Pearl - She Blames Her Kids for Ruining Her Career

00:00:00.000 After a year, I was ready to go back to work.

00:00:02.440 Turned out it was really hard to find a job.

00:00:04.640 I couldn't get a similar job to my old one.

00:00:06.680 Despite having tons of interviews,

00:00:09.060 I eventually took a job that I find boring

00:00:12.760 because I'm overqualified.

00:00:14.340 Now I feel like a complete loser

00:00:16.020 and I'm full of regret for giving up my career.

00:00:19.320 Plus, I can't help but feel bitter and angry with my peers,

00:00:22.980 one of who is now a CEO at a really cool company

00:00:25.340 and has three kids.

00:00:26.480 so translation they paid a nanny to raise the kids right they she didn't want to do it she had 1.00

00:00:32.260 someone else do it firstly you did not give up you just didn't you left work because that was

00:00:36.500 the right decision for your family at the time but then what happened was work left you after

00:00:41.740 having a child many parents discover first slowly but then fast the realities of a painfully

00:00:46.920 unbalanced world suddenly seeing for themselves how a lack of a flexible working arrangement and

00:00:52.720 affordable child care. It's preventing many thousands of women from progressing in their 1.00

00:00:57.840 careers. So this is AKA, um, I wasn't going to progress in my career anyway. Otherwise I wouldn't

00:01:03.700 have given it up, but I want to blame it on something. So I'm going to blame it on the kids.

00:01:07.560 That's the translation that I acknowledge that I come from a place of privilege. I'm a mother of

00:01:12.460 four kids and I am able to spend a shit ton of money on daycare because my husband and I have

00:01:17.600 careers with salaries that allow us to do that. We are incredibly privileged to be able to do that.

00:01:21.740 but they can't translation i want to flirt with someone at work and find a second husband 0.95

00:01:28.820 and while i do that i want someone else to raise the kids um because i don't really like the

00:01:34.620 husband that much and i'm kind of regretting procreating with him i kind of i think i could

00:01:40.000 have did better even though i can't um because you know she looks like that um but she's convinced 1.00

00:01:45.660 again you know cute right cute enough to flirt with at work but you're not marrying her right 1.00

00:01:51.020 i mean you'll you'll hit you know you'll hit in the parking lot at work when it's convenient

00:01:55.500 right when it's easy but you know so that's gonna dilute her it's not about priorities it's about 0.78

00:02:01.420 privilege when you have privilege you're typically able to do things that other people cannot do but

00:02:06.780 that does not mean you should use your privilege to be blind to the realities of everybody outside

00:02:12.380 of your lived experience here's the thing she made a comment about me prioritizing my career

00:02:17.100 and choosing not to. Translation. I do prioritize my career. I don't really want to watch my kids,

00:02:23.280 but I'm going to spend three minutes and 48 seconds of Pearl's life. Now I have to react

00:02:29.520 to this. Thank you. I, you know, I should say thank you. You keep me employed ladies. You

00:02:34.040 really do. If you guys were normal, then I wouldn't have a job. Thanks.

Pearl - April 12, 2025