Pearl - Should You MARRY Your BEST FRIEND？｜ CALL-IN SHOW! ｜ Pearl Daily

00:00:00.000 good afternoon good evening ladies and gentlemen welcome to another episode of pearl daily

00:00:14.400 i am your host pearl davis and this is the audacity network as you guys know we are currently

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00:00:25.720 network.com and sign up for our monthly or our yearly membership so let's get to it so today's

00:00:33.960 topic was inspired by something that i've heard my entire life i have always heard that you should

00:00:40.840 marry your best friend but i question if that is good dating advice by the way this is the same

00:00:51.080 culture that we have it's cheaper to keep her and happy wife happy life with which clearly does not 0.69

00:00:57.880 get good results in this society so I kept hearing that we want to marry our best friend 1.00

00:01:07.280 and what I kept thinking about was how this really only benefits the feminine because when 0.75

00:01:14.620 women have a tendency to friend zone men they're not that into and what this does is give women

00:01:20.480 plausible deniability for rejecting them early on and the ability to marry them later so i saw a

00:01:28.880 tweet by cody sanchez and the tweet said being married is so underrated come home to your best

00:01:37.040 friend talk and laugh every day cook and drink wine together and share burdens together and the

00:01:44.720 first thought I had was do men really want to hear about our day every day don't they kind of like

00:01:50.740 silence am I going crazy so anyways so my opinion that I put out was my unpopular opinion is I don't

00:01:59.580 want my husband to be my best friend I think that men and women have roles and that we have different

00:02:06.480 roles in a relationship and I want to talk to my husband differently than I talk to my girlfriends

00:02:12.220 I think that the way that I would talk to a girlfriend is just completely different than a husband right now people had a lot to say about this and this is why I wanted to open it up and have a call and show today where people can give their perspectives because there's no right or wrong to this idea right I just want to hear what you guys's perspectives are now on Twitter John says if your husband's your best friend you've already lost

00:02:41.880 He should be the man leading, protecting, and dominating life, not chatting like your

00:02:46.040 girlfriend's over wine.

00:02:47.560 Weak relationships are built on best friend fantasies.

00:02:51.820 Another person said that's an interesting perspective.

00:02:54.960 Now consider the type of man who would be comfortable with you having close friends

00:02:58.420 outside the relationship.

00:03:00.160 It's unlikely to be an alpha male.

00:03:02.120 Only a beta would be okay with that.

00:03:04.120 Your spouse should ideally be your best friend.

00:03:06.840 It's fine to have other friends for casual conversations, but your spouse should be your

00:03:11.380 closest confidant if not your other friends could potentially influence you and harm your marriage

00:03:16.600 different friendships serve different purposes there but there should be one that is supreme

00:03:22.740 let me go back to the other one someone said my wife is my best friend someone said pearl that's

00:03:31.460 why you're single unmarried with no children my wife is my best friend every day of the week

00:03:37.360 Another person said, I believe a husband and wife shouldn't be each other's best friends,

00:03:42.520 clinging to the idea that can blur boundaries and stifle individuality.

00:03:47.640 It's healthy to have separate friendships that enrich the relationship.

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00:05:37.680 and i want to hear you guys's point of view should you marry your best friend why or why not

00:05:48.720 now patriarch revival said husbands should never view their wives as their best friend

00:05:55.200 wives viewing their husbands as their best friends at different stages is acceptable

00:06:00.640 i look at it this way given every possible choice of who to hang with my top preference will always

00:06:06.080 be my wife what do you call that 90 degrees says my daughter is my best friend my mother is my

00:06:13.920 best friend my sister is my best friend my husband my husband is my husband he likes it when I call

00:06:19.720 him my lover but he would not enjoy a best friend Raymond speaks quite sure this is a communication

00:06:26.820 issue my wife is my best friend I can tell her anything but I'd never want her chatting to me

00:06:33.300 like she does her actual friends. F that. Do you guys think it's a good idea to tell women your 0.99

00:06:39.960 problems? Maybe I'm wrong. I don't know. I'm just asking the question here. Men eagerly put them

00:06:48.360 in selves in the friend zones when they marry. They friend zone themselves and wonder why the 0.83

00:06:52.720 sex drives up immediately and their marriage goes sexless soon after. Stop trying to make

00:06:58.800 your spouse a be everything to me and start extracting value from her um sean says i agree

00:07:06.320 with the sentiment but we have to better discuss our what we each have our duties to better the

00:07:11.800 family um supra says valid i never understood that friends yes but best friends okay so

00:07:22.500 um is the link in the chat do we have anyone up nothing yet okay all right guys the link should

00:07:31.440 be in the chat so make sure i'm gonna play a video that i saw on tiktok talking about marrying your

00:07:38.740 best friend it's very well edited you know marry your best friend seriously find the strongest

00:07:46.040 happiest friendship in the person you fall in love with someone who speaks highly of you

00:07:52.220 someone you could laugh with I mean at that rate who wouldn't want that let me

00:07:59.640 know why is it a good idea or not a good idea the link is in the chat everybody

00:08:07.840 Let me message, I had a couple of friends that texted, link in the chat, you guys see

00:08:33.840 it?

00:08:34.840 the mat the legend of kay gunia says six years married friend was a mistake we're lovers for

00:08:44.740 life by the way guys there's 300 of you in the chat let's let's get to over 100 likes

00:08:52.400 i i think this should be easy i mean really we should have 200 let's get to it everybody

00:08:59.580 i don't work for free i work for likes also if you want to support me please go to the audacity

00:09:05.600 network.com um there you can buy my monthly or my yearly memberships um and i'm hoping we can

00:09:15.600 fly in some guests soon but it's kind of expensive so i think we would probably need

00:09:20.160 like 100 more members i need you guys to have your cameras on when you do come in

00:09:25.000 I need camera on.

00:09:50.500 Make sure you have your camera on, I need to see your face, sir.

00:09:55.000 Okay, oh there we go. Hello sir, what is your name? You're muted so make sure you click

00:10:08.600 unmute.

00:10:09.600 How are you doing?

00:10:12.720 I'm good, how are you?

00:10:14.440 I'm good, my name is Daniel Smith or Diesel Water in the chat.

00:10:19.300 And where are you from?

00:10:20.920 i am from just outside of omaha nebraska in nebraska so what is your opinion on the topic

00:10:27.320 should you marry your best friend okay so i like to touch on the first thing you were talking about

00:10:33.960 uh oh i don't remember what it was but yes i think you should be friends before you

00:10:41.400 get married that's the point of the dating process is to get to know each other and your best friends

00:10:47.480 you know your best friends better than anybody else so unless you know your husband or wife

00:10:54.700 inside out and can trust them with their life then I don't think you should be together 0.94

00:10:58.840 do you think you can have the same type of friendship with your wife that you can with a man

00:11:03.760 I believe it's more in depth with your wife than it would be with a friend there's levels to

00:11:13.240 relationships and friend is the first step okay well thank you for calling in thank you

00:11:20.520 so guys just so you know when you call in make sure you have your camera on and i can see your

00:11:31.000 face you want to avoid the trolls so that's the reason why hello sir

00:11:35.800 thank you hi james

00:11:42.420 Oh, are you

00:11:45.260 Hello?

00:11:53.880 All right. We're dealing with Zoom here. Hold on.

00:11:58.520 Are you getting my audio clear? Yeah, I can hear you.

00:12:02.240 Oh, good. I can hear you. And yeah, I've got my camera on. I just popped in and it was like instantly on the air. So anyway.

00:12:09.820 um where are you at it looks like you're on a pyramid

00:12:13.540 that's borobudur oh that's in indonesia okay that's one of the seven wonders of the world

00:12:20.620 um no i i want to talk to the real pearl not the the you know like stop the cat pearl i want the

00:12:29.360 old pearl back i want to you know a genuine conversation i know you got demonetized and

00:12:36.140 you've had to rework your show and everything but i i kind of missed the old pearl that

00:12:40.780 we knew we're trying to go to the topic so uh okay so yeah i married my best friend

00:12:47.460 okay and why do you think that's a good idea um well that was 20 years ago and you know it wasn't

00:12:54.860 like marriage is not a uh light decision you you know you make heavy decisions in your life like

00:13:03.200 buying a house, buying a car. And you go through a process of, you know, deciding factors. And

00:13:10.000 when you are selecting someone to spend the rest of your life with, you need to know enough about

00:13:17.320 them that you're as close as you would be with your best friend. And it's just common sense.

00:13:23.640 And we, you know, in the red pill community, we have a mantra of two years of vetting 0.77

00:13:29.480 for any type of long-term relationship, we just say, you know, two years. And that's largely

00:13:36.360 because if you're lying to somebody, you get snarled up in those lies. After about two years,

00:13:43.880 it's hard to keep them all straight. And you can really find out if someone's, you know,

00:13:49.980 lying to you and faking it or giving you a false impression or has some skeletons in the closet.

00:13:56.620 and so you know okay that's on the topic and here we go and what are we going to do about this

00:14:03.520 old pearl versus the new pearl do you think that the friendship you have is different

00:14:08.580 between um your wife and like another man

00:14:12.140 yeah it's like she's like a ride or die chick she'll she'll have my back you know like if i'm 1.00

00:14:22.900 getting clobbered in the street and i'm down i'm bloodied she's gonna jump on that other guy's back

00:14:30.060 and start killing him yeah well i'm just wondering because i guess what i'm getting at is i i think

00:14:36.920 the friendship would be different between two guys and a man and a woman do you disagree with

00:14:43.680 that there's a difference in that you know guys we uh we bond by doing things together so

00:14:52.000 So, but with my wife, we bond by making things together like a home, children, family, dinners, outings, you know, it's kind of the, we're complements in the relationship.

00:15:14.020 Whereas with guys, we're cohorts, we're peers, and we're doing the same goal together as guys. 0.85

00:15:20.700 and with a woman we're doing something in a in a social construct right as opposed to 0.96

00:15:31.540 an activity does that make sense no that makes sense well thank you very much for calling in

00:15:38.420 i appreciate the input no problem take care bro bye bye bye okay guys so

00:15:46.620 um i i always appreciate when just give it one second on the video price or sorry um but

00:15:54.700 guys i always appreciate when um you come in and you have different topics um and it's not to be

00:16:01.680 rude but i do have to i have a show i have a topic and we're trying to keep it to the topic

00:16:07.160 um so yeah if you have other stuff you can always book a session with me but um yeah for now for

00:16:13.860 this we're sticking to the topic of the show um okay we can bring up the video um hello

00:16:23.220 hello can you hear me hi what's your name my name's rj hi rj where are you from

00:16:30.500 i'm from the united states but i currently live in montenegro where

00:16:35.460 montenegro it's uh part of the balkans but it's a small country in the balkans

00:16:39.620 oh i've never heard of that um is it nice if you go to the heel of italy okay yeah it's right it's

00:16:46.100 right on the atriatic coast so if you go from the heel of italy go across the atriatic sea

00:16:50.740 you come into this little tiny country it's less than a million people all of here so

00:16:54.020 okay it's a very small country so what do you think of the topic should you marry your best friend

00:16:58.900 uh so i right now i say no when i got married i my wife at the time or so she said my girlfriend

00:17:10.640 at the time then became my wife um she was kind of my only friend i just didn't have a lot of

00:17:16.100 friends and as i've gotten you know older it's been about 10 years now i've really come to

00:17:22.580 understand that there are things that men have to deal with and men experience that are that first 0.99

00:17:30.600 of all women can't understand um and probably shouldn't understand especially a wife should not 0.72

00:17:36.240 understand and that there is a there there's things that you just need to be able to protect

00:17:43.440 your wife from and be able to keep those things separate and so having a having your best friend

00:17:49.540 for at least from the male perspective be a never man is i think um required so i would actually say

00:17:56.980 i don't think it's really possible for a man to have his wife be his best friend i think it needs

00:18:02.420 to be another man okay and what would you say you have to shield your wife from like what are

00:18:08.020 conversations you can have with male friends that you can't have with your wife well i i can you

00:18:14.100 know speak from my own experience where there's there's a lot of points where you know my wife and

00:18:19.060 and I, we've had a lot of struggles and challenges in our life. I mean, we have three kids, but two

00:18:25.340 of them are autistic, not kind of conversationalist. And it's just when you have, you know,

00:18:30.640 when you're facing a lot of the challenges that we've gone through or, you know, it's like, hey,

00:18:34.360 we just don't even know where, you know, food's going to be coming from, to be honest. Fortunately,

00:18:39.340 we're past that now. But when I was at that point, and this is, you know, even before I started

00:18:43.520 watching your content um i would i'll be honest i was i was not a very strong person at that point

00:18:51.860 that's not a very strong man and i put a lot of the burden of that situation on my wife and that

00:18:57.620 um was not good for our marriage and um it's actually because of your content that i was

00:19:04.660 able to fix that and actually make our marriage to be much better so i want to thank you for that

00:19:08.180 as well but beside that point it is a result of it's these hardships you know part of the the job

00:19:15.200 here uh what i will tell my wife is that a husband's husband's role is to again protect you

00:19:23.560 know the well i think a father's role starts off with protecting a daughter's um innocence and

00:19:29.080 purity and that kind of transfers over to a husband that they're trying to protect their

00:19:33.840 wife from you know the the monsters in the world so to speak and so that's where those are the kind

00:19:40.240 of things that you need to be able to protect your wife from and you know sometimes it just it's not

00:19:45.380 easy but you have to tough up and just make it work can i if you don't mind would you mind getting

00:19:50.340 a little more specific on like what you did before and what you changed after just because there

00:19:54.940 might be guys in the chat that are looking to improve their marriage so like how would you put

00:19:59.280 the burden on your wife before and how did it switch after yeah so um it's i'll try and keep

00:20:06.780 it as short and concise as possible um because it is a bit of a broader story but the basically

00:20:14.700 there's for about the first eight years of our marriage we are just struggling in various

00:20:20.300 different things um we had our first child um 12 months after sorry not 12 months it was

00:20:28.640 13 months after we got married so we had kids very early on in our marriage and then um so just a lot

00:20:36.280 of different challenges from there and um money was always a big challenge i had a hard time finding

00:20:41.840 a job and keeping a job and it would be a case where you know my wife would be you know asking

00:20:47.480 me questions about like oh is there things i can do for you is there things that you want for 0.89

00:20:51.760 christmas or you know this you know presents or that and so i just want you know to you know

00:20:56.600 have money, more money, have, you know, solve these problems. And I was, you know, always

00:21:02.900 complaining about these things. Um, what actually ended up happening is my wife, um, she's, she had

00:21:09.600 to take a trip about two years ago and she, uh, to go to, to a family's wedding. And this is a point

00:21:17.680 where, um, it was probably the, the absolute lowest point. Um, we were basically, um, about

00:21:25.380 two months away from being just completely destitute having no other options after exhausting

00:21:30.140 pretty much everything and um while she's on that trip which of course someone else was paying for 0.57

00:21:35.540 anyway it wasn't me that was coming for it and i was making her um go and do a lot of work that

00:21:42.180 she didn't really want to do and putting her in these challenging positions it was just uh she's 0.98

00:21:46.480 teaching languages and so was anything immoral i'm gonna add that in there um but uh what ended

00:21:53.220 up happening was during that trip that's when i started watching your content i started watching

00:21:58.180 um kevin samuels content um some fresh and fit and kind of just i took you know bits and pieces

00:22:06.220 and started understanding more that i was not acting like a man in this position i was not

00:22:11.360 taking i was not leading i was not taking um taking ownership of the situation that we were in

00:22:18.980 And when she actually came back, I said, I'm very sorry. I'm going to take full responsibility from this. I put us in position. I know that I don't want you to be going out and doing these teaching jobs, which aren't making much money.

00:22:34.880 But at this point, that's just the situation we're in.

00:22:37.780 We need you to keep doing that for the time being.

00:22:40.020 But I'm going to be working to resolve that.

00:22:43.120 And I was also something that was a really big difference to it was I also confronted very directly about the things that I found were that I took as disrespect.

00:22:55.160 They said, look, I'm going to take ownership on this stuff, but here's some other points.

00:22:58.900 i think these things that you are doing are um i i i see those as being disrespectful to me

00:23:07.060 and i want you to also to work on those and to take action to change those and we're going to

00:23:12.180 go in this better direction and she actually took it very well um and basically it took us i mean

00:23:21.060 it took us about a year to really have things turn around but we started seeing significant

00:23:25.060 progress even after two months. Um, and yeah, so the, the, the big points I would say is actually,

00:23:32.580 you know, stepping up, taking ownership, um, not making excuses, not putting, you know,

00:23:38.740 passing these burdens on to your wife, but also being, not being afraid of your wife, not, um,

00:23:46.580 being afraid to call her out for the things that are making one happy, such as, you know,

00:23:51.940 anything that might be that you're receiving as disrespect and yeah you might make her upset it

00:23:57.180 is possible and i've done that plenty of times and she gets over it and she so loves me so wow

00:24:04.380 well that was a great story i'm glad you turned things around

00:24:07.320 yes yes oh my thank you so much well thank you so much for calling in of course

00:24:13.640 so what a great story guys what a nice guy look at the um you know the red pill can be helpful

00:24:26.060 to people it really can um hello sir what's your name

00:24:31.480 hello sir uh dane oh snyder right snyder dan dan yeah i uh just a second you're right you're 0.52

00:24:45.380 like my number one fan aren't you you're always sending me that would make me seem like a dirty

00:24:52.660 old man since i have children all of my children i don't know now i've got a couple children younger 0.61

00:24:59.080 than you but the rest of them are older than you so no i can't but you are irish and you're tall

00:25:05.200 and you're smart and you're uh working hard so there's a lot to be proud of there so i don't

00:25:10.060 know if i'd call you my number call me your number one fan but i'm probably up there better

00:25:14.820 not nobody be talking bad about pearl because i am a redneck and you know we can be crazy

00:25:19.780 you can be crazy you guys are in alabama right right well yeah but let me give you a little

00:25:26.880 uh caveat there pearl we're in south alabama we're down here on the beaches so we're down here

00:25:33.440 alabama has two ends they have the end up there by tennessee that is like uh huntsville which is

00:25:39.600 the space industry okay and then down here on the coast we have ship building and chemical plants

00:25:44.640 and a lot of tourism and in between that's where the people live that um they have cousins and

00:25:52.800 stuff we're there in between in between alabama that's where you know your aunt might also be

00:25:59.200 your cousin or your sister or something you never know but that's alabama but i do live down here on

00:26:03.680 the go coast so uh yeah is it true what they say about alabama that it's the sweet home alabama yeah

00:26:13.440 no the cousins oh well i think it might be i don't know i mean when you get there around

00:26:20.560 opelica montgomery or up there where it's trees and you drive forever there's not even a gas station

00:26:27.200 i drive through there i don't slow down but we can still look down on mississippi which is just

00:26:33.040 to the west of us which is where i'm originally from so at any rate to your question uh should

00:26:40.000 you marry your best friend and you know i've told you before deidre and i have been married for 33

00:26:46.000 years uh i've been putting up with her for 35 years it took me about a year to run a trap on

00:26:52.560 her so she finally married me but you know back in 1990 when you uh when you got somebody pregnant

00:26:58.880 the right thing to do was to get married and that's what i did so i knew as soon as i could

00:27:02.640 get her knocked up we could hook up and that's what we did and we've had five kids since then

00:27:07.840 and to be honest with you it's a very complicated question because we we really need to ask ourselves

00:27:14.640 pearl what did what does a person mean by this wife this husband is my best friend

00:27:22.080 i think from the woman's side when they say oh this is my best team they're thinking about

00:27:26.160 somebody they can be cutesy with they'd be silly with and they don't have to worry about their

00:27:31.440 best friend telling them they're getting fat or they're being stupid about something

00:27:36.000 so if that's if that's the case then no a man should never marry his best friend if

00:27:40.640 if he's not going to be holding her accountable and um but on the other hand you think i would

00:27:46.960 think the best friend would be the ride or die person the person that's going to put up with you

00:27:52.560 when you're being nothing but shitty really you know uh that your best friend's the one that's

00:27:59.040 going to be committed to you to be with you when you're not being very friendly and aren't very

00:28:02.560 deserving so i mean i think in that case you need to marry somebody that is going to be your best

00:28:07.760 friend but that doesn't mean that you're you're just all fun and games because the problem i

00:28:14.240 think with the mindset that you need to marry someone who's your best friend is people change

00:28:20.480 best friends throughout their lives this was a problem my oldest daughter i had trouble getting

00:28:25.920 her to understand when she was younger and i'm still not sure she understands it and that is that

00:28:32.160 women talk about oh this is my best friend my bestie together forever and then like next week 0.98

00:28:39.440 they'll be pissed off at their best friend and she'll be the lowdown good for nothing 1.00

00:28:43.920 hoochie mama and all that sort of stuff so i mean that's what i think is really dangerous about

00:28:48.960 saying that you should marry your best friend because best friends are really temporary you

00:28:54.400 know when a man and a woman get married they're getting married if they're christians of course

00:28:59.600 they're supposed to be one flesh there's supposed to be one flesh you know together forever all that

00:29:04.400 kind of stuff i'm a redneck i can't say i'm sorry but that's the best i can do but you understand

00:29:09.600 what i'm saying so if i marry your best friend if that person means someone that you're going to

00:29:14.400 join to and you're going to stick with together forever to death do your part i used to tell

00:29:19.760 deidre that if she dies before me i'm climbing in the hole behind her okay in that regard we're best

00:29:26.640 friends on the other hand sometimes deedra gets a little sideways you know how y'all will do

00:29:33.840 you know how you women will do y'all wake up some mornings and you hate the world 0.91

00:29:39.120 and sometimes i have to do what i call using my big voice on her 1.00

00:29:44.240 you know from that movie chicken little remember that movie chicken yeah yeah near the end of the

00:29:50.480 alien and then the alien mother comes and says don't use your big voice on me uh sometimes i

00:29:57.520 have to use my big voice on her and sometimes i have to sometimes say things to her in that big 1.00

00:30:03.680 voice that some people feminists might say we're abusive but i mean she can tell you that in those 1.00

00:30:11.280 times if i don't use my big voice on her just basically stand up and say hey we are friends 1.00

00:30:18.640 but we're not equals in this relationship one of us is a leader here if i wasn't willing to do that

00:30:25.600 she would likely go off the rails and she would probably tell you that so so i think that being

00:30:33.440 able to stand up and be best friends enough with your wife to tell her to shut up i think is an

00:30:40.720 example of being a best friend but about best friend it means i had a you know i'm a realtor

00:30:46.320 in south alabama exp realty dave snyder give me a call i have a realtor i'm a realtor and i have

00:30:51.920 a realtor friend uh young young friend about your age and she was uh we were having a discussion

00:30:58.320 one time about relationships and uh she said to me i said that i wasn't really concerned about

00:31:04.640 deedra's happiness that's another thing best friends want you to stay happy and uh this young

00:31:11.680 lady said uh oh dang you know that uh that if miss deirdre wanted something to be happy or needed to

00:31:17.920 be you know something to be happy that you do whatever it would take to make her happy she

00:31:24.320 says that because she she sees deirdre and me together and we get along really really good

00:31:29.200 you know and uh we do now uh there's been a lot of screaming and cussing to get here though

00:31:34.240 but uh and like i told her i explained her i said i'm not interested in deirdre's happiness at all

00:31:40.240 it's not anywhere near the top of my uh list it's not even on the list for the most part and uh we

00:31:47.200 went back and forth

00:32:10.240 keep the house issue

00:32:17.680 that's a big threat and that's something that

00:32:23.760 here will tell you that she knew before i ever met her that she was crazy so you have something 1.00

00:32:30.160 to work with you know uh if you're having a woman no matter how much honky talk but donka donk she

00:32:36.320 might have if she doesn't think she's crazy but yeah if you know she's crazy you got something 0.97

00:32:46.000 to work with you know uh you want to find out what her spending habits are at 17 or 18 we didn't have 0.99

00:32:53.280 spending habits but if you're dealing with a an adult woman uh you know what's the spending habits

00:32:59.520 all of those sorts of things conflict resolution you know that sort of stuff that's what i would 0.84

00:33:04.800 tell them about and get all of those things under control and then if y'all really enjoy spending

00:33:10.160 every waking moment together when you're not at work or doing something else and you can get along

00:33:16.000 doing that and you enjoy that sort of stuff really that's like icing on the cake you know you need

00:33:20.960 the cake and you need the icing on the cake it sucks eating just dry cake you know so if all of

00:33:27.760 the logistics come together the business part and she's a great housekeeper even great in bed and

00:33:33.520 all this sort of stuff but you don't really enjoy spending time around each other you don't miss one

00:33:38.720 another when you're apart that's that's going to be a very dry life you're going to have to wash

00:33:43.520 that down with a lot of milk right but if all if all you have is the best friend icing and the

00:33:48.880 sugar now you're looking at being a diabetic probably vomiting every day from eating it all

00:33:54.160 the time you see i mean you got to have a balance of those two things and i think it's important

00:34:00.240 like i said when i started to define your terms she's over here eating some boiled

00:34:04.400 peanut cup right here you see it she's over here eating some 1.00

00:34:10.800 hi say hello dj she didn't have her hair done so i didn't invite her on she walked in 0.99

00:34:17.280 as i was in the waiting room and i was like oh no she's here so i gotta talk good about her 0.65

00:34:22.240 no see yes he has an example see there she is pearl and she's been sitting there when i told 0.99

00:34:27.840 you she got to know she's crazy i am absolutely and she's the least crazy one in her family if 0.99

00:34:37.760 you can believe it but um but yeah at any rate i could go on all day long i could take over your

00:34:44.320 whole show if you let me but i just i just thought it was great when you uh said it was gonna be a

00:34:48.880 call-in show and uh should you marry your best friend because i've had this conversation with

00:34:54.320 with so many people who think that that best friend has got to be at the at the top of your

00:34:59.520 list yeah so you're saying it's important but it shouldn't be at the top it shouldn't be anywhere

00:35:05.120 near the top if you're going to be smart yeah i wasn't smart okay i was young and horny okay 1.00

00:35:11.440 and i was just like wow she's four foot eleven too i mean she just looked like you could pick 1.00

00:35:16.320 her up put her in your damn pocket and take her with you everywhere right so that's all i was 1.00

00:35:20.560 plus i grew up a single mother you know i grew up let's say economically deprived uh her her father

00:35:31.360 they went well off but they were very firmly middle class so i was like man i got a pretty

00:35:36.560 girl her family got some money let's go you know all of the wrong reasons but i was 18 years old

00:35:42.880 you know and um i knew i was in when she told me she wanted to go have portraits made at sears

00:35:50.160 that'll take how long ago it was portraits made it serious i was like wow so you mean you want

00:35:54.640 to have documentation of this relationship so i knew i was in then but uh i just just i was

00:36:00.400 completely stupid i was raised by a single mother so i was mildly feminized uh when i met her i

00:36:06.240 didn't have a father but uh it didn't take me but about a year or so to figure out that um 0.75

00:36:11.520 i didn't know jack about him and her and i had to really man up and i had to learn some stuff

00:36:17.600 um so if the guy is older and he's he's got something to lose i didn't have a whole bunch

00:36:23.520 to lose but uh if you've got something to lose and if she's an adult where she's already developed

00:36:29.360 these adult habits and i understand watching y'all's podcast and developing these adult habits

00:36:35.520 is starting out a lot younger than it used to you know then certainly best friend it worked out for 0.52

00:36:44.080 us my mother we call her mama there here my mama said god takes care of certain people idiots

00:36:54.560 infants fools and drunks and i think that's what happened with us because we just got together 0.64

00:37:02.720 because we was warm and fuzzy and and here we go 30 some odd years later so some people might say

00:37:09.840 say well it worked out for y'all it worked out for you dang everything's great you and

00:37:13.680 you're getting along great there's been a lot of screaming and a lot of yelling and a lot of

00:37:18.020 working this out and uh in three plus decades i can't say that i know anyone any couples that we

00:37:29.740 knew that got together with the same circumstances we did who haven't been divorced some of them

00:37:36.560 multiple times really so most of the people like in your guys's class and stuff they ended up

00:37:42.280 divorced right right divorced because they got married for all the wrong reasons right um you

00:37:50.200 know that sort of stuff i can't say we didn't get married i can't say that we got married for the

00:37:55.880 wrong reasons but we didn't get married for the best reasons i could say which would be the smart

00:38:02.920 mature adult things you know um but i mean we did get married because we uh as much as we could

00:38:10.600 understand love at 17 18 years old uh you know we we believed we loved each other and we were

00:38:17.400 committed to making a life together we didn't have any idea what that meant right but in our 17 18

00:38:24.120 year old minds this is why once i became a man you know i came to realize that young people i think

00:38:31.240 should not be able to get married without the mom and dad's input and agreement to get married

00:38:38.680 i'm not talking about uh arranged marriages where you're compelling girls to marry you know like

00:38:44.760 what i understand goes on out of utah sometimes and stuff i'm not talking about that but i think

00:38:50.280 the parents should still have a very very strong input in it because young people just like i

00:38:58.680 didn't don't have a clue what they're looking at you know they don't know you know what uh they

00:39:04.600 don't know what they're looking at they don't know the questions to ask they don't know what they 0.86

00:39:07.320 don't know and uh it worked out for us why i don't know remember god takes care of idiots infants 0.86

00:39:14.200 fools and drunks right right i'm not an infant so i'm either an idiot or a fool or a drunk i don't 0.60

00:39:20.600 know but it worked out for us but some people you know our kids might would say well it worked out 0.56

00:39:25.960 for you mom and dad it worked out for us in spite of us you see um it worked out for us in spite of

00:39:33.960 us and we definitely have the emotional scars here and there to go with it well thank you but we hung 0.53

00:39:40.040 in doing that i said thanks so much for calling in you gotta cut me off man you gotta cut me off

00:39:47.880 us southerners will talk and talk especially if you give us food we'll talk forever all right

00:39:53.400 pearl well thanks for having me on and uh i'm gonna keep on watching you and best of luck

00:39:58.840 and uh the caller a few callers ahead of me who wanted to try to lecture you about how you ought

00:40:03.480 to do your show yeah i just think he needs to attend his own damn business okay well thank you

00:40:08.520 so much take care bye-bye um do you mind letting um donovan in yeah okay he should be back there

00:40:19.240 donovan

00:40:22.000 hey can you hear me i can hear you perfect how are you i'm good how are you doing really really

00:40:33.780 good um very very very very interesting discussion uh that you're having um and the guy that was just

00:40:41.560 on uh made uh he made a lot of really really really good points um and the first point that 0.65

00:40:47.980 I'd like to sort of piggyback on in terms of what he was talking about is the way women change

00:40:53.320 friends. And we're talking about modern women. We're not talking about women from 50 and 60 0.99

00:40:58.100 years ago. 50 and 60 years ago, it was unheard of for a woman to say, I'm going to marry my best 0.86

00:41:05.140 friend. Your friends, as a woman, your friends and your boyfriend, husband, mate, whatever,

00:41:11.100 have very, very different roles. The first reason why men should not be, and let me

00:41:17.740 let me go ahead and let me back up here. I'm not saying that you shouldn't get along, right? I'm

00:41:23.120 not saying that you shouldn't be compatible. And a lot of people like to say, well, me and, you know,

00:41:27.720 me and this girl, we have so much in common, we're compatible. No, just because you have a lot in

00:41:32.620 common does not mean you're compatible. So now the question becomes, what does compatibility mean?

00:41:37.460 Compatibility is simple. You get along. I've been married to Devin and I, we have a great

00:41:42.180 relationship. We're not friends. We enjoy each other's company. We enjoy spending time with

00:41:47.360 each other and we get along, but we are not friends. The things that you are required to do

00:41:52.580 as a man are not the things that she needs. You understand what I'm saying? Like her friends are

00:41:58.500 going to do different things, you know, from her man. And here's another thing. Women who endorse

00:42:04.320 this, I want to marry my best friend, they're only saying it because it sounds good. But think about 0.97

00:42:08.400 this, guys. Think about this. A lot of girls like to sort of snowflake, you know, and sort of turn

00:42:13.200 on the slut shields and say, well, before I get into a relationship with a guy, we have to be 0.99

00:42:18.200 friends. Okay. Well, guys actually take that to heart and then wonder why they've been put into 0.97

00:42:23.540 the friend zone. If you act like her friend, gentlemen, she is going to friend zone you.

00:42:28.120 You're not acting like her man. You're acting like her friend. And if you treat her like,

00:42:31.540 if you treat her like a friend, she in turn is going to treat you like a friend. Also,

00:42:36.960 when you are a friend with some, like I have a, I have a very small group of friends. If there's

00:42:40.920 any discourse between us or if I pissed one of them off or they pissed one of me off, I will

00:42:45.600 move heaven and earth to make sure that I mend that relationship. And listen, I've been in fights

00:42:50.820 and, you know, healthy discussions and arguments with all of my closest friends. When and if that

00:42:55.280 ever happens, we always give ourselves a little bit of time to cool off. Then we come up, hey,

00:42:58.660 man, you know, my bad. We chop it up, whatever, whatever. You cannot do that with your woman.

00:43:03.800 You listen, be afraid to piss off your friends because they're your friends. Gentlemen, 1.00

00:43:07.000 you can not be afraid to piss off your woman. This doesn't mean that you should piss off your

00:43:11.200 woman on purpose. But when you are unabashedly honest, unabashedly masculine with your woman,

00:43:19.280 you can't be afraid to piss her off because if you're afraid to piss her off, then you are

00:43:22.960 afraid of your woman. And if your woman knows that you are afraid of her, she cannot respect you.

00:43:28.720 Your woman is with you because you are superior to her in every way. You're bigger, faster,

00:43:33.000 stronger, et cetera. Women can't feel safe with their friends. When girls are out with their 1.00

00:43:38.080 friends at night or during the day, they don't feel physically protected around their group of 1.00

00:43:42.940 friends because they're women. But if you are in the friend zone, the woman that you are 0.99

00:43:49.180 romantically interested in, she's not really going to feel protected by you because she knows that as

00:43:54.860 her friend, you are not obliged to protect her. However, as her man, if something pops off or if

00:44:01.660 there is anything going on, as your man, you step in to protect her. Friends don't protect each

00:44:06.280 other. Now, obviously, male friends and female friends, groups of male and female friends,

00:44:10.260 we all have different dynamics. But for the most part, women can't count on their friends to 0.97

00:44:15.220 protect them, nor should they. She should absolutely count on her man. Friends are

00:44:21.660 supposed to listen to her problems, give her rides, talk about the guy she's dating. How in 1.00

00:44:25.800 the world is that attractive to a woman? If a woman knows you're going to drop everything and 1.00

00:44:30.580 do everything for her no matter what because you're her bestie she's not going to respect

00:44:34.740 you as a man well and my thought is it shows a lack of understanding of men because men don't

00:44:41.220 want to hear about our problems they don't want to hear about what we do every i mean a little bit

00:44:46.560 right like like fine but it's not like guys are dying for you to come in and give all the

00:44:52.760 unnecessary details that we give to our friends like women we enjoy that we want to know all the

00:44:58.380 details we want to know like everything about the story men do not they're like get to the point

00:45:03.600 you know what it's funny when men when we talk about hey how was work ah it was a long hard day

00:45:07.920 you ask a woman hey how was work well i felt like i wasn't really gonna have a good day because my 0.88

00:45:13.380 hair was done and then suzy and accounting she got on my nerves it's oh dude it's just men and women

00:45:17.580 are obviously very different and here's another thing that the the country guy from alabama love 0.80

00:45:22.100 that dude here's something else he pointed out friends these days modern women they never hold

00:45:27.920 each other accountable for anything bad decisions bad choices whatever the case may be if you are a 0.69

00:45:33.220 man and you are her friend and you try to hold her accountable guess what she's going to push

00:45:37.440 back because you're my friend you're supposed to not hold me accountable you're supposed to support

00:45:42.060 my bad decisions you cannot support endorse or even co-sign your woman's bad decisions that's

00:45:47.760 never the way it should be right right well thank you so much donovan a pleasure as always

00:45:54.200 I have one more.

00:45:55.240 Oh, God, go ahead. 0.99

00:45:57.400 Something else to understand, guys, before you become friends with a woman, understand 1.00

00:46:02.020 that most women rarely have lifelong friends. 1.00

00:46:06.220 There is a reason for that. 1.00

00:46:08.080 One girl that I was dating at the time actually slept with her best friend.

00:46:11.400 And I remember, like, she was texting me to come over.

00:46:13.500 I was like, wait a minute.

00:46:14.000 Aren't you and Chrissy friends?

00:46:15.020 She says, not really.

00:46:16.120 We just tolerate each other between fights. 1.00

00:46:18.860 Women change friend groups like they change their men. 1.00

00:46:22.320 Why else do you think that divorce is on the rise? 0.98

00:46:26.560 Why else do you think that divorce is all too common? 1.00

00:46:28.800 Women change friendships like they change relationships and marriages. 1.00

00:46:31.900 So you should really just put it in your mind, okay, if I treat her like a friend, she's 1.00

00:46:36.880 going to treat me like a friend.

00:46:38.140 If I get into a relationship with her as her best friend, well, this relationship is eventually

00:46:42.860 going to come to an end because I can't hold her accountable.

00:46:45.780 She doesn't feel safe with me. 1.00

00:46:46.900 And well, she changes friends like she changes men, husbands, and boyfriends.

00:46:50.180 Do not be her friend.

00:46:51.560 that does not mean that you can't get along that doesn't mean not to do nice things for her when

00:46:56.380 she earns it be compatible make sure you get along but do not ever ever ever call yourself

00:47:02.260 or try to be a woman's best friend it is it is it is relationship death thank you donovan

00:47:07.840 absolutely bro thanks for having me a pleasure as always um tell them where they can find you

00:47:12.420 he has the best womanese course on the planet yes absolutely yes uh so yes womanese uh what

00:47:19.080 she says versus what she means uh when you become a member on my channel you get all 625 translations

00:47:24.360 ebook style um what she says versus what she means this is it's it is the most comprehensive

00:47:30.160 sort of female translation uh guide out there i've had it out now for about three years and

00:47:35.460 it is revolutionary so get your hands on that for free when you become a member thank you donovan

00:47:40.180 thanks bro appreciate it okay guys so you already know the question of the day should you marry your

00:47:47.700 best friend i think glenn might be in there if you bring him up is he there yet or no

00:47:58.740 glenn i think okay he might not be up yet okay well then you can just put in the next caller

00:48:04.340 oh hi um you you're the pastor right hello nick right

00:48:17.540 sienna unmute there you go hi hey how are you doing pearl i'm good how are you

00:48:24.960 yeah i'm doing good good to see you again good you're the pastor right

00:48:30.300 oh yeah yeah i've been on your show before yeah i talk about your story

00:48:34.760 it's a lot of stuff there so well it's good to see you what do i think should they be friends

00:48:44.260 you probably know my answer is no why first of all what i've noticed i've actually seen this

00:48:52.420 with some family members um they say well they they go through their wild phase they start

00:48:59.260 approaching the 30s and well you have these guy friends you know you get along really well with

00:49:05.040 them but why didn't they date them before but oh he's like my best friend oh that's a safe bet

00:49:11.480 honey yeah that's what i think too yeah yeah so i've seen that happen okay so you're getting

00:49:22.840 sloppy you know whatever you're not the first choice obviously if the woman's marrying the

00:49:28.360 best friend and the guy's marrying her as his best friend also friend zone you honestly you've

00:49:33.420 already been in the friend zone or maybe you first get with the girl then you think you become best

00:49:39.280 friends and then you think you should marry her okay well you've been friend zone and what that

00:49:45.180 usually leads to is a dead bedroom because she's not aroused by her best friend yeah also respect

00:49:52.340 respect and hierarchy friendship means you're just equals in general it's a sense of equality

00:50:00.220 so there's going to be no that's going to be less respect it's not going to follow the man as much

00:50:07.640 she's going to be misindependent um so there's a rejection of the hierarchy um also

00:50:15.900 the man doing this i go a little bit to your left go a little bit to your left there you go

00:50:23.960 thank you perfect the man doing the man doing this why see i did this my ex became my best

00:50:32.580 friend and that was like all the christian groups i say yeah your wife should be your best friend

00:50:38.360 they always say that in church always it's like the worst advice it's a bunch of crap yeah because

00:50:44.480 Because almost all the guys I see that, their bedroom's probably dead. 0.70

00:50:50.640 And their wife talks a lot of mad crap. 1.00

00:50:54.700 Does not respect there.

00:50:56.860 Also, when she becomes or he becomes your best friend, either way, at least from a guy's perspective, I'll say this.

00:51:04.980 What happened to your male friends?

00:51:08.780 She becomes the entire focus of your attention, and you will become the beta. 1.00

00:51:14.480 because you don't have other men around anymore because she's taken up all that time well i need

00:51:19.180 to hang out with these other friends i'm your friend i'm your best friend but it's not the

00:51:24.160 same type of dynamic male with the female versus men with men it's not the same right and you will

00:51:30.680 become a lesser man for it and she will despise you for it go a little bit to your left ah did

00:51:37.900 again yeah there you go you're right now i've seen that in churches a lot it almost seems like

00:51:44.220 they're trying to get women to marry men they're not like attracted to and so that's why they push

00:51:49.420 that that's like the dynamic i've seen in churches which you you probably could speak a lot too being

00:51:55.020 that you were a pastor right yeah so they're best friends and they they have pop out a bunch of kids

00:52:05.420 and many times quick divorce yeah within five years probably five to ten years you know of the

00:52:13.500 last kid yeah after she has her kids i mean she has no reason to be with this guy that bores her

00:52:20.200 anymore but she doesn't respect her looked up look up to so yeah you have any other thoughts

00:52:26.480 any other thoughts on the topic i think don i think donovan really covered it really well

00:52:32.280 there's just a few things i wanted to add so okay well thank you so much for calling in calling

00:52:37.160 anytime thanks for having me take care of you have a channel you do don't you yeah i'm on a group

00:52:44.360 it's called the resurgence of sanity okay so it was three three of us and um we cover topics on

00:52:50.440 monday and wednesday so okay thank you sounds good thanks for calling in thank you

00:52:55.720 they said arranged marriages work with no attraction so see

00:53:02.360 i hear you guys i do hear you guys on this the challenge i have is in 2024

00:53:10.520 quick divorce i don't uh do you want to turn off that for a second okay um the challenge i have

00:53:16.840 right now with arranged marriages is in 2024 the the challenge is women see so many different

00:53:26.040 options right and we just have this technology that has given us so much power that i

00:53:34.920 would be shocked if we went back to arranged marriages in 2024 if they didn't have the same

00:53:41.240 results the challenge is the technology that technology has progressed so much and um like 0.99

00:53:50.240 an 18 year old woman has too much access and power to high level men and high level events

00:53:55.440 um okay yeah we can do the next caller i'm gonna see 0.95

00:54:00.660 um there should be someone named

00:54:09.280 oh hello

00:54:11.760 hello sir hello pearl what's your name yup lab my name is yup lab girl thanks for taking my

00:54:25.560 call i can't believe i'm on yeah i have a day off so i thought i'd call in awesome what state are

00:54:30.260 you in i am in uh the island of oahu where you guys are calling from all over where's that

00:54:37.680 oahu is an island and the hawaiian island chain oh you're in hawaii oh that's so cool

00:54:44.780 where are you oh chicago

00:54:47.900 so yeah so what's your thoughts on the topic should you marry your best friend

00:54:54.700 no i should not marry my best friend i made my best friend when i was a sophomore in high school

00:55:03.740 We played football together.

00:55:05.100 We drank together.

00:55:06.360 We laughed.

00:55:06.980 We cried.

00:55:07.500 We talked about our future.

00:55:09.200 I don't need a best friend anymore.

00:55:11.340 I need a wife. 1.00

00:55:12.460 Right. 0.97

00:55:12.820 I need a wife that runs a home that's fluid and organized and loving. 0.96

00:55:17.660 You know why I need that? 0.69

00:55:19.740 Because my job stresses me out, Pearl.

00:55:22.440 Every day, I need to come home to a fluid, loving home.

00:55:26.740 And I can't share all those things with my wife.

00:55:29.300 Because if I do, do you know what will happen?

00:55:31.860 She'll worry.

00:55:33.500 She'll worry a lot.

00:55:35.240 She doesn't need to hear that I got a new boss.

00:55:37.700 He doesn't like me as much as the old boss and I might not get promoted.

00:55:41.060 She doesn't need to hear that the house values dropped $300,000 in the last six months.

00:55:46.440 She needs to hear that I'm going to provide for her, protect her, and continue to love her.

00:55:51.200 I don't need a best friend anymore.

00:55:52.620 I talk to my best friend once a quarter maybe.

00:55:56.960 That was great.

00:55:57.860 Thank you so much.

00:55:59.420 You're welcome.

00:56:00.520 Have a good one.

00:56:01.760 You too.

00:56:02.320 Bye-bye.

00:56:02.680 bye bye hawaii guys we're everywhere we got two island people today

00:56:08.440 that's crazy that you know i've had people call in from china now hawaii um

00:56:17.640 i need a wife to run the home um hi hi silo is that your name yeah silo green where are you

00:56:24.920 calling from indiana i'm right next door to you oh nice um so what is your thought on the topic

00:56:30.760 uh i'm i was watching currently uh everybody on here um i would say yes and no i'm split

00:56:38.360 just for the simple fact that i'm a christian and i go off of what god says not necessarily

00:56:44.880 what we think and what we've been through because we're all traumatized from it um

00:56:49.820 obviously i was in the marine corps i have a starter wife for all the military guys here

00:56:53.920 will understand that term um she was my best friend my producer's laughing he was in the

00:56:59.780 military you know um not to put all my business out there but became a single father in the marine

00:57:08.420 corps and it it obviously didn't work it almost destroyed me and my family um but men and women

00:57:15.560 live two different lives you remember kevin samuels he said a lot of things you know women

00:57:20.000 women's children and dogs are loved unconditionally only men can be loved on what they provide for

00:57:27.320 their families, et cetera, et cetera.

00:57:30.740 So, I mean, I'm torn on the subject because even if you'd go to date somebody

00:57:35.980 or you're interested in someone, you're going to talk about two different things.

00:57:39.200 You're going to say one thing but mean another.

00:57:40.700 And I laughed at that other guy when he said womanese.

00:57:43.280 I know a little womanese because my mother, you know, she thought, well,

00:57:46.940 what does she say? 0.97

00:57:47.740 How does she say it?

00:57:48.520 And then there's 15 different explanations as to who says what and why.

00:57:53.100 um and as men we're very direct that we just say it as it comes out a lot of us are abrasively

00:57:59.660 honest i know i am being a marine i'm very abrasively honest um and a lot of women don't

00:58:04.960 like that because they want to be catered to or what do i say the smoke and mirrors the wizard

00:58:10.460 of oz type thing um but i would say yes in the sense of because again i'm going back to what

00:58:19.860 the Bible says two shall become one flesh the man shall leave his family and cleave to his wife

00:58:24.620 wives respect your husbands husbands love your wives um then God has a hierarchy it's supposed

00:58:31.940 to be God first and foremost always the husband the wife then the children I mean that's why we're 0.93

00:58:39.760 all out of whack because women are trying to be men and men are going to be betas and then this 0.95

00:58:44.100 happens and that happens the children run amok and they run the house and the dog's doing whatever

00:58:48.460 you want. So, you know, that's, it all starts at home. A lot of these problems start at home.

00:58:55.200 Well, thank you so much for sharing. Do you have any other thoughts on the,

00:58:58.160 on the topic? No, I mean, that's, that's, that's what I've noticed. You know, I mean,

00:59:03.000 like I said, I know nobody's been a perfect husband. Nobody's been a perfect wife.

00:59:06.840 We all have issues because we all live in a sinful fallen world. I would say,

00:59:12.520 really take your time to get to know that person and see if you see any red flags pop up or

00:59:19.320 something because something's gonna go out of whack remember you can only hide your your true

00:59:24.140 colors for so for so long until something actually pops up and you're like hey wait a minute hang on

00:59:28.440 hold up and you know the flag swap listen to your your red flags because a lot of us will ignore it 0.98

00:59:33.980 because of either you're lonely or you're desperate or whatever women they're like sharks they can 0.94

00:59:39.400 smell that a mile away and you know that from I don't want to say you know that from personal 1.00

00:59:43.680 experience but I know other women they can see who leads with their wallet or who what type of 1.00

00:59:48.180 man is he can she control him can she put you know the wool over his eyes or keep the power

00:59:53.680 of the pea keeping him in yeah don't don't well thank you so much for first calling and sharing

01:00:01.960 appreciate it thank you

01:00:09.640 let's go to the next one maybe do like two or three more callers 0.99

01:00:19.800 is ari on there too if she is then you can bring them on together because i know both of them

01:00:26.840 i think they'd bounce well glenn hello what's that is he frozen no i'm not frozen my camera 0.72

01:00:36.120 is like being retarded right now so i'm trying to get it to connect oh my gosh is that your picture 0.89

01:00:41.560 yeah i make people have their cameras on but i'll make an exception for you i'm the king of 0.85

01:00:48.360 all the hi ari how are you 0.99

01:00:58.040 is it me or is she a mute i think she's muted

01:01:00.760 ah you guys hear me or no i can't know hello you can see me oh perfect

01:01:08.960 hi oh who's who's the king oh yes hello madam how's it going uh your royal highness is doing

01:01:18.880 fabulous today i love it yeah so should you marry your best friend hell no like that one that would

01:01:29.600 make me gay because my best friend's a dude and i would not want to marry a woman and be her best

01:01:37.260 friend because y'all talk bad about your best friends like let's be real y'all be like oh my 1.00

01:01:44.640 god this bitch stacy let me tell you what fucking stacy did this hoe and then next thing you know 1.00

01:01:50.460 is a 20 minute monologue how stacy is a trifling ass hoe and you can't believe her husband stayed 1.00

01:01:56.900 with her but then that's your best friend I don't need y'all talking about me like that I don't want 1.00

01:02:02.360 to be your best friend okay what are your thoughts um well I'm not married but I felt like I needed

01:02:09.920 to come on here because I feel like a lot of guys waste time like being in love with a girl that

01:02:16.820 that calls them their best friend and as somebody who like I've had male best friends and like I

01:02:24.020 don't say this like i think sometimes the guy is like secretly in love with the girl but the girl

01:02:29.220 always makes it clear that it's her best friend like she doesn't want anyone to think that they're

01:02:34.400 together and it's kind of sad because like you know at the end of the day if you both marry other

01:02:41.200 people at the like you're not going to keep that friendship because i wouldn't want my husband to

01:02:47.180 have a girl best friend and i wouldn't want i wouldn't if i had a husband i wouldn't be around

01:02:52.420 a guy all the time like that's just weird so i just think it's a waste of time for the guys and

01:02:56.340 then i've also had friends who are now married i mean you know they were like my bestie in college

01:03:02.660 or something and then they get married and then they call me drunk and like professor love to me

01:03:07.140 and i'm just like what is wrong with you you're married like so i just don't think it's i don't

01:03:10.820 think that's a way to go into it especially if you're like secretly in love with your female

01:03:15.060 bestie yeah and i and it's like the women make it so clear because they don't want to be with them

01:03:22.180 and then you know a lot of times when they're running out of time they change their mind

01:03:26.900 and i just don't the women yeah yeah i mean you've seen it where the guys friend zoned all

01:03:31.220 of her 20s and then oh it's like something you're talking about ross and rachel yeah it's like every

01:03:37.220 tv show like look with by the time we get there how i met your mother how i met your mother that's

01:03:43.060 that's the other one same storyline but like if you notice all those storylines you see this

01:03:48.440 faithful simp who is constantly waiting and loyal to the weight while she's getting plowed by every

01:03:56.220 tyrone chad and chung lee it's every it's like every storyline once you see it you cannot see

01:04:08.500 every single one in tv it's like she dates all these other guys and then figures out that her

01:04:14.400 friend's the guy for her but if she's not attracted to you at 22 she's not going to magically

01:04:18.720 it's not going to change you're not her type well it depends on how much your bank account has

01:04:23.960 increased in the last 10 years well but but that makes her like then she's just with you for money

01:04:29.580 she's still not attracted to you 80 of relationships are all based on the transactional

01:04:35.880 form right so most guys they don't even know the difference oh between a girl that's attracted to

01:04:44.320 them and not yeah i think it's obvious a lot of guys just don't want to see it

01:04:50.180 true do you know what i mean like if you go to a concert you see women like

01:04:56.860 dying to like talk to the guy on stage right or you i mean i think we've all either been

01:05:03.360 obsessed with a guy or seen a girl like one of our friends be obsessed with a guy where they're

01:05:08.000 like super into them and if a guy's had sisters like i don't know i think some guys if they just

01:05:14.520 don't want to see it like it's very obvious they just oh kind of like how like like all the chicks

01:05:19.880 were with believer bieber yeah i all i just think that also i a woman might not respect a man that

01:05:29.200 is like trying so hard like when she said that they're already just friends it almost like

01:05:35.600 makes the woman like look down on that person of just like oh my god like you're so desperate like 1.00

01:05:40.320 you're making me even more turned off because because you're like still sticking around and

01:05:46.000 it's just like it's weird i don't know yeah explain it it's sad i mean like you know and

01:05:52.960 sometimes you're right like when maybe like that girl gets into a bad relationship or she's dating

01:05:58.800 a guy who's not very nice to her then she looks back like fondly on that like friend oh maybe i

01:06:03.520 should have gone out with that guy or treated him nicer but it like it's fleeting it goes away in

01:06:09.040 five minutes yeah i think i think for a lot of guys is that this idea of marrying your best friend

01:06:17.760 um we have to understand what that means one it it destroys the patriarch system of a hierarchy

01:06:26.240 because you and your best friend are probably equal you guys probably see each other eye to eye

01:06:31.940 well without a patriarch or a hierarchy you don't have any authority so now you

01:06:38.500 enter into an egalitarian relationship well you can't have two chiefs in the kitchen right

01:06:45.760 so who's running the ship

01:06:48.320 yeah well so you got that problem but then you also got like you still like in a covert in a

01:06:57.000 covert way you still are the one that's taking all the responsibility if something goes bad in

01:07:02.960 the relationship right so you have no authority but you have all the responsibility but you are

01:07:09.580 equal that doesn't seem to to work right if it was your best friend yeah i know a lot of couples

01:07:16.620 getting divorced right now that that were like yeah well we just turned into best friends and

01:07:20.700 then we turn into roommates and then and then there's no more so i mean and those people maybe

01:07:25.740 they started off with a spark so i mean think about if you don't even start with that spark

01:07:30.780 then the inevitable might be that you become best friends and then you become completely platonic

01:07:36.860 i think this is like why it's so important to never get complacent never get comfortable

01:07:44.460 in your relationship because as soon as she starts looking you as your equal you have dropped down

01:07:50.700 in stature you know like you're not the guy anymore you're you're like the brother

01:08:00.380 right yeah if she ever talks about a guy in front of you like red flag she doesn't it's like she

01:08:07.580 only wants to be friends if she says her work husband to you oh no no 0.86

01:08:16.300 um let's just say that's the guy that's going to be replacing you

01:08:19.900 they start off as the work husband and they become the real husband

01:08:24.620 you know what's funny we had a pi on the show and he said that if the woman

01:08:28.860 is around sales guys that it's over with like you're done 1.00

01:08:32.620 isn't that what they used to they say about like doctors too oh nurses have the worst reputation 0.94

01:08:40.360 that is nurses are straight hoes that is true that is the number one i i don't know i've never 1.00

01:08:45.820 dated women but from guys that's the number one profession i've heard to avoid which i heard that 1.00

01:08:51.860 in flight attendants oh i've heard that too i've heard flight attendants and pilots oh yeah and

01:08:59.480 firemen i've heard firemen i kind of understand they're just if they're just as bad as flight

01:09:05.440 attendants right well thank you guys for calling in it's a pleasure as always calling anytime

01:09:13.520 no problem sis i um i gotta talk to you somebody hit me up about something

01:09:18.360 um i'll give you a call later okay all right no problem all right bye guys bye

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