Pearl - Some Women Are SHOCKED They Suck At Dating？

00:00:00.000 I know the money large. I know it's large. I know it's large. Stop playing with me. Don't burn me.

00:00:08.040 Why? Why are you entitled to his money? What up, guys? Today, I'm going to be reacting to dating

00:00:14.760 struggles keep mounting for radical feminists. Let's go. Making these good men not wanting to 1.00

00:00:21.420 be good men. I don't need no man. I can do it all by myself. Can you? Can you? I mean, I know

00:00:28.700 physically i can take care of myself i've been on my own since i was 17. do i want to take care of

00:00:33.640 myself all the time no do i want to be independent all the time no i don't do i want to take care of

00:00:38.200 somebody yes i do do i want to make sure dinner is cooked and laundry is there is something as a

00:00:43.760 woman because the last year two years i've really i've taught myself to cook okay they always roast 0.59

00:00:49.340 me on the internet they say i can't i can you know but i don't know there's something about like

00:00:53.380 feeding people and serving people that just just makes you feel so good as a woman i don't know i

00:00:59.220 think there's something in us where we just get something out of serving and the whole world tells

00:01:04.580 us to be selfish and then we wonder why we're unhappy because we're really happiest when we

00:01:09.380 are serving when you think of the most feminine women you know the happiest women they're always 0.97

00:01:14.260 selfless masculinity selfish not a bad thing and not in a bad way either femininity is selfless

00:01:20.500 it's serving and contributing to the household and taking care of the kids yes yes i do and then

00:01:28.340 we got all you waffles out here ruining good men they don't want to be good men because of 0.83

00:01:34.980 feminists it's something that she said at the end of the video and it stuck with me and it's 1.00

00:01:41.420 something that i've had to learn through experience and that is your integrity and your character

00:01:46.080 what do you mean by that not saying that you're not going to make mistakes but sometimes especially

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00:01:57.220 things that are meant to ignite you and you can't respond why not because you don't have the ability

00:02:04.980 but because do you know how many times men bite their tongue men bite their tongue around us so

00:02:11.020 much where we have no idea what the average man thinks because a lot of times when we're just

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00:03:56.260 it's just stupid and that's why people encourage you to read books because you'll hear different 0.94

00:04:02.760 concepts about opening up your mind i can do this to get better i can do that to get better 0.99

00:04:08.000 and when you come into contact with oh i'm strong and independent i don't need no man

00:04:12.880 i heard about you bingo i'm gonna get the heck out of dodge because you're about to say something 0.87

00:04:18.440 or do something that's going to potentially ruin my career and i don't have time for that

00:04:23.260 stay single stay safe stay out of my way modern women logic 1.00

00:04:29.520 aren't you gonna open the door for me yeah i was just about to

00:04:33.640 as you should

00:04:35.580 uh i think i left him on the seat one second

00:04:40.660 he's gonna drive more

00:04:47.100 what age did you wake up and realize that you no longer wanted to be a strong she pretty much 0.71

00:04:57.680 talks about like coming to the realization that she no longer wants to be a strong independent 0.88

00:05:02.220 black woman i would have to say that it's just now hitting me i just turned 33 and i will say

00:05:08.420 i think it's this year that and that's the problem is women we don't make these decisions 1.00

00:05:13.820 until we're old and then we we've lost the things that men value it me that i do not want the title

00:05:21.780 of a strong independent black woman okay i am a single divorced mom i have been divorced now for

00:05:28.300 four years going on five years so i have been doing this whole thing by myself literally doing

00:05:33.240 everything right for me and my daughter for the past five years and i will say that although i am

00:05:39.880 very happy with my life i pray for a soft life a life where the financial weight and the financial

00:05:47.260 burden doesn't fall on me actually i don't want a financial burden in our household period but i

00:05:53.200 really do not want to carry the weights in that capacity at all i want to be able to live a life

00:05:57.860 of leisure a soft life a slow life no okay and this is the problem even what she's talking about

00:06:04.620 it's still selfish ladies women have never we have soft lives now even at your office hr job 1.00

00:06:11.500 whatever you're doing that's a soft life women don't see any value in working hard nowadays 1.00

00:06:17.200 the difference is you are working hard for your family and you are trusting your husband's

00:06:22.420 leadership that's the difference like i am so tired and although i do feel like i carry it well

00:06:30.780 like yes you probably can't even tell that i'm tired because i do feel like i carry it well

00:06:36.260 that's not a good thing in itself like i it shouldn't be a badge of honor for me having to

00:06:42.520 go through all these different struggles to be you know great right like i look forward to the day

00:06:50.840 where i marry someone that kind of relieves me of this but see she's not even talking about what

00:06:58.380 she can give it's but what can i take i want him to relieve me of stress it's not i want to give

00:07:04.180 him massages every day i want to cook i want to raise good children it's what can i get of like

00:07:11.300 day-to-day life to be honest i feel softer i feel more feminine whenever i'm able to rest a lot more

00:07:18.440 and right now i'm not able to do so as much because again i'm doing this by myself i am a single mom

00:07:24.520 but i know and god knows there will come a day there will come a day where i can really truly

00:07:32.280 tap in statistically it's not going to happen you already have a soft life be happy for it

00:07:37.880 you don't have to work on a farm as a basket weaver you get to work in hr she looks like an hr girl i

00:07:45.440 don't know what she does but she looks like a corporate america girly my soft girl era where

00:07:51.860 i do not have to be this strong woman that's always caring every like notice whenever women 1.00

00:07:57.540 say they want traditionalism they only talk about the parts that benefit them they never talk about

00:08:02.500 the parts that would benefit a man like that i can arrest where i can trust somebody to lead

00:08:11.700 so the one thing that i think you have to understand about women is the fact that they 1.00

00:08:19.460 hate they absolutely abhor making these big decisions these major decisions because it

00:08:27.940 takes a lot out of them sure the day of the day things like what color the walls are going to be

00:08:33.860 what pictures we hang on the wall even these decisions take a lot out of them they spend

00:08:38.420 literally days yeah no i know because i can't make decisions years thinking about what color

00:08:46.100 of the wall needs to be what they want, how they want to arrange the house and anything outside

00:08:52.260 the house. What do we need to eat? How do I need to dress my kid? How will the world perceive them?

00:08:56.960 They spend hours upon hours, nights, days thinking about these things. Whereas a man could come in 0.54

00:09:03.960 and say, the walls are fine. I don't care about it being white. That's why being strong and 0.98

00:09:08.800 independent eventually gets tiring. That's why it is a burden because it's a major decision

00:09:14.700 and major decisions in and of themselves are hard for anyone but the fact that you have to put

00:09:20.880 emotions into it the effort the mental energy and thinking about every single little angle and

00:09:28.060 aspect it's good for business because it leads to better analysis but having to do it at work

00:09:33.400 and then coming home and having to do it having nobody there to make the decision for you is

00:09:38.920 double work and even in sometimes triple work if you have kids you have a dog all of those

00:09:44.640 things lead to wearing strong independent women down which is why maybe as a strong independent 1.00

00:09:50.700 woman you should stop saying I'm strong and independent and I don't need a man and you need

00:09:56.680 men to survive where when you get your car fixed man you want to fix something man anything on your

00:10:02.900 house you think these women know how to fix anything in their house I sure don't that's why 1.00

00:10:06.440 I don't want to be I could I could own a home I don't want I don't want to own it I don't want

00:10:09.480 those problems all right this woman was divorced she was already married i don't know what went on 1.00

00:10:15.160 in that situation so that's not something i'm going to comment on but in general as a whole

00:10:20.380 maybe strong and independent women should take another look at am i really ruining myself

00:10:27.060 by driving others off modern women logic i keep getting comments in dms asking me if i'm single

00:10:35.000 dating, other variations of that. And I thought this new year would be a great opportunity to

00:10:42.140 explain how I'm feeling about dating right now in more detail. Let's say I pull out a jar and I go,

00:10:48.320 guess what? There are 10 M&Ms in this jar. And you go, Laura, that's amazing. I love M&Ms more

00:10:53.460 than anything else in the world. And you're like, yep, get in here and pick out your M&M so you can

00:10:57.860 be happy for the rest of your life. And then so you stick your hand in there and all of a sudden

00:11:01.600 and you're in horrible pain and you go hey what the and I go oh my god I forgot to mention also

00:11:06.560 in the jar it's filled with maggots and needles and acid but keep sticking your hand in there

00:11:12.180 it's worth it to find the M&M so you keep sticking your hand in there but the maggots bite you or

00:11:17.340 whatever maggots do and the needle stab you and the acid burns you so you tell me hey this isn't

00:11:22.400 fun for me at all so I say well I think you're just really bad at picking out M&Ms and it kind 0.97

00:11:27.820 of seems like you like getting bitten and stabbed and burned. But you need to get back in there

00:11:32.760 because there are millions of other hands looking for those M&Ms. Here's some advice from people

00:11:36.720 who found M&Ms before years ago, even though it sounds like they're not M&Ms at all. And so you

00:11:42.140 keep trying, but you realize that every single time you stick your hand in here, you're just

00:11:46.080 getting hurt. And every time you pull your hand out, it's getting more and more disfigured.

00:11:50.420 Yeah, because again, women, we go for the top 20% of men when left to our own devices. So most 1.00

00:11:56.460 women cannot keep the top 20% of men because it's very competitive. I don't say this to hate on

00:12:01.820 women for wanting what we want. But the question is, do most women qualify for what we want? And 1.00

00:12:06.840 the answer is, in general, no. And you're competing with a bunch of women, like guys screwing a bunch 1.00

00:12:12.920 of chicks all the time. Good luck. There's this one time you thought you found an M&M, but it was 0.99

00:12:17.600 a maggot pretending to be an M&M for some time. And you go, hey, I don't want to do this anymore.

00:12:22.320 it doesn't seem worth it for the M&M. And I go, no, you don't understand. You won't be happy and

00:12:27.340 fulfilled until you have an M&M. Also, you're going about it all wrong. You need to try setting

00:12:33.540 good boundaries. But then you realize boundaries are just sticking your hand in the jar and just

00:12:37.680 pulling it out faster than normal. So you're not boundary. But I hear girls say boundaries. I think 1.00

00:12:42.040 that's the biggest red flag. You can't have boundaries with the men that you like. It's

00:12:47.180 their way or the highway. And if you don't like their way, then get off their program and go find

00:12:51.580 a different guy to be with bound good luck i find that boundaries women are typically the controlling 1.00

00:12:57.780 ones that want to police speech they want to police everything and it's just like then i go

00:13:03.100 hey have you tried only picking the ones that give you money and then be mean to them so that

00:13:07.740 they give you more money and you go i've been bitten by the maggots and stabbed by the needles

00:13:12.720 and burned by the acid so much to know there is no financial compensation that makes it worth it

00:13:18.620 um also i can't even find a normal m&m how am i gonna find an m&m with money so then i call you

00:13:25.420 a pick me that deserves to get hurt because you won't evolve your m&m picking strategy with the 0.91

00:13:30.140 times hey doesn't that make you want to punch me in the face really really hard did i mention that 0.99

00:13:35.740 all the while the maggots and needles and acid are screaming at you that you're too stuck up and 0.99

00:13:40.020 you need to lower their standards and be their surrogate mommy or else you're gonna die alone 0.98

00:13:44.840 but don't worry oh that's another red flag women that say that they are a men's mother 1.00

00:13:50.340 this is when men say hey provide value by cooking and cleaning and then the women will they give 0.96

00:13:56.220 themselves so much credit they think cooking and cleaning is like raising a kid really like that's

00:14:02.880 women are the ceos of giving themselves credit they just love they love to give themselves 1.00

00:14:10.000 credit credit credit credit like that those other ones did here's what i'm going to be doing

00:14:14.760 i'm closing the jar i'm gonna throw the jar in the ocean and i'm gonna work on fixing my hand

00:14:21.740 am i ever gonna stick my hand in the jar again i really don't want to right and this is the thing

00:14:26.820 as women we want the top 20 of men okay in general most women do even it's 30 40 we want men 0.99

00:14:33.700 that other women want so the only solution the only solution there is is to become a woman that 1.00

00:14:41.240 those men want and compete and part of competing is the possibility of taking an l yes women women

00:14:49.060 women we used to be able to take l's and move on sometimes you just you take an l and then you say 1.00

00:14:54.620 you know what i'm gonna learn from this and improve men do this they take an l they're sad

00:14:59.080 they figure out what went wrong and they try to improve women just cry for a lifetime and then 1.00

00:15:03.940 use it as an excuse to never date again or whatever whatever they want to just tie i get tired maybe

00:15:10.160 that will change with time but i think right now i'm tired of being told that i'm not good at

00:15:15.360 picking m&ms and that my standards are too high just because i want to be with someone who is

00:15:20.840 kind see this is the problem women only talk about one part of their mating strategy one part of our 1.00

00:15:26.120 mating strategy is long-term provisioning the other part of our mating strategy is the hot

00:15:30.680 muscle guy you know that the alpha fox beta bucks okay women will talk about what they select for 1.00

00:15:36.680 with long-term security but when we're at our peak when we're at 22 23 we select for alpha

00:15:42.200 fox first and treats me like a human being my orthodontist once told me that insanity is doing

00:15:48.760 the same thing over and over again and expecting a different result it is starting to feel like

00:15:53.720 insanity to keep drinking from the kool-aid that keeps poisoning me so i'm not anymore thanks yeah

00:16:00.600 yeah, I hear what you're saying, but I ain't see no adjustments made. I guess what I'm looking for

00:16:06.460 is maybe there should be another strategy other than the one that I'm using right now.

00:16:13.180 What does that look like? Well, instead of continuing to blindly stick your hand in the jar,

00:16:21.000 maybe you should look in the jar first. Oh, shoot. There's maggots in there. There's needles in there.

00:16:26.260 whatever else. I'm not going to stick my hand in there. Instead, I'm going to get a tool and I'm

00:16:32.960 going to stick it down off in there and pull something out. You see, in my experience,

00:16:38.620 even on TV, you can see how jewelers go to a pawn shop and see how they examine jewelry.

00:16:45.820 I get out a little pair of tongs or whatever you want to call those things. And I hold something

00:16:50.360 up to the light. I hold that diamond up to the light and I look at it and even get a magnifying

00:16:56.120 glass to see if it's precious to see if it's rare to see if it's actually real but because 0.99

00:17:04.120 you watch these daytime television shows because you listen to stupid i shouldn't say that 0.99

00:17:11.240 less than stellar advice on tiktok then you keep on going around in the same circle 0.99

00:17:18.180 because it sounds good your emotions are all up high and you love what you heard and maybe there's

00:17:25.260 hope you don't sit back and say is this really going to work i'm really going to run into a man

00:17:31.160 based on this list that only wants me for things that i can't continue to give that's not who i

00:17:39.140 really am he's not really going to appreciate me for who i really am maybe it's time to switch up

00:17:45.880 your game plan do something different and say only women it's like okay if you figure out 0.51

00:17:51.680 something's wrong with you only women blame the men for it it's time to improve the product all 1.00

00:17:56.720 right learn to cook learn better social skills get in better shape the best dating advice for women

00:18:02.280 is a personal trainer personal trainer i need these but it's always it's always the men and

00:18:06.700 somebody a little bit further you need to take them out pull them up to the light and see if

00:18:11.860 they pass but of course because this is sound logical advice a lot of women probably won't do 1.00

00:18:19.420 this that's too bad y'all made because that girl man proposed her with a pandora ring but y'all

00:18:25.040 ain't got no ring or no man that is hilarious i would never we know we know because you could

00:18:36.560 never some of y'all have been with y'all mans for three plus years he needs a bubble gum ring

00:18:41.280 oh this girl is so funny someone tell this girl to dm me i want to i want to stream with her

00:18:49.560 let's mind our business and be happy for others i'm at work don't ask me why i got this on my

00:18:55.340 shirt you know how y'all be um anyways it's this older dude they um they be coming to fill the

00:19:02.220 the vending machines at my job

00:19:04.020 so anyway

00:19:08.320 would he be filling the drinks

00:19:11.520 he asked me the first time

00:19:13.780 we met um he's like

00:19:15.680 what drink you like

00:19:17.000 you know I don't be drinking drinks like this

00:19:19.420 but I told him I want the orange one

00:19:21.840 so every time

00:19:23.020 every like week or whatever

00:19:25.320 he filling the drinks he come and

00:19:27.780 bring the orange drink

00:19:28.560 I don't drink this time

00:19:31.780 see this is it's just a lack of gratitude it's if you like a guy

00:19:50.940 it's spending time with him should be enough it should be enough

00:19:54.480 i know like i know she's kidding but behind every joke is a bit of seriousness i know the money

00:20:07.640 lord i know it's a lot i know it's low stop playing with me don't burn me but why why why

00:20:16.580 are you entitled to his money i'm gonna take a drink okay i still got the one from last time

00:20:23.300 i mean i think the time before that come on now i mean oh my gosh when he first asked me

00:20:32.180 what the drinks are like i should have told him i should have said well you know i'm not really

00:20:37.640 a soda drinker but there's this um nice coffee place downtown that i fumbled i fumbled i failed

00:20:48.380 you shira i failed you hang on i feel the sprinkle sprinkle lady stop playing this is what i'm talking

00:20:55.800 about man instead of saying thank you instead of me having a normal conversation you wonder why

00:21:03.180 men don't yeah you wonder why chivalry is dead and i don't think that she's necessarily being 0.87

00:21:08.760 malicious that's not really in her heart but it's just about the social aspect it's just about having

00:21:16.600 regular normal communication yeah yeah if you're really trying to get with someone

00:21:22.200 or hearing about something as a possibility why not just talk to them in real life

00:21:29.140 if a man says what drink do you want that's him trying to open the door and him continuing to

00:21:35.820 bring the drink that's him trying to open the door to see if you're receptive if you're receptive

00:21:40.700 then maybe you'll say i appreciate you saying that strike up a conversation by then he should

00:21:47.360 be able to take that conversation and say hey man you're pretty cool why don't we go get some coffee

00:21:51.880 why don't we go on a date why don't we hang out hey do you mind if i get your number

00:21:55.500 instead of see he's giving out girl game you see a drink i tell you what even if you're not

00:22:02.340 attracted yeah men will do so much just for being grateful to this man it still doesn't

00:22:09.840 really bode well for you because people see this video yeah like man if she's gonna blast him like

00:22:15.120 that then why would they do something for her yeah yeah we shoot ourselves in the foot i don't

00:22:20.000 really want to be a part of that ladies ladies ladies you know we suck 2023 we could do better 0.94

00:22:25.640 and you know this year i'm trying to focus more on where we could improve and i think gratitude

00:22:30.680 is very important this is a very important skill set men are willing to go to the ends of the earth

00:22:36.940 for a woman that is grateful so take notes let me know what you guys think in the comments like

00:22:40.940 the video and I'll talk to you next time

Pearl - March 06, 2024

Some Women Are SHOCKED They Suck At Dating？

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