Pearl - September 15, 2026


“Single Woman in Her 40s Realizes She May NEVER Find a Husband” @JustPearlyThings

“She Got DUMPED and Can’t Accept That He Didn’t Choose Her” @JustPearlyThings “Women Want MASCULINE Men… Until They Find Out They’re Republican” @JustPearlyThings

Episode Stats


Length

2 minutes

Words per minute

208.25

Word count

476

Sentence count

8

Harmful content

Toxicity

3

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Hate speech

1

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Transcript

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00:00:00.000 i decided to date again but i was going to do it differently than i had ever done it before
00:00:04.160 it was terrifying to me the idea of being perceived the idea of that perception equaling
00:00:10.080 judgment because judgment women are so spoiled we just have never taken an l oh no i'm judged 0.96
00:00:15.880 get the fuck out of here has always been what happened to me when i was perceived judged for 0.98
00:00:20.100 my weight judged for my looks judged for my lack of romantic history my difficulty connecting with 0.97
00:00:24.560 people and so i was terrified that this time it was going to be the same but i decided that i
00:00:29.860 was going to do one thing and one thing only and that was to let myself be uncomfortable to let
00:00:35.580 myself sit in how horrible it is to date sometimes and i wasn't going to be looking for the one i
00:00:42.000 wasn't going to be looking for my i feel like dating's a vibe you either bring the vibes or
00:00:46.960 you don't eternal companion for my partner for a person i was gonna you can't find an eternal
00:00:53.060 companion because in your 40s eternity has already gone by you're old you're old you've already lived
00:00:57.920 too much life you know what i mean myself in situations where i took opportunities and i felt
00:01:03.520 uncomfortable and i would remind my brain that being uncomfortable and unsafe are not the same
00:01:08.820 thing because when you have a long history of trauma they feel alike they feel similarly what
00:01:14.460 changed for me why was it so much easier this time around to date and really it's all of you
00:01:19.620 it's building community with people yeah because now we're getting that validation that used to be
00:01:23.820 from family and stuff with the internet. So it's going to be bad. A lot of women are going to have
00:01:28.260 mental illness in the future. Understanding that my lack of romantic connection and my singleness
00:01:32.680 wasn't a defining factor of my worth or my value. And I built that over the few months before I
00:01:38.340 started dating. I began to see that, well, if I'm not the only one who has lacked romantic history,
00:01:43.860 then maybe I'm not the problem. Maybe it's luck, it's timing, it's life, it's how things play out.
00:01:49.940 and if I can tell just by the way you're talking that you are in fact the problem that's the case
00:01:54.640 then when I go into situations I don't need to be desperate I don't need to be upset and worried
00:02:01.060 and thinking that my very first date was me trying to see my future spouse like that's what I would
00:02:08.580 do in my 20s and 30s because I wanted to feel part of society and you're just cooked girl you're
00:02:15.140 I mean, I can just tell you're cooked.