Pearl - May 18, 2026


The Delusional Reasons Why Women Get Divorced

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9 minutes

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1,971

Sentence count

59

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Misogyny

16

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Toxicity

11

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20

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Divorce is one of the most painful transitions a woman can go through in her life, especially when it comes from a woman who has been in a toxic relationship with her husband for a long period of time. In this episode, I discuss the delusional belief that once she is free from her husband, she will begin to feel better and realize that she can do better than her husband. This is not the case.

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00:00:00.080 what does that even mean your codependent tendency like don't you want to depend on
00:00:03.600 each other if you're married you know all right what up guys welcome to my reaction series today
00:00:09.200 we're reacting to women talking about the delusion that women have when they file for divorce so as
00:00:14.000 you guys know a lot of single mothers out there think um i can do better than my schlubby husband
00:00:20.160 and i don't really blame them because there's a lot of media and marketing saying that you can
00:00:24.720 you know divorce your husband and do better and there's a lot of simps that even at times
00:00:29.360 the woman can do better but my question is what is your body fat percentage because that is really 1.00
00:00:34.800 going to dictate your future as a woman your entire existence on this planet it's determined 1.00
00:00:41.600 on how in shape you are so most divorces begin with a woman latching on to a single very powerful
00:00:47.840 belief it is clear seems obvious to her and other people often reinforce this belief for her sometimes
00:00:54.400 even her therapist and the belief is this once i'm free from him my life will feel right yeah 0.99
00:01:00.960 um so what happened is women reproduced with men that they didn't really like they just wanted to 0.96
00:01:05.440 get married and that's very blinding um so then they have post not clarity which unfortunately
00:01:11.200 for women it happens after the baby it's like what a pickle right and um then we divorce our 0.99
00:01:19.120 husbands and blame them for a little while during separation or after divorce it actually feels true 0.98
00:01:26.400 and this is when you'll see behavior from your ex-wife you'll see her acting like she's relieved
00:01:31.600 like she's happy like she's living her best life she'll have this energy and this confidence and 0.74
00:01:36.480 this new sense of identity maybe she loses weight maybe she starts to take some pride in her
00:01:41.200 appearance and who she is and how she shows up in the world she makes new friends she starts dating
00:01:46.080 and it is so devastating because it feels like yeah because again she gets on hinge right and 0.98
00:01:51.920 tinder and um being a whore is a lot of fun right whoring out gluck gluck 9 000 that is a lot of fun 0.99
00:01:58.800 that is a good time right women love being a whore uh if you want to know how much women love being 1.00
00:02:04.080 a whore there was a woman who got a cancer diagnosis and instead of spending her last like 1.00
00:02:08.640 year with her husband and family she said i'm gonna whore out see you guys i'm about to die 0.99
00:02:12.560 i got nothing to lose anymore whoring see ya it's fun and so the women get on tinder but um it's 0.97
00:02:19.200 not till they ask the man who what are we like you know three months in and he's like uh we're 0.95
00:02:24.720 and that's it you know um do they realize the gravity of their mistake you know that her
00:02:30.640 belief is right like maybe she really did just need to be free of you to be okay but i want you
00:02:36.240 to hear this her behavior and the relief that you're seeing from her this is not evidence that
00:02:41.600 you were the problem in the marriage this is not evidence that you were the problem in her life
00:02:46.080 who cares um who's who is the problem right it's over done we're not possessive of peace people
00:02:52.880 you got to let them go simply evidence of how well she convinced herself that that was true
00:02:58.240 which is why these shifts don't last after working with several hundred men in my better beyond
00:03:04.080 divorce program i have seen this cycle again and again you guys these women feel better for six 0.88
00:03:09.840 months for a year for two years but eventually they get pumped and dumped too many times and
00:03:15.440 come crawling back they get in too much debt um they don't realize how much their husband did for
00:03:20.240 them day to day to make their life better and they come crawling back just to fall apart and they end
00:03:25.680 up unhappy again they end up back in unhealthy relationships they end up feeling exactly the
00:03:31.200 same pain and exactly the same kinds of problems that made them want to divorce you in the first
00:03:35.760 place. So she's preparing for the divorce and going through the divorce process. She's convincing
00:03:40.920 herself of this narrative. She's decided you're the problem and she's going to feel better without
00:03:45.800 you. You know, the way she sees it, the relationship is causing her pain. You are causing the problems
00:03:50.800 in the relationship. And if she removes you and removes the relationship, then she'll be fine and
00:03:54.560 she'll feel better. And for a little while, that's how it actually looks, right? She's like, oh, I can
00:03:58.320 breathe again. I can be myself. I'm free to do what I want to do. And she starts to blossom and you
00:04:03.700 all this relief coming from her. So the initial relief she feels is real. She actually is feeling
00:04:10.180 that. She's not faking it most of the time. She's not faking that she's like feeling good and feeling
00:04:14.660 better without you, but it is short-lived. So I want to help you understand why she actually
00:04:20.260 She does it because she's trying to do better and it's going to fail. Sometimes they do succeed,
00:04:24.020 right? I'm not going to pretend no women do better. I'm not delusional here. Some leave your ass and
00:04:29.460 you know find a chad and the chad just says good enough and then they move on and live happily ever 1.00
00:04:34.740 after but a lot don't um for every one winner there's 10 losers does feel relief when the
00:04:39.060 relationship ends and then also why that relief is so short-lived and what's going to happen for
00:04:44.420 her next so the truth is that the relationship was stressful you guys had problems and if you
00:04:50.260 look back on your marriage you're going to see that there were things that weren't good for you
00:04:53.620 in the marriage either. So there is a relief that comes for her when the stress of that relationship
00:05:00.560 is removed. And she takes that feeling of relief as proof that you see he was the problem. And you
00:05:07.060 might take it as proof too and be like, wow, I guess I was the problem. But removing the trigger
00:05:12.360 is not the same as resolving the underlying pattern. Distance from the trigger creates
00:05:18.860 a temporary sense of calm, but that's not the same as healing. You are not the only problem
00:05:24.940 in the relationship. In fact, you aren't the problem at all, and neither was she.
00:05:29.880 There are patterns. There is a cycle of interaction, a negative cycle of interaction
00:05:34.440 between the two of you that led to this divorce. She played a role in that. Her attachment wounds,
00:05:40.280 her codependent tendencies. This is why I'm not really the biggest fan of
00:05:46.740 of female divorce coaches or whatever. What does that even mean? Your codependent tendency? Like 1.00
00:05:52.760 don't you want to depend on each other if you're married? Unresolved childhood baggage and pain,
00:05:58.720 all of that played a role in the problems in your marriage. Your stuff played a role in it too,
00:06:03.820 but so did hers. And as long as she's ignoring that and thinking that you were the cause of all
00:06:09.440 of the pain, she's not actually healing. She's just getting away from the trigger. She's literally
00:06:14.620 removing herself temporarily from that cycle and so she'll feel good for a little while and while
00:06:19.260 she's feeling good she'll go out and do new things right she might start dating she might have new
00:06:23.100 experiences she might start you know following through on dreams that she had ignored for a lot
00:06:27.660 of years and all of that novelty yeah so you know she's gonna follow her career dreams maybe it's 0.98
00:06:33.500 to be a dancer it's gonna be some that has a high failure weight rate doesn't make a lot of money 1.00
00:06:38.620 and women we're always convinced that we would have been these famous people if it weren't for
00:06:42.780 the man holding us back. But most of us, it just was never in the cards. Keep her energized and
00:06:48.020 excited for a little while. Being in a new environment makes it easy to step out of old
00:06:53.220 reactions. But again, distance from the trigger and novelty is not the same as truly healing or
00:06:59.800 changing and resolving old patterns. And so what you will see and what I see again and again in
00:07:05.620 the ex-wives of my clients is that over time, the old patterns start to creep back in. She'll find 0.75
00:07:12.260 yourself in a relationship where the same kinds of conflicts are coming up or where she feels
00:07:16.520 stifled or limited in the same ways. She'll find that her confidence isn't really deep and strong
00:07:22.160 and it gets shaken easily. She'll find that she's repeating the same emotional patterns inside a new
00:07:28.460 relationship that felt amazing in the beginning. And over time, her dissatisfaction in that
00:07:33.400 relationship will start to climb. And this is because the original pain, the pain that she
00:07:38.300 felt that led her to ask for a divorce, that pain was not created inside the marriage. It was
00:07:43.480 activated in the marriage. Most relationships, especially most adult relationships, are not
00:07:49.380 actively creating new wounds. They are revealing old wounds. They are triggering old existing
00:07:56.540 patterns. If you are a man going through an unwanted divorce, and especially if your ex
00:08:00.920 blamed you for all of the problems in the marriage, I so want you to hear this.
00:08:05.180 yeah guys women's like party like women will throw divorce parties and again we think the 0.95
00:08:11.440 grass is always greener on the other side which is the majority of the time they're single moms 1.00
00:08:16.600 they're gonna get pumped and dumped I mean they're they're like mega used cars that's kind of how the 1.00
00:08:21.640 world views them I know you might have viewed her as the love of your life mother of your kids but 0.83
00:08:25.480 they're just used cars on the markets and women treat men like we treat jobs and we will if we 1.00
00:08:31.260 think we can find a better job, we're going to go look. But unfortunately, we don't realize 1.00
00:08:36.400 when our qualifications suck because we're delusional. You might be feeling like you 0.91
00:08:40.360 ruined everything, like you were the problem, like you lost this amazing person. Look at the
00:08:45.020 woman she's blossoming into without you. And it's just not true. If you believe that story,
00:08:51.200 if you believe those thoughts, you are going to cost yourself years of your life. You are going
00:08:55.720 to spend so much time in shame and regret. You are going to be obsessed with what she's doing
00:09:00.580 and the choices that she's making you are going to be in agony every time you see her with a happy
00:09:05.300 post on Facebook or hear about something she's doing from your kids and you might also fall into
00:09:11.540 a pattern of resentment or need for vindication or anger towards her and it is so so tragic and
00:09:18.820 I see this happening to so many men there's going to be men in the comments of this video
00:09:22.820 who are going to be stuck in this pattern yeah guys who cares she's not yours it's just your turn 1.00
00:09:28.900 move on um because really women you can do younger hotter you can get a better bitch 0.95
00:09:36.120 you know so there's women turning 21 18 whatever every day so anyways guys um let me know what 0.98
00:09:43.080 you think of the comments if you can please like the video on your way out and subscribe
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