And she asked me advice because she was, like, who's going to date me because I can't have
00:17:08.120 any more kids.
00:17:08.940 And I'm, like, that's, like, that's a, there's a lot of divorced dads that'll take a 22-year-old
00:17:14.260 that can't have kids.
00:17:15.580 You know, like, that's, but if the divorce was too bad, he's just never going to get
00:17:20.880 married or, like, have kids again.
00:17:22.720 So if that's in the cards for you, you gotta, like, you know, you gotta move on.
00:17:26.740 But, you know, she, this is why I say, like, the traditional conservative advice, I have
00:17:31.780 seen, like, 10 women that look just like her that are either old virgins or they've had
00:17:35.700 sex with, like, two men in, like, these non-denominational churches.
00:17:40.360 And I'm telling you, they just get old, socially awkward, and have no life.
00:17:44.880 And it doesn't end well for them.
00:17:46.340 Like, at that point, you might as well just be a whore.
00:17:48.320 You might, like, at least the whores are going for it.
00:17:52.060 Like, do you know what I mean?
00:17:53.080 At least the whores are, like, like, in my opinion, a p***er would be more likely to get
00:17:58.400 a husband than her.
00:18:00.100 Because a porn star's in the game, right?
00:18:02.540 You know, like, Nala just got wifed.
00:18:06.000 Like, Nala will get wifed before this woman.
00:18:08.820 Because Nala said, you know what?
00:18:10.720 I know what men like.
00:18:11.880 Let me get half naked and learn to suck dick.
00:18:13.980 And boom, she's married.
00:18:15.360 Do you know what I mean?
00:18:16.220 I mean, Riley Reid, this is the uncomfortable truth.
00:18:19.400 Like, look at, you don't.
00:18:20.220 Yeah, no, I know.
00:18:21.120 They damaged themselves.
00:18:22.500 Look it.
00:18:22.920 But my point is, the woman here, she's not going to get into the game.
00:18:26.180 And I've met women like this, and they're, like, 45 years old.
00:18:29.180 They've had, like, I don't know, like, two bodies or, like, two relationships.
00:18:34.580 The conservatives will lie to you because they want a virtue signal.
00:18:37.820 Like, this doesn't make me look good telling you this.
00:18:41.700 Right?
00:18:41.980 This doesn't.
00:18:42.880 But I'm just being honest here.
00:18:44.540 Like, at least the whores are going for it.
00:18:47.100 And here's the thing.
00:18:48.640 Very reasonable.
00:18:49.940 But if you're dating, but if a guy is with you, here's the thing that you ladies need
00:18:52.980 to understand.
00:18:54.160 If a man just wants to hit and quit, he's going to leave.
00:18:57.020 If you want to, if you want to, there's no guarantees, man.
00:18:59.800 I'm sorry.
00:19:00.800 You could leave him after you have sex, too.
00:19:02.680 What do you want?
00:19:04.000 You don't want to get hurt.
00:19:05.100 I get it.
00:19:05.520 No one does.
00:19:06.300 This is why you buy a dog or a cat and a battery-operated friend and don't deal with
00:19:12.660 men.
00:19:13.860 Or you put on your big girl panties and get out here and play in the game.
00:19:17.980 If I approach him now and then...
00:19:20.320 Man, he's done with you.
00:19:21.540 Okay.
00:19:21.940 If you approach him...
00:19:22.840 My personal opinion, you burn that bridge.
00:19:25.580 Okay.
00:19:26.700 Because why would you approach him now and say, you know what?
00:19:29.300 That sex I didn't want to give you, if you come back, I'll give it to you.
00:19:32.400 No, thank you.
00:19:33.720 Because he said he would wait for me and...
00:19:35.680 Well, he doesn't owe you.
00:19:36.780 Okay.
00:19:37.120 Okay.
00:19:37.580 And he said he'd wait for you.
00:19:39.480 So what?
00:19:40.280 You're not married.
00:19:41.280 Why does this man owe you anything, ma'am?
00:19:43.740 No, he doesn't.
00:19:44.800 But I'm just...
00:19:45.760 I want to still maintain contact with him.
00:19:47.900 I want to maintain a friendship, at least.
00:19:50.260 So...
00:19:50.820 How do you maintain contact with somebody who doesn't want contact with you?
00:19:54.160 Ma'am, I'm going to be honest, ma'am.
00:19:55.260 You need therapy.
00:19:56.220 And this is not a bad thing.
00:19:57.780 But do you think he'll come back around?
00:20:00.000 Or no?
00:20:01.140 Yeah.
00:20:01.620 And see, the thing is, the socially awkward women, it's going to mean way more to her
00:20:07.160 than it does to him, right?
00:20:09.040 So, like, every interaction they have, because she just hasn't had a lot of experience.
00:20:13.180 And you may think that's a good thing.
00:20:14.600 But the problem is, they're very controlling, right?
00:20:16.760 Because they can't take things not working out.
00:20:20.300 And it puts way too much pressure on the guy.
00:20:23.740 Because, like, you know, this is why sometimes guys
00:20:25.260 don't really want to take a girl's virginity.
00:20:27.780 Some of you are in the chat, and you're like,
00:20:29.480 no, we all do.
00:20:30.500 We all do.
00:20:30.820 Look, some men, like, they don't want that pressure because they don't know her yet.
00:20:37.780 And they're like, well, I don't know if this is going to work out or not.
00:20:41.420 And I don't want to be that guy to, like, let her down.
00:20:44.480 Because these expectations are way too high.
00:20:46.980 Yeah.
00:20:47.320 Okay.
00:20:48.080 Do you think it's final?
00:20:48.920 Listen, listen, listen, listen, okay?
00:20:50.920 You may be a lovely woman, but this reeks of kind of desperation.
00:20:54.580 It's unattractive.
00:20:55.940 You're 27 years old, and you're going through life guarded,
00:21:00.000 trying to protect yourself against hurt because of past traumas.
00:21:03.140 Then you don't need to be out here amongst healthy people dating.
00:21:07.680 You're damaged.
00:21:08.740 Also, if you guys want your comment read, go to theaudacitynetwork.com.
00:21:12.380 We're also on the App Store if you type in theaudacitynetwork.com.
00:21:15.500 It's my free speech network.
00:21:16.920 At some point, if we get enough members, I want to sign other, like,
00:21:20.180 talents and have, like, shows that we cast and stuff.
00:21:23.860 But you get unlimited super chats.
00:21:25.760 You get a yearly membership.
00:21:27.420 It sponsors the show.
00:21:28.600 So if we get one show sponsorship, one yearly membership, a show,
00:21:33.240 then, you know, our costs are covered for the year.
00:21:36.220 That's okay.
00:21:37.280 But deal with your damage.
00:21:38.920 If you had a car, what state do you live in?
00:21:41.220 Canada.
00:21:42.180 Canada.
00:21:43.120 Canada.
00:21:43.880 Do you have a vehicle?
00:21:45.400 Yeah.
00:21:46.340 Do you have to have a vehicle that passes any sort of inspection
00:21:51.540 to have it on the road?
00:21:53.220 Yeah.
00:21:53.980 Right.
00:21:54.420 And if it doesn't pass that inspection,
00:21:55.960 you're not supposed to drive it, right?
00:21:57.780 Yeah.
00:21:58.040 Because it's a danger to others.
00:21:59.620 Yeah.
00:22:00.480 You're out here, and you're not passing inspection.
00:22:04.720 You're a danger to others.
00:22:07.200 Because you got to go where you got to go.
00:22:09.480 Damn everybody else.
00:22:11.220 But you know you need to pass inspection.
00:22:13.600 But after a month, I don't know this person.
00:22:15.480 Ma'am, he could have been the...
00:22:17.220 Okay, ma'am, how about this?
00:22:18.820 He could have been the perfect guy for you, but you're not ready.
00:22:21.600 So he would meet me where...
00:22:23.440 No.
00:22:23.640 See, that's that bullshit.
00:22:25.780 No.
00:22:26.440 No.
00:22:27.260 No, absolutely not.
00:22:28.600 That's the Disney fantasy that you ladies have been sold.
00:22:31.720 That this perfect guy who's healthy and ready to go
00:22:35.360 will wait for you, a woman who's not doing anything
00:22:38.420 about her existing traumas, to figure her shit out.
00:22:41.140 Absolutely not.
00:22:41.940 Because if we switched that situation and said,
00:22:44.400 you are a perfectly healthy woman, marriage-minded,
00:22:47.060 looking to find a husband to go make some babies,
00:22:48.780 and you ran into a guy who has his traumas and everything else,
00:22:51.920 any woman would say, you'd be a fool to wait for him
00:22:54.140 to get his stuff together.
00:22:55.520 Anybody would say that.
00:22:56.660 You shouldn't have been talking shit.
00:22:58.340 Woman emotionally bond.
00:23:00.120 I don't give a damn, ma'am.
00:23:01.480 You keep giving yourself excuses.
00:23:03.680 I just don't think I know a person fully to trust them,
00:23:06.880 to give them back.
00:23:07.140 Well, then don't deal with them.
00:23:08.620 In a month.
00:23:09.220 Okay, then, ma'am, buy a dog, die alone.
00:23:13.740 Because you're not doing anything about your issues.
00:23:17.400 I understand your issue,
00:23:19.280 but you're not doing anything about your trust issues.
00:23:23.080 I am by being more cautious.
00:23:25.740 No.
00:23:26.620 Okay.
00:23:27.940 And I got a real simple question for you.
00:23:30.300 Ready?
00:23:30.940 Ready?
00:23:31.580 Yes.
00:23:32.340 How's that working for you?
00:23:33.480 It's hard to find men that will wait for me.
00:23:35.860 Because you don't deserve...
00:23:37.060 There, Pearl, is right.
00:23:40.720 And the Tradcon's the leader to destruction
00:23:42.920 and take her money for a lifetime.
00:23:45.520 And lead her to be like a 40-year-old with two bodies.
00:23:48.880 They're going to crucify me for this.
00:23:50.900 Swear to God, don't...
00:23:52.440 If you guys clip this, I'm going to be annoyed.
00:23:54.500 Because then this is what they'll do.
00:23:55.760 They'll take it and just virtue signal.
00:23:58.680 Pearl, Pearl, Pearl.
00:24:00.340 I thought you said you hate degeneracy.
00:24:02.100 I'm like, look.
00:24:02.800 Purity is a young woman's game.
00:24:05.060 At 22, you can marry as a virgin.
00:24:08.400 At 27, unless you're a unicorn and you're an eight or higher,
00:24:13.760 it's going to be pretty difficult to pull that off.
00:24:18.880 It's a young woman's game.
00:24:21.620 There is no virtue in purity when you're old.
00:24:25.440 And they want to lie to you and say that there is.
00:24:28.020 But when you're old, the men won.
00:24:30.060 They're going to assume you've done something.
00:24:31.840 So let's say you're a 28-year-old virgin and you really are a virgin.
00:24:35.700 Men aren't stupid.
00:24:37.280 They're going to assume you've gluck-glucked somebody.
00:24:39.760 You've taken it from the back.
00:24:41.040 You've done something.
00:24:42.680 They're really not going to buy it.
00:24:45.680 Okay?
00:24:45.860 They're not dumb.
00:24:47.200 We've had too many women lie.
00:24:48.920 So even if you were, you know, pure, it's like void.
00:24:54.220 And I've seen this.
00:24:55.220 I've met virgin women, guys.
00:24:57.360 They got until 25 to pull that shit off.
00:24:59.700 After 25, you're cooked.
00:25:01.700 Done.
00:25:02.340 Or to be waited for.
00:25:03.440 Point blank, period.
00:25:04.800 Why does anyone need to...
00:25:05.700 They say once the legs have been opened.
00:25:07.500 No.
00:25:07.980 Even if they haven't been, men are going to assume if a certain amount of time has passed,
00:25:12.460 you're fucking somebody or you've done something.
00:25:15.160 Even if you haven't.
00:25:16.900 And the men that don't think that, do you know what they're going to do?
00:25:20.200 They're suckers.
00:25:21.840 Because they just don't have a lot of experience with women.
00:25:24.840 And the relationship will fail anyway.
00:25:27.260 Wait for a damaged woman who's not...
00:25:29.380 Said Pearl, you're hating on virgins.
00:25:31.440 I'm not hating on virgins.
00:25:32.920 I'm not.
00:25:33.480 I think it's a great thing.
00:25:34.880 I really do.
00:25:35.400 If you get married young, I think that's the ideal situation as a woman.
00:25:39.160 That's what you want to do.
00:25:40.060 You want to wait.
00:25:40.600 You want to have sex with one guy for your entire life.
00:25:42.760 But that has an expiration date.
00:25:45.320 I'm being generous by 25 because women graduate high school with like five bodies these days.
00:25:50.580 So...
00:25:51.180 I'm working through her traumas.
00:25:52.480 I don't think that I'm damaged.
00:25:56.200 It's just that...
00:25:56.800 Okay.
00:25:57.580 Ma'am, the woman...
00:25:58.580 Okay.
00:25:59.240 Ma'am, you just said I've been hurt by men before and I have traumas.
00:26:03.240 That's damage.
00:26:04.360 You got a car.
00:26:06.100 It's been an accident.
00:26:07.280 And it would not pass inspection.
00:26:09.520 But he said he understood.
00:26:10.640 All right.
00:26:11.440 You keep talking like you can talk or rationalize your way through it.
00:26:14.920 He left you.
00:26:15.940 Period.
00:26:16.520 See, this is what I mean.
00:26:17.480 Ladies do not deal with reality well.
00:26:20.300 This is why men have to deal with rejection often.
00:26:23.520 But when you ladies get rejected or left, it's like the world is supposed...
00:26:26.820 Look, ma'am.
00:26:28.200 He dated you.
00:26:29.060 He gave you an opportunity.
00:26:29.900 Yeah, T. Karp says, I've seen when these women get married, they cling to their virginity
00:26:34.220 as their identity and will never be sexual at all.
00:26:37.380 Yeah, guys, you know, this is why the...
00:26:40.080 I hate saying it because it's like you look at the data and you think it's like a simple
00:26:44.880 two virgins.
00:26:45.920 They last the longest.
00:26:47.700 But, you know, you start to look into this stuff and a lot of it's kind of funneled by
00:26:52.780 like religious propaganda.
00:26:54.340 The challenge you get in a lot of churches is they worship women and it's not really
00:27:01.400 patriarchal.
00:27:02.400 If a woman waits and she's in a patriarchal structure, you know, then she's set up for
00:27:07.620 success, right?
00:27:08.600 But how many women are raised to be wives?
00:27:11.020 Most men have to coach their wives into being likable, right?
00:27:15.380 The challenge you get in churches is they're so used to virtue signaling their virginity.
00:27:20.480 Like, how many virgins can keep their virginity for their husband and not tell anyone and not
00:27:25.500 make it this whole show and spectacle?
00:27:28.100 They have their egos too invested into it and it becomes more of like a way for them to
00:27:33.380 be worshipped rather than like a gift for their husbands.
00:27:37.740 And if they're learning to weaponize sex to get what they want before the marriage, a lot
00:27:42.900 of times they're going to do it after.
00:27:44.140 I hate to say it because in a patriarchal way, like, you know, it's better if a woman
00:27:51.440 waits and it's the man's idea.
00:27:53.460 Like, if you're going to go that route, it's better.
00:27:55.760 And what man's going to have that idea, right?
00:27:57.860 He's like, we'll just tell everyone at the wedding we waited, you know?
00:28:01.600 I feel bad that I unknowingly had sex with a virgin.
00:28:05.020 I was 19 and she was 17.
00:28:06.800 I wish it wasn't me.
00:28:08.060 Well, it is what it is.
00:28:10.000 You guys, I'm sure you've taken an L with women.
00:28:11.980 We got to do it too.
00:28:12.760 Have sex, you didn't want to jump into bed.
00:28:14.740 He dated you for a month and some change and then decided, you know what?
00:28:19.360 I don't want to keep doing this.
00:28:21.100 That's his right.
00:28:22.840 If you decided to leave, you can do it too.
00:28:25.200 He doesn't owe you anything.
00:28:26.740 You're not married.
00:28:27.520 You've known him for a month.
00:28:29.320 And now you're going to make him?
00:28:30.640 Well, you said you would do such and so forth.
00:28:32.860 You sound crazy.
00:28:34.260 But you do think that he's a coward for breaking up with me via text message instead of trying
00:28:38.860 to talk to him?
00:28:40.160 No, no, if this conversation is any indication, I retract that.
00:28:43.440 I think it was smart.
00:28:44.440 If this conversation is any indication, I think he should have got away from you as cleanly
00:28:48.840 as possible.
00:28:49.660 But I've not been rude to him at all.
00:28:52.200 I've been rude to him.
00:28:53.020 Oh my God.
00:28:54.280 You just went right past that.
00:28:55.920 Just because you're soft-spoken does not change the fact that you would not accept he doesn't
00:29:02.480 want to be there.
00:29:03.240 I don't know if he's in it for me or in it for my body.
00:29:09.060 Well, it doesn't matter anymore, now does it?
00:29:11.740 Your body's not good enough to, you know, getting used once or twice isn't going to kill
00:29:16.520 this woman.
00:29:17.360 If anything, it'll kill her ego a little bit so she can be a little bit more ready.
00:29:21.740 This is the raw, honest truth the trads aren't going to tell you.
00:29:26.420 That's why I prefer, you know, my show's died down a little bit and I kind of prefer it
00:29:31.260 this way, guys, because I don't need to be clipped every other show taking my ideas out
00:29:37.340 of context.
00:29:37.900 It's too much.
00:29:39.200 I mean, they could do a whole parade off of this show, just virtue signaling.
00:29:44.180 I'll make you famous.
00:29:45.200 Doesn't matter anymore, now does it?
00:29:47.180 Because, ma'am, do respect, your body is not virgin.
00:29:51.100 So, you ladies are playing these fast and loose games with, I don't know why you're here.
00:29:57.760 So, what do you need a man to have?
00:30:00.540 A commitment monogamous?
00:30:02.140 What needs to happen before you decide to have sex?
00:30:04.280 Do you guys need to be boyfriend and girlfriend?
00:30:05.600 Well, I just need to know him on a better level.
00:30:09.380 Like, I need to feel comfortable myself.
00:30:10.720 And he didn't want that.
00:30:12.240 Can he make the choice?
00:30:13.060 Is he free to make the choice just like you are?
00:30:15.620 Yeah.
00:30:16.140 Then accept his choice just like he'd have to accept yours.
00:30:18.740 Okay.
00:30:19.240 I mean, seriously.
00:30:20.520 Yeah.
00:30:21.160 I mean, it's like you keep pushing and that's why I said, ma'am, this is not, this,
00:30:25.780 counseling is a good idea because your self-esteem, this reeks of kind of desperation.
00:30:31.140 Like, like a guy you met in January on Tinder, it ain't like he was referred to you by your
00:30:36.440 pastor or by your mother.
00:30:37.980 It was just, you swipe left or swipe right or whatever.
00:30:41.100 And you're putting all this emotional attachment into somebody who you only known for less than
00:30:46.320 a month.
00:30:47.360 Men want sex.
00:30:48.720 So, for all of us Christians, which I am, Paul told us if we can't control ourselves and
00:30:53.380 get married, we can have sex the right way.
00:30:55.440 Yeah.
00:30:55.640 Good luck.
00:30:56.340 The state will just ruin your life.
00:30:58.020 But, you know, try that.
00:31:00.280 Two, really unhealthy, man.
00:31:03.100 There are all kinds of things that I could really kind of pull out, but I think you need
00:31:06.080 to sit down with the therapist because you're far too invested in a swipe right.