Pearl - The Dumbest Mistakes I Ever Made ｜ Divorce Doc Day 1

00:00:00.040 What up, guys? Welcome to my Coffee Talks. Today, I have a vanilla sweet cream cold brew.

00:00:06.220 I told you guys last Coffee Talk, I realized a lot of people don't know my backstory. So for

00:00:11.460 those of you that don't know, my name is Pearl Davis. In 2023, I went pretty viral for being

00:00:17.500 an anti-feminist. I was playing volleyball overseas. I started a YouTube show on the side

00:00:22.640 and it became one of the biggest YouTube shows in the United States. And I did that for about

00:00:29.160 a year and a half to two years. Um, and then I was, I would say unfairly demonetized.

00:00:35.200 And what happens when you're demonetized, um, is you might get a meeting with YouTube. I actually

00:00:41.540 did, and they'll give you a reason why you were demonetized. Um, for me, it was because,

00:00:47.820 can I say it on YouTube or am I going to get kicked off again? I'll just say it was something

00:00:52.600 with the uh tranny the trans stuff and then it was something it was a generalization I made about 1.00

00:01:00.440 a certain group I'll just say that um anyways so what happens is when you get kicked off 1.00

00:01:06.760 now you have three months to reapply and when you reapply um in three months you don't know

00:01:14.780 how long it's going to take for them to get back to you so let's say I think I got demonetized in

00:01:19.560 November. Then it took December, January, February. And then I reapply. And there were

00:01:26.320 times when YouTube got back to me in one month. And there's times when YouTube got back to me in

00:01:30.800 six. Now that is a horrible way to run a business. You have no idea the income coming in. And it

00:01:41.300 makes it very difficult to make business decisions. Like do I fire 100% of my staff because I have

00:01:46.900 basically no income? Or do I keep them thinking I'm going to get back in? Because the first time

00:01:56.620 I got demonetized, I thought I'll get back in in three months. Now, this was a grave mistake

00:02:01.680 because anyone knows when you have very little income and you're burning through expenses,

00:02:06.760 that money goes pretty quick, right? So anyways, mistakes were made. But at the time, I felt very

00:02:15.100 indebted to the people that worked for me because a lot of them did a really good job and I didn't

00:02:20.260 want to let people go when really they hadn't done anything wrong. Unfortunately, in business,

00:02:25.440 you got to be cutthroat. I did eventually have to let them go because what started as what I

00:02:30.480 thought was just going to be three months turned into two years of demonetization.

00:02:34.920 Now, during this two years of demonetization, I also was working on this divorce documentary

00:02:41.100 project. And what I did was I had one of my editors basically who edited for the shows work

00:02:47.220 on the divorce documentary. We'd bring people in, they would do interviews. And we made this,

00:02:52.340 this was kind of a mistake for a few reasons. One, this guy just had never done a doc before.

00:02:58.100 So I was kind of putting him in a position he'd never been in, learned that lesson. And two,

00:03:04.920 we just didn't really know what we were doing. So we kind of ran around for a little bit with

00:03:09.320 chickens with her heads cut off um got a bunch of interviews didn't you know didn't do the

00:03:14.740 interviews in a correct way uh i'm just i'm just i openly admit my mistakes so i'm just gonna go

00:03:20.660 through them um we didn't script it out before like just stuff i i just did not uh because at

00:03:28.980 the same time while i'm trying to do this documentary i'm also trying to make money

00:03:32.240 from my show because i still get donations for my show every day um also trying to manage this

00:03:38.220 like demonetization situation. So I'm trying to figure out how do I do my show in a way I'm not

00:03:43.040 going to get kicked off of everything again. Also trying to figure out how do I do this divorce

00:03:47.320 documentary. Also trying to figure out what do I do with these staff, you know. So just a lot of

00:03:52.160 choices were made. And because I was so busy and I was spread way too thin at the time, this

00:03:58.700 impacted my personal life in a lot of ways. And there were people that took, they just kind of

00:04:03.620 could see that I was running around with a chicken with my head cut off and they just took advantage.

00:04:07.320 not um the editor he did the best he could he we both just did not it was just a failure the first

00:04:14.420 time around so anyways um someone stole a camera from me that i thought i was friends with

00:04:20.700 i also hired my staff was probably i don't know 75 black at the time and really a lot of them did

00:04:28.320 a good job but i learned that a lot of black people will call you racist for no reason and

00:04:33.280 two guys I thought were my friends, they're dead to me. Dead to me forever. Decided I had a

00:04:40.300 colonial mindset. Have you ever heard that bullshit? And it was a grown man too. I'm like, 1.00

00:04:46.820 you're like 40. This is the stupidest thing I've ever heard in my life. As I'm, you know, it's 1.00

00:04:52.400 crazy. During this time period, I got accused of giving slave contracts while I was actively

00:04:59.980 going broke by still employing people during demonetization. During this time, and I'm going

00:05:05.920 to tell you why I spread myself too thin, I also decided, I'm just such a woman thing to do five

00:05:11.460 projects at once, to launch. My thought was, hey, I'm making no money. Let me try managing other 0.88

00:05:20.120 YouTubers. I'll just, you know, they're monetized. Let me plug them in my formula and make them

00:05:24.460 famous. Anyone that's managed talent knows that's a completely different skill in its own.

00:05:29.980 um we did have one uh pretty successful one Christine Grace Smith she she's awesome she's

00:05:35.880 doing great things now and I'm really proud of her but um talent management I just was not very

00:05:41.700 good at man obviously I was not very good at managing people um that's just not like uh between

00:05:47.560 the call like the slave contract um accusations of people I was really trying to help um yeah

00:05:56.060 and that was what was crazy. So the people I hired, um, actively accused me as I'm like pouring

00:06:03.020 money into their shows of not all, not all, by the way, this is not all of them, but they're

00:06:08.440 actively accusing me of giving me them slave contracts. And I'm like, wait, what? So this

00:06:14.380 was just all a lot. Um, so I ended up cutting everything and moving home. Um, I had to let go

00:06:20.600 completely of all my staff and I moved home and I I felt like a complete loser right because I went

00:06:29.880 from on top of the world to no income demonetized like I was on Pierce Morgan every week they were

00:06:37.640 looking at making me a regular on the show to um yeah to basically being a loser at my parents

00:06:47.360 kind of how I felt. So anyways, Trump gets elected, thank God. And I get back into the

00:06:56.120 remonetization program. And at this point, I actually felt really bad to my audience because

00:07:01.280 really my whole goal was to make this divorce documentary. And I just made so many mistakes.

00:07:07.380 So I put the divorce documentary on hold for a year. Well, I'm like, let me just get my show

00:07:13.900 off the ground and start to make money and have a good system for my show. I'm stopping. I cut

00:07:19.500 all the talents. I said, I'm sorry, talents. You got to go. I'm cutting all the employees. You got

00:07:25.400 to go. I went down to like one or two employees. I'm like, I'm going to a small team. That's it

00:07:32.140 because I can't manage this many people. I'd really look at what I was good at and bad at.

00:07:36.320 I'm like, that was a failure. And we're going to get this show off the ground. I'm going to learn

00:07:41.100 some skills, um, to improve my show, to make money. And I'm just going to keep looking for

00:07:49.400 funding for the divorce doc because divorce documentary or documentaries cost like more

00:07:54.900 than a house guy. You got, I don't want to go into numbers, but they're so expensive, um, to get a

00:07:59.640 good crew and an ad, like, it's just more than you think. So anyways, um, eventually as I'm doing my

00:08:07.060 show in the next year, we find a decent sized donation, um, for the divorce doc. Um, and now

00:08:15.260 I'm like, I can get this funding off the ground. So now I'm like, all right, let's go. I'm, I'm

00:08:20.360 excited. And this time around, I found, I was like, I am finding a team that's done this before.

00:08:27.780 They know exactly the F what they're doing. And they're telling me every little detail you're

00:08:33.240 spending money on. And I did that and now we're going. Um, and the second time around, it's kind

00:08:38.540 of unfortunate because we had interviews from the past, but we're like, we're just going to redo them

00:08:44.020 because at this, it's difficult to explain to the average person, but you really need to do the

00:08:48.960 interviews in a specific way. Um, so it's easier when you edit later. Um, and I did not do that

00:08:55.520 the first time around so the second time around um anyways so mistakes were made lessons learned

00:09:03.540 and now we're back I'm finally monetized on YouTube again and we're actually doing the

00:09:10.020 divorce doc and I'm so excited because uh just yesterday it was the first day of filming and

00:09:16.620 what happens is in like a two-week period you just film a lot so I did three interviews that

00:09:22.320 were probably two to three hours each yesterday so like nine hours of filming and we interviewed

00:09:27.100 a psychologist a guy who got his kid transitioned and a guy who actually almost jumped off a bridge

00:09:33.740 following his divorce so um some of the worst divorce uh stories you've ever heard in your life

00:09:41.240 um and this whole week that's what we're doing so I'm not doing the show this week if anyone

00:09:47.500 anyone cares but um but I'm really excited my hope for this film is actually to wake up more

00:09:53.800 daughters as I said last time because a lot of um daughters really are brainwashed against their

00:09:59.680 fathers where they think that their father's an evil guy and he's really not um and so I really

00:10:04.900 encourage the women the two women that watch me literally go to your father ask him for his side

00:10:10.760 of the story and do not correct him at all. Do not say, well, mom said this, like, let him talk

00:10:17.160 for like 10 minutes. Just let him get like, cause most men haven't been given their side of the

00:10:23.800 story. And I think it's really sad if you don't have a life where, you know, you get to bond with

00:10:29.480 your dad. Cause some of, I really think in all areas of life, those are some of the best memories

00:10:34.000 are just like bonding with your father. Um, and I don't think you can really be complete as a

00:10:39.100 person until you can bond with your dad that's just my opinion um hold on

00:10:45.460 okay so anyways that's why I failed the first time that's what we're doing differently this

00:10:53.360 time around is um I you know someone else is managing all these people doing the doc it's not

00:10:58.620 me it's not me um and I actually feel really good about this because we have connections um to some

00:11:05.560 streaming site so i think we could this could eventually be on netflix and a lot of places

00:11:11.720 um and the whole concept of the film if you youtube what's in it for men um it'll come up

00:11:17.400 the trailer for it it's just asking the question to society what do men get out of marriage

00:11:22.600 and the idea is in the future if we can fundraise and i don't get kicked off of things

00:11:27.640 who knows right we can do documentaries um that highlight a lot of different men's issues like

00:11:33.480 what's in it for men to join the military and the idea is not really to change the system although

00:11:38.600 that would be nice right um i do like to be honest with the audience i am probably not going to change

00:11:45.320 a billion dollar system that transfers wealth from men to women but really it's just to get

00:11:51.480 give young men and young women to the accurate information um my goal is to wake up more children

00:11:57.800 that a lot of times they're brainwashed by their mother and their dad isn't the evil person

00:12:01.640 and also to wake up young men to make sure you realize what you're you know standing up for or

00:12:08.300 signing up for when you get married the choice of what to do with the information is up to you

00:12:13.120 I'm never here to tell men to not marry if that's what you you know some some of the men in the

00:12:17.800 divorce documentary remarried glutton for punishment I guess um but if you want to do it

00:12:24.480 and you know what you're signing up for I mean that's your choice right you know I'm not here

00:12:28.580 stop it um so yeah that's kind of my my villain origin story is um but I have a very good feeling

00:12:38.960 this time around we're doing things right we're also building an app so um the issue with my last

00:12:45.860 app was when I got kicked off I had these high costs associated with and it just didn't have

00:12:50.360 the capabilities um I wanted like for raising money for donations and like um I don't know

00:12:58.160 just a lot, like there's a lot of issues. So we're redoing the app. Everyone's going to be moved to

00:13:02.680 that in the next probably month, few weeks. It's almost done. And yeah, that's my coffee talk for

00:13:10.000 the day. I'm trying to think if I wanted to give you guys anything else. I don't know if you guys

00:13:15.580 have any questions about where we're going. I think it's going to be done in August, maybe

00:13:20.980 September. I always assume things might take longer than you think. So maybe October-ish.

00:13:28.160 And I'm thinking, and there could be some undercover work we add in.

00:13:34.560 If you guys have any ideas, put it in the comment.

00:13:36.940 I was thinking about releasing it Christmas Day, Valentine's Day, or Mother's Day, one of the three.

00:13:41.320 So anyways, all right, guys, like the video on your way out, subscribe to the channel, and I'll see you next time.

Pearl - April 29, 2026

The Dumbest Mistakes I Ever Made ｜ Divorce Doc Day 1

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