Pearl - May 17, 2025


Prenup or LOSE EVERYTHING!


Episode Stats

Length

13 minutes

Words per Minute

194.6049

Word Count

2,549

Sentence Count

6

Misogynist Sentences

13

Hate Speech Sentences

7


Summary

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Why 90% of women file for divorce. Why is it so common? Why are so many women against it? Why do they think prenups are a waste of money and waste of time? Is it because women are sabotaging their own relationships because they want as much as they can get?

Transcript

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Misogyny classifications generated with MilaNLProc/bert-base-uncased-ear-misogyny .
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00:00:00.000 but the prenups are so simple why are so many women against it because they want as much as
00:00:05.480 they can get obviously what up guys today we are reacting to why 90 of women file for divorce from
00:00:12.660 the desirable truth who does really great street interviews i believe he's in miami so if you guys
00:00:17.780 want to check out his page we're going to link that in the description but he apparently interviewed
00:00:23.060 a divorce attorney so let's see what they said what's your age 32 what do you do for work i'm a
00:00:31.920 divorce lawyer as a divorce lawyer would you say that divorces are initiated most by men or by woman
00:00:39.500 women 90 of the time why is that the case i think that they yap with their friends and i think they
00:00:47.580 get real frustrated where guys are like yeah i'll get to it tomorrow and i think the women just get
00:00:52.340 in their heads and they're like all right i'm done so it's a woman who are sabotaging their own
00:00:56.420 relationships yeah i think so i think a lot of it is that they're getting with their girlfriends
00:01:00.540 they're angry they get like they just get frustrated and they have a lot of people in their ears and i
00:01:06.360 think they just want it they're just when they're done they're done but surely as a woman you shouldn't
00:01:11.960 tolerate any and everything in a relationship definitely not at all but i feel like things
00:01:19.040 build up really easily with people and they're talking about it more where you're like pissed
00:01:24.080 off and you get kind of over it quickly but how long have you been a divorce attorney probably like
00:01:31.140 since 2016 i've been practicing and then 2017 officially barred so being that you've been in
00:01:36.380 the field for eight plus years do you think that marriage is outdated now
00:01:40.160 i don't know about outdated but it's it's a more acceptable to get divorced right because like
00:01:49.960 we're seeing it a lot more it's not taboo so it's it's changed do you think that sexless marriages
00:01:56.820 can work no and a hundred percent every single time i like mostly work for men so every single
00:02:02.940 time they're in a consult with me i'm always hearing i haven't had sex in 10 years i've had
00:02:07.740 sex in five years i've had sex in 15 and the trads will the trads will convince you this is why you
00:02:15.040 guys the smartest men hold out is on marriage as long as possible if forever because you really
00:02:22.160 don't know who she is until she gets leverage on you right so that's the problem we get the ring
00:02:28.540 and we stop doing the thing you know what i mean we stop putting out and sorry i'm too funny uh but
00:02:37.300 the so she even the divorce attorney is saying that like we just get worked up and we stop sleeping
00:02:45.600 with our husbands then they'll say the stats it's not that common i'm like okay as most of you know i
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00:04:30.560 and i'm like here we go again the sex talk every single time so it's like you need to make sure you're doing it
00:04:37.240 like three to five i would say like three two sometimes you want to go like two times two to
00:04:42.440 three but it really should be like four two to four times is ideal so a lack of sex in these marriages
00:04:48.960 is the most common theme that you're seeing when they end yeah because it's connected to more that
00:04:54.560 it's not just physical it's like all right well if you're not into someone and you're disgusted by them
00:04:58.120 and you're pissed off at them you're not going to be having sex with them right because you're going to
00:05:02.240 be unattractive and you're going to be irritated and you're not going to be into them so you're not
00:05:06.440 going to be paying them so why do you think people stay in these relationships for so long
00:05:10.400 i think they stay in it just because it's comfortable and it's easy and it's really hard
00:05:15.740 this is a marriage is a breakup on steroids like if you're going to get a divorce it's not just like
00:05:21.840 i'm moving my shit out bye-bye it's like there's kids involved forget about it it's like
00:05:27.280 your whole life is upended it's a major decision your family's affected your life is affected
00:05:32.900 half your crap is gone so it's a little bit tougher than with just a simple breakup
00:05:39.580 when a couple goes through a divorce what's the process typically entailed
00:05:44.540 someone has to file first and foremost someone's got to file so you got to fill out the paperwork
00:05:49.600 file with the court and then you've got to serve someone or they have to sign something saying
00:05:54.140 they've gotten it so either you have a random stranger who's hired by a service or you have
00:05:59.660 someone that you know go and hand them the paperwork which is always awkward or you can tell them hey
00:06:04.960 i'm going to divorce you and you're going to sign this document saying you've received this
00:06:09.240 which is always awkward so wait they don't send a sheriff out to serve them or
00:06:15.060 um you can't like some people will do that where you can get a constable but it's not a sheriff if
00:06:20.480 there's a restraining order you get a sheriff to do it okay so they sign that then what happens
00:06:27.580 then they've got if they have in california they've got 30 days to file a response in massachusetts
00:06:33.520 where i'm also barred like they can just respond so someone has to respond to it and say all right
00:06:38.500 yeah i want a divorce too and i want this is what i want to do and it's a simple paperwork
00:06:43.800 so party a agrees for the divorce and so does party b does that mean that they're officially
00:06:49.640 divorced and that's fun or no i wish it'd be make make things a lot easier but no you've got to go
00:06:55.920 through this whole rigmarole more all right well what do you have show me your paperwork for the past
00:06:59.860 show me your bank accounts show me your credit card statements show me everything i want to see what
00:07:04.020 your financial assets are so you got to break it down each person which causes problems right because
00:07:09.200 someone's on only fans you're seeing it on their bank account because unlike you know ashley madison
00:07:14.700 they used to hide it as american bank only fans just says straight up only fans they have no shame
00:07:20.460 with their billing so what an invasion of privacy you got with all these people
00:07:26.140 you got to go you got to exploit every embarrassing purchase oh god
00:07:32.020 and the trads are like just sign up just sign up man i'd say these kind of charges you go all right
00:07:38.000 well we need to do more i got to look into this what else have you done have you gone to hotels i
00:07:42.340 want to see more bank statements take me back five years and so this can expose more infidelity in
00:07:49.260 relationships yeah and problems so it's like all right now you're doing a deep dive and now you're
00:07:54.300 starting to snoop through stuff and you've got some problems okay but after that process is done with
00:08:03.220 the financial assets and looking at that is it just the man had so after that part's done is it the
00:08:10.460 man has made 100k and the girl makes 50k so the girl gets 25 from the man or what no then you're
00:08:17.700 going to be looking at a whole complicated state-by-state calculation of all right how long were you
00:08:23.220 married who paid what who's doing what who can earn what like so now you're looking at all the potential
00:08:29.280 of that and you're going to get a crazy calculation and if you're married for a decent amount of time
00:08:35.340 you're going to get some spouse of support if you're like say the guy's paying all the bills
00:08:39.640 woman's at home the guy's going to pay up he's going to be paying a good amount and it's going to be for
00:08:44.900 in california if it's less than 10 years he'll be paying half the length of the marriage
00:08:49.460 massachusetts you go you know it goes to five years 10 years 15 20 it doesn't go it's more regulated
00:08:57.660 but just depends being a divorce lawyer for eight years are you for prenups or are you against them
00:09:05.200 prenups are amazing i'm a big fan of prenups when some of my friends get married instead of giving them
00:09:10.720 a blender i give them a prenup because it's a lot more useful and i just do it for free and set it up
00:09:16.680 and i know the relationships you know what to put in there it's great so prenups and you have a roadmap
00:09:22.820 basically what you're going to do you can save like 50k on average if you have a prenup like easily
00:09:28.180 because you already say you divide this do this do that and you can put like you can put future
00:09:33.680 stuff in there so vacation home okay i have no vacation home right now but you put in the prenup
00:09:38.640 and you can divide your vacation home or say you have a business divide your business a certain way you
00:09:44.280 do certain things but the prenups are so simple why are so many women against it because they want as
00:09:50.900 much as they can get obviously i mean you're not going to go to someone and say hey i'll like you
00:09:55.960 want half my like can i give you half the amount you're supposed to get who would take that deal
00:10:00.700 not many people so it's not a very appealing thing it's like going to someone who's ordering a sandwich
00:10:06.960 and said let me give you half the sandwich who's going to eat that sandwich you want the full sandwich
00:10:11.460 and what's the biggest misconception you've noticed when it comes on to divorces
00:10:16.260 i don't think they're as taboo as they need to be like everyone's like oh it's so bad and it's like
00:10:22.920 ruins your whole life it doesn't i think like there's a lot of times where people find their
00:10:27.340 second loves and that seems to be really amazing and they seem so much more happier and balanced
00:10:32.200 so it shouldn't be as taboo and that's a misconception have you ever had to represent
00:10:38.000 a client over multiple marriages yeah and every single time i'm like don't do it man don't do it
00:10:43.780 can you get a prenup can you do something you can't talk a blue-pilled guy out of making a bad
00:10:50.180 decision i'm telling you they'll like die on their own sword they really would like i was in la the
00:10:56.900 other day and i went to this um i was going i went to this bar there and i was told i could see famous
00:11:03.980 people at this bar and i just thought it'd be kind of cool and um i met this dude that i forgot the
00:11:13.780 number he told me he lost in his divorce but it was ridiculous and i was telling him about my divorce
00:11:19.460 documentary like i showed him the trailer and he's like well yeah but there's value in marriage
00:11:24.180 like dude you just lost like 30 million dollars was that worth the money you know some guys i'm
00:11:33.320 telling you yeah i have like multiple clients that are like all right here we go again i just tell
00:11:38.100 them don't do it and they just do it and i'm like all right see ya see you soon are you single no i'm
00:11:45.640 married how long have you been married about five years so how does your job make you view your
00:11:51.880 relationship with him just like more you're looking out a little bit more you're like all right i need
00:11:57.740 to maybe work on things a little bit more you see stuff that's alarming when you're dating as a
00:12:02.560 divorce lawyer it gets a little crazy right because you're like all right let me see how he is angry let
00:12:07.340 me see how he is when he's a sad let me make sure i go through a major event before i commit let me see
00:12:12.640 how it is living with this person so you have to be more aware so would you say that mentally it still
00:12:18.620 puts a strain on your relationship or it's just as easy as like working at a nine to five
00:12:25.140 what if i put the strain i think it like is makes it stronger because you know what to not
00:12:31.800 what not to do basically you're like all right if i do this this might be a problem because you see so
00:12:36.520 many guys complain about like my wife didn't do this my wife didn't do that and that bothered me so i
00:12:42.400 make sure not to do those things well now even the women are telling you that you know to have a
00:12:53.560 prenup it's not even just the men anymore let me know what you guys think in the comments what did
00:12:57.820 you think about this reaction um do you agree with her do you think that prenups are a good thing let
00:13:02.700 me know in the comments like the video subscribe and i'll see you guys next time