Pearl - The Born Again Virgins and The Simps

00:00:00.000 What up, guys? Welcome to the Just Pearly Things YouTube channel, and welcome to another

00:00:08.880 episode of Pearl Daily, where I cover this week's treachery, debauchery, and craziness

00:00:14.040 and really just give my opinions on the world. So we have a lot to talk about today. We have

00:00:23.460 a lot to talk about today. But, you know, before we really get

00:00:28.920 into the meat, the grind, griminess, the down and dirty

00:00:33.360 of today's topic, which is, what do we title this? The simps,

00:00:38.800 the simps, the born again virgins, and the controlling

00:00:44.440 wives. Today we're talking about the church. However, I know

00:00:52.160 this is a sensitive topic. And oftentimes when I talk about the church, people conflate it to me

00:00:58.940 attacking God and religion. And before we start the stream, I'm going to give a million disclaimers

00:01:05.220 because I do not want my words to be taken out of context. I do not want people to tell me that I

00:01:12.320 am saying things I did not say. But I have to be honest. And the whole point of my show is to tell

00:01:20.100 you about what I see going on in society. You know, I have a lot of unique insights and I don't

00:01:26.860 think people realize, I guess, how unique of a life that I've lived. You know, growing up, I would say

00:01:34.140 I grew up in a pretty well-off area and I grew up traveling the world. When I was 10, I went to Japan

00:01:42.480 by myself. Oh, wait, no, Germany when I was 10, Japan when I was 12, okay? I lived in different

00:01:49.960 countries, you know, when I was young. Like, when I was 18, I went to Germany, and I lived with my

00:01:56.020 German nanny at the time. I grew up with nannies from around the world. I have a very, you know,

00:02:02.280 I would say unique point of view. I then traveled to London, right, to play volleyball,

00:02:07.760 and I ended up interviewing a thousand women and when I interviewed a thousand women many people

00:02:13.860 argue that I only interviewed a certain type of women but I cannot count how many Christian women

00:02:22.720 I interviewed but whenever I talk about commonalities again and trends I see in Christian

00:02:31.780 women, I often get my faith attacked and I'm told I am not a real Christian. This is what I get.

00:02:41.540 And what I realized is when you attack the church, people react similarly in the way that when you

00:02:47.080 attack women or say anything that's unflattering about the church, people react in a way in the

00:02:53.960 same way if you say anything unflattering about women. I'll give you guys an example. You know,

00:02:59.360 I grew up Catholic. I would still consider myself a Catholic. I know there's a clip going viral of

00:03:04.760 me right now talking about how, you know, I have some questions, but I would still say I'm Catholic.

00:03:13.240 And when people bring up that, you know, controversy we got in a couple of years ago

00:03:18.900 with the priests, I think you guys know what I'm talking about. You know, I can't, I'm not going to

00:03:24.080 get mad because it was true it happened and even though i have my feelings about the church

00:03:33.140 and you know especially when you grew up in a church there's a party that wants to protect it

00:03:38.200 i will die on the hill that we should be honest we should be honest about the things that are going

00:03:44.600 on so you know and when i start talking about these problems and these issues the first you

00:03:51.980 know thing that I get from women is you're insecure and you know they even will dig up old

00:03:57.780 clips of me talking about being insecure in high school like we all were like wasn't everybody

00:04:04.780 come on anyways why would I do this what would make sense if if insecurity was the root guys

00:04:14.620 you guys attack my looks my character and my reputation every single day you church women

00:04:21.160 why why would how would that help

00:04:25.540 um so you know i am just a random you know the next thing that i get is there are smarter people

00:04:33.880 that are talking about this and i say yes there are go watch them that's totally fine there are

00:04:40.820 smarter people there are dumber people totally fine i am just a chick paying attention to what's

00:04:47.220 going on and taking notes. So, you know, I want to offer some disclaimers for the show.

00:04:57.740 And if any of these disclaimers offend you, you are more than welcome. You're more than welcome

00:05:03.380 to just not watch, move on, leave, go. Okay. These are my rules. So at the end of each show,

00:05:12.500 I am going to start taking call-ins, but I want you guys to realize that I'm not required to speak

00:05:18.840 to any of you, and I'm going to kick off whoever I feel like it. It's not my intention to. I do not

00:05:26.080 wish to, but if I get the impression that you're just here for a 30-second buzz clip and not a

00:05:31.200 genuine conversation, you're gone. Goodbye. Go cry about it. You can go cry about it on your channel

00:05:36.220 with zero viewers. I don't care. I don't care. Um, yeah, I mean, I think that's fair. If you're

00:05:45.060 talking back to me, if you're being rude to me, I, I'm not required to sit here and listen. You

00:05:50.920 can pay me for my time. You can book a session with me. We can go for an hour. If you want me,

00:05:56.780 if you want to pay me to talk to you, cool. If you don't want to do that. All right.

00:06:00.680 next okay so rule next rule do not over talk to me do not interrupt me you're calling to a show

00:06:09.640 where i'm describing what's going on i may give warnings sometimes other days i might i may be

00:06:15.440 less patient okay the next thing i know there are good christian women in church and i'm going to

00:06:23.560 say this yes yes there are good quality christian women i have met them they exist but to act like

00:06:30.660 They are the majority of women in church.

00:06:33.740 And the majority of women in church are wife material

00:06:36.180 is simply living in la-la land and delusion.

00:06:40.240 If you guys were so amazing, special, and awesome,

00:06:43.140 we would not see so many young men leaving the church.

00:06:46.640 And shaming the men for not going to church

00:06:49.080 and feeling how they feel and doing what they do

00:06:52.140 is not going to bring them back.

00:06:53.460 So if that's your strategy,

00:06:55.360 I mean, you could see how that's going for you.

00:06:59.180 Okay.

00:07:01.200 None of this is about winning a debate.

00:07:03.100 It's about being honest about what is going on.

00:07:06.780 Because all of this stuff, all of this craziness,

00:07:11.560 do you know who it affects at the end?

00:07:13.240 It affects children.

00:07:15.760 Children are innocent.

00:07:17.420 Children deserve two parents in the house that love them.

00:07:21.360 Children deserve to see a mother that respects their father.

00:07:25.060 And unfortunately, what is going on in the church is not what I see.

00:07:29.660 I do not see an abundance of wives that are living in pure submission to their husbands.

00:07:35.300 Because again, men go where quality women are.

00:07:39.560 And ladies, if your church was so amazing, special, and awesome,

00:07:43.980 there would be an abundance of men there.

00:07:48.140 But whenever I go into any church,

00:07:50.220 and I've been to all different types of churches around the world,

00:07:53.580 I specifically pick different ones at times,

00:07:57.040 just so I can get better insights into what's going on.

00:08:01.080 I ask people, I ask young men,

00:08:04.140 why did you leave the church?

00:08:07.020 Do you guys want to know what's going on

00:08:09.120 or do we want to live in delusion?

00:08:11.120 Are you so special, amazing, and awesome

00:08:12.960 that there are no flaws?

00:08:14.980 Because that's what I get.

00:08:16.580 Anytime I criticize or talk about any issues

00:08:19.140 that are going on, Pearl's just making it up.

00:08:21.980 Oh, the church women are just so amazing,

00:08:24.100 special, and awesome.

00:08:24.880 We just can't talk about them.

00:08:26.020 Pearl's just attacking, attacking, attacking.

00:08:29.800 But they never stop to ask, is Pearl right?

00:08:33.480 Is anything I said true?

00:08:35.920 Does the shoe fit for anything?

00:08:38.960 It's like narcissism to the extreme.

00:08:42.520 Okay, I will show clips demonstrating the behaviors I am talking about.

00:08:48.180 I am not attacking any of these people personally,

00:08:51.480 but I am attacking what they are saying or doing on screen.

00:08:55.520 I don't know them personally

00:08:57.680 I don't know anything other than clips I see online

00:09:01.820 I could be completely wrong about them

00:09:04.920 Again, I don't know them personally

00:09:07.840 But I will use them as examples

00:09:10.300 This is the town square

00:09:12.860 I like to give examples, okay

00:09:14.520 This is not your topic

00:09:16.480 If you come in and you say

00:09:19.020 Oh, I want to talk about

00:09:20.420 I want to give my monologue about what I want to talk about

00:09:22.880 We're not doing that

00:09:25.520 you guys can go cry somewhere else i don't care okay blessing um can you show them do you think

00:09:32.960 these are fair rules is there anything else i think these are fair rules are they fair rules

00:09:38.640 yeah and if you come on stream make sure your videos on yeah make sure oh yeah i'll add that

00:09:42.560 to my list make sure your video is on video is on and if the shoe doesn't fit stop crying about it

00:09:52.240 i mean all right okay so let's talk about the red pill now i've gotten into a little bit of

00:10:00.240 criticism recently because i was asked on a podcast what is the red pill and i i guess

00:10:06.800 i stumbled a little bit on what exactly it is because to be fair there is some dispute in the

00:10:12.160 the community but the red pill it is men taking notes to increase their sexual strategy this used

00:10:22.940 to happen in barber shops and male only spaces the men would get together and they would talk

00:10:29.800 now it's just migrated to online i am not i myself am not the end all be all of red pill

00:10:38.840 I would say red pill is for men. I just find it interesting.

00:10:43.600 You know, again, I'm just looking at what's going on, okay?

00:10:50.840 One more disclaimer.

00:10:52.820 All of these women coming forward and saying,

00:10:55.100 you can't generalize, you can't generalize, you can't generalize.

00:10:59.800 Yes, I can.

00:11:02.380 Yes, I can and I will.

00:11:04.540 And if you don't like it, you can kiss my ass.

00:11:07.120 how can we have conversations about anything if we can't speak in generalities

00:11:12.460 you know are you just here to argue if i say water is wet and then you say not all water

00:11:18.480 is like that it's like this is this is how it feels sometimes with you guys it's like pulling

00:11:23.600 teeth all right so i need to i need to pull up the chat if you guys want to support this stream

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00:11:40.440 donate can we make this a little bigger in the corner at all just just because i can't really

00:11:46.000 read it on my phone but anyways you're not required to donate you do not have to but if

00:11:51.580 you like what i'm doing cash app is pearly things with an s venmo is just underscore pearly things

00:11:57.920 I will read Venmo's and Cash App.

00:12:00.880 Sometimes I don't always see them, so I'm going to do my best.

00:12:05.180 We're trying to create a more perfect system, but to start,

00:12:09.500 Charles Piso sent me $15 saying keeping up the good fight,

00:12:14.720 and Daniel Drake paid $20 saying for the Michael Knowles debate.

00:12:18.520 Thank you, guys.

00:12:20.020 Your contributions are honestly awesome, and it helps me keep blessing here.

00:12:24.600 Right, Blessing?

00:12:26.040 Oh, yeah.

00:12:26.700 you know i mean if you guys want to keep them you know feel free to feel free to donate he's

00:12:38.300 people thought you got fired because king produced the one show yeah i'm here to stay guys

00:12:45.420 supporting the movement okay where where do you guys call in you're gonna call in later

00:12:52.060 Ideally, I would like to talk to Christian women first.

00:12:55.680 That's who I'm trying to speak to today.

00:12:57.820 That's who I'm trying to talk to.

00:12:59.640 Now, we'll talk to Christian men too, but this is a conversation with the Christians.

00:13:08.540 So if that's not you, or you've never been involved in church, it's okay.

00:13:13.840 Just please bow out of this one.

00:13:15.560 We'll have conversations next time.

00:13:17.360 So I saw an article that said the tier fund report shows that the UK, that in the UK, the ratio of women to men in church is 65% to 35%.

00:13:29.020 So while men still dominate the priesthood or pastorship, statistics show that two thirds of church memberships are women.

00:13:36.740 And if you look at programs run within the church, a much higher percentage of them are led by women than men.

00:13:44.260 Most people in the church have little or no say in what goes on.

00:13:49.520 For a Roman Catholic, Anglican, Methodist, or Baptist, the leadership of churches dominate by men.

00:13:55.760 They dominate just the priesthood, but the positions of bishops and the regional ministers.

00:14:00.600 Yet, as the gender gap grows, the presence of women increasingly dominates most Western churches.

00:14:07.580 while there has been an imbalance for quite some time the recent trend shows that it's increasing

00:14:14.260 the last 20 years 49 percent of men under 30 left the church

00:14:19.500 okay guys you're right there's no problem

00:14:24.660 you're right just shoot the messenger there's nothing going on in church you are so totally

00:14:33.080 right. You are losing half of your young men, 50% of your young men, and there is no issue.

00:14:42.520 You're right, ladies. Keep on doing what you're doing. Keep on doing what you're doing. Do you

00:14:47.900 guys want to know what's going on? Do you guys want to know what the issue is? Put a one in the

00:15:01.380 chat if you want to know. Put a two in the chat if everything's going. Just so amazing.

00:15:09.240 Stop complaining, men. That's what they'll tell you.

00:15:14.820 Okay, one common trope that I have heard from men that have left the church is that

00:15:20.940 men feel like women and the church will never be happy. It is never enough.

00:15:28.240 it is never enough now why do young men feel like this now i'm gonna show you guys now again

00:15:37.040 but i see guys okay now by the way again this is not

00:15:42.540 attacking i'm a fan of michael knowles but i think this rhetoric is why you see young men

00:15:52.260 half of your young men you guys are you guys are coming at me like i did that

00:15:57.880 i didn't create this world okay so pull up the screen all right now again this is just showing

00:16:06.460 you an example of the mentality that's pushed in churches and you see it reiterated by talk show

00:16:13.220 hosts you see it reiterated in debates you see it reiterated everywhere okay i mean because women

00:16:21.820 when women have the most choice we don't choose marriage women have the most choice when it

00:16:26.140 comes to commitment around the age of 22.

00:16:28.520 They're not choosing to get married.

00:16:30.520 I don't pay attention to what people say.

00:16:32.640 No, no, you mean when they have the most options,

00:16:35.820 when they're the most marriageable,

00:16:37.000 but they do, but you will acknowledge

00:16:39.620 those women who have been duped by feminism,

00:16:42.080 maybe even after they're past their marriageable age.

00:16:45.160 Right there, right there.

00:16:47.740 And I'm just pointing this out.

00:16:49.460 It's always the women were duped.

00:16:53.300 the women were just and you trad con women are no better whenever you guys talk about your past

00:17:02.580 it's always everybody else's fault but yours how do we get anywhere if we keep giving women

00:17:10.160 a get out of jail free card it's not you were duped it's not you were young it's not you

00:17:15.920 were naive. It's you did it because you wanted to. Why is that so crazy to get through people's

00:17:23.620 heads? Everything's everyone else's fault. I don't live like that. You know, we don't give young men

00:17:30.560 that same grace. So, okay. Now this is just, I'm just, I'm drawing attention to the language that

00:17:41.780 we use in church or it's fine everything's the men's fault just keep just keep doing what you're

00:17:47.360 doing fellas just keep doing what you're doing shame the men into staying i'm sure that'll work

00:17:54.080 blessing do you think that works oh no no no no blessing but why okay now and now and maybe you

00:18:05.020 guys can tell me if there are two women i you know i i had two friends in high school okay

00:18:11.220 we went to all went to the same high school we all came from two-parent homes none of us came

00:18:17.680 from perfect homes but we all made different choices I had one friend that decided she was

00:18:23.360 a die-hard Catholic she got married at 22 waited till she was married and I think she's on her

00:18:29.900 second kid now she was also like our valedictorian this girl killed everything she did

00:18:35.440 she was amazing then then there was another girl in my school

00:18:40.960 who i i haven't kept up with her in years but i wouldn't be surprised if she was

00:18:47.340 like on only fans or something these days i don't know what she's doing

00:18:50.580 but the way she she behaved if you you guys know what you know what i mean

00:18:55.820 choices decision free will we are responsible for our own sin

00:19:04.880 i i look that's what i believe and if you think that makes me not religious enough

00:19:11.840 i i that's going to make the men not religious enough to keep losing men

00:19:17.320 keep doing what you guys are doing okay so what i see in churches and now i'd like to preface

00:19:25.060 there are three types of men and are three types of people i generally see in church

00:19:32.180 please don't talk to me about the exceptions i know there are exceptions i know it's not all that

00:19:39.120 but these are the general trends you know and by the way in case blessings church is watching

00:19:47.660 no i'm not i'm not give them a disclaimer please

00:19:53.400 i'm not saying his church is like this but it probably it now

00:19:58.220 it probably it probably is super special and different just you know please please don't

00:20:06.400 give my man blessing like any trouble at church please let him have a good time you know please

00:20:11.580 don't now okay for that what thank you for that disclaimer did it help or hurt no that's okay

00:20:17.480 okay okay so there's three categories of people that i see in church

00:20:24.920 now the first thing i've noticed is simp men in church tend to take the biggest l's i have

00:20:33.480 ever seen in my life and it's worse it's worse okay let me let me show you guys this

00:20:39.360 all right i'm gonna show you this was a chastity speaker that came to my high school

00:20:44.840 now i want you guys to put yourself i i was in sales right i worked in sales

00:20:51.300 And if a product wasn't selling, and I'm not saying women are products, but I'm going to look at them in this way so I can explain a concept.

00:21:01.080 If a product isn't selling, the worst thing you can do is shame the customer and say, bad customer, you are wrong for not buying this product.

00:21:12.080 You've got to ask, what's wrong?

00:21:13.260 Why don't people want to buy?

00:21:15.020 Is it the product?

00:21:16.180 Is it the salesperson?

00:21:18.540 Why aren't they buying?

00:21:19.600 the worst thing ever I sold copiers the worst thing ever I could do

00:21:23.680 and and I sold the worst product ever okay was going to a sale and say

00:21:30.740 you guys are not all copiers are like that not all not all copiers are like there are good

00:21:40.200 copiers I sell good copier you would look at me like I'm crazy but if I say anything about

00:21:46.640 the issues with church women and the reasons men are leaving then I'm the bad guy okay now this is

00:21:53.880 a church woman that's going around they went to my high school I remember I remember them because

00:21:58.760 I thought this sounded crazy when I was in high school too this is her testimony and I want to

00:22:04.080 ask you guys if you think this sounds like a win for men this sounds like something they would want

00:22:10.040 to sign up for and by? This wife, okay. Now, okay.

00:22:18.280 What is love? Well, for me, my father left when I was two, and I was surrounded by aunts and

00:22:24.520 uncles and even my grandmother who was divorced. So for me, love didn't last. Love was temporary,

00:22:31.000 and it wasn't a forever thing. So that carried into my relationships. When I was about a sophomore

00:22:36.600 in high school i had my first serious relationship and after a while of dating we thought we were in

00:22:41.800 love and everything was great and slowly the pressure started to set into the relationship

00:22:47.560 and it came to the point where he said well girl if you really love me

00:22:52.840 so i'm just pointing this out it's all him right you weren't sexual at all

00:22:59.640 what are our church women known for being sexual blessing they do go crazy

00:23:06.600 do you think okay as a man when you hear this story do you believe that it was

00:23:12.960 all him I mean in ladies I'm trying to explain how men hear this you're right

00:23:23.700 you were just used okay you truly love me you prove it to me you'd show me just

00:23:28.800 how much you love me so I needed advice so I went to my girlfriends and I said

00:23:33.600 Well, now it's the friend's fault.

00:23:37.460 Now, to be fair, we do give each other terrible advice.

00:23:41.020 We totally do.

00:23:42.560 But I want you to, guys, when you said I did something wrong and you said, oh, well, he wanted me to do it.

00:23:49.480 Now, again, I'm going to tell you guys a story.

00:23:52.060 You love my story.

00:23:53.420 When I was in high school, okay, when I was in high school, I, for the most part, I was pretty mild.

00:23:59.600 I didn't really, I was so, I played three sports.

00:24:03.400 I was so enthralled in volleyball, in basketball, I just didn't have a lot of free time.

00:24:08.280 It's been a common theme throughout my life.

00:24:09.880 I've always just been a busy, busy gal, okay?

00:24:13.060 Now, my last summer before I left for college, I wanted to throw a very small party.

00:24:23.700 Now I know everyone's going to say, Pearl's the word.

00:24:26.240 Okay, whatever, you know?

00:24:27.120 Now, to be fair, to be fair, now, I got caught.

00:24:33.400 and when I got caught I did the same thing she's doing there look at I'm still a woman I'm still

00:24:39.620 a woman all right but but I did do the same thing I was like but dad my friends my dad was having

00:24:45.460 none of that he said if your friends jumped off a bridge would you too don't you hate that and

00:24:52.080 yeah and they sent me I was grounded for like they sent me they sent me to rural Wisconsin

00:24:57.820 lesson. And I learned a lesson. Okay, I learned a lesson. I never did it again. I never, you know, I

00:25:06.220 never, would I have learned that lesson if my dad let me get away with saying that? If my dad said

00:25:15.840 to me, Hannah, they call me by my first name, Hannah, you're right, it was your friends, you poor

00:25:24.620 baby that's what you guys do with female sin that's why your women are going crazy because

00:25:30.700 you coddle them and you tell them exactly what they want to hear and i know because i grew i grew

00:25:35.560 up around you catholic women all right you will not none of you will fool me okay so we're gonna

00:25:41.040 keep going we're gonna keep going he kind of wants to do this with me and he wants to do that

00:25:45.360 and they said well what's wrong with you everybody's doing it you love him right and i thought well

00:25:52.840 yeah I love him so at the age of 15 I lost my virginity thinking it was gonna

00:25:58.220 cause this huge great emotional bond between us and we'd be on cloud nine and

00:26:02.260 so in love and in all actuality eventually it destroyed any love we had

00:26:07.860 in that relationship and all respect was just thrown out the window because if I

00:26:13.220 couldn't even respect my own body how is he supposed to respect it and after a

00:26:18.220 while of dating and it seemed like he don't want to spend time with me anymore

00:26:21.340 He was basically spending the time with my body and when a girl is being used

00:26:26.080 She there it is

00:26:29.220 There it is

00:26:30.880 Okay, do you know what I noticed guys?

00:26:33.940 I have never seen more sexuality than from women now. What do I mean by this if

00:26:39.320 You go to a male rock concert. I have never seen

00:26:44.820 Men approaching women at a concert or in a setting

00:26:49.840 Okay, let me explain this in a different way.

00:26:51.860 When I go to a concert, women are trying so hard to sleep with the man on stage.

00:26:57.980 Let's say, let's take, I use Drake as an example a lot.

00:27:01.080 They throw bras at him.

00:27:02.920 They throw panties at him.

00:27:04.620 And I've seen this with high-end male celebrities.

00:27:08.080 Dan Bolvarian has slept with a thousand women.

00:27:11.560 Okay.

00:27:15.220 Women are sexual.

00:27:16.840 At times, more sexual than men.

00:27:18.840 so when a woman has sex she wants to have why is she being used now I don't really care how you

00:27:30.860 academically say men and women are different it doesn't really matter to me I I'm just looking

00:27:36.900 at what I see I look at reality and the problem is many church men have never had a woman be very

00:27:47.040 sexual towards them so they think women are these innocent creatures sorry to burst your bubble

00:27:54.480 guys okay now let's let's pull it up let's pull it up knows it she knows it in the depths of her

00:28:03.420 heart she may deny it she may ignore it but she knows it and I knew it and after a while we were

00:28:08.880 constantly fighting he was cheating on me and we broke up and went our separate ways now I will

00:28:15.520 never forget the day when he walked away from me for the very last time and as he walked away from

00:28:22.380 me I want you guys to understand how men are going to hear this okay I just want you to understand

00:28:26.800 this isn't what I think this is how men think men don't generally break up with women

00:28:32.840 so generally speaking if a man hears you were dumped they think you're crazy now I'm not saying

00:28:42.560 every girl's got a different situation as women i know all you guys hear is your situation i'm not

00:28:47.440 saying saying this is how men will hear this okay am i wrong blessing am i lying no no you know that

00:28:55.040 am i am i telling the truth or am i lying speaking the truth oh i could think about but not at his

00:29:02.480 church yeah let him come back let my man come back was that guys taking something with him

00:29:11.800 that never belonged to him in the first place.

00:29:15.280 But I can't get it back, right?

00:29:16.560 What's the point?

00:29:17.240 It's already gone.

00:29:18.680 So there I was in the cafeteria talking with my girlfriends.

00:29:22.360 And I came to this conclusion, okay,

00:29:24.500 if a guy can date me for about six months

00:29:28.200 without sleeping with me,

00:29:30.740 then he must love me.

00:29:32.700 Then I'll sleep with him.

00:29:33.980 And I think now six months, six months is the-

00:29:37.700 Okay, this is, this is a lie.

00:29:40.960 Guys wouldn't deal with us if there wasn't sex involved.

00:29:45.480 Look, I'm just being real here, ladies.

00:29:48.200 I know the tribe, this isn't going to sound nice, okay?

00:29:51.400 Most men, now I understand like working,

00:29:55.380 I understand other situations, fine.

00:29:57.720 But most men are not trying to deal with most women

00:30:00.540 unless there's a possibility of having sex.

00:30:04.920 That's part of it for men.

00:30:08.140 The church acts like that's not important.

00:30:10.960 it is to men all right price that I put on my body if it gives me just a little bit of that

00:30:18.500 time just a little bit of that attention that's a little I mean six months a little

00:30:23.320 definition of love and I carry this mentality all through high school he was the first guy

00:30:31.520 that I slept with but he wasn't the last because sin took me further than I ever wanted to go

00:30:36.060 or ever expected to go. Now, after a while living this lifestyle, I got into the partying. I got

00:30:42.440 into the drinking. I got into the clubbing. I got into the drugs. You name it, I was into it.

00:30:47.300 And granted, at the time, yeah, I thought it was a lot of fun. It was very attractive. And I know

00:30:52.980 what that's like. But I also know what it's like to wake up the next day when that party's over,

00:31:00.000 when your friends are gone, and when you're there by yourself. And I remember waking up thinking,

00:31:05.040 I can't believe I did that last night I hope I don't have to see his face in the

00:31:10.620 hallway at school on Monday what if everybody finds out what we did all of

00:31:14.460 these things constantly going through my head but the night before my friends

00:31:18.240 would always say oh it's all fun and games don't worry about it it's not a

00:31:22.380 big deal but the next day the fun and games were over and I remember one day

00:31:27.540 waking up so disgusted and overwhelmed with the feeling of worthlessness and

00:31:34.280 And I thought to myself, what's not the big deal here?

00:31:38.280 My body, my self-respect, my dignity, what's not the big deal here?

00:31:43.620 And I wasn't happy.

00:31:45.440 And I knew I wasn't happy, but I thought, well, I'm damaged goods.

00:31:49.160 It's already too late.

00:31:50.900 There's nothing I can do.

00:31:52.840 Now, after a while of living this lifestyle, my mother had an idea of what was going on

00:31:57.740 with me.

00:31:58.160 And she said, well, there's a chastity talk at a church this weekend, and you're going.

00:32:02.460 And I said, what?

00:32:04.280 I said, I am not going to a chastity talk to Liz.

00:32:07.700 Does some guy talk about sex?

00:32:09.200 Thanks, but no thanks.

00:32:10.400 She said, well, you're going if you like it or not.

00:32:12.340 And I said, okay, fine.

00:32:14.080 I'll sit in the back of the church for 15 minutes.

00:32:17.720 And then I'm out of there.

00:32:18.960 I have a party to go to.

00:32:19.940 I have friends to see.

00:32:21.240 I don't have time.

00:32:22.580 But in that 15 minutes, God had changed my life

00:32:27.520 because he is the God of second chances.

00:32:31.460 And there was this guy that got up

00:32:33.780 and he talked about all the party and all the sex all the pornography everything that he had been

00:32:39.060 into and he just laid it out and i felt like that guy he had grabbed my hand out of the audience and

00:32:45.620 he walked through my life like he could see the things i was most ashamed of in hiding

00:32:51.300 and i just watched him that he carried about himself that i didn't see that in my friends

00:32:56.820 i didn't see that in the places i went to and i definitely didn't see that okay and i'd like

00:33:00.660 to clarify right now there's nothing wrong with her changing her life i am not shaming or faulting

00:33:10.420 that what i am telling you is men are not dying to wife up women that have crazy pasts

00:33:21.780 and that's the problem in the church is you parade around these women as your speakers

00:33:26.900 and that becomes the quality of the women in the church

00:33:31.020 and you're telling women they can get a get out of jail free card

00:33:35.320 when in all honesty for every one woman that it works out for

00:33:39.960 there's 10 women it didn't

00:33:42.160 okay wait let me let me play the rest

00:33:46.820 because i know she ends up like having getting married to another guy

00:33:50.720 having kids

00:33:52.860 everything right

00:33:55.480 but is that a win for men the new guy had to wait to have sex with her till marriage

00:34:03.100 when everyone all the other guys got it for free i mean is this is this a win for men i want you

00:34:11.540 to think about it from the man's point of view guys that bust their ass to become something

00:34:18.080 they work their whole lives to become better at talking to women to improve their social skills

00:34:24.220 to make money to be handsome to be charismatic and the church says yes yes here are the women

00:34:31.020 that we will reward you this is common and the problem you get with these women is many of

00:34:40.620 them are not attracted to their husbands because the reason they had sex with the first guys was

00:34:49.180 because they were attracted to them there are many church men and women in sexless marriages

00:34:57.260 with women that have used sex to control their husbands and they do it from the beginning

00:35:03.500 to get commitment from them they do this early on okay but we're going to get into that later

00:35:12.860 but he had one quality above all of them that i wanted more than anything

00:35:16.780 and it's that he wasn't ashamed of himself i sat in my seat trying to figure out one day

00:35:23.300 one day after i started living that lifestyle of just true peace and joy not worried what i'd done

00:35:30.280 prior that night prior that weekend always worried but never any peace and i realized in that moment

00:35:36.820 i needed to get my standards out of the gutter and raise them as high as i possibly could and

00:35:41.980 start respecting my body this will not work for most women she seems some women if they're

00:35:48.320 attractive enough to pull this off they can do it but i was in sales so imagine this is the

00:35:54.400 christian woman product okay this is the christian woman product you are she did all the partying

00:36:03.040 she did all the everything they lowered she lowered the value now she's asking for a higher

00:36:08.600 price while doing nothing but praying i'm sorry it doesn't work like that to men and if it did

00:36:16.160 work like that you guys would have a better reputation do not blame me for the reputation

00:36:22.220 that church women have it would be more useful to say to women hey if you want to wait till marriage

00:36:31.420 you are going to have to provide a hell of a lot of value outside of sex that is going to be very

00:36:36.820 difficult to acquire if that's what you want to do now. But we say pray and God will give you a

00:36:45.820 husband. There are women that works for but I'm not in the business of selling dreams. That is

00:36:51.540 not what I've seen. What I have seen from country to country is churches filled with women, single

00:36:58.440 mothers, ex-party girls, and simps. Nobody's getting together. I don't see young families

00:37:07.620 in churches anymore. I see the same problems happening across the board. And you guys keep

00:37:14.260 shooting the messenger like I did something to do this. I'm just telling you what's going on.

00:37:19.480 For once, and start respecting my God. Now, our God is the God of second chances. And he changed

00:37:27.320 my life he turned me around and he gave me the grace yes god can forgive women but men do not

00:37:34.500 have to accept your previous sin men don't have to do it and ladies if you have a brother or a

00:37:43.720 father maybe that's dating again some person a man in your life that you love you would never want

00:37:51.100 them to be put in a situation where they're dating a woman with a crazy, crazy past, okay?

00:38:01.360 To get out of that lifestyle. And I tried so many times to get out of that lifestyle

00:38:06.600 on my own because I was miserable. I wasn't happy. I was disgusted with myself. And I just

00:38:14.060 needed to get out. And I tried so many times and I promised myself, never going to do that again.

00:38:18.920 And then the next weekend, I was doing the same exact things.

00:38:22.100 But then I realized when you asked the grace from God and I begged him to get me out of

00:38:27.720 that lifestyle, he did.

00:38:29.940 And if you really want to turn your life around, if you really want to start over, you have

00:38:34.680 to do it with Jesus or you're going to fall, right?

00:38:37.960 That's fine.

00:38:38.760 Yes, yes, you should do it with Jesus.

00:38:40.660 But don't expect men to make your problem theirs.

00:38:44.800 And that's what I'm talking about.

00:38:46.260 you guys keep saying I'm shaming the forgiveness I'm shaming her changing her life no that's a

00:38:51.620 good thing but her and her husband would go around and give these chastity talks across the country

00:38:58.680 it's always the same you can take it off it's always the same story it's always the woman with

00:39:04.980 a promiscuous past you can take off the video it's always the woman with the promiscuous past

00:39:10.620 with the man that was a virgin it's generally the same story okay occasionally you get it

00:39:18.460 the other way around and we reward these women what would be more effective actually churches

00:39:25.720 if you want notes from pearl what would be more effective would be showing all of the women it

00:39:30.860 didn't work out for stop selling hope and dreams i don't know why you guys make that the business

00:39:38.280 Many women try this, it doesn't work, and there's consequences, and I see them in your pews.

00:39:46.380 Sometimes I wonder if the church wants to leave women single so they can get more money,

00:39:50.980 because single women fund a lot of these churches.

00:39:54.260 I question that sometimes.

00:39:57.180 Now, let's talk about, I'm going to talk about some of the archetypes that I see in church.

00:40:03.240 Okay, so I talked about simp men.

00:40:05.840 simp men tend to take the biggest l's they tend to have little experience with women so they tend

00:40:11.780 to simp for a lifetime many of these men will tell this to you themselves or brag about it

00:40:18.720 um they tend to oh i think i read this already they tend to put women on a pad i read this right

00:40:25.620 should i read it again yes just one more time for the simp side there okay i can't remember

00:40:31.940 okay so simp men tend to take the biggest l's these are the men that tend to go on stage and

00:40:40.340 brag about wifing up an ex hoe they brag about this they tend to have little experience with

00:40:47.720 women so they simp for a lifetime many of these men will tell you themselves or even brag about

00:40:52.780 it any sexual activity he will always blame the men because in general they have never been

00:40:58.820 sexually pursued by a woman. They have no idea what that's like. They tend to put women on a

00:41:05.480 pedestal and make them godlike. They tend to be the biggest suckers. They tend to make everything

00:41:10.780 the man's fault if the relationship goes south. They tend to believe in born-again virgins and

00:41:17.560 sign up for that. Okay, the next archetype, I'm actually going to go to the controlling wives.

00:41:24.540 Now, there's the simps, the controlling wives, and the born-again virgins.

00:41:30.720 Now, the controlling wives, we don't know about their past.

00:41:33.580 Many of them have pasts.

00:41:35.320 Many of them don't have pasts.

00:41:37.260 But the commonality with the controlling wives is none of them have evidence of anything.

00:41:43.180 Nothing major anyways.

00:41:46.320 Okay.

00:41:47.340 Many of these wives marry men they don't like and make everyone else pay for it.

00:41:53.100 these many of these women love to lecture us on what godly men are despite not being a virgin

00:42:01.160 themselves they have no humility they constantly pick at their husband's flaws by saying he is not

00:42:06.560 a godly man and god himself gets to decide oh shoot hold on i'll say today you're preaching

00:42:17.640 today pearl hold on hold on hold on ah freaking hold on hold on hold on hold on um one second

00:42:27.560 one second sorry sorry sorry can i get some ones in the chat if you feel like pearl is preaching

00:42:35.040 today i'll do it again i'll do it again all right um

00:42:47.640 so all the guys on x or 3 000 new x if you can hit the like button sorry sorry sorry i had

00:42:57.740 i had a little emergency but it's okay it's all right all right they're the web the christian

00:43:03.680 women in the chat they're like god got her to shut up no i'm coming back bitches sorry sorry

00:43:09.080 sorry okay okay all right again christian women i don't see a difference between you guys in the

00:43:14.540 general population. You guys tend to be just as spiteful, vindictive, and outright mean as general

00:43:24.180 women. Okay, so again, these women love to lecture us on what godly men are. Despite not being virgins

00:43:33.600 themselves, they constantly pick at their husband's flaws by saying he is not a godly man, as if they

00:43:39.740 are God themselves and get to decide. These are the same women that say, I am not godly enough

00:43:46.280 to talk about this. The way that women react to me, take notes guys, because that is how they will

00:43:52.500 react to you. I am just a random stranger on the internet. You'll be married to these women.

00:43:59.600 Watch out, have fun. Christian women have a tendency to use the Bible to control their

00:44:04.780 husbands and tell them how to talk. Remember, the way that women react to red pill is how they react

00:44:10.160 to hearing information they do not like. Remember, the red pill is simply men trading notes. It's

00:44:17.660 simply men. It's barber. It's locker room talk, barbershop talk. Imagine being home and that's

00:44:26.240 how your wife will react if she hears anything she doesn't like. You will see these women call

00:44:32.360 me hateful, problematic, harmful. These are the Christian women that are at school meetings

00:44:38.060 telling you how to raise your children. These are the women that force the you-know-what

00:44:45.140 on everybody. These are the mask women oftentimes. These women weaponize sex against their husbands.

00:44:55.220 shame shame i i see the same shame insult guilt and need to be right from christian women

00:45:02.360 that i see from normal women there is no difference if there was a difference again

00:45:07.420 don't blame me for your reputation all right they will call oh oh they will call everyone else

00:45:15.360 of this world as if they themselves hold the keys to god's have to heaven as if they themselves give

00:45:24.880 out these keys that's what you'll see oh you're just worldly what the hell does that supposed to

00:45:30.540 mean crazy lady so are you all right they love the verse husbands must love their wives as christ

00:45:39.180 loves the church yet at the same time will tell men how to talk tell men to watch their tone tell

00:45:46.920 men to watch their delivery that doesn't sound like submission ladies um okay if christian women

00:45:54.360 leave marriages. They need a reason. Christian women will band together to label a man abuser,

00:46:00.400 oppressive, and evil if the woman chose to leave. The woman is always right. As I have said this

00:46:05.900 many times before, we saw this with Lauren Southern, Stephen Crowder. Everybody banded

00:46:12.960 together. Nobody called out the holes in their story. You will see conservative women

00:46:20.720 file you will see conservative women rally behind divorced women and still call them more christian

00:46:29.700 than me even though they chose to break up their own home and what and what does that affect oh my

00:46:36.400 gosh the children women care more about women's reputation than they care about children this

00:46:41.820 stuff leads to divorce this stuff is serious and yet everything is pearl's fault christian women

00:46:49.800 tend to be very concerned with power. They want the power to preach and exert control over their

00:46:54.920 husbands. They're more concerned with looking good than doing good. Christian women swear they

00:47:01.900 cannot trust their husband because he is not godly enough. They will swear they are the

00:47:06.140 orbiters of what makes a man godly. They will swear they are the orbiters of what makes a man

00:47:11.540 a real man. Who are you to decide? If the relationship goes south, it is always his fault.

00:47:18.600 christian women also live in fear many of them also excuse women's divorces by labeling the

00:47:26.920 abuse of men if there was no police report filed i don't believe you get a police report

00:47:36.100 you're go to the police get a report otherwise you're just gonna let us all get beat up by this

00:47:43.620 guy that doesn't make any sense these are the women who are used to defining what they love

00:47:52.460 defining what christ looks like loving the church and if their husbands don't measure up these women

00:47:58.840 are gone nada nayski they leave just like normal women when the wife

00:48:08.860 oh when the wives christian wives often blame everything that is going wrong in their marriage

00:48:18.500 on the husband not believing in christianity i often hear the citation studied

00:48:24.960 or i often hear the citation that when men go to church the whole family follows what christian

00:48:33.400 women do is they weaponize this study and make it the husband's problem that they're not godly

00:48:42.260 enough when really they should be asking if they're so godly why doesn't their husband want

00:48:47.280 to go to church with them if you're so pleasant and amazing to be around i hate to break it to

00:48:54.000 you but i find non-religious men more godlike than 90 of christian women yes you 10 there is

00:49:03.160 10% maybe of Christian women that are so awesome and pure. And I love meeting them. You know,

00:49:09.880 I'll give, I'll give, um, you know, Bryson Gray, he's, he's married and his wife, she's like the

00:49:15.880 sweetest woman. I just, I just felt her like innocence and like kindness, just, just being

00:49:22.400 there for the day. Okay. These women exist, but they are rare. They, they are the exception.

00:49:27.920 they are not the rule what is more common is what i am describing why is this your reputation

00:49:34.660 all right servant leader christian women love this verse and by servant leader generally christian

00:49:44.980 women mean to put his wants and his needs last always i i mean servant leader this this sounds

00:49:55.140 the way you guys describe it, it sounds like slavery to me. And don't get mad at me when

00:50:01.920 you're losing half of young men. This isn't me. I didn't do this. I'm just pointing out the

00:50:08.400 problem. When you interview a thousand people, you start to see some patterns and trends of

00:50:14.780 behavior. Women's groups have a reputation of being gossip centers where women simply gossip

00:50:21.940 and to speak ill of their husbands and now you are seeing more women running women's groups

00:50:30.060 god help us god help us christian women love telling men to watch their tone and delivery

00:50:39.540 you will listen oh and finally christian women listen to their pastor before they listen to

00:50:46.980 their husband. That doesn't make any sense. How do you trust your husband enough to have a child by

00:50:53.620 him, but yet still go to a pastor for advice before you go to your husband? Okay, an example

00:51:04.080 that I see of the way that Christian, this is why I put her in the title, no offense. Now, I'm not

00:51:11.940 personal you might be awesome otherwise this is just the clip i saw this is often how i see

00:51:18.060 christian women reacting to information they do not like remember the red pill is just men trading

00:51:23.960 notes you guys don't have to watch it you don't have to listen to it you don't have to interact

00:51:28.620 with it if you don't want to yet you go on these channels you go out of your way to see it

00:51:33.720 and then cry about what's being said it's madness to me okay i'm gonna

00:51:41.940 hey guys welcome to relatable happy monday hope everyone had a wonderful weekend um so i spent a

00:51:53.460 lot of time over the past couple days thinking about what i really want to discuss today how i

00:52:00.500 want to approach this topic we are going to talk about tim keller the pastor the author who died

00:52:08.740 I'm bad at putting timestamps guys so please excuse me and dress something that's going on

00:52:16.140 online and if you're not really online very much particularly if you're not on Twitter you might

00:52:20.420 have no idea about what I'm about to discuss this trend this movement that I'm about to talk about

00:52:26.900 or how any of it has to do with me in this podcast I don't want to make it about me I don't want to

00:52:32.180 make it about me I want to make it about encouraging you encouraging Christians particularly Christian

00:52:37.640 women. I've seen a movement both within the secular and the Christian right. I consider myself

00:52:46.080 on the Christian right. I am a conservative. I'm on the right side of the political cultural

00:52:52.220 spectrum. I am a Christian. I consider myself a conservative Christian because I believe that

00:52:59.200 what is referred to as a conservative view of the Bible is actually just a biblical view of the

00:53:04.580 bible and faith um but the movement that i'm talking about within a segment of the christian

00:53:11.900 right could maybe be called like the trad movement or in some cases and again you might not right now

00:53:19.480 recognize where this trend is or it's like women we can't get to the point right

00:53:24.440 i'm like a minute in i'm sorry where it's going and that's okay and i'll give you some examples i

00:53:32.280 don't want to give too many specific examples because there's so many different caveats that

00:53:36.240 I have to put like this person is kind of part of this movement this is not this is a tweet that

00:53:40.200 kind of represents it yeah and I'll tell you why because again there's the core basic eyes trading

00:53:44.880 notes it's not me all right I'm just a chick talking about this stuff and then people yeah

00:53:51.660 yeah yeah but it doesn't but those of you who are in conservatism certainly conservative media or

00:53:56.640 who just consume it. You've probably seen the direction that all of this is going. And

00:54:03.060 particularly if you're not on Twitter, you may not have seen it, but I'm going to try to explain

00:54:08.180 it the best I can. And there are good chances that you at least have a feeling about what I'm

00:54:13.900 talking about. So I'm like two minutes into this. Are we sorry? You think that the red pill? I'm

00:54:19.400 sorry. I need to get timestamps. I'm sorry, guys. I'm sorry. I apologize. As I called it would just

00:54:24.020 be kind of becoming a conservative and maybe it was at one point realizing that the mainstream

00:54:29.540 narratives about everything race gender economics is just wrong but it's actually now kind of morphed

00:54:36.700 into a strange collection of perpetually online men who complain about women okay notice how she's

00:54:45.500 already starting, the shaming language. This is what I mean when I say that Christian women use

00:54:54.100 the same shame, insult, guilt, need to be right as non-Christian women. It is the same. I'm sorry,

00:55:01.340 I grew up around y'all. Y'all are mostly Catholics, but Christians. I have been in the hood in London,

00:55:09.080 arguably I don't see a difference I don't see a difference sorry and equate masculinity to

00:55:16.980 physical fitness and ultra self-sufficiency and what I mean by that is like in some of these

00:55:21.860 circles it's looked down upon to be a monogamous in a monogamous relationship or in a marriage at

00:55:27.140 all um in some they emphasize the importance of getting a trad service oriented submissive wife

00:55:36.060 why is that wrong a trad service orient blessing isn't that what you're supposed to want

00:55:44.700 now it's like we're shaming men for wanting what they want

00:55:50.540 and uh these are often represented damn it blessing get you a combative woman

00:55:57.380 go get you someone to argue with twitter accounts constantly

00:56:04.880 posting tiktok videos of girls saying stupid things or stories of girls betraying their

00:56:10.800 boyfriends or girls at the gym wearing scandalous clothing uh angry that guys are looking at them

00:56:18.080 basically this group both of those who are like no i'm non-monogamous and i think you know being

00:56:24.400 a strong man is really just kind of sowing my wild oats everywhere and the side that's like oh no

00:56:29.960 we need to get married to like the most submissive trad wife out there both of these groups it seems

00:56:36.340 from kind of what they're saying they view girls or depict girls women as dumb as promiscuous okay

00:56:42.940 so again if women are dumb and promiscuous it's the men depicting them as dumb and promiscuous

00:56:49.660 we couldn't possibly just do that behavior oh it's the men the men the men

00:56:57.120 god you guys are killing me sometimes this stop s-i-m-p-s-i-m-p-i-n-g stop simping sorry

00:57:09.560 all is radical feminists they believe that feminism is the cause of all of our problems

00:57:14.740 they're really not that different than incels involuntary celibates who

00:57:18.340 think the same thing girls women that's the they're the core of all of our problems as a country

00:57:24.580 and speaking as someone who knows and has talked about the modern female propensity to be overly

00:57:32.760 self-focused and to be duped by any political narrative that plays upon our feelings to the

00:57:39.120 detriment see again we are just duped you innocent i don't know blessing is it is it unbiblical to

00:57:53.120 say it's a choice is that unbiblical you're a pastor i don't know they say i'm not i'm not a

00:58:00.280 i'm not a real christian they say i'm not like enough so i don't know you may you're probably

00:58:07.020 enough being a pastor is that unbiblical to say it's a choice no no no am i wrong is this

00:58:13.580 no no just the men have choices but women don't we're just duped of our country um the first one

00:58:22.140 was the basis of my first book, the trendy narcissism that I talk about a lot. The latter,

00:58:28.740 the overemphasis on feelings when it comes to political and cultural decisions is the focus

00:58:33.680 of my second book coming out next year. So I'm no coddler of women. I'm, I'm no feminist. And yet

00:58:39.440 I see, and I'm concerned by the different flavors of woman hatred. I see it.

00:58:45.380 See, I'm no feminist, but I'm behaving in the same way that feminists do, because now she's

00:58:51.300 going to, the men are misogynists. Now they're just women haters. I'm going to tell men how to talk.

00:59:02.180 Online discourse today. Yes, of course, from the left in the form of elevating men who pretend

00:59:09.320 they're women, excoriating every discontent white woman as a Karen. Yet we know that progressives

00:59:15.720 hate God's design. They hate true femininity and true masculinity. And so I'm used to and expect

00:59:22.480 a kind of a form of woman hatred from a lot of people on the left, but also from the right.

00:59:28.560 Some of whom, some people on the right, love to play the women are dumb and have caused most of

00:59:35.100 the societal problems that we have today. I mean, is that true? I mean, is it,

00:59:45.720 is it is it am i wrong now i'm trying to stay youtube safe i'll just keep that one to myself

00:59:54.920 i'll keep that one trope they love to play on that trope and there's crossover between this

01:00:01.720 and the that's the red pill and then the trad movement which is also just a weird part of

01:00:08.560 conservatism which claims to be a push for traditional ways of life traditional marriage

01:00:13.340 And of course, I am a huge advocate, the biggest advocate of traditional marriage and think we

01:00:18.260 should elevate it. But this online sect. But not, not the way that men want to, just the way I want

01:00:24.920 to. That I'm talking about that you've probably seen before isn't necessarily talking about

01:00:29.820 biblical marriage or biblical gender roles. There is a strange overemphasis in this community,

01:00:36.100 if you will, movement, trend, whatever. I think it's a grift, but a strange overemphasis on the

01:00:43.020 need to subdue women. And on creating this almost like 19th century aesthetic in your home and way

01:00:49.080 of life, there's a lot of criticism from this crowd of women who, a criticism of women who

01:00:56.860 work in any way that is not strictly domestic. And here's what I mean when I say that this group

01:01:03.460 is not necessarily Christian, even though they're quote unquote trad. There was a young woman the

01:01:08.180 other day who tagged me in her Instagram story. She was very angry about something that I said.

01:01:11.560 I don't even remember what.

01:01:13.080 She's an influencer, I guess.

01:01:14.800 I think I agree with her on this point.

01:01:17.040 Small following.

01:01:17.760 I didn't respond to anything that she said, but she claims proudly.

01:01:21.200 Yeah, yeah, yeah.

01:01:22.020 She's with the, now she's going to talk about the trads with the bikini pictures on Instagram.

01:01:30.320 We'll agree there.

01:01:31.320 But you guys, this is what I'm showing you.

01:01:33.800 Men are sick of this.

01:01:35.200 They're sick of being told how to talk.

01:01:37.660 They're sick of being told to watch their tone.

01:01:40.160 And the more we do this, the more it's just going to not work.

01:01:49.960 You're going to keep seeing young men leaving and then crying about that they're leaving and blaming Pearl for it like I did this.

01:01:56.760 Okay, so that's the controlling wives archetype that I see in the church.

01:02:03.020 okay so the next one we have the simps the controlling wives and the born again virgins

01:02:10.760 now the born again now the born again virgins are the single mothers x of chicks and women

01:02:19.820 that maybe had a history of sex work and single motherhood these are women that have some sort of

01:02:27.920 public scarlet letter, per se. Maybe it's an OF account. Maybe it's a child. I don't know, okay?

01:02:37.820 But these women tend to come to church to be absolved of all of the consequences of their

01:02:43.780 decisions. Many of these women mask it under finding God, but generally speaking, it's more

01:02:50.640 to find a husband and be absolved of any wrongdoings. Many of these women passed over the

01:02:57.460 men that would have married them in their youth gave their best years to someone that didn't

01:03:04.000 appreciate them and still expect those men to clean up the mess after and to be fair to them

01:03:10.060 some of you simps do it some of you in church but for every one woman that finds a simp there's five

01:03:18.000 that don't and you'll see this by looking at all the young women in church that are single

01:03:23.620 young virgins you guys are so bad that men don't even want virgins anymore because of the headache

01:03:30.280 you are known to come with virgins even have the reputation of being controlling

01:03:36.880 of being controlling and even withholding sex after marriage don't shoot the messenger okay

01:03:45.680 this is just what the men tell me men are biologically wired to want a virgin and the

01:03:51.220 reputation of christian virgin women is so bad that men are avoiding the hassle

01:03:57.060 don't shoot the messenger this is just what the guys are saying to me

01:04:02.160 this is what the guys are saying to me

01:04:04.980 okay so many women come to church wanting to do a rebrand

01:04:13.760 if you will notice the women that do tend to find a husband in church or a simp generally

01:04:22.180 she is older than him and the younger man just doesn't know any better many of these men are

01:04:30.600 roped into a lifetime decision based on the advice that trads are giving them when oftentimes there

01:04:39.120 are predatory women in church. Predatory. Okay. Generally, these women put on a dress, tell

01:04:50.800 everyone how godly they are, but usually the mask comes off eventually. Usually to whatever

01:04:56.980 simp they got to marry them. Okay. So now this all came full circle. I need to get the clip.

01:05:04.600 this all came full circle during my debate with michael knolls okay this all came full circle

01:05:10.980 and if you guys want to hate me for milking this interview i'm going to do it and i'm going to do

01:05:16.260 it more i'm gonna i'm gonna keep doing it so you can be mad let me let me get this time stamp

01:05:21.620 so during the debate with michael knolls um during the debate with michael knolls

01:05:29.800 it was actually quite ironic so we were talking about only only can we say OF on YouTube is there

01:05:38.800 anything against let's just leave it for now okay let me make sure this is the right part

01:05:44.620 whatever that's the point there's actually there I mean miracles happen but I would have that okay

01:05:50.400 okay there we go I think it's here let me so how do we know our purpose

01:05:55.760 men have what

01:05:59.800 have the scriptures we have revelation but we also have our conscience and

01:06:05.100 reading us toward marriage men and you would disagree no you wouldn't well so

01:06:10.520 there you go no no well sort of sort of I think men I think that in the current

01:06:17.820 market there are just not enough wives to go around there there are not enough

01:06:21.760 wives to go women that deserve to be wise in in my opinion okay you'd agree

01:06:28.200 on that, right? Well, I don't know exactly what you mean by that. Maybe I would agree,

01:06:32.860 but I don't know exactly what you mean by it. Okay. Do you think men should have standards?

01:06:37.500 Yes. Do you think it's okay for them to want a woman that's in shape? Do you think that's

01:06:42.180 an okay standard? Yeah, that's good. Okay. A girl that's religious. Would you say that's

01:06:46.260 good? Okay. But that's not the majority. That's not the majority. So what are men supposed

01:06:51.320 to do in the meantime? They're supposed to convince the women to get in shape and get

01:06:54.180 religion. Good luck. I've done it for a year. Good luck. Maybe the men would be more persuasive than

01:07:01.160 you would. Good luck. I don't know. Did the OnlyFans models quit that you interviewed?

01:07:07.860 I don't know if that, you know, I've only interviewed a few on whatever. No, no, no, the shows, that's the point.

01:07:12.280 There's actually, there. I mean, miracles happen, but I wouldn't bet on it. There are a couple of

01:07:15.800 gals, there are a couple of gals who've written into my show, not from the whatever podcast,

01:07:18.500 but who were watching my show and, you know, really watching in the member block and everything,

01:07:22.580 who were both like online

01:07:24.940 pornographers to some degree

01:07:27.040 and one said

01:07:29.180 she was going to quit. I kind of lost track of her in the show.

01:07:31.200 Another one quit, had a major

01:07:33.080 conversion and you know

01:07:35.000 what a wonderful evidence

01:07:36.980 of the glory of God. Was it the one on Twitter? Yes.

01:07:39.260 Yeah, her OF link was still up.

01:07:41.000 So a lot of times... She denied this.

01:07:42.620 Someone said that that was true. Her OF link

01:07:44.920 was still up. Yes, it was. I checked it.

01:07:46.580 Yes, it was. I'm positive.

01:07:48.820 She posted it and showed that it wasn't still up.

01:07:51.080 it was i don't know i don't know she seemed pretty sincere to me but in any case are you

01:07:55.480 denying the principle okay so here we go here we go all right so oh wait actually let me keep going

01:08:03.400 i think i think there is a little more i'm going to keep going that people can change yeah i mean

01:08:08.200 god can forgive you but men don't have to i don't i don't think it's i'm not talking about repentance

01:08:13.000 i wouldn't repentance is good but i wouldn't say that makes her wife worthy if you still used to

01:08:17.320 to have an OAuth account you would agree that men in general should not date

01:08:23.260 women that had OnlyFans accounts it's not ideal okay you can't definitively say

01:08:30.820 that a woman okay I don't think it's disqualifying well I just I think you're

01:08:34.180 gonna have a tough time selling guys on that so he starts men can have standards

01:08:39.640 yes, pro men can have standards, then we can't disqualify a chick for having

01:08:49.820 OF content on the internet. Guys, ladies, can we just look at it from the men's point of view?

01:08:55.700 If you had a son, blessing, if you had a son, would you tell him to wife a chick being a past?

01:09:03.280 No. Blessing is a very forgiving guy. Blessing preaches here. He preaches to all of us.

01:09:07.700 would you say that it would be a good choice for him to date a woman with an only fan

01:09:14.200 why is this so hard christians god can forgive you of your sin but you should be doing it for

01:09:21.880 god not to get something out of it and so okay now it was so funny because this all proved my point

01:09:29.340 this all proved my point so i during this clip we were actually talking about two different women

01:09:36.380 we weren't we were communicating but we both were confused okay i was talking about i'm going to show

01:09:44.340 you this on my screen all right so i was talking about let me make this full screen this woman

01:09:54.420 right here this is who i was talking about so this girl you know this guy on twitter has done a great

01:10:03.240 job reclaim your throne has done a great job exposing this chick because she said that you

01:10:08.600 know she was leaving and then she that's who i was talking about now i didn't realize you can

01:10:13.760 take it down i didn't realize that michael was actually talking about let me actually put in her

01:10:20.080 x at this girl and she deleted all of it because she proved my point and so many times you chicks

01:10:28.520 argue with me and then you prove my point um did she block me she might have blocked me

01:10:35.320 so oh oh i got well i'll just show that i'll just show the screen i'm blocked dang it oh

01:10:43.400 oh no no i wanted the of chicks to oh i just i wanted i i totally wanted to see what an ex

01:10:52.920 sex worker has to think i oh why god why sorry why why do bad things happen to good people

01:11:05.640 okay they're gonna they're gonna kill me for this one okay

01:11:11.040 but i found um this chick had a whole essay and i i it was a whole essay talking about how i was

01:11:20.180 wrong for quest even questioning her conversion even saying how that doesn't seem sincere

01:11:28.460 the same way i wouldn't do business with a former convict if someone has scammed you know even that

01:11:38.580 wolf of wall street guy i mean he's charismatic there's stuff we can learn from him but do i

01:11:44.420 want to do business am I going to trust him with my family's money no the same way why would you

01:11:54.420 trust an OF chick being the mother of your children and as women why is this so difficult

01:12:02.960 for us to understand the men have put up with so much they put up with us being overweight

01:12:07.840 we don't got to be virgins anymore but we can't draw the line at sex work

01:12:14.420 really the men are wrong for saying you know what sex work is the line

01:12:20.640 this woman and this is what happens when do you see who someone truly is when they're angry

01:12:28.240 what do they do when they are angry this woman took off her mask she's threatened and i have a

01:12:36.980 screenshot of it i said why don't you come on the stream and talk she asks to fight me instead

01:12:43.340 is that who we want my like you know mike i'm just and i'm not saying this to pick on on michael

01:12:51.020 right i'm saying this because young men will watch that stuff and think it's actually a good idea

01:12:57.220 they won't that's why the men are leaving but the way that they react to me is how they're

01:13:04.060 going to react to you i am just a stranger on the internet giving her opinions i am just a random

01:13:10.560 chick okay so what i tend to see happen in church is we have the controlling wives we have the

01:13:22.880 born again virgins and we have the simps and blessing's the only one left right blessing

01:13:34.880 yeah blessing you don't simp right there's no simping there

01:13:38.500 nah none right no simping no s-i-m-p-i-n-g no simping coming out yeah yeah we should drop that

01:13:52.440 track yeah okay so the funny thing is christian men do a great job of showing men why they should

01:14:02.000 not marry at all. Because nothing is good enough for them where women can do the bare minimum

01:14:08.940 and be rewarded. So my question is, am I wrong? Are Christian women wife material?

01:14:19.920 And is this a good deal for men? I'd like to talk to the women first.

01:14:25.440 i'd like to talk to the women first i'm gonna put the link in the chat give me one second don't

01:14:34.480 all right this is so if you think the topic's relevant you know did you what which email

01:14:44.340 the pearly things one yeah you emailed it to me yeah oh i see it i see it i see it

01:14:50.280 oh wait and i actually have one more i saw a tweet that i thought

01:14:57.000 summarized this really well i thought summarized this really well the conversation

01:15:02.500 mind you what i say does nothing i am not arrogant enough to think that my words have

01:15:10.760 such an impact on society it's going to change it do you think i can change these government

01:15:17.300 incentives, abortion. Because if that were true, Ben Shapiro, one of the most skilled debaters I

01:15:24.740 have ever seen, would have stopped this terrible culture. I am no Ben Shapiro. I am no Candace

01:15:33.360 Owens. I am nowhere near as skilled as those people. And they weren't successful in conserving

01:15:39.800 anything. So why on earth would I think I could do it? That's just, yeah, good luck.

01:15:47.300 So, what I say does nothing, but what I am pointing out is that by saying men are wrong

01:15:55.840 if they're lied to about paternity, they still need to father the kids and they're wrong

01:16:00.160 to divorce their wife, that is not a good sell on marriage.

01:16:07.500 By saying you should, by not definitively saying not to date OF workers.

01:16:17.300 single mothers and women with crazy pasts that is going to turn men away

01:16:28.740 by telling men to wait for women that have not that are not worthy

01:16:35.780 that's going to turn men away by saying hey guys no mandatory dna test you're wrong to get a

01:16:42.980 prenup that is the greatest marketing plan you could ever do to discourage men from getting

01:16:48.460 married and going to church and it's interesting because what i say which is change the laws make

01:16:53.840 them more fair for men as a starting point that that would actually be more likely to encourage

01:17:00.120 men to get married where what you guys are pushing actually will turn them away because

01:17:06.540 men naturally weigh the costs and the benefits they naturally do that

01:17:12.980 i mean i could blessing if i started saying marry these of chicks marry these of chicks

01:17:19.540 would you do it because i said it hell no i mean i i can't you cannot control men

01:17:26.760 maybe maybe some young ones some of you christian women figured out how

01:17:30.740 um okay but so i'm gonna do it in the youtube chat women get first priority i've been going

01:17:39.240 for two hours oh no hour and a half we're gonna put it in the x chart as well we got 4 600 people

01:17:43.960 wow yeah okay i don't know how to do it uh i'm gonna put it there okay i can't even put it in

01:17:50.600 my own oh shoot i'm logged into christine's account figured out how all right zoom link i'm gonna pin it

01:18:09.240 the juice is just not worth the squeeze now again so my question is and i want you guys

01:18:19.540 to answer this question are christian women wife material

01:18:23.380 are christian women wife material am i just am i just all wrong am i just making this up

01:18:35.560 I could be wrong.

01:18:37.620 I could be wrong.

01:18:46.920 We need to have a song that plays.

01:18:52.380 I should do my songs.

01:18:53.880 Guys, I have some music coming out soon.

01:18:56.100 Get excited.

01:18:56.760 am i wrong am i they're all saying no in the chat i'm not wrong

01:19:07.720 are christian women wife material

01:19:10.660 and by the way when we're talking about a group of people we're talking about the majority

01:19:19.540 not the minority the majority

01:19:24.060 okay and i want to clarify because everyone's going to say pearl pearl pearl

01:19:31.360 there are good women there are good christian women i've acknowledged that

01:19:35.160 i have acknowledged that so you know any any women coming or no i just got it yep we got women

01:19:48.540 oh yeah guys just wait uh okay we got brie it's gonna come up first

01:19:55.880 i didn't even know we could i thought streaming on x was like the same as youtube

01:20:09.000 what do you mean i don't know i thought it was like late i don't know

01:20:14.440 i'm just wow 4 000 people that's crazy okay yeah x is giving us some love yeah we love that how

01:20:22.500 many are we on rumble rumble as well but rumble they're not they're not put yeah i mean to be

01:20:28.400 fair we got to be better with rumble all right are you ready pal i'm ready what's her name

01:20:39.320 brie brie yeah okay yeah bring her up brie i'm gonna ask you to unmute your

01:20:43.360 wait can you say something brie hi pearl oh hello brie how are you today

01:20:53.860 i'm using an ipad and now i'm realizing the camera sucks on the split okay could you go

01:21:00.520 in the middle yeah go in the middle there you go let me see i may just be not looking properly

01:21:06.540 everybody so sorry about that all right yes as long as you're on camera we're good

01:21:10.480 okay where are you where are you at so i'm from kansas city oh okay cool so yeah um in your

01:21:18.600 opinion are christian women wife material i told i do agree with you um that a lot of christian

01:21:25.980 women are not uh marriage material i think a lot of christian men aren't marriage material either

01:21:31.900 i just think in general the church has a huge problem more and i'm coming from a protestant

01:21:38.620 side okay of that what denomination uh well so i went to a church called calvary chapel which

01:21:45.660 i think overall is considered non-denominational okay non-denominational um and i'm the oldest of

01:21:52.300 seven kids uh you and i have kind of a similar background because i come from a big family

01:21:56.940 I'm the oldest, and I have five sisters, so very churchy.

01:22:02.840 My parents were, like, incredibly involved in church.

01:22:07.240 They're still married today.

01:22:09.040 We're all blood-related.

01:22:10.140 There's no—we're not a blended family.

01:22:13.180 But I grew up, so I'm older than you, like probably 10 years older than you.

01:22:18.620 and when I was growing up as a teenager I feel like one of the biggest things like the biggest

01:22:24.400 mistakes that church church has made with the youth back then was the whole purity conversation

01:22:31.020 um and I don't know if that was around when you were growing up oh but oh we oh yeah yeah I I feel

01:22:38.260 like what happened and and I'll kind of go in I feel like I check so many of these opposite boxes

01:22:43.900 for you so i hope i'm a fun guest to have on um so when i was growing up you know the purity

01:22:49.260 conversation hey wait till you're married both genders right like male female wait till you're

01:22:54.620 married absolutely nothing until you're married don't i remember my dad being like a guy can't

01:23:00.860 touch your abdomen you know like what is that i don't know you're like not allowed to touch

01:23:05.020 until you're married um and i think that had the opposite effect on people i'm sorry i wish i could

01:23:12.500 get more on camera for you um there you go right there you're good right okay i feel like that had

01:23:18.500 the opposite effect on everyone both genders where if you what made the mistake of kissing someone

01:23:28.900 or even you know all the way sleeping with somebody you felt like now you're in a position

01:23:35.380 of okay now you got to marry that person right oh oh you did the thing that's only for married

01:23:40.340 people so and you started seeing this person at 14 15 say you know whatever 16 17 for some of us

01:23:47.460 um you know now you're stuck with them that you've got to make this work right or it was like oh you

01:23:54.700 made the mistake so now you're a whore right like now you already messed up so then you kind of feel

01:24:00.900 like okay well i already messed up so now i can just i'm just gonna do whatever or now i'm like

01:24:05.460 kicked out of the church or whatever you know whatever whatever you have i feel like there

01:24:09.340 wasn't a lot of counseling for teens in church at that time I think they sort of dropped that

01:24:16.040 maybe like five years after I got out I don't know what your thoughts are on that well they also

01:24:20.220 don't have paths to marriage in my opinion so it's like they like you know we're pushing the

01:24:27.660 marriage age right now to like 30 right that's that's what the the normal world is doing and I

01:24:33.380 don't really see a lot of programs that get the men and the women together and and to me it's

01:24:40.100 because they're giving them the wrong information you know it's like they're telling a lot of the

01:24:44.660 men the happy wife happy life type stuff and that doesn't arouse women and then and that's from my

01:24:51.860 point of view you know I I don't think the church has figured out how to have people date in the

01:24:58.380 modern world. I don't think they've figured it out yet. Completely agree. Completely agree. And I

01:25:04.500 also, but I do want to say, I think the church, the Protestant church side of things has it right

01:25:11.980 in terms of, or the statistics that you have quoted too, which is, hey, if you're each other's

01:25:18.520 only, okay, and you get married and you have that relationship and you have a way higher likelihood

01:25:24.940 of making it and i have several friends that are my age now that did that right they waited

01:25:30.000 until they were you know married to do anything and they they waited a long time to become what

01:25:35.660 sexually acted if you will you know they didn't even get married till they were 21 um my story

01:25:41.760 is i when i was you know i lost my virginity at 17 to my first high school boyfriend kind of

01:25:48.620 was like okay oh whatever i messed up it's over you know but i didn't i actually kept it together

01:25:54.580 I really you know still I went to a Christian school my graduating class was only 10 kids

01:25:59.000 so very small circle and still had a lot of religious support to kind of keep it together

01:26:04.960 and not hoe out if you will um and then when I was about 18 on my own in my own apartment um

01:26:13.680 I ended up meeting my husband at that time and that's when I don't know am I still on right

01:26:21.840 i'm still here i think the just keep blessings gonna fix it i hear you okay oh okay um anyway

01:26:30.720 i all i was gonna say is i ended up um getting married by the time i was 19 and my dad begged

01:26:37.840 me not to do it told me i wasn't ready really your dad asked you now i was just talking on

01:26:43.680 i was just on the day of my wedding girl you begged me i was just talking to someone about

01:26:49.360 how dads raise their daughters like sons now and give them and give them advice like like most

01:26:56.540 dads don't want their daughters to marry young either yeah um well and it wasn't he wasn't

01:27:02.420 necessarily against getting married young he just knew that this one wasn't the one kind of thing

01:27:07.540 and also and i only dated this person um for i think we dated four months and then like we were

01:27:17.560 what's engaged and then we were married within a year so it was absolutely too soon um he was um

01:27:25.580 from the church as well and was very inexperienced himself um i i think he he

01:27:32.380 man i feel bad for the people who know me sorry people um but i think he was a virgin when we got

01:27:38.540 married i wasn't and so you know that was different were you were you did you do you

01:27:44.560 think it was like an attraction thing like what what was the problem you think the or uh why did

01:27:51.480 I get married oh I'm sorry I guess the way you were talking I assumed it didn't work out so I

01:27:55.960 was just curious no it did correct so that uh yeah so I I shouldn't have gotten married um and

01:28:02.740 I used to I heard you saying earlier you know women blame feminism sometimes I don't I and I

01:28:09.720 don't and that's I'm not coming here to blame I take full responsibility for all my mistakes

01:28:13.920 And for what I did, I don't think, you know, I think I just, you know, everyone just makes their own decisions. Right. And I made some bad ones. So I shouldn't have gotten married. I knew that very quickly that I shouldn't have gotten married probably within a matter of months. But I kind of felt like, well, I made this commitment growing up in church. Right. You're like, OK, well, it's too late. I already signed the paper. Right. So here I am. This is what I'm doing. But I was pretty unhappy. I gained a lot of weight. I probably gained about 30 pounds that first year.

01:28:43.340 so sad um and then uh i had a son with him and so by the time i was 20 and had a son my husband at

01:28:54.220 the time was making almost no money life was really really hard and i i was working too and

01:28:59.420 then we're trying to raise my son and very stressed so then i decided to go to college

01:29:05.180 which is where you get told all the great things about why you shouldn't be a married young person

01:29:10.700 and how there's so much more life out there and blah, blah, blah.

01:29:13.800 And as time went on, I like within a year of being in school, I was like, I'm done.

01:29:19.120 I want to get divorced again.

01:29:20.940 My parents were very upset and devastated.

01:29:23.320 Actually, my entire family shamed me over it, which they should have.

01:29:27.400 I mean, it was just all a big mess and unnecessary.

01:29:30.400 And it was just one bad decision after the other.

01:29:33.080 And we had a baby and that was all like it was really hard to work through.

01:29:36.560 at that same time i ended up reconnecting again a classic what scenario that you give all the time

01:29:43.740 correct yeah totally yeah totally always um so we ended up reconnecting and um within a matter of

01:29:53.660 weeks of my divorce i was pregnant again with my second son with girl sorry i know i know i'm telling

01:30:01.940 it's a crazy story okay but um and i was i was so embarrassed it was horrible um i felt really

01:30:09.220 awful about it didn't really know how to deal with it but um my my so my ex-husband which was

01:30:16.420 my first son's father um really handled it well i have to give him that credit like he we and

01:30:23.380 um unlike a lot of women that um go through these things i didn't i knew how important it was to

01:30:30.100 have a father uh for my son and so i we did not go through any custody battles whatsoever i

01:30:35.780 immediately put us on a 50 50. no child support whatsoever good job like it good job you're not

01:30:41.940 the majority good job not the majority at all um and i and i just knew that i just understood all

01:30:48.100 those and i love my dad right i love my dad and and then i knew how important a same-sex parent

01:30:53.540 is so i knew how important my son like he needed his dad and that was going to be the case forever

01:30:59.700 and i needed that help i i think parents don't realize like or being a single mom being a single

01:31:05.460 dad it doesn't matter like you need that help why would you not rely on the other person who created

01:31:11.300 the baby with you it just made sense to be like let's work together and be as seamless as possible

01:31:17.300 even though we're not living in the same house again that is not an excuse that doesn't mean

01:31:21.380 hey my kid should should have grown up exactly i'm not saying that but i do

01:31:26.180 fully agree with you um about child custody laws that it should never be like 80 per if it's at

01:31:33.700 all possible physically um to have 50 50 that should be the kit that should be the automatic

01:31:40.340 default and i and i think both my sons are better for it um so i so at that time i had a my sons are

01:31:47.380 only 23 months apart so they were very little um i was with the second um that second person my

01:31:56.500 second son's father for five years uh again relationship ended now we did not get married

01:32:02.980 at all um so that relationship ended and i would say again it was a choice i made falling right

01:32:10.100 into those scenarios again um i was like hey i don't want to and life was real i think what

01:32:16.340 happens with women i what i feel like happened with me again not a justification just i think

01:32:21.060 it's a mentality thing um life was hard you're toiling i was under i was uh 23 24 when i ha

01:32:29.140 like by the time i had these babies and broke up with him when i was about 27 28 and life was hard

01:32:34.900 i had no we had no money things were difficult you're like trying to get through you're both

01:32:39.060 working all of those things make a relationship hard and then you're and then i wasn't married so

01:32:44.900 So I was like, I'm not, I don't have to be committed to this,

01:32:48.340 which I was writing down some questions

01:32:50.740 that I wanted to ask you, just your thoughts,

01:32:52.640 not as like a gotcha.

01:32:54.580 But, you know, I know you advocate for like,

01:32:57.280 hey, let's be careful about getting married, right?

01:32:59.580 Or like, you know, getting married

01:33:01.080 may not be the best deal for a man.

01:33:04.100 But I don't know what that means for protections for them

01:33:07.480 with their kids later on.

01:33:08.740 But for me, with my ex, when I ended that relationship,

01:33:12.860 again, I immediately was like,

01:33:14.900 let's 50 50 and i had my kids um every other week my kids are 13 and 15 now but i have them on

01:33:22.580 essentially the same schedule so they both come to me at the same time so they spend time together

01:33:27.540 we we are like our own family and then their dads they have time with their dads and they're

01:33:32.340 separate from each other at that time but they're both with their dads and um no child support with

01:33:37.700 either one of them and i think my kids are really stable and they really love their dads and

01:33:42.100 it's all good so i think that you know i think that i don't know life happens and i don't know

01:33:48.500 how um i don't know why women um reject the men that you know created the baby with them

01:33:55.460 and won't involve them um i think it's a really important thing and even though i don't advocate

01:34:01.300 at all for single parenthood or like that it's irrelevant that both people be in the same house

01:34:07.220 i do think that you can still create a lot of stability just by having that 50 50 custody for

01:34:12.660 sure but um back to the church thing i agree with you on the 50. i think actually kids turn out

01:34:18.020 better um when um if if there's a wife that doesn't respect the father and she's constantly

01:34:26.820 like like it's not like she's constantly disrespecting him i see similar outcomes

01:34:32.740 the single motherhood yes so i totally agree totally agree and women i think underestimate

01:34:40.500 especially with sons maybe it could be a little different if you have daughters but i think women

01:34:45.780 underestimate how sons need that they need there's just something about a father parenting it's a

01:34:54.100 little stronger um and women don't handle parenting the same way that men do it's it's different at

01:35:00.660 least that's my experience um i was um yeah i still struggle with it with my teen boys it's

01:35:07.540 hard to be you're not as firm um and they need their they need to know that there's like the

01:35:13.220 even even not at my house like even when they're not uh or when they're with me and their dads

01:35:18.100 aren't there they're still i mean i still say things like i'm gonna call your dad like if you

01:35:22.740 you know and they're like okay okay you know and i and it's good we have a good relationship that

01:35:27.860 way in those parenting households we're there to support each other and if you're not doing that

01:35:32.020 you're like you said the person who gets hurt the absolute most is your kids always um but

01:35:38.420 going back to the church thing i think that was the biggest mistake that i felt um and again taking

01:35:44.900 responsibility for my own yeah yeah i understand you've been very you know you've taken i'll give

01:35:49.380 you the taken responsibility for this i just i don't want to sound like it's okay it's okay

01:35:53.860 i i do think though that and they did sort of i feel like what happened now what's happening in

01:35:59.380 the church and i do so my family still i myself don't really go um but i'm not you know i'm not um

01:36:07.060 i wouldn't say that i've uh that i don't believe in what i was taught or anything like that but i

01:36:11.540 don't go to church regularly but i a lot of my siblings do and like i said i have a lot of sisters

01:36:16.100 so i have a lot of girls in the church um my four younger sisters um that are in church now i can

01:36:24.580 see that that environment has changed for them like as they grew up as teens um that purity thing

01:36:30.580 has kind of dropped off i kind of feel like what the opposite has been done which is what you're

01:36:35.460 talking about where it's kind of like um they don't want to hold people to those standards anymore

01:36:43.300 purity but they also like aren't going to call they they should still be calling women out or

01:36:48.540 at least explaining to women the importance of their chastity and purity yeah and why it's

01:36:53.440 important i think i think they just really have lacked and it still is this way in the church

01:36:58.520 because they don't want to talk about it they don't want to talk about sex they don't want to

01:37:01.980 talk about the reality of those interpersonal relationships and they they don't want to explain

01:37:07.320 like what effect what effects sex has on women and how we're how that affects our relationships

01:37:14.580 moving forward and I I wish someone would have told me those things uh early what do you what

01:37:21.260 do you wish the church told you like if you could talk to your like I don't know 16 year old self

01:37:26.740 like what what messaging do you think would be good that's a really good question um

01:37:33.400 i definitely wish someone would have explained to me about the detaching thing um about you know

01:37:41.240 the more people you sleep with you're detaching they they would say the thing i don't know if

01:37:45.740 you heard this trope but they would say like you always leave a little piece of you with that

01:37:50.360 person that you slept with and you're like okay yeah who cares but i think they said tape or

01:37:58.340 something yeah yeah it's i don't know it's that same trope and it's more like the opposite like

01:38:06.540 i guess you could say yes you like a part of you is gone but um that there's like real i've heard

01:38:13.240 it everywhere you know there's real scientific evidence that you if this is not a bible thing

01:38:18.220 this is a a truth that the more partners you have you are emotionally detaching and it's not

01:38:24.040 I think specifically for females, it is not healthy. And not all women realize that that's

01:38:30.900 happening to them. And I didn't realize it myself. When I got older, after I broke up with that other

01:38:36.860 guy, I was single for a year. I'm like a serial monogamous. I'm like never really single. I just

01:38:42.220 always find someone and then I connect and then I'm with them for a while. But I was single for

01:38:46.320 year and i fell into this idea or trap that um that men want you to like be experienced and

01:38:55.280 that's another thing i again like when you grow up in the church you think you do think the

01:39:01.120 opposite you know you you know or you think that men aren't looking for oh they want you to be like

01:39:06.800 perfect so then if you're not then you're like okay well those guys aren't for me now right

01:39:11.040 because i'm not perfect anymore um so then i kind of fell into that feminist idea right of like you

01:39:18.240 should be sleeping with as many people as possible you go girl you know like do this do this and um

01:39:24.960 you know whatever i think body counts matter so i'm not going to share mine

01:39:28.320 but i would say that i learned really quickly how unsatisfying and horrible i felt but i didn't

01:39:34.080 really understand it because nobody there really wasn't that messaging back then this was like

01:39:38.320 maybe five years ago there really wasn't messaging to women and a lot of women are hating on the red

01:39:45.200 pill community but i feel like there are a lot of good conversations for women in this community too

01:39:50.240 because once i started hearing people like you talk about you know the the the mental damage

01:39:57.120 that can be done when you're doing that um for for women and what it means for men like i it's just

01:40:03.920 no one ever said to me like hey men actually don't like it when they think you're a huge

01:40:08.160 select do you like do you think you were able to consume the content easier because you have sons

01:40:14.720 absolutely 100 i was gonna say that too i'm really grateful to me i again i don't agree

01:40:20.720 with everything you say i don't know i mean whatever i you know you're not my jesus right

01:40:25.360 but i know sorry i'm just kidding i'm not i am so grateful for voices like like yours um there's

01:40:34.080 other voices out there that i totally agree with you and um yeah raising boys and helping them

01:40:40.800 under like hearing these things yes i think it makes it easier to digest and care about

01:40:45.600 but it also resonated with me personally like i said i feel like i hit all these like negatives

01:40:50.960 of the women the negative stereotypes which is fine whatever i did it it is what it is um but i

01:40:57.680 i also it just made me realize quickly like oh those were the mistakes i was making these are

01:41:04.320 the things i wasn't understanding i was seeing it backwards like it's it's a backwards idea to

01:41:10.000 think that as a woman sleeping around is going to get you the best guy and that's just not true but

01:41:14.960 it's kind of put at you that way or it's like hey this is what everyone's doing like we're all like

01:41:20.960 but it's just it's really not true and men don't see it that way and and also understanding how

01:41:25.860 men see sex i think i didn't understand that either um and going back to that church conversation i

01:41:31.840 wish that was said i because you were always kind of because you're raised around christian men

01:41:37.940 you're you're like taught that men value sex the same way you do because we're all supposed to be

01:41:43.080 seeing it the same way not a reality for most men right not we're not all growing up in the church

01:41:49.040 we're not all growing up with these same values and and for me a more honest conversation would be

01:41:54.820 that that girl was lucky she found a husband rather than he had to earn her and he deserved

01:42:02.400 her because that you know implies that again their sexual activity like it would have been

01:42:09.500 equally damaging and it's not it's just not true we're not the same um for me would be more honest

01:42:15.860 but because for every I mean I'm sure you've been in any church for every one girl she she got away

01:42:21.000 with it because she was cute enough right like come on if she had like 50 more pounds no no guy

01:42:27.700 would put up with that right to me that's a little bit more honest rather than the you can just do a

01:42:35.840 rebrand and you'll still get the same quality a guy it's just not true I I completely agree um

01:42:43.160 and and attractiveness is another issue in the church like i don't know that's another thing

01:42:49.440 like i and i don't know what to do about that what are we gonna say like a lot of like women

01:42:54.500 that are into the purity thing and the modesty thing how attractive is that to men out there too

01:43:02.560 what's it's and not what i don't mean the purity thing what i mean is like you know if you're like

01:43:07.160 trying to be a hundred percent now like men are looking at all kinds of women all the time christian

01:43:12.100 or not christian they're kind of putting them all together and i and i like so there's a lot i mean

01:43:17.180 i think there's a lot of struggle for women in the church to find men in the church too that are

01:43:21.620 good like really good women but they get passed over because they're really well yeah well i've

01:43:26.560 seen that i've seen like um a phenomenon it's obviously the exception but like of slightly

01:43:31.700 older virgin women that that on paper are okay maybe they have some i don't know that i don't

01:43:37.940 know but on paper would be okay but they just struggle to find men they're attracted to because

01:43:43.600 the men in church aren't attractive like to them because there's so women are not attracted to men

01:43:49.020 that put women on pedestals and i see a lot of that in the church i think that's still going on

01:43:54.760 in the church too and i don't see like and then one demon one guy that's a demon comes in and just

01:43:59.940 goes through in my like in my own so i only have one brother yeah um and and then i have my dad

01:44:08.420 and and i always grew up knowing that like my my dad was the head of the household and my mom she's

01:44:15.520 a yeller you know all that stuff they definitely argue but you know she's not a princess right and

01:44:22.180 he didn't ever treat her like that but of course it treated her with absolute respect and everything

01:44:25.820 like that but um my dad was really traditional he went to work my mom stayed at home with all of us

01:44:31.100 so she didn't work at all um and now my brother who's married um and he's got five kids and he

01:44:37.180 has four girls two and one boy and same thing he works and he like immediately like my my sister-in-law

01:44:44.620 stays at home with all the kids and out of all of us kids i like i think so i i got married i

01:44:52.540 I have a sister right under me who got, she's a whole other story and she definitely checks

01:44:57.720 all your boxes and maybe someday she'll be on here to tell her story, but she's wild.

01:45:02.460 She's the one you stay away from people.

01:45:04.660 Um, but, uh, yeah, she's been married three times.

01:45:08.340 Um, and then, um, I, I have another sister that she, like her and my brother, both much

01:45:16.020 more traditional relationships, um, and have outlasted.

01:45:19.880 So I really do believe in the traditional sense.

01:45:22.420 I'm not, you know, I feel like any healthy marriages that I've seen that came out of

01:45:28.200 the church community or didn't just like friendships I have, they do are more traditional.

01:45:33.000 And I think women don't want to hear that, but I just think it's, it's true.

01:45:37.200 I think it's easier to maintain a relationship that way.

01:45:39.700 I don't know if maybe like if a man stays home and a woman works, like if it would still

01:45:43.380 work or not, like, I don't know if that does, I don't know if it has, I guess what I'm saying

01:45:47.900 is I don't know if it has.

01:45:48.800 We're going to see more of it.

01:45:50.140 So we'll watch and see what happens.

01:45:51.880 I wanted to ask you a couple, like, I think they might be challenging questions. But like I said, they're not like, got you questions. I just wanted to know your thoughts. Do I still have time to ask? Yeah, that's all right. Go ahead. Okay, so only, only because you've been pleasant.

01:46:08.380 thank you thank you um so my first question is do you think that a man gets because i know you're

01:46:16.680 really passionate about um the like divorce laws and also like protect you know all that stuff so

01:46:23.220 do you think a man gets more or less protection in court when he's not married but seeking custody

01:46:29.980 do i think a man gets and i don't know the answer to this by the way so it's like wait no say it

01:46:36.780 say it again sorry say one more so do you think he get do you think a man gets more or so let me

01:46:44.440 explain why I'm at so I'm asking this question because um and I know you're saying that you

01:46:49.900 don't tell men what to do so I'm not trying to put words in your mouth but I know you're kind

01:46:54.420 of advocating for like let's not get like getting married is a bad idea right but if procreation

01:47:00.920 happens right like if a woman has your baby so you're a man and now a woman's got your baby

01:47:05.500 does a man get more or less protection in court when he's not married but seeking custody

01:47:12.620 protection in court when he is not married married but seeking custody um i would guess

01:47:22.300 i would guess he would get more if he was married but he would be on the hook for more

01:47:27.260 for alimony so it wouldn't just be child support but i don't know i could ask i could get the

01:47:33.580 answer i could say it next show there's um i can actually dm i just think it'd be an interesting

01:47:38.160 thing for for you because i know you're doing that documentary too um which i'm really interested in

01:47:43.680 i think it's a really cool one um and uh but i just think that um when you're advocating for

01:47:50.560 people not to get married um i think there are some protect like especially when it comes to

01:47:56.800 children specifically that men could be like okay don't get married because of all these other

01:48:02.820 things but if you have a child with somebody you know I I this is me guessing I don't know the

01:48:09.160 answer I think you get way less protection as a man and access to your child when you're not married

01:48:14.900 okay I'm gonna guess I'm guessing it depends on the state I guess I've just seen so many men

01:48:22.320 that were married and were in the same position it doesn't seem to make that much of a difference

01:48:27.180 to me but i actually i just dm'd a guy that used to calculate like um but i don't know if you saw

01:48:33.820 him shaw i just asked if he knew the answer so i'll i'll ask around i'll get you the answer

01:48:39.660 okay um so my other question is do you think they uh do men get more or less protection for their

01:48:46.860 assets um being unmarried and the the the reason i'm asking that is a circumstance of like let's

01:48:53.980 say that you uh you have two people two people that cohabitate maybe for five six years so

01:49:01.340 you're splitting rent maybe you even um buy a house together um or you you know you're building

01:49:08.540 retirement whatever like you could have like joint assets together so do you like if you're in that

01:49:13.740 sort of a situation where you're not wanting to get married because you're afraid of the institution

01:49:19.340 But when that relationship ends, what protection do you have when you're not married?

01:49:24.640 Or do you think they have more or less protection with their assets?

01:49:27.600 These are really great questions.

01:49:29.300 I don't know, but I'll get you the answer.

01:49:31.820 These are really good questions.

01:49:33.920 And I don't know the answer either.

01:49:35.860 Like I said, not got you questions.

01:49:37.480 I just thought of them and was wondering them.

01:49:40.620 Another question I have is, are you proposing men should not procreate?

01:49:48.340 and create stable relationships going forward with women so like again I know you're not telling

01:49:55.340 people to do but if curls a man right are you well so the hard thing is I think women will choose

01:50:05.520 like there's going to be a portion of men that just aren't going to get sexual access because

01:50:09.920 women are choosing to sleep with 20 percent of men even if we double it to 40 there's going to

01:50:15.440 percent of men that are going to walk away anyways so not partially choice sometimes not by choice

01:50:23.560 others um no i think men that want to should but it's just i i think men need to have they need to

01:50:33.980 be informed so they should meet with like if i said should they i don't like to say should because

01:50:39.100 it like do what you want but it would be wise to meet with the attorneys into your state to figure

01:50:44.680 out what the laws are yeah i totally agreed totally agree i heard you on um michael knoll

01:50:50.460 michael knoll's show show saying that some states say the child should be with the mother until 16

01:50:56.540 and i just thought that was unbelievable um yeah totally unbelievable i saw in nashville though

01:51:02.200 they abolished that law like a couple years ago so i was like oh that's good yeah that's good

01:51:07.280 um so if men decide to use women solely for sexual or fun reasons so you know um let's say that like

01:51:15.320 let's say that we're all trying to force the social movement right just like there's women

01:51:20.340 feminists that are trying to push the whole like of thing or like women do what you want sleep

01:51:25.180 around okay so we're forcing that social norm but let's say men are like okay great we're done with

01:51:31.180 the whole we're gonna marry you up and stabilize families and all this so we're done doing that

01:51:36.860 And if men decide to use women solely for sexual fun reasons, no commitment, does that lead to less promiscuous women or more promiscuous women?

01:51:49.600 Well, I would say that men can't do anything that women don't allow.

01:51:54.900 Fair.

01:51:55.940 So it's not, I think women are more responsible because we're the ones that allow sexual access because men will screw anything.

01:52:03.900 That's the way I see it anyways.

01:52:05.460 I would say it would be more promiscuous, but I think women that want to be sexual are going to do it anyways.

01:52:12.500 Okay. Yeah, fair.

01:52:13.700 Like, you go to a concert, you see chicks, like, throwing their panties on, say, what are you going to do to stop that chick?

01:52:18.980 Right.

01:52:19.860 Like, what am I supposed to do about it?

01:52:23.960 No, I agree. Everyone's responsible for themselves.

01:52:26.940 And, I mean, I think that's just a problem in our culture in general that we just, I think that our culture is not about accepting responsibility.

01:52:35.460 on both men and women i think a lot of people would rather blame anything but themselves

01:52:40.980 upbringing you know all of that stuff um personal responsibility is a hard thing to have um it's

01:52:48.180 hard to look at yourself and say like that was a mistake and yeah so anyway um my last question

01:52:54.240 and then um somebody else can like join but thank you pearl so much for letting me on here it's

01:52:59.440 i really like you i think you're um i really look up to you as a youtube person it's cool

01:53:05.000 to see someone like start small and get big so really cool but last question um what responsibility

01:53:11.060 if any um do men have to advocate for the law changes oh men i i think men should advocate

01:53:21.140 but they have been that's the problem they've been advocating they've had men's activist groups

01:53:25.600 since the 1900s like for the same thing so i think men are doing it they're just not very successful

01:53:32.040 because we rely too much on the female vote that's the problem okay i'm yeah i mean i would

01:53:37.300 say i've literally never heard of them of a men's group advocating for changes to divorce laws but

01:53:42.860 that i mean i also haven't been a huge passionate uh researching it but i guess that's a good

01:53:48.600 question you brought some good questions today because i guess that's why i get frustrated when

01:53:53.580 i go on on shows i'm talking about men's issues and i i feel like i'm getting waved like it's

01:53:59.800 like oh whatever but women you know um I guess men are you know responsible to some degree but

01:54:06.480 I don't think men are aware I think that's the biggest problem I don't think most men know what

01:54:11.860 they're signing up for like I don't think most men know in California if they don't establish

01:54:17.960 paternity before the age of two even if the kid's not theirs that they have that for life I think

01:54:23.240 most men don't know. Yeah, that's yeah, that's crazy. I totally agree with you on a lot of the

01:54:29.700 things you say, like the mandatory DNA testing. I thought that was really wild that Michael Knowles

01:54:34.160 was like, that's offensive to women. Why would it be? I don't really see that as offensive. I would

01:54:39.020 I to me, like, why not? You just might as well. There's nothing wrong. If you're like already in

01:54:44.340 the hospital, they're doing all the tests. Anyway, why wouldn't it just be tacked right on? I don't

01:54:48.840 see the issue I give my ID to get liquor I'm not offended you know right they verify I don't see a

01:54:55.980 reason why that would be an issue it's like better for I mean it's better for all parties like

01:55:01.100 women too like if that relationship goes south and then the guy all of a sudden starts deciding

01:55:06.460 that that's not his kid having that protection right at the beginning gets you like it's good

01:55:11.260 for all parties so I don't know why that's not done here but anyway thank you so much for having

01:55:16.040 me on thank you for coming have a good one okay so i asked my shaw you guys know shaw what is

01:55:25.000 about her questions he said i think it depends more on who is doing the provider role

01:55:30.360 what is the history the kids spend more time with who yeah that's what i was thinking up but i didn't

01:55:35.800 want to say it if it was wrong custody hearing will be similar in both cases just depends on

01:55:40.320 the setup setup where they cohabitating but if not married there is no alimony so it's easier

01:55:45.380 to fight for custody oh i didn't think about that more protection for assets being unmarried

01:55:50.980 definitely oh wow okay there's your answer you're curious in california anyway it's tough you know

01:55:57.620 they they spend a year teaching um the child custody laws to people that work at the child

01:56:06.180 custody office it is really hard for an average person to understand it um okay who's all right

01:56:12.900 next caller cv is coming up okay hello how are you

01:56:22.500 um wait hold on one second i like to have this certain tab up just so i can take notes okay

01:56:31.300 is it our side i think i'm unmuted can you hear me okay oh yeah i can hear you

01:56:35.300 okay hey what's going on hi what's your name my name is chris chris where are you at um the

01:56:41.700 the Detroit area. Oh, Detroit. Okay. It's not too far from, I'm from Chicago, so it's not too far.

01:56:47.160 Oh, Righteous. Yeah. Yeah. I've only been there once. I was a drummer growing up,

01:56:50.600 so I had some auditions down there. Okay. So do you think Christian women are wife material?

01:56:57.820 Oh, wow. That's really tense. One of the things I appreciate about you is you always lean into

01:57:04.360 the marketplace and you ask the tough questions and you're honestly one of my heroes in the

01:57:09.380 marketplace you're definitely a fearless inquisitor so thanks for all you do um wow okay so from my

01:57:16.480 lens and with my background um it's interesting to take a look at this question from the angle

01:57:24.100 of somebody who has a lot to lose um i've actually been railroaded by the veterans administration for

01:57:30.640 the past 12 years so i had a six-figure business ended up falling down because i made some

01:57:35.280 agreements. It fell through. And now I have to basically start my business over. As a matter

01:57:39.740 of fact, in this room right now, sorry about the background, I'm actually setting up for a digital

01:57:43.280 studio in my home. So I apologize for the mess here. But as I go to build my business, one of

01:57:49.600 the bigger concerns that I've had growing up as a Christian was noticing a trend. And this is going

01:57:57.360 to be a stereotype. I understand there are exceptions to everything. So I'm acknowledging

01:58:01.220 this is uh this is an ex we know there's exceptions we're talking about the rule

01:58:05.620 right right right so um generally my experience uh whether it's a narrow lens or broad

01:58:13.220 is that there seems to be i don't want to broad stereotype it as entitlement but my experience

01:58:22.020 my exposure has been that there's always an interest in finding out what can the guy bring

01:58:27.780 to the table like what can you get what's in it for her so um christian women sitting around

01:58:34.500 talking about somebody who just got engaged talking about oh he's a doctor oh he's an attorney

01:58:39.700 oh you're young but he's going to law school kind of situation and it's it's really a struggle for

01:58:46.500 me because i admire some of the conversations that have been had online and i imagine they're

01:58:51.780 not staged in some of the podcasts i've witnessed i don't spend a lot of time on youtube but what i

01:58:56.020 have seen um a group of women coming onto a podcast and being asked what do you bring to the table

01:59:02.580 and it's crickets so um where is this lens coming from well i've been engaged once um i went on

01:59:11.780 deployment she cheated while i was on the combat area so that didn't work out um i was getting

01:59:16.580 ready to ask someone else to marry me but she had professional aspirations and she wanted to

01:59:22.500 go somewhere else so i wish her the best i wanted her to be successful so that didn't work out so

01:59:27.060 much um i'm currently not dating on a voluntary basis i also probably don't fit the typical

01:59:32.980 stereotype of a man i don't smoke i don't drink i don't do drugs i'm not voluntarily going out

01:59:38.740 and screwing anything that's available um including the tree or you know fire hydrant

01:59:43.940 down the street it's just not who i am i'm probably the exception and i'm not saying that

01:59:48.660 to pat myself on the back it's just characterizing the lens that i'm seeing this from um i've wanted

01:59:53.460 to be a father at an early age um i wanted to be a worthy husband and father and grow up and take

01:59:59.220 care of myself to such a degree that i would be able to provide for somebody um you know due to

02:00:04.180 the nature of the world and how it is right now i'm putting my personal relationship ambitions on

02:00:08.660 hold to build up my financial prowess um but to steer this back into the topic um i find it a

02:00:15.860 struggle because if i have a lot to lose i'm hesitant to go into the market in this day and

02:00:20.740 age with the dynamic the way it is right now because of the lens that i'm looking at this

02:00:26.100 through whereas if somebody's going to look at me as a possible husband um i'm concerned that

02:00:33.060 they're looking at my pocketbook they're looking at my atm they're looking at what's in it for them

02:00:37.460 uh whether it's intimacy related financial related um household related uh if it's clout related um

02:00:45.220 i've known to end up in circles that are highly influential very rapidly i would find myself

02:00:53.860 speaking with people that are centers of influence and i'm grateful for that privilege to be able to

02:00:58.260 network with some great people that have those networks uh but whatever somebody is chasing

02:01:04.020 in a spouse that they're looking for one of my concerns is they're not looking for love

02:01:08.420 they're not looking for somebody that's a suitable person for them um and that's my you know

02:01:13.700 individualized lens i acknowledge it um that being said i'm very concerned about you know going to

02:01:20.980 another location in the united states i prefer to live in the united states and wherever i go

02:01:25.700 to try and date i'm concerned that it's going to be less about whether we're a fit and more about

02:01:31.300 what they're going to get from me and i'm very very hesitant to go into the market and actually

02:01:36.100 seriously date at the moment i still want to i still want to try and i'm 100 interested in

02:01:41.540 becoming a husband someday but I just I want to be very careful and I'm not sure how to navigate

02:01:46.900 the waters right now I don't know if somebody's actually going to be on the hunt for something

02:01:51.580 that I can provide them or something that's going to be a mutual fit am I good for her and is she

02:01:56.820 good for me does that make sense no I'm really glad you said that because I find more men in

02:02:02.460 your position where they actually want to be married they're not really because they always

02:02:07.500 have this idea that if men aren't married, they're sleeping around, they're going and doing all of

02:02:12.660 this stuff. But I find men in your situation to be more common than the men that are just trying

02:02:18.560 to run through a bunch of women. I find men want relationships. It's just, how do you, how do you

02:02:25.200 do that? So I'm curious, do you notice a difference in the quality between Christian women and non

02:02:31.340 Christian women? There's no right or wrong answers. It's just based on your, it's just

02:02:35.020 based on your experience right right so here's my experience um and i want to qualify this okay um

02:02:41.400 women that are loyal and practicing christians i i see there being a higher quality okay um people

02:02:48.260 or women who are religious people who are i don't want to call it fanatical but they're they do what

02:02:54.380 they say they're going to do right they keep their word so if they say they're religious if they say

02:02:59.800 they're practicing then they're actually practicing they're not visiting once a week just because it's

02:03:04.620 check in the box um they're not doing things uh in the public eye and then once nobody's seeing

02:03:11.100 them behind closed doors their character changes and i think that's a really good test of character

02:03:16.060 is what are you doing when nobody's looking when nobody's watching you or holding you accountable

02:03:20.940 are you holding yourself accountable um maybe this is the military person inside of me maybe

02:03:25.740 this is a musician or somebody who's toured the nation as a drummer or something i don't know

02:03:29.980 what it is in me but the idea of extreme ownership is something that I take to heart

02:03:34.700 and I admire that quality in the women that I have dated because there's no question that

02:03:41.440 they're acknowledging what's going on with them they they are on a path of personal development

02:03:46.280 by choice they're not doing it to try and what's the what's the phrase trap a man

02:03:52.880 um they're more interested in doing what is right because it's what they feel is right that's what

02:04:00.380 they're interested in viewing as right and they're more interested in how they view themselves and

02:04:04.860 how other people view them now everybody is self-conscious to some degree there are still

02:04:09.460 moments where you're concerned like what are the neighbors going to think or hey you're causing a

02:04:12.860 scene at a restaurant when you're having a misunderstanding or something i don't know what

02:04:16.680 the different context would be outside of those because those are exceptions um i admire the

02:04:22.660 Christian women that I've been around, I should say, of some of the Christian women that I've

02:04:27.460 dated, I think there is a higher caliber of women out there who are devoted overtly, I guess is a

02:04:35.460 word for it. They're willing to go out of their way to do the right thing in the right way for

02:04:39.500 the right reasons, because what is good is intrinsically good, regardless of opinion or

02:04:43.740 circumstance. What percent of Christian women do you think that is? Just in your, again, no right

02:04:51.400 no right or wrong answer it's just based on you know i i don't know what detroit women are like

02:04:56.940 so you know i don't i've i haven't spent a lot of time there so you you tell me

02:05:02.460 um this this is going to be a tough answer but my guess is going to be a third probably 33 percent

02:05:10.940 that's more than i would and i say that wholeheartedly because um i've met some who

02:05:16.060 have actually invited me on dates like i've actually been approached yeah and been invited

02:05:20.040 it out and they got it there's not many there's not many men left i mean the women are they're

02:05:26.360 they're they can be aggressive in church you get a handsome you get a handsome guy that walks in

02:05:32.180 they're all like yeah so even with that um i've still been invited on things that i've had to say

02:05:39.560 no to because they don't fit my standards i don't go out to bars i don't drink i i don't i don't

02:05:44.580 participate in that venue i've had to when i was a kid because that's where a lot of the musicians

02:05:48.740 would be that i wanted to participate and work with so as a profession that was something that

02:05:52.580 i did and i made an exception for that but now that i'm older and i value my standards more

02:05:57.460 because it's more important to me as an individual i don't frequent those atmospheres anymore so to

02:06:02.340 that extent i would have to say a third uh just because of the nature of the offers i've been on

02:06:07.940 so when i date the the third date thereabouts i give the woman the opportunity to plan the date

02:06:14.980 because I want to see what her creativity is going to be, right? And a lot of the times when

02:06:19.720 I get there, I end up breaking off the relationship. If you want to call it a relationship, I don't

02:06:24.220 know what you call that, whatever. But by the third date, their idea is so far gone in violating

02:06:31.400 what I'm interested in having around me that I'm just like, we're not a good fit. You're a great

02:06:36.640 person. I wish you the best. No hard feelings. It's just, it's not for me. Yeah. Well, thank you

02:06:41.880 for calling in to share your experience i'm glad you did because i i find more men like you than

02:06:48.040 what they they paint most men want relationships they want family they want marriage it's just

02:06:54.320 you know there's not one there's not enough marriageable women and two you know they're

02:06:59.960 worried about being a target so thank you thank you very much i'm fearless i'm not i don't care

02:07:04.960 about being a target i'm just going to do the right thing in the right way for the right reasons

02:07:07.680 it's an honor to speak with you and I just wanted to give a quick moment shout out to you thanks

02:07:12.600 for all you do keep doing great things and I don't get starstruck easily it's just not who I am but

02:07:17.060 I feel like I'm speaking up to somebody that I never thought I'd get the chance to speak to and

02:07:20.600 I've always wanted to so thank you well thank you for calling in all right all right see now

02:07:27.680 this is what I'm saying you know everyone said you know guys how do you think men find the red

02:07:36.120 pill i am not the red pill i'd like to say it's not me it's not pearl it's it's blog forums from

02:07:46.040 before i was even when i was a baby when i was a child it's um it's men talking in the barber

02:07:53.520 shops it's it's it's bigger than me there's no leader there's no it's just men talking

02:07:59.380 they find it generally through a woman

02:08:06.320 a woman breaks their heart a woman divorces them and they go looking for answers okay it's not it's

02:08:15.180 not me okay um we could do maybe how many are watching on twitter uh we got six thousand three

02:08:25.960 everyone six thousand that's crazy x is giving us x is giving us love yeah um okay we'll do we'll do

02:08:34.520 maybe one or two more one or two more all right i'm gonna bring up the next one uh can you unmute

02:08:41.800 your mic i'm getting kind of hungry hello how are you pearly big fans good to meet you

02:08:52.520 you're beautiful you're more beautiful than i thought oh thank you um what's your name

02:08:59.780 chatron that's how it's pronounced okay so where are you at i'm in charleston charleston south

02:09:07.300 carolina south carolina so are the christian women in south carolina wife material uh with a

02:09:15.600 resounding 100 no and in fact it's even worse where i live at i'm just out here working right

02:09:24.300 now i live in spokane washington it's worse out there because they're extreme liberals

02:09:29.120 they don't even believe in god most of these people are godless faithless baseless people

02:09:33.960 um what i've what i've discovered particularly in the past like six years

02:09:40.460 is the only reason why they turn to God

02:09:43.760 is like you brought out in your opening diatribe

02:09:46.760 was that something goes terribly wrong in their lives

02:09:52.220 and they want some type of spiritual comforting,

02:09:56.700 some type of support,

02:09:59.160 some type of consolation prize.

02:10:03.860 I'll give you an example.

02:10:05.500 I had a chick and I don't want to put her name out there

02:10:08.040 just for the sake of not humiliating her.

02:10:10.460 don't feel free to not it's all right no names needed but she was like 11 years older than me

02:10:15.820 right and i was working two jobs at the time i was working two jobs i was working really hard

02:10:21.740 i was making good money on my main job and i was getting uh i had direct deposit with that

02:10:26.940 on my second job i had an actual paper paycheck stub so she takes it upon herself one day to go

02:10:33.420 through my wallet and sees the paycheck stuff for my second job not knowing that it was my second job

02:10:38.780 and uh she started criticizing me as about how much i make and wondering where i get all this

02:10:46.480 extra money from seeing how that job doesn't pay me enough to make his you know to have the money

02:10:52.340 that i'd be spending i didn't do rape uh she was one of those church girls she had breast cancer

02:11:00.520 and uh she turned to god because she didn't want to die alone or go to hell when she died she was

02:11:06.200 she had got sick and she had been through some things at any rate she didn't know i make really

02:11:12.380 good money doing the job that i actually had and uh she had the nerve to bring the scriptural text

02:11:18.320 to my attention said i'm not being unevenly yoked with this type of guy blah blah blah you know all

02:11:24.740 that one that's a scriptural verse you know biblical scripture biblical verse pertaining

02:11:31.420 to spirituality and the fact that she used it in a way money i'm gonna write that down

02:11:37.380 right right my point exactly and then she said she's not settling and i hit her with a kevin

02:11:44.840 samuels line long before kevin actually said it to her well said this to another chick i said to

02:11:50.420 her you weren't settling for me you were being rescued at the time i was like 29 30 i was about

02:11:56.780 30 she was about 40 and i said yo i'm in tip-top shape i'm six to 210 pounds one percent body i'm

02:12:06.660 in tip-top absolute shape no kids make good money blah blah blah i ran down my resume i'm like wait

02:12:13.940 a minute you're a breast cancer survivor you're a gastric bypass weight loss recipient you're

02:12:20.860 covered and littered with back cheap backyard tattoos and you're 40 you're past the age of

02:12:26.280 geriatric present pregnancy you weren't settling for me and under any circumstance you were being

02:12:31.580 rescued but the whole pretense was she used this i'm a christian as a way of talking trash to try

02:12:38.780 to talk down at somebody and what i've discovered is i've i've been reading the bible and getting

02:12:46.040 scriptural and biblical and things like that recently you know and uh what i've discovered

02:12:51.900 there's uh there's certain texts and scriptures that outright expose these christian people

02:12:57.960 and i'll give you one of them right now out of the mouth it says don't worry about washing your

02:13:04.180 hands before you eat what you eat passes through passes through your body it goes into the sewer

02:13:08.720 but what comes out of your mouth comes from the abundance of your heart the type of heart you have

02:13:14.740 the type of things that you think the type of things that you have in your heart and when you

02:13:18.460 at these church people when you look at these uh what's the word i'm looking for here these so-called

02:13:24.220 religious zealots as i like to call them they're always talking bad about someone they're always

02:13:30.460 talking down about someone they're always everything up their mouth other than what

02:13:35.900 they say about themselves is something bad and when you hear somebody only say something bad

02:13:43.340 you have to look at them as hey maybe they're a bad person

02:13:47.260 so what percent of church women do you think are wife material

02:13:53.160 uh again i i just can you see me yeah i can see you you're fine

02:13:59.180 i get i like to just say maybe about zero percent

02:14:03.300 zero none none of them okay they're not there because of their spiritual convictions

02:14:09.880 they're not going to churches because they have a spiritual spiritual conviction they're there

02:14:15.800 they're there to try to gain something and you brought this out earlier they're there to try to

02:14:22.460 trick god into giving them a man they're there to try to trick god into giving them a man

02:14:29.540 you know they're there trying to uh what's the word i'm looking for here

02:14:35.560 well they're godless and they're faithless they're baseless they don't actually believe in god

02:14:41.660 they're they're they're trying to deceive a man to believe it that they are something

02:14:48.520 that a man will let his guard down for so they can steal from him that's what they're there to do

02:14:55.460 and uh hey pearl pearl you there yeah i'm here i'm sorry uh have you seen the ace metaphor show

02:15:05.320 the the talk that the type of people that's in his crowd are the same women that are in those

02:15:10.660 churches look at an ace metaphor crowd crowd let me look i don't know yeah like what's the name

02:15:15.920 his show ace metaphor i don't i don't actually know who that is there's a guy named ace metaphor

02:15:22.260 who obsidian's always laughing about crowd oh i think i've seen this oh i see he can put it on

02:15:30.300 tonight's discussion or tonight's conversation or something like that oh yeah yeah okay i see i see

02:15:35.320 all of those chicks are the same chicks that you'll see out of td jakes or creflo dollar crap

02:15:44.360 oh i see no totally well thank you for what i just want to uh commend you for what you do

02:15:53.800 and uh i'm i'm really looking like crap right now because i just got off work

02:15:58.840 and stepped into my air anyway um i want to commend you about what you've done and what

02:16:03.240 you're doing and uh i was talking to obsidian on his show not long ago and i complimented you

02:16:09.480 i saw your pierce morgan um interview keep up the good work young lady you're doing very very well

02:16:15.640 you're gonna have what you want you're a wife you're gonna have what you want

02:16:20.280 keep up the good work okay thank you very much thank you um okay so we got

02:16:28.360 we got hold on how many do we have any people back there oh yeah a lot we have we have six

02:16:38.760 so far oh wow okay hold on give me one second guys i'm trying to um all right put up so okay now

02:16:51.240 we have two men not me saying this ladies ladies this isn't Pearl saying this they both one

02:17:01.620 was a guy doesn't drink doesn't smoke seems to be involved in church

02:17:08.540 I didn't I don't know about the other guy but but both of them have not had positive experiences

02:17:17.460 with Christian women. Stop blaming me, Christian ladies. Like I did this. If you guys are so good,

02:17:26.180 why isn't your reputation better? Why isn't it better? But who knows? Maybe I'm wrong. Maybe

02:17:33.540 I'm just crazy. Oh, oh, Pearl, Pearl, Pearl, Pearl. I don't know. Maybe I'll get another guy that says

02:17:41.640 it's 90 who knows um okay let let maybe one or two more callers guys also hit the like button

02:17:52.620 what can they push it out on youtube we have 800 likes i think on oh on on youtube can we get to

02:18:02.720 a thousand and on x as well let's get the likes do they like it on x i don't understand x yeah

02:18:09.520 We got, like, 56 likes in the 6,000.

02:18:12.060 They have 56 likes and 6,000?

02:18:15.800 6,600 people in here.

02:18:17.440 I am protesting.

02:18:19.580 I am pro-

02:18:20.480 Yes.

02:18:21.880 Yes, Axe.

02:18:23.260 Protesting.

02:18:24.580 P-R-O-T-E-S-T-I-N-G.

02:18:28.500 Let's get some retweets as well.

02:18:30.160 Yeah, give me some retweets.

02:18:31.760 Retweet, like, whatever, you know.

02:18:35.080 Did I do this to the women's reputation?

02:18:37.700 Okay.

02:18:38.020 because again when i when i do these shows there's no right or wrong answer you could tell me a

02:18:43.380 billion percent if you guys want i don't i don't know where you guys are from i'm saying this is

02:18:50.040 my my experience tell me yours okay it's called ai bots um i don't know i don't know um okay let's

02:19:00.600 let's take the next caller you up hello hello how are you good how are you i'm fine i'm fine

02:19:11.300 so in your experience are christian women wife material wait wait first i want to know where

02:19:16.440 you're from before i go sorry where are you from i'm from alabama and but i was actually born in

02:19:22.140 gary indiana so i'm actually next to you in chicago oh nice so what do you do um i'm actually

02:19:29.080 president of a defense company oh cool okay so tell me are christian women sorry i i have more

02:19:38.040 questions that i think of that i should ask first what religion are you christian christian okay so

02:19:44.120 are christian women wife material true christian women yes these christian feminists no they're

02:19:52.440 not marriage material and too many of them basically when they have all the failures that

02:19:58.440 they have they have all the hot girl summers they have all the crazy stuff that they do they have

02:20:03.640 the multiple fair on the failed mayor um marriages or they will sit there and have the multiple

02:20:11.160 engagements that never happened then all of a sudden they run back to church wait the

02:20:16.920 engagements do they lie about engagements look look look the engagements of well i was with him

02:20:25.080 But so far, he asked me, but I turned him down, you know, that type of dumb stuff.

02:20:29.740 Oh, wow.

02:20:30.740 You know, and, you know, and as a man that mentors other men in business, you know, I

02:20:35.660 tend to listen to like these young men and they're asking me for like my advice because

02:20:39.580 I've actually been married for 28 years.

02:20:42.420 I got four kids, two boys and two girls.

02:20:46.280 And they're like, well, what did you do to make it work?

02:20:49.740 And then I basically explained to them how like we were able to make it work.

02:20:53.300 but i but i do feel for my sons you know like out there because it's crazy

02:20:58.460 if your son is like looking at the women in church how old's your son my youngest son is 23 23 so is

02:21:07.920 he married single um he's single he actually um he just graduated he just graduated from the

02:21:15.100 university of alabama and he's about to go into like the law program now um he actually started

02:21:20.680 his first day is um like what a law firm like today wow that's awesome yeah okay so in your

02:21:27.660 experience like for him what percent of women if he goes to your church under like that are his age

02:21:33.860 would you say are marriage material like that you would say are good enough for your son

02:21:37.800 i would say probably no more than about 30 to 33 percent the rest of them are just i mean you know

02:21:45.480 you know I'm gonna be honest it's a hot mess yeah you know um um even like with the men that

02:21:51.480 I mentor that are 35 and 40 years old or or like a few that you know like you know younger they're

02:21:59.120 like they're like 28 years old it's I mean it's a mess it's a hot mess yeah and I can see you don't

02:22:06.140 say this like you're not looking for this like it's like almost with a heavy heart when you say

02:22:11.120 it like you're not so i'm saying like it's not like you're happy about it you know no it's it's

02:22:16.460 you know it's literally one of those things of seeing it go down the drain the way that it's

02:22:21.540 going down the drain that it is and then to sit here and have people that will quote unquote take

02:22:27.660 no accountability for their actions and no way shape form or fashion and then basically make

02:22:33.960 these particular demands it's like you you haven't earned that and because you haven't earned that

02:22:41.720 why are you trying to make these particular demands it's crazy so what and i guess in your

02:22:48.940 church what do you think contributed to this to me the feminism um you know the feminist movement

02:22:59.420 it caused a lot of problems you know the sexual revolution caused a lot of problems anytime now

02:23:05.840 i mean you know like in the church i mean it isn't uncommon now to see dumb stuff in the church where

02:23:11.320 you see pastors doing dumb stuff you see they have these um assistant pastors who are just like

02:23:21.060 they're about to go to the club and this is a female pastor like they have female pastors in

02:23:25.440 there now or you have a particular group of you know female ministers that have been divorced two

02:23:32.880 three times and they're trying to guide people it's like no you should no you should be sitting

02:23:39.040 you should sit down you should sit down you you you definitely should sit down you know it's you

02:23:45.980 know it's no it's crazy and then like I mean people want to get upset when um whenever you

02:23:52.380 mention stuff like this but it's obvious anytime that you don't have fathers you don't have your

02:23:59.260 brothers you don't have your uncles guiding you you won't take any advice from a man but yeah you

02:24:05.180 want to go quote unquote get your advice from your friend as a whole come on i mean what are you

02:24:11.180 expecting your results to be yeah yeah and then they'll say like their friends told them to it's

02:24:16.220 It's like, well, why didn't you go to your dad, Becky?

02:24:18.740 It's like you chose the worst run to get advice from.

02:24:24.160 Right.

02:24:24.600 You know, and then, you know, and then how come, you know, and, you know, and one of the things that I basically have mentioned, and sometimes I get people that basically get upset about it.

02:24:35.280 And I sit down and mention, okay, look, I'm African-American.

02:24:38.940 Black women are the last to get married, and they are the first one to get divorced.

02:24:43.140 and also they have the most single parent homes now there's a reason for that and you have to

02:24:51.420 basically take it for what the situation is and say either you're going to make the necessary

02:24:56.760 corrections or not if you're not going to make the corrections then you cannot complain

02:25:01.080 but yet you know but yet they do yeah well thank you for for your contributions tonight

02:25:09.260 thanks for calling in thank you and um keep up the good work and look i understand that they're

02:25:15.820 going to come at you no matter um you know no matter what but just keep on doing like what

02:25:20.220 you're doing thank you all right so this is a married man of 30 years

02:25:30.940 and do you see that you see that you could hear the like hurt in his voice like you know when i

02:25:35.580 say okay what percent of christian women are wife material so women why are why are we

02:25:42.940 if you're special and different why are you offended

02:25:52.380 seriously it doesn't make sense to me if it doesn't apply to you why are you offended

02:25:56.940 if it doesn't apply let it fly why are you offended why you know and it's so interesting

02:26:04.300 It's so interesting. Because many of these women will get so mad at me for their poor decisions.

02:26:13.900 You know, I had two, I had a single mother lecturing me about my salvation.

02:26:20.460 Chick, you ruined your kid's life. You should worry about your child's salvation. Like,

02:26:25.240 you should worry about your kid instead of me. It's like these women, these chicks,

02:26:30.080 how did i make you a single mother i didn't make you do that

02:26:34.740 i didn't make you do corn i didn't make you do that it's not my fault i'm talking about the

02:26:42.580 consequences but yet again what did they say they say pearls the what blessing pearls the what

02:26:49.640 the bad guy the bad guy pearls evil like i like i made i made this

02:27:05.340 um is there any girls in the chat no yeah fair enough well i think i think i'm gonna cut it for

02:27:14.440 tonight sorry guys i'm sorry we can't do everybody but women women women women

02:27:22.600 don't make me the bad guy because you don't like what the men have to say

02:27:30.780 i i'm just the messenger i'm just a normal chick i'm just a normal chick looking at what's going

02:27:37.800 on that's it but let me know what you guys think in the comments make sure you like how many likes

02:27:44.500 are we at let me let me double check this but women we're at a thousand so we're at 900 likes

02:27:51.580 let's get to a thousand i really if you're watching this as a replay i really want to get

02:27:56.340 this at 2000 youtube i i don't think pushes out our stuff as much since we've been demonetized and

02:28:02.520 i i still haven't heard back from youtube even though it's past the date guys it's past the date

02:28:07.340 you guys told me. Pass the date. Let me know. But make sure you like the video and subscribe

02:28:15.300 to the channel. Make sure you ring that notification bell and I'll talk to you next time.

Pearl - March 19, 2024

The Born Again Virgins and The Simps ｜ Pearl Daily

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