Pearl - March 06, 2024Some Women Are SHOCKED They Suck At Dating？
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Summary
In this episode, I'm reacting to dating struggles for radical feminists, and how they keep mounting for good men. I talk about how feminism is ruining good men, and why it's so important to be a strong, independent woman.
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I know the money large. I know it's large. I know it's large. Stop playing with me. Don't burn me.
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Why? Why are you entitled to his money? What up, guys? Today, I'm going to be reacting to dating
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struggles keep mounting for radical feminists. Let's go. Making these good men not wanting to
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be good men. I don't need no man. I can do it all by myself. Can you? Can you? I mean, I know
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physically i can take care of myself i've been on my own since i was 17. do i want to take care of
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myself all the time no do i want to be independent all the time no i don't do i want to take care of
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somebody yes i do do i want to make sure dinner is cooked and laundry is there is something as a
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woman because the last year two years i've really i've taught myself to cook okay they always roast
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me on the internet they say i can't i can you know but i don't know there's something about like
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feeding people and serving people that just just makes you feel so good as a woman i don't know i
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think there's something in us where we just get something out of serving and the whole world tells
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us to be selfish and then we wonder why we're unhappy because we're really happiest when we
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are serving when you think of the most feminine women you know the happiest women they're always
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selfless masculinity selfish not a bad thing and not in a bad way either femininity is selfless
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it's serving and contributing to the household and taking care of the kids yes yes i do and then
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we got all you waffles out here ruining good men they don't want to be good men because of
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feminists it's something that she said at the end of the video and it stuck with me and it's
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something that i've had to learn through experience and that is your integrity and your character
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what do you mean by that not saying that you're not going to make mistakes but sometimes especially
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when you're dealing with a strong independent woman a radical feminist they're going to say
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things that are meant to ignite you and you can't respond why not because you don't have the ability
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but because do you know how many times men bite their tongue men bite their tongue around us so
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much where we have no idea what the average man thinks because a lot of times when we're just
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going crazy men will just be quiet and just let us go and then we have no idea how delusional we are
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it's just stupid and that's why people encourage you to read books because you'll hear different
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concepts about opening up your mind i can do this to get better i can do that to get better
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and when you come into contact with oh i'm strong and independent i don't need no man
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i heard about you bingo i'm gonna get the heck out of dodge because you're about to say something
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or do something that's going to potentially ruin my career and i don't have time for that
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stay single stay safe stay out of my way modern women logic
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aren't you gonna open the door for me yeah i was just about to
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what age did you wake up and realize that you no longer wanted to be a strong she pretty much
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talks about like coming to the realization that she no longer wants to be a strong independent
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black woman i would have to say that it's just now hitting me i just turned 33 and i will say
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i think it's this year that and that's the problem is women we don't make these decisions
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until we're old and then we we've lost the things that men value it me that i do not want the title
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of a strong independent black woman okay i am a single divorced mom i have been divorced now for
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four years going on five years so i have been doing this whole thing by myself literally doing
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everything right for me and my daughter for the past five years and i will say that although i am
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very happy with my life i pray for a soft life a life where the financial weight and the financial
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burden doesn't fall on me actually i don't want a financial burden in our household period but i
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really do not want to carry the weights in that capacity at all i want to be able to live a life
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of leisure a soft life a slow life no okay and this is the problem even what she's talking about
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it's still selfish ladies women have never we have soft lives now even at your office hr job
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whatever you're doing that's a soft life women don't see any value in working hard nowadays
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the difference is you are working hard for your family and you are trusting your husband's
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leadership that's the difference like i am so tired and although i do feel like i carry it well
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like yes you probably can't even tell that i'm tired because i do feel like i carry it well
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that's not a good thing in itself like i it shouldn't be a badge of honor for me having to
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go through all these different struggles to be you know great right like i look forward to the day
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where i marry someone that kind of relieves me of this but see she's not even talking about what
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she can give it's but what can i take i want him to relieve me of stress it's not i want to give
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him massages every day i want to cook i want to raise good children it's what can i get of like
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day-to-day life to be honest i feel softer i feel more feminine whenever i'm able to rest a lot more
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and right now i'm not able to do so as much because again i'm doing this by myself i am a single mom
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but i know and god knows there will come a day there will come a day where i can really truly
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tap in statistically it's not going to happen you already have a soft life be happy for it
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you don't have to work on a farm as a basket weaver you get to work in hr she looks like an hr girl i
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don't know what she does but she looks like a corporate america girly my soft girl era where
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i do not have to be this strong woman that's always caring every like notice whenever women
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say they want traditionalism they only talk about the parts that benefit them they never talk about
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the parts that would benefit a man like that i can arrest where i can trust somebody to lead
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so the one thing that i think you have to understand about women is the fact that they
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hate they absolutely abhor making these big decisions these major decisions because it
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takes a lot out of them sure the day of the day things like what color the walls are going to be
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what pictures we hang on the wall even these decisions take a lot out of them they spend
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literally days yeah no i know because i can't make decisions years thinking about what color
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of the wall needs to be what they want, how they want to arrange the house and anything outside
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the house. What do we need to eat? How do I need to dress my kid? How will the world perceive them?
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They spend hours upon hours, nights, days thinking about these things. Whereas a man could come in
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and say, the walls are fine. I don't care about it being white. That's why being strong and
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independent eventually gets tiring. That's why it is a burden because it's a major decision
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and major decisions in and of themselves are hard for anyone but the fact that you have to put
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emotions into it the effort the mental energy and thinking about every single little angle and
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aspect it's good for business because it leads to better analysis but having to do it at work
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and then coming home and having to do it having nobody there to make the decision for you is
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double work and even in sometimes triple work if you have kids you have a dog all of those
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things lead to wearing strong independent women down which is why maybe as a strong independent
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woman you should stop saying I'm strong and independent and I don't need a man and you need
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men to survive where when you get your car fixed man you want to fix something man anything on your
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house you think these women know how to fix anything in their house I sure don't that's why
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I don't want to be I could I could own a home I don't want I don't want to own it I don't want
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those problems all right this woman was divorced she was already married i don't know what went on
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in that situation so that's not something i'm going to comment on but in general as a whole
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maybe strong and independent women should take another look at am i really ruining myself
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by driving others off modern women logic i keep getting comments in dms asking me if i'm single
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dating, other variations of that. And I thought this new year would be a great opportunity to
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explain how I'm feeling about dating right now in more detail. Let's say I pull out a jar and I go,
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guess what? There are 10 M&Ms in this jar. And you go, Laura, that's amazing. I love M&Ms more
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than anything else in the world. And you're like, yep, get in here and pick out your M&M so you can
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be happy for the rest of your life. And then so you stick your hand in there and all of a sudden
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and you're in horrible pain and you go hey what the and I go oh my god I forgot to mention also
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in the jar it's filled with maggots and needles and acid but keep sticking your hand in there
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it's worth it to find the M&M so you keep sticking your hand in there but the maggots bite you or
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whatever maggots do and the needle stab you and the acid burns you so you tell me hey this isn't
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fun for me at all so I say well I think you're just really bad at picking out M&Ms and it kind
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of seems like you like getting bitten and stabbed and burned. But you need to get back in there
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because there are millions of other hands looking for those M&Ms. Here's some advice from people
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who found M&Ms before years ago, even though it sounds like they're not M&Ms at all. And so you
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keep trying, but you realize that every single time you stick your hand in here, you're just
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getting hurt. And every time you pull your hand out, it's getting more and more disfigured.
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Yeah, because again, women, we go for the top 20% of men when left to our own devices. So most
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women cannot keep the top 20% of men because it's very competitive. I don't say this to hate on
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women for wanting what we want. But the question is, do most women qualify for what we want? And
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the answer is, in general, no. And you're competing with a bunch of women, like guys screwing a bunch
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of chicks all the time. Good luck. There's this one time you thought you found an M&M, but it was
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a maggot pretending to be an M&M for some time. And you go, hey, I don't want to do this anymore.
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it doesn't seem worth it for the M&M. And I go, no, you don't understand. You won't be happy and
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fulfilled until you have an M&M. Also, you're going about it all wrong. You need to try setting
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good boundaries. But then you realize boundaries are just sticking your hand in the jar and just
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pulling it out faster than normal. So you're not boundary. But I hear girls say boundaries. I think
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that's the biggest red flag. You can't have boundaries with the men that you like. It's
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their way or the highway. And if you don't like their way, then get off their program and go find
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a different guy to be with bound good luck i find that boundaries women are typically the controlling
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ones that want to police speech they want to police everything and it's just like then i go
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hey have you tried only picking the ones that give you money and then be mean to them so that
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they give you more money and you go i've been bitten by the maggots and stabbed by the needles
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and burned by the acid so much to know there is no financial compensation that makes it worth it
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um also i can't even find a normal m&m how am i gonna find an m&m with money so then i call you
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a pick me that deserves to get hurt because you won't evolve your m&m picking strategy with the
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times hey doesn't that make you want to punch me in the face really really hard did i mention that
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all the while the maggots and needles and acid are screaming at you that you're too stuck up and
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you need to lower their standards and be their surrogate mommy or else you're gonna die alone
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but don't worry oh that's another red flag women that say that they are a men's mother
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this is when men say hey provide value by cooking and cleaning and then the women will they give
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themselves so much credit they think cooking and cleaning is like raising a kid really like that's
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women are the ceos of giving themselves credit they just love they love to give themselves
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credit credit credit credit like that those other ones did here's what i'm going to be doing
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i'm closing the jar i'm gonna throw the jar in the ocean and i'm gonna work on fixing my hand
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am i ever gonna stick my hand in the jar again i really don't want to right and this is the thing
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as women we want the top 20 of men okay in general most women do even it's 30 40 we want men
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that other women want so the only solution the only solution there is is to become a woman that
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those men want and compete and part of competing is the possibility of taking an l yes women women
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women we used to be able to take l's and move on sometimes you just you take an l and then you say
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you know what i'm gonna learn from this and improve men do this they take an l they're sad
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they figure out what went wrong and they try to improve women just cry for a lifetime and then
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use it as an excuse to never date again or whatever whatever they want to just tie i get tired maybe
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that will change with time but i think right now i'm tired of being told that i'm not good at
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picking m&ms and that my standards are too high just because i want to be with someone who is
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kind see this is the problem women only talk about one part of their mating strategy one part of our
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mating strategy is long-term provisioning the other part of our mating strategy is the hot
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muscle guy you know that the alpha fox beta bucks okay women will talk about what they select for
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with long-term security but when we're at our peak when we're at 22 23 we select for alpha
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fox first and treats me like a human being my orthodontist once told me that insanity is doing
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the same thing over and over again and expecting a different result it is starting to feel like
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insanity to keep drinking from the kool-aid that keeps poisoning me so i'm not anymore thanks yeah
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yeah, I hear what you're saying, but I ain't see no adjustments made. I guess what I'm looking for
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is maybe there should be another strategy other than the one that I'm using right now.
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What does that look like? Well, instead of continuing to blindly stick your hand in the jar,
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maybe you should look in the jar first. Oh, shoot. There's maggots in there. There's needles in there.
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whatever else. I'm not going to stick my hand in there. Instead, I'm going to get a tool and I'm
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going to stick it down off in there and pull something out. You see, in my experience,
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even on TV, you can see how jewelers go to a pawn shop and see how they examine jewelry.
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I get out a little pair of tongs or whatever you want to call those things. And I hold something
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up to the light. I hold that diamond up to the light and I look at it and even get a magnifying
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glass to see if it's precious to see if it's rare to see if it's actually real but because
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you watch these daytime television shows because you listen to stupid i shouldn't say that
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less than stellar advice on tiktok then you keep on going around in the same circle
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because it sounds good your emotions are all up high and you love what you heard and maybe there's
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hope you don't sit back and say is this really going to work i'm really going to run into a man
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based on this list that only wants me for things that i can't continue to give that's not who i
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really am he's not really going to appreciate me for who i really am maybe it's time to switch up
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your game plan do something different and say only women it's like okay if you figure out
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something's wrong with you only women blame the men for it it's time to improve the product all
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right learn to cook learn better social skills get in better shape the best dating advice for women
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is a personal trainer personal trainer i need these but it's always it's always the men and
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somebody a little bit further you need to take them out pull them up to the light and see if
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they pass but of course because this is sound logical advice a lot of women probably won't do
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this that's too bad y'all made because that girl man proposed her with a pandora ring but y'all
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ain't got no ring or no man that is hilarious i would never we know we know because you could
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never some of y'all have been with y'all mans for three plus years he needs a bubble gum ring
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oh this girl is so funny someone tell this girl to dm me i want to i want to stream with her
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let's mind our business and be happy for others i'm at work don't ask me why i got this on my
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shirt you know how y'all be um anyways it's this older dude they um they be coming to fill the
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see this is it's just a lack of gratitude it's if you like a guy
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it's spending time with him should be enough it should be enough
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i know like i know she's kidding but behind every joke is a bit of seriousness i know the money
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lord i know it's a lot i know it's low stop playing with me don't burn me but why why why
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are you entitled to his money i'm gonna take a drink okay i still got the one from last time
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i mean i think the time before that come on now i mean oh my gosh when he first asked me
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what the drinks are like i should have told him i should have said well you know i'm not really
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a soda drinker but there's this um nice coffee place downtown that i fumbled i fumbled i failed
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you shira i failed you hang on i feel the sprinkle sprinkle lady stop playing this is what i'm talking
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about man instead of saying thank you instead of me having a normal conversation you wonder why
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men don't yeah you wonder why chivalry is dead and i don't think that she's necessarily being
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malicious that's not really in her heart but it's just about the social aspect it's just about having
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regular normal communication yeah yeah if you're really trying to get with someone
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or hearing about something as a possibility why not just talk to them in real life
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if a man says what drink do you want that's him trying to open the door and him continuing to
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bring the drink that's him trying to open the door to see if you're receptive if you're receptive
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then maybe you'll say i appreciate you saying that strike up a conversation by then he should
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be able to take that conversation and say hey man you're pretty cool why don't we go get some coffee
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why don't we go on a date why don't we hang out hey do you mind if i get your number
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instead of see he's giving out girl game you see a drink i tell you what even if you're not
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attracted yeah men will do so much just for being grateful to this man it still doesn't
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really bode well for you because people see this video yeah like man if she's gonna blast him like
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that then why would they do something for her yeah yeah we shoot ourselves in the foot i don't
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really want to be a part of that ladies ladies ladies you know we suck 2023 we could do better
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and you know this year i'm trying to focus more on where we could improve and i think gratitude
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is very important this is a very important skill set men are willing to go to the ends of the earth
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for a woman that is grateful so take notes let me know what you guys think in the comments like