Pearl - The Curse of The Modern Mother, The Simp Son, and The Promiscuous Daughter

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00:03:01.160 about today? Oh, and other thing, guys, we have merch. So if you guys want to get some merch,

00:03:09.460 feel free. Okay, so today we are talking about the curse of the modern mothers,

00:03:20.260 the simp sons, and the promiscuous daughters. So today I am going to go through the archetypes

00:03:27.560 of mothers that I see in society. And I was trying to think of how I could explain this

00:03:34.140 to maybe someone new that hasn't followed my content for so long. I realize at times I come

00:03:40.640 off a bit harsh. And because you guys are at step one of getting red pilled instead of step 10.

00:03:49.260 And I'm at step 10. So I see the world for what it is. But I was thinking about how I could explain

00:03:55.320 this to somebody that maybe isn't too familiar with the content. But before I go in, no, you

00:04:03.060 know, I'll read. But before I go into that, you know, I'm going to read my disclaimers before we

00:04:07.960 do the call-in show. Okay. So we have been duped, not women. We have not, not women. Women have not

00:04:21.620 been duped by feminism. We make our choices. But what we have been duped by is the modern mothers.

00:04:27.320 The modern mothers are experts at making themselves more important and more special than you are.

00:04:35.420 You can never talk ill of your mother, otherwise she will be angry.

00:04:40.040 When I did the Andrew Klavan debate, there was a clip where he said every man is very defensive of his mother.

00:04:46.840 Well, why is that, Andrew?

00:04:49.020 And on the surface, maybe we're just protective, but really, most people I have found are afraid of their mothers.

00:04:57.240 They're afraid to speak ill of their mothers.

00:04:59.640 They're afraid to say anything negative about the female.

00:05:04.200 Now, I love my Bible thumpers.

00:05:07.900 I love them.

00:05:09.160 I would not, I'd like to give a disclaimer.

00:05:12.220 I am not a church scholar.

00:05:15.060 I did the whole Catholic school thing.

00:05:17.080 I would say I know maybe more than some people about the religious, scholarly stuff.

00:05:26.220 But I am in no means an expert, and I am not here to do some scholarly interpretation.

00:05:33.900 Because what I've found with religious people is oftentimes they'll read a text, and it's so strange.

00:05:42.860 They'll say, well, the Bible meant this because of this, because of this, because of this, because of this.

00:05:47.720 It just becomes very confusing to the average person.

00:05:50.060 But there were, I love my Bible thumpers because sometimes I will talk about patterns and trends that I see in society.

00:05:58.880 You know, when I'm talking about society, I'm giving descriptors.

00:06:02.540 These are patterns, conclusions, and trends that I have come to.

00:06:07.260 Because I'm not blind, I interviewed a thousand people, I've lived all over the world, and I'm very chatty.

00:06:15.620 So people tell me their life story often.

00:06:21.280 I mean, I can't help it.

00:06:24.520 I guess I just have that appeal.

00:06:26.540 I just have that appeal.

00:06:29.020 So there was a couple verses in the Bible that really backed up what I already thought,

00:06:36.680 which is that good mothers and good wives are rare.

00:06:41.220 The majority of wives and mothers are not good at it

00:06:44.320 Because the majority of women were not raised to be wives and mothers.

00:06:48.460 Now, when I talk about these things, I don't say this from a position of I am so much better.

00:06:53.780 I do not say this from a position of you should learn from me.

00:06:57.860 I say this from a position of a woman that's just taking notes, really, truly.

00:07:04.520 I'm just looking at what's going on.

00:07:06.380 And from my experience, the last round of traditional mothers really were before the 60s.

00:07:18.320 Women born after the 60s very rarely were raised to be traditional.

00:07:25.100 They are the minority.

00:07:26.860 I don't care if they're in church.

00:07:28.640 I don't care if they're in a farm town.

00:07:30.540 But there were a couple things that really just changed the average chick.

00:07:36.020 And there are stats that back this up and my own anecdotal experience.

00:07:42.600 So my grandmother, she was a mother of nine children.

00:07:56.880 And she actually passed away last year.

00:07:59.940 And she was sick for a while, so I knew, you know, every time I saw her, I knew it might be the last time that I spoke to her.

00:08:08.200 And one of the last times I saw my grandma, I asked her, I said, Grandma, do you have any regrets in life?

00:08:16.520 And she told me, not having more children.

00:08:19.960 now this woman had nine children and I said grandma how many kids did you want

00:08:29.780 oh I wish I had 12

00:08:33.940 they don't really make women like that anymore they're rare they are the exceptions they're

00:08:41.220 not the rule I don't know many women that want to have 10 children

00:08:43.880 but my grandma was a little bit different you know and I asked her I said grandma you lived

00:08:51.440 through a lot of you know because she was about 80 maybe when she died so I said grandma you

00:08:56.640 lived through a lot of the cultural changes what do you think made so many women divorce their

00:09:03.280 husbands and my grandma told me actually what I already suspected she said birth control

00:09:09.280 that was a major change in society that gave women complete power over their reproduction

00:09:18.260 and from my point of view it showed what women really wanted to do if women wanted to be mothers

00:09:25.420 they could choose to be but overwhelmingly women chose to divorce their husbands as well as the

00:09:31.320 advent of no-fault divorce but you know we've talked to we've had shaw on the show and even

00:09:37.440 when no-fault divorce was introduced, it was more of a reaction because everybody wanted to get

00:09:42.880 divorces. There was a buildup of people wanting to get divorces. So we gave women more freedom,

00:09:51.640 and that's what we as women chose to do with it. Now, this is not to say the women are bad or good.

00:09:58.900 It's not to say that's right or wrong. I personally think there are women that should

00:10:02.980 not have children. There are some women that are too narcissistic and self-centered and should just

00:10:07.340 worry about raising and taking care of themselves. Don't bring a child into this.

00:10:12.700 Which I know maybe that's an unpopular trad opinion. I don't know. Anyways,

00:10:19.840 my grandma told me that that really changed the world. And it really stuck with me.

00:10:27.820 You know, and what I realized is that before women needed men, and now women do not,

00:10:37.340 need men to survive in the same way they used to, because men are taking care of us as a group.

00:10:43.340 We have useless jobs. We have birth control. And really, we have the freedom to do whatever we want.

00:10:50.180 And when you give people freedom, you see what they want to do. Anyway, so my theory after

00:10:56.960 interviewing a thousand women was that really the last generation of wives were between the ages of

00:11:04.340 80 to 100 roughly maybe 70 to 100 and and after that um and even those wives many of those wives

00:11:15.540 scared their daughters and told their daughters to always have a backup plan

00:11:20.340 then you know the generation of women between the ages of maybe 50 to 80 that's the first generation

00:11:26.820 of what i call the shitty wives now granted there's examples of shitty wives all throughout history

00:11:33.380 but i noticed a surplus in that generation and they duped us they made us think they were so

00:11:41.140 special awesome and the victims when most of them were responsible for ruining their children and

00:11:48.420 destroying their homes but when you ask them if they look back on it they were the ultimate victim

00:11:55.140 so my amazing bible thump for people blessing

00:11:59.220 we're in the building

00:12:02.720 blessing's a preacher okay you know he he found some awesome

00:12:08.860 verses that really backed up what i was saying but not his church

00:12:13.040 nothing nothing's there right blessing of course no none of the women in his life at all

00:12:19.380 saintly they're all they're all amazing it's right blessing oh yeah can you turn on your

00:12:23.900 camera for a sec do you want to say hi we put you a whole camera hold on man

00:12:28.880 Okay, you know, we have Ecclesiastes.

00:12:37.820 What is it, Ecclesiastes 728?

00:12:41.500 Do you want to read it, Blessing?

00:12:43.340 Pastor Blessing?

00:12:45.320 You want to read it?

00:12:46.440 You see my screen?

00:12:50.580 Zoom in a little bit on your screen.

00:12:54.620 You got to turn on your camera.

00:12:56.020 Say hi.

00:12:58.880 You don't want to say hi?

00:13:00.760 I thought we put up the camera.

00:13:02.220 We don't have to.

00:13:04.320 Yeah, keep going, keep going.

00:13:06.080 Okay, okay.

00:13:07.380 Ecclesiastes 728.

00:13:09.120 While I was still searching but not finding,

00:13:12.360 I found one upright man among a thousand women.

00:13:16.740 Among a thousand, sorry.

00:13:18.500 But not one upright woman among them all.

00:13:22.640 Ladies, we're so trash.

00:13:24.080 A thousand women.

00:13:25.320 And that was before birth control.

00:13:28.460 no-fault divorce and social media what does that mean about us now

00:13:33.760 except all the women that blessing knows

00:13:39.800 right blessing yeah i don't know none of that do you want to read the next one blessing

00:13:49.580 wait which verse are we on now b genesis oh genesis but his wife looked back behind him

00:13:57.800 and she became a pillar of salt.

00:14:00.580 That's the Lord's wife.

00:14:02.320 And Abraham went early in the morning

00:14:04.100 to the place where he had stood before the Lord.

00:14:07.300 Then he looked towards Sodom and Gomorrah

00:14:09.000 and towards the land of the plain.

00:14:11.540 And he saw and behold the smoke of the land

00:14:13.700 which went up like the smoke of the furnace.

00:14:16.100 And it came to pass when God destroyed

00:14:17.600 the cities of the plain.

00:14:19.660 Anyways, the end just says, remember Lord's wife.

00:14:22.280 Okay, blessing.

00:14:23.500 What did she do wrong in that story?

00:14:25.720 well she actually did not do anything that's the problem like the whole story she didn't do

00:14:32.500 anything and the only thing she did was just disobedience she didn't listen right listen yeah

00:14:38.300 women we've been not listening forever proverbs chapter five now then my sons listen to me and

00:14:47.200 do not depart from the words of my mouth keep your way from her and do not go near the door of her

00:14:53.280 house or you will give your vigor to others and your years to the cruel ones and strangers will

00:14:59.340 be filled with your strength and your hard-earned goods will go to the house of an alien they're

00:15:05.900 warning us he was warning his sons about these chicks warning his son it's like

00:15:12.180 they're saying in the chat we got daughters look at where i'm not a i'm not a preacher okay so i i

00:15:19.540 do the best I can. Now, I recently went viral. I went viral on Twitter. Let me pull this up. I went

00:15:29.160 viral on Twitter because, you know, wow, this is at 2 million views. 17,000 likes. Pull up my tweet.

00:15:39.080 can we can we pull this up? All right, step one, get married. Step two, have two children. Step

00:15:54.440 three, stop sleeping with your husband. Step four, cheat on your husband. Step five, claim emotional

00:16:01.440 abuse and leak out of context calls, texts, and conversations. Six, ruin the man's reputation in

00:16:08.400 the town, city, or online. Seven, play the victim while filing for child support, alimony, and his

00:16:14.480 assets. Step eight, play the poor single mother card. Step nine, tell the kids how evil the father

00:16:21.660 is and give him little to no custody. Step 10, ruin his reputation any way you can. I've seen it too

00:16:30.260 many times. Now the women came at me after this tweet. They said, Pearl's lying. Pearl, you're so

00:16:38.800 negative. Pearl, you're so evil. And I thought to myself, if I'm lying, how does this have 17,000

00:16:49.380 likes? It seems like that wouldn't go viral if it didn't have any truth to it. But I'm sure you

00:16:57.460 guys are just the perfect wives i'm sure now the men all said this happened to me this happened to

00:17:05.300 someone i know now um you can take my screen off blessing um so today i decided that i am going to

00:17:17.380 go through some of the archetypes of mothers that we have seen most mothers in 2023 do not listen to

00:17:24.360 their husbands. Most mothers believe that it is their way or the highway. Most mothers believe

00:17:30.140 it's happy wife, happy life. And unfortunately, they teach this to their children and ruin

00:17:36.400 relationships for them forever. Most children in 2024 have never, ever seen a functioning,

00:17:43.980 happy relationship. And generally, the downfall of relationships tends to be from the mother.

00:17:49.680 now many of you say that I am lying but if I am lying why are women so angry trying to get me to

00:17:56.300 shut up and the reason that I talk about a lot of these issues is not because it matters to me

00:18:04.400 what you do in your household but I think that children are innocent children deserve good

00:18:11.640 parents and children do not deserve to be lied to. So the number one mother that I see is the

00:18:20.740 helicopter. Let me clarify, not the most common, but number one on my list, but I could go on with

00:18:30.640 this list for decades. So I am just going to put the things that I can think of right now, but this

00:18:36.640 it's not over. All right, number one, the helicopter mom. This mom will never let her

00:18:43.160 children make their own decisions. She loves imposing her will on her children. Even when

00:18:50.340 her kids are of age, she will still try to push her religion, career path, and even who they

00:18:56.640 should marry onto them. Many of these women are not looking to love their children, but to create

00:19:02.620 a better version of themselves. There is no making these mothers happy because even if you listen to

00:19:08.640 them, they will find something else to complain about. Many times these mothers will raise absolute

00:19:14.320 soy boys who cannot make decisions because they have made every decision for them. These mothers

00:19:19.860 are especially terrible for sons. These sons often grow to hate them for a lifetime. These women do

00:19:30.320 their kids no favors because their children do not learn the consequences of bad decisions because

00:19:36.160 they will not let them make any. These women not only control their children, but also control

00:19:42.740 their husbands. They often belittle their husbands for all of the things that they are not able to

00:19:47.880 control or change about him. These women tend to make everyone around them miserable. These are

00:19:55.760 the wives that scream happy wife happy life belittle their husbands in public because if it

00:20:02.620 is not their way it is the highway losing control is these women's worst fear now am i making this

00:20:10.060 up blessing or am i just making this up have you seen these moms oh yeah i've seen this no no they

00:20:17.120 don't exist right you guys are so perfect women you guys are just so special and awesome okay

00:20:23.220 The best friend mother. These mothers are not looking to parent their children, but to have

00:20:30.280 friends that they did not have growing up. You will see these mothers most commonly do this

00:20:38.700 with daughters. These mothers you may see in clubs, at concerts, and even at college with

00:20:44.080 their daughters. Many of these women have young children. Many of these women had their children

00:20:49.560 young and resent them for making them miss out on their youth but no worries the moms will offer

00:20:57.960 no discipline no guidance no rules and make a non-stop party for these kids these are the

00:21:05.980 mothers in high school who would throw parties every weekend that everyone went to and i have

00:21:11.080 even seen them give their children alcohol and drugs and even at times do drugs and alcohol

00:21:19.140 with them some extreme stories or mothers sleeping with their daughter's boyfriend

00:21:24.340 or maybe even partaking in sexual activity with the daughter or the daughter's friends

00:21:30.740 but i'm just making it up right right oh oh pearl's just making this shit up

00:21:39.700 the competitive mother this is a mother who competes with her children again the most common

00:21:46.400 way that I see this is with daughters and mothers. At a young age, the mother realized that the

00:21:52.820 daughter gets more attention than them. These mothers compete to be better looking and receive

00:21:57.660 more attention than their daughters for a lifetime. They're often passive aggressive with their

00:22:03.400 daughters and set their daughters up for failure. If the daughter wears something revealing, the

00:22:08.660 mother will wear something more revealing. If the daughter gets her bachelor's, the mother will get

00:22:13.480 her masters. These mothers do not love their daughters. These mothers do not love their

00:22:18.860 daughters, but see them as competition. The career mothers. These mothers will never put away their

00:22:27.920 careers for their children. These are the mothers you see flying all over the world months after

00:22:33.780 they had a child. These mothers care more about making money and career status than the well-being

00:22:39.460 of their children as many of you know i am not against women working i hate lazy women but these

00:22:46.520 mothers make sure that the children know they are responsible for any career failures that they had

00:22:53.100 these mothers will often even tell the children about how much they put their career away for

00:22:59.200 them even though most of them didn't they're often delusional these mothers will often have daycare

00:23:06.500 nannies in a shitty education system raise their children because they would rather be at work.

00:23:12.760 These mothers should have never had children to begin with. These mothers should have never had

00:23:18.480 children to begin with because they wanted children for the image, not because they wanted

00:23:23.460 to be a wife and a mother. An example of this I can think of is Sarah Palin, Nikki Haley,

00:23:28.800 and often female politicians who put their career before their family. Typically their families are

00:23:35.820 destroyed because of their career many of the times many of the many of these women have affairs

00:23:41.440 at work and see their husbands as nothing more than a sperm donor many of these women love to

00:23:47.640 have wine after work and gain weight after marriage because they think they can do it all

00:23:53.160 they believe they're doing it all they believe that they are the most awesome mother wife and

00:24:00.900 career woman even though it's literally impossible. They bought it that you can do everything at the

00:24:08.000 same time. The princess treatment housewife. Somehow these women got lucky and landed a high

00:24:15.360 value sucker even though they offer no skills outside of looks. These women got lucky and love

00:24:21.060 to parade around the success of their lifestyle and take credit for all of their husband's

00:24:26.380 accomplishments. When you see what they brag about, they never brag about their husband,

00:24:30.960 only what he can provide for them. Their husband could not do it without them. Just ask them.

00:24:37.960 They are entrepreneurs in their own right. These women marry men that have no experience with

00:24:43.020 women but had success in their careers. Many of these women are not attracted to their husbands

00:24:47.520 and even dislike their husbands, but thank God because they get princess treatment. If these

00:24:53.680 women were honest, they would say that the only reason they're in the position they're in is

00:24:57.580 because they are predatory and good looking. But if you ask them, it was because they are so skilled

00:25:07.880 and amazing. Am I wrong? Maybe I'm just making this up. The nagging lazy housewife. These mothers

00:25:20.940 think they are responsible for their husband's success and often resent their husband for putting

00:25:27.100 their career aside they will tell you they do the hardest job on the planet just ask them even though

00:25:35.980 my 19 year old sister can do the same job for minimum wage with no skills with right out of

00:25:43.100 high school. But if you ask them, it is the hardest job on the entire planet. It's harder

00:25:51.420 than the oil rig. It's harder than an engineering job. It's harder than the coal miners. Just ask

00:26:04.300 them. It's the most thankless job in the world. Totally. Even though you have a whole day to

00:26:10.740 celebrate it. And we never shut up about how awesome and special and amazing mothers are.

00:26:15.820 It is the most thankless job. Yes, nobody talks about it. You totally get less credit than coal

00:26:24.040 miners. You totally get less credit than the men that run the infrastructure. Totally.

00:26:31.400 These women are housewives, but they are not good housewives. Oftentimes they sit at home

00:26:39.420 and still have a nanny and do not cook clean or provide any value to their husbands many times

00:26:46.440 they married their husbands young and their husbands had no idea that they could get a higher

00:26:53.360 quality woman but they're saddled for life oftentimes their husbands are good people

00:26:58.640 they don't want to divorce them and but these women will often stop sleeping with them after

00:27:05.100 marriage and provide little to no value, even though they're sitting at home getting to be

00:27:11.120 with the kids. Oftentimes they will phrase, oftentimes they will phrase having to stay

00:27:18.380 home as a chore, even though it is an opportunity and an amazing, an amazing opportunity that many

00:27:25.760 women would kill for. Remember, most women don't get to be housewives. That is not what most women

00:27:31.600 will get to do most women need to work most people need two incomes to survive

00:27:37.200 so yeah but these women will nag for a lifetime okay now the most common type of mother

00:27:48.000 i want a drum roll could i get a drum roll a drum roll everyone everyone in the chat

00:27:52.960 put a one in the chat like the video this is the number one type of mother that i see

00:27:58.120 And I see this across the board. I see this with all the mothers.

00:28:03.480 The pass on your trauma to your children mother.

00:28:08.000 These type of mothers had a marriage that did not work out.

00:28:12.620 These mothers feel the need to tell their children about why they work out.

00:28:17.960 Oftentimes, these are the mothers on the show that needed to tell their kids that their husband cheated.

00:28:23.700 that needed to tell their kids about why their marriage fell short, but oftentimes they only

00:28:30.080 talked about the cheating that he did and not the cheating that they also did or the sexlessness

00:28:36.320 that that man endured for years. These women always leave out the part they played and alienate the

00:28:45.880 children. These mothers failed as wives and they will pass on their fear of failing relationships

00:28:52.400 onto their daughters.

00:28:53.800 They will tell their daughters to get a house,

00:28:56.240 get a master's degree,

00:28:57.500 and even build them a house before they get married.

00:29:01.260 They give their daughters and sons terrible advice.

00:29:06.620 These mothers instill fear into their daughters

00:29:09.420 about marriage and relationships because they failed.

00:29:12.320 And instead of taking the L and moving on,

00:29:15.180 they need to pass that on to their children.

00:29:19.900 Am I wrong?

00:29:22.400 am i wrong blessing fact am i did i make this up i know you're speaking for in the chat all right

00:29:29.600 now the retirement plan mothers these are lazy women these are lazy women that do not want to

00:29:36.000 work so they have children as a retirement plan oftentimes these women will constantly tell their

00:29:42.900 children how much they did for them they will constantly say i did so much for you even though

00:29:49.840 they did the bare minimum and raised them like they were supposed to. Oftentimes, these mothers

00:29:56.300 will live off of the government, family members, and anybody they can mooch off of. And so what do

00:30:01.680 they do next? They make terrible decisions, divorce their husbands. Now they're single mothers, or

00:30:07.320 maybe they were never with the father to begin with. And guess who has to pay for it? The child.

00:30:13.920 Do you know how many women are single because they have the burden of taking care of their mother?

00:30:23.080 That is a common problem.

00:30:26.800 Now, the next archetype is the perfect mother.

00:30:32.240 I mean, these must be everywhere because if you ask all of you women on Twitter and X or X, you guys are just perfect.

00:30:40.540 You have zero flaws.

00:30:42.280 I mean, just ask Tradcon women.

00:30:46.340 They struggle with none of these issues.

00:30:49.320 I am simply a fear mongerer and you are super correct and just doing an awesome, special, and perfect job.

00:30:56.760 And if I point any of these things out, it makes you feel icky because you're just so perfect.

00:31:03.760 And that's why we have such quality children today, right?

00:31:07.720 I mean, that's why we don't have any problems in society.

00:31:13.760 It's why a quarter of women are on mental health drugs.

00:31:18.380 Because you guys have done just such an awesome, thankless, and selfless job.

00:31:26.000 Right?

00:31:28.460 The last but not least is the son husbands.

00:31:33.800 these are women often single mothers many times these women were never in a relationship and

00:31:40.840 maybe got pregnant through a one-night stand these mothers use their son as an emotional

00:31:46.600 tampon for a lifetime problems that they should tell their husband they will forever tell their

00:31:54.220 children oftentimes you will see these mothers baby their sons and never want them to leave or

00:32:02.900 grow up because they're lonely and the poor sons are forced many of them you know men are just good

00:32:12.480 people so they're forced to deal with them for a lifetime take care of them for a lifetime even

00:32:20.580 though it really is not the children's problem you're not meant to have children to take care

00:32:26.580 of you you're you're meant to have children because you want to be a father a mother and

00:32:31.480 have a family, okay? But maybe I'm crazy. Maybe I'm just making this up, right? I mean, that's

00:32:40.340 what you guys say. Everybody's perfect, right? Right? And the problem is all of these mothers

00:32:48.400 affect society. What I noticed is most problems actually come from the mother in society.

00:32:54.440 And you can see this with the facts, the data, and the statistics. Because single father homes

00:32:59.640 fare off far better than single mother homes. These mothers tend to raise promiscuous daughters,

00:33:06.540 career-driven daughters, simpsons, and in general, broken people. Why do you think we have so many

00:33:13.100 issues? And the biggest problem is many people become their mothers. Many people repeat the sins

00:33:20.780 of their mothers. So many women become what they never wanted to be. But maybe I'm making this up.

00:33:28.740 So, you know, my question to the people, what type of mother did you have?

00:33:36.420 I'm going to drop the link in the chat.

00:33:38.420 What type of mother?

00:33:39.520 I mean, I don't know.

00:33:41.600 I mean, I don't speak for everybody.

00:33:47.680 And maybe I'm just crazy.

00:33:49.940 But before we take Collins, I am going to read off some disclaimers.

00:33:54.880 I am going to read off some disclaimers because I let me put this I'm going to put this in the

00:34:01.340 chat I'm going to read the disclaimers off and then link is in the chat I'll put it oh you put

00:34:09.060 it okay okay so a couple disclaimers before we go because many of you love coming on here and

00:34:14.820 telling me how to run the show that I built okay I am not required to speak to any of you if I

00:34:20.700 choose to kick you off for whatever reason I can. It's not my intention to do so, and I will not,

00:34:26.480 and I try not to do this often. However, if I think you are here for a 30-second buzz clip

00:34:33.860 or to preach to me, I reserve the right to kick you off. I'm asking a question. I want to know

00:34:39.320 the answers. If I think you're here to troll, I'll kick you off. You know, if you don't like it,

00:34:44.900 cry about it. You can go cry about it on your show that no one watches. I am not special.

00:34:50.700 Look it. When I talk about these problems, I never say I'm special or different.

00:34:55.560 I'm describing what I see going on.

00:34:58.020 Do not over talk me. Do not interrupt me.

00:34:59.960 You're calling to a show where I describe what's going on.

00:35:04.000 Sometimes I may give warnings. Other times I may not be so patient.

00:35:09.380 We are not talking about you.

00:35:12.060 So if you take any of these things personal,

00:35:15.020 I'm not talking about you personally when I describe these problems, women.

00:35:20.320 None of this is me telling you what to do.

00:35:24.280 I think, let me see.

00:35:26.340 Make sure you have your camera on.

00:35:28.760 Make sure you have your video on.

00:35:30.340 Please put your camera down and let me see your hands.

00:35:34.160 Okay, let me, like I just want, I want it to be set up so we have good video.

00:35:41.240 I think that's pretty much all the ones I have to read today.

00:35:45.000 Okay, links in the chat.

00:35:46.360 it should be on x and on on both so so the question of the day i'm going to repeat it

00:35:55.640 just so we remember what type of mother was your mother and what if if you have children what type

00:36:05.520 of oh wait I forgot I forgot one last thing guys

00:36:11.760 one last thing I did forget to read I did one second

00:36:18.300 there's the Proverbs 31 wife which is described as a woman of noble character

00:36:28.460 often um oh I think this isn't actual verse but but wait hold on hold on

00:36:34.460 All right.

00:36:37.400 A wife of noble character, who can she find?

00:36:41.780 She is worth far more than rubies.

00:36:47.320 Her husband has full confidence in her and lacks nothing of value.

00:36:52.540 She brings him good, not harm, all the days of her life.

00:36:56.140 She selects wool and flax and works with eager hands.

00:37:00.420 She is like the merchant ships bringing her food from afar.

00:37:03.440 she gets up while it is still night and she provides her family with food and positions

00:37:09.560 for her female servants okay i'm not gonna read the whole thing it's kind of long but

00:37:13.060 you guys get the idea so what kind of if you have children what kind of wife are you

00:37:19.620 and what type of mother was your mother let's do a call in we got anyone in the chat

00:37:27.400 yeah uh i want to call patrick up first and by the way if you have a different archetype that

00:37:34.340 you guys want to see that maybe i didn't list because some of them i didn't even list but

00:37:39.040 you know feel free what's his name patrick okay let's go to patrick

00:37:44.480 hello hi there hi patrick where are you at i'm from the netherlands oh you're from the

00:37:53.180 other ones cool um how old are you uh i'm i'm actually about to turn 29 in march 31st okay

00:38:02.220 so what type of mother was your mother well as i've shortly mentioned my mom was the type of

00:38:08.940 one that was overprotective and um i was basically not uh able to make mistakes that was the basic

00:38:19.100 That was the basic gist of it.

00:38:22.160 So I had to make mistakes myself before finding out that certain things that I've been told about women was not right.

00:38:31.080 So was your mom married or was she a single mom?

00:38:35.600 My mom is married to a very traditional father.

00:38:39.880 however um he has had a um a mental um thing going on a hemorrhage about 20 years ago which

00:38:49.640 really impacted my mom and everything that fell on her from when i was seven years old wow i i find

00:38:56.220 that a lot in traditional um like the more over i'd say like overbearing mothers is that fair

00:39:01.980 i guess you could call it that yeah yeah um what when did you realize like what when how old were

00:39:10.620 you when you realized that like she was like that were you young old never until last year it was

00:39:17.740 only until last year that i realized basically when i got red pilled that that was the moment

00:39:23.420 like hey dear parents i got something to tell you this is what happened and this is what i found out

00:39:29.820 I'm standing for something and I'm becoming a better person because of it you've done your best

00:39:35.060 and there's things that I like and there's things that I don't like but I always love you thank you

00:39:40.200 very much that's what I'm told well thank you for calling in no problem and I hope to see you on

00:39:47.260 Saturday in Amsterdam I'll be going there oh you're going oh cool um okay do the next one

00:39:59.820 So I'm going to ask, I'm going to write, I want to know people's ages, professions,

00:40:07.940 I want to know their ages, professions, if their parents are still together.

00:40:13.620 I think of these questions on the spot sometimes, okay, and then I'll know, okay.

00:40:18.000 Okay, go ahead.

00:40:26.540 Hello.

00:40:27.000 Yes, hello, can you hear me?

00:40:28.220 Yeah, I can hear you.

00:40:29.820 Hey, pleasure to make your acquaintance, Madam Pearl.

00:40:32.280 How are you doing?

00:40:32.940 What's your name?

00:40:34.700 Brandon.

00:40:35.500 Brandon?

00:40:36.140 Okay, where are you from?

00:40:38.100 Singapore.

00:40:38.920 Singapore.

00:40:39.560 And what's your age?

00:40:41.340 29.

00:40:42.040 29?

00:40:42.640 Okay, same age as the last guy.

00:40:44.040 What do you do?

00:40:45.540 I am a registered counselor and licensed therapist by trade.

00:40:48.760 Oh, wow.

00:40:49.820 Well, you have to have a lot of insight into this stuff, then.

00:40:53.200 Yes.

00:40:53.860 Yeah.

00:40:54.600 Okay, what type of mother was your mother?

00:40:57.100 My mother was...

00:40:59.820 uh she was a very uh a disciplined woman she would raise me by the lecture and of course the

00:41:06.600 belt and she was also overprotective of uh my brother and i because we uh grew up with some

00:41:16.040 uh conditions like for example i have Tourette's and she was really concerned about how we would

00:41:22.960 in the mainstream scholastic system why do you um just as a counselor i'm curious i find that

00:41:31.600 really common with like sons over protective mother with sons why do you think that is

00:41:39.920 mostly i think it's a motherly instinct now

00:41:45.360 that's just my view on the matter okay overprotect how is she overprotective

00:41:50.320 helicopter mother helicopter like you couldn't you couldn't do anything or like could you go to

00:41:58.100 your friend's house or how she she had no problems with me going to my mate's house but when it comes

00:42:04.360 to like going outside doing things on their own then she she would be watching over me yeah did

00:42:11.740 you because did you feel like you could because a common thing i get from people that were with

00:42:18.500 helicopter parents is that they get to a certain age and they realize they've made every decision

00:42:23.360 for them. Did you find that? Codependency. Yeah. Yeah. Codependency is very common

00:42:28.600 among a family with helicopter parents. Codependency. Okay. Well, thank you for calling in.

00:42:36.760 It's all good. Thanks for having me. Yeah.

00:42:41.000 Um, let me go. Hold on one second, guys.

00:42:48.500 um son it's because

00:42:50.820 son husbands are okay go to the next one

00:42:57.320 hi pearl hello how you doing good how are you not bad not bad um so what type of mother was

00:43:15.700 your mother um my mother uh she had cerebral palsy and i was being set up for a situation

00:43:23.780 where she would essentially uh be taken care of by me oh wow right now and uh i'm a truck driver

00:43:33.340 i'm otr truck driver and i'm a single father as well so i can't do either of those things i can't

00:43:40.040 take care of my mother i'm not going to do it especially in the situation that we're currently

00:43:45.980 in and uh you know i i have a 15 year old son and his mother is essentially like one of those

00:43:56.840 state-run mothers which mother and uh a mother of the state oh okay yeah okay yeah taking

00:44:05.660 taking all the benefits from the state she's on a trip to puerto rico rico

00:44:10.040 yeah and i'm not happy about it so how did you do you so you can't take care of your mother who's

00:44:18.840 taking care of her now uh so right now she's with her husband but her husband has uh cancer

00:44:27.220 so as soon as he's gone i don't know who's gonna take care of it uh probably my sister

00:44:32.520 i'm not gonna do it i'm an opr truck driver my life is here and how so you said you

00:44:40.020 a 15 year old son how has that affected him having like a mother of the state oh my god um

00:44:47.140 his relationship with her is starting to get strained it took me 10 years to get him back

00:44:53.080 and uh yeah and his relationship with her has been going down three years um

00:45:02.020 and honestly like you know his relationship with me has been getting really a lot better

00:45:10.020 but you know it was tough it's really tough going through the situation we went through

00:45:16.500 and uh you know i had friends that also went through similar situations and uh it's it's

00:45:22.900 messed up what was the situation where you didn't see him at all for 10 years or what was the

00:45:27.940 custody situation like it was it was a so she essentially uh you know she put me in child

00:45:37.700 support of course and i never had a problem with that but the custody situation i had to fight it

00:45:44.980 fight it fight it eventually we came to an agreement um and now we're in that situation

00:45:51.780 where i have my son i get to see him a lot more often even though i'm a truck driver he's actually

00:45:57.380 going to be coming out on the road with me probably this this summer and uh because his

00:46:03.140 His birthday's on, like, July, so I want to get him out on the truck out here.

00:46:08.580 And, yeah, it would be really great.

00:46:11.520 How old was he when he started to figure out that his mom was kind of crazy?

00:46:16.860 And then did she say that you were the bad guy, I'm guessing?

00:46:20.220 Oh, yeah.

00:46:20.660 Oh, yeah.

00:46:21.140 That was a normal situation.

00:46:24.400 So it got really weird, like, five years ago.

00:46:29.540 When he was 10?

00:46:30.080 When she called the cops on me.

00:46:31.460 Yeah, she called the cops on me.

00:46:33.140 and she had the cops essentially wrest him from me and uh that was the moment i think things

00:46:42.080 changed for her with my son because uh essentially like like i hugged him one last time

00:46:49.560 and then i didn't really get to see him for two years after that and i i told my son like i love

00:46:57.780 you i'll be i'll be here look for me you know come looking for me or i'll come looking for you

00:47:02.960 whatever we have to do and then that that was like the last moment and then two years later i got back

00:47:08.560 and this is what i actually want i'm not talking to you i'm talking to the audience

00:47:13.060 girl ladies like the kids figure it out eventually it's they get to a certain age kids are not stupid

00:47:20.600 if you alienate a kid from his father eventually they will figure it out and sometimes it's as

00:47:26.660 young as 10 sometimes it's not till they're older but kids are not stupid um now go ahead

00:47:34.440 it's changed it's changed a lot of stuff i mean i i honestly this was the defining moment that

00:47:42.340 red pilled me i've always had moments in my life that i was a little red pilled because i grew up

00:47:48.280 with a single mother who was handicapped with cerebral palsy so i've always had that red pilled

00:47:54.580 moment um but honestly like this thing with his mother actually really set up a lot of

00:48:02.420 that red pill big time i mean i'm i'm i'm the guy i'm never more the guy that

00:48:10.100 you're i'm on your uh feed yesterday and uh i actually had a friend uh a best friend of mine

00:48:16.820 he uh off oh he killed he killed himself over a divorce situation yeah wow what could you tell

00:48:27.920 me what his situation was if you don't mind yeah um so i was going to go back out on the road

00:48:34.580 and i saw him one last time and his son had just been recently born and uh

00:48:41.400 essentially, like, I was going to go talk to him.

00:48:45.020 We hung out for a little bit.

00:48:46.900 And about a week later, I get a phone call from my mother telling me that he had

00:48:55.160 essentially, like, gone and done the thing.

00:49:01.100 and uh because his his wife his his ex-wife was going to take the kid his one-year-old baby

00:49:11.580 you know newborn baby and run away and now he's gone yeah he's my best friend i've known this guy

00:49:22.040 for like most of my life wow and you had did you know he was gonna do it

00:49:28.640 no i had no idea you had no idea any of it was going on no he seemed really happy the last

00:49:35.280 the last week i saw him wow and he was a very traditional conservative christian guy

00:49:42.460 he's the kind of guy that you know guys like michael knowles put out in in the front for

00:49:48.400 everybody to see and he's gone yeah no and that's why when i when i was having that conversation i

00:49:55.380 I was trying to express that.

00:49:58.280 I've just seen guys on the other side of this.

00:50:00.820 And I don't actually know someone that's done it,

00:50:04.460 but I've met people that I wouldn't be surprised if they did.

00:50:08.700 And it's really brutal when they're going through it.

00:50:11.780 And men should just know what they're signing up for.

00:50:14.380 Go ahead.

00:50:15.700 You know, I never got to a situation where I wanted to commit suicide,

00:50:20.860 but I've been, like, really, really close to it several times.

00:50:25.380 i you know if i could have talked to him if i could have told him like right before he was

00:50:30.820 going to do it you know things get better over time i would have but i mean at this point you

00:50:38.500 can't undo the past um as as as crappy as it sounds it's like you know all you can do is try to

00:50:48.740 like teach people better and show people that hey look there's a bad situation that we've set up in

00:50:56.900 society with divorce and marriage you know we have a pipeline of marriage to divorce

00:51:03.780 we should be fixing this instead of you know right now just letting people go through the floodgates

00:51:10.340 because i mean you know guys like michael voles they're on the the winning 50s the winning 50

00:51:19.160 but that's right now in 10 years tell me what it's going to look like for michael voles and

00:51:28.200 ben shapiro we don't know what their situation is going to be like in 10 years you can say oh

00:51:34.520 you know i'm winning right now okay you're one of the top 10 earners that's great but

00:51:40.320 when you know when the rubber hits the road what are you going to do then

00:51:46.460 well and most people are statistics and if you look at conservatives over the age of maybe 50

00:51:55.320 or 60 half are divorced so you know if you know if you look at like um i couldn't believe i didn't

00:52:02.340 know andrew clavin was divorced i was like how are you i was super confused when i saw that

00:52:06.880 i was like you should know but and they got steven crowder too and elijah shaper went

00:52:13.980 as well so these guys know it's there elijah shaper is divorced i think so oh i didn't know

00:52:21.080 that i didn't know he went he's either divorced or he went through some kind of situation

00:52:26.060 yeah uh where he was there was like a false rape claim or something like that by somebody

00:52:31.400 and the conservative side yeah well even they're all propping up hillary now they're all like

00:52:37.720 propping her up on twitter like they're she's gonna be a martyr like to everyone and i know

00:52:43.660 exactly what she's doing i don't believe it well and it's like this uh this layla girl or whatever

00:52:50.700 the hell you know they're propping her up that that crap is going to fall through very fast

00:52:55.660 the who and it's going to ruin and drag the church down too and layla who uh yeah yeah uh

00:53:02.580 is her name layla i can't the of girl oh that was her name sorry i forgot her name i just know

00:53:09.920 oh yeah yeah i mean to be honest at this point you know babylon has fallen you know we're at

00:53:17.540 this situation screw it um you know if the church is willing to give up their their morals values

00:53:23.740 and traditions for an OF girl, then those morals, values, and traditions mean absolutely

00:53:28.620 zero. Yeah. Yeah. And that's what I was trying to explain, that it doesn't matter what I said.

00:53:36.280 I was thinking about how that interview was a marketing plan as to why men would not get

00:53:41.960 married. Because if I was a man, regardless of what I say, men are just logical. They're going

00:53:48.460 to look at the situation and think oh no i'm immoral if i'm lied to about paternity i can't

00:53:54.820 get a divorce i'm not signing up for that that interview was was a marketing plan on their side

00:54:02.060 to try to get men to sign up for something no but it's gonna have the opposite effect

00:54:07.560 oh yeah it definitely is yeah um yeah i mean that that post i made it blew up fast i was like holy

00:54:18.320 crap um to be honest like i i never thought i would hear michael knolls like defending like

00:54:26.000 cuckold tree and i blew my mind oh that was your tweet the cuckold tree yeah yeah well because even

00:54:34.460 like imagine if you went through all that for 10 years and then you found out that your son wasn't

00:54:40.500 you like that would be devastating and it's devastating to the kids too oh yeah well and

00:54:45.640 the thing is is like you're just supposed to go along with it just you know because you're

00:54:52.280 because you're a christian you're just so if you find out your son doesn't belong to you you're

00:54:57.740 just supposed to allow that stay married what yeah yeah no yeah that's not how it works mike

00:55:05.940 no oh no but yeah i'm sorry about your friend that's a really sad story

00:55:11.860 yeah it's you know i i've got a picture of him in my truck and uh it it sucks his his mom actually

00:55:23.100 is having a hard time getting the ability to like see her grandson right now oh so her grandma can't

00:55:30.340 even see the son and the women aren't held responsible if the man does anything either

00:55:36.520 no and she'll just go off and do it again that's the thing yeah you know this is a pipeline this

00:55:43.560 is a circle it goes all the way around yeah no and and that's why i i try to i'm not trying to

00:55:52.320 be a doomer i'm just like look we gotta you just gotta tell men what they're signing up for

00:55:56.920 because if a man had like if a man has no idea he's just gonna be ruined if you know just like

00:56:04.680 I kind of am a doomer, but that's because of the crap I've been through.

00:56:12.660 Well, some days I am.

00:56:14.560 I've been a little more optimistic these days.

00:56:16.820 It's hard not to become a doomer in today's society.

00:56:19.820 I mean, it's really tough to go down the doom route.

00:56:22.620 Yeah.

00:56:23.620 Well, thank you for calling in today.

00:56:26.580 I'm glad you did, because I just don't think most of them are too in touch with what's going on.

00:56:36.280 And I think if most of them had seen it, they would think a little differently.

00:56:40.040 So I appreciate you calling in.

00:56:42.500 I'm out there right now.

00:56:44.160 I'm out there fighting the good cause.

00:56:46.160 So I've got your word in mind.

00:56:48.380 Okay, thank you very much.

00:56:50.940 Thank you, ma'am.

00:56:51.740 Thank you.

00:56:52.920 Hold on one second.

00:56:53.900 I'm just going to check the...

00:56:56.580 um um okay gabriel joris says money for blessing i canceled the daily wire mistreating you

00:57:04.280 i didn't see that as a mistreating me i'd like to clarify guys you know it's a debate

00:57:09.180 we're going there to debate i don't think i was mistreated in any way so don't think that

00:57:14.880 daniel reed also gave us 22 for support i really appreciate it i just i i know they're not correct

00:57:21.420 and that that was my point i don't really care about buzz clips i don't care about winning a

00:57:26.780 debate i care about young men knowing what they're signing up for that's what i care about

00:57:34.100 don't none of this no one mistreated me they're just not correct that's that's what it is at the

00:57:42.240 end of the day. Okay, the next person we can bring on. Hello, what's your name? Hello, how are you?

00:57:54.080 Jaden. Good, how are you? How old are you? I'm 26. Okay, 26. Where are you at? I live in Texas.

00:58:02.200 Okay, I hear the Texix accent. And what do you do? I do property inspections, mainly residential,

00:58:09.240 but commercial as well. Okay, so what type of mother was your mother? My mother was a great

00:58:16.120 mother. She was, you could definitely say overprotective, overbearing, but to a minor

00:58:22.060 extent, and she always had the best intentions, which to me, intentions don't matter if the result

00:58:27.940 isn't what's supposed to be there, but she was a very godly woman. She would, I would say she is the

00:58:34.240 rock one of the rocks in our family in regards to um being christ-centered and religion in those

00:58:42.680 aspects but it's my dad wasn't as much of a strong father so i think she kind of took over

00:58:50.760 more strength than that because of that but she was a very very good mother what made her different

00:58:56.280 than the mothers that we see today i don't know how much you'll you know you'll like this but

00:59:04.040 I truly believe it is the spirit of God that dwells in her.

00:59:07.960 I think that if she was not a Christian and not just Christian by group, sect, religion, morality, common group, but she was a believer and a follower of Christ.

00:59:19.820 And I think that that exuded through everything that she did in life.

00:59:23.240 I think if she did not.

00:59:24.500 I wouldn't not like that.

00:59:25.720 I agree with you.

00:59:27.360 Well, amen.

00:59:28.060 And I love that.

00:59:29.320 That's fantastic.

00:59:30.500 Yeah.

00:59:32.640 Okay.

00:59:33.080 well i'm glad to hear it was your your parents are still married they are still married yes

00:59:38.040 it's been 25 years 25 years well i'm happy for them i'm glad you had a good mom

00:59:43.560 thank you for calling in of course thank you love you okay so we got um all right age profession

00:59:52.600 age of guys i want name age profession i like to know the background of people so profession you

01:00:01.560 can kind of tell um the parents still are still together um should have another question i should

01:00:12.760 ask them it's okay okay go to the next one hello oh hi oh my gosh wow it's nice to speak to you in

01:00:25.000 person. Hi, nice to meet you. What's your name? Hillary. Hillary. And age? 36. 36. Profession?

01:00:36.000 I'm a mechanical design engineer. Oh, cool. That's awesome. You have kids, no kids?

01:00:42.440 Three kids. Oh, three. Wow. That's awesome. Still married?

01:00:46.700 No, I've been divorced now for two and a half years. Okay. Okay. So what type of mother was

01:00:54.860 your mother and what type of mother are you? Okay. So, um, going through the, uh, the different

01:01:03.020 types that you had talked about, um, I would say that she was kind of a blend of a few of them

01:01:11.200 with maybe a different one thrown in because, um, early on in my life, my parents divorced when I

01:01:18.100 was seven. So, um, early on in life, she was the, the traditional, uh, wife and mother when she was

01:01:27.900 with my dad. And, um, I think over time, you know, as I was a kid in the nineties and then early

01:01:34.760 two thousands, and it became more of like, uh, the about, she became like the more it's about me

01:01:42.260 kind of mom. Um, after like towards the end of their marriage, it was more about her going to

01:01:49.620 school and, and, uh, learning a profession and more about her career and everything. And then

01:01:55.660 as a single mom, it became about her, uh, dating life work. Um, so I would, I would say she was

01:02:06.020 more of a distracted mom, um, where she just had, uh, so many other things going on, like focusing

01:02:12.880 on, on my stepdad and that relationship, which is fine. You know, I understand that like once,

01:02:19.820 once you're married, married, your husband needs to come first and everything, but, um,

01:02:25.540 everything kind of regarding her children kind of fell to the wayside. So, um, yeah, I would say

01:02:32.180 that that's kind of, uh, the type of mother that she was. And then as I got older, more that you

01:02:39.000 saw more of the competitiveness, um, where, you know, when I graduated high school, she was

01:02:47.020 graduating college. Um, and I saw more of the, Oh, when I was this age, I weighed this much. And

01:02:55.420 the comparisons kind of started as I got older. So if that makes sense.

01:03:00.460 And how did that affect you as a kid?

01:03:07.120 I'm not sure that I, I ended up as a teenager when I was 17, I ended up going to live with

01:03:14.180 my dad just because the tension kind of being in the home with her was a lot.

01:03:20.820 And I had always been more of like closer to my dad.

01:03:25.540 Um, and when they divorced, actually, if I had been old enough to choose, I would have chosen to go live with my dad because he was a provider. His home was more stable. So I definitely would have gone that route earlier on if I could have. Um, but, uh, it definitely things got tense. And then there was some resentment, um, between she and I have, you know, you're only going to live with your dad because, you know, he,

01:03:55.540 he's stable or like you know has has money you think he'll just get you whatever you want

01:04:00.640 this kind of thing and he was not wealthy at all he you know after the divorce he lost basically

01:04:07.620 everything so that was mothers hate mothers hate daughters that do that they hate they hate yeah

01:04:15.000 hate it when the daughter picks the dad yeah I could and I guess I could see like having gone

01:04:21.540 through that myself, I could see how that would be, um, difficult, but I think that she was really

01:04:27.360 blessed to have the, the kind of dad that my, that my father was to, to me. Um, I think she was

01:04:35.920 blessed in that respect to have a partner like him and co-parenting and she just didn't, she

01:04:40.960 wasn't appreciative of it. So. Did you feel, did you feel like you became your mother or do you

01:04:46.520 think you're different than her? Um, no, I, I really see and see that was kind of where I made

01:04:54.620 my, my mistake is that I wanted to be like, so different from her that, um, that was what kept

01:05:03.060 me in the relationship that I was in for so long. And I'm not, I know like you talk on your show

01:05:10.040 about how women will trash the guy, so I won't go into that, but I did everything that I could

01:05:20.240 to stay in that, and it was only when things got to the point that it started negatively

01:05:28.320 affecting my children that I had to get out. And it was, I don't like to use extreme examples or

01:05:40.580 anything like that, but I will say it got to that point where it was taking a toll on my children

01:05:47.980 and I just absolutely uh and and was it a substance like a substance it was substance abuse

01:05:56.000 um and uh so yeah substance abuse there was just some mental issues there that um I think I

01:06:08.440 I was naive to a lot I grew up Southern Baptist so I didn't grow up around you know like drug use or

01:06:14.880 drinking or anything like that um so I didn't I wasn't aware of like the signs to look to look

01:06:22.460 for and um so it just did your dad like him when you first met him looking back on it I I don't

01:06:31.840 think he did and and I met uh so my ex-husband the father of my my three kids uh I met him when

01:06:38.340 I was 17 turning 18. Um, and I think that I don't think my dad liked him. Um, if he,

01:06:48.320 if my dad had come to me and said something, this, this is where, uh, I wish, you know,

01:06:55.860 like I could go say, I could say that I wish I had done a lot of things differently, but

01:07:00.440 I wish that he would have felt more confident in speaking up and saying, I don't think this

01:07:09.120 is the man for you. And, and I think that probably the culture that he grew up in at the time,

01:07:16.380 where it was happy wife, happy life. And my mom was kind of in that same age range as like

01:07:21.940 princess Diana, where like, that was the trendy thing to do is if you're not happy,

01:07:26.860 you just leave the marriage. It's like, like you deserve to be happy and you should do whatever

01:07:31.860 it takes to get to that point. Um, and he grew up kind of in that culture that's ruled by women.

01:07:37.880 And so I don't think he felt like it was his place to speak up. And I, I, I really wish he

01:07:44.420 would have. So, um, but how old's your youngest? He's five. So, um, I found out actually the day

01:07:54.180 that he was born. Um, as I was going into surgery, I don't know why it was that day at that time,

01:07:59.740 but that was the time that my ex decided to come clean about, uh, the substance use and everything

01:08:07.880 the day that I had him. So, and I, I take full responsibility. I mean, like I had three children

01:08:13.640 with this man, you know, so there, you know, there's, there's a lot of stuff that I have to

01:08:19.480 take ownership of of you know that's the person that I chose and that's the decision that I have

01:08:25.640 to live with and I have to to take up to my kids and say I'm I'm sorry like I failed you because

01:08:32.920 this is the man that I picked how it's gonna be how has he done since has he like recovered at

01:08:38.060 all or how's he doing now um in some ways when it when it comes to uh like the the anger and

01:08:49.460 and the controlling stuff and the like the scariness of things um in some ways like that's

01:08:56.400 become a lot better and I deal with him a lot better because I'm not like uh afraid to deal

01:09:04.360 with him anymore because the sometimes the the scariest part isn't like actually getting out of

01:09:10.060 it it's like once you're out like you think that they're gonna be that they're gonna come in and

01:09:14.800 take revenge somehow but um uh in a lot of ways he's he's he's doing well now like in his his

01:09:24.100 career but he hasn't stabilized really he's basically um he he lived with a girlfriend

01:09:30.880 for a while now he's basically homeless and um you know so it's he's basically homeless like he

01:09:38.660 can't afford his rent and stuff no he he could if he wanted to he's just not he's basically

01:09:44.400 like a child living in a 37 year old's body and i don't i know i'm gonna get so much hate probably

01:09:50.220 like in the chat for this for like because i'm not don't worry about the chat it's fine but um

01:09:55.080 they turn on me so it's all right they turn on me all the time but yeah it's uh

01:10:01.580 in a lot of ways like i in a lot of ways i i'm like the the on the the man's side of this where

01:10:11.120 like in a traditional sense if the if if I were a man then you know I would have to be the one

01:10:18.280 like paying him for things and even though like he he can't care for the children and things like

01:10:23.400 that and um so it's uh I kind of treat him like I would treat a oh he's a very feminine man now

01:10:34.300 to me. And in a lot of sense, like he calls me a, what is it? A misogynist. And because I,

01:10:42.060 I have told him, I'm like, you need, you need to help provide for your children. And, uh, you know,

01:10:48.420 like these are, you helped create them and I'm not asking for child support or anything. I've

01:10:55.880 just asked, you know, like, please get yourself into a position where you can, you know, see them,

01:11:02.040 You can visit them and it doesn't have to be like coming to pick them up to spend time with them.

01:11:08.100 So his his career is doing a lot better.

01:11:10.480 He's stabilized and he's actually gotten promotions and everything and in his job so that he's on track with.

01:11:18.120 And I'm trying to help him get to a point where he can where he's a normal adult so that he can be a dad.

01:11:26.820 So do you you have an you have an engineering job?

01:11:29.940 yeah are you able to then afford because i just imagine that pays recently well you can at least

01:11:36.180 afford it yeah yeah no that's that's one area that i'm very blessed in and and i i will say

01:11:43.000 like i have to give him credit because during some of the time that we were together so we were

01:11:48.040 together uh 15 years and then married for 13 um so like six or seven of those years he was working

01:11:57.200 a steady job that paid well. And it actually like afforded me the ability to go back to the school.

01:12:03.700 And, um, then there was like the last three or four years of our marriage, he just quit working.

01:12:10.800 He, that was when he started having some, some mental issues. And, um, so I had finished my,

01:12:17.740 uh, degrees and he said, uh, he, he stopped working. He just decided to stop working.

01:12:25.240 And so I was like, well, this would be a good time for you to go back to school.

01:12:29.080 And because he had he only had a GED at the time that I said, you know, you could go back to school for whatever you want.

01:12:36.780 And I'll carry the weight of this and we'll work it out and everything.

01:12:42.460 So he provided well enough that during that time when I was in school, it was going to school full time, working part time and then taking care of the kids, taking care of the house.

01:12:56.360 And so that was kind of our dynamic for, for the good years, I'll say for the, you know, um, we had probably seven to nine years that were fairly quiet. We would have drama and stuff still going on, but, but fairly tolerable.

01:13:13.680 Do you think that if he like got his act together, there'd be room for like reconciliation at some point? It seems like you had a good thing going, at least in the beginning. You know, like, it seems like that could be recreated, or do you think he's too far gone?

01:13:30.420 Um, I can't. So I don't think that I could ever get to a place where where I could ever love him again the way that he deserves to be loved.

01:13:46.120 I think that if you're going to forgive someone and stay in that relationship, then you need to be able to kind of go with a clean slate and have an open heart with them.

01:13:59.720 And I think that the damage that was done is just too much.

01:14:04.100 And I think that he also will fall into these tendencies to go back to how he treated me.

01:14:11.860 I think once you get used to treating someone a certain way, that that doesn't go away easily.

01:14:17.160 And so the boundaries that he's used to me not having and not standing up to and everything,

01:14:24.180 because his, his girlfriend, now ex-girlfriend, she had very good boundaries. She had better,

01:14:30.120 better boundaries than I did. Um, she stood up to him, to a lot of things that I didn't stand up

01:14:36.840 for myself in. So, um, I've kind of seen that. And, uh, I just don't think, I think he falls

01:14:44.540 into the pattern of treating me a certain way. And I, and I just can't, I think everybody deserves

01:14:52.120 to be loved to their fullest extent as cheesy as that probably sounds but if you can't like

01:14:59.920 just with adultery or anything else if you can't get past it then you should let that person go

01:15:06.880 so that they can have a chance with someone else do you do you think like would he tell the story

01:15:12.500 the same way? I think he would tell it in a very similar way. But he would probably leave out the

01:15:32.260 part. So I've heard him tell this story and I've heard from other people, you know, the story that

01:15:40.200 he does tell. And so the things that he throws in is the, is the things that I did wrong. And

01:15:48.720 I, and, uh, there, there was plenty, there, there were plenty of things that I did wrong that I,

01:15:56.860 I let myself go. Um, it wasn't really that, um, like in, in an intimate sense there,

01:16:04.300 there were never any issues with anything like that. Um, but I mean, I couldn't have given up

01:16:14.060 and not had regrets about this unless I had done everything in my power to try to save it.

01:16:19.940 And he knows that he, he knows how, how hard I tried to get him to, to change. And the thing

01:16:28.740 like people won't change unless they want to and um i i mean i was in church for a long time

01:16:35.340 you know i'm in the south so that's kind of a given but um but i i listened to everyone else

01:16:42.800 that said if you just pray hard enough if you if you just believe enough if you're the wife that

01:16:47.540 you're supposed to be that will make him become the husband that he's supposed to be and it just

01:16:52.720 became a matter of like, I can't change a person. So what kind of mother do you think you are to

01:17:00.840 your kids? It's impossible to be objective in that question, I think. And I mean, I'll try.

01:17:13.220 My, my kids, um, so like some, so my oldest is 15. I have two daughters, 15, 12, and my son is five. Um, there are plenty of times that they don't like me for, for lots of things for, uh, being too strict.

01:17:36.340 um but i don't um that's that's a difficult question but i try to be okay i'm not judging

01:17:47.800 you i'm just wondering no no i it's a it's a good question um i was listening to the descriptions

01:17:56.400 and trying to find one that you can maybe i fell into you can make one up if you think of one

01:18:02.460 I wouldn't be able to come up with a name, but I guess it would be, I just want everybody in my household to have peace.

01:18:15.700 For so long, we were kind of, I mean, at least myself and my oldest, too, we had to walk on eggshells.

01:18:26.020 We couldn't really make jokes or cut up the way that we wanted to in our house.

01:18:32.460 I try for my household to be peaceful most of the time, for them to be comfortable.

01:18:41.580 I do have rules that they have to follow.

01:18:44.900 And I try to teach them as much of kind of the red pill things, just to make them aware

01:18:58.240 of what they're going to encounter later on.

01:19:00.580 And I don't like to think of myself as raising children.

01:19:04.100 I feel like my role is to raise future adults.

01:19:09.760 So I'm trying to prepare them for things that they're going to need to know.

01:19:12.840 And a lot of times they'll ask me, like, how do you just know how to do these things?

01:19:18.300 Like, how do you just know how to go and open a checking account?

01:19:21.320 Or how do you know, like, what you're supposed to do with your taxes or, you know, different

01:19:29.160 it's kind of different things that they're just amazed by even when it comes to like chores you

01:19:37.140 know and and I'll um like my kids were kind of stunned one time when I just put the fitted sheet

01:19:43.080 on they're like you you got that on the right way like in the first try and it's kids are are just

01:19:48.320 funny and in some of their their observations but um I would say I'm mostly laid back I'm not

01:19:58.520 I definitely don't think I'm a helicopter parent, but I like to check in.

01:20:03.700 I want for them to do their best and I let them know like,

01:20:07.620 hey, I see where you got a C on this.

01:20:10.860 Do you really think that that was your best?

01:20:12.980 Or, you know, I'm not going to pressure them to go into a certain role

01:20:17.360 because I think that the way that I went through school was unorthodox,

01:20:22.900 even though I had had a plan set in place when I was in school.

01:20:26.700 But, um, the way I've gone about my life is kind of out of order and it continues to

01:20:32.580 be, um, and I I've made plenty of mistakes.

01:20:36.060 And so I just want them to have the foundation of like, this is what you do to take care

01:20:41.540 of yourself.

01:20:42.600 This is how you're supposed to take care of others.

01:20:45.180 This is how you respect the things and the people around you.

01:20:49.700 And this is how you have success and, and how you allow like others to treat you or

01:20:56.680 not treat you and this is how to get the best treatment so i mean they've made you know they're

01:21:03.280 in their teenage years so they make some what would i call that like um yeah they they're in

01:21:10.740 that phase of like makeup and they do different they want to do different things to their hair

01:21:15.220 and all this stuff and i tell them like listen are they all girls three girls yeah but no the

01:21:22.380 the two older ones are girls. So my youngest is five. He kind of, he doesn't care like about

01:21:27.320 anything right now. But I tell them, I'm like, you can do that, but you need to, you can dress

01:21:34.880 that way. You can look that way, but you need to understand that the way that you're presenting

01:21:38.420 yourself to the world, they're going to make assumptions based on what you look like. And

01:21:43.320 that's just how it is. And it doesn't make it right. And it doesn't make it fair. Cause they're

01:21:47.120 like, well, if somebody is going to think of me like that, then I don't want it. And I'm like,

01:21:50.880 no, no, no, that's not how it works. That your first impression is everything. And even though

01:21:58.860 you may be the most precious person on the inside, people are going to judge you on what

01:22:06.940 you look like and how you carry yourself, how you speak, how you act. And, you know,

01:22:13.920 that lesson for them right now is very difficult as as teenage girls and and i had to tell them

01:22:21.080 you know like you don't need to you're not gonna go out looking like a hoe like i just

01:22:25.520 i don't know if you can say that on youtube but um like you you're not like cover you need to have

01:22:33.260 everything covered um you need to like treat your own self with respect and um do you think they're

01:22:43.920 no that's a daily battle yeah it's not i mean that age is hard that age is hard yeah yeah it's

01:22:51.500 it's a daily battle of they come out of their rooms uh i make comments and then they go right

01:22:59.000 back into their rooms to fix it like it's it's like okay we're not doing that you can turn right

01:23:03.600 around and go put more clothes on or like you know you just have to and it comes off as mean

01:23:10.680 to them, but it's, it's for their best interest, you know? So you have to be protective. Um, and,

01:23:20.900 and also with work, my oldest one, uh, works and I've had to tell her, well, you know, you've

01:23:26.520 like, she's very responsible and she's a great kid. I'm like, you know, people will judge you

01:23:34.140 based on how you look and they will treat you a certain way based on how you look.

01:23:37.960 if you want your life to be easy you know just calm things down don't be so don't be as dramatic

01:23:46.540 like you know we don't always have to make a statement with with what we're wearing or you

01:23:52.780 know even if that's your your fashion and and who you are and and all this stuff like there's a time

01:24:00.180 in a place. And, and so it's a lot of those lessons, but. Well, well, thank you for calling

01:24:07.820 into the show. Thank you for speaking. I mean, like, it's just been amazing talking to you. My

01:24:12.520 boyfriend is like the biggest Pearl fan. He, that's actually like how, how, um, I started like

01:24:19.860 subscribing to your channel and everything. And, um, so it's, I'd say your contents really helped

01:24:25.860 me a lot and um this conversation has been just wonderful speaking with you yeah thank you for

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01:26:17.940 i'm so good i'm so good this woman this woman she had the competing mother so i'm gonna go

01:26:26.980 through the archetypes one more time for those who don't remember by the way if you have other

01:26:32.420 descriptions these are just the ones i came through but i thought of so many more but i just

01:26:37.220 I thought I didn't have time. We have the helicopter mom, the best friend mom, the competitive mother, the career mother, the princess treatment housewife, the nagging lazy housewife, the pass on your trauma to your mother, the retirement plan mother, the son husband mother, and the Proverbs 31 mother.

01:26:54.580 Maybe you got lucky. I don't know. I don't know. You guys tell me. I'm not the end all be all. I don't know everything. I don't know what's going on.

01:27:03.700 like i'm getting people from the south i'm getting people from the netherlands i'm getting people

01:27:07.540 everywhere i don't know okay so put the next one hello hey how are you good how are you

01:27:19.260 all right what is your name jan jan okay jan how old are you 40 all right 40 do you have kids are

01:27:28.180 you married married 18 years four kids four kids okay and what type of mother oh wait and where

01:27:35.320 are you uh north uh northwest northwest okay so what type of mother was your mother

01:27:42.180 i'm not exactly sure but pure feminist okay that's all i could actually purely described

01:27:49.300 she divorced my father and i was still my father she told me all the horrific horrible abusive

01:27:54.500 he was um and then i think about four or five years ago i found out well he passed he died in

01:28:02.520 a different country i thought there's going to be a western thing only no it's also east as well

01:28:07.940 russia everywhere it happens everywhere and it happened past generations too all this feminism

01:28:13.640 stuff so i never i never met him but my sister you never met your father yeah i never met my

01:28:22.280 father so they divorced before i was born oh wow yeah he hit my sister supposedly and he was this

01:28:29.540 horrific guy you know the worst of the worst he was over six feet though too so but anyway um

01:28:37.340 come to find out so he had nothing to do with me but he would take my sister out for all her

01:28:44.160 birthdays so if he was so horrific and abusive and this is what kind of clicked because i was

01:28:51.600 like well he was horrible man i don't i don't want anything to do with him i mean you never

01:28:55.060 saw me i never wanted to see him either but come to find out when he died my sister came and told

01:29:01.620 me the truth that well she used to take her out on her birthdays every single time and i'm like well

01:29:05.900 if he's so abusive and so horrible this was before i got red pill on everything so i started

01:29:12.240 questioning i'm like why would mom allow him to take you out on your birthday give you a gift

01:29:17.480 if he was so abusive and so scary how does that go into things so my mom she she's still alive

01:29:26.560 but we don't talk i completely i'm i'm in the more extreme side of things so i totally erased

01:29:31.920 her from my life period she can't see my her grandkids nothing um come to find out basically

01:29:39.540 it's all been a lie and i don't know exactly how she

01:29:43.400 kind of broke our relationship maybe she said to him she cheated maybe she did cheat I don't know

01:29:50.800 I do look like him so I don't know but basically my whole entire life you know by my father and

01:29:56.180 all the scary stories that she told me about him that how horrible he was and uh abusive

01:30:01.400 it was all a lie but it's you know find out after he died wow so how how old were you when you found

01:30:08.340 out 35 wow how did that change your worldview that i do have changed everything it started to change

01:30:17.440 a lot of things that's how i came across of you know me and my wife we had our own little issues

01:30:21.660 and stuff but i came across a kevin samuels and my wife found you actually so and we've been good

01:30:27.900 and my mother also tried to destroy my marriage they do that you do that yeah she tried to say

01:30:33.880 my wife was the worst you know horrible thing and so on and so on so i'm thinking it was a lot

01:30:39.680 of projection going on so to be a healthier marriage we've never been happier than ever but

01:30:46.100 the last four over four years i literally erased her from my life like completely and guess what

01:30:53.740 my marriage got better family's great everybody's doing great so i told her i'm never gonna show up

01:31:00.540 her funeral or anything i'm done i'm just the way she did it to me and my father i'm just gonna do

01:31:05.760 that to her yeah so well and this is got like ladies this is what i'm saying when you trash

01:31:11.440 your ex the kids figure sometimes they figure it out at 12 sometimes they figure it out at 15

01:31:16.760 sometimes they figure it out at 35 but people are not stupid people talk and they figure it out

01:31:22.960 eventually and many times the children will cut you off when you figure it out so tread carefully

01:31:29.040 i mean exactly yeah i told her die alone that's because literally i that's the words i use like

01:31:35.760 that's it i'm done yeah so i don't know what category to put her but extreme feminist

01:31:41.600 yeah of the alcohol you know so all men are bad so why man of evil oh so do you know so did your

01:31:49.460 sister have a good relationship with him until she was older too like did she see him when she

01:31:54.280 got wow and she never so they're literally no it was like a secret it's it's weird did you ask

01:32:01.560 yeah she's like well mom didn't want me to tell you and i'm like no way what well that's what it

01:32:10.120 made me wonder because i have four uh three boys and a girl and i was wondering i was talking to

01:32:15.820 my wife i'm like what will make a man not to see his son he'll see his daughter but he will never

01:32:21.800 see his son like you know my first son you know my first kid was son the second one too i mean it

01:32:29.180 was to me it was the greatest thing it was oh i have a son wow you know what i mean i want to be

01:32:34.160 the father i've never had what would make man not to see his kids i mean actuality you know is he

01:32:42.160 really that horrible so he chooses one but not the other so it made me wonder and i started thinking

01:32:47.060 and i'm like did she cheat it paternity you know that's what we need to do did you ever get it

01:32:53.500 tested to see if you have the same dad uh well no because he was in a different country we came from

01:32:59.200 the soviet side no i meant like you and your sister like if you did a dna test like if you

01:33:04.400 did 23 no my sister took my mom's side so i don't talk to my sister for four years as well

01:33:09.840 i eliminated both of them that's what that's what i'm vengeful when the no when the kid when whoever

01:33:16.900 in the family wait like figures it out first the mom will always try to get everyone to like go

01:33:22.340 against him oh yeah yeah absolutely yeah always yeah well and i don't play games yeah you said

01:33:29.680 you're you're from the soviet or you're russian yeah russia so yeah you guys yeah okay well thank

01:33:36.660 you very much for calling in hey you're doing great work thank you bless it you're ruthless

01:33:42.300 with it he's trying to save our time hold on hold on there's super chats or there's um venmo

01:33:49.220 okay ladies ladies ladies be careful about how you talk to your about your ex-husband i've been

01:33:56.900 saying this your kids will figure it out sometimes we get emotional we over exaggerate okay it

01:34:05.100 happens it doesn't mean you're not abnormal many women do it but the consequence will be when you

01:34:12.580 are older many times the children will figure it out and cut you off i don't know why i don't know

01:34:20.600 why women do this i really don't okay um daniel reed um work support okay um thank you give me

01:34:32.980 one second blessing how many do we have on twitter uh with 8 700 people wow that's so crazy

01:34:40.420 x is giving us love these days yeah you know all right let's go to the next are there any

01:34:45.620 girls in there or no oh hey look at that hello can you um put your camera down so i can see you

01:34:54.260 so it's not yes there you go

01:34:59.780 set it on like a table or something and then yeah i use my phone sadly so it's just yeah you could

01:35:06.420 set like look at you see this you could down here no no just on a table on a table so you're

01:35:15.060 i'm gonna i'm gonna bring you back up but i'm just gonna give you a second to re

01:35:18.500 to reposition it so just get a table and set it down okay all right okay all right go to the next

01:35:34.340 you go to the next one okay hi i need you to the house i i need i need you guys to put the camera

01:35:49.720 down so it's like it go to the house and uh sorry for bothering the uh viewers and yeah

01:35:58.640 this live was is about uh narcissistic mothers yes um it's about yeah what what type of mother

01:36:09.500 was your mother narcissistic is one of them i don't want to like speak about my mother but

01:36:16.300 in nowadays America

01:36:18.820 except

01:36:20.720 after Clinton's

01:36:22.800 Huh?

01:36:28.220 Did he fall?

01:36:29.880 I needed him to put down the camera.

01:36:31.560 Alright guys, guys, I'm going to tell you guys one more time.

01:36:34.460 Alright, and I'm just going to demonstrate.

01:36:36.260 I get it. Pearl's not always the clearest.

01:36:39.220 Now, the reason

01:36:40.420 I need this is to up the show

01:36:42.260 quality. When you're walking

01:36:44.400 around going like

01:36:46.040 uh uh uh not good show quality blessing works really hard to get it so the best show quality

01:36:54.740 watch you can open your laptop even if you're on your phone maybe you get I don't know uh a desk

01:37:01.760 a chair a wall I don't really care okay but this is what I need I need you all in frame

01:37:06.800 I need to see your hands because I don't some people are kind of weird on here so I gotta make

01:37:13.100 you're not being weird you guys know what i mean okay that's what i need i need from you guys all

01:37:18.540 right put a one in the chat if you get it put a two in the chat if you think i'm just uh guys

01:37:24.940 shouldn't do that but no we're gonna give me one second let me next guest is ready okay is the girl

01:37:32.700 back there's no the guild but we have an excuse okay hello how are you perfect perfect i you you

01:37:42.940 got the the sitting with the pan great great okay so what's your name uh benjamin ben's fine okay

01:37:51.500 where are you at you sound american yeah yeah american east tennessee okay tennessee all right

01:37:58.140 um how old and profession uh 34 uh do software software okay um so what type of mother was your

01:38:08.120 mother i guess if i was trying to box her into the prototype she gave me maybe she's very career

01:38:17.200 driven um but also traditionally religious you know my parents are still married

01:38:24.180 so kind of a blend of that but a lot of her time was spent um like much of that boomer generation

01:38:32.380 with her career at the forefront and being a support role my dad worked too though full-time

01:38:38.700 i mean he was no slouch so probably those two like a blend like a hybrid of that set

01:38:44.320 and how so did you feel like you came before the career or no did you think the career came first

01:38:54.180 um not i mean the career was first right the money the sustenance getting to that

01:39:02.140 was first um and then you know like a lot of mothers at that time they were taught to get

01:39:11.380 to the work field by society yeah and so they justified it by provision instead of time right

01:39:18.160 so and um how did that affect you as a kid did you feel like it had an effect on you or

01:39:25.280 did it did it not really bother you no yeah i had when i was young i had to go through digesting

01:39:31.040 how much i wanted female attention trying to get where it was where it wasn't you know i'm trying

01:39:38.320 to feel that and just had loose relationships and talked to a lot of ladies went through

01:39:43.600 just constantly needing one lady to the next i'd have one girl and be talking to the next one that

01:39:49.960 i was going to get serious with before i'd like broken off and gone through a cycle of recovery

01:39:54.840 at all it was more about feeling comfort when i needed it than establishing something you know

01:40:01.140 did you overcome that when you got older or is that something you still struggle with

01:40:06.280 no i'm overcoming now by learning to be just more logical and harsh like to not rely so much on

01:40:13.340 needing to find emotion as the centerpiece of life and to you know i used to when i was younger i

01:40:20.680 visualized like finding the right woman as the centerpiece of life and as i grew as a father

01:40:26.320 i had kids early so then that forced me to develop and digest some other things early

01:40:31.960 um so as i checked that out and stopped caring so much about how i feel and a woman being the

01:40:40.240 centerpiece or a crowning jewel and my life's work being that centerpiece i felt much better

01:40:45.640 and was able to move past that i feel like i'm sure i still struggle with it in some levels

01:40:49.640 but not you know i analyze it now it's not foreign i have it as a is a conscious piece of my life

01:40:57.840 what type of mother is um the mother of your kids

01:41:01.440 hold on one more time my volume what what type of mother is the mother of your kids

01:41:07.240 um so they have i have two two kids with two different mothers the first one um

01:41:15.960 it's more career oriented

01:41:19.960 and doesn't have as much i would say they're both more career oriented like the

01:41:27.500 end game of the working woman are the what daycare nannies oh

01:41:37.240 well what did you it dropped out oh okay well um but we must have died two two moms huh

01:41:48.280 the that'll happen um give me one second not judging by the way just

01:41:57.520 um give me one second is that girl back or did she drop out dropped out uh guys if you can hear

01:42:07.220 the like button on youtube you got 900 people on youtube oh i wanted to i this is what i thought

01:42:13.620 okay so i saw this could you pull show my screen wait hold on

01:42:21.620 okay so i wanted to talk about one show my screen really quick i'm going to go back to

01:42:27.140 the mother conversation i think we'll do one more maybe um okay now

01:42:34.420 Now, what I've noticed from guys that tend to see the woman's point of view more or that tend to have the default to be to believe women, they haven't been red-pilled completely yet.

01:42:48.480 So I would guess Jeremy is like that because he's just based on his response.

01:42:56.700 Like, it's kind of based on how I see your responses on Twitter.

01:42:59.240 A lot of times I'll call, not Jeremy, but I'll call people simps on Twitter.

01:43:03.140 and it's not because I'm offended or whatever.

01:43:05.600 It's just because I see what they're doing

01:43:07.620 and it's putting the women on a pedestal.

01:43:09.200 I'm just trying to point out the behavior.

01:43:10.920 It's not even, I think people take it a little too seriously.

01:43:14.080 Anyways, so Aubrey Half comes in.

01:43:16.820 He says, for a woman that's never been married,

01:43:18.480 that's pretty accurate.

01:43:19.980 Wait, aren't you the one that cheated?

01:43:22.340 So oftentimes what I see is women,

01:43:25.360 remember, we make it our jobs

01:43:28.300 to tell everyone why the relationship went wrong.

01:43:30.900 again, I'm not special or different. You know, when we're angry, we see everything through the

01:43:38.680 way we feel, okay? Not saying this is right. It's not right, okay? Now, the problem is when a woman's

01:43:44.860 cheated on, what she leaves out is why she was cheated on. Many times, women are cheated on

01:43:51.560 because she has not, she has done step three for years, and she'll always say he's not meeting my

01:43:59.200 emotional needs men are not meant to meet our emotional needs we got to figure out we as adults

01:44:05.680 you got to figure out that on your own talk to your mother talk to your father talk to your sister

01:44:11.040 and talk to yourself or your therapist it's not a man's job to regulate our emotional needs um the

01:44:17.360 other thing that many men that are a bit more on the blue pill size don't take into account is

01:44:23.120 oftentimes women will pick men that obviously will cheat i am not saying that it's good

01:44:32.400 to i'm not saying it's a good thing to cheat okay i'm not saying it's a good thing but

01:44:38.640 i mean if you're getting a two-time world series like a major league baseball player

01:44:46.220 my response to a woman would be

01:44:49.060 what did you

01:44:50.240 blessing what did you

01:44:53.180 what what did you

01:44:54.300 blessing what did you finish the

01:44:59.220 sentence

01:44:59.660 what did

01:45:04.360 what do you think

01:45:07.340 blessing what would you think as a man

01:45:09.020 go ahead

01:45:13.320 be honest

01:45:15.780 be honest with the people hey i'm just behind scenes see this is the thing ladies men won't

01:45:24.380 be honest because they're like oh no someone's watching this or oh no i'm gonna get in trouble

01:45:29.400 there's too many consequences for men being honest but pearl will be honest all right what the hell

01:45:34.620 did you expect i was speaking to a woman recently and i just said look it i think we should just

01:45:41.520 expect to be cheated on now the woman this woman was was in shock pearl you shouldn't accept that

01:45:50.160 well if i find if i'm looking at this data and the data says i find five to twenty percent of men

01:45:54.880 attractive that's what the data is telling me and anecdotally that's probably true

01:46:03.520 so if i find a minority of men attractive what does that mean other other women find

01:46:07.120 them attractive. Now, does this mean I want this or I wish this or what? I mean, how much leverage

01:46:15.840 do you think you have with a major league baseball player? What did you expect? What did you expect?

01:46:26.000 Now, oftentimes, and I'm not saying this is the case for him, I don't know his life,

01:46:29.760 oftentimes men that have never had women sexually pursue them never understand the temptation that

01:46:37.680 men that have bombshell women throwing themselves at them 24 7 i have seen this with people that i

01:46:45.220 know personally they will go into a room and women will sexually pursue them they'll message

01:46:50.400 them on instagram after they leave they will try to get the guy to sleep with them even if he's in

01:46:56.480 a relationship or married these are things that happen women are sexual predators this idea that

01:47:03.160 women are sweet innocent little angels is just not true so you know i don't condone it i don't

01:47:09.880 think it's all right but if i look at the market i mean that's what's happening and women are

01:47:18.900 accepting it now so that's what i would say if you're with a major league baseball player

01:47:25.140 you may be like it just I don't think you should leave over that and I think you should just expect

01:47:33.980 that call me crazy okay sorry thank you I'm done but I was confused I thought I thought he was

01:47:43.720 saying that to me originally and I was like what the fuck no I did not anyways um so

01:47:48.220 but i was so because i got the notification anyways anyways um

01:47:53.220 let's go we'll do what time is it what time do we start we've been going for two hours

01:48:00.720 yeah we can do two more what the what you're telling me how many we're doing i was gonna do

01:48:07.160 one more i got people here that have been waiting you know i mean i feel bad just watching them you

01:48:11.760 I can't do every body blessing.

01:48:15.220 Well, rock, paper, scissors it for one or two more.

01:48:18.360 Put your camera up.

01:48:19.700 Put your camera up.

01:48:23.440 Wait.

01:48:25.320 I'm going to fight for you guys.

01:48:33.460 We can get it up.

01:48:38.700 Is your camera not working today?

01:48:40.560 No, it's working.

01:48:41.760 okay okay okay are we doing best of three and on shoot just one time okay on shoot rock paper

01:48:50.660 scissors shoot right okay all right rock paper scissors shoot no we're doing two more okay okay

01:49:00.300 okay we'll do two okay

01:49:02.100 i'm just i'm kidding guys i'm excited to talk to everyone i'm not mad all right

01:49:10.620 go to the next one I just I like to be dramatic sometimes I'm a woman you know um

01:49:18.220 hello oh you're back yeah my bad I dropped I was on my phone I had to switch to my computer

01:49:25.840 okay so you said that you you're I think when we were talking last you said the mothers of

01:49:32.400 your kids are career driven yeah I would think from the boxes we're talking about both would be

01:49:39.760 more career driven, like our schedules seem to fit. I work more remote than I'm able to with my

01:49:47.460 job. Um, and a lot of the scheduling conflicts or stuff we come across as more career oriented.

01:49:54.960 How's custody been for you? Have you been okay? Yeah. I mean, I think it's more of a rare

01:50:01.840 situation from what I pick up from what men go through, but I have joint custody of both mine.

01:50:07.060 and it's not cheap um but i was able to get you know so my schedules every wednesday and thursday

01:50:18.500 and then every other friday saturday sunday one mother's a nurse so that involves you know they

01:50:25.700 work these weird three day on three day four day four day three day type schedules so we don't

01:50:32.020 really get to abide as much by the state signed thing we went with but i get them you know half

01:50:40.420 the time which was my main concern from the onset of it all i'm curious were you dating both of them

01:50:45.860 or was it just like a casual thing no the first so the first one i had my first child right at the

01:50:53.220 end of high school when i i turned 18 maybe six months before she was born so senior year high

01:51:00.980 school she was pregnant we dated and we had split up and then i found out months later she was

01:51:05.220 pregnant and i was like with who and you know ended up going through the paternity test and

01:51:10.900 all that stuff and it was my kid and you know we never got married she went and ended up playing

01:51:16.420 softball in college and i played tennis and we kind of with the help of our parents

01:51:23.220 co-raised the kid till i ended up dropping out doing some other stuff

01:51:26.820 and um she went on to graduate and as a teacher now and remarried but

01:51:33.940 yeah so then the second one we got married um and split up

01:51:40.980 just at the end of the relationship i was not taking care of myself she started running around

01:51:47.140 and we split up but ended up she was you know mature enough to put the kid first and know

01:51:54.020 you know her her daughter my daughter with her and we have a really good relationship so

01:52:00.620 i think she cared enough about that to make concessions like okay if you'll take care of

01:52:06.480 xyz financially then joint custody is totally fine you know that's a good but a lot of times

01:52:12.760 it's centered around it seems like for men the conversation the centerpiece becomes

01:52:18.400 finance a lot of times yeah well thank you for calling in yeah no doubt no doubt appreciate it

01:52:26.180 i love what you do thank you um that's like an abnormal that's like one of the few that's good

01:52:34.040 glad that i hear the kids running around seems like they're happy kids all right um

01:52:39.840 the next next caller hello how are you hey pearl how are you i'm good how are you where are you

01:52:49.800 from i'm from southeastern nevada okay in the little town of alamo okay okay and uh first

01:52:56.540 i want to say thank you for all you done in exposing um uh getting the word out uh because

01:53:03.980 this is a real problem as far as men not taking care of themselves. Anyway, so I have a very

01:53:14.580 positive experience with my mom. My mom and my dad were married 58 and a half years.

01:53:22.220 Wow. I'm going to give like a round of applause. 58 years. That is amazing. That is probably

01:53:29.440 the longest marriage of someone I've heard of. And so, uh, all right. So, uh, my mom was almost

01:53:37.420 16 years, uh, older and my, uh, younger than my dad. My dad was 34 and my mom was, uh, 19 when

01:53:45.800 they met. Okay. Okay. So, um, people say that, uh, relative setting up couples is old fashioned

01:53:55.840 and i highly agree because um i'll be honest with you uh that is why they lasted as long as they

01:54:04.240 did okay so my mom is from central germany little town of espenroda and uh the first six years of

01:54:11.680 her life she lived under nazi controlled germany and my grandparents lived in abject fear of this

01:54:20.200 monster that was running the country and uh it was a late spring day in 1945 and a tank company

01:54:30.260 from montgomery's uh 30 corps um army came rolling through their village and then my grandfather

01:54:37.540 announced the whole family the nightmare is finally over and they were scared death of this

01:54:43.140 person and what he was doing so um he was farmer my dad was raised on a farm in southern california

01:54:52.500 south central uh ventura county and uh and so um there was this young man in in the village that

01:55:01.620 was kind of harassing her she was 16 17 and very conservative catholic staunch catholic roman

01:55:09.300 catholic and um so my grandmother called up my very wealthy aunt and uncle from southern california

01:55:15.840 they're they're big citrus and farmers in southern california and says elsa needs to

01:55:22.680 get out of here and so my great uncle john and aunt helen flew out picked her up and she came

01:55:32.480 united states the state of california in 1958. so they met in a little church in oxenard and uh

01:55:42.160 and they uh everything else was history they got married in the same church in february 1960

01:55:51.040 had four of us four boys and uh and it's an extraordinary story and uh one of these days

01:55:59.600 on my youtube channel it's okay if i plug my youtube channel yeah that's fine totally fine

01:56:05.440 okay so um all right so i think the best i'll be honest with the best uh man and wife marriages

01:56:15.840 like your mom and dad is their business partners that's the only way this works

01:56:22.400 she can't work at a separate deal and he can't work at a separate deal they have to join not

01:56:28.640 only personally physically but also money and business okay and that is uh that's the key to it

01:56:36.240 that's really the key to it pearl so um what type of business what type of business did they have

01:56:43.460 farming oh they were farmers farmers have like the lowest they have like the lowest divorce rate

01:56:50.600 they have like the yeah and so uh so my my dad was a long-time farmer in southern california

01:56:58.460 it was 82 years ago this month he got his f4 card and he was six when he's four years old

01:57:07.620 he stepped on a rake and got gangrene and in his right leg and they uh they had to remove the small

01:57:13.240 bone in his body well yeah he turned 18 in july 41 well look what happened in 41 so everybody's

01:57:22.760 joining the service to fight nazis and imperial japan and the draft guy draft officer says no

01:57:33.860 you're not a whole man and says here's your f4 card raise food for the war effort and that's

01:57:41.640 what you need to do so that's what he did and he avoided all of that psychological and possibly

01:57:49.140 getting kia in world war ii so yeah sometimes are they still alive or no no my uh my father

01:57:58.920 died two days after he turned 95 the last day of july 20th and what all did your what all did

01:58:05.940 your mother do day to day oh she still lives on the ranch you know my oldest brother still farms

01:58:13.880 and uh and i in 2020 during the shutdown i moved out here to southeastern rural nevada

01:58:20.480 and the next time you come to vegas please come to pine hill okay that's my estate okay and this

01:58:27.060 is the this isn't green screen this is the real thing oh yeah so so i uh i'm i've been a real

01:58:35.640 guy all my life and uh i just sorry i'm kind of nervous i'm curious are the women um any different

01:58:43.500 in the in the country like from so i'm curious um because that sounds pretty like how far away

01:58:51.080 from vegas is that 90 miles to the northeast okay so i'm about 90 miles from downtown las vegas on

01:58:58.880 the 93 uh our biggest employer is the test site nary 51 complex and uh and to the west is uh to

01:59:08.000 the east is is uh calient and you know lincoln county's huge it's uh it's a 10 680 square miles

01:59:17.880 it's a hundred square miles larger in the state of massachusetts it's the seventh largest county

01:59:22.640 by area in the in the United States and it is only 6,500 people live here oh wow it is very

01:59:33.620 spread out what are the young women like there well since I'm 57 and I uh I my I'm I'm devout

01:59:45.580 mictow i i've i've gone through the divorce grinder i've gone through um lots of pretty

01:59:54.140 awful relationships and so they're they're pretty cool i i mean for young guys this is the best

02:00:01.100 environment i think for any any young man to uh to get out they need to get out away from the cities

02:00:09.820 if you go uh go through thomas jefferson's uh teachings in 1800 when he was running for president

02:00:15.580 he states point blank cities are toxic to the human condition if you go through his studies

02:00:23.900 if you if you really want to know what cities do to human beings thomas jefferson prophetically

02:00:30.680 just lays it out really this is not this is not right for human beings human beings concentration

02:00:37.820 concentrating do not do not uh do not do well jefferson cities huh wow he states that cities

02:00:46.100 encourage too many citizens to try to live by their heads not their hands correct yeah and he's

02:00:53.360 he's adamant about um men and women get out getting out and then if the cities are small

02:00:59.800 i mean obviously we need cities during the industrial revolution to yeah to create what

02:01:04.420 we have today but uh as far as as far as the human condition he's right they they are they

02:01:13.180 are horrific uh to the human condition so that's the main impetus behind my my youtube channel

02:01:20.780 i view cities as pestilental i don't know what that means to the moral toxic oh toxic to the

02:01:29.620 morals the health and the liberties of man true they nourish some of the elegant arts but the

02:01:34.520 useful ones can thrive elsewhere and less perfection and others with more health virtue

02:01:38.900 and freedom would be my choice huh interesting yeah i agree with that i think people are more

02:01:44.780 sane outside of the city they are yeah well thank you for calling in i appreciate it and if you can

02:01:50.620 and if you can believe it i have a couple dollar daughters that are a couple years older than you

02:01:55.320 oh yeah yeah they live in southern indiana in the town of em in the city of evansville

02:02:01.960 and so this is my this is my uh channel please check it out

02:02:09.120 rural man life rural man life what do you have shorts what do you um show on it uh right now

02:02:16.420 i'm just doing demonstration shorts if you can hear in the background i've got baby chicks i got

02:02:21.360 a bunch of flocks uh gonna get started up i got 85 lane hands outside i do pretty good uh egg

02:02:29.280 selling and i pickled eggs and i and i freeze dried uh cramped scrambled eggs and and right

02:02:36.080 i'm gonna start around here on the property set up a camper and then they can go inside the first

02:02:41.760 story it's a three-story house and the first story is for public that can come in there and do their

02:02:46.720 thing and and uh and explore you know check out what role women's all about cool cool well thank

02:02:55.060 you very much all right um you're ruthless with it i say thank you blessings like

02:03:04.140 okay guys i think we're gonna close out um the show for today um let me know if you guys have

02:03:12.820 any modern mother archetypes this is just a rough thing it was like the first thing I thought of

02:03:18.600 but there are so many more mothers I could talk about I'll tell you some other mothers I thought

02:03:25.220 of but I didn't make a description for them yet I was I was hanging out today so you know I got a

02:03:32.540 little distracted okay um the wine mom mothers um the narcissistic mothers and party girl mothers

02:03:47.120 but i thought that was kind of similar to the best friend mothers like i put those together but

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The Curse of The Modern Mother, The Simp Son, and The Promiscuous Daughter ｜ Pearl Daily

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