Pearl - December 01, 2024


Rising DIVORCE RATES: Are We Doomed To Single Parent Households? | Pearl Daily


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12 minutes

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Word Count

2,363

Sentence Count

207

Misogynist Sentences

15

Hate Speech Sentences

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In this episode, we talk about how American households have changed over the past 50 years, and how they ve changed since 1960. We also talk about the growing number of single-parent households, and the rise in the number of households without kids.

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00:00:00.000 Have you ever seen The View, Eva?
00:00:01.740 You know what The View is?
00:00:03.060 I've heard of it.
00:00:03.660 I don't think I've ever actually seen anything on it.
00:00:05.600 So there's a woman from The View that's named Sunny.
00:00:08.740 And she constantly talks about how racist America is.
00:00:13.300 And the funniest thing happened ever.
00:00:15.740 She found out, because if you look at her, she's a Hispanic woman.
00:00:20.700 And she found out that she descended from slave owners.
00:00:23.640 That's really embarrassing.
00:00:24.960 I'm a little bit in shock.
00:00:26.860 I just always thought of myself as Puerto Rican.
00:00:29.020 You know, half Puerto Rican.
00:00:30.700 I didn't think I was, my family was originally from Spain and slaveholders.
00:00:36.780 Yeah.
00:00:37.520 So how are you feeling, my friend?
00:00:43.900 You can tell that man's over the bullshit.
00:00:45.840 He's just like, mm-hmm.
00:00:47.780 No, because I think what happens to men is they go through life.
00:00:52.460 And they realize that if they're too rational, they lose their job.
00:00:56.600 Or like get reprimanded in some way.
00:00:58.840 So they just start going along with it.
00:01:00.500 They're like, all right.
00:01:01.900 All right, ladies.
00:01:02.800 It'd be pretty interesting that my husband and I have shared roots.
00:01:06.920 Yeah.
00:01:07.660 So I do appreciate that.
00:01:09.440 I don't know.
00:01:10.120 I think they both came from Slate, like the same.
00:01:12.540 Like I think they're related.
00:01:13.740 It would have been really funny if her family owned her husband's family.
00:01:17.060 And I think it's great for our children to know this information.
00:01:21.840 I guess it's a fact of life that this is how some people made their living.
00:01:26.840 I remember I had to explain to someone once that the majority of white people did not own slaves.
00:01:32.340 I'm pretty sure that right now in the world there's more white slaves.
00:01:34.860 Don't quote me on that.
00:01:35.880 But I'm pretty sure I heard that somewhere.
00:01:37.180 Well, the word slave came from Slavic.
00:01:40.140 Yeah.
00:01:40.620 But in the U.S. it's less than 2% of white people owned slaves.
00:01:45.240 You've heard me talk about how American households are changing.
00:01:49.840 So when we were kids, I mean, I would say the majority when I was a kid of people I knew were married.
00:01:55.840 Like all of my friends' parents were married.
00:01:58.080 You're almost a decade younger than me.
00:02:00.200 Would you say that was true when you were growing up?
00:02:02.780 I would say yes for the people I knew who had parents in Catholic schools.
00:02:06.640 Okay.
00:02:07.260 But not the parents who were genuinely like in, like they were slightly religious at least.
00:02:12.600 Yeah.
00:02:12.700 Because I knew some people whose parents just sent them there because they lived in a bad school district.
00:02:16.800 And it was not those.
00:02:17.960 Once I got to high school, because our middle school was really small.
00:02:22.160 And there I didn't really, we had like two people in our whole grade that got, for me, that got divorced.
00:02:28.260 I don't think we had, I think that my middle school, I don't think anybody was.
00:02:32.380 Once I got to high school, that was when I personally started meeting more people that were divorced or got divorced.
00:02:39.720 I think I just knew a lot of people who had unhappy marriages in their family rather than divorced.
00:02:45.440 Like I'm trying to think if anybody was actually, like, I don't think that anybody was actually divorced.
00:02:50.200 I think some of them are now, but.
00:02:52.740 What's interesting is how different everything's becoming in such a short period of time.
00:02:58.600 So they are talking about how American households have changed over time.
00:03:03.560 And so this was taken in 2023, 30% of people are married, no kids, 13% of people single, no kids, 17% married parents, 7% single parents, and 16% households with unmarried partners, roommates, or adult relatives.
00:03:21.320 So this was, okay, wait, the composition of American households has shifted significantly since 1960, as fewer people have kids and the scale of economic resources has declined.
00:03:33.600 Today, the number of households without kids exceeds those with kids, a trend that first emerged in 2014.
00:03:40.900 In addition, single person households have broadly continued to incline, reaching 30% of the total last year.
00:03:47.640 This figure has more than doubled the past six decades.
00:03:50.620 The graphic shows the composition of American households over time, based on data from the Census Bureau.
00:03:57.780 Below, we show the makeup of American households from 1960 at a time of rising costs, record home prices, and low fertility rates.
00:04:07.440 In 1960, the share of U.S. households that contained married parents was 44%, which has dropped by half in 2023.
00:04:14.740 Most Americans today are delaying or foregoing marriage altogether, with just 20% of women and 23% of men aged 25 being married, the lowest number on record.
00:04:25.680 Projections indicate that by 2050, one-third of Americans aged 45 may remain unmarried.
00:04:31.800 Meanwhile, households consuming of single parents or individuals living alone have doubled over the period, coinciding with the U.S. fertility rate, falling to a historic low of 1.6 children per woman in 2023, well below the 2.1 replacement level needed for population stability.
00:04:50.000 Personal preference plays a significant role in changing attitudes towards parenthood.
00:04:55.480 Amongst Americans under 50 without children, almost 60% said they didn't want kids, while 44% preferred to focus on other priorities.
00:05:05.220 Financial concerns also weighed heavily, with 36% citing the cost of raising children, three times the rate amongst childless people over 50.
00:05:14.180 Last year, just 16% of homes in America were considered affordable, as mortgage rates more than doubled since 2021.
00:05:23.860 This represents a sharp decline from 2013, where 50% of homes were affordable, a shift that is likely shaping household dynamics as rising costs influence Americans' future choices.
00:05:34.880 So, what's interesting is we, I don't know, because again, you're a decade younger than me almost, so it's a little different.
00:05:44.300 But when I was growing up, we were one of six.
00:05:47.180 But it wasn't abnormal for me to meet families that had three or four.
00:05:51.060 I'd say over four would be pretty, like four was a lot, but like two to three was normal, maybe.
00:05:57.260 And then four was not abnormal, like I could think of a decent amount of families that had four.
00:06:04.320 But it's interesting because if right now only 20%, or it's even less, 17% are married parents, we can assume that half of those will fail, right?
00:06:16.040 Because half have failed in the past, that's the future.
00:06:18.580 So, if, like, once we have kids, what's interesting is all of our kids' friends will be single children, basically.
00:06:29.140 Yeah.
00:06:29.740 Isn't that weird?
00:06:30.840 I think that especially right now, I've noticed a lot more, you don't see many families with more than, like, even at daycares, like they have two kids.
00:06:39.380 The only family that I know that has more than two kids is because they had twins.
00:06:42.900 Yeah.
00:06:43.560 And I bet the mom was older, I bet it was IVF.
00:06:46.580 It actually was not.
00:06:47.420 Really?
00:06:48.500 Really?
00:06:49.300 Yeah.
00:06:49.840 Oh, because you have first guys, she works at a daycare, and she's worked at a daycare for a while.
00:06:54.820 So, you can see the kids firsthand.
00:06:57.600 Yeah.
00:06:58.640 And so, you'd say that's true.
00:07:00.020 It's mostly.
00:07:00.680 I'd say for the most part, if they have more than three kids, it's either they had twins accidentally trying for their second kid, or it's because they wanted the other gender.
00:07:09.280 So, out of every 10 kids that come in, how many are only children?
00:07:13.220 It depends on where you're looking at.
00:07:14.460 In Illinois, I would say probably five or six out of 10 would be only children.
00:07:20.180 But in Colorado, I'd say it's a higher number.
00:07:22.500 I'd say seven or eight.
00:07:23.520 Really?
00:07:24.240 Because most of those parents aren't married.
00:07:26.200 They, I'm guessing, just had a child.
00:07:28.060 A lot of them are divorced.
00:07:28.980 A lot of them aren't together.
00:07:30.140 A lot of them are just single moms.
00:07:32.240 Really?
00:07:33.620 Because the one thing is, when you look at data, they're, because they want, they want men to keep getting married, even though the system is really bad for them.
00:07:43.240 So, they, they will always hide statistics that make marriage look bad.
00:07:49.360 Yeah.
00:07:49.880 Because they don't, they're like, no, no, no, guys, don't worry about the legal system and child support and alimony.
00:07:54.820 Sign up.
00:07:55.540 Don't, just forget about that.
00:07:57.900 No, no, no, it'll totally work out.
00:07:59.600 So, what percent of kids would you say in the daycare are from married parents versus, in relationships versus single?
00:08:10.200 In Illinois, I would say the majority of the parents are married, but we're also not as close to Chicago and all the, whatever people.
00:08:18.480 I'd say in Colorado, which is really close to Denver, I would say probably, I don't know, a fourth of the parents are married.
00:08:26.240 So, a quarter, really?
00:08:27.720 Yeah.
00:08:28.060 Because the way it starts is, the cities start with the trends, and then, you know what else I'm curious?
00:08:33.560 Do you know any women that have done sugar dating or any sort of OnlyFans?
00:08:40.360 Like, personally, not through, like, me or my show or any of that.
00:08:44.220 No, but I don't really.
00:08:45.800 Yeah.
00:08:46.460 I was thinking, I don't think it's hit the suburbs yet, but the weird thing is, once you get into a city, it's, like, crazy how many there are.
00:08:55.520 I've heard people on campus talking about it, so I'm sure, I'm sure people on campus do it, but I don't personally know anybody that does.
00:09:03.280 Yeah.
00:09:03.660 Okay, so.
00:09:05.080 Interesting.
00:09:05.980 So, you would attribute Illinois being more married because we're further from the city?
00:09:10.820 And because we're just, like, in general.
00:09:12.820 Like, I know we're still a blue state, but where we are, it's not.
00:09:16.280 Yeah, it's pretty conservative.
00:09:17.440 Yeah, like, it's only really conservative in the city, or non, it's only Democrat in the cities, really.
00:09:22.960 And what ages were the kids, like, the kids at the daycare?
00:09:26.340 They go from six weeks to six years.
00:09:28.660 Okay, so it's, and, because the other thing is, if it's under six, if they get divorced, I'm guessing it would be when the kid's, like, four to six.
00:09:39.400 Yeah.
00:09:39.860 Yeah, that's right.
00:09:40.520 That's what's happening at the, remember that family I told you about when we were in Amsterdam and you guessed the dad's job?
00:09:45.220 Oh, yeah, yeah, yeah.
00:09:45.960 They're getting divorced right now, and their youngest just turned four.
00:09:50.560 Yeah, that's usually because.
00:09:51.880 Or three.
00:09:53.060 Yeah, that's generally, that's the first round of divorces.
00:09:56.340 The second round, I think, it's either when the kids become teenagers or they get out of the house.
00:10:01.580 Yeah.
00:10:02.180 Yeah, so.
00:10:02.840 Oh, the other question I had, so you want to be a housewife.
00:10:06.340 I do, very badly.
00:10:08.020 And how many women your age would you say out of your friend group?
00:10:12.260 Is there anyone else that wants to be a housewife?
00:10:14.960 Yeah, but I also have a very conservative friend group.
00:10:17.340 Okay.
00:10:17.860 I think the people on campus that I've told about my hopes and desires and my dreams really, really look down upon me.
00:10:25.160 So you're, in, at college, there are more, that's where you've kind of heard of people doing OnlyFans, or you've heard of it.
00:10:33.660 Yeah.
00:10:34.580 That's where you've heard, that's where people kind of laugh at you for wanting to be a housewife.
00:10:38.300 Yeah, somebody, somebody the other day, I was telling them, I don't think Ballerina Farm is oppressed.
00:10:42.240 I think that she's actually very happy and she's living the life she wants.
00:10:45.560 And they said, you're crazy.
00:10:47.860 And I was like, I was like, she's living in a multi, multi-acre property with a multimillionaire, with her multiple kids, with her own business and a loving husband.
00:10:56.580 I'm like, what are you talking about?
00:10:58.000 What more does she want?
00:10:58.900 Like, what else?
00:10:59.780 Like, they grow everything themselves.
00:11:01.560 They have the, I'm like, what?
00:11:03.320 So, so oppressed.
00:11:04.720 Yeah.
00:11:04.940 They're like, oh, but she could have been a ballerina.
00:11:07.200 I mean, I don't know.
00:11:08.040 She, she was a ballerina too.
00:11:09.240 She danced through her first, like, two kids.
00:11:11.600 Oh, really?
00:11:12.360 Yeah, like, like, there's videos of her dancing at Jilliard pregnant.
00:11:16.060 No way.
00:11:16.720 So it's like, I don't know why people are saying he forced her out of that life.
00:11:19.880 She, I mean, I do think the farm was his idea, but I mean, she opts in.
00:11:25.180 Yeah.
00:11:25.540 She said, sounds fun.
00:11:27.040 Yeah.
00:11:27.780 And she still dances, maybe not professionally, but.
00:11:30.620 Yeah.
00:11:31.380 They're so crazy.
00:11:33.180 I don't know.
00:11:33.520 That woman's my dream life.
00:11:35.100 She's like, us and our eight kids, I'm cooking them sourdough bread tonight.
00:11:38.400 I'm like, oh, invite me over.
00:11:40.320 I know.
00:11:40.600 You know how to make sourdough, don't you?
00:11:42.920 I've been learning.
00:11:43.820 I tried to make a starter and I failed miserably.
00:11:45.740 So I bought one.
00:11:46.860 I bought a dehydrated starter, but I haven't actually started it yet because I've been gone.
00:11:51.440 The breads, I have not done really well.
00:11:54.500 I kind of.
00:11:55.640 I've been getting into the breads for Adam recently.
00:11:57.840 I don't know.
00:11:58.360 You see, I don't know.
00:11:59.780 Maybe you are quicker at it, but I did it a couple times and I just felt like it takes
00:12:05.160 so long to knead the bread.
00:12:07.020 Well, you can use a KitchenAid to knead it for you.
00:12:09.620 I mean, I prefer kneading it by hand because I feel like you can get a better feel of it.
00:12:13.420 Oh, I should do that.
00:12:15.220 Like you can at least start it with the KitchenAid.
00:12:16.820 I didn't have one at the time.
00:12:18.320 I do now though.
00:12:19.260 I love my KitchenAid.
00:12:20.300 I love it so much.
00:12:21.120 I don't use it too much because I'm usually just cooking for like four people at most.
00:12:26.620 I'm just cooking for Adam and he's four people in himself.
00:12:29.100 Yeah, he is.
00:12:29.980 He is.
00:12:31.520 Anyways, guys, let me know what you think in the comments.
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