Pearl - Should Women Choose the Timeline Or the Name ULTIMATUMS (Call-in Show) ｜ Pearl Daily

00:00:00.000 good afternoon good evening ladies and gentlemen welcome to another episode of pearl daily here

00:00:20.500 on the audacity network today we are going to be talking about ultimatums but before we get

00:00:25.800 to today's topics i have a couple items we need to go over the first being that apparently nala

00:00:32.280 ray is threatening to sue me because i think she's still a whore even after baptism can you guys 1.00

00:00:41.080 believe it i couldn't i couldn't believe my ears so apparently since as you guys know there is an 0.97

00:00:46.920 only fans model to whore well why do i say only fans model let's call it what it is there is a 0.99

00:00:55.240 hooker to Jesus pipeline. And the hookers really don't like me calling this out. They need to go 1.00

00:01:04.020 get their SIP money. And I don't know which one of you in the chat is signing up, but somebody

00:01:09.400 is signing up and buying this BS. Anyways, so the other day, Nala talked about how she owes a ton

00:01:20.600 of money in taxes. So apparently she owes a bunch of taxes to the federal government because even 1.00

00:01:26.700 though she made millions of dollars, she couldn't keep any of it. And here's the video of her

00:01:33.520 talking about owing $300,000 to the IRS. Okay. Had significant debt. I got off of OnlyFans last

00:01:46.100 year in the beginning of last year and I owed taxes for the previous year right and so now I'm

00:01:54.600 not making that money anymore and I just want to encourage you guys because this is actually

00:02:00.440 happening right now to me I had a letter from the IRS stating that I owe $288,000 and then

00:02:06.880 from the tax board of California I owed $88,000 so that's state tax and federal tax

00:02:13.660 um so i was able to pay off the 288 000 to the irs um because i liquidated my brokerage account

00:02:24.900 you know my ira my life insurance policy and i used all that up all of it i have no more savings

00:02:30.400 so so again she's running out of cash and what do women do when they can no longer monetize their 1.00

00:02:38.160 looks and they run out of cash this is what i mean when i say these ladies they try to ruin my life 1.00

00:02:45.120 all because i called her a you can't even call a woman a these days without being threatened

00:02:51.120 a lawsuit so i got an email yesterday and it said um

00:03:01.200 pearl this firm represents fitness nala nala the ninja

00:03:04.800 If you're represented by counsel, blah, blah, blah, she is accusing me of engaging the spread of false, destructive, or defamatory content as part of your self-described campaign against her directed towards her Christian faith and her past as an OnlyFans creator.

00:03:27.060 you have frequently cast our client in a false light and have made false allegations

00:03:32.620 intentionally to damage her now what did i say that was so wrong they sent me some tweets i'm

00:03:40.600 not going to read you the whole lawyer bs i expect all of you trad cons that have come for me to

00:03:50.020 report the facts about nala's only fans the same way you have been reporting her conversion

00:03:54.900 you guys care about truth community notes is trying to say that nala's of is still deleted

00:04:02.500 the reason is that her of looks deleted to those who are not already subscribed if you are not

00:04:09.020 subscribed already i have multiple people that have sent screenshots and recordings of her being

00:04:13.880 active and still sending nudes elon please stop the simping i'm not lying

00:04:19.240 well this one I thought was hilarious it says is she still a sex worker she's still an OnlyFans 1.00

00:04:27.220 and I said once a sex worker always a sex worker so apparently me saying I mean it's like an

00:04:34.540 alcoholic you know what I mean like if you're an alcoholic and you stop drinking you're just 1.00

00:04:38.800 an alcoholic who stopped drinking if you're a whore who stopped being a whore you're just a 1.00

00:04:44.380 who doesn't ho no mo for now you know and this is why i need you guys to sign up to my website 1.00

00:04:52.780 what and i say this in the nicest way possible these women try to ruin my life they do if i 1.00

00:05:00.060 expose unflattering truths about female nature they literally try to destroy me can you believe 1.00

00:05:09.660 it by the way guys if you want go to the website 10 bucks a month 100 bucks a year and you get

00:05:18.140 unlimited um comments so i read your uh chats during the during live streams

00:05:26.620 so right now we got rob elliott black looks good on you pearl and if she takes legal action 0.99

00:05:32.060 does this prove your point of her being a hoe i guess a whore that does sex frequently for 1.00

00:05:37.660 free and on only fans is paid i i saw this i thought it was hilarious then she says is this 0.99

00:05:47.180 so apparently it's a defamation for me to say is nala even this of chick's real name

00:05:56.620 by the way it's not her real name the reason i keep going on about nala is because i miss

00:06:01.100 the days where you could go into church and it would not be born again ho simps and female 1.00

00:06:06.460 porn star preachers jesus does save but you need to put in the work and to to prove you are genuine

00:06:13.420 she is not that is why 50 they couldn't even do the work of screenshotting the full tweet

00:06:21.660 i like pearl's relentless laura loomer ask attack on the hoe we will soon 0.99

00:06:26.300 be saying pearl was right as the knowledge chapter ends pearl you posted shared and

00:06:31.900 posts over 80 times in five days i counted stop being a clout chaser you basher and anyone 0.97

00:06:38.540 supporter then promote your channel it's getting pathetic evan 0.99

00:06:47.020 how how is this part of the defamation why are you obsessed with this girl 0.96

00:06:54.380 do you want to report on that nala still has a telegram group that has sexual content it was 0.97

00:06:59.820 posted in as recently as yesterday nal is a professional grifter

00:07:10.220 yeah and so my answer now you might think pearl are you scared

00:07:16.620 there's nothing like a with nothing to lose anymore these women i mean they've called me 0.82

00:07:22.060 a pedophile they've called me i mean they made me close my whole london office they 0.99

00:07:31.420 got me demonetized by flagging my channel i got nothing left nothing to lose bitches 1.00

00:07:44.300 and you know there's hit pieces on me that are like hours and i'm not even saying this to like 0.58

00:07:52.060 have sympathy i mean there's men in the chat that do way harder jobs and you know

00:07:56.540 i don't have sympathy for myself because i chose this life but you know like at one point in my

00:08:05.100 career i think you know i had a fear i had a fear what if they take me to court you know what if

00:08:10.460 they what if i get another hit piece this week what if there's another one taking me out of 0.97

00:08:16.300 of context what if there's another one just making fun of me being me i don't give a shit 1.00

00:08:22.200 bitch so apparently because she lost all her savings now she's trying to take money from me 1.00

00:08:29.300 all because i said she's a whore so my message to her legal team 1.00

00:08:36.340 from my lawyer by the way 0.98

00:08:40.180 thank you for the letter i have to admit you made me laugh out loud when you wrote

00:08:47.360 over the years our client has gained significant goodwill amongst the public associated with her

00:08:53.700 professional successes when your client is only noteworthy for her pornography until recently

00:09:02.480 she referred to herself as the Ahegeo Queen, referring to a facial expression she copied from

00:09:10.380 a Japanese hentai. See the attached photos. One is from a very recent video. This is how she got

00:09:16.860 her millions of viewers and followers. When you write, our client transitioned out of adult content

00:09:23.020 industry and is now known as a public follower of the Christian faith and publishes content that is

00:09:29.260 led by Christian values and morals. Understand that the internet is widely mocking her for

00:09:35.700 continuing to make sexualized content as you see below. You use the term privacy rights but Nala

00:09:42.800 is a very public figure. Your letter does not claim that I have published any private information

00:09:47.640 about her. Instead Nala just seems to be unhappy about my criticism. Ignoring the jurisdictional

00:09:54.820 issues for now, defamation is based on state law. Generally, statements of opinion cannot be

00:10:00.740 defamation. In addition, truthful statements cannot be defamatory. Since Nala is a public

00:10:06.380 figure, you would have to show actual malice. Finally, you would need to show damages,

00:10:11.260 a direct monetary loss from any mean tweet. There is also the question of whether Nala,

00:10:17.180 an infamous porn star, is defamation proof that her reputation is so bad that she cannot claim it 0.95

00:10:23.220 by getting worse from anything I've said.

00:10:26.160 But in the spirit of cooperation,

00:10:27.900 I will seriously consider removing any content

00:10:31.120 you find objectionable.

00:10:36.260 They said I had to put that in there.

00:10:39.740 Okay, I need the following information

00:10:41.900 to each and every single piece of content

00:10:44.300 you allege to be defamatory.

00:10:46.240 The exact words you claim are defamatory,

00:10:49.640 a clear identification of the location of the content

00:10:52.680 including URL and timestamps, your basis to claim the words that are not a statement of opinion,

00:10:58.100 your basis to claim the words are not true, your evidence of actual malice, your evidence of an

00:11:02.840 explanation of how particular words cause your direct monetary loss. Okay, I list a couple more.

00:11:12.340 This is the minimum you would need to show in any lawsuit. So you expect me to take anything down,

00:11:17.600 you need to show you have a good faith basis for a lawsuit for providing the above.

00:11:21.480 and by the way I know they're billed hourly so I said I look forward to your lengthy and detailed

00:11:29.940 response going through each of the mean tweets understand if you do proceed with a lawsuit

00:11:36.000 given your threat is obviously being made to silence criticism of your client you will likely

00:11:41.480 lose an anti-slap motion and your client will be required to pay my attorney's fees so this is the

00:11:49.220 picture elgato or whatever the hell that's her the other day 0.99

00:11:58.020 this is what i mean this is why i try to get the memberships i'm like these women they 1.00

00:12:14.940 you know they try to ruin my life i mean these are just my opinions

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00:14:48.920 okay so i want to talk about ultimatums and what women have a tendency to want out of relationships 0.95

00:14:55.960 so we all know that the number one thing that women want when they're young is to be a whore 1.00

00:15:01.960 right i mean that's i mean what do women fight harder for than abortion and the right to be 0.99

00:15:06.040 naked but when they are older we have a tendency to look for other things i mean you know you don't

00:15:13.240 see women at 18 saying make me a homemaker you see women at 25 saying i'm ready to settle down

00:15:19.240 after i've secured all this student debt and a job that hates me so when women get to this phase um 1.00

00:15:25.640 Women want a wedding, a ring, you know, the two kids, sometimes a husband, but not really. 0.94

00:15:35.740 What's more important to women, wedding, ring, kids. 1.00

00:15:41.200 Why?

00:15:41.580 Because each of these steps is, remember, attention is our currency.

00:15:50.200 We love being celebrated.

00:15:52.000 Men love building things and learning.

00:15:53.740 They don't like to be the center of attention.

00:15:55.180 Women, on the other hand, we love being the center of attention. 1.00

00:15:58.820 We love parties, birthday parties, get together.

00:16:02.220 So you got to think of each of these as like a like a celebration for women.

00:16:11.200 So many times women, it's not like we go into a relationship thinking, I am really looking forward to ruining your life. 1.00

00:16:18.960 Like women are this woman here on this day is not thinking, how can I ruin this man's life and career?

00:16:28.300 You know, how can I how can I take all his money?

00:16:30.560 I mean, you know, there's some predators, but in general, what happens is women's time starts running out. 1.00

00:16:36.980 So it's like tick tock, tick tock.

00:16:39.420 I'm out of time. 0.98

00:16:40.380 And they're like, oh, shit, I got to look in my friend zone now. 1.00

00:16:43.440 Damn it. 1.00

00:16:45.020 They're like, damn it. 1.00

00:16:46.140 I wanted Brad and Chad. 0.99

00:16:48.040 i wanted the drummer i wanted the the rapper i wanted the celebrity ah now i have to marry this

00:16:56.680 engineer now i have to marry this um this boring guy because you know the other thing is our 0.98

00:17:06.440 currency is entertainment we're pretty boring ourselves right i mean what i know you guys are

00:17:13.240 watching me but I'm an exception and I am an exception to that rule I'm very entertaining

00:17:18.180 I don't care what any of my detractors say however in general women we're just not that 1.00

00:17:24.160 entertaining and let's be honest like the top female comedian is maybe Nikki Glaser or whatever 1.00

00:17:31.020 her name was she's kind of she's pretty funny but compared to say you know Dave Chappelle

00:17:36.220 nothing nada so it's not like she's over here thinking i can't wait to ruin her life she's 0.99

00:17:43.500 like you know what or ruin his life i i and the attention makes it hard for women to even 1.00

00:17:50.080 tell the difference do i like him or do i like the wedding do i like him or do i like the ring

00:17:55.480 like you'll always see it's never women posting a picture of like their ryan reynolds husband and

00:18:01.520 think, oh, I'm so happy to marry him. It's always them posting pictures of the kids,

00:18:05.700 the ring, and wedding. It's never a picture like this. Like, yay, I get to be his wife. It's always

00:18:10.440 this. So now women have to think about how can I get these things? Not so much this. I mean, 0.88

00:18:22.000 women, we don't really seem to care about that. So the women have to think, how do I get what I want? 1.00

00:18:27.100 and this is where ultimatums often come in now the first strategy women have to get the ring 1.00

00:18:35.080 the wedding the kids is to whine and cry now men are kind of afraid of this I don't know why

00:18:43.940 and I get it you know Nala whining and crying is trying to ruin my life now 1.00

00:18:49.600 that's what she's attempting to do she's saying Pearl I don't like your opinion so I am going

00:18:55.560 to file a lawsuit and try to steal half a million dollars from you and so i get it you know women 1.00

00:19:05.720 have a lot of power in this society you know she could call the police she could do all these things 1.00

00:19:09.960 so men are like uh fine i'll marry you but that doesn't always work so strategy two is the

00:19:15.800 ultimatum now this is a show um i took a screenshot from basically these couples

00:19:22.840 i think they date other people in the show i can't remember the whole concept i just know

00:19:28.280 couples go together and they basically have to decide if they're going to get married or

00:19:32.820 break up by the end of the show can't see how that would ever go wrong and you know it's just

00:19:40.340 you know there's like a difference between dragging a guy down the aisle

00:19:44.340 and him wanting to take you down the aisle do you know what i mean it's just not

00:19:52.800 really the same so another strategy that women could take but never do that's why I took a 1.00

00:19:58.260 picture in black and white because the last time a woman's thought of this strategy I literally

00:20:04.660 think it was like the 1950s with black and white photos so if a woman's in a prolonged relationship

00:20:10.460 with no ring she could become a better woman right she could try to be a nicer person learn to nag 1.00

00:20:17.880 less you know i mean guys a good blow job does wonders for a guy i mean the amount i have seen 0.99

00:20:25.640 i have seen men wife up fat chicks for that good just because they're good they do good blow jobs 1.00

00:20:32.440 i've seen wife our men wife up straight whores that are just you know and the men the men think 1.00

00:20:40.920 they're above this right it's really funny they think they're above it they think oh well i mean 0.96

00:20:48.200 i'm just using her for fun but men will you know go into something and be like oh this is just a 0.99

00:20:53.960 casual thing i'm not gonna fall in love i'm not gonna end up married i know she's a whore 1.00

00:20:59.720 but then she does that gluck gluck 5000 and he's like oh he's like ah so you know that's a 0.99

00:21:07.640 strategy you know some women do the the cooking thing they're like you know what i'm not gonna 1.00

00:21:12.920 do the gluck cluck 5000 i feel like it degrades me but i'll learn how to like bake a good cake

00:21:20.120 you know and i'll make your favorite foods i'll make dinner every night for the rest of your life

00:21:25.960 and the guy's like fine i'll do it i'll marry you but you know recently in recent years you know

00:21:33.560 women it's not like they're learning the gluck look 5 000 it's not like they're losing weight

00:21:37.640 it's not like it's more the ultimatum whining and crying

00:21:45.160 beaten cheeks said when i was broken fat i would lower my standards

00:21:50.520 i know i know and this is why this is why i got to call you guys out for the cap in the chat

00:21:56.920 you know because this is what you guys are telling me right if every group i've been

00:22:01.480 and in my entire life every man i've ever seen ever has simped at some point and look at him

00:22:07.720 i've simped right i mean ladies let's not pretend we haven't like you know gone above and beyond

00:22:17.000 for a guy that didn't care about us eat like can we could we like let's not cap right 0.99

00:22:23.400 but so when you guys saying like i'm never gonna have sex with a fat chick i'm never gonna 0.99

00:22:33.960 simp for my wife i'm like oh you're so you're immune to being a man 0.99

00:22:39.120 that's what i'm hearing you're immune to the things that make 0.73

00:22:43.660 like men met and women too like when women are like i would never do all that for a man i'm like

00:22:48.340 really you've never slept with a guy for less than you're proud of ever

00:22:56.660 the average age of first sexual experience is 16 you're 36 this is 20 years

00:23:04.680 never i gotta call i gotta i gotta get like a soundboard at some point that says stop the cap

00:23:14.440 the cap so that's the now what made me think of this story so I know a guy who is a high-powered

00:23:26.680 attorney right so he very good attorney makes very good money and he told me about the best

00:23:33.440 relationship that he was ever in and this guy said the best relationship I was ever in was

00:23:38.420 with a single mother and I was like oh do tell you know I'm always thinking that you know I hear

00:23:43.300 from you guys that single mothers are the worst and don't ever marry them or wife them but 1.00

00:23:47.200 I mean you never I mean look at just because she's a single mother I don't I don't think

00:23:52.080 she's a bad person you know there is one of the most feminine women I've ever met was a single 1.00

00:23:57.880 mother you know life is long people make dumb decisions right so anyways he said this woman 0.95

00:24:08.180 her son was older, so it didn't really affect me too much. She was over the age of 18. And I'm like, 0.84

00:24:13.520 okay. And I'm like, well, why did it end? You know, this woman sounds amazing. He said, yeah,

00:24:19.600 she was amazing. And like, that's the most I've ever loved a woman. But she wanted to get married 0.99

00:24:25.660 and being divorced. I did not want to get married. And, you know, she tried the crying,

00:24:35.000 she tried the and ultimately she gave him an ultimatum and he said look I was willing to

00:24:41.760 be committed the rest of my life I was not going to go anywhere but I just did you know she didn't

00:24:49.940 love me she loved the title more than she wanted to be with me because she had me I didn't cheat

00:24:57.020 I wasn't with anyone else she had me and you know I see all these you know traditional

00:25:04.260 conservative women that will talk about how women need to leave if they're not getting 1.00

00:25:10.560 back to the slideshow if they're not getting the ring or the wedding they say leave make sure you

00:25:18.060 leave him don't waste your youth but what does that communicate I like I want us to think about

00:25:24.360 you know there's a reputation that women are better girlfriends than wives because we're 1.00

00:25:30.020 just not the best of people when we get leverage. And it tells me that she wanted the ring and the

00:25:41.280 wedding more than she wanted the man. And when all the conservative women are saying I'm only

00:25:47.000 with my husband because he gave me what I wanted, what they're communicating is they want

00:25:52.860 the ring, wedding, and kids more than the man. Now I'm not saying that's right or wrong.

00:26:00.020 You know, I mean, I'm sure you guys have been with a woman who didn't give you the gluck gluck 5,000 when you demanded it.

00:26:08.180 And you said, nayski nada, I'm done. 0.81

00:26:11.640 I'm done with this being.

00:26:13.200 I doubt it.

00:26:15.260 When men fall in love, they just put up with damn near anything.

00:26:17.980 But, you know, so, yeah, and Rich says, uh-oh, living in sin.

00:26:24.780 So, you know, then they do this appeal to morality.

00:26:27.520 you know oh we need to do this God's way well you're either a virgin on your wedding night or 0.61

00:26:32.980 you're not I'm not saying there's no value in marriage right um there kind of isn't in 2024

00:26:40.720 I mean if you leave every time not meaning it kind of takes away the value but

00:26:47.080 at its core I think marriage is better for children however

00:26:53.020 what is more important a woman that listens to her boyfriend or husband or a piece of paper 1.00

00:27:03.160 now

00:27:05.700 the current um now anyways so this lawyer tells me the woman ended up leaving

00:27:16.320 and it broke his heart and he like this was a couple years after the fact and

00:27:21.380 he still seemed like torn up about it it's pretty sad and I think women in a 1.00

00:27:32.920 way communicate to men that they want the things that they provide and not who

00:27:37.520 they are as a person and that's a very tough thing for men to get over now the

00:27:44.660 current narrative with modern women is they don't want marriage now 1.00

00:27:51.380 i mean it it's sort of a lie they want marriage with like brad pitt you know if you look at like

00:28:00.420 um or they want marriage after they've had their fun now you know feminism has told women that 1.00

00:28:07.480 there are no good men out there that women that actually give men the benefit of the doubt 1.00

00:28:13.960 that are friendly feminine

00:28:21.380 The women that actually date men and give them the benefit of the doubt that are feminine and friendly will ultimately find the type of man that they will marry. 1.00

00:28:30.620 If the man that doesn't commit, they will give the man the ultimatum.

00:28:36.320 It's not about a matter of if, it's a matter of when.

00:28:41.060 And what we're going to talk about is women giving men ultimatums. 0.99

00:28:45.880 It's my opinion that when a man doesn't want to commit, it's not the specific woman, it's marriage that they have a problem with.

00:28:53.880 Is this the end of the road?

00:28:55.540 I would say no, but I would tell the ladies that the goal is to love a guy enough to give up what you want for what he wants. 1.00

00:29:06.860 That is the only way modern women are going to have hope of getting married in 2025. 1.00

00:29:11.100 now it was interesting because when i first got into this space you know this is one of the few

00:29:19.260 things i really disagreed with kevin samuels on he said you have a year or less and then you either

00:29:25.620 get married or you don't now i have seen men take that strategy but it's usually a guy in his like

00:29:33.200 mid to late 30s who's just done he says you know what i'm gonna go first girl that qualifies 1.00

00:29:38.680 it's the right time i'm done playing the field i want to focus on other things in my life

00:29:44.740 either works out or it doesn't it is what it is

00:29:47.740 um but that to me is rare what i see more often to be honest is women that get the guys that most 1.00

00:30:00.700 women want have to put in the time one woman that i think of that dated a man that's making like 1.00

00:30:07.100 350 000 working in finance on the east coast guess how many years she waited for a ring 0.84

00:30:13.480 10 a decade she said she gave him literally her entire 20s and like half of her 30s

00:30:22.540 and then got a kind of a buzzer beater baby she wanted the kids like a decade earlier but he 1.00

00:30:29.700 didn't want it but she loved him more than the wedding more than the ring more than anything

00:30:35.020 and that's really the pattern that I've seen for the men that most women are attracted to

00:30:43.060 or going for unless they're at a certain stage in life. Now there's an article that talks about a

00:30:49.700 woman who has been with her boyfriend for over nine years. He said he didn't want to get married

00:30:54.700 but she's been there anyway and wants financial advice. I just realized I want to get married

00:31:02.140 partially because of money and my boyfriend of nine years won't do it. Do I really have to leave?

00:31:09.780 My boyfriend of nine years says he doesn't believe in marriage because his parents had an ugly

00:31:14.160 divorce. I knew this early on because he warned me that he would never get married and I guess

00:31:18.740 I thought I could live with it. Maybe some small part of me hoped that I could get him to change

00:31:23.440 his mind but now we're a decade in talking about having kids and I realized getting married is a

00:31:28.000 deal breaker for me. There are obvious tax advantages to getting married and financial

00:31:33.040 disadvantages to having kids with someone who isn't your spouse. My friends say that my only

00:31:38.640 options are to accept his decision or to break up with him and find someone else. They're probably

00:31:43.440 right, but I'm hoping there's a third way. Any ideas? Well, I have the ideas for you.

00:31:49.880 I have all your choices laid out.

00:31:56.180 Whine and cry, ultimatum.

00:32:00.120 Be a better woman so he wants to do it.

00:32:04.900 That's all I got for you.

00:32:09.640 All right, so this woman married a military guy by giving him an ultimatum, 0.95

00:32:16.080 and now she talks about you know ladies is it really the same if they marry us when we drag 1.00

00:32:22.000 them down the aisle is it really like do we really still get the feel good

00:32:29.920 feeling out of this like are we really like

00:32:34.560 happy all right let me let me pull this up so you know that girl who posted the video about 0.99

00:32:41.760 the 128 dollar engagement ring in Walmart and she was kind of trying to persuade her boyfriend to

00:32:48.880 propose to her and he was like no I don't really have anybody want to get married to she has no 0.92

00:32:53.760 idea the favor that that man did for her because there is nothing worse than persuading or pressuring

00:33:01.280 a man to marry you when he really doesn't want to and I know this because that's exactly how 0.99

00:33:06.160 I ended up married my husband and I were dating for probably about two years before we got married

00:33:11.120 we got married in 2007 and the reason that the idea of marriage really came up for us is because

00:33:17.680 he decided to join the military and when i realized that he was serious about joining the military

00:33:23.680 i panicked i knew this was going to involve us being separated him being deployed the truth was

00:33:30.400 i was afraid to lose him so i brought up getting married and he agreed he didn't propose he didn't

00:33:37.120 get out get down on one knee we just made an agreement to get married now of course we loved

00:33:42.480 each other i loved him very much and i believe that he loved me but i don't think that he

00:33:48.480 wanted to get married i think that he kind of went along with it because it's what i wanted

00:33:53.360 and he wanted me to be happy and i think he also thought that's what he should do and it's proven

00:33:58.960 to be a disaster we're 17 years into this marriage and it's coming to an end my husband has always

00:34:06.160 been a reluctant partner in the relationship and i've been the person that makes all the plans

00:34:12.000 does all the work and i think my husband has allowed that to happen because i think in his

00:34:17.200 mind he felt like you know you're the one that wanted to get married so you should be the one

00:34:22.240 doing all the work basically and he's just kind of along for the ride i don't know why i didn't see

00:34:30.640 the red flags earlier um i didn't really notice his reluctance at the time and i didn't really

00:34:38.080 notice that he wasn't really all in it it just didn't occur to me i guess i was so excited and

00:34:44.160 so happy about being married i just didn't see what was right in front of me one of the biggest

00:34:49.600 regrets i have is not paying more attention asking those questions and realizing that my husband at

00:34:56.400 the time was not all in okay the next one we have the woman has been with her boyfriend and they 0.61

00:35:03.840 have a child but he doesn't want to marry her my boyfriend and i have been together for four years

00:35:09.520 we have a child together he doesn't want to marry me i don't know what to do next but like i said

00:35:15.040 my boyfriend and i have been together for four years and he is not ready for marriage yet when

00:35:21.280 When I first brought up marriage, he would give me a bunch of excuses like he wants to have a wedding that's different from everybody else or he wants to save up for a nice ring.

00:35:31.780 And he would even ask me things like, why don't you propose to me? Like, why do I have to propose to you?

00:35:37.260 I told him that I would and he still told me that he wouldn't say yes.

00:35:41.720 Recently, we had a discussion about it and he finally came clean and told me that he doesn't want to marry me now because I have growing to do.

00:35:50.140 he said he feels like I'm still a little bit too childish

00:35:53.780 I also feel like he's a little bit childish too

00:35:57.480 but I still know that I want to marry him and be with him forever

00:36:01.260 he said that he feels the same way

00:36:03.440 that he does want to marry me and be with me forever

00:36:05.760 yet still no ring

00:36:07.860 we've lived together for three to four years

00:36:10.820 and we have a three year old child together

00:36:13.040 I mean if you had a kid

00:36:18.560 okay the next one the woman has been with her boyfriend and they oh wait i read that one

00:36:25.860 woman reads a story about a viewer saying that her man doesn't want to marry her she brings in

00:36:31.020 god and tries to give advice okay so someone wrote me and it says my baby daddy and i just

00:36:37.400 called it quits after so many years together we finally decided it's best to go our separate ways

00:36:42.360 and i'm hurting even though i know it's for the best it sucks i had a panic attack

00:36:46.740 earlier and i had to pray and declare scriptures over me and my house it all started with me

00:36:51.820 bringing up the subject of marriage and that opened the can of worms and here we are going

00:36:55.840 our separate ways i am at a loss and my heart is mourning but i am trusting god any advice on what

00:37:01.780 to do with my free time now lol i keep pacing back and forth okay so i want you to know that

00:37:06.940 everything that i'm about to tell you is going to be with the most love and it's going to be a truth

00:37:12.720 it's going to be painful but i'm saying it all and from it's coming from a loving place but what

00:37:18.720 i've seen so far at my old age with a lot of these cases where you live with the man you have from

00:37:24.160 my understanding y'all have kids together and basically you're playing house but the man does

00:37:29.120 not want to marry you even though you've made it real clear that that's what you want a lot of the 0.80

00:37:34.560 times the the case is this man has you there as a placeholder and he thinks that he can do better

00:37:43.200 and i'm so sorry i know it sounds ugly but it's just the truth this man thinks he can do better

00:37:50.200 and he's just waiting for i don't know like i guess his true wife because obviously unfortunately

00:37:56.500 he doesn't see you as wife material i don't know why but that's you know that's usually what 0.97

00:38:04.300 the case and girl you deserve so much better you are so beautiful i've seen your pictures

00:38:10.460 you are so beautiful from the inside out your inside is so beautiful and your outside is so

00:38:15.580 beautiful so this man is blind or maybe yeah so there's never any question is it something i'm

00:38:21.660 doing that makes him not want to commit maybe he didn't want that from the beginning you know

00:38:28.860 it could just be even though yes you'll have kids together that this is not the man

00:38:33.100 this is not the man that god wants you to be with you 100 deserve a man who doesn't have to wonder

00:38:39.020 or think if he wants to marry you or not your true husband will not have to think twice on if

00:38:44.700 he wants you to be his wife he will just know this is my wife and yes of course absolutely we'll get

00:38:50.220 married the fact that it's been years and you've been telling him and he still doesn't marry you

00:38:54.860 girl let that man go because there you are playing wife i'm pretty sure with your beautiful heart 1.00

00:39:01.440 you're there doing all the things that a wife does loving him nurturing him feeding him and all this

00:39:06.420 stuff and he can't give you a ring and i mean not only that but you know also he's separating you

00:39:13.540 because unfortunately you know we're all sinners we all have sins i sin but you know living with

00:39:18.520 someone uh and not being married with them is a sin i'm pretty sure you know you're doing all

00:39:24.400 the wifely duties and you know which is committing sin you know fornicating out of wedlock and all

00:39:30.120 that stuff you know so this man is also not only is he not you know doing right by you but he's

00:39:36.500 making you separate from God by those sins and I mean honestly a man like that is not worth it

00:39:42.860 and honestly how longer how many more years are you gonna go living this way and I know yes I know

00:39:50.320 it's anxiety right now and it hurts a lot but the sooner the better the sooner you get over this and

00:39:55.860 you start being happy the better because i'm pretty sure as a woman that's a heaviness to

00:40:00.600 live with someone that you know doesn't want to marry you and just live like that for years and

00:40:04.820 years and years i don't know about you but for me i did it for a little bit and i couldn't i i was

00:40:10.360 like i can't live like this and um you know yeah y'all know my story but anyways yeah my advice to

00:40:18.220 you is leave leave that man and do not get back with him until he shows up at your house with a

00:40:27.500 ring or something let him see what what he's losing uh and what you're gonna do right now

00:40:33.100 and i know it sounds cliche and everything but you're gonna focus on yourself you're gonna level

00:40:37.400 up you're gonna focus on god and just prioritize yourself put that energy and stress on bettering

00:40:43.660 yourself because you got to look good for the man that God has for you because trust me like

00:40:50.060 if that's not your man God has someone for you and all you're doing is delaying your true husband

00:40:56.420 who who won't even think twice if he wants to marry you or not by wasting time with a man who 0.96

00:41:01.180 doesn't even know who doesn't who can't love you enough to make you his wife just rebuke that 0.62

00:41:06.300 anxiety and you stay strong ask God to give you strength ask Jesus to give you strength and he

00:41:12.140 will yeah okay um all right guys so what do you think call in today and let me know

00:41:23.100 what do you think about ultimatums

00:41:28.140 should women 1.00

00:41:31.660 give men time get on their timeline or should they stick to theirs no right or wrong answers i also

00:41:38.780 if you have any stories of women giving you an ultimatum let me know um also if you want to

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00:41:52.140 link in the description and i do read your chats on the website which i'm going to do right now

00:41:58.060 um okay so we got i also want to give some thank yous to the people that signed up

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00:42:28.140 john thank you for signing up um calvin thank you for signing up

00:42:38.460 money bags thank you for signing up okay let me read the chats on the website

00:42:44.140 i know a couple has been living together for 35 years i'm not simping for pearl just stating facts 0.62

00:42:49.980 um dragging your man down the aisle is the equivalent to begging your wife for sex 1.00

00:42:54.300 do you know that neither of them enjoy if it's you want um 0.85

00:43:00.780 do you know that neither of them enjoy it or want to do it but they're doing it to shut you up

00:43:05.500 i never got married steve says i never got married while in the military been there done

00:43:09.100 that it's a disaster bs you were hoping you would be deployed and get the life insurance rob i don't

00:43:14.140 know she seems believable glenn that's all cap she knows exactly what she was doing she just

00:43:18.620 wanted him to have the assurance of him marrying her and being able to get those benefits rob why

00:43:23.820 Why do women apply makeup on these videos? 1.00

00:43:26.720 Steve, how many layers is she gonna put on her face? 0.93

00:43:32.140 Is this chica married? 1.00

00:43:33.500 Ultimatums don't work.

00:43:35.440 But yeah, guys, so call in.

00:43:37.300 Let me know what's your thought.

00:43:38.880 Have you ever gotten an ultimatum from a woman? 1.00

00:43:42.920 How did that go?

00:43:44.040 Did it work?

00:43:46.260 Should women give ultimatum? 1.00

00:43:47.780 Should we stick to our timelines

00:43:49.440 or should we adjust to the man's?

00:43:53.820 the link is pinned in the chat so if you guys want to come in let me read the chat on the website

00:44:12.140 rob says wow thanks for commenting rob and what was the super chat it says keep up the good work

00:44:25.540 we need more ladies like you you also can super chat on the website so feel free to come in 1.00

00:44:33.820 let me know how do you call in you click it's zoom so you can get on a computer a couple things if

00:44:41.000 calling in i need to see your face um i just need to see that you're a person

00:44:48.600 so if you come in um i don't you don't need to be on camera we'll wait but i need to see that

00:44:54.440 you're a person it's nothing weird um also i don't like cutting people off i always feel rude

00:45:04.040 but if you're going on a long tangent i'm gonna have to get you to land the plane sometimes you

00:45:09.880 know and please don't over talk me i'm trying to run a show i really don't like

00:45:18.600 yelling to try to contain you know but

00:45:25.320 anyways 0.57

00:45:29.160 bill says pearl you have some guys with lousy ideas about relationships women 1.00

00:45:33.800 should understand if the guy isn't talking about marriage in the first 10 or 12 months and move on

00:45:37.400 he's a selfish child bill i'm sorry i think i think you're

00:45:44.200 i think you might be from an older generation that's how the older generation sees it but i'm 0.93

00:45:48.840 like a young i'm the youngest millennial and the way i see it is most people i know dated

00:45:55.240 like three years three years is the average of dating before you get married

00:45:58.840 um and that includes like a talking stage so which nowadays can go on for like a year these

00:46:07.760 are slow moving trains um this is my first we didn't get married but we had four kids together

00:46:14.560 she got bad advice from the church and they told her to leave me

00:46:17.900 well ultimatum equals see you later millennials are not young no i'm saying i'm the youngest

00:46:28.720 millennial like I was born in November if I was born in January I would be a

00:46:33.960 Gen Z or I'd be the oldest Gen Z

00:46:39.960 it says L Church I know

00:46:48.740 you

00:46:58.720 oh yeah I can get on are they on oh we got two okay yeah let me get the sound off on here

00:47:13.000 okay going with computer audio but I'm muting okay all right let's do Carlos first and then

00:47:27.200 we'll move on to glenn hello carlos are you good are you good to be in on camera put a thumbs up

00:47:35.000 if you're good yeah okay so tell me have you been given an ultimatum or what's your opinion on the

00:47:44.560 topic are you sorry let me start over are you calling to give a story that happened to you

00:47:49.100 or do you have an opinion on the topic well i guess just to weigh in on you know i like to

00:47:55.300 think of solutions and you know um it's it's always easy to tell people to not do something

00:48:02.440 but the hard thing is uh to get them to replace that habit with something better and i think that

00:48:08.200 when it comes to that conflict of uh timelines between people i think that you know um maybe

00:48:16.800 maybe we should think of what you know what what women should be doing so that they feel comfortable 1.00

00:48:24.020 entering the timeline of the man and not feeling like uh you know obviously

00:48:30.080 uh you know maybe prioritizing the career of the man even though a lot of women are very competent 1.00

00:48:35.440 but and i think the solution really and i've been thinking about this a lot

00:48:39.720 just from like people that i've met professors that i know about you know that like their wives 1.00

00:48:45.240 are you know obviously intelligent but they don't do academia they just work in the church and

00:48:49.740 they're leaders in the church so yeah that's just kind of what i what i uh because i think a lot of

00:48:56.900 times um it really is a conflict of like who's gonna be the money maker or whose career is more

00:49:03.160 important and i think that women get an edge because they can get their needs met a lot easier 1.00

00:49:08.800 than men um and so you know we have to you know we are human beings and we need certain things and

00:49:17.960 And I think that, you know, like oxytocin, you know, maybe, you know, warmth and, you know, other needs like just sex.

00:49:25.100 And I think women can get that a lot easier. 1.00

00:49:27.500 And then maybe they perform a little better.

00:49:29.500 They can bargain with sex to get ahead. 0.92

00:49:32.080 And so how do you replace that with something better?

00:49:35.760 I think you have to go to the Bible and see what Jesus said.

00:49:38.740 You know, maybe more charity work.

00:49:41.340 Maybe, you know, remove that stress of I need to be good in the economy and I need to be good spiritually.

00:49:47.960 which, you know, I feel like, Pearl, you have a pretty bad view of a lot of women, 1.00

00:49:52.220 so I don't know, I'd like to guess what your take on that is,

00:49:54.760 because maybe I'm just, you know, coping, you know, I don't know.

00:49:59.140 I don't really get the, I don't understand the point you're making.

00:50:03.220 The point is, like, what's, like, something that women, like, could do, right, 1.00

00:50:09.780 so that interests them more and captivates them more,

00:50:13.820 so that then to, you know, sort of prioritize their life, you know, career, right?

00:50:20.600 Their timeline, as you said, over their man's, right?

00:50:24.180 So you're saying, I'm saying, but I'm asking, well, someone's timeline has to win.

00:50:29.440 So I'm asking whose timeline should win?

00:50:32.120 Well, I think the man, because otherwise there's an imbalance, you know,

00:50:36.380 like obviously the woman's, you know, yeah.

00:50:39.240 Yeah, so I think the question is, should she dump the guy and move on?

00:50:43.820 or wait for him to come around and for me personally and like what i've seen i see more men

00:50:51.740 like more of the women that waited one than like the women that like would dump the guy just find 1.00

00:50:58.140 a new one like i i like there's this idea that like if you wait for a guy to marry you that he's

00:51:04.700 gonna like dump you later and maybe that's what other people have seen it's just not what i've

00:51:08.940 seen so that's that's my question like for the chat is what they like what are your thoughts on

00:51:17.580 it whose timeline wins so you think the man and she should wait well that's a good question um

00:51:26.300 i think you know man uh it's really interesting because i often find myself going back and

00:51:33.420 for between you know what we read in the past versus how we grew up seeing you know um a lot

00:51:39.660 of movies and just a lot of propaganda but i think that ultimately you know i think the structure

00:51:44.720 that works is where you know the woman respects the man so you know whatever you know i guess i'm

00:51:54.400 a little bit not an expert on this um which is maybe a good reason to call maybe i can ask but

00:51:59.720 But you feel strongly that women should, like, you know, obviously it's a Catholic, you know, believe, right?

00:52:07.940 Women should hold their virginity for their husbands, right, so they can imprint properly. 1.00

00:52:12.620 Yeah, but they won't.

00:52:14.480 So I think it's, like, kind of pointless to talk about.

00:52:19.120 So what do you think?

00:52:21.440 But you said that women should hold off. 0.63

00:52:25.700 No, I'm saying.

00:52:27.880 Should dump whoever guy they're with.

00:52:29.360 no i'm not saying they should or they shouldn't i'm asking the question

00:52:32.400 which is what they should do yeah i'm saying whose timeline should win based on what you've

00:52:38.320 seen i'm asking if women have ever come to you with a timeline how it's worked out 0.98

00:52:43.480 well in my limited experience um gosh it's just not it's never pretty um especially because

00:52:52.400 timelines come with a lot of connections and you know when you know the connections that you want

00:53:00.000 to make as a man uh come into conflict with the connections that the woman has right um that's

00:53:08.000 really tricky because at that point you know you're not just even changing her timeline you're

00:53:13.240 changing other the other people's timelines and that gets really messy yeah so i think that like

00:53:21.900 i said you know ultimately you know what's going to make the man happy is to you know live his his

00:53:26.680 ultimate dream right his seek his supreme meaning and that's what's going to create a man so i think

00:53:32.140 that the man's goal is what should come first and that's my opinion okay and i think that the woman 0.98

00:53:36.940 should definitely be some you know submissive to that okay all right thanks for calling carlos

00:53:41.900 we're gonna go on to glenn now bye bye

00:53:51.100 all right we got glenn on next is he still here oh yeah there he is what's going on glenn how's it

00:53:58.460 going just chilling you know oh no i can't i can't read that on youtube but that's a great shirt

00:54:05.340 it i know go to just pearlymerch.com guys yeah just go to pearlymerch.com get your own cool swag

00:54:13.020 um oh sorry what so timeline yeah um it says it's not admitting me it's under blessing

00:54:22.700 but yeah sorry um oh no i'm in okay timeline cool go ahead timeline okay look it gotta be the guy's

00:54:31.020 timeline this i had this one try to tell me to rush it it didn't work um i ended up like

00:54:41.980 just disappearing because i felt like i was like getting trapped i didn't want to be trapped i

00:54:46.460 want to be in prison yeah ball and chain um the problem with like that they pushed the timeline

00:54:52.780 because they want it on their time yeah they want to they want you to be locked down with them the

00:54:57.820 The more years that you get locked down in, the more years they could get you for alimony.

00:55:04.480 For alimony?

00:55:07.800 So what do you think?

00:55:10.260 Do you think women that are in that situation where they want to be married with kids and he says not yet,

00:55:17.620 is there a point where they should bounce?

00:55:20.680 Yeah.

00:55:21.080 Yeah.

00:55:21.360 No, seriously.

00:55:22.240 I do think they should bounce.

00:55:23.540 um and that point you know i would say about past the two-year mark i think two years according

00:55:33.680 good um you know by that time you kind of already experienced all like the craziness that you guys

00:55:40.840 would like you know you've seen her drunk you've seen her attitude you've met her family like you

00:55:47.060 have you have had enough time to determine whether or not you would want to see your life with this

00:55:52.800 person further yeah right um so ladies if he hit that two-year mark and it's like two years and

00:55:59.680 three quarters and he doesn't seem like he won't take you down the aisle i got it i gotta disagree

00:56:05.680 on this glenn really i've seen what do you think what do you think i've seen it work out for too

00:56:11.360 many people i know personally like that's what i kind of thought when i was younger but it's like

00:56:17.600 i look back in retrospect and like what one woman waited a decade now she's married with two kids in 0.99

00:56:24.880 a house there's this woman glenn i went to school with she was in a situation ship for three years 0.99

00:56:30.480 and i i thought she was so stupid i was like he is never going to take you seriously he won't even 0.78

00:56:35.600 call you a girlfriend she's pregnant right now yeah and this is like a decade later right but 0.99

00:56:42.000 But I'm like, but see, like we're talking about like, you know, we're talking general.

00:56:48.620 Yeah.

00:56:49.040 Generally speaking.

00:56:49.740 Right.

00:56:50.300 I think generally like, look, you have the biological clock.

00:56:53.360 I don't.

00:56:54.600 Yeah.

00:56:54.900 Right.

00:56:55.100 So if you are like trying to get married ASAP and it's not on that guy's timeline, then you could either wait it out and be bitter because that may never end up happening because it could be multiple factors.

00:57:08.860 Why a guy is not trying to lock you down, not trying to wipe you up.

00:57:12.000 right so it could be he thinks that you're great to have around but he's not really sure about

00:57:17.780 committing to you because you may exhibit some behaviors or traits that he's like 1.00

00:57:22.980 uh-uh you know and he just doesn't want to tell you because you're the pussy he likes pussy so 1.00

00:57:29.560 he's gonna stick around for the pussy yeah right he's gonna keep you around for that 1.00

00:57:32.840 but there's also things that maybe he's not financially in the position where he wants to 0.98

00:57:38.820 be yet um his career is taking priority so if his career is like look my career is not where i want

00:57:45.840 to be where i'm comfortable adding the other responsibility of like marriage and children

00:57:50.640 then it's gonna be either you wait for his timeline or you dip like it's just that simple

00:57:58.120 well i think it kind of comes down to i think the women that wait are more into their husbands than 0.95

00:58:03.980 the ones that don't well yeah because they're more invested in yeah they're more invested in

00:58:09.000 him than getting what they want but i mean if the goal is i need to get pregnant yeah my biological

00:58:15.380 clock is like about to expire um do i wait do i go then go if it's about the kids yeah you know

00:58:24.040 well me i just think that you know certain people shouldn't have kids anyways if you

00:58:28.780 waited that long as it is you just squandered your time you're not really good with time management

00:58:32.220 okay that's a red flag for me be like you're not responsible if you could carry a child 0.98

00:58:42.780 and not have to deal with family court would you do it like like because women always give 1.00

00:58:49.340 themselves so much credit for like make like carrying a child and my argument is if men could

00:58:54.540 do it they would to avoid all the that comes with no no no no let me tell you something men would

00:58:59.980 not carry babies uh at all we would have a population of one because we would try it one 1.00

00:59:05.220 time and be like shit fuck that ain't doing that shit all over again yeah but they do 0.99

00:59:09.180 they do child support and they sign up like three times well because they're not physically going 1.00

00:59:15.480 through it right you know like god damn it i gotta give up more resources yeah i could always make 0.98

00:59:19.520 more you know like that that's the thing but like damn i gotta pull my body through that again 0.99

00:59:22.900 okay glenn well thank you i mean ladies you ladies are like a turkey there's a gizzard bag 1.00

00:59:30.160 in there the placenta it just it's weird it's like an alien it's like an alien beautiful but

00:59:35.940 it's weird well thanks for calling in glenn we got to go to the next caller all right pearl

00:59:41.680 appreciate your insight a pleasure as always of course of course bye all right who do we got next

00:59:49.760 it's someone else in the waiting room right okay two more okay

00:59:56.000 all right let's

01:00:00.740 you can bring in uh sean first

01:00:06.240 oh what's going on i know you're good you're always good with being on camera

01:00:16.480 what's good what's good how's it going sean chilling winning you know how it is how you doing

01:00:26.460 i'm good what do you think of the topic has a woman ever given you

01:00:31.120 an ultimatum and how did it go for her well i wouldn't say ultimatum but yes net net that's

01:00:38.880 what it was but uh it didn't go well um again i think most women tend to not they know who they 1.00

01:00:45.220 can bug her and who they possibly can't come at with their approaches so if they know their person

01:00:50.660 that they're with so it wasn't necessarily ultimatum a lot of women just probably just 1.00

01:00:55.620 walked or we had a conversation and so net net it was pretty simple like that i do think that uh

01:01:02.500 people just need to have conversations more often you get what i'm saying whether what their

01:01:07.140 timelines are be open with communication one of my biggest things was always had this relationship

01:01:13.540 with people where they could say anything like anything i mean like some of the most craziest

01:01:19.220 darkest secrets i've heard come from women about what they did in the past just because i just 1.00

01:01:24.580 created an environment in the relationship where people were weren't fearful of me reacting in a

01:01:30.500 negative way you ever heard of uh ryan taraband before no oh man it was this guy oh wait oh wait

01:01:38.740 psych hacks yeah i do i do know him yeah yeah yeah okay so he he was just saying like in your

01:01:43.860 communication you got to have a situation where you know if somebody comes and tells you something

01:01:48.660 you can't then penalize them for telling you the truth so if you're like yo tell me what happened

01:01:54.580 you know whatever in this story and then the person tells you and you're like oh man you

01:01:59.620 were a bad girl oh man i hate you if you do that you just taught them to never tell you the truth 0.96

01:02:05.140 right yeah like okay now they know so you got to watch how you do that and so net net you know if

01:02:11.780 somebody's giving you an ultimatum that's crazy that's mad like i don't think that's like that's

01:02:16.500 not the right way to go about it and if anybody comes at me that way then it's just going to have

01:02:21.220 to just separate it's a conversation we could have but ultimatums not and i'm not going to hear that

01:02:26.980 so what do you think should women that are in this situation where they've been with a guy for a while 0.60

01:02:32.740 do they bounce or do they wait it out like what if personally i've seen more women wait it out 1.00

01:02:40.520 and win that i've seen lose that's what i've seen but i've always heard from women to never do that 1.00

01:02:47.040 like which to me is counterintuitive from what i've seen but everyone has a different life

01:02:53.260 experience so i know some people say they've seen he dumps the girlfriend of 10 years and 0.89

01:02:59.360 marries the new the new bitch i've never seen that i don't know like nah that's cap that's cap 1.00

01:03:05.000 i i think you point to earlier it depends on how much that girl's feeling you like if that 0.98

01:03:10.520 real girl feels you uh and especially also how much she likes you and she knows the type of 0.98

01:03:16.380 person you are she'll wait she'll be like all right man maybe i could change him maybe you

01:03:21.260 know he might hit it hit his head on a rock and then you know what i'm saying might go a different

01:03:25.180 direction they'll like hope and pray but also sometimes a woman's in a relationship where she 0.99

01:03:30.860 knows she has that power in the relationship to apply the ultimatum you get what i'm saying so i

01:03:36.700 think people think like a lot of times women are like super clueless and when it comes to social 1.00

01:03:41.180 dynamics and social power they're not um that's one of their strengths you get what i'm saying like

01:03:46.300 men might have physical strength and quote unquote say they're logical but at the end of the day women 1.00

01:03:51.500 have that social strength where they're like all right they could read a situation and so net net

01:03:56.860 i think a lot of times they're just going to be like okay do i like the guy a lot if i do i hope

01:04:01.420 he change and if i don't or if i have more power than him i'm going to give him an ultimatum he's

01:04:06.380 going to fold like you get what i'm saying women got to be right if not then she's going to have 1.00

01:04:11.340 dire consequences so she'll she'll know but each relationship is really different so it's hard to

01:04:17.420 just say what everybody should do i think one of the most important things is communication

01:04:22.140 and talking it's not crazy for women to ask like when are you going to get married when can we have 0.94

01:04:27.180 kids you know my biological clock but here's the thing pearl right don't you hear more women saying 1.00

01:04:32.940 like i don't have no clock you get what i'm saying they're like kind of not really acknowledging that

01:04:38.140 women don't want to be moms i mean that like women don't really want to be moms i mean not 1.00

01:04:45.580 they want a kid they don't want to be a mother yeah yeah there you go they want the kid for clout 0.99

01:04:52.300 like they want to post the kid on facebook and then and then also too the timeline is so small

01:04:58.780 because of the you know they defer it often you know like what's that survey where they were

01:05:05.020 checking like what's girls priorities when they're younger and they're like not kids and i'm not

01:05:09.420 saying they should or shouldn't or i'm not one of those guys like they should want to get pregnant 0.99

01:05:14.060 once they get out of high school and in their college i mean they're going to do what they

01:05:18.380 want to do but the fact is it's deferred and then that biological thing is there

01:05:23.580 but then also society tells them oh it doesn't matter your age doesn't matter so you see what

01:05:29.100 i'm saying it's like this whole weird space that they're in and then net net like you said they

01:05:34.300 also don't want a mother they just want to be a mom they just want to have a best friend i'm

01:05:39.020 I'm going to be honest.

01:05:40.200 They just want to have a best friend that would love them, you know, unconditionally, period.

01:05:46.840 That's what they really want.

01:05:48.480 They want like that homie, like, oh, man, you know, my kid. 1.00

01:05:51.780 And then they can virtue signal like, oh, man, I'm, you know what I'm saying?

01:05:55.480 Or someone to take care of them when they get old.

01:05:59.360 That too, right?

01:06:00.500 Like a son, husband.

01:06:01.800 They want a son, husband, the guy who never will leave you, right?

01:06:05.200 He'll take out the trash.

01:06:06.600 You could tell him what to do.

01:06:07.680 i did this i did this coffee thought video recently of all the ways mothers manipulate 1.00

01:06:13.000 their kids and one of them is they're always telling you that they're gonna die it's like

01:06:17.640 i get it we're all gonna die like yeah or you made your mama cry don't like god dang like they'd be 0.70

01:06:26.520 really oh man and i i think somebody wrote a book like women often more and let me know you're a 1.00

01:06:33.540 women but they often like stand up to that if their mom's doing it because they understand that 1.00

01:06:38.580 dynamic but for sons they never understand it so they always get manipulated you'll you'll see a

01:06:45.020 you know man like 50 years old still being manipulated by his mom i swear sometimes i'll

01:06:53.340 explain to guys what women are doing i'm like look at they're playing dumb the women they know exactly 1.00

01:06:58.500 what they're doing they're playing they're playing dumb and and i'm like please god like 0.95

01:07:05.380 could you like you know what they'll do they'll book guys entire weekends and they know

01:07:11.380 like travel is kind of for women i know that like you do the traveling thing and i guess some guys

01:07:17.080 like it but just in general men kind of like to be home yeah and the women will book them with 0.89

01:07:24.040 like these trips to see the in-laws and all this stuff that men just don't even like to do and like

01:07:30.660 you know i'll be like you know you don't have to go what they're like they like they look at me

01:07:37.620 like i spoke japanese or something yeah they be like is this a test like you know like are you

01:07:44.820 really giving me that option yeah right yeah yeah so great yeah you always do a great show

01:07:51.640 and i think you're on point today and as we hear a couple people say like man just beware as a man

01:07:58.940 or a woman but especially men like guys you know just negotiate whoever has the most negotiation

01:08:06.160 power that's who's gonna win in it so at the end of the day you're gonna have to talk it out and

01:08:11.120 work it out with your partner but uh if you concede and you really don't want to do it i always say

01:08:16.780 that's the worst thing to do so yeah well thanks for calling in sean a pleasure as always

01:08:23.220 all right peace out bro all right next up to bat we got don

01:08:29.800 don are you i'm good are you good to be on camera don yeah i'm good i'm uh i'm actually

01:08:38.980 you've been on my show before grid one motorsports

01:08:41.280 with glenn oh and i was at thor's house that's right oh i remember that with the

01:08:50.500 crazy lady on it or something that's right that's right the clean the crazy people 0.99

01:08:57.460 they make good tv though so what do you what do you think about the topic ultimatums

01:09:04.680 Yes.

01:09:05.240 No.

01:09:05.840 Ultimatums.

01:09:07.120 So have you ever been given one?

01:09:09.960 From like my wife or something?

01:09:11.960 Yeah, like before you were married, did she?

01:09:14.180 Oh, yeah.

01:09:15.040 Yeah, absolutely.

01:09:16.500 Yeah, I didn't do well with them personally.

01:09:18.880 I always just kind of left.

01:09:20.500 Okay.

01:09:21.540 To be honest with you.

01:09:22.360 I just, you know, it's always a back and forth, a give and take, if you will.

01:09:30.200 And if all you do is take or you make demands and put them as an ultimatum, do this or else, generically or else is better than anything I can come up with.

01:09:45.720 What do you think about women? 1.00

01:09:47.560 Should they stick it out for the guy or bounce?

01:09:53.780 It's hard to say.

01:09:54.720 I mean, obviously it's situational, but I think that by and large, and this is just my personal perspective, I think that there's a wave of lack of commitment amongst women today. 0.73

01:10:14.220 They'd rather leave than try and work anything out, and they live and die by ultimatums, actually.

01:10:20.360 I think that they generically will use the ultimatum to alleviate themselves from the guilt of leaving because what they really want to do is leave, but they lack the courage to just say, hey, I'm done with this.

01:10:35.180 And so they'll give some ultimatum that they know the guy won't be able to live with, and then he'll shuffle off the buffalo, so to speak.

01:10:45.680 yeah so have you seen women that waited out generally get the ring um i think my camera

01:10:52.800 went out i don't know why but you can still you can still hear me yeah you can still hear me right

01:10:57.440 i can hear you fine yeah yeah so there you're back and now i'm now i'm gone yeah i don't know

01:11:03.500 they'll they'll figure it out but as long as we have the audio it's fine

01:11:06.620 so um what do you think have you seen it like work out for women generally that wait 0.99

01:11:12.500 yeah i think so um it's a give and take um once you prove you can give and take then i i think

01:11:22.440 that that puts men at ease more yeah um i didn't really have that in my courtship getting married

01:11:30.260 i've been married 20 years and i didn't really have that in my courtship um there were a couple

01:11:35.860 of things, uh, along the way, um, that I think, I think that women, a lot of times, and my wife 1.00

01:11:43.780 did this, is that they, there were things about me that she thought would change after marriage,

01:11:50.060 uh, that did not. And, um, and so that actually, um, caused some ultimatums and, um, you know,

01:12:01.800 kind of set, you know, uh, set some boundaries, uh, kind of in motion that probably should not

01:12:09.460 have, um, been a thing, um, cause some, you know, turmoil in our, in the early days of our marriage,

01:12:18.460 but, uh, you know, it, it worked out where she had expectations like that. She thought,

01:12:23.800 was it like a timeline thing or something else?

01:12:25.960 no i think most of the most of the problem most of the the things that i think my wife thought

01:12:32.860 would change is she thought the way that i lived was going to change radically and it and it did

01:12:39.980 obviously you've included someone else in your life but um oh we're like you'd be doing more

01:12:46.280 stuff she wanted to do i'm guessing like right right like that like i would work less we love 0.75

01:12:51.520 filling guys calendars that's like our favorite thing to do you have a free afternoon we'll fill

01:12:56.960 it and to this day that happens and and i have i've actually have to have a calendar

01:13:03.600 where i put my things on there and i'm like do not do not try and fill this because what will

01:13:09.520 happen is is i will um i will ignore it because i have something i have to do something that's more

01:13:14.640 important um i think that would you agree that i think women to some degree and and i'm speaking

01:13:23.520 globally and i shouldn't but i i'm gonna do it just briefly do you think that women really feel

01:13:30.160 like that they should be able to make demand on a man's time and he should be just willing to just

01:13:37.120 do it just whatever he's got planned crumple it up throw it away do you know what do what

01:13:44.080 and do what we always think our ways the best way even to like the way things should be organized

01:13:51.680 like the one thing i've noticed about women not just like plans but like say organizing a house 1.00

01:13:58.160 or something we over complicate things and think it's better where men are more simple they're like

01:14:04.000 Like that drawer goes with the, like the things I use the most where women will have all these like organizers that they don't, you know what I'm saying? 1.00

01:14:12.220 Like women add more and think it's better. 1.00

01:14:14.760 And sometimes, sometimes it is, but it's like the men just kind of like women always think their way is superior, even when sometimes men's is more pragmatic. 0.97

01:14:26.520 Yeah, I do think that that's, that's true.

01:14:28.920 And I, for some reason, and I blame modernity for this, for some reason, most women believe that they can budget and plan better than men. 1.00

01:14:39.900 Oh, God, no.

01:14:42.520 And that's always, that's really, truly hilarious to me, right?

01:14:46.980 Um, and, uh, but it's, it's a constant, you know, a lot of the, a lot of the people I

01:14:53.720 talk to, uh, that are married, uh, especially if they've only been married, uh, maybe a

01:14:58.340 year, two years, three years, whatever, um, their biggest fights are always over money

01:15:03.860 because, you know, usually it's over.

01:15:10.400 the guy wants to go out and spend X, wife disagrees. When the wife goes out and spends X 0.83

01:15:18.680 and the husband disagrees, it's a battle. It's a fight, right? Because honestly, I think most men

01:15:26.080 are fairly practical. Not all of them. Obviously, we're speaking globally here, but I think most

01:15:31.900 men are fairly practical. And if you told me, hey, we really can't afford for you to

01:15:38.640 do whatever go put put uh gas in the bass boat and go fishing every night this week right which

01:15:44.780 is to man that's like a cheap thing to do right i'm just gonna go motor around the lake it doesn't

01:15:49.660 cost anything i don't you know i'm not i'm not out drinking with my boys you know it's just i'm out

01:15:54.220 for four hours i come back uh whereas you know but but if you said hey you know you're gonna

01:16:01.100 spend a hundred dollars this week on on fuel for the boat that could go yeah you know what you're

01:16:05.660 right we probably shouldn't spend that got bills to pay on the other side of that if a woman says 1.00

01:16:12.420 i'm going to go out with my with my girls this weekend and they'll drop 100 150 bucks i even 0.91

01:16:18.880 think about and come back and then they're like well you know now we got to really save because

01:16:23.820 you know we're short for the for whatever and i think that's a really interesting have you found

01:16:28.200 that to be the case because i have over and over again i hear this right back and forth um and not

01:16:34.200 not always that that same dynamic but pretty close do you find that to be the case yeah i found that

01:16:40.120 to be the case and most of the time women cannot but women make 80 percent of consumer buying 1.00

01:16:46.680 decisions even though we make less money i don't know why women would think we could budget better 1.00

01:16:50.920 than that right like well i think it's it's 80 of the consumer debt actually is the actual figure

01:17:00.280 No, I think it's both.

01:17:03.420 Yeah, it's an interesting thing because, I mean, obviously, I know men that overspend.

01:17:09.600 I mean, I spent my career watching men overspend, but there's always a plan behind it.

01:17:17.660 When a man overspends, most men, you know, and I'm talking about reasonably successful, pragmatic, positive, you know, gainfully employed, people that aren't coping, living in their fields.

01:17:32.780 Most dudes, if their gym membership is $35 a month, they have a reason that they spend that $35 a month.

01:17:42.200 And if if if they get so tight that they can't afford that thirty five dollars a month, they're happy to lift bricks in the backyard.

01:17:48.400 Right. They will cut where they'll cut to the bone, whereas a woman won't give up her five dollar Starbucks coffee. 1.00

01:17:55.840 No. Yeah. Right. Yeah. I mean, I just I just think it's an interesting dichotomy.

01:18:04.860 And I only mention that because a lot of the ultimatums that I see are not about behavior.

01:18:11.300 right they're not about hey you're going out every night and i don't want you to do that it's

01:18:15.560 i don't want you to spend this i don't want you to do that i think you're doing this way too much

01:18:20.780 and we could use that money somewhere else is as that's kind of more the the arguments that i hear

01:18:26.440 right um and maybe i'm wrong i i i'm often wrong but uh you know i try not to be i mean

01:18:33.940 can't i mean you can't be wrong about your personal experience so like that's what you've

01:18:39.800 seen um i have to take the next caller don yeah yeah i'm sorry i took up too much you're totally

01:18:45.080 okay thanks for calling in sure absolutely have a great night call in any time all right

01:18:51.000 oh i will thank you um okay next i saw a couple in the waiting room

01:19:00.040 yeah you can do um tasha next and then i think that'll be our last caller is tasha

01:19:09.800 all right what's going on tasha hi hi pearl how are you i'm good so what do you think of the topic

01:19:24.560 i think um well i would say what he was talking about about going out and everything

01:19:32.060 the big thing is oh i'm no open doors like when i mean open doors i mean no girls nights no boys

01:19:40.380 nights nothing like that right that's just too much of an open door so i'm asking about ultimatums

01:19:46.780 ultimatums yeah so do you think have you ever given an ultimatum how did it work out for you

01:19:52.740 or maybe you know somebody uh well i'm married five years now and i can say that i've ever given

01:20:00.760 my man an ultimatum no no because he's the man and i follow him and what about your friends do

01:20:08.680 you have any friends have you ever seen an ultimatum like maybe with a wedding like a ring

01:20:13.640 i actually had recently um when i got married i had to stop hanging out with my friends because

01:20:19.920 they gave me all they kind of gave me ultimatum like they said we're still gonna have our girls

01:20:23.600 nights even though i was at my wedding so that's a little hard yeah i was more asking about like

01:20:29.880 did any of your friends date a guy for a long time and he wouldn't marry them uh yeah i have a few

01:20:36.160 people like that in my life yeah and how did it turn out did like what's the story did they wait

01:20:41.760 a long time did he end up marrying them did he dump them marry someone else how did it go

01:20:46.180 well again some of the guys that they have dated either can't keep a job or they the women have

01:20:55.900 kids that's the bad thing too i just don't agree with the kids thing uh wedlock oh yeah yeah single

01:21:02.380 moms was it were the kids with the dad like was she still with the dad or is from a previous guy

01:21:09.820 it's from a few previous guys yeah i mean i know women who have like eight kids four kids it's 0.94

01:21:16.460 it's nuts where do you live what part of the country are you in uh i'm in uh michigan oh wow

01:21:23.740 Wow, they got eight baby daddies out in Michigan?

01:21:27.480 It's crazy.

01:21:29.780 But you personally, you don't believe in ultimatums.

01:21:32.640 You got to listen to your husband.

01:21:34.760 No, listen to my husband.

01:21:35.960 Yep.

01:21:36.480 Nice.

01:21:37.540 Nice.

01:21:37.980 Thanks for calling.

01:21:38.760 I say to women, be moldable. 1.00

01:21:41.500 Actually, like, have skills besides just sex.

01:21:44.000 You know what I mean?

01:21:44.740 Yeah.

01:21:45.920 Yeah.

01:21:47.120 Good advice.

01:21:48.280 I love it when married women call into the show. 1.00

01:21:51.200 So call in any time, Tasha.

01:21:53.740 Have a good one.

01:21:54.840 Bye.

01:21:55.260 Bye.

01:21:56.460 All right, guys.

01:21:57.620 That's my last caller of the day.

01:22:00.680 I feel surprised just that, you know what I mean?

01:22:02.880 So, oh, wait, what did I do?

01:22:05.340 Good advice.

01:22:07.340 I'm hearing the echo.

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01:22:43.320 pearl the process of your generation and resulting in less marriage and lower birth rates it's sad 0.92

01:22:48.540 now women asked to be equal now they're scared of the draft carlos check your mic buddy can't hear 0.96

01:22:53.820 carlos i don't know we got to figure out why well we'll work on it and see if we could fix it for

01:22:59.920 next show the audio on the website pearl um this was informative um i see him on youtube or maybe

01:23:07.300 it was void i don't know pearl your people you know who had it worked out are the exceptions

01:23:11.880 not the rule dane i'm telling you my generation it's more of the rule i i think it was more of

01:23:17.800 exception maybe in your generation but where i'm from close close-ish to a major city it was really

01:23:24.840 more of the rule um google play thank you thank you anyways guys pearl woman shouldn't leave dad's 1.00

01:23:33.480 house until she's moving into her husband's home well dan i think it depends what age

01:23:39.800 it's a little hypocritical because i'm back at home but it's not it's not really by choice thank

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Pearl - February 09, 2025

Should Women Choose the Timeline Or the Name ULTIMATUMS (Call-in Show) ｜ Pearl Daily

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