Pearl - November 05, 2025


Social Media Has Become A Humiliation Ritual For Men


Episode Stats

Length

7 minutes

Words per Minute

203.30624

Word Count

1,443

Sentence Count

41

Misogynist Sentences

8

Hate Speech Sentences

4


Summary

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Transcript

Transcript generated with Whisper (turbo).
Misogyny classifications generated with MilaNLProc/bert-base-uncased-ear-misogyny .
Hate speech classifications generated with facebook/roberta-hate-speech-dynabench-r4-target .
00:00:00.000 Because women don't understand that men don't care.
00:00:02.660 Nobody cares about your problem.
00:00:04.060 But we're in this society that constantly is like coddling us
00:00:06.860 and telling us that they care, but they don't.
00:00:09.700 What up guys, welcome to my reaction series.
00:00:11.720 On this channel, we have spoken about extensively
00:00:14.760 how social media is going to ruin relationships
00:00:18.740 because it becomes a humiliation ritual for men
00:00:22.000 and men become a part of building women's brand online.
00:00:25.040 Where if you look at a more patriarchal relationship,
00:00:27.520 the woman should be helping the man build his.
00:00:30.000 Now, I'm not saying this is right or wrong.
00:00:32.060 It's kind of the way that society is set up.
00:00:35.220 But it's interesting because we're going to see the backlash that women are starting to get from embarrassing their boyfriends and husbands on social media.
00:00:43.380 Now, historically, men just really wouldn't say anything.
00:00:46.120 And everything women did was considered to just be OK.
00:00:49.740 But now women are coming out and saying these guys actually aren't dating me because I vlog.
00:00:53.760 So I was walking back from class.
00:00:55.900 There's another cat.
00:00:57.200 I was walking back from a class that I have when my friend Maurice turns to me
00:01:15.860 and says hey Anthony oh my god that's my friend Anthony he's in like my class and
00:01:20.420 I stopped him because I feel the need to tell him yeah I actually know who Anthony
00:01:24.560 is i sort of met him at this event and asked him out and he was like into the idea and then i just
00:01:29.680 never heard from him so we didn't go out on a date it would appear he said no to going on a date with
00:01:35.360 me after he initially said yes that's so weird he said no oh yeah he saw these videos sorry chica
00:01:45.120 it happens to me sometimes too some men aren't okay with it you should ask him about it and
00:01:50.240 And Maurice did it.
00:01:51.300 And you know what Maurice found out?
00:01:53.300 Anthony didn't go on a date with you
00:01:55.480 because he found out that you vlog about dating.
00:01:58.960 And that made him feel weird.
00:02:00.500 It's funny because no one wants to be content.
00:02:03.060 Nobody wants to be content.
00:02:04.220 I expected that this would happen at some point.
00:02:08.280 Like it's happening now.
00:02:09.800 He's like, this is exactly,
00:02:11.020 I didn't want to be in a video.
00:02:12.120 Slash maybe has happened a couple of times in the past.
00:02:14.560 And now I have proof.
00:02:15.820 Long story short, guys don't date me
00:02:17.840 because I vlog sometimes.
00:02:20.000 And that's okay. I mean, now that it's happened, it's like, uh, it's not that bad,
00:02:23.680 because he probably wouldn't have liked other stuff about me, too, if he didn't like that.
00:02:27.840 So it was probably just a time saver. And yeah, I mean, I do get self-conscious about oversharing,
00:02:31.820 which is probably why this video is the first one I've included with the pink label.
00:02:35.480 And I've done a lot about writing and mental health. That's what the colors mean at my banner.
00:02:40.640 So this is the first one about dating. And I'm so thankful to this Twitter follower named Walker,
00:02:45.740 sent me this great question which made me realize oh yeah i totally do want to make a video about
00:02:49.980 this how do you know when you've crossed the line of over sharing on youtube like should i draw the
00:02:54.380 line before i get to talking about my own personal mental health i just had somewhat of a mental
00:02:58.220 breakdown on camera and i'm not really sure whether i should include it in this video i'm
00:03:02.460 working okay take down the mental breakdown online you got to delete that look i've made mistakes
00:03:09.500 and it's tough it's really tough to not uh make a mistake over a long career when it comes to
00:03:16.220 media i mean even megan kelly's got some like titty pics on the internet where she's like nude
00:03:20.940 it almost seems too far but at the same time it could be good to open up and get opinions and
00:03:24.780 share what's going on with the world i just love that well said walker well said and before i answer
00:03:28.860 your question i'd just like to talk a little bit about why over sharing has a negative connotation
00:03:34.620 because the word sharing is synonymous with because women don't understand that men don't
00:03:40.300 care nobody cares about your problems but we're in this society that constantly is like coddling
00:03:45.260 us and telling us that that they care but they don't so what part of like adding over to the
00:03:51.340 beginning of that makes it negative and i think it's because oversharing can make people feel
00:03:57.020 like it's a cry for help and they're like expected to do something but that's not why i overshare
00:04:01.980 at all so i think that's why i feel comfortable over sharing on youtube as a fun summary let's
00:04:08.540 recap all the things i've over shared about on this channel in my first video alone i talked
00:04:13.580 about being addicted to dating i showed footage of guys oh my gosh as i've cried over and i you
00:04:20.220 showed the oh no i opened up that i dated so much because i was dependent on other people to make
00:04:26.380 myself feel good about myself and that was in my first video alone and then over the next two years
00:04:30.460 of my vlogging, I also started talking about mental health, how my year of not
00:04:35.140 dating didn't work and I was still depressed, and how six months of therapy
00:04:40.060 was what really started me on a better track. And then, six months after I
00:04:43.840 started antidepressants, I vlogged about that too. And I don't regret any of it,
00:04:48.040 and I never have. Don't get me wrong, sometimes it was scary, then I just let
00:04:51.680 it go, and it's been the best passion project I've ever started. I love my
00:04:56.700 vlog i love what i overshare i overshare with purpose the whole idea of this vlog is like what
00:05:01.980 would i tell 16 year old me so the people who want this information can find it with a google search
00:05:06.860 i don't want to be taken care of i want to take care of you that's why i put this information out
00:05:10.460 there but to bring it back around and answer your question walker i don't know when i've crossed the
00:05:14.700 line of oversharing yeah women sell their secrets online for money and attention and it impacts
00:05:20.940 everybody around them it's whatever you feel comfortable with and if you're not sure i would
00:05:24.940 recommend just like doing the edit of your vlog there's very little introspection in this video
00:05:29.660 very little and waiting a few days and watching it again if you still feel good about it then
00:05:35.260 put it up and that's been a good system because i haven't regretted anything no foot really
00:05:40.460 footage i've put up on my vlog after like over two years so i think that's pretty good i can't
00:05:45.580 get the statistics of how many guys have opted to not date me because i vlog but like i literally
00:05:52.380 cannot convey how much i've gotten from oversharing my first job in the writing world which led to me
00:05:59.740 becoming a staff editor and making a really cool salary that was all from my vlog and my boss just
00:06:05.340 liking this chick she saw in a video talking about vulnerable stuff oversharing on my vlog has
00:06:12.620 become a shortcut to connecting with people i actually have a lot in common with because if
00:06:17.740 they yeah it's always something you have to weigh but yeah this is gonna kill her dating life she's
00:06:22.060 showing pictures of these guys oh no oh no i kind of want to see it but let me keep going my vlog
00:06:28.220 and like what they see they're really seeing me and that is why i have never regretted this vlog
00:06:35.580 like i can't tell you the number of cool youtube friends i've met through all those personal
00:06:42.460 information i put up there i think that's it i'm excited all right guys this is kind of going to be
00:06:47.100 be the future where women are going to overshare, especially the most attractive women, in my
00:06:51.660 opinion, because they're going to get a lot of media opportunities. So adapt or get left behind
00:06:56.180 and let me know what you think of the comments. Make sure you like the video and subscribe to
00:06:59.120 the channel. And have you ever dated a woman who overshared on social media? What was that like?
00:07:04.040 Put it in the comments. I'll see you next time.