Pearl - June 04, 2025


Refuse an Arranged Marriage？ Say Goodbye to Your Inheritance w⧸ @thisisshah


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Length

2 minutes

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198.73245

Word count

439

Sentence count

13


Summary

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What would happen if a daughter told her father she didn t want to marry her current husband? What if she told her parents she didn't want to get married? How would they react? What would they do?

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00:00:00.080 what would happen if the you know the daughter says but dad i love him or the the son says she's
00:00:07.760 so hot yeah i got you know what would happen if they told the parents no well in those time periods
00:00:15.680 yeah i mean you what would if you really went against your parents like that instead of receiving
00:00:21.680 your endowment sorry was this arranged it was arranged right yeah it's arranged i think when
00:00:26.640 it comes to arranged marriage people have this sort of understanding that it's like oh it all
00:00:31.360 happens from when they're five and you'll never they'll never have a say in it uh what you have
00:00:36.720 is like matchmakers and stuff like that and you have you know if even if you look at more recent
00:00:40.960 history uh if you look at europe and stuff like that they would call it the mean person so to
00:00:45.840 speak so this mean person will probably understand in the community who's single what dowries they're
00:00:53.360 they're bringing, what the men are gonna be making,
00:00:57.580 and then in their minds, they're gonna be like,
00:00:59.300 okay, these might be good pairings.
00:01:00.880 They might suggest different pairings,
00:01:02.560 and then however you guys do that negotiation,
00:01:06.340 then it would happen.
00:01:07.180 So then you can see in marriage contracts back then
00:01:10.500 how they do these kinds of things.
00:01:12.580 If a daughter, to answer your question, was like,
00:01:15.360 no, I don't, screw this, I love this person,
00:01:17.840 Romeo and Juliet style, or whatever,
00:01:20.020 Um, you know, what would probably happen, I mean, you know, and I know there's all stuff
00:01:25.680 with the church and how that would, that would probably be something different, but they
00:01:29.300 would probably not receive their dowry, so to speak.
00:01:31.900 So it would say you, you run off or you elope, so to speak, you're written out of the, your
00:01:35.840 portion, your marriage portion, uh, or if you're a son and you do the same thing, whatever
00:01:40.620 your inheritance is going to be is going to go away.
00:01:44.740 Um, and that's the decision that, that you make.
00:01:46.640 And nowadays in our culture, it's kind of the same thing.
00:01:48.960 you know, parents aren't really expected to contribute anything in that regard. The future
00:01:54.040 father-in-law, so to speak, you know, men don't look at him and say, okay, what's the contribution
00:01:58.120 from him? So there's been this change where the way wealth is threaded isn't really the same. And
00:02:05.540 I mean, a lot of people are in a bad situation anyways. They can barely figure out retirement.
00:02:09.600 They don't have something to give. Or the parents are already divorced.