Pearl - May 20, 2025She Put Him On Child Support — Then Guilt-Tripped Him for Missing a Visit
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Summary
In this episode, I talk about why it s so hard to be a co-parent with a child support cheater and how to deal with it. It s a never ending feeling of regret, sadness, and anger when your kids don t get to see their dad because he won t pick up the phone during supervised visits.
Transcript
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weaponize the child support system against your ex-wife immoral not illegal be careful you have
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kids with and let me tell you why if you mess up and you choose a dad for your kids who is not
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trying as much as they should like you are going to suffer for that and your kids are going to
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suffer for that it just sucks when you chose a co-parent who like doesn't care as much as they
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should and it sucks seeing your kids cry all right so what is this translation right what does this
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mean this means when fathers tend to like give up on kids or like you know they say i'm done yada yada
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what that generally means is i have made my husband's life such a living hell such a living
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hell that he gave up and men they're not really quitters right they want to be in their kids
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lives but i i mean hell has no fury like a woman scorned so now yeah so that's what she means so
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when you're on the dating market and you're like oh this poor woman she the dad just isn't in the
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kids lives that's what it is okay because they don't get to talk to their dad like in their eyes
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they love their dad he's like the best person in the world it's just a never-ending feeling of regret
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sadness and anger a little bit but let me tell you like the backstories the reason that i'm feeling
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this way is because yesterday my kids were calling their dad all day and he never called back because
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they were asking if they could go with him they're like why isn't daddy picking us up today and so
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they called him like translation right i knew that the father and by the way this is my interpretation
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right before you bitches drag me to court you stupid hoes my interpretation
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i knew that the dad was busy and couldn't come during one of the supervised visits because of
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something important like work but i'm gonna pretend it's because he doesn't love the children and let
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the kids know that i'm laughing this is not funny but yeah this is you you get a spicy latina she's
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probably 50 pounds lighter you guys think ah she's hot and that's how it is like three or four times and
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then my son left a voicemail he was like daddy i miss you daddy i love you like why aren't you picking up
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the phone he didn't pick up the phone and he never even acknowledged that they called and then he was
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texting me because i told him like hey the kids want to know if you want to pick them up today like
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i'll let them go because they want to go and he was like my grandma's in the hospital i can't i was like
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that's fine like i mean i love your grandma and like prayers for her but i don't see how that has
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anything to do with them then he added on like yeah so there's there's the important thing so
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like family emergency but what does that have to do with the kids i mean so was she she could have
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picked option a say understanding right let me try to work with him and get the kids in another time
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or b let me alienate the kids from the dad and women always choose by option b because they just
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hate the men that they have kids with plus we agreed every other weekend like you were okay
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with that i was like yeah but they said they want to go like it's not me asking it's them like
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it's cool you're good and it's just the fact that he never acknowledged that they called that really
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bothered me um and he never called them back that really made me mad because it's like i understand
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you're not going to come get them but since you're not getting them this weekend that means you're
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going to go two weeks without seeing your kids until you see them again it'll be two weeks
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and you live five minutes away that like it's hard to not get a little bit mad at that
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not only that why why did you guys even go to court right why did you why can't he just see him whenever
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he feels like it why did you have to go to court right they called him again later that night to see
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if he would answer and like i am not the type who's just gonna let them keep calling all the time but
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if they want to call like i'm gonna let them call and i'm gonna let them see like he doesn't answer
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the phone so they called him again three more times and left another voice did you hear that
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evil hoe i'm gonna let him know that he doesn't answer the phone i'm gonna let my children my five
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and six i don't know how old the kids are but like let's say five and six they need to know that the
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dad's a bad person bitch you chose him what are you doing lady okay smell or maybe two voicemails this
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time he didn't pick up when you hear your children's voicemail does that not strike something
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in your heart that makes you want to call them back and like it's just really confusing as a mother
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it's really confusing for the kids like they're so innocent about it i told them like it's okay like
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he's probably sleeping or he's busy and then they just go on about their day as a mom like it makes
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me feel so much regret and so much like guilt and sometimes i really do wish like i mean every mom
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feels that like you wish you would have chosen better like you for them to call him like six or
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seven times and for him to not even say like i'm busy like i call them in a little bit or anything to
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not even acknowledge they called is just kind of like and i know it's my fault and that's why i'm
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telling you watch who you have kids with make sure that even if they're not the best towards you
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like how are they going to be towards their kids because then your kids are going to end up feeling
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these feelings of um being neglected being rejected and then like you're going to feel that too in a way
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you're going to feel like guilty like some days i just feel really really guilty like i feel really
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really like sad and it is a lot like i don't understand like i don't hear a lot of people
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talking about this a lot but it is a lot to carry that weight of i chose the wrong dad for them
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especially translation i put him on child support and now he has no time to see the kids because of
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these insane child support payments and i don't want to get a job yeah and someone in the chat you
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ever think it hurts that he can't see his kids every day and talk to his kids yeah
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i mean this i've just heard this i've just heard this story too many times especially because
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they're such really sweet boys and their dad doesn't give them the attention that they need
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and the attention that they should have as little boys like i don't know translation i am going to
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turn my kids into simps i hate my baby daddy can't imagine how that happened baby mamas i need some advice
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how do y'all co-parent with a man that you dislike or in my case hate so i'm trying to eliminate myself
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from ever having to communicate with my sons there ever again so i've even told the man he could see
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our son through my mom i'm like making a race with my mom see him with my mom
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translation i am going to make it so difficult for you to see your kids you're going to hate your
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life you're going to hate it it's going to be terrible it's going to be awful also guys um if
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you want we are starting a school community with these smart intelligent men that i've met over the
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last four years i have a crazy network and they're going to be filming content to help you guys so one of
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them that we have teaches you how to weaponize the child support system against your ex-wife
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immoral not illegal um the school community is the first link in the description and really you got to
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get it now because i'm going to raise the price i'm already raised the price once it's going to be
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raised again and it's because i'm going to bring on the most smartest most intelligent men in the world
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to give presentations it's a one-time purchase and you're good forever you get on a sales call you
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figure out if it's right for you um and at some point we're going to do events with these people
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um yeah weaponize the system against women yeah um and it's gonna be pretty cool so you should look
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at it but my mom i've asked him to call my mom or call my sisters to talk to our son i don't want
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anything to do with this man okay if i had him my way i would never pick up his calls i would never
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respond back to his text messages i would never have to see him but i'm trying not to be the baby
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mama that doesn't let him see our son so baby mamas please give me some advice because i absolutely
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hate this man and i don't want to have to see him to see our son it's like he always is like
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when are you off when are you free sir i don't want to see you to see our son i know that sound petty
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y'all but i need some advice on how to co-parent with a man without ever having to see or talk to him
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ever again translation i would have sex with him again i hate him right because this is a problem