Pearl - Some MODERN WOMEN Use DIVORCE To Escape THEIR UNHAPPINESS ｜ Pearl Daily

00:00:00.000 good afternoon good evening ladies and gentlemen welcome to another episode of pearl daily

00:00:12.640 i am your host pearl davis and this is another episode of pearl daily so

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00:01:16.640 live on there too. Okay. So our first story today that I wanted to go over,

00:01:23.560 I generally tend to cover relationships and intersexual dynamics, but occasionally I will

00:01:31.180 touch on politics when I think it is important. So we recently had the VP debates and there was

00:01:44.020 clip that i saw from one of the debates that i thought was a little bit of simping but i thought

00:01:52.500 it was strategic simping so i want to show you guys the clip once i grew up in a working class

00:01:58.180 family in a neighborhood where i knew a lot of young women okay so this is always what they try

00:02:05.460 to get republicans on as you guys know women are the biggest swing voters so we need their vote

00:02:13.860 for the election and in order to get their vote conservatives have to shy away and simp a little

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00:03:42.980 Okay. So we have JD Vance and obviously the one issue they're going to try to get conservatives

00:03:53.560 on is abortion. Many people, myself included, believe that abortion is murder.

00:03:59.980 And it's not something that we want to compromise on.

00:04:06.420 Unfortunately, if I had to predict, I don't see abortion going anywhere.

00:04:12.660 Knowing that, conservatives during the election are going to shy away a little bit from this topic.

00:04:20.680 You know, I grew up in a working class family in a neighborhood where I knew a lot of young women who had unplanned pregnancies

00:04:26.280 and decided to terminate those pregnancies

00:04:28.200 because they feel like they didn't have any other options.

00:04:31.400 And, you know, one of them is actually very dear to me.

00:04:34.300 And I know she's watching tonight, and I love you.

00:04:37.420 And she told me something a couple years ago

00:04:39.420 that she felt like if she hadn't had that abortion,

00:04:42.580 that it would have destroyed her life

00:04:44.000 because she was in an abusive relationship.

00:04:46.260 And I think that what I take from that,

00:04:47.980 as a Republican who proudly wants to protect

00:04:50.620 innocent life in this country,

00:04:52.700 who proudly wants to protect...

00:04:54.340 Now again.

00:04:56.280 So the accountability point of view would be, well, if you're in an abusive relationship,

00:05:03.780 bad choices have consequences. And if you're having sex unprotected in an unstable relationship,

00:05:12.420 you have to deal with the consequences. But in 2024, as women, we have a lot of bailouts for

00:05:20.200 are bad decisions so that objectively not a great choice and then we're given technology to make it 1.00

00:05:29.160 go away the vulnerable is that my party we've got to do so much better of a job at earning the

00:05:35.400 american people's trust back on this issue where they frankly just don't trust us and i think

00:05:40.360 that's one of the things that donald trump and i are endeavoring to do i want us as a republican

00:05:45.240 party to be pro-family in the fullest sense of the word. I want us to support fertility

00:05:50.180 treatments. I want us to make it easier for moms to afford to have babies. I want to make

00:05:54.600 it easier for young families to afford a home so they can afford a place to raise that family.

00:05:59.580 And I think there's so much that we can do on the public policy front just to give women

00:06:04.360 more options. Now, as women, I don't blame him for pandering a little bit because I think

00:06:12.920 that's what they have to do. But as women, I like to be able to identify it. Do we have options?

00:06:20.480 Yes or no. Do we have the option to work? Yes. Do we have the option for daycare? Yes. Do we have

00:06:26.660 the option to stay home? Yes. Do we have the option to go to school and save money for a

00:06:31.300 decade before we have children? Yes. Do we have the option to use plan B? Yes. Do we have the

00:06:39.340 option to get abortion yes objectively we have all of those choices so this is pandering a little bit

00:06:50.540 jeffrey on the audacity site i'm going to get to melania's statement next now of course

00:06:56.860 donald trump has been very clear that on the abortion policy specifically that we have a big

00:07:02.540 country and it's diverse and california has a different viewpoint on this than georgia georgia

00:07:07.340 has a different viewpoint from arizona and the proper way to handle this as messy as democracy 0.78

00:07:12.940 sometimes is is to let voters make these decisions let the individual states make their abortion

00:07:19.500 policy and i think that's what makes the most sense in a very big a very diverse and let's be

00:07:24.620 honest sometimes a very very messy and divided country okay i think this is smart i would almost

00:07:35.500 suggests the conservative party going to the point of being pro-choice. Now, I know

00:07:42.960 that conservatives do not want to hear this. I know that abortion is morally wrong. I've seen

00:07:53.280 abortions and it is disgusting. I can't believe it's legal, but we have to be smart. Do you guys 0.84

00:08:02.840 think it's likely in our lifetime that there will be a repeal the 19th. The answer to that

00:08:09.620 is no. Unfortunately, this isn't make a wish. This isn't what I want to be true. This is what

00:08:16.100 the market currently is. So knowing this, politicians are going to have to cater to

00:08:26.040 female voters in order to win some of them over okay so Melania also released a statement 1.00

00:08:39.000 and why isn't this coming up okay let me go to twitter so Melania also released a statement 0.88

00:08:48.600 on abortion recently abortion I'm sure if I go on twitter it'll be one of the first ones

00:08:54.680 that come up the link didn't work okay he's a fundamental and i think this was really smart

00:09:01.400 we all know melania is not going to say something without the approval of her husband i would assume

00:09:06.680 right i mean he's a pretty powerful guy and she put out a statement

00:09:14.280 saying that she is pro-choice now melania has an appeal to women i know there are many people 0.78

00:09:21.880 maybe liberal women that maybe don't like her because she's married to trump but she's fashionable

00:09:28.640 she's likable she's elegant she has a female appeal so i think it was really smart of them

00:09:36.260 to have melania make a statement backing up the republican party and saying that

00:09:41.780 they're not as anti-abortion as the left is saying individual freedom is a fundamental principle

00:09:50.240 that i safeguard without a doubt there is no room for compromise when it comes to this

00:09:57.540 essential right that all women possess from birth individual freedom what does my body

00:10:06.500 my choice really mean

00:10:08.180 i think this was smart i don't think this was an accident i think it was smart right before

00:10:16.560 election season again guys many people think that they're morally superior because they have a pro

00:10:24.120 life stance and that's how they view themselves that they have higher morals than pro choice

00:10:29.620 at the end of the day that has not been effective in reducing abortion if anything I would say maybe

00:10:39.360 birth control has been effective in reducing abortion but the year after Roe versus Wade was

00:10:45.460 overturned we had an increase in abortions so as much as even though I'm pro-life I have to think

00:10:52.740 how can we be smart to get the best person in office that we can now this could backfire

00:10:59.820 it's possible this could backfire after the election maybe they'll lose conservatives and

00:11:07.000 they still won't vote Trump I don't know but the purpose of me saying this is to say I don't think

00:11:13.520 conservatives should write them off. We have to understand where Trump's coming from. They need

00:11:19.020 the female vote. We don't win by catering. Well, then go full pro-life. Let me know how that goes 1.00

00:11:28.720 for you. Okay. So the next thing I saw on Twitter was I saw a clip of Myron going viral. And

00:11:39.340 knowing that i've done panel shows i don't really i wanted to give my perspective on this clip so it

00:11:47.740 says myron suffers an emotional breakdown he kicks all the girls off the podcast to create a sausage

00:11:54.440 party he has an episode all the women happily leave while laughing at him myron gains is an

00:12:00.480 emotional hysterical irrational person on all of social media so what tends to happen is most men

00:12:06.580 have never stood up to women in their lifetime. So when they see a guy saying no to women,

00:12:13.220 being maybe a bit rude to them or not simping, what they tend to do is they rush to the women's

00:12:20.740 defense. This is common. Once you see this stuff, you can't unsee it. And what tends to happen in

00:12:27.260 these shows is you have a two hour panel. Usually these panels can be between two hours and five

00:12:32.960 hours long. Generally, when someone gets kicked off, the host of the show, we never want to do

00:12:40.680 it. You read them the rules before the show and generally when they get kicked off, it's after

00:12:46.460 one hour, two hours of them being very disrespectful. But unfortunately, it's very

00:12:52.860 normalized for women to be disrespectful in 2024. And men are so used to it that whenever they see

00:13:01.440 man stand up for himself a lot of them rush to each other's or rush to the women's defense

00:13:08.320 even though remember these are grown adult women who know what podcasts they're coming on they know 0.61

00:13:14.160 the rules of the show and what they generally do is they generally are disrespectful so let me show

00:13:21.440 you okay so to be honest i don't really give a i know exactly so that's why i gave them yeah yeah 1.00

00:13:28.880 about this you get the okay so she's starting it there but again because women pretty 0.93

00:13:34.560 right women women beautiful women pretty they can do disrespectful things smile and laugh

00:13:40.880 and men are just expected to take it and other men come in and they defend the women

00:13:46.400 for me okay so to be honest i don't really give a i know exactly so this is why i gave the

00:13:52.320 response about this you get the off the show yeah how about that the off yeah if you

00:13:57.200 it's fine disrespectful but matter of fact real quick she starts it she was the one who started

00:14:03.760 swearing right she was the one who said i don't give an f and when you start swearing at the host

00:14:11.760 and generally during i've been on fresh and fit they read you the rules before the show 0.61

00:14:18.320 there's clips of myron all over social media i don't feel bad for you when you get kicked

00:14:23.840 off and swore at i just don't any of you want to get up and leave you can feel free to leave 0.97

00:14:28.400 because at the end of the day you guys are all sluts anyway so i don't give a if you want to get 0.99

00:14:31.600 off get up get the out matter of fact oh yeah get the out of here there we go out here man 0.99

00:14:35.760 now look would i say it like that no but what women tend to do is they tend to think they can 0.95

00:14:43.440 be disrespectful and get nothing in return when i did shows it would be very rare that men would 0.91

00:14:51.680 talk to me like that. The only time that ever really happened to me where men were overly

00:14:56.800 disrespectful is maybe a crazy panel show or, I don't know, it didn't happen that often, guys.

00:15:06.320 And maybe a very feminine guy, but men generally understand that when they roll their eyes at

00:15:13.520 people, when they're disrespectful, when they start swearing at somebody, that there's consequences.

00:15:18.560 And I've been on this show before. And generally speaking, if you follow the rules, you're fine.

00:15:26.440 And I was on the show one time and there was a physical fight that broke out and there was two

00:15:31.200 women kicked off. And I remember there was a clip of the woman getting kicked off that went viral

00:15:39.020 and everyone was saying, oh, Myron, he's so mean. And I remember thinking that woman disrespected

00:15:46.960 him for two hours but it's amazing women do it first and if men respond then they're the bad 0.99

00:15:57.920 Guys, it's just ridiculous. 1.00

00:15:59.380 I'm going to end this shit myself. 1.00

00:16:02.860 Get these hoes out of here, man. 1.00

00:16:06.080 These fucking stupid ass bitches come in here and annoy the fuck out of me, bro. 1.00

00:16:09.040 Get the fuck out of here. 1.00

00:16:11.140 Oh, hey, yo. 0.99

00:16:12.340 It's a first.

00:16:13.240 Happy birthday, Fred. 1.00

00:16:15.000 Get these fucking bitches out of here, man. 1.00

00:16:16.760 Get them the fuck out of here. 1.00

00:16:18.220 This stupid fucking lesbian bitch talking shit. 1.00

00:16:20.640 Get the fuck up out of here, man. 1.00

00:16:22.040 Show castle, man. 0.99

00:16:22.860 Yo, show castle, man.

00:16:24.420 I'm going to be honest. 1.00

00:16:25.600 Fucking ridiculous. 0.99

00:16:26.460 Yeah, guys, that would be me if I was still doing these panels. I had to stop. But what I'm pointing out is I get really tired of people babying adult women. They're adults. They're over the age of 20. You know what you're doing. They know what show they're going on. 0.99

00:16:49.320 and we always preface in these shows that if you don't like it you are welcome to leave at any time 1.00

00:16:57.040 so but because the women sometimes get emotional again that's their greatest tool they get

00:17:07.360 emotional they overreact and then the white knights come in so there was another one

00:17:15.380 this was a white night in action oh my gosh this was the greatest clip I've ever seen

00:17:20.160 because when I hear you guys when I hear you guys crying what I had seen I had seen two women when

00:17:28.080 when I see you when I hear you not you guys but when I hear my critics and detractors crying about

00:17:34.540 the way women are spoken to in a show crying about the way that the women don't know this or don't

00:17:43.900 know that about the show or that they're ambushed i i just keep thinking do you guys think they're

00:17:49.420 they're children they're adult adult you mean adult women that can vote that can

00:17:57.760 and they never show the initial disrespect ever ever whenever they cover this stuff it's always

00:18:05.600 myron mean brian mean women victims they never show the hour of disrespect that we put up with

00:18:13.840 before kicking them out after we read them the rules and you're one who's a mother and one who's

00:18:21.220 about to do ministry in the morning request from from what I had seen I had seen two women and one

00:18:25.220 who was a mother and the one who's about to do ministry in the morning request to leave after

00:18:28.220 the time that was communicated going into on a weeknight to leave and then a third request I

00:18:32.680 believe from Nicolette saying she was tired and she wanted to go home before being offered I can't 0.97

00:18:36.540 believe how irresponsible these women are a mother irresponsibly decided to go on a podcast on a

00:18:42.920 weeknight along with a woman who had another engagement in the morning thinking they could 0.62

00:18:46.560 fit all of that through these are irresponsible people luke did you send any of them a dm telling

00:18:51.880 them that it was irresponsible of them when they have children at home to and that they they may

00:18:56.740 have to run back to to go on a podcast on a work night none of you guys ask that question not you

00:19:04.120 guys not you guys in my chat you're amazing but but they never ask that question guys i would

00:19:12.800 have mothers of four at my studio until two in the morning and i would constantly think who is

00:19:19.780 watching these kids who is you know did you tell any of these women how irresponsible they were 1.00

00:19:27.900 of course not just brian just brian's fault right because the poor women do just the

00:19:33.100 this is how you i get the poor women they're adults yes yes and men never get that sympathy

00:19:45.980 if the men are told to stay late on a show do they get sympathy no if the men are disrespectful

00:19:53.080 and they get kicked off do they get sympathy no if a man gets sworn at does he get sympathy

00:20:02.180 no but because they're women it's always poor poor women angels they're angels and brian's

00:20:14.240 exploiting them for his own personal oh that's the word oh that oh that grinds my gears exploiting

00:20:20.900 oh exploiting the women oh my goodness the adults the adult women who know exactly where they're

00:20:31.700 going on what show who listen to the rules know the topic are being exploited it blows my mind

00:20:42.500 it's the simping i i can't take it anymore guys i just cannot take it i literally can't

00:20:50.340 not a single message right luke nothing just brian yeah that was amazing that was amazing

00:20:59.300 or they'll say oh that it's the type of women you bring on and I would say okay I went to Ireland

00:21:09.060 interviewed women there do they count okay I went to my hometown interviewed women there do they

00:21:15.860 count okay what women do you guys want on the show do you want to recruit them why don't why

00:21:20.700 don't you bring you guys drive me nuts you guys it's it's anything it's it's you know what it is

00:21:28.680 anything to give women the benefit of the doubt. They will die on this. They will die on the women 0.98

00:21:34.740 or children. And ladies, I think this is offensive. I think that we as adults should be offended when 0.98

00:21:41.620 men treat us like children. We're not children. You're an adult. We pay taxes. We can vote. So

00:21:48.120 when guys like this are always bailing us out, I think we should be offended. Do you want, do you

00:21:54.040 want okay do you want your daughter if you're a woman and you have a daughter do you want her to 1.00

00:21:59.540 date a man that is constantly giving her the benefit of the doubt constantly treating her like

00:22:09.180 a kid would that be helpful does that make someone a better person no no no no okay I'm done I'm done

00:22:17.200 that's it that's my rant but I saw these clips and it just it brought me back to my panel show

00:22:23.940 days oh it brought me back okay so the real topic today actually nothing to do with these two

00:22:33.220 I wanted to talk about Tia Mowry so Tia Mowry is reflecting on life one year after divorcing her

00:22:44.900 ex of 14 years, Corey Hardrick. On Wednesday, Tia shared a candid video on her Instagram

00:22:53.100 recapping the life lessons she's learned since her split. Recovering from a divorce feels like

00:23:01.320 a whirlwind journey. So remember, this is a pattern. A lot of times when it's a social media

00:23:07.720 thing, it's always a journey. Tia says in a voiceover as she sat in bed, I found out through

00:23:13.360 the whole process that divorce isn't a place where we arrive. It's entering a new chapter in

00:23:18.220 life with many nuances and no one size fits all handbook. One moment you're relieved feeling like

00:23:25.780 you've conquered something significant. Then suddenly emotions hit you all over again. It's

00:23:31.160 a side of divorce that often isn't discussed, especially when the kids are involved. Tia and

00:23:37.960 Corey share two children together, their 12-year-old son Cree and their five-year-old

00:23:42.840 daughter Cairo. So these are the four. Tia added that she wants to be a role model for her children,

00:23:49.900 showing them what resilience and self-care looks like. She also opened up about trying

00:23:54.620 different things to help soothe and release the emotional buildup living inside of her

00:24:00.380 with activities like exercise, journaling, meditation, and therapy. I don't think, you

00:24:06.860 i've met men that came back from war or that fought in iraq that were not this dramatic

00:24:16.620 i'm just being honest guys i look at this and i think does this scream mature adult woman

00:24:26.540 sometimes i think that 0.93

00:24:29.980 a lot of these divorcees are mentally still teenagers like 15 tops

00:24:36.860 I'm going to show you the video in a little bit, but while reflecting on everything she's been 0.76

00:24:41.540 through, Tia became emotional and began to cry. Someday, I believe I'll be able to look back on

00:24:47.920 this time with nothing but warmth and gratitude for the beautiful children brought into my life

00:24:52.180 and the stronger version of myself that emerged from experience. As women, we take our power back 0.99

00:24:57.800 by sharing our stories and bringing any deep shame we hold from the experience to light.

00:25:02.240 i love you guys the game star and her ex were married 14 years after tying the knot in 2008

00:25:09.340 the two initially met back in 1999 tia answered their separation or tia announced their separation

00:25:17.480 in october 2022 and they officially divorced in april 2023 tia concluded her video by asking

00:25:24.720 her followers to share their experiences with divorce to collectively help the healing process

00:25:30.920 you can check out the full video below so we're gonna play this recovering from

00:25:36.480 a divorce let me see if I can make it recovering from a divorce if I go to her

00:25:40.300 Instagram if I can make it full screen um

00:25:49.800 where hmm let me see if I think there is a better link on the top 0.61

00:25:56.800 oh here we go see if i can i think let me zoom in okay divorce is in a place where we arrive 0.95

00:26:07.700 okay wait let me refresh the page turn this on go i found that through the process divorce is in a

00:26:17.080 place where we arrive it's entering a new chapter of life with many nuances and no one size fits

00:26:23.940 all handbook one moment you're relieved feeling like you've conquered something significant

00:26:28.940 then suddenly waves of emotions hit you all over again it's a side of divorce that isn't

00:26:36.700 often discussed especially when there are kids involved do you see how mad this kid

00:26:42.180 is he's so sick of being on his mom's social media but but see this is using your kids

00:26:49.800 in your personal life as a prop for attention. And generally what this means is it's a proxy

00:26:58.400 because they don't have people in their real life. You strive to be a role model, teaching

00:27:03.640 them resilience and self-care. You try different things to soothe and release emotional buildup

00:27:09.020 with exercise, journaling your thoughts, meditation, and seeking therapy to cope

00:27:15.700 with the breakup and the dreams you had for the future it may sound cliche but time truly does

00:27:22.020 have a way of soothing pain someday i believe i'll be able to look back on this time with nothing but

00:27:28.260 warmth and gratitude can you imagine being this kid your mom just divorced your dad and now she's

00:27:35.220 trying to she's saying kids kids kids take this hug for social media like you you just want to

00:27:43.300 go to your mom and you want to get a hug right you want to you you you want to you you want to

00:27:48.900 you want to say mom i just want a hug and i want it to be amazing and i want to feel so good

00:27:54.900 and then your mom says yeah yeah yeah that's fine but let me just record this for my my instagram

00:27:59.780 okay honey like we can do it just hold on let me just set the camera here okay kids come on

00:28:04.820 can you imagine what life is like oh wait we go keep going for the beautiful children brought into

00:28:13.140 my life and the stronger version of myself that emerged from the experience for anyone who is

00:28:20.420 going through this i would love to hear your experience share your story because there's power

00:28:26.660 in dialogue as women we take our power back by sharing our stories and bringing any deep

00:28:34.420 shame we hold from this experience into the light i love you guys tia now what is the problem with 1.00

00:28:43.460 this she is a high earning woman rich people have different options and different lives 1.00

00:28:52.900 she is going to survive off of one income if she's been smart with her money 1.00

00:28:58.100 and she will be fine the rest of her life many women that make the same decision 0.99

00:29:04.100 will not in her montage she is doing some trip with an elephant do you think that's 0.99

00:29:12.100 a option for the average woman's budget in this economy and the other issue we get

00:29:22.660 is we have a plethora of comments

00:29:25.300 I love you. I know this journey hasn't been an easy one, but I applaud you for doing the work

00:29:34.860 to heal. My girl has been nonstop growing, working, evolving, and healing. So it's all

00:29:41.680 these women encouraging her. And there wasn't one that said, hey, the grass may not be greener on

00:29:47.840 the other side. Get back with your husband. Not one. Hey, you might be making a mistake. It's all 0.97

00:29:55.200 women pushing women to make bad choices and I love what I love is so many people say I make 0.98

00:30:04.480 things up they say I'm just like making up some of these things yeah yeah and I go on TikTok and

00:30:11.300 there's a plethora of women just posting their divorce stories and I want you guys to ask the

00:30:19.140 question does this look like i am one i want i want to i want you to take notice of a couple 0.66

00:30:26.140 things these women come from all different types of backgrounds that i'm going to show you 1.00

00:30:31.080 and i want you to ask the question if this makes it seem like they take marriage as a serious

00:30:38.980 not okay i am not okay i'm not fine i don't feel capable right now everything feels heavy

00:30:50.540 including my period which seems to have great timing i don't have it all together right now

00:30:54.100 and i don't want to pretend like i do having your together is overrated and it's a lie it's okay to

00:31:00.000 take a break or even break down it's okay to reach out because you are not a burden and if you decide

00:31:05.640 record these moments for the internet to share in that's okay too because it is one less moment we

00:31:10.040 have to feel alone in these times i thought i'd remind you and myself that it is okay not to be

00:31:14.760 okay and that you don't have to fake your happiness or push through it to be seen as strong or

00:31:18.760 capable sometimes a strong thing to do is to just sit in the space until you feel ready or to just

00:31:23.080 admit that i am by the way this was one of the top things that came up for divorce journey

00:31:29.880 let me pull up the next one so there's one

00:31:31.960 oh wait that's the same one hold on

00:31:36.920 oh hold on I messed this up let me go back to the link

00:31:43.200 what no

00:31:55.600 okay there we go and having time away from the

00:32:02.780 people seem to think that getting a divorce and having time away from the kids is a luxury but i

00:32:10.280 feel like it's anything but that this might just be because i don't always have friends and family

00:32:14.880 nearby to hang out with me so it can feel really lonely the first thing i did today was go to the

00:32:20.240 gym for a quick chest and cardio workout. Afterwards, I headed to the pool because the

00:32:25.020 weather was beautiful and I wanted to start my new book. Reading has been the only thing helping

00:32:29.460 me these days and I was fully prepared to spend the day here until I heard a buzzing behind my

00:32:35.200 seat and found this massive hive of bees. I cannot begin to tell you how fast I booked it out of

00:32:42.320 there. I didn't even make it to page five of my book until I made a run for it. These are moms

00:32:47.280 with kids right this is something you might you would think to see from someone early 20s teenager

00:32:53.440 right mothers with kids vlogging their divorce i was gonna try to eat healthy today but honestly

00:33:01.200 after that fiasco i deserve some in and out also look at this bookmark i found of younger me today

00:33:06.480 that will help remind me of the love i deserve i'm only six months into the divorce but my entire

00:33:11.600 identity has revolved around being a mom for the last 10 years so adjusting has been hard but i'm

00:33:16.400 excited for what comes next people seem to well

00:33:24.000 okay I get the first one maybe no it's this woman if I lost the link I'm gonna be so mad

00:33:36.720 the best one guys I think I copied and pasted the same link twice okay

00:33:46.400 an unglamorous day in my life is a divorcee moving on to a sailboat uh first day i got up

00:33:53.180 an unglamorous day in my life is a divorcee moving on to a sailboat uh first i got up and

00:34:01.860 then we drove to bed baths and beyond we had to go to two bed baths and beyond because the order

00:34:06.860 that i wanted just they couldn't fill it at one so we went to the first one which is an hour away

00:34:10.380 three shopping carts worth but look at how cute that these green cool towels are going to be i'm

00:34:15.860 embroidered them with the boat name i think in like a peachy color this was the car after the

00:34:19.540 first stop after that we went to kava and got lunch um and then after we ate lunch we went to

00:34:25.300 another bed bath and beyond and to target where we bought cleaning supplies and then we went to

00:34:29.700 best buy which i forgot to film but um we got an ipad there and then drove back to the boat

00:34:37.380 um this is the car all full i didn't realize it was still picture and had to load it up

00:34:42.340 in these carts and take it back to the boat and that's my boat and here is all

00:34:49.060 of the mess in the kitchen and we just kind of unloaded that it's a work in

00:34:53.500 progress for sure and then we did some work I tried to set up the iPad it's not

00:34:58.180 going well and then we realized that we forgot to buy salt and pepper and also

00:35:02.200 food we meant to go but we didn't and so we had toast on eggs for dinner but I

00:35:07.140 actually think that this content will get a lot more interesting maybe it won't

00:35:12.340 yeah someone said and who's paying for all this i don't know

00:35:18.900 guys i am so sad i lost the best after choosing the best one it was so funny oh okay healing

00:35:30.140 after choosing to get a divorce can be unpredictable most days i'm fine and i know i made the right

00:35:35.800 decision but i'm also ignoring that scary voice in my head that's telling me that i'm not going

00:35:40.300 to be able to make it on my own. I have to tell myself every day that everything's going to be

00:35:44.720 fine and it'll work itself out. I got married at 19 and I've been a stay-at-home mom the majority

00:35:50.100 of the last 10 years, so he's all I've ever known. These days I'm just winging it and living under

00:35:55.100 the law of assumption. We deserve happiness and everything will work out the way it's supposed to.

00:35:59.840 We gotta stop saying that. We gotta stop saying that everything's gonna work out statistically.

00:36:06.020 we're in a lot of debt

00:36:10.220 you know but I hope it works out I never wish

00:36:15.740 anything bad on anyone but I wouldn't bet on it or at least that's what I tell myself I'm taking

00:36:23.360 everything one day at a time but thoughts haunt my mind with things like will my kids hate me one

00:36:28.160 day for leaving will I ever be happy I wish choosing my they might hate you one day for

00:36:33.680 leaving yeah a lot of kids do I wouldn't be surprised self for once in my life didn't make

00:36:40.300 me feel so guilty and so alone okay well oh that's the same girl I guess

00:36:47.900 well I hope it

00:36:52.280 works out you know anyways so I hope you guys enjoyed that our next story

00:37:03.680 is talking about how bosses are firing Gen Z grads just months after hiring them here's what

00:37:17.180 needs to change after complaining for the better part of two years that Gen Z grads are difficult

00:37:24.260 to work with bosses are no longer all talk no action now that rapidly firing young workers

00:37:32.840 who aren't up to scratch just months after hiring them. According to a new report,

00:37:38.860 six in 10 employers have already sacked some of their Gen Z workers they hired fresh out of

00:37:44.720 college earlier this year. Intelligent.com, a platform dedicated to helping young professionals

00:37:50.660 navigate the future of work, surveyed nearly a thousand U.S. leaders. It has found that the

00:37:56.140 class of 2024's shortcomings will impact future grads. After experiencing a raft of problems with

00:38:02.820 new hires, one in six bosses says they're hesitant to hire college grads again. Meanwhile, one in

00:38:08.440 seven bosses have admitted that they may avoid hiring them altogether next year. Three quarters

00:38:13.560 of companies surveyed said their recent graduates' hires were unsatisfactory in some way. So Gen Z 0.99

00:38:21.520 grads are unprepared and unprofessional. So where is it all going wrong for fresh-faced grads? 1.00

00:38:28.000 Employers gripe with young people today is their lack of motivation or initiative.

00:38:32.600 50% of the leaders surveyed cited that the reason things didn't work out with their new hire.

00:38:39.860 Bosses also pointed to Gen Z being unprofessional, unorganized, and having poor communication skills as their top reason for having to sack new grads.

00:38:49.700 Leaders say that they have struggled with the latest generation's tangible challenges, including being late to work and meetings, often not wearing office appropriate clothing and using language appropriate for the work workspace.

00:39:02.880 I think this is a lot of social media. I think that contributes to the lack of like professionalism. Now, more than half of hiring managers have come to the conclusion that college grads are unprepared for the world of work.

00:39:16.340 Meanwhile, over 20% say they can't handle the workload. In reality, colleges know that their

00:39:21.860 students are wholly unprepared for the workforce and that they have some stepping up to fill the

00:39:27.520 gaps. For example, Michigan State University is teaching students how to handle a networking

00:39:33.100 conversation, including how to look for signs the other party is starting to get bored and that it's

00:39:38.740 time to move on. Meanwhile, a high school in London is trialing a 12-hour school day to prepare

00:39:44.900 pupils for adult life. When asked what would make college grads more hireable, bosses responded a

00:39:53.800 positive attitude and more initiative. Intelligence Chief Education and Career Development Advisor

00:40:01.160 Hugh Neugen advises Gen Z grads to observe how other workers interact to understand the company

00:40:07.660 culture at any new firm they may join. From there, it's easier to gauge what's an appropriate way of

00:40:12.540 engaging with each other take the initiative to ask thoughtful questions seek feedback and apply

00:40:17.820 it to show your motivation for personal growth build a reputation for dependability by maintaining

00:40:23.020 a positive attitude meeting deadlines and volunteering for projects even those outside

00:40:28.460 your immediate responsibilities amazon ceo andy jassy recently echoed that an embarrassing amount

00:40:36.140 of your success in your 20s depends on your attitude and the reason why is simple managers

00:40:41.020 would rather work with positive people. Some leaders have even insisted that the can-do

00:40:45.440 attitude at work will advance some young workers' careers more than college degrees. Richard Branson,

00:40:51.240 the billionaire founder of Virgin, has repeatedly urged young people to ditch university in favor

00:40:56.120 of the school of life. Metta CEO Mark Zuckerberg recently claimed that raw talent and personality

00:41:02.240 trumps credentials. To that end, Cisco's top executive in the UK, David Meads, dropped out

00:41:09.100 school at 16 years old he told fortune that attitude and aptitude are more important than

00:41:15.260 whatever letters you have after your name or whatever qualifications you got on a sheet

00:41:20.540 so how could this happen how on earth could we have students coming right out of university

00:41:25.980 being unprepared for real life could you imagine how on earth did this happen so i went to tick

00:41:35.500 talk to look at people's what they do in a day in in corporate america

00:41:45.340 in the life working in tech blog girl what you mean we all getting laid off boo or you're an 0.67

00:41:53.520 employee like me who thank god i made it through the layoffs but i'm fucking terrified now having 0.70

00:41:59.100 just seen a 10% of my org cut. And yeah, I'm not going to sit here and do a happy-go-lucky

00:42:06.140 what I do in a day, day in the life of a software engineer. I'm just doing, okay? Because I'm

00:42:13.240 fucking terrified. And this is all personal experience. My company literally earlier this 0.98

00:42:17.580 week, like this Tuesday, went through layoffs, 1500 positions cut, and they were all technology

00:42:23.500 jobs. It's terrifying. And this is my second round of layoffs that I've made it through

00:42:29.260 in the six years that I've worked at my company. And it was terrifying the first time it was

00:42:34.420 terrifying this time. And more and more, especially as I get older, I just realized how

00:42:40.240 important it is to have multiple streams of income because I'm not built for this corporate life.

00:42:45.600 Like it is scary out here. If any of you guys are tech. I like how she's talking about her

00:42:52.800 her company is looking to lay off people and then saying how she's not built for the corporate life

00:43:04.000 why why would you do that have been affected by the recent layoffs my heart goes out to you guys

00:43:08.960 and i'm sure you guys are rockstar employees i'm sure you will find employment very soon and if

00:43:14.000 you're a tech worker who hasn't been affected by the layoffs please make sure you're being smart

00:43:17.600 with your money and that you have an emergency fund set up because one thing's for sure you

00:43:22.400 definitely don't want to be worrying about money while you're laid off you just want to be able to

00:43:25.440 focus on finding a new job and finding new opportunities don't let the money stress you

00:43:29.920 out either okay so there's one i'm gonna keep going on the other things i found on tick tock

00:43:38.000 about the job market right now

00:43:39.840 oh what girl what do you mean y'all getting laid off boo or guys so i go on tiktok and i copy the

00:43:52.740 links and i email them to myself and i think i copied the same link twice today oh that's sad

00:44:02.280 okay well let me go back

00:44:04.180 there we go that's the divorce journey one

00:44:13.600 one second guys I just saw it just add it up oh here then let me see

00:44:25.780 no this is the same one

00:44:31.360 no not that one

00:44:35.220 the second one let me just double check that doesn't work

00:44:43.700 okay I must have done the same one it's okay I have one more

00:44:51.160 I would have had three but you know it is what it is

00:44:55.780 Okay, so now we got it.

00:44:57.780 That's the way we do it now

00:45:00.180 Attitude in the groove

00:45:02.460 Getting into something new

00:45:05.840 Say goodbye to yesterday

00:45:08.020 Future looking good to me

00:45:10.460 All together raise your hands

00:45:12.820 Time to party

00:45:14.100 Time to party

00:45:15.400 Come on

00:45:19.000 I can't

00:45:23.960 Does that look like hard work

00:45:25.620 And we're going to watch that one more time

00:45:27.500 we are just smashing the patriarchy really

00:45:41.800 yeah so that's what we have here

00:45:52.820 i can't imagine why gen z is getting laid off i i honestly i think

00:46:00.560 maybe some detectives in the chat could figure this out i don't know

00:46:06.560 i don't know who starts work at 10 a.m

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Pearl - October 04, 2024

Some MODERN WOMEN Use DIVORCE To Escape THEIR UNHAPPINESS ｜ Pearl Daily

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