Pearl - The Dating Market vs. STDS

00:00:00.000 i'm so much more than a person that has herpes i'm a beautiful individual with all right what

00:00:05.440 up guys welcome to my reaction series today we are reacting to women talking about getting rejected

00:00:11.440 because of herpes so as you guys know women are sleeping with you know a smaller and smaller

00:00:16.160 percentage of men and those men um sleep with everybody either for the streets um just like

00:00:21.280 the women are for the streets right but it's a small percentage of men it's pretty much all the

00:00:25.040 women um and that is increasing um the spread of stds because um obviously when it's a smaller

00:00:31.680 pool of men and someone's got an std it goes around with to everybody so i thought this i

00:00:36.400 take this opportunity to talk about something that just happened to me then i'm sure other people

00:00:40.960 who talk openly about their stis deal with regularly i really what i'm going to say for

00:00:47.120 the ladies um men's caring about stds um is going to be partially based on how hot you are like i

00:00:54.640 think um there's a famous woman in hollywood who has an std i can't remember i know derek cheater

00:01:00.880 i guess spread it around to a lot of people i think it was jessica alba it was one of the the

00:01:06.160 teenage heartthrobs of all the guys um guys guys will risk it even if they say they wouldn't a lot 0.95

00:01:12.640 of them let's get if the woman's hot enough but if you're a mid it cooked done donezo it's over 0.98

00:01:18.080 with for you just got rejected for having look at her yeah they're not they're like you look like 0.97

00:01:24.160 that and you have herpes yeah give me a break you know what i mean from the person i've been

00:01:30.240 seeing for the last month or so and i think really it made me sad that he ended up being

00:01:37.280 a little bit closed-minded about it um i i like how they make it seem like it's like you're

00:01:43.360 closed-minded you know because if you don't have it you don't want it right so you can't blame them

00:01:50.080 here's the issue i'll tell you what the system they've got to criminalize spreading it if they

00:01:57.680 want people to stop lying because um the system now it just rewards people that lie

00:02:05.520 and um or sorry yeah rewards people that lie and it punishes people to tell the truth

00:02:11.680 um because i've interviewed i used to do shows where they would call in and i've interviewed

00:02:16.400 a decent amount of people that have it and there's like two types it seems like it seems like the

00:02:21.600 types that get it are some people that are really naive so a lot of the guys got it from their like 1.00

00:02:26.000 ex-wives um or absolute whores like it's either someone was dating a whore or they were a whore 1.00

00:02:31.440 themselves yeah one or two ways they get it and the issue you get um is the people that dated a 1.00

00:02:38.560 whore they tend to tell the truth and it just completely kills their dating life and they get 0.86

00:02:44.800 people that lie it's like their dating life is the same one dude i interviewed oh my god just 0.99

00:02:50.720 listening to him he just said he doesn't care he doesn't care he'll lie because sex is too hard to

00:02:57.820 get and i'm not going to say anything to ruin that i'm like jesus christ bro but it's it's not

00:03:03.800 illegal so as long as it's not illegal just expect people to lie i'm a realist on this channel we

00:03:08.020 got to be real expect people to lie where he was coming from he has his herpes one okay medical

00:03:13.960 condition that gets triggered by stress so if he's going to be stressed out about it and he's

00:03:18.560 going to be thinking about it a lot then it impacts his health so you know it's kind of like

00:03:22.560 a that's a you problem it's not necessarily about me so it's okay i understand i have empathy

00:03:28.020 that's a joke but it's not about me it is about you you know this kind of rejection has happened

00:03:33.120 to me a few times in the past not actually as many as you would think most people are

00:03:36.920 pretty open to just hearing more about it a lot of people already kind of know um what a non-issue

00:03:42.500 it is what low risk it is and they don't really have an issue but when it does happen I used to

00:03:47.980 really play this like inner monologue of like you know exactly what society would want me to say to

00:03:53.260 myself that I'm disgusting I'm unlovable I'm unworthy I'm not deserving but I think now that

00:04:02.020 I'm a little bit older and somewhat wiser, I'm trying to flip that script a little bit.

00:04:08.360 So I'm using this as an opportunity to remind myself why I'm doing the work that I'm doing,

00:04:14.380 why I'm going to school, why I really want to get into sex education, because I don't want this to

00:04:20.280 happen to other people. I don't want people to have to feel like this about themselves.

00:04:24.560 I'm also using it as an opportunity to remind myself that I probably don't actually work or

00:04:31.120 I wouldn't necessarily be a good fit for someone who is kind of close-minded in the sexual realm

00:04:35.840 because I'm really sad cookie so she's saying I got a date man horse I mean that's yeah that's

00:04:41.740 what I would do I this is what I would tell her you're gonna want to go 20 years older because

00:04:45.500 I don't know you know I've interviewed a lot of people that have this stuff

00:04:50.400 and the ones that catch it young it's like devastating but I don't know like is catching

00:04:57.420 an std at 20 the same thing as catching an std at 50 now obviously you don't want it right but

00:05:03.660 like you know you have less life to live with it so i would just tell her go go older um

00:05:12.180 yeah sex positive and i would love for the majority of people in my life to also be sex

00:05:17.300 positive because yeah okay cope somewhere else that's an l just eat it it's fine so now we got

00:05:22.020 this girl dating with herpes so i'm just sitting in my car until i have to go into work but on the 0.96

00:05:27.100 way to work i found myself crying over a dude again uh cringe but um because more women are 0.93

00:05:37.380 going to be in the whore marketplace than men so uh more men are going to reject like 0.82

00:05:42.460 like less men are going to have it so it's going to be a bigger problem for women telling it to 0.75

00:05:49.060 men i'm crying over this dude that i was recently talking to and things were going really good

00:05:54.200 until I disclosed to him that I had herpes and then things just kind of changed at first he was

00:06:01.040 really understanding and then a few days passed and then he was just like basically he didn't

00:06:05.900 want to see me romantically anymore because of it because he was uneducated and doesn't know

00:06:13.200 much about STDs which is fine but I deserve somebody that's willing to educate themselves

00:06:19.540 i deserve why is it i deserve more why can't it be you know i i hope i can like there's never any

00:06:25.140 humility that comes with this it can never be you know i made a choice and unfortunately that

00:06:30.180 was the result of this choice um hopefully i can find someone that will accept me regardless but

00:06:36.260 i understand it's unlikely that would be a humble response but instead they say i deserve

00:06:41.540 you don't deserve more you deserve less just eat that elf you know willing to see me as the person

00:06:46.900 that i am i'm not i'm so much more than a person that has herpes i'm a beautiful individual with

00:06:54.500 all right here we go rejected after disclosing hsb first of all i'd let it sting because i'm only

00:07:03.220 human but then i would remind myself why i chose to disclose in the first place i respected myself

00:07:10.900 enough to disclose and i respect honestly i think women disclose i i don't i just can't buy that

00:07:17.380 women are disclosing to be good people because we're just inherently not it's got to be more

00:07:22.580 women are disclosing because they think they don't think men are going to care it's kind of like 0.99

00:07:27.460 when a woman um discloses her past uh it's because she doesn't see a future with the guy 1.00

00:07:35.540 or she thinks they'll accept it anyway did their body enough to disclose what they decide to do

00:07:41.300 with that information is entirely their choice now that does not mean that is rejection as me

00:07:49.140 as a human but that is someone deciding what they are comfortable with moving forward and

00:07:55.380 establishing their own boundaries something i like to think about is even if i didn't have hsv

00:08:03.060 i could be rejected for a million things it could be the timing it could be and now

00:08:08.180 she's gonna cope no the chemistry it could be the compatibility hsv just makes it louder

00:08:15.700 and at the end of the day i want someone's boundaries to align with me i don't need to

00:08:20.900 be convincing anyone and sure it might sting but it definitely doesn't defy me

00:08:26.740 and i can walk away knowing that we'll just eat that l keep going all right being rejected for

00:08:33.320 the first time with herpes talking about getting rejected for having herpes in person on a date

00:08:38.400 the first thing i'll say about coping with the situation is to let yourself have a good cry

00:08:45.020 oh she's giving advice it hurt and you can tell because it still conjures up some pain to think 0.94

00:08:50.980 about it it hurts so bad that i literally felt this like electric fucking shock in my chest 0.95

00:08:56.960 if this were my first dating experience after having gotten diagnosed with herpes i would 0.68

00:09:02.480 give up so i don't blame you guys but never ever do that bro is that a fake cry never let

00:09:08.860 one person's reaction yeah honestly if you're young enough and hot enough somebody will do

00:09:13.160 i'm just being honest here um i've just seen too much i'm blackpilled somebody's gonna do it

00:09:18.260 just accept it um you know like kylie jenner's got two kids with rappers and went back to the 0.95

00:09:26.320 white you know what i mean it's just i've seen too much these porn stars are getting married

00:09:31.020 somebody will do it and to you having herpes take away your opportunity to have great experiences

00:09:37.760 and meet great people because you will if i gave up on dating after an experience like this being

00:09:44.020 my first one i would have missed out on the three years of all the great dating experiences that i

00:09:49.060 have had but it's okay to feel hurt it's okay to feel upset it's okay okay take that out let's see

00:09:54.900 the next one talk about people who reject others for having herpes um i have had general herpes

00:10:02.820 for over three and a half years and i have come to a conclusion about the type of people who reject

00:10:09.540 others for having herpes people that don't want it people that say you are not hot enough for this

00:10:14.960 risk um i do want to preface this by saying it's totally okay if you do reject someone for having

00:10:20.380 herpes it's your choice it's your health and that is always the most important you've got to go with

00:10:24.500 what you're comfortable with but i have a little thought in my experience there's been so many guys

00:10:31.220 who are like oh yeah like they pull the like i'm clean or like we don't need to use a condom like

00:10:36.600 i'm clean but like actually like have never been tested and they're just like going on like

00:10:40.680 oh yeah like my ex would have told me like if she had something like that kind of vibe in my

00:10:45.680 experience those are the type of people who are rejecting people for having herpes aka people

00:10:50.180 that you don't want to sleep with anyways i just think that people if they are a lot of people

00:10:55.720 don't get tested men and women truly educated about herpes and are willing to learn about it

00:11:02.820 instead of just jumping to conclusions they're gonna be pretty open about it um because once

00:11:07.220 you actually learn the facts about herpes you're like oh wait really like that's that's it um like

00:11:12.500 again it's the same thing as cold stores just in a different location it's just like very socially

00:11:16.180 stigmatized again it's everyone's choice of what they want to risk um but also the reality is

00:11:22.180 it's always a risk with whoever you sleep with um i did a support call with someone the other day

00:11:26.980 and she was saying that like she was on a date they were about to um you know do it and the

00:11:32.500 guy was like didn't ask about testing like was ready to just like have unprotected

00:11:39.060 and then so then she like stopped and like disclosed and then he rejected her

00:11:42.500 and he was like well i'm just very cautious but it's like but if you were cautious wouldn't you

00:11:47.140 have a disclosure conversation talk about barrier a lot of people have had sex with someone with an

00:11:52.180 std and they have no idea because men they don't get it as easily so and they don't have symptoms

00:11:57.540 if they do so it's just you know god kind of made us in particular ways where men um they just more

00:12:05.780 biologically designed to have sex with more people that's use better methods have some with you like

00:12:10.580 if you were that cautious so like that doesn't add up to me so in my experience and the you know

00:12:15.780 the biggest cope is men they can always they say they can tell who has it or blah blah blah i'm

00:12:21.940 like if you saw the people i interviewed you would have no idea none you know what i hear when

00:12:28.060 someone who has herpes has just gotten rejected for herpes and they're like crying and sad and

00:12:34.580 miserable about it i hear oh my gosh i'm so sad that this person that doesn't see any value or

00:12:42.660 worth in me outside of this virus that i can't help that i have doesn't want me oh my gosh i'm

00:12:49.640 so sad that i want somebody who doesn't want me oh my gosh the person who does not want me

00:12:59.560 my life is over me personally i don't want nobody who don't want me it's not attractive 0.99

00:13:05.960 i'm a blessing yeah just go date the man whore okay that's your only choice so go be a side 0.94

00:13:11.320 chick anyways all right guys um have you met anyone that has an std uh what is your experience 0.99

00:13:17.480 Have you ever dated someone that has it or do you know someone and how has it affected

00:13:22.760 their dating life?

00:13:23.760 Let me know in the comments, like the video, I'll see you next time.

Pearl - May 15, 2026

The Dating Market vs. STDS

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