Pearl - September 18, 2025Religious Decline And Low Quality People Are Hard Reality For The Modern Day
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Summary
In this episode, we talk about personality traits and how they change over time, based on a tweet that I saw recently. We also talk about what it means to be sober after 30 years of life, and how to deal with the challenges of sobriety.
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So any trait you see now that you don't like, just know it'll be worse in 10 years.
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Yeah, so today we're going to talk about personality traits and if they change over time.
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Now this show was actually inspired by a tweet that I saw, but if you guys want, you know,
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We are raising money for a divorce documentary and I'd really like to get the editing started
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So being that, there's a GoFundMe link in the description.
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Okay, so this tweet that I saw was from that guy that's trying to live forever.
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Brian Johnson, I think his name is, and Brian Johnson is this guy basically who, he made
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like a billion dollars on, I think, PayPal or some app.
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And then he decided that he was going to, you know what's funny?
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I watch his show and I always think that this is something autistic that looks like something
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the guy would do, the Brian Johnson guy, if you see his page, this guy.
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He has this like don't die thing where he's like trying to live forever.
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And he just autistically like measures every level of health.
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And I was laughing when I saw it because, you know, I would explain this to normal people,
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like maybe more well-adjusted, less online, and they would say that's a crazy thing to
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And he said, I had my 30-year high school reunion last night.
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These sorts of events had a way of inviting a unique sobriety of observation.
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First, the vast majority of everyone that had left the Mormon church.
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This is very surprising given the deeply religious adherence of our small 30,000 person town during
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If my class is representative of Mormon membership, generally the religion is evaporating, at least
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I wonder if that holds true for other religions.
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So I would agree with this sentiment in general.
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The religious crowd, if you find, they tend to get studies from, like, very right-leaning
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But generally, if you look at the general trends of church attendance, it's mostly down.
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Second, everyone was basically the same as when we graduated.
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After 30 years of life, the similarities of behavior were fun to see.
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This isn't surprising, as evidence shows the stability of personality,
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Third, given the stability of personality over a lifetime, if you're not happy with your
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behavioral patterns, best to be sober about the challenges of changing oneself, because
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And I left concluding, one needs to live each day, as if that day will one day determine
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Fourth, statistically, by our 30th reunion, we'd expect to have lost less than 20 of our
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In the next 10 years of age 50 to 60, it's expected we'll lose 20 more and 40 more from
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Only 250 out of the 400 will still be alive when we are 80.
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Fifth, our childhood experiences deeply affect our life outcomes.
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Middle school, junior high, and high school can be especially brutal, and some people never
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For those that did, we found a vibe together last night that allowed for some long-needed
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I'm still struggling to comprehend how 30 years has passed, and many of my classmates
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are now grandparents, and I'm not too far off either.
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Of course, I'm exhibiting a bias of favoring the positive.
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However, in contrast to the world my children grew up in, I'm grateful that we had so much
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freedom to explore, play, be independent, and not be imprisoned to our devices.
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I wonder if social media and device addiction is really the next great plague that we can't
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Well, I think we all know that social media is messing up our brains, but you can't really.
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I mean, I was thinking about this the other day.
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I think most relationships start either through social media or dating apps.
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So if you don't do it that way, you're kind of left behind.
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Not always, but I'm just, I'm saying that's a huge pond there.
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And if you don't do it that way, you're kind of cooked to some extent.
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So this show, you know, what I thought was the most interesting about this topic is what
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he said about personality traits and how people consistently, even if it had been 30 years,
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And this really got me in like deep thought for like two days.
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I don't, I don't think that this is what social media is rotting our brain.
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I don't think it should have had me thinking for two full days, but I thought so much.
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I just thought I must, I have to do a show on this topic.
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Now, my dad, he's the wisest guy I've ever met in my life.
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I am so delusional that I literally think my father is smarter than Donald Trump.
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And my dad, I say this to him sometimes, and my dad is just like, what is wrong, you know?
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I'm like, I don't think, I'm like, if I wish I could have a camera following my father for
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a day because that is the most productive, most intelligent, and just good-natured man
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I mean, it's kind of what made me in a way less religious because my dad, he's not really
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the most religious guy, and he's the most moral person I've ever met in my life.
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And the religious people I would meet would be batshit crazy.
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Not all, but just enough, especially the women, if I'm being honest.
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Women are the worst marketing for any religion, ever.
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If you want people to come to your church, there's this idea.
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So, a couple of years ago, this story doesn't make me look the best, but I'm going to tell
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And, you know, I was talking to my dad about him, and I was like, Dad, do people change?
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You know, like the bright-eyed, bushy-tailed, young little pearl, right?
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And he looks at me, and he said, yeah, people do change.
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So, any trait you see now that you don't like, just know it'll be worse in 10 years.
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At the time, I did end up breaking up with this guy.
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I did end up dumping him, but it got me thinking about what I'd seen in terms of people's personality
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But when you're young, you know, I think there's just a level.
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We're just so full of hope back then, you know.
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But I personally know what it's like to be bright-eyed and bushy-tailed and have people,
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and I should say movements, take advantage of that in a way.
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When really, no one can really say for sure what's going to happen.
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But if we follow where the trends are going, it's all pretty much not great, if I'm being
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So anyways, at the time I was in my young 20s, and when my dad said this to me, I didn't
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really have the life experience or the perspective to know if that was true or untrue.
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But I have to say, whenever somebody has done me wrong in life, whenever there's been somebody,
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and I keep saying this on the show, whenever there's been somebody that has done something
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negative towards me, I keep saying my enemies, they have a tendency to take themselves out.
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There was a woman, not even going to say her name, but she's been crashing out on me for
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years, and I would say mercilessly has bullied me.
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And, you know, I choose to be here, so I'm not playing victim.
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I'm just saying objectively, I think she made videos pinpointing every little detail of what
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You know, it's like I'm just trying to talk, and she has a video nitpicking every little
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And it turns out, you know, I'm not even going to the rumors about her, but I'll just say
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And the things I found out about this woman, I'm like, you have to deal with yourself.
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And I think that's really been true for the most part in life, is people that have a super
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negative trait about them, it tends to not change, and I would say it tends to just get
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Now, I do think people have ideological shifts.
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So I do think, I have seen men and women go from conservative to liberal and liberal to
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And I do at times, not Nala, but I do at times think there's genuine change in those shifts.
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But, you know, for example, I have a close friend who, he's a, I love him, but he's a
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And I would say the people that tend to go one way and go another, it's more of a personality
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trait where they're just very open-minded, you know?
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They're very, and while they might believe one thing or another, maybe they're really
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naive, and they're just that kind of person that is a naive person, and that can be easily
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Where, you know, I've always, I've always envied, in a way, people that could just have
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an opinion and not have to talk about it or think about, and think about every angle for
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Because I guess I make money doing this now, but in an average world, you know, when I
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Like, I would be invited to events, and I wouldn't go because I wanted to binge YouTube.
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I'm like, that's not normal for a 23-year-old woman to do, like, you know?
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And I remember my friends, they would, they would ask me to go to stuff, and I would just
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be really bored by the idea of, like, going to this event where I'm going to do what?
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I've heard the Zoomers are worse than the Millennials.
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I think people's core traits are the same, but at times there is a skill deficit.
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I was never the type to really shake it and move on the dance floor.
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But, you know, when I was younger, it was really grinding or nothing, and I'm like, why
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It's like grinding, or like white people jumping.
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But then I learned the skill of salsa dancing, and I actually thought it was really fun because,
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you know, it was more of like a framework, and I'm kind of athletic.
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So I may act different in that environment, and in an environment I normally would just
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And I think that's true sometimes with men and women, where men, I mean, women are kind
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of scary, and I think men know that from a young age.
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You know, the woman says you hit her even though she hit you five times first in the playground,
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Or she'll insult you, and then the second you insult her back, your mom's like, what
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So I think men kind of start, you know, kind of afraid of women.
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And there are men that that's kind of something they have to overcome to approach women in
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But if you ask any of the people that know them, who they are at their core, you know,
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they're either friendly, the friendly guy in the group, the, you know, there's always
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the leader in the guy group because men naturally can have a hierarchy.
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Women's leader in the friend group is usually the bitch, where men's leader in the friend
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group is usually the most competent one or charismatic, I'd say, in general, because
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men naturally can organize themselves a little better.
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Where women, it's like, who can get away with the worst behavior?
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I think people's core is pretty much the same from the time that you're a young age.
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And the amount of time it would take, like I'll give you, I'll use me as an example because
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And I've always been a friendly, talkative person.
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I've always, you know, I could always talk someone's ear off.
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You know, when I was in college, I don't think most people knew I was conservative, but I was
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Like, I don't think it would surprise people that I'm a YouTuber now.
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Like, I used to rollerblade on campus with my dog and like a tie-dye shirt.
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So I think people might've thought I was a hippie.
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Because of the way I, I used to be big into the cat shirts actually.
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But if you talk to me, my core, you know, was an outgoing person.
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And the amount of time it would take me to be introverted, I'd rather just kill myself.
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Like, it would just, like the amount that I would have to fight to be something I'm not.
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And, you know, and I think that's like a lesson you have to go through in life.
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If you're a polite person, being a bitch is just not going to come to you.
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You can learn skills to maybe that people don't take advantage of you as much.
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But if you're a bitch, you might as well be a bitch for a good cause.
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And this was a woman obviously addicted to social media, obviously a trad con ethot.
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And to the point where there was the, she put like a selfie next to the park's shooting, right?
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I'm a lighthearted person, so I'm saying this probably in the wrong tone.
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But, you know, when she's doing this, I'm thinking this woman's crazy.
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But this same crazy woman got like 400 liberals fired.
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And I'm thinking that's a woman using her crazy for good at least.
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But the amount of time it would take her to undo the crazy impossible.
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I mean, some guy would have to wrestle it out of her.
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To be fair, she will do that to you when you guys break up, whoever's dating her.
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But, and so that's really what I was really thinking of.
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And I was wondering if you guys had the same experience, if you've seen people change or
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I've seen people maybe have slight ideological changes.
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I've seen at times maybe certain environments change people.
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But, and I've heard people say the military changes people.
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I know there's a lot of military people that watch this show.
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And I know this comparison I'm about to make is a terrible comparison to the military.
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I'm going to, but this is the only comparison I have based on what I've seen.
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But this is, so when I did volleyball, this is not the same, but we did have volleyball.
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Like we did have very extreme workouts in volleyball.
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Now for women, I will say, but we had like three minute.
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I actually picked my school because I've just naturally, I'm a very passionate person.
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And I've realized in life this at times can be my greatest strength and my greatest weakness.
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But I really wanted a volleyball school that was going to push me.
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And I actually picked the school I did because they didn't follow NCAA guidelines.
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But I wanted to be in the gym more because I was like, this isn't enough.
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So we would have like 50 burpees I think we had to do in like a certain amount of time.
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You had to do the beep test over a certain number.
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And there were women that worked harder than I would say they normally did.
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But I would still say if you looked at the group of women, you could pick out the three women that usually worked the hardest.
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And the three women that usually like there is this one girl and I knew she was going to be a balloon.
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And I knew she was going to be fat because we would have to do these group workouts.
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She would always like we would have to do I think it was 50 burpees in four minutes.
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But there is one way you did the burpees where it was like 100 and it was like a group of six or three or I don't know.
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But all I remember is we kept having to restart this challenge because of this young woman who was just very lazy.
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I think that's actually the worst trait you can have in the wife is a lazy woman.
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I know hardworking is more of something women select for.
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But when I look at my brother's girlfriends, I just can't stand lazy like women to be honest.