Pearl - Single Moms Are The Ultimate L

00:00:00.000 What up guys? Welcome to my reaction series. Today we're gonna watch women take more L's as usual. 1.00

00:00:07.020 So today we're gonna discuss dating as a single mother. So in the past single mothers knew that

00:00:13.800 bringing a kid with them into the dating market required them to be humble. You know almost beg

00:00:20.360 you could say. You know I mean that's why single mothers kind of got the reputation of being easy 1.00

00:00:25.320 because in the past it would be like look I have a kid but I'll gluck gluck whenever. I'll do whatever

00:00:32.460 you want. I'll just say yes because I know I'm damaged right. But now

00:00:37.180 now they don't really come in with the same respect that women used to. Those days are really gone 0.84

00:00:44.800 because in 2025 single mothers are the most entitled women in the dating market. 0.70

00:00:49.560 Can you imagine having to wait for sex with a single mother? That would be such an L. 1.00

00:00:55.320 women with two or three or four or more kids on social media talking about what they will and

00:01:03.420 they won't tolerate from a man. These women they're completely delusional. If a woman has a kid 1.00

00:01:09.520 she really I would argue should take what she can get and leave these standards behind. But 1.00

00:01:17.420 let's look at some of the single moms in the current dating market. So let's see we got 1.00

00:01:23.720 like can you imagine going on a date with a single mother and her telling you she's celibate?

00:01:35.080 Okay let's see.

00:01:39.020 I'm a single mom to a two-year-old and let me tell you where I've gone wrong in every

00:01:42.360 dating situation I've been in since becoming a mother. So I've been in one and a half relationships

00:01:47.660 since having my son. We're not going to talk about the half. We're just going to focus on the one.

00:01:52.760 Number one mistake. No dating process. I feel like I want a family and I want a unit and I want to be

00:02:00.340 loved so bad. I ignore the dating process. When in reality this is something that is so necessary and

00:02:08.800 upon reflection I need it. I need a dating process. You need to be courted by a man. If you want a high 0.96

00:02:15.600 value man if you want a man to match your energy as a confident successful woman they need to court 1.00

00:02:22.520 you. In my last relationship that I just recently got out of we met and then we're inseparable like

00:02:30.380 basically living together. There was no dating process. There was no asking on a date. There was

00:02:36.420 no grand gestures to show any type of courtship and I feel like that's where the relationship.

00:02:42.220 Oh come on. Those are the best relationships. I met you two weeks ago. Now we're inseparable.

00:02:50.220 It's called the fuck it bucket. You just say fuck it. Let's go. 1.00

00:02:55.280 You should went wrong because to me as a woman with a child we're playing house at that point.

00:03:01.660 So my emotions get 10 times more involved. Can you imagine though I'd say for the kid

00:03:06.560 how damaging that is to a kid because you know I grew up with nannies and nannies really wasn't

00:03:12.980 I didn't love having the nannies around but I would say the nannies and to be fair some of them 0.94

00:03:20.700 are really good but it's just it's nothing like the parents right and um I'll tell you what though

00:03:29.400 what's better or what would be worse I would say is paying child support to a woman and now 1.00

00:03:39.820 there's some random dude some random string of rotating men around your kid. It sounds like death

00:03:45.980 to me. I see why these men just like crash out and like kill their entire family. I'm not saying they 0.97

00:03:52.280 should. I mean it's wrong but you kind of I could see how that would happen. Instead of truly slowing

00:04:03.200 down and getting to know a person and getting to know what their intentions are what their life is

00:04:08.000 actually like what their trauma. Now do you know what for a single mom I'd say just have a slut phase 1.00

00:04:13.420 um slowing it down only the only guys that are going to sign up for taking it slow with a single 0.79

00:04:22.080 mom are young men and you do see that happening sometimes the like under 25 year old guys they're

00:04:29.240 so desperate like for anything that they'll like take it slow with a single mom but any guy over like 1.00

00:04:37.600 25 especially over 30 he's not going to take it slow so I would just have a slut phase um give some 1.00

00:04:43.620 really good gluck gluck and hope for the best that would be my recommendation to you 0.99

00:04:48.420 good gluck gluck will get you in the door

00:04:51.820 those are what their triggers are gluck gluck and desperation are and really seeing if that person is

00:04:59.880 going to be for me. I feel like no dating process just leads to failure and a lot of the times I think

00:05:06.320 as single mothers especially we can want to rush into situations because of everything we have going on

00:05:13.200 and we already are one step closer to a family because we do have a child so it makes it difficult

00:05:19.900 for myself I have to slow down I have to go through that dating process to truly get to know somebody

00:05:27.620 this could be months and that's how they get stepdaddies to be fair it is because a simple sign up

00:05:33.060 it's usually a younger guy or a guy that like doesn't realize how valuable he is so um usually it's a guy

00:05:40.460 that like refuses to do the dating app you know because the guys that want to win and they're like

00:05:44.940 I'm getting these hot women they have a very different mentality is what I've noticed they're 1.00

00:05:50.960 not above anything like the guys that want to get the hot women they're like do I need to learn to

00:05:55.460 ballroom I guess I'm ballroom dancing they're like do I need to download snapchat and take some gay 1.00

00:06:00.160 instagram pictures I'm doing it am I gonna have to start talking on tiktok

00:06:04.700 but the guys that tend to get god are the guys that like refuse to like go get professional

00:06:12.480 pictures done because now all the dating everything's online right so you're not really

00:06:17.340 gonna win unless you're maximizing that like the guys that refuse to take selfie like they're they

00:06:24.100 just think they're above it and there's no problem being above it but then you get stuck with the single 1.00

00:06:28.900 moms who prey upon you right like guys it's interesting I have a friend a relative actually

00:06:37.320 who's not very big into social media and I've just seen him start posting

00:06:41.520 and he's really cool he's got really cool hobbies but men are the worst marketers women can catfish the 0.99

00:06:50.400 hell out of themselves but men they don't even put like their hobbies on their profiles and stuff women 1.00

00:06:55.400 love hobbies like you go get a guitar we're just like in love I don't know what it is we're stupid 0.99

00:07:00.380 we're dumb a guy could have two million dollars we're like uh we see a guy playing guitar on the 0.97

00:07:07.400 street we're like that one I want that one we're not logical beings right but this guy now and he's 0.91

00:07:16.020 really interesting he dirt bikes he he does all this cool stuff but he documents none of it because he

00:07:20.300 thinks he's too cool and now the hot women are like dming him right and he's like what it but you

00:07:26.880 see before he would be the type to get got because he doesn't know the options he has because he's bad

00:07:33.780 marketing right women are the best marketers um most of the time you can just cap copy the strategies 1.00

00:07:39.960 women do why are you above facetune you know what I mean they facetune the hell out of their pictures 1.00

00:07:44.040 but what do I know I'm a woman this is just my this is just what I've noticed you know

00:07:49.080 anyways I'll continue long and I've traditionally never been that type of person so that's something

00:07:54.640 I'm going to be implementing because I am super open to date and super open to meeting somebody

00:07:59.580 who is going to be for me I've done so much reflection over the past couple years so let me

00:08:04.780 know all right let's see the comments they say the men say crazy alert the woman not a single mom

00:08:13.940 but deaf make another part I don't even care to date anymore because I have a child 0.99

00:08:18.220 and on top of that make sure you like the person do not worry about at all if they like you you are

00:08:27.900 likable and the prize you know honestly I got to be honest in America

00:08:33.380 men are the prize but women have the leverage unfortunately 1.00

00:08:40.780 how do you approach dating as someone in their late 20s who has a child doesn't want anymore

00:08:55.900 um but is entering this dating world where everyone is just now kind of hitting the phase where they're

00:09:02.940 like I want to meet someone I want to settle down I want to start a family it's really tricky because

00:09:08.000 on one hand I need I would tell the single mom to go for like a divorced guy that's older 1.00

00:09:13.980 because there are so many guys that had their kid they got screwed in divorce court

00:09:19.820 they're done they're cooked done out of the market um like if they just got off child support

00:09:26.400 you are not going to convince them to come back in the game be with someone you know like ultimately

00:09:32.100 long term who wants to be a because you know they'll be a parent like essentially like a parent

00:09:37.140 figure to my son and that scares a lot maybe if you got a young

00:09:41.620 uh wait till your son's older on its own um but also I need someone who's okay with not having I guess

00:09:54.980 kids of their own biological kids of their own yeah yeah how do you do it like how do you approach it

00:10:01.080 I would go for the men I would tell her go for the men that got got so the guys that married young 1.00

00:10:06.540 um usually early to early to late 20s and just took a massive L and they're done they're done

00:10:13.960 um they'll have another girlfriend but no more kids you meet a lot of those so let's see this one

00:10:21.600 okay okay single mom three beautiful kids dating for the first time god first all way you can't god

00:10:35.840 first and dating as a single mother they don't they contradict

00:10:41.600 they contradict each other okay

00:10:46.380 so I wanted to come on and kind of just introduce myself I have been told by my daughter who's 15

00:10:55.320 like you don't just go on tiktok and talk well I'm still learning and I'm not good with all the edits

00:11:02.540 and the cuts and the clips and so if I come on here and do my makeup would you be honest would

00:11:08.280 would or wouldn't be honest in the comments would or wouldn't it's gonna take forever and I'm like

00:11:15.180 I don't know how to do that so I'll make it short and sweet um my name is Amber I'm 35 years old

00:11:23.100 I have three kids um I am a single mom I was married for 15 years and I've been divorced almost

00:11:32.420 two years now um I married my high school sweetheart and I thought that that was my story and I thought

00:11:39.240 that that would be my father and um turns out god had different plans for me yeah when you do

00:11:46.720 something ungodly like get divorced

00:11:48.980 blaming god isn't really the best way to go about it you know so here I am trying to

00:12:01.380 navigate um singleness and motherhood um being the only one um taking care of my kids right now so

00:12:12.420 it is a beautiful crazy mess that we live over here um on top of all of that there has been um

00:12:22.420 you know dating for the first time in my life basically because when you meet your person at 16

00:12:29.960 that life doesn't really exist um translation I'm about to get pumped and dumped really bad

00:12:36.720 good luck so that has been a whole nother story in itself um on this page I like to share

00:12:49.340 life in general and navigating through the dating world has been um kind of present and prevalent in

00:12:58.000 my life um how to take care of three kids who are all three so special and beautiful but also so

00:13:07.600 different in their own ways and seeking out uh motherhood support through that and advice and tips

00:13:17.600 um weight loss is another thing uh over the last year and a half I've lost almost 160 pounds

00:13:25.040 so uh yeah translation I didn't care enough to be thin for my husband but now that I'm getting

00:13:34.280 pumped and dumped I'm thinking I gotta lose the weight so maybe I can get called back

00:13:38.840 to offer support to women who are on a weight loss journey and you're still fat keep working though

00:13:45.320 keep working going through that as well so those are kind of the things that I'm looking to do on this

00:13:50.680 page and then just to build a community of support through this crazy life that we are all just

00:13:59.400 trying to figure out um I believe in God um I love Jesus and I believe with you know the Father the

00:14:09.200 Son and the Holy Spirit like you can get through anything and if anyone can attest to that it's me

00:14:15.880 yeah so three kids and you want to date God in a godly way again I'd really just recommend a gluck 0.92

00:14:24.220 gluck I would just recommend giving it away um until one guy sticks around long enough and you say hey

00:14:32.740 what are we doing here and that's what I don't recommend if you're a single mom I do not recommend 1.00

00:14:38.860 dating in a godly way I don't I don't really recommend that you can pull purity on guys till

00:14:46.580 like 25 after 25 only pretty unintelligent guys are gonna believe you I do you know what I was talking

00:14:58.260 to this guy the other day and he's like yeah my my girlfriend I took her virginity and I'm like oh

00:15:04.240 well how old was she when she met you and he's like oh she was 24 and I'm like okay where'd she

00:15:11.000 go to school and it was a big state school and I'm like uh-huh and I'm like okay so

00:15:20.260 she went to a big state school when do you think women start wanting to have sex how old do you think 1.00

00:15:28.840 like you know the average is 16 so that means half lose it before it's like the earliest I knew of was

00:15:39.220 like 15 14 so you're telling me in a decade of having a sex drive she's only been with you

00:15:47.920 no bad he's like well I could tell and I'm like uh-huh she didn't do anything with that no back door

00:15:57.420 no nothing with other guys I'm glad you guys buy that stuff because somebody's gotta save these hoes 1.00

00:16:06.600 I'm so glad you guys buy seriously I am so happy that you guys buy this stuff because somebody's

00:16:15.560 gotta do it um all right now we got this lovely woman here like a single mom convinced another guy 1.00

00:16:26.400 I know that she'd only been with three people

00:16:28.500 okay

00:16:34.400 okay

00:16:38.580 being a single mom is honestly like a really hard place to be because the second that's

00:16:47.900 trust um one I have trust issues so you're lying um and then secondly like my brain immediately is

00:16:54.380 just like why I have nothing to offer you like my gas light is on my change oil notification just came

00:17:00.200 on I'm fairly certain that my tag is expired um I yeah you do have nothing to offer except the

00:17:06.160 gluck gluck get to gluck glucking do you know what I mean it's like you're right um maybe another kid

00:17:11.720 for him but basically yeah you're there for gluck gluck so do that well enough you might find a second

00:17:17.820 husband my toenail polish has grown out my heels are crusty I'm surviving off of my kids as leftover

00:17:23.640 chicken nuggets and coffee from the day before

00:17:25.500 what about that is appealing to anybody ever so I'll just why women question you if you treat them 1.00

00:17:36.140 too well they're like um have you seen my life be here dying alone

00:17:43.740 yeah and she would still she's still hot enough to get some takers so don't 1.00

00:17:50.220 don't have a revenge fantasy because

00:17:53.080 women just like for example I know people just tell me their dating stories right because of who 1.00

00:18:01.320 what what I do so what happens is every guy has like got a sweet spot that he knows he just can

00:18:09.180 run through for example um there's one person I know in a major city and he said that he started

00:18:16.320 dating 40 year old women after his divorce because I think he's 60s maybe and he's like do you know

00:18:22.120 what it was terrible these like they would have all these expectations and he's like what I found

00:18:27.720 was I just need to run through the 50 year old women because they don't they have a little money 1.00

00:18:32.320 they've recovered from their divorce and their dreams have died and they just get right to it

00:18:38.940 so the women just graduate into the next like you could say alphas or guys who have figured out 1.00

00:18:45.100 a play that works like you know because some guys like their play is single mothers they just run

00:18:50.280 through the single mothers some guys you know their play is like Asian women and they have a couple

00:18:55.940 things that the Asian you know some guys it's white women so for example this guy front I mean he's 1.00

00:19:04.620 just running through the 50 year old women they get their sex they can go back and live in their 1.00

00:19:09.120 house with the money they got from their ex-husband they're chilling they're good as most of you know

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00:20:52.400 so controversial to date as a single mom i actually don't think it's controversial i think people are

00:20:57.540 just like weird on the internet and if you've seen the argument maybe it's just on my for you page

00:21:01.480 because i'm a single mom but um if you've seen the argument of people going back and forth saying

00:21:05.880 you're weird if you're dating as a single mom don't feel weird you're allowed to date you're allowed to

00:21:13.100 go out with your friends you're allowed to go to the gym you're allowed to do it's just so funny

00:21:17.300 seeing again the women come after women who are single moms dating first of all they make them 1.00

00:21:24.300 sound like oh let your body heal let your you know can you not go five minutes without a man

00:21:29.040 who said who said in this argument that people were like doing that on dates like so you guys just

00:21:36.320 out of yourself like you can't you can't keep it in your pants for more than five freaking minutes 0.75

00:21:40.580 i can go on a thousand dates and that's like not even something that enters my mind so all the

00:21:45.960 people like ew ew ew ew you can't go to dinner ew i got invited to like the best seats at ufc the

00:21:55.000 other night ew no no like don't you don't have to do that well yeah okay so this is the there's a

00:22:04.860 classic archetype of single mom that just doesn't really watch your kids so i don't know who is ends 1.00

00:22:10.240 up watching them hopefully the dad but oftentimes the mother there's someone she pawns them off to

00:22:15.520 so she could still have a vibrant social life

00:22:18.120 yeah uh you can just go on dates guys and what about single dads are you telling them not to date

00:22:27.880 no

00:22:29.120 what about the baby dads that have a girlfriend when they're their baby mamas are like four months

00:22:35.340 pregnant are we coming after them no of course not you guys never go after the men you never go after the men 0.95

00:22:42.920 well the men usually when guys are single dads they can date because the woman stole the kids 0.95

00:22:49.300 i honestly i don't know why women more women don't give up custody or at least go 50 50 that means half 1.00

00:22:58.480 the week you can go be a hoe women want to be hoes anyway you can you can be you can go go 50 50 1.00

00:23:05.720 here are the children go be a hoe have fun but women are so jealous of men so it happens the dad 1.00

00:23:12.020 because the dad's generally a better parent general not always so he starts you know um

00:23:18.400 getting closer to the kids and then boom and then the woman gets mad and then she's like i'll just take 0.95

00:23:25.140 them and also the argument is like oh are you gonna let are you gonna let another man around your your kid

00:23:31.360 who said that who said that do you guys know what a date is like you just go out to dinner

00:23:38.740 you just go you just go hang out yeah but where is he going to smash i guess you go to his place but

00:23:45.020 who's watching the kid you talk you don't have to bring your kid you don't have to you know go all the

00:23:51.140 way i i've gone out with my friends i've gone out to dinner i've my kid didn't come with me luckily

00:24:00.760 you know i have my parents that will watch him um i told you i told you there's someone that's

00:24:07.500 she's pawning the kids off too his dad's not involved at all but like there's options guys

00:24:13.720 and you don't have to put down single moms for like doing that that's so mean and crazy like what 1.00

00:24:18.900 do you expect they i literally saw it was like i don't think they should date till their kid's nine

00:24:22.260 what but then in the same breath and a lot of these women that i saw comments were like well 0.99

00:24:28.520 i'm married but i just don't think single moms should should go out what if i told a married 1.00

00:24:33.720 person like i don't think you should take time for you and your husband to go out to dinner

00:24:37.880 i spoke to a housewife i know and i asked her how often she went to events or like went out

00:24:43.540 she's like twice a month or worth like millions of dollars yeah that's psychotic oh sorry i think 1.00

00:24:51.340 she said once a month actually nobody would say that so i don't know i just think this is actually 0.98

00:24:56.280 the stupidest argument ever and you guys are being so mean to women and i also saw people say i i 0.91

00:25:01.160 think it's crazy the people that would date these women too what yeah honestly i haven't had any 0.99

00:25:09.520 issues people you know not wanting to go out with me it's all the same guys that have been asking me

00:25:15.400 out on dates for the last couple years it's new guys it's you know and this isn't even like me

00:25:21.900 putting myself out there this is just like like instagram or like out in public like just life

00:25:29.180 like no dating apps so yeah you're kind of putting down like the entire population when you're like

00:25:33.520 ew and that's disgusting for the guys that would date them dude it's it's just guys it's just normal

00:25:40.360 guys it's not like lower tier of guys that would date a single mom it's just like the same guys that

00:25:46.440 would date anybody but i don't know what it is i don't know if people are like threatened by single

00:25:50.260 moms i don't know if it's people that are like we just wonder who's watching the children and usually

00:25:55.260 it's you're selfish you want to do what you want to do and someone's got to take care of the kid for

00:25:59.740 you now that's parents i hate their husband or partner and they're like almost jealous i like oh

00:26:06.160 at least we don't have to we get our cute baby and our fun baby and our best friend baby but then we

00:26:10.700 also can go like out and find somebody that actually treats us okay what are the comments saying

00:26:16.000 girl there was once a show about pregnant and dating i didn't date as a single mom i wouldn't have 1.00

00:26:22.540 met my now husband and had two more beautiful children um i don't mean to be rude and the people

00:26:30.720 hating but it normally is people who don't get asked out if anyone is a stable single and attractive

00:26:36.180 then why shouldn't you go out are you talking about the mom getting dragged for dating as a single mom 1.00

00:26:46.280 when the baby is three weeks old oh my gosh all right um that's all we got today but essentially

00:26:55.620 single mothers will continue to date and simps will continue to bail them out and they will continue to 1.00

00:27:01.660 ask for traditional treatment and they will continue to get it there's always a guy that signs

00:27:06.860 up because of hoflation it's even hit leonardo dicaprio he's dating a 27 year old anyways guys like

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Pearl - June 24, 2025

Single Moms Are The Ultimate L

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