Pearl - The Curse of The Modern Mother

00:00:00.000 good afternoon good evening ladies and gentlemen welcome to another episode of pearl daily here

00:00:25.760 on the audacity network i am your host ferrl welcome to the show so i want to tell you guys

00:00:30.720 today about a realization that i had so when i first got into red pill content and um like watching

00:00:47.680 i saw a stream that rollo tomasi did about michaela peterson

00:00:52.560 and when I first saw the stream I thought it was a bit harsh right he was I can't remember exactly

00:01:00.620 so I'm paraphrasing but it was insinuating that she was having someone else raise her kids

00:01:06.660 and I thought to myself how would he even know that and it was something along the lines of

00:01:14.900 her putting on social media looking for a babysitter

00:01:22.040 and hindsight 2020 this was absolutely insane this woman was asking her Instagram to essentially

00:01:33.620 watch her kid and there was a red pill that once I saw it I just couldn't unsee it and that was the

00:01:43.480 curse of modern mothers. Now, what is a modern mother? These are women that put anything else

00:01:52.200 above their children. Now, there was a time when I was younger, there was, so I had about like three

00:02:00.580 really good friends that I was friends with when I was a kid. And I remember collectively,

00:02:07.760 they all really found out that their moms were crazy they spent most of their life thinking that

00:02:14.300 up to like 13 years old they're um everyone else will that the dad was the bad guy so they thought

00:02:21.140 you know a one woman had her dad that was deployed and you know all throughout the year her mom would

00:02:29.340 tell her all these terrible things about her dad till she hit about 13 14 years old figures out

00:02:34.260 mom's crazy mom was cheating on the dad and what i figured out is there's all these different

00:02:41.620 archetypes of mothers that just really do not want to be parents now i need to make a

00:02:55.620 i need to make a disclaimer i am not talking about all mothers there are mothers out there

00:03:02.820 that are amazing that put their kids first that would do anything for their children

00:03:09.060 and i don't want to be flagged by youtube for hate speech on this video so when i am referring

00:03:15.460 to the modern mothers i am referring to the mothers that did a bad job and put everything

00:03:21.300 above their children now when i think of the classes of mothers there's like an a team right

00:03:27.860 I mean, just like a classroom, not everybody can be an A student.

00:03:33.800 So when there is an A student mother, I think of a woman who gave up her career

00:03:39.340 or maybe still obeyed and submitted to her husband even with a career, trusted his judgment.

00:03:48.160 But you knew that that mother would do anything to be with her kids.

00:03:52.580 She was not letting outside people watch the kids.

00:03:55.440 She was not putting her kids in daycare.

00:03:57.680 She would work night shifts.

00:03:59.140 She would do whatever it took to be the one that was the most involved and raise her kids.

00:04:05.540 She would become, she would work at night if she had to and take her kids to school in the morning.

00:04:12.200 You know, there are some mothers that are really, really dedicated.

00:04:17.060 These are not the mothers I'm discussing today.

00:04:20.760 Now, the first type of mother that I figured out is a gentle parenting mother.

00:04:27.160 now these are the mothers that really want to be their kids friend they don't like to tell their

00:04:34.360 children no and the reason being is they don't like the icky feeling of being the bad guy and

00:04:43.080 they want all the benefits of being a mother raising good kids um having a good relationship

00:04:49.320 with those kids but ultimately often raise their kids to be terrible people because they want to

00:04:54.920 to do the gentle parenting method now i'm not one to say you should abuse your kids like that

00:05:00.760 that would be a terrible thing to say i don't say that i'm not one to say that you should

00:05:06.700 you know um

00:05:09.620 i'm not one to say that you should

00:05:18.380 hit your kid you know i'm not saying one way or the other but

00:05:22.560 But we can all agree gentle parenting really produces the outcome of bad children.

00:05:35.840 Okay.

00:05:37.980 The next thing we're going to talk about is this trend of single mothers by choice.

00:05:44.500 Now these are women and they will tell you themselves that will do anything.

00:05:52.560 they would much rather raise a kid by themselves than do the work of getting along with somebody

00:05:59.860 for the child. Let her tell you herself. Oh no. I recently came across a... Let me go back.

00:06:07.220 Okay, so people wonder... Here we go. Or why someone would want to be a single mom by choice.

00:06:13.740 I know I've mentioned to people, oh, I'd rather just be a single mother. I think once you get

00:06:19.620 to a certain age people start to ask you when are you getting married when are you having kids

00:06:24.280 etc etc and I've said like I would rather just have my kids on my own and be a single mom I've

00:06:31.300 had people ask me now single mothers you know it's one thing if you put your all into a marriage and

00:06:38.580 it just doesn't work out I think we've all seen two people be married that just should never have

00:06:44.380 been married in the first place they weren't the right people their temperaments were completely

00:06:49.300 different they would argue but they can break up amicably and do what's best for the children

00:06:54.820 and then there's the women that can't even try i don't know maybe they're afraid of failure

00:07:02.980 but usually it's because they're so insufferable they can't get along with anybody and they think

00:07:10.880 you know i can't get along with anybody so let's make the kids suffer you know let's let's make

00:07:17.820 the, and oftentimes these people have de-habilitating problems. Maybe they can't,

00:07:23.980 maybe it's their personality. Maybe it's borderline personality disorder. Maybe it's their

00:07:29.480 weight that they can't control. But in some way, generally these people cannot take care of

00:07:35.500 themselves to some degree. Not all, not all, not all, YouTube. Like, why would you want that?

00:07:42.640 um for me i don't have to compromise and so i don't have to compromise in how i raise my kids

00:07:51.540 i don't have to compromise in where we're living in moving for someone else's career

00:07:59.200 like medical me me me me me what i want decisions etc and i'll be honest initially i did

00:08:09.840 I did look into having a known donor

00:08:17.260 or like a co-parenting situation.

00:08:20.060 And I'm really glad that I didn't choose that route

00:08:22.320 because I don't want to share these decisions with anyone.

00:08:25.840 And so that's pretty much why I chose

00:08:27.420 to be a single mom by choice.

00:08:28.720 There's so many ways someone can become

00:08:30.420 a single mom by choice.

00:08:31.920 You can go the traditional adoption route.

00:08:33.940 So going to an adoption agency

00:08:36.320 or maybe you know someone who's having a baby

00:08:39.840 now i i can't say adoption and ivf are the same thing

00:08:48.640 now i'd like to say as somebody that's been on both sides of the adoption

00:08:53.520 system right um at least my family did you know we adopted

00:09:00.960 i had a brother that was given up for adoption so i've been on both sides

00:09:04.480 it's one thing to take a baby now babies they tend to have a long wait list from what I understand

00:09:12.540 the kids that nobody takes or signs up for as much are the children that are in foster care

00:09:21.100 you know maybe their mom's a crackhead and like the state had to take them away and now this kid

00:09:25.320 has seen some terrible things he wants to raise you know that's a ton of work maybe special needs

00:09:31.920 You know, for a mother and taking care of a kid that nobody wants, that is not the same thing.

00:09:40.640 What these ladies do is they go and they pay for egg, you know, egg donors, IVF.

00:09:46.620 They get all the technology, sperm donors, and make a baby that they are not prepared, ready for,

00:09:53.120 because they can't find a guy to deal with them.

00:09:57.020 No, I wasn't adopted.

00:09:58.460 don't no i i had um i had a brother i found out about later in life i'll tell you that story a

00:10:08.000 different day sorry that would like to put their child up for adoption or prefer to also hit that

00:10:16.840 like button also if you guys have a comment you want read you go to the audacity network.com my

00:10:22.060 friend here richard evans says white people are doomed to fail because they're the only race that

00:10:27.100 cares about what women think and say andrew tate that is not true that is not true andrew i

00:10:36.380 if we're going to talk about mother issues there's a lot of people that they can't move

00:10:41.500 away from their mothers i've seen this across races can't move away from their moms always

00:10:47.580 have to live their life on their mom's terms like let's not come on tay i i don't agree with that

00:10:54.220 place their child uh you can i wrote them all down so one second well not all of them i'm sure

00:11:01.760 there's some that i'm missing but uh embryo adoption or donation so embryo adoption is when

00:11:09.620 someone does ivf and they have extra embryos i don't like to call them extra because i feel

00:11:16.040 like they're humans and they're not just like pieces of candy so they're not really extra but

00:11:22.660 they have more embryos than they would most likely want to birth what's wrong

00:11:28.360 with the audio guys let me let me message my producer I'm gonna keep

00:11:32.800 playing this and so with those embryos they'll give them to another couple

00:11:39.100 another single parent yes so IVF is when you stimulate your ovaries to create

00:11:46.000 eggs or more eggs and then you will fertilize them with sperm once they're

00:11:52.120 fertilized after like it could go from three to seven days i'm not sure if it can go longer than

00:11:57.720 that but i know three to seven is what i've seen and at that point they're okay we get the idea

00:12:04.280 so you know she's telling you herself i don't want to get along with a man because i don't want to

00:12:11.320 share any of the decisions now what is interesting is most family dynamics are run by women this is

00:12:20.760 across race, culture, and country. You know, I've talked to people from Nigeria to India to

00:12:28.400 white America, black America, Southern America, Northern America. Most houses are decorated the

00:12:35.660 way the mom wants. Most kids go to school where the mother wants. Most things are done the way

00:12:42.680 the mother wants. What percent of people had a dad that knew how to say no and that couldn't be

00:12:49.340 manipulated i mean how often do women overreact not all do many women overreact just to get the

00:12:58.400 man to do something for them now we're gonna continue to the single mothers by choice so this

00:13:07.300 is another woman saying her journey to being a single mother by choice everyone and welcome to

00:13:12.700 my channel and welcome to my journey on becoming a single mom by choice my name is caitlin i'm 34

00:13:18.520 and will be 35 in April and I live in Maryland. So what is a single mom by choice? A single mom

00:13:26.640 by choice is someone who seeks out solo motherhood for a variety of different reasons and a variety

00:13:32.780 of different ways. You can seek out motherhood by a sperm donor, an embryo donor, adoption. There's

00:13:38.720 a variety of different ways. It is different than someone who gets pregnant and the relationship

00:13:44.440 doesn't work and they decide to still have the baby and be a solo mom. So how did I get here?

00:13:52.300 What started off as an egg freezing journey turned into a lot of research and just some

00:13:58.420 soul searching and I was in a seven-year relationship and that unfortunately didn't

00:14:05.020 work out. I knew I wanted to be a mom and I thought... So she was in that relationship trying

00:14:10.700 to find Prince Charming. If women know they want to be moms, they're not waiting around

00:14:16.700 to do it. It's on the table as soon as the man wants it.

00:14:21.500 I thought that he would be the one that I would have a family with. He had three kids

00:14:25.180 of his own, which sparked my motherly instincts. But up until this point, I've been really

00:14:30.660 focused on my career, and I'm fortunate to have gotten a promotion, which gives me off

00:14:34.900 weekends again. And that is just giving me a little bit more of a work-life balance where

00:14:40.180 I feel like I'm ready to start my family. Unfortunately, the right guy hasn't come along.

00:14:47.060 I've dated on and off since that relationship ended four years ago. I've met some amazing people

00:14:52.580 and some of my greatest friends. However, I haven't met the one and the person that wants

00:14:59.200 to commit and have a family with me. So I was left kind of between a rock and a hard place.

00:15:04.200 Do I throw everything into dating or do I go about solo motherhood?

00:15:09.180 I am the type of person who, when I want something, I just go after it.

00:15:16.640 Um, and now if, did she think, okay, what's better for the kid?

00:15:23.960 She thought, this is what I want.

00:15:26.380 Me, me, me, me, me, me, me, me, me, me.

00:15:28.980 Did she think, is it better for the kid to grow up with a dad?

00:15:34.200 there usually is no stopping me which is a good thing and can also be a negative at the same time

00:15:45.660 but I felt a huge weight lifted off of my shoulders once I made this decision

00:15:50.360 and what really was eye-opening to me is I felt as if over the last four years I've been dating

00:15:57.360 in a pressure cooker I wanted that family so bad and I wanted to have kids so bad that every date

00:16:03.800 I went on, I was looking at it. Does this have the potential to progress to an engagement in

00:16:09.380 six months to a year? Now, this is the anxiety that women make men's problem. Look, I'm no spring

00:16:19.300 chicken, you know, but is it fair for me? And I'm asking you guys, is it fair for the women?

00:16:26.880 If we decide to settle down 25, 26, 35, as opposed to 20, 21, 22, is it fair to put that

00:16:40.580 on the men to say, hey, tick-tock, six months or less, I need a ring one year, especially

00:16:48.020 with the court system being how it is?

00:16:50.660 Is it fair to make this men's problem?

00:16:56.880 no it's not fair I mean do it they put all the pressure on the men for their

00:17:04.620 past problems look people have their reasons for doing things there's no

00:17:13.320 right or wrong here but what is what is I guess I could say wrong it is wrong to

00:17:19.620 choose to be a single mother something's wrong with you but is it

00:17:26.260 right to make a choice and then make someone else pay for your choice like your kid

00:17:34.020 then a marriage quickly after and then kids because i don't want to start having kids when

00:17:39.220 i'm 40. i know some people do i know some people that start i got a i got a message saying that

00:17:44.980 i should do collins today i wasn't planning on it but you know what i'll give you guys the option

00:17:52.100 this is early in the show this is early in the show if i get 10 signups this show on the audacity

00:18:00.020 network.com i want no excuses none because it's on the website it's on i mean sorry it's on apple

00:18:06.980 store and it's also on um whatever the other one i have an apple phone the other one so if i get 10

00:18:15.300 we can do call-ins and I'll take like a couple callers at the end assuming my producer says we

00:18:22.920 can do it which I'm sure he will tell me soon it's a holiday season you know he's at home but

00:18:30.060 I got I officially got one sign up

00:18:33.080 uh from elliot i won't say the last name but did get a sign up so yeah yeah i i will blackmail you

00:18:48.220 guys yep yep andrew wilson larping again well too bad after 40 that just personally isn't for me

00:18:58.840 I really wanted to start having kids around this time and I actually always

00:19:05.260 said it tongue-in-cheek that if I'm 35 and I'm still single then I'm just gonna

00:19:09.400 do it with a sperm donor and I never really thought that was going to happen

00:19:12.340 but yet here we are so when doing research I turned to YouTube and I found

00:19:17.260 some amazing women who have chosen this path that I felt a connection to and I

00:19:21.520 okay what would I do if I was 35 and I wanted children I don't believe in

00:19:28.820 ivf so what would i do if i was coaching her i would first say all right lady we need to let

00:19:36.260 whatever your list is for a husband we need to cut it in half he needs to be attractive enough

00:19:43.460 that you can have sex with him that's one he needs to have to be a good person to raise the kids

00:19:52.660 and I would say you get like three things that you want you want them to be tall and hot pick one

00:19:59.660 pick one lady and I would say all right it's time you know the ladies will say no I don't

00:20:05.460 want to use the dating apps I would say it's time to use the dating apps you get like 5,000

00:20:10.280 matches on there and I would say I'm sorry lady but it's time you're gonna have to sleep with

00:20:17.600 these guys pretty fast you're 35 no guy is going to wait so if you like a guy you think he could

00:20:24.080 be it use protection but this is the only way that that whole waiting thing you know i'll be

00:20:31.780 nice i'll give you three dates if you don't want to sleep with him by three dates keep going move

00:20:36.740 on next next i need you to fill out your schedule with these with dates this is your job this is a

00:20:45.680 part-time job you know and will she get picked will it work out probably not but look at we

00:21:00.080 got to do the best we can it's better than being a single mother i felt that wow i really could

00:21:07.360 do this as well i also threw myself into podcasts the single greatest choice podcast

00:21:12.400 is one of my favorites and i have done some of her community okay guys what would you say if

00:21:18.000 she wants to get a husband if that's what she's looking for she's got to go on dates

00:21:23.920 how else is she going to get there oh you know what i would do a matchmaker too i would say

00:21:29.520 we're going to go all angles lady i need you to approach one guy you find hot every day

00:21:34.640 so every day you go out if you see a guy you find hot i want you to go say hi

00:21:38.000 um ask him out it's time yeah you gotta hunt like the men do i mean you're not you're not 22 anymore

00:21:48.880 groups and

00:21:52.000 she has to date 40 year old men yeah i would say go older

00:22:02.060 uh you don't i i wouldn't go divorced because i think you know once the guy's done that once he's

00:22:08.600 done but would you consider rushing the rushing forcing a marriage to meet the biological

00:22:16.280 clock leading to increased divorce rates yeah but i'm just saying if i if i was guys we're

00:22:22.840 trying to be pragmatic here feel free to give your take in the comments activities and that's

00:22:28.000 i would say i would say all right download bumble and hinge now i would say go hinge you're gonna

00:22:32.320 buy you're gonna buy the premium version of it and you're gonna four nights a week you're going

00:22:38.800 on dates four nights a week until you find your first date you have up to three dates to want to

00:22:46.880 sleep with them if you don't it's on to the next don't waste his time you have three um

00:22:54.720 then i would say approach a guy every day it's a numbers game i mean at 35 it's not like she's

00:23:00.480 getting a bunch of offers i mean she's gonna be recreational use for like the first

00:23:07.520 and i would give her expectations i'm like look you're gonna be pumped and dumped

00:23:14.000 at this age

00:23:17.280 there's probably something wrong with you we got to figure out what it is

00:23:19.920 a matchmaker can help you because they give you feedback and what is drive you know

00:23:25.220 no I'm not kidding what this is called you know desperate times that she's had plan to give up

00:23:36.840 everything you know yeah I mean and it's amazing how incredible these women are there is such a

00:23:45.900 huge community behind these single moms by choice there's a group for the dmv and every single woman

00:23:52.860 that i've met there has just been so welcoming so willing to help so willing to talk through

00:23:58.300 the challenges and everyone is just so supportive the community is incredible and i said she'll

00:24:08.060 she'll boot you before the kid is two. Yeah. But look, this is the strategy for the women.

00:24:17.220 Now, if I was strategizing with the guys, I'd say don't touch with a 10-foot pole.

00:24:22.800 She's considering single motherhood by choice. I wouldn't go there.

00:24:30.720 For the ladies, though, I would say, you know, you're going to have to start booking that calendar.

00:24:34.560 okay so you guys get the idea this is uh so the other the thing that inspired this live stream

00:24:43.860 was the social media mothers so these are the women that either are kim kardashian or think

00:24:54.740 they're kim kardashian and are using their women sorry are using their children for clout

00:25:02.420 Now, as you guys know, I get a lot of flack for pointing this out from the Tradcons.

00:25:07.820 When they'll throw their kid on an app like Twitter with pedophiles and say, you know what?

00:25:13.820 I need to virtue signal using my children today.

00:25:18.180 Look at my amazing, awesome family for clout.

00:25:24.460 Zach says, pump and dump. Pearl, stop giving away my moves.

00:25:28.160 No, no, I would tell the 35-year-old woman to expect it.

00:25:31.560 the trad cons will say wait till marriage they're idiots at that age that's not gonna work they're

00:25:36.680 dumb i would say look lady there's something wrong with you i don't know what but i i would

00:25:42.800 expect to get pumped and dumped a couple times before you find prince charming just realistically

00:25:47.880 i mean

00:25:49.880 anyways so now she's putting her uh 12 year old daughter on tiktok

00:26:00.100 in a mini skirt with her boobs out at like 12 years old.

00:26:30.500 so and they also do the thirst traps with the children

00:26:37.460 you see this she's she's doing the the booty thing

00:26:43.460 oh where's the hold on let me go to her page there's two on this have a holly jolly

00:26:49.220 have a holly jolly christmas xoxo look at this she's got her boobs out at like 12 years old

00:26:56.420 do you see this this nonsense

00:26:59.900 have a holly jolly christmas xoxo gossip girl last christmas i gave you my heart

00:27:11.200 but the very next day you give it away

00:27:15.120 now oftentimes the ladies like kim kardashian they have nannies raising their kids a lot of

00:27:22.920 your trad con influencers and they don't really want to be mothers they like the clout of the

00:27:28.560 children they like having the kids so they can be told I am a good person I am special awesome

00:27:36.980 and amazing and motherhood trendy trad wife trendy I know and so these are what I call the social

00:27:48.820 media mothers. Now, next are what I call the mothers that really are not meant to be mothers.

00:27:59.740 These are the mothers that there is not a bone in there. You know, sorry. I'm a little spacey

00:28:07.020 today, guys. I don't know. I'm kind of tired. There are mothers that get absolute joy from

00:28:16.140 watching their children. They look at their kids and it lights up their life. And then there's

00:28:27.580 women that don't have a nurturing bone in their body and are too selfish to ever have children

00:28:34.300 because they will always put themselves before the children. And they will actually tell you

00:28:42.380 that they don't want to be mothers reasons why i don't want any more children

00:28:49.840 i gave up my entire 20s to being a mom i became a mom at 21 i had another child at 26

00:28:56.780 shorty is trying to claim her 30s back like period okay i spent my entire 20s trying to

00:29:05.240 find the balance between being a mom and figuring out who the fuck i was and i didn't even know that

00:29:09.820 at that time because i thought i was just living so let's start there your 20s are supposed to be

00:29:17.020 your selfish years and anybody who tells you that that is not true i don't know what planet they're

00:29:23.260 on but your 20s are your selfish years is the years that you are an actual you're transitioning

00:29:29.020 into being an adult mentally physically emotionally spiritually etc so no you shouldn't be nobody's

00:29:35.020 parent especially in your early 20s and i had a son at 21 so we were riding this wave together

00:29:41.340 just getting smacked with the waves you know and then by the time i was 26 i mean it wasn't as hard

00:29:46.220 but still like i didn't have my 20s to myself so she resents her children she says you know what

00:29:55.100 i had these kids young i wish i didn't i didn't get to party i didn't get to do all the fun stuff

00:30:00.620 so no i don't want any more kids and let's not even get into this part but we are everywhere

00:30:08.920 i go that they see my two children they're like oh my god you look so young because i am i'm only

00:30:14.220 30 with a nine-year-old and a four-year-old and don't get me wrong like 21 you're an adult i was

00:30:21.420 an adult i had a child at an adult age but are you really an adult at 21 yeah are you really

00:30:32.380 you are for all you people out there or mamas who think you want to have children oh i got my

00:30:39.560 allergies to my eye before 25 don't do it and you know what 30 and after is a great age to become a

00:30:47.140 mom honestly it is like especially if you treated your 20s as you should it was tough being a mom

00:30:55.380 I love my son and I loved him and I had such a great time with him but I still wanted to do me

00:31:01.840 and becoming like I had to be selfless before I could even be selfish that was tough and then I

00:31:08.880 had my daughter and let me tell you having a child at an older age I saw the difference when you

00:31:14.280 reflect between being a mom at 21 and being a mom at 26 and even being a mom now at 30 like my

00:31:19.260 patience is so much more now like so beautiful but imagine if I would have been selfish and then

00:31:27.420 became selfless they would not have to ride these waves with me probably would have been simpler

00:31:31.200 waves I don't know but the reason I don't want no more kids is because my son is gonna be nine

00:31:36.340 and my daughter's four. And I finally made it. I'm not on survival mode anymore. I am just a mom

00:31:45.140 living life and life will just continue to elevate from here. And I want to claim that life

00:31:52.420 before, like, I just want to claim it with my kids. So I'm two and done and 30 and claimed,

00:31:58.420 period okay why do mothers get away with saying that they don't like their children

00:32:08.680 what effect is that going to have on the kids one day you know children they don't always process

00:32:16.960 things right away or understand what's going on but they're not stupid and they figure it out

00:32:21.340 eventually and you know many times adults figure out what happened in the past or able to process

00:32:30.180 things that happened during their childhood but they used to be able to process those things

00:32:36.120 privately now the ladies are on social media documenting how much they don't like their

00:32:43.100 children now I'm going to take a second and read the audacity chat so guys if you go to the audacity

00:32:51.260 I said, I'll take callers today if we get 10 signups during the show.

00:32:57.500 We have one right now.

00:32:58.500 You know, it's up to you guys.

00:32:59.760 It's 10 bucks a month, 80 bucks a year.

00:33:02.480 You normally on most chats have to buy super chats, but here you don't.

00:33:06.160 It's just on the website, okay.

00:33:10.600 Bob Miller says, sorry, first names, Bob, especially if they've been run through, I'm

00:33:15.380 not saying you're run through, I'm just saying if, especially if other women are run through,

00:33:19.700 it's not the way god designed it um you mean nine i have already signed up um i said today

00:33:28.020 guys i don't work for free this isn't i'm already signed up come on

00:33:34.980 look guys i have these shows planned it's just if you're gonna if we're gonna go

00:33:39.300 off the plan i need you guys to to get the 10 during a show i'm not asking for a ton of money

00:33:46.020 10 bucks i signed up ages ago somewhere in an alternate do you guys want the calls that bad

00:33:55.540 i mean is this okay maybe i'll do one or two let me make sure i can because my producer

00:34:01.620 is oh he said he can do it okay maybe i can bob so why is the man ever wanted to settle down with

00:34:08.580 her pearl tell the youtube people you're only posting the zoom link on the audacity network

00:34:13.380 and so they have to join to get it. It'll be a perk for us and drive those losers to your side.

00:34:18.260 You know what? I like that idea. I think that's a good idea. Okay, Charles, being a single mom

00:34:25.460 by choice should be illegal. Yes. And it's crazy because the conservatives will freak out at the

00:34:30.600 gay guys that want to have kids. Rightly so. I don't think that's right either. But a man,

00:34:39.580 sorry a woman tries to do the same thing nobody bats an eye and it's encouraged that woman is a

00:34:46.840 sex trafficker I see it because she's a sex trafficker she's a disgusting human being look

00:34:52.140 how she's got dressed like a good little catholic girl I have three daughters and it's disgusting

00:34:56.980 I think the average age of woman a thousand years ago was like 12 or 13 so was her husband when the

00:35:03.240 life expectancy was 40 how old do you think mothers were there must be six million years

00:35:09.180 of human evolution there has to be known or knowable imagine living with a bamboo women like

00:35:14.560 that i bet on my left nut you wouldn't make it past 60. okay let me look at the next one

00:35:20.160 i have so many now this is women figuring out that motherhood is hard girlfriends that are like i love

00:35:29.220 my kid but i still want my life from before i had my kid i want to work even more now that i've had

00:35:34.700 kid because i realized being a full-time mom is hard there has been this weird stigma around women

00:35:40.700 who decide to not have kids i've been seeing it much more normalized now on tick tock i've been

00:35:45.900 seeing all these videos where people are saying i had kids and i love my kids but if i could go back

00:35:52.060 and do it over i wouldn't do it and that's something that was so taboo to say and it's

00:35:57.100 super controversial people are so scared for a reason for a reason if you think it's super taboo

00:36:05.980 to say why would it be taboo why would that be a good idea to say that and it's one thing to say

00:36:11.260 it in private and let's not pretend like the way we talk in public and private is the same thing

00:36:18.060 your mom yelling at you in private is one thing your mom yelling at you in front of everyone

00:36:26.540 is a completely different thing and social media has allowed women to do this

00:36:32.540 scared if they do feel that way to actually say that out loud but it's a real feeling

00:36:36.540 that people actually have why is that so horrible to talk about doesn't mean you don't love your

00:36:40.700 child of course you would never give them back it's not like you have to regret it to say hey

00:36:45.660 if i knew what i was in for i wouldn't do it let me do another can't even believe i regret having

00:36:54.540 kids. I'm 35 female and I regret my decision to ever have children. I'm constantly burnt out

00:37:01.740 and touched out and exhausted being the only one doing the caretaking. I love them and make sure

00:37:08.280 that they know it but this is not a life I will never choose to live for myself again. How do

00:37:14.300 other single parents in relationships make it happen? I feel like I'm going to explode either

00:37:19.660 from depression, exhaustion, or rage. My family's help is minimal, but I'm grateful for what they do

00:37:26.560 give. I haven't had a child-free night since Christmas Eve 2020, and before that, March of

00:37:33.420 2018. I'm so angry inside, every time I have to take on one more burden myself. I want to run

00:37:41.420 away some days, but I would never inflict that trauma on my children. My mom left me, and I would

00:37:48.020 never hurt my kids like that i'm not some checked out parent either i give hugs i read books i give

00:37:55.620 nightly baths and i ask about school i give words of encouragement and i'm exhausted by it every

00:38:02.980 single minute am i a piece of garbage yup probably but i really just wanted to get this off my chest

00:38:14.100 now these are the women you know feminists have a point to an extent put a one in the

00:38:22.980 chat if you think that there are certain women that were just not meant to have children or be

00:38:29.420 mothers and I'll tell you what interviewing a thousand women I used to think pretty much

00:38:35.880 every woman had it in them until I started interviewing women and seeing what they

00:38:41.020 prioritize and there is a woman mother of four that would come on my show constantly

00:38:47.820 and i would always wonder who's watching your kids i knew she wasn't watching them she was at

00:38:51.340 every event everything we would throw she would come nice enough woman but you know

00:38:56.940 you beg the question who the hell is watching your kids not to mention the single mothers

00:39:02.060 that have a revolving door of men in and out of their life

00:39:07.100 okay next okay next the next archetype we have is the competing

00:39:18.620 right the next archetype of mother we have is the competing mother

00:39:24.620 these are the mothers that compete with their daughters many of them

00:39:29.820 flirt with their daughter's boyfriends whenever something good happens to the daughter

00:39:37.100 They need to steal the attention. They cannot deal with their children getting more attention than

00:39:44.500 them. Many men told me that their girlfriend's mothers would hit on them. These are the mothers

00:39:51.780 that try to be young forever and dress like they are in their teenage years. Next we have the I

00:39:59.180 did so much for you mother. These are the mothers that want a ribbon for having a kid. Having a kid

00:40:06.120 It is easy.

00:40:07.120 Anyone can do it.

00:40:09.280 And these mothers resent their children because they missed out on their youth, often married

00:40:14.860 young and gave up a high-powered career in order to be a mom.

00:40:18.660 You can't serve two masters.

00:40:20.780 You can't have it all, at least not at the same time.

00:40:23.600 And these are the women that kill themselves trying to do so.

00:40:27.500 They are women that gave up things in order to have children.

00:40:31.500 But does it count if the women feel as though they should have chosen the alternative?

00:40:36.600 I found that many women feel as though they missed out on a career or partying in their

00:40:41.220 youth when they were young.

00:40:42.500 They regret the decision and they make sure their children know.

00:40:47.380 This is where the I did so much for you mothers come from.

00:40:50.740 This is where the mothers that want recognition for doing the bare minimum of raising a child

00:40:55.920 they chose to have.

00:40:58.020 I did so much for you means I give only in order to get.

00:41:02.620 I missed out on this means I wanted to party more than being a mom.

00:41:08.200 Next, there are the I hate your father mothers.

00:41:11.360 These are the mothers that hate the fathers of their children so much that they make the kids pay for it.

00:41:18.080 These are the mothers that say things like, you are just like your father.

00:41:21.840 These women married men that they don't really like, and every chance they get, they belittle him.

00:41:27.400 These are the mothers who make passive-aggressive jokes and disrespect the father in front of the

00:41:32.100 kid. When these women get divorced, they make sure the entire town knows and they play victim,

00:41:36.740 even to the point of filing abuse allegations. The social media moms are the ones that use their

00:41:44.020 children to build their brand. Growing up, children deserve a sense of privacy, but for

00:41:49.160 whatever reason, the moms think it's more important to show off that they are a good mother. It's very

00:41:54.840 obvious by their social media posts they are trying to signal signal look at me I'm a great

00:41:59.540 mom this in itself is not traditional because traditional women bring the least amount of

00:42:04.940 attention to themselves um now I wanted to react to this is what I call the cope

00:42:15.820 and what women will do is they'll make decisions that clearly are not the best for their kids and

00:42:23.780 really if I were them I would just advise being quiet but what they tend to do is they tend to

00:42:29.620 have to rationalize these things and I want to show you guys two modern mothers and I do I am

00:42:39.020 fans of both of them so if you see this it's not personal but what you're saying makes no sense at

00:42:44.480 all and it makes you look like a bad mom I hope you're not I hope you're a good mom but based on

00:42:49.840 this i wouldn't bet on it okay so i'm gonna play this tower and the cop cars i mean i am in new

00:42:57.600 york city am i here we're here um hey is this your daily view when you're here well when i'm here

00:43:03.420 i try to be not in new york city as often as humanly possible but yeah when i'm here this

00:43:08.860 is not not a bad gig it's insane which i expected but then you're like okay i get it um okay we have

00:43:16.060 a lot to get to in that much time.

00:43:17.500 Day in the life of Laura Trump right now.

00:43:20.580 Oh my God.

00:43:21.420 Is what?

00:43:23.380 Oof, often it changes.

00:43:26.340 I mean, that's the thing.

00:43:27.180 But if an average day I try to get up as early as I can

00:43:31.260 and get a workout in, honestly,

00:43:32.580 sometimes it's in the three o'clock hour I wake up.

00:43:35.060 It depends on the day.

00:43:36.460 If I got-

00:43:37.300 3 a.m.?

00:43:38.140 No, 3.45, I've been known to do, if I need to.

00:43:41.880 I don't want to, but if I need to, I get a workout in.

00:43:45.800 got to get a sweat going and then you know i deal with my children sometimes i do an interview

00:43:51.400 before they even wake up then i get my kids up i get them ready we go to school or camp depending

00:43:56.520 on you know the season right now and then i'm either traveling somewhere for the rnc and you

00:44:03.480 know out on the campaign trail right now in between trying to fit in uh many things that i'm personally

00:44:09.480 doing like a podcast that i have or um you know interviews for the rnc and campaign and

00:44:16.440 i try to make a trip a day trip if i can and so sometimes it means that i am the first one up and

00:44:22.440 out of my house in the morning and the last one back and in bed at night and as many moms know

00:44:27.880 i am also if i come home at midnight and there's stuff that's not in the right spot i'm putting

00:44:32.120 it away absolutely you can't wake up to miss yeah to crap no no i can't do it i can't function but

00:44:37.080 you know it changes uh every day but it's a lot of travel it's a lot of hustle but honestly it's

00:44:43.960 the thing that i feel most inspired to do right now and i think is most important to do and uh

00:44:49.880 i know that i can do so they have they have slips is the most important thing the kids

00:44:57.880 or the job do it because it's not forever there's a finite amount of time attached to how crazy

00:45:04.360 things are right now um but no no two days are alike and but it's always a hustle the finite

00:45:10.440 time period you're talking specifically about like the job stuff because the home stuff is the exact

00:45:15.960 same thing oh well the whole thing right i mean and that go and then it flies by and we were just

00:45:20.600 talking your kids are babies six and four yeah mine are 22 28. they said oh great she's a wonder

00:45:26.280 woman she forgot to mention the nanny yeah these women all have nannies teen and i'm so set like

00:45:32.200 i'm excited for this new chapter but i'm sad because they're not six and four right and so

00:45:37.960 that's the hard part is trying to balance all of the work stuff and it's more than work it's

00:45:42.760 a passion it's a career with the fact that your babies are not going to be babies for long yeah

00:45:47.160 like you have to be present so how it's not a lot of sleep i think that's generally how i operate

00:45:54.360 now and you're right i'm i'm so acutely aware because so many people have told me enjoy this

00:46:01.000 time really taken in and look you only get a certain amount of time to really impact the

00:46:05.880 lives of your kids to impact the lives of another human being and i don't want somebody else to do

00:46:11.560 that job so i mean the mom guilt is real sometimes my kids don't like when i leave i don't like when

00:46:18.040 i leave but i i have to do it a lot in the times now the question is does she have to

00:46:25.400 to is there a man that could do the same job just as good I'm not saying it's right or wrong but

00:46:35.660 what I am what I'm showing if she's admitting she's not prioritizing the kids she's prioritizing

00:46:42.320 what she wants to do if your kids are counting down the days till you get back it's showing

00:46:49.700 something else is the priority yeah she's married into the Trump family they have enough money for

00:46:54.380 to not work now you could argue you could argue that the country's in danger okay okay i get it

00:47:05.900 but this is why i'm not the biggest fan of women in politics because you can't do it all

00:47:11.980 and generally these women it's at the expense of the children

00:47:18.700 some way i try to make sure that they're very busy doing

00:47:22.380 they you know obviously when they're in school that's one thing but camp sports activities

00:47:27.180 things to keep them busy um but i don't know i don't know that anybody has it fully balanced

00:47:31.900 i feel like i always have loosens everywhere and i'm always kind of crazy and at night

00:47:35.660 when i'm trying to go to sleep i like wake myself i forgot to do this i get up out of bed i go do it

00:47:41.260 but i think a lot of especially moms feel feel probably the same way i actually have tried to

00:47:46.940 not use the word balance as much because that makes it sound like it's equal that's sure there's

00:47:51.740 there's no such thing yeah like never even before you had kids and you have

00:47:55.740 kids and you're like wow I was a slacker I thought I was busy what was

00:47:59.240 I doing yeah exactly what are the conversations like with your kids and

00:48:05.580 again they're young but when you're like I promise I'll be back later tonight or

00:48:10.820 tomorrow or you know because they're old enough to understand yeah but what are

00:48:15.200 those conversations like well you know they I think nobody is better than the

00:48:20.980 mom and dad right in a kid's life and i always try to let them know that i will always come back

00:48:28.160 mom always comes back but you know they understand i think they're starting to understand why i'm

00:48:34.940 traveling like i am right now and it's it's for grandpa and um whenever we talk specifically

00:48:41.820 about that and about the fact that right after halloween mom won't have to travel as much because

00:48:48.060 all of this will be over. I think it's kind of a bit of comfort to them, but they always want to

00:48:54.100 know exactly when I'm coming back. When exactly will you be back? Will it be tonight? Will it be

00:48:58.040 tomorrow? If you're coming back tonight, will you come in and see me before you go to bed? Of course

00:49:02.620 I always do, but I think it's, you know, I don't know that it's much different than any other

00:49:08.000 parent. You know, it's no matter if you're going for two hours away from your kids or two weeks

00:49:13.340 away from your kids it's always hard to leave and i do everything i can to make sure that i'm able

00:49:18.900 to get back as look at that's a long time kids develop attachment issues when you're gone that

00:49:27.700 long now is it the end of the world who has a perfect childhood i mean hell these kids are

00:49:33.900 trumps choices and trade-offs dane says uh pearl first line history was if you eat of the fruit

00:49:42.680 you will be like god women are swallowing it no pun intended there's always a new fruit

00:49:48.160 and that will complete them it's because they have no fulfillment they have no spiritual

00:49:53.020 connection it's all material they say they might say that they have a spiritual connection but

00:49:58.060 that's bs pearl she is so selfish and she is and she's messing with her kids and they're going to

00:50:02.680 deal with it the rest of their lives their nanny will probably be closer to them than their mother

00:50:06.560 so she's selfish yeah and the other thing so guys i was i was a product of nannies i grew up with

00:50:13.120 nannies and the challenge you have is the nannies will not stay forever it's really rare that you

00:50:21.440 have a nanny that'll stay for 18 years and it's you know how there's like a rotating door of like

00:50:29.040 fathers that like single mothers deal with when you know they're dating the the challenge you

00:50:34.320 have with the nannies is it's a rotating door of random women that are in your house.

00:50:42.780 And it's really hard on a kid, like when I think of like the worst memories I ever had

00:50:47.500 as a kid, I was like sobbing because my nanny left.

00:50:54.140 And it ultimately is selfish.

00:50:58.800 Not saying like my parents were, but you know, because we had like 10 kids, they did the

00:51:04.320 they could but you know it's women in that position when it's it's very difficult on the

00:51:19.080 children when the mother is not there as the primary caretaker and she's leaving for two weeks

00:51:26.240 at a time i said pearl you grew up with nannies i did i had um it was a program called

00:51:35.200 au pair in america and to be fair i don't think nannies necessarily are bad in itself

00:51:42.480 but what this program does is it's very cheap it's like subsidized i think in illinois so it's

00:51:48.160 like a cheaper version or something but it's essentially an exchange program um so people

00:51:56.960 from europe they don't tend to go to school right away they work for a couple years and so one

00:52:02.160 program they do that through is all parent america and the nannies come they live in your house they

00:52:07.120 stay for a year up to two years i think the most we ever had was like three and then they go back

00:52:12.800 to germany or mine were mostly germans but i i could i could tell you the best countries to get

00:52:19.280 wives from because i grew up with like um like i had one from south africa from russia from brazil

00:52:28.400 um but yeah i i remember like crying for like a week because i was so sad that

00:52:34.240 this one it's like you fall in love with the woman and then they just leave and um

00:52:40.320 um you know i don't i don't like to i don't this isn't a pity party right but a lot of these

00:52:46.820 mothers they don't consider um was it like an exchange student program yeah but it was with

00:52:53.800 they weren't in school so they were just a nanny for a year they'd go back as quickly as i possible

00:52:59.400 but anyways they they don't consider the effect that has on a kid right we can what about you

00:53:08.300 what about you time do you know what i'm saying but i know i know here's the thing but see this

00:53:12.780 is the modern this is the modern mentality sage my thought is what about the kids

00:53:21.660 it's like the women they almost see it as um selfless that they give up any time for their

00:53:28.140 kids when i'm thinking um you leave for two weeks who the your poor kids um

00:53:37.500 and the modern mentality is what about you what about me thing because i'm older than you and i

00:53:48.320 ignored that and it takes a freaking toll i'm physically mentally spiritually like all of it

00:53:56.960 yeah so okay the 345 workout which is insane and quite obvious well but it's not always 345 that's

00:54:02.180 only if it has to be i'm like today it was not just to be to be fair it was like uh 6 30. good

00:54:08.300 because that was reasonable if you're doing 3 45 or 6 30 makes me feel guilty you're gonna inspire

00:54:13.180 me but anyway point being like that that actually is and i don't think everybody understands that

00:54:18.860 workout and getting that sweat on it is for you it's part of it it isn't just okay trying to look

00:54:24.660 a certain way it's mental it is so mental it is i mean a lot of times that's the only honestly

00:54:31.400 the only time i'm alone in a whole 24-hour period like that's that's it that's what i get and i

00:54:37.960 force that into i should interview my former nan you guys have to understand you guys are

00:54:43.000 gonna get me in trouble you know i get if i say the wrong thing on this show i get in trouble

00:54:51.560 you know i mean because i never want it to be like a pity party you know it's not but i'm just

00:54:58.280 I'm just being honest when I'm saying I would not recommend wouldn't be my first choice I don't

00:55:05.360 think it's bad like okay a baby like a nanny once or twice a week on the weekends who cares right I

00:55:13.820 mean kids go to school for the day they're fine but it's just when it's the primary caretaker

00:55:20.000 when that's who's picking you up from school every day it's it's like I remember I remember

00:55:26.640 being a kid and I would like go out to school and I remember I would just want it to be like

00:55:31.360 my mom or my dad and it'd be kind of sad be like oh dang it if it's the nanny no offense I like

00:55:36.060 the nannies but you know they said someone in the chat said you should only let your subscribers

00:55:43.760 through the audacity network able to call in I think it's a great marketing tool yes guys I do

00:55:49.640 have the audacity the call-in link but yep i'm gatekeeping it today it's on the audacity chat

00:56:00.760 you guys gotta pay to get it sorry i don't work for free my schedule in a lot of ways because i

00:56:07.880 think it is so pearl won't tell us the best country for a while you guys are distracting me

00:56:13.560 i'm sorry today i'm just spacey look i can't some shows are just not going to be a level

00:56:20.280 they're just not like you know sometimes it's a b or a c i don't know what to tell you guys

00:56:25.720 you guys will just have to deal with it the nanny is the best nanny so brazilians very loving very

00:56:33.560 fun we had spending issues with the brazilian nanny i remember i loved her a lot i really did

00:56:41.400 but I remember we had spending issues and they don't do well with discipline I had a South

00:56:48.120 African nanny she I wasn't the biggest fan of her I had German nannies I would say were my number

00:56:56.160 one draft pick maybe it's because I'm part German and it was just an easier transition

00:57:00.820 but out of all the nannies I had my favorites were all from Germany

00:57:06.560 my favorite nanny married my uncle actually so she became family but pearl has the audacity

00:57:14.600 to put the link on the audacity network yes i do yes i do pearl did you grow up a millionaire how

00:57:23.900 did you have so many nannies well i mean my family like did well but it they weren't crazy until i

00:57:32.300 a little bit older um but the the nannies it's not that expensive i believe in states where it's

00:57:41.260 subsidized so the price isn't what you guys would think like i know it's an option for like upper

00:57:49.820 middle class people too um they said the black-haired german nanny was my favorite

00:58:00.460 you don't my favorite she was i had two i had two that i remember a lot and they were

00:58:07.980 i i offered them all of my piggy bank money to stay like i really you know

00:58:13.740 and again i'm so lucky like i got nothing to complain about so i'm not trying to make this

00:58:18.540 a pity thing but i know how difficult that is as a child because you don't really understand what's

00:58:24.140 going on you just know this person that you've grown close to for like two years

00:58:30.220 is leaving and then the worst part is when you get a nanny oh the worst is when you don't like the

00:58:39.580 nanny oh there is this one nanny that was so annoying my gosh the worst nanny i ever had

00:58:48.700 the worst and she stayed for two years and i was so mad i remember being so oh

00:58:58.220 you know it's one thing if you don't like somebody and it's like in your family like

00:59:03.340 you don't like them but we're family it's another thing if you're forced to interact

00:59:07.500 with someone every day that's a stranger that you don't like oh so important and

00:59:15.180 and it balances me.

00:59:17.220 You talk about a balance, but it really does.

00:59:18.760 It settles me, and if I don't have that,

00:59:22.040 if I don't get that little bit of time

00:59:23.640 to just break a sweat and feel like I did something for me

00:59:26.400 and just set my mind in a good spot,

00:59:29.180 then I feel kind of off the rest of the day, to be honest.

00:59:31.800 So that is my me time right now,

00:59:33.980 and it's not as much as I want it to be,

00:59:36.880 but again, I know that it won't be forever.

00:59:39.320 Yeah, it's pushed through it.

00:59:40.720 Yeah, the conversations with the kid part

00:59:45.520 is what I wanted to get back to

00:59:46.400 because I remember having the,

00:59:48.720 and the kids understand, right?

00:59:50.320 They get it as they get older.

00:59:53.340 But I remember, I haven't probably fully forgiven myself

00:59:57.000 for moments where I missed the dance recital,

01:00:00.180 missed just the class field trip,

01:00:01.520 the basic things that's part of the reason

01:00:03.080 why we become mothers, right?

01:00:06.580 There will always be guilt,

01:00:07.880 but how do you handle that part of it when you see it they know it's wrong they do they just you

01:00:14.440 know they don't admit it can't quite be there for everything yeah it's it's the worst it's honestly

01:00:20.300 the worst it um i think that it's like they don't how do your kids handle it not one question about

01:00:27.760 the children the thing that i hope is that first of all my kids look back on this time and they'll

01:00:34.800 they'll realize what i've been doing and i hope they're very proud of what i was doing and why i

01:00:40.480 was doing it because honestly i'm not i'm not doing it for me i'm doing it for them i'm doing

01:00:44.560 it because i hope that the result is that they have a great life on the other end and all kids

01:00:49.760 in this country have a great life on the other side of november 5th but i also hope that i am

01:00:56.480 an example for them you know and i think that's really important because i think as much as easy

01:01:03.920 would be to just say you know what i'm only going to focus on my kids i also don't know that that is

01:01:08.980 the best model for them and not that anybody's perfect anybody's got it all figured out

01:01:13.340 but i think the fact that they see that i'm out doing something that doesn't involve them and

01:01:18.700 they're okay there's somebody's taking care of them my mom comes a lot god bless moms uh out

01:01:23.960 there and they call her mimi she takes care of my kids a lot and i'm so lucky that i have

01:01:28.660 her and that ability but they see me out there doing something that's meaningful to me

01:01:33.820 and i think that's really powerful and i think that's really important for both my daughter and

01:01:38.560 my son you know i hope one day that my son meets um some tough chick out there who he's like wow

01:01:44.360 she and my mom could get down because like she goes hard and my mom went hard and i hope that

01:01:49.700 that is of value to him one day whenever he's you know seeking a a wife down the road and for my

01:01:56.440 daughter i mean what a better example for a girl than having a mom who's out there hustling i hope

01:02:01.660 she takes that away i'm so glad you said that because it took me way too long to realize that

01:02:05.800 you know well that's good yeah i'm ahead of things and you are you seriously are because again the

01:02:11.200 balance thing whatever but when they see um you help out there like you said all kids helping

01:02:17.020 others helping this country literally and figuratively helping the country now the question

01:02:22.600 is do we need conservative women fighting for this country what's wrong with conservative men

01:02:30.680 you know this is why i say there's no such thing as a conservative woman even me

01:02:37.080 and i i'd like to say for all these people that said i claimed that i never claimed that

01:02:41.160 i don't i'm like what when did i say that it was saying there's like a hierarchy there's

01:02:46.760 There's a hierarchy of trad.

01:02:48.080 I'm going to make it one day.

01:02:50.920 And, you know, Candace Owens is saying she's going to run for office in 2028.

01:02:57.080 Is there really not a man that could do it?

01:03:08.340 No man could have done what she could have done in the RNC.

01:03:14.580 I don't know.

01:03:15.520 None?

01:03:15.920 america's pretty big

01:03:17.680 yeah okay i'm gonna listen to this for another minute and then we're gonna take callers

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01:03:53.380 So normally on a show, you've got a

01:03:54.920 super every time to put your comment.

01:03:57.080 How many comments? You know, Bob Miller

01:03:58.960 has had like

01:04:00.940 a million comments this show. I'm about to read the

01:04:02.920 rest.

01:04:04.720 You know, that's the value you get.

01:04:06.640 i may have to put something in the beginning where if you want it read because sometimes

01:04:10.800 you guys interact with each other and i don't know if that's the you know i i think i'm not

01:04:19.240 trying to read you guys's conversation it's your comments on the show so i might add something but

01:04:24.500 okay so bob yeah that's right you got to get it and i pay how i would pay more for your program

01:04:32.720 my mother's german best mother in the world look i'm just as someone that had nannies across the

01:04:37.760 world that was my experience they're looking for guilt to be assured bad example me me me me get

01:04:44.080 my point you support trump that makes you conservative even if you didn't say if your

01:04:49.120 actions speak louder than words where is the link sorry uh bob it's in the can i pin it okay i'm

01:04:56.000 gonna play this a little longer um but also doing it because you get a lot out of it like isn't that

01:05:01.600 the kind of career we want our daughters and sons to choose yes is to not just do it because of a

01:05:06.480 paycheck like it has to mean something so that's beautiful that they are able to see that and

01:05:15.120 well eventually but oh by the way documenting one of social media we hate it right it's evil

01:05:19.520 and at the same time with all this technology they're gonna be able to look back on all of

01:05:25.360 this yeah and hear these crazy interviews that you're doing with all kinds of random people yeah

01:05:29.360 because it's going to exist i gotta be honest you guys tell me your thoughts i think mothers

01:05:36.000 overvalue the photo albums the memory boxes the books i i don't really look through any of it

01:05:47.040 i don't know you guys tell me you tell me what you think i

01:05:52.000 i think the kids kind of grow up they want to do their own thing

01:05:56.080 i don't know this and they will see and fully comprehend more right i hope so that's the

01:06:01.360 that's the plan at least i'll give me 15 years i'll report back okay i will what is today yeah

01:06:07.200 june 2024 i'm putting it in the calendar yeah put it down okay but do you know it'd be a better way

01:06:11.920 to report back put the kid there my kids aren't gonna answer honestly we're all afraid of our moms

01:06:18.400 hey everybody okay let me put

01:06:24.120 okay we can bring up the zoom now i believe doug mpa

01:06:38.280 pearl if you see this i'm playing and chilling with the unheard chat homie we're drifting and

01:06:49.000 socializing keep the chat interactive free of charge you're welcome well the youtube one is

01:06:53.720 always free i read these sometimes um okay is the zoom ready let me just text my producer i'll play

01:07:03.560 this a little longer um couple time happy time yeah we don't any we don't get

01:07:14.940 enough we actually it's so funny my husband and I were talking about this

01:07:18.140 Sunday afternoon and we we try to make a date and stick to it like every if it's

01:07:27.000 right now it's probably like once every two weeks but we have that time and

01:07:31.760 pretty good well and no matter yeah no i agree no matter what else is going on we had one night

01:07:38.080 i think like a week ago oh okay sorry okay now we can go back

01:07:44.160 all right apparently doug is on the line doug mpa you there doug

01:07:51.520 i can't hear him what is the problem i mean i can hear him like over there but it's weird i can't

01:07:58.160 i have a tech issue

01:08:01.600 i can't hear him are you sure it's mic five all right guys i'm gonna go work out this tech issue

01:08:13.120 and play this for a second that we had planned and it was going to be just the two of us and we had

01:08:18.820 some friends we haven't seen in a long time who happened to be in town and they said oh are you

01:08:23.240 guys available for dinner we haven't seen you in so long and i told him i was like we're not doing

01:08:26.440 that it's yeah because you got to stick to it honestly because they're always going to be

01:08:32.360 people there's always stuff there's always things coming into your life as far as i'm concerned and

01:08:36.820 i think it's so important that we have that time together because both of our lives are crazy and

01:08:43.500 it's very easy i think as a couple when i'm over here going in this direction and he's going in

01:08:48.600 this direction and you know we're both very focused on the things that we're doing to not be

01:08:54.940 a cohesive team anymore to really live your separate lives and oh you you know you sleep

01:09:00.620 in the same bed at night but not to really connect in any way and so i think it's so important i think

01:09:06.460 it's vital honestly to a relationship um but our 10-year wedding anniversary is november 8th of

01:09:14.120 this year which is three days after election day yeah our wedding anniversary was on the uh two

01:09:18.880 wedding anniversary was election day 2016 oh my god yeah so what i said to him i said we have to

01:09:25.360 plan something for i don't know when it's going to be end of november december or something no but

01:09:30.960 how will there ever be a good time based on november 5th going the way that it needs to go

01:09:35.600 for your family right like when we when we ever actually be able to do it to take some romantic

01:09:41.840 trip that's 10 years yeah and another 10 years you'll have to wait till 20. we'll figure it out

01:09:47.360 i don't know but we never went on our our original honeymoon because you and i were

01:09:52.400 talking about riding horses i broke both of my wrists three weeks before my wedding

01:09:57.680 jumping a horse as we're crazy no surprise to anybody who does that sort of thing because

01:10:03.520 that's we're just full crazy you can't get it out of your blood you really can't once it's in

01:10:07.840 you're done no no that's it it's over um and so we didn't go on our original honeymoon which was

01:10:12.160 supposed to be okay i'm sorry guys i had to go check something all right let's see okay doug i

01:10:18.160 can hear you now hey pearl how are you good sorry about that we're um because of the holidays we're

01:10:25.680 doing a virtual producer so i had to go yeah i had to go fix something well always good to talk to

01:10:32.800 you i got a lot of opinions on this single mother by choice stuff man like i'm just gonna let me

01:10:39.360 start off by saying all the problems in the u.s are from single mothers and simps okay but on the

01:10:48.400 scale of single mothers single mothers by choice are the absolute worst single mothers by choice

01:10:52.960 are absolute scumbags you want to know why it's because you're putting not only you're putting

01:11:00.000 your child at every statistical disadvantage and these women are going solo if you get ivf or or

01:11:06.960 insemination that child will never know their father ever ever and listen to this only two

01:11:15.600 percent of births come come from insemination and only two percent of births come from ivf

01:11:23.840 the the fastest growing group of single mothers are ages 33 to 37 because what happens at 35

01:11:30.960 between that age they smash into the wall right so if only two percent of births come from ivf and

01:11:38.120 two percent come from from insemination that's only a small amount so most of the single mothers

01:11:44.040 how are they going to get their child pearl how one night stands hookups they're going to find

01:11:51.820 a simp yep chad chattington nug nug gavin the starving musician get pregnant and then they all

01:12:00.560 have that way out where they can say he he didn't step up to the plate he's a deadbeat but he's a

01:12:07.120 deadbeat when you met him and the society is going to give them a pass saying oh you got

01:12:13.860 pregnant by a deadbeat he's terrible and then she's going to tell that child his whole life

01:12:18.620 that his dad his or her dad was a deadbeat when she never should have had a kid with him in the

01:12:24.420 first place yeah because he didn't want to be a dad or a dad a dad with her anyways 100 these are

01:12:33.400 guys that already have multiple children you know uh uh in the black community it's about 18 percent

01:12:40.220 of men are getting 80 percent of the women pregnant 65 percent of black women that have

01:12:46.480 have more than one child have more than one baby father and that's slowly trickling out to all the

01:12:51.920 rest of the races too. It's terrible. I'm really curious what percent is that in the white community

01:12:57.920 of men father the same children? Yeah. I'm just curious what the difference is. What percent

01:13:07.260 of white women have more than one father for their children? What percent of white women? I'm guessing

01:13:15.480 it's probably 40 to 45 percent. One father for their children? So you said okay. Yeah.

01:13:21.920 22 percent yeah b-dubs is 65 percent wow yeah so and also this whole myth of single mothers

01:13:36.540 being able to do it by themselves i have a sister who decided to have a child

01:13:42.360 with with with a total ray ray right and i wouldn't trade my nephew for the world but

01:13:50.360 the biggest problem these women don't understand is that they're making a unilateral decision

01:13:55.800 that'll affect the lives of everyone around them. Everyone. They can't do it by themselves.

01:14:03.200 So if these single mothers by choice, they should talk to their father, their mother,

01:14:08.360 their aunts, their uncles, their brothers, their sisters, especially if they have a son,

01:14:14.060 they have to talk to the grandfather, the father, the uncles, because they're going to have to pick

01:14:18.960 up the slack their family is irrevocably changed from their unilateral decision single mothers by

01:14:25.420 choice are the scum of the earth yeah i know one i met and i really like her as a person i'd like

01:14:34.480 to say really nice person but it's she's had a weight problem for years as long as i've known

01:14:40.340 her and i'm like you can't take care of yourself because you're morbidly obese like that was what

01:14:45.800 was standing in the way of her finding someone um go ahead i'll bounce off that you have a lot

01:14:53.560 of single mothers by choice that one um they can't stay with they can't attract or keep a man

01:15:01.140 yeah and if you can't get along with an adult what makes you think that you're gonna be able

01:15:05.780 to raise a child yeah and then also also you you see multiple um studies in an analysis of these

01:15:17.260 women that i just wanted someone to love me so i had a child so you're you're making a child try

01:15:24.380 to love you the way that a man would it's not fair to the child or they need someone to take

01:15:28.840 care of them when they're old how is that fair to the kid not like now the kid comes to the planet

01:15:35.160 and he's an indentured servitude to you when you get old because you can't afford to pay someone

01:15:41.100 to take care of you or to be a pleasant or to be a pleasant enough person that they want to

01:15:45.960 yeah I agree that's the that's the thing like you know if someone was a really good involved

01:15:52.640 parent the kids will want to do it but we have this whole generation of parents that weren't

01:16:00.940 parent i think it started with the like 50 to 70 ish people today like i would say that's roughly

01:16:08.300 where it started they're like late late generation x yeah and you know that's why that's why the kids

01:16:16.940 you know early gen x they shame the kids for throwing them in a nursing home but it's like

01:16:22.540 they weren't involved parents you know like you you know i'm sure people on the channel have heard

01:16:28.300 me talk about like i adore my dad i adore him to death and if he needed help like i would want to

01:16:34.620 do it because he is a great father you know what i mean i'm like it wouldn't even be like um

01:16:41.580 i it wouldn't really be a burden it would be like you would want to do it but the thing is

01:16:47.340 it's different when they want to versus they feel entitled to it you know yeah i agree in fact you

01:16:55.740 You can see articles where a lot of millennials

01:17:01.020 are complaining that their grandparents

01:17:03.600 don't want to help them with their grandkids.

01:17:06.540 Because that's another thing.

01:17:08.700 Kids aren't entitled to take care of their grandparents,

01:17:11.400 but grandparents aren't entitled to take care

01:17:13.380 of their grandchildren either.

01:17:15.720 And that's something that men learn.

01:17:17.280 You guys learn that you're not owed anything.

01:17:20.160 But women feel entitled to handouts

01:17:22.800 from their grandparents, their parents, and their kids.

01:17:25.740 yeah especially when they're single mothers single mothers are the most entitled selfish women

01:17:31.440 in the west and the hands down the only the one woman i know that's a single mother by choice the

01:17:38.560 only reason she can do it is because of state-sponsored daycare and the country she's in

01:17:46.140 and her parents and like isn't that that's pretty self i mean kids are pretty cute i won't lie but

01:17:55.080 I've met the kids, but it's, you know, it's, it's just kind of selfish, you know?

01:18:00.700 Yeah.

01:18:01.540 And there's one other thing I want to talk about.

01:18:03.860 Who was the woman with Sage Steele's chicken neck?

01:18:08.380 Who's the, who was the woman that Sage Steele was interviewing?

01:18:12.860 Laura Trump.

01:18:13.880 Laura Trump.

01:18:14.320 So, guys, there's actually a burgeoning version of area of therapy where these professional

01:18:24.440 women they miss their child's milestones like their first step or their first word and they

01:18:31.560 have all this regret and they're going to therapy to deal with the guilt it's a burgeoning version

01:18:38.280 of counseling and i know two women who are actually movers movers the shakers back at my

01:18:43.600 home they're like hey they're like directors of some department or whatever and they have stay

01:18:50.220 home husbands or husbands who work part-time and both of them regret missing their child's first

01:18:56.780 word the the child's first step all that stuff could you imagine if you're a woman and you if

01:19:03.660 you're with some simp who stays at home one of my friends her husband called her and said honey

01:19:08.940 our daughter took took her first step honey our daughter said her first word and she was at work

01:19:15.980 or she was or she she was at a conference and your children are only little ones there's nothing

01:19:22.060 women can do i'm sorry laura trump there's nothing she's doing that's that's as important as being a

01:19:27.900 mother to her children someone else could have done it exactly and you know there's so many jobs

01:19:36.620 i don't know if you've heard my stuff you listen to a lot of my streams but i'm not even necessarily

01:19:41.740 against women working but there's a million work from home jobs you could go be a teacher right you

01:19:47.660 could be a teacher at the school your kid works at um like i understand it's like 82 percent of

01:19:54.380 people have both parents working okay fine maybe it's not for everyone but there's a difference

01:19:59.660 between having like a you know work that like i had a friend whose mom was a nurse and her mom

01:20:04.940 would work overnight shifts so she could be there for like the kids and she would sleep for an hour

01:20:09.820 get up and take the kids to school sleep during the day and that was how she made it work and

01:20:15.580 it's like you're leaving the kids for two weeks at a time that's a long that's like half the month

01:20:22.700 yeah and for what it's not it's not for money they don't need money

01:20:29.180 yeah the sad part about it is i always say on my channel we are in the great experiment right now

01:20:36.220 where the women my age, 40s and younger, were lied to about the past.

01:20:44.220 They thought that women were shackled in the basement until 1975.

01:20:50.220 So now women can truly choose to live alone.

01:20:54.220 They can choose to focus on their career, but the problem is,

01:20:58.220 so the pipeline is women spend their early 20s

01:21:02.220 going to some high-priced institution to get some degree that nobody cares about to get a job that's

01:21:08.600 not going to make them any money. They give their 25 to 30s, early 30s, to some job that can care

01:21:15.580 less about them. It's just making the wall smash even harder and harder, right? And that even

01:21:22.860 happens to mothers. It's not till later when their child starts to grow up that they realize,

01:21:28.940 i missed a lot and you can never get it back and kids know too they do know because just how

01:21:36.860 most women have that have that one friend who's married to a man of substance who just skips

01:21:43.020 through life without a care in the world and they're jealous most of most kids like you like

01:21:48.540 whose whose mom is trying to do all this independent crap have a friend whose mom is

01:21:54.620 susie homemaker super positive you know uh a traditional mom and they all wish they had that

01:22:00.780 mom i know i did yeah we had a colonel who lived who lived who lived in my neighborhood and his

01:22:09.260 wife was a stay-at-home mom she was the greatest thing ever like like he was a colonel he was a

01:22:15.340 stay-at-home mom they had three kids their son was my best friend and i used to go over there

01:22:19.900 she always had shoot home cooked meals every single day of the week always had cookies made

01:22:24.860 she was she was like she was the mom that we all saw on tv for real and i used to wonder why do i

01:22:30.780 have like why don't i have that so kids know and kids grow up with regret and it's easier than ever

01:22:37.820 to cook your kids food there's air fryers like there's room buzz it's easier than ever to like

01:22:44.940 Like they, to, you know, cook for your family.

01:22:50.500 Have you ever had a friend who, well, you're not old enough yet,

01:22:55.960 but when you hit about the 33 to 35,

01:22:58.860 you're going to hear your friends start talking about,

01:23:02.580 well, if I don't have a chai body time on this stage,

01:23:06.160 I'm going to do it by myself.

01:23:07.500 What would you tell one of your friends who would say,

01:23:10.740 Pearl, you know, I decided something.

01:23:13.180 if i don't have if i'm not married by the time i'm 35 i'm gonna get uh inseminated and do it by

01:23:18.700 myself what would you tell her so are you telling me are you asking my opinion that'd be my first

01:23:23.820 question and then what if she was if she's asking what if she was telling you what both scenarios

01:23:30.620 telling me um i would probably just ask her questions like have you tried this have you

01:23:39.420 tried that but you know um i probably wouldn't say anything unless they asked um because if i

01:23:48.300 know anything about women it's like they're gonna do what they're gonna do regardless

01:23:52.460 you can't stop them um yeah but the problem is a lot of women have to talk about it

01:23:59.340 somehow some way which is why so many of these women post all this garbage all over social media

01:24:04.460 so so you your friends are going to tell you about it it's not a matter if it's a matter of

01:24:09.260 when well i'll tell them you can do that but i mean what about the kid don't you think the kid

01:24:16.940 deserves a dad no you know yeah single motherhood single kids from single mother homes fair out way

01:24:25.100 worse have you thought about who's gonna take care of the kid when you have to work or

01:24:29.820 or what if the daycare is near you, you know, so.

01:24:34.620 Yeah, there's one more part.

01:24:36.160 So, guys, on my channel, I always say women can't stand each other.

01:24:40.000 They really can't, okay?

01:24:41.840 And a lot of women have to learn a harsh lesson

01:24:44.380 because all of their friends, so a woman will say,

01:24:48.120 oh, I'm going to be a single mother,

01:24:50.000 or, you know, I got pregnant by Nug Nug,

01:24:53.300 and all their friends are like, oh, we'll help you, girl.

01:24:56.660 You can do it all by yourself.

01:24:58.060 they'll give you a baby shower and then and then when that baby's born and it's crying at night

01:25:03.980 you need a break or someone just to babysit they're not going to pick up the phone

01:25:07.080 you're doing it all by yourself yeah anyway but that's that's all i got i'm just going to say

01:25:15.200 once again single mothers by choice guys no single mothers don't sleep with them don't date them

01:25:20.940 don't marry them you do not play another man's game and single mothers by choice are the absolute

01:25:26.560 worse thank you doug always good to talk to you my friend see you see you okay let me see if

01:25:34.420 anyone else is on the call let me text is anyone else on the call

01:25:40.740 if they don't know someone has to tell them women know they just do not care they don't

01:25:49.020 I'm telling you I'm getting tired um okay let me see if anyone else is on the call oh two people

01:25:57.980 okay let's go next um hello

01:26:08.060 cameras on off oh hello oh how are you

01:26:12.860 go. Hello, I can't hear you.

01:26:23.140 That'll be why. Oh, there you go.

01:26:28.740 Wow, we're really out of sync like.

01:26:33.580 So what do you think about the single mothers by choice? Like,

01:26:37.620 what are your thoughts on the show?

01:26:38.780 I was really cold, didn't I? I was just really sort of, the word of the month I think is egocentric, to be honest, like I looked at the wiki of egocentric the other day and it was scary actually.

01:27:00.540 and when you get into the developmental issues in childhood and stuff like that, you know,

01:27:06.840 it's just a bit crazy. I don't know man, it's just cold, just absolutely cold if they're

01:27:21.120 deciding to have kids without a dad, you know, like, destining that kid never to have a dad,

01:27:29.280 it's like it's hateful truly hateful um that's pretty much what i've got to say on it like um

01:27:42.400 it's uh yeah um yeah well thank you i'm sorry do you think i'll see that

01:27:50.960 yeah take care okay thanks for calling in

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01:28:23.280 i think there's one more now again we have a virtual usually he's here in person or going

01:28:29.840 virtual today so bear with us um oh hello hi can you hear me i can hear you um what's your name

01:28:43.440 hello that's richard oh richard nice um i i don't know if you have your camera on i can't see

01:28:50.480 okay do you have your camera on or no no i'm just flying around on a holiday so i don't know i don't

01:28:56.000 want to do the video okay no worries so what do you think of the show what do you think all of

01:29:02.160 your topics are great because i mean i put the comment in there that women don't they know this

01:29:08.880 is wrong i mean it just seems so obvious and i'm just wondering what it is that got women to this

01:29:15.760 point where there's no rules and there's no laws and you know they don't seem to have any morals

01:29:22.080 you know and they just rough you know like one of my theories is is that like a thousand years ago

01:29:29.960 the neighboring tribe would maraud and steal women from the other tribe and they would just take

01:29:35.140 these women to their tribe and then they would just become their wives i don't know i don't you

01:29:39.800 know is there some sort of weird evolutionary thing going on where women just roll with it and

01:29:45.200 you know it's like I don't know it's very strange have you got any explanation about why this behavior

01:29:50.460 even happens no you're right actually that's why women get over men so fast is because the women

01:29:56.420 that survived had to get like get over the guy they were with initially like you wouldn't survive

01:30:04.360 if you like pined for like the guy that you used to be with right so we're in this modern world now

01:30:11.740 and you know everything is a lot different so what is the answer I mean I'm always looking

01:30:16.700 for a solution to this because it's just a disaster absolute disaster um I mean I think

01:30:22.980 at some point it will like things will come back together I just sadly don't think it'll be in my

01:30:28.940 lifetime um I think we'll have another 50 years of feminism like I don't see the birth rate going

01:30:36.920 up anytime soon the only way I could the only thing I could see as a solution is more feminism

01:30:44.040 so I'll give you an example if women start getting put on alimony and child support like men

01:30:50.760 the women will start to protest the laws if women actually have the responsibility of being a single

01:30:58.840 mother the way that men have the responsibility of being a single father and men stop you know

01:31:05.240 their parents stop bailing them out the government stops bailing them out that's when you'll see

01:31:10.100 change or like um in new york you know everyone all the women are freaking out that that woman

01:31:15.640 was burned alive and no one helped but you know how many of those women voted for leftist policies

01:31:23.580 that allowed that right it's not an i don't see it changing until women start to be treated like

01:31:30.420 men you know if you give women selective service you say okay you want to vote here's selective

01:31:35.620 service just like the men how many women would say you know what it might be time to give that

01:31:41.700 up but the problem is we have all the freedom now without the responsibility um i i think trump

01:31:49.060 maybe could help but i'm i'm just still skeptical because i just think women have too much power now

01:31:57.220 sadly well i'm really curious of what life must have been like a thousand years ago in these

01:32:03.380 villages where at any moment some marauding tribe can come in i mean what do you think women were

01:32:08.900 thinking what do you think men were thinking i mean what do you think men were doing what do

01:32:12.340 you think women were doing right like the mental you know attitude at that time must have been

01:32:18.340 crazy and they were as modern as we were right they had exactly the same capacity of thinking as

01:32:23.220 we do so it's just this might be crazy so that's my that's the end of my comment thanks bro thanks

01:32:29.540 for calling in all right is there anyone else on the line let me text them anyone else thank you

01:32:39.300 for calling in guys i always appreciate my members okay you guys are amazing truly you guys keep this

01:32:45.380 thing going i mean i've been demonetized for a year i couldn't do it without you um let me

01:32:52.740 message they said trump ain't helping i think that maybe trump could help

01:33:00.180 cut some of the government programs and the spending that's a step in the right direction

01:33:06.660 um white women white men you guys are awesome you've always been pro-trump thank you guys

01:33:13.940 you guys are amazing white women for the first time in a long time voted conservative more for

01:33:19.620 Trump. And I think that was our way of saying sorry about the last four years. We want

01:33:27.400 lower taxes rather than abortion. Anyways, guys, like the video on your way out and subscribe to

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01:33:49.140 you think of a modern woman. Love you guys and I will see you on Monday.

Pearl - September 13, 2024

The Curse of The Modern Mother ｜ Pearl Daily

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