Pearl - November 05, 2025


Social Media Has Become A Humiliation Ritual For Men

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Anthony Maurice Megan Kelly Walker
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Episode Stats


Length

7 minutes

Words per minute

203.31

Word count

1,443

Sentence count

44

Harmful content

Misogyny

8

sentences flagged

Hate speech

4

sentences flagged


Summary

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In this episode, I talk about the backlash that women are getting for embarrassing their boyfriends and husbands on social media, and how to know if you ve crossed the line when it comes to oversharing. I also talk about my own experience with oversharing and how it affects my mental health.

Transcript

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00:00:00.000 Because women don't understand that men don't care. 1.00
00:00:02.660 Nobody cares about your problem.
00:00:04.060 But we're in this society that constantly is like coddling us
00:00:06.860 and telling us that they care, but they don't.
00:00:09.700 What up guys, welcome to my reaction series.
00:00:11.720 On this channel, we have spoken about extensively
00:00:14.760 how social media is going to ruin relationships
00:00:18.740 because it becomes a humiliation ritual for men
00:00:22.000 and men become a part of building women's brand online.
00:00:25.040 Where if you look at a more patriarchal relationship,
00:00:27.520 the woman should be helping the man build his. 1.00
00:00:30.000 Now, I'm not saying this is right or wrong.
00:00:32.060 It's kind of the way that society is set up.
00:00:35.220 But it's interesting because we're going to see the backlash that women are starting to get from embarrassing their boyfriends and husbands on social media. 0.99
00:00:43.380 Now, historically, men just really wouldn't say anything.
00:00:46.120 And everything women did was considered to just be OK. 1.00
00:00:49.740 But now women are coming out and saying these guys actually aren't dating me because I vlog.
00:00:53.760 So I was walking back from class.
00:00:55.900 There's another cat.
00:00:57.200 I was walking back from a class that I have when my friend Maurice turns to me
00:01:15.860 and says hey Anthony oh my god that's my friend Anthony he's in like my class and
00:01:20.420 I stopped him because I feel the need to tell him yeah I actually know who Anthony
00:01:24.560 is i sort of met him at this event and asked him out and he was like into the idea and then i just
00:01:29.680 never heard from him so we didn't go out on a date it would appear he said no to going on a date with
00:01:35.360 me after he initially said yes that's so weird he said no oh yeah he saw these videos sorry chica
00:01:45.120 it happens to me sometimes too some men aren't okay with it you should ask him about it and
00:01:50.240 And Maurice did it.
00:01:51.300 And you know what Maurice found out?
00:01:53.300 Anthony didn't go on a date with you
00:01:55.480 because he found out that you vlog about dating.
00:01:58.960 And that made him feel weird.
00:02:00.500 It's funny because no one wants to be content.
00:02:03.060 Nobody wants to be content.
00:02:04.220 I expected that this would happen at some point.
00:02:08.280 Like it's happening now.
00:02:09.800 He's like, this is exactly,
00:02:11.020 I didn't want to be in a video.
00:02:12.120 Slash maybe has happened a couple of times in the past.
00:02:14.560 And now I have proof.
00:02:15.820 Long story short, guys don't date me
00:02:17.840 because I vlog sometimes.
00:02:20.000 And that's okay. I mean, now that it's happened, it's like, uh, it's not that bad,
00:02:23.680 because he probably wouldn't have liked other stuff about me, too, if he didn't like that.
00:02:27.840 So it was probably just a time saver. And yeah, I mean, I do get self-conscious about oversharing,
00:02:31.820 which is probably why this video is the first one I've included with the pink label.
00:02:35.480 And I've done a lot about writing and mental health. That's what the colors mean at my banner.
00:02:40.640 So this is the first one about dating. And I'm so thankful to this Twitter follower named Walker,
00:02:45.740 sent me this great question which made me realize oh yeah i totally do want to make a video about
00:02:49.980 this how do you know when you've crossed the line of over sharing on youtube like should i draw the
00:02:54.380 line before i get to talking about my own personal mental health i just had somewhat of a mental
00:02:58.220 breakdown on camera and i'm not really sure whether i should include it in this video i'm
00:03:02.460 working okay take down the mental breakdown online you got to delete that look i've made mistakes
00:03:09.500 and it's tough it's really tough to not uh make a mistake over a long career when it comes to
00:03:16.220 media i mean even megan kelly's got some like titty pics on the internet where she's like nude 1.00
00:03:20.940 it almost seems too far but at the same time it could be good to open up and get opinions and
00:03:24.780 share what's going on with the world i just love that well said walker well said and before i answer
00:03:28.860 your question i'd just like to talk a little bit about why over sharing has a negative connotation
00:03:34.620 because the word sharing is synonymous with because women don't understand that men don't
00:03:40.300 care nobody cares about your problems but we're in this society that constantly is like coddling
00:03:45.260 us and telling us that that they care but they don't so what part of like adding over to the
00:03:51.340 beginning of that makes it negative and i think it's because oversharing can make people feel
00:03:57.020 like it's a cry for help and they're like expected to do something but that's not why i overshare
00:04:01.980 at all so i think that's why i feel comfortable over sharing on youtube as a fun summary let's
00:04:08.540 recap all the things i've over shared about on this channel in my first video alone i talked
00:04:13.580 about being addicted to dating i showed footage of guys oh my gosh as i've cried over and i you
00:04:20.220 showed the oh no i opened up that i dated so much because i was dependent on other people to make
00:04:26.380 myself feel good about myself and that was in my first video alone and then over the next two years
00:04:30.460 of my vlogging, I also started talking about mental health, how my year of not
00:04:35.140 dating didn't work and I was still depressed, and how six months of therapy
00:04:40.060 was what really started me on a better track. And then, six months after I
00:04:43.840 started antidepressants, I vlogged about that too. And I don't regret any of it,
00:04:48.040 and I never have. Don't get me wrong, sometimes it was scary, then I just let
00:04:51.680 it go, and it's been the best passion project I've ever started. I love my
00:04:56.700 vlog i love what i overshare i overshare with purpose the whole idea of this vlog is like what
00:05:01.980 would i tell 16 year old me so the people who want this information can find it with a google search
00:05:06.860 i don't want to be taken care of i want to take care of you that's why i put this information out
00:05:10.460 there but to bring it back around and answer your question walker i don't know when i've crossed the
00:05:14.700 line of oversharing yeah women sell their secrets online for money and attention and it impacts 1.00
00:05:20.940 everybody around them it's whatever you feel comfortable with and if you're not sure i would
00:05:24.940 recommend just like doing the edit of your vlog there's very little introspection in this video
00:05:29.660 very little and waiting a few days and watching it again if you still feel good about it then
00:05:35.260 put it up and that's been a good system because i haven't regretted anything no foot really
00:05:40.460 footage i've put up on my vlog after like over two years so i think that's pretty good i can't
00:05:45.580 get the statistics of how many guys have opted to not date me because i vlog but like i literally
00:05:52.380 cannot convey how much i've gotten from oversharing my first job in the writing world which led to me
00:05:59.740 becoming a staff editor and making a really cool salary that was all from my vlog and my boss just
00:06:05.340 liking this chick she saw in a video talking about vulnerable stuff oversharing on my vlog has
00:06:12.620 become a shortcut to connecting with people i actually have a lot in common with because if
00:06:17.740 they yeah it's always something you have to weigh but yeah this is gonna kill her dating life she's 0.99
00:06:22.060 showing pictures of these guys oh no oh no i kind of want to see it but let me keep going my vlog
00:06:28.220 and like what they see they're really seeing me and that is why i have never regretted this vlog
00:06:35.580 like i can't tell you the number of cool youtube friends i've met through all those personal
00:06:42.460 information i put up there i think that's it i'm excited all right guys this is kind of going to be
00:06:47.100 be the future where women are going to overshare, especially the most attractive women, in my 1.00
00:06:51.660 opinion, because they're going to get a lot of media opportunities. So adapt or get left behind
00:06:56.180 and let me know what you think of the comments. Make sure you like the video and subscribe to
00:06:59.120 the channel. And have you ever dated a woman who overshared on social media? What was that like?
00:07:04.040 Put it in the comments. I'll see you next time.