Pearl - Terrible Wives Speak Out About Being Awful

00:00:00.000 she's talking about her thing as her kids like crying in the background what's going on guys 1.00

00:00:05.120 i've been saying for a while that most women are actually horrible wives and mothers and too long 0.97

00:00:10.320 we have pushed this narrative that women are nurturing and good parents and even the better 0.99

00:00:14.560 parents which is absolutely ridiculous so today we actually have women admitting they were terrible

00:00:20.320 wives um so i do love it when women have some accountability um we can't all be good at 1.00

00:00:24.720 everything and some women it's just you know being a wife wasn't in their life you know whatever the 0.91

00:00:29.040 god gods or crier power creator had in store for them okay hot take but hear me out now that i'm 0.73

00:00:35.120 divorced i think i was kind of a shitty wife and i'm okay with saying that now the the past few

00:00:41.840 years have given me a chance to really look at myself i can see who i was back then the mistakes 0.86

00:00:47.040 i made the selfishness the moments i didn't give my best um being so consumed in motherhood that

00:00:52.800 maybe i wasn't a great partner and that's okay i needed to be that person to get to who i am today

00:00:59.040 And to be honest, I absolutely love who I'm becoming and who I've become.

00:01:02.380 I'm stronger.

00:01:03.260 I'm more patient.

00:01:04.360 I'm more resilient.

00:01:05.340 Yeah, because she has no choice. 0.98

00:01:06.600 Like, she's older and uglier.

00:01:07.840 So you've got to be more patient because what other choice do you have?

00:01:11.800 The guys aren't running, you know.

00:01:13.220 More disciplined, definitely more emotionally aware.

00:01:15.920 And I would go as far as to say a way better mom.

00:01:18.980 So every hardship, every challenge, every reflection has led me to this version of myself,

00:01:24.380 my happiest, most authentic self.

00:01:26.520 so while I take full accountability for the end of my marriage and for my faults in it

00:01:31.080 I also recognize that I wasn't with someone who could help me grow into the person I am today

00:01:36.620 okay let's see what's next last year I was a terrible wife last year I was a really terrible

00:01:42.220 wife not because I didn't love my husband but because I was prideful and I wanted control 1.00

00:01:47.740 and I thought very difficult for women that's again women that talk too highly about submission

00:01:52.860 usually they've never been submissive so that i knew what was best i rolled my eyes more than i

00:02:00.620 prayed i criticized more than i encouraged and i thought that submission was a dirty word

00:02:05.760 little did i know the safety and security i would find being under biblical authority

00:02:11.860 i treated leadership like a threat instead of a gift and i was constantly trying to change him

00:02:19.160 but god you have to understand that our way is never the best way it's actually always the worst 0.72

00:02:23.520 way we never like imagine how much leg up in life like women have had in general and just how much

00:02:29.360 we still find a way to mess it up and not only that then we have the ego of thinking that we do

00:02:34.500 it right it's just incredible god really needed to change me this year i am choosing a different way

00:02:40.540 i am choosing god's way i am learning that submission is not silence it is strength under

00:02:46.720 control i'm learning that honoring my husband does not mean that i am shrinking but i am rising to

00:02:53.440 the calling of a godly wife i still mess up a lot i'm not perfect but instead of fighting i am

00:03:03.440 praying and instead of being full of bitterness i am choosing to give it all i think most marriages

00:03:10.800 would be solved if we just shut up forever i ain't looking it gets all of us if we just shut

00:03:15.840 up forever i think our marriages we would have perfect marriages and peace on earth the lord

00:03:20.080 instead of she's talking about her thing is her kids like crying in the background

00:03:25.180 women are incredible they're like mom watch us she's like i'm busy talking about how i was a

00:03:30.860 terrible wife last year isn't he doing more it's how can i serve him god's design for marriage is

00:03:37.680 nothing like the world's but it's healing my heart and it's healing my home i am not the wife that i

00:03:44.940 used to be and every single day i praise god for that dang okay let's see what's next okay let's

00:03:53.180 see this lady this question please do not berate me i know i've been a terrible wife don't say that

00:03:58.460 please do not confirm that like how they say don't say that it's like well she's saying it's probably

00:04:03.660 true fact for me okay well anyway 11 year relationship seven year marriage open for three

00:04:11.180 a four-year-old son. Oh, so you had a baby and we're like, fuck it. Not long after we got married, 1.00

00:04:17.160 I realized I was not satisfied. So I asked him about threesomes and he said, never.

00:04:21.580 Why do we go from unsatisfied to adding a person? But I bothered him about it.

00:04:27.440 Testing the waters. That's why. It's testing the waters.

00:04:31.120 Until they gave up and we had one with another man. You really got lucky, didn't you? That only

00:04:36.900 made our sex life worse than before shocker shocker eventually i demanded we start women it's like

00:04:43.140 how could that possibly have happened okay i'm not going to call you a bad wife he declined but

00:04:48.580 again i was able to talk him into it after only a few times of going the group told me that we

00:04:53.460 weren't welcome anymore because my hub my husband kept abruptly leaving in the middle of it and was

00:04:57.780 making them all uncomfortable it sounds like a great group we argued for a while about how

00:05:02.900 him embarrassing me i'm going to be mean to you i'm so sorry he recluse himself for a few days

00:05:08.580 yeah because this man is being pressured into do something that he doesn't want to do and his wife

00:05:12.580 the person who should be his partner and like you're supposed to be there for him and i'm your

00:05:16.660 sister coming in clutch telling you baby girl if this was vice versa i would say this is a piece

00:05:20.900 of man like this dude for pressuring you and being a and so you obviously you started

00:05:27.300 i've been a terrible wife let's just talk about you as a person character this is the person you

00:05:32.500 love like like yeah because women don't love their husbands okay oh my gosh this is so cute this is 0.99

00:05:37.540 me years ago look at how fat i was uh letting you know a lot of you are shitty wife did you know 0.99

00:05:44.340 that one in four marriages shitty wife here and i'm here to tell you why i deserve to be cheated 1.00

00:05:49.460 on in my first marriage i think she's being sarcastic his first complaint was that i did 0.96

00:05:55.380 not clean enough which i will give that to him i did not clean enough i mean i wasn't like

00:05:59.860 disgusting dirty okay we can't all be good we cannot all be good wives so some people are bad

00:06:05.460 it just you know eat that take that out it was just like clutter like i should have put things 0.93

00:06:10.020 away i know that's i think that's like we i think men just pay more attention and everything so

00:06:16.500 they're very good like if they they start a task and finish it we just don't and we leave things

00:06:22.340 everywhere along the way like that's probably my worst trait because i'm not dirty but sometimes i

00:06:27.700 just like i forget things around the house yeah i'm with you girl laundry more often things like

00:06:34.300 that mop more often even though we lived in mississippi and it rained constantly and we had

00:06:39.080 a husky who was in and out of the house and there was mud so i'd literally be mopping 24 7 if he had

00:06:44.180 his speaking of mississippi that was his other complaint that i was severely depressed and he

00:06:50.520 hated why was i depressed well let's see he was uh he moved me to the middle of nowhere away from

00:06:56.600 my friends and family and would not allow me to have a car. How fucked up of me to be sad about 0.97

00:07:02.360 that. Like he was really providing for me then. Do you think he would describe the story in the 0.99

00:07:07.040 same way? He also was mad that I would sneak by things like because I had to ask permission to

00:07:13.680 buy translation. I spent too much of his money. Anything whatsoever because he made the money

00:07:19.040 and none of it was mine. Anything I had was because of him. How dare I think I could buy

00:07:23.960 a three dollar bottle of nail polish without asking him first now i did cook dinner we really

00:07:29.600 think it was just the nail polish you really think that's what set him off every night and

00:07:35.120 i usually clean it up i was pretty much did the dishes and put it away he didn't have to do any 1.00

00:07:39.240 of that um but i wasn't willing to try new foods that he liked so that made me a shitty wife the

00:07:45.960 other reason i was a shitty wife is because i had platonic guy friends um so i guess i should 1.00

00:07:50.740 she emotionally cheated i like how she's just airing herself out i just ditched them all when 0.74

00:07:56.340 we first met you know to meet my husband's standard oh and because i was severely depressed

00:08:01.700 i like wore pjs like all the time and like never did my makeup because i was severely depressed

00:08:07.380 and had no friends and no one to talk to while he was gone 14 hours in the day when i was allowed

00:08:13.460 he was working 14 hours a day and she still found a way to make it about her isn't that incredible 1.00

00:08:18.980 have a car which was like the first year or so of our marriage i was a shitty wife because i drove 0.93

00:08:24.340 too many miles and that was very suspicious to him you know ignore the fact that i was

00:08:29.140 brand new to the state and just trying to learn the area to him that meant i was cheating and i 0.99

00:08:34.260 was a shitty ass wife he was probably cheating also a shitty ass wife because i wasn't okay 1.00

00:08:39.380 with them flirting with every waitress or any other pretty girl that was probably overly jealous 1.00

00:08:44.180 because she's fat around us fat women cannot handle an attractive man uh he had a problem with

00:08:50.100 me having a problem with that weird let's not forget about the time that he cried because his

00:08:56.580 friend's sister wasn't attracted to him you know disregard it was three days before our first

00:09:02.980 wedding anniversary how dare i demand an apology for that even though she probably has lusted over 1.00

00:09:08.980 other men in the marriage but uh she forgot her side my bad these women have never been corrected 0.88

00:09:15.380 and they just cannot like they this is a wicked woman thing he did give me credit for is i was

00:09:20.420 affectionate and i did sleep with him whenever he wanted me to the problem was i was a little 0.99

00:09:25.700 too affectionate so that made me a shitty ass wife another reason i'm a shitty wife is because 0.99

00:09:30.360 i had a big heart and that's a flaw to him because the world is cruel you're actually 1.00

00:09:34.580 perfectly explaining why you got divorced you shouldn't be an idiot let's not forget all the 0.85

00:09:39.540 translation what do you guys think that's a if any of you have translations in the comments for what 0.98

00:09:43.780 actually happened i bet she was um extending her heart uh to people that didn't deserve it uh maybe

00:09:49.140 gluck gluck 9 000 is part of her heart the times i cried and wanted to unalive myself because he 0.73

00:09:55.140 would holler and scream at me this close to my face telling me how worthless and a piece of 0.99

00:10:00.260 shit I am I should just accept his criticism it's just feedback but I think the straw that broke the 1.00

00:10:07.080 camel's back on me being a shitty wife was that the fact that we got married at 22 I told him I 0.99

00:10:13.040 wanted to wait five years and I wanted to lose weight before having children and you know the 0.94

00:10:17.860 five years passed and I never lost weight and I didn't we didn't have children so you know it was

00:10:22.860 time for me to go well that explains why you had sex with him whenever because it's like well you're 0.97

00:10:28.980 huge my girl all right let's see i was a good woman and a terrible wife at the same time uh 0.99

00:10:33.780 those are contradictory but let's see what she has she has to say and a terrible wife at the same

00:10:38.580 time nobody told me that being a good woman wasn't enough for marriage and i love my husband with

00:10:44.020 everything that i had but it still was not working i had the heart i had the intention but what i

00:10:47.940 did not have was the understanding of what it actually meant to be a good wife not just a good

00:10:52.260 woman proverbs 14 one says the wise woman builds her home but foolish one tears it down with her

00:10:57.300 own hands i wasn't tearing my house down on purpose i just didn't know how to build it right

00:11:01.060 well i just want to share with you guys three things that i struggle with as a wife versus

00:11:04.740 what i do now number one i used to speak my mind okay now i speak with purpose because not every 1.00

00:11:09.460 single thought that i have needs to leave my mouth especially to my husband is this a woman giving

00:11:14.500 good advice holy crap two i used to keep score i was a scorekeeper goal but with no shame but now 0.62

00:11:22.580 i keep coming in because marriage is not a competition you know we're working together 0.63

00:11:27.060 and it's a commitment so i'm committed to making this work i used to wait to feel like a good

00:11:31.300 wife like once my husband did whatever or acted a certain way to make me be this woman that i've

00:11:37.140 always wanted to be this wife i've always wanted to be then i would be her no now i choose to be

00:11:41.220 one i choose to be one because love is an action it is not just an emotion you know i had to stop

00:11:46.420 trying to be a good woman in my marriage and start becoming a good wife to my husband being a good

00:11:50.340 good woman that's a gift being a good wife that's practice that is a decision that you make every

00:11:55.960 single day and if you're watching this and you feel the way that i used to feel once upon a time

00:11:59.380 you are not failing i say all the time white hood is a calling and we know that anything that the

00:12:03.980 lord calls us to the enemy tries to destroy but if you follow me you should have enough conviction

00:12:07.900 to know something needs to change so go be heard bye for now that was actually decent advice from 0.93

00:12:13.800 a black woman of all people of all people never got that from them so anyways i could see why

00:12:21.280 she's married there's some humility there um anyways guys let me know what you think in the

00:12:24.920 comments if you could like the video and subscribe i love you thank you so much for watching and i'll

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Pearl - May 15, 2026

Terrible Wives Speak Out About Being Awful

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