Pearl - The Epidemic Of Modern Women SHAMING Their Husbands On Social Media

00:00:00.000 so women started cheating on her husband because she hates him on my husband over 20 times and i

00:00:05.300 don't bother hiding it because i secretly hate him oh i gotta do this to prove i'm not a here we go

00:00:11.540 i've cheated on my husband over 20 times and i don't bother hiding it because i secretly hate

00:00:15.280 him disclaimer is not my story time instead of me on instagram after realizing that i was living

00:00:18.680 with the man child who made me do everything for him who cried all the time who was always so

00:00:22.540 sensitive and always needed something and complained 24 7 i decided to start cheating

00:00:26.860 few years ago i had met a guy through a co-worker we always followed each other on instagram and i

00:00:30.340 knew that he was attracted to me and he's pretty hot and rich and good looking so i decided to reach out

00:00:34.540 on instagram and asked him if he wanted to go out not only did he say yes he planned a whole outing

00:00:38.780 we went hiking and we went to get massages then he took me out to dinner and then we went to his place

00:00:43.100 and had amazing sex i would see this guy about three times a week and i started hooking up with

00:00:47.100 another guy that i met at the gym this guy was really hot but he didn't have a lot of money so

00:00:50.360 we never really went out it was just plain sex but it was good about six months later i met another guy

00:00:55.180 again amazing sex do you think my husband noticed anything no i would talk to these guys on the phone

00:00:59.740 while my husband was in the same room i would be setting up what she would talk to these guys on

00:01:05.020 the phone i would be setting up dates with these guys in the same room as my husband the audacity

00:01:10.660 at least when men cheat they cheat respectfully right they do they go to extreme lengths for you

00:01:17.000 to not find out women just we have the audacity updates with these guys in the same room as my

00:01:22.060 husband do you think he cared no i would even wear sexy outfits to go out with them and he never asked

00:01:26.180 anything he would just say have fun and then he would call me to complain about what he was feeling

00:01:29.640 and what he wanted me to buy am i terrible for doing this i feel like he was probably cheating too

00:01:34.240 and just didn't care what a nasty girl i know now the next thing that is going on on twitter

00:01:41.480 is women talking about mental load so there's a couple phrases i've heard women bring up the last

00:01:48.580 couple years now what happens is women okay so have you guys ever thought you really liked a girl

00:01:55.520 you're going on dates things are going good maybe she's a friend in your friend group or you've known

00:01:59.340 her for a while and you think you really like her and then you have sex with her and you realize

00:02:06.440 you didn't really like her as much as you thought you just wanted to smash you know sometimes as people

00:02:13.400 we're not always aware the reason we do things or maybe we change our mind later what happens with

00:02:19.940 women you guys have post nut clarity we have post child clarity so a lot of times women don't realize

00:02:29.520 they don't like their husbands and that you know you we've all seen it that girl that is a type

00:02:34.600 and then she gets married to a guy that looks nothing like her exes because she didn't like the guy but

00:02:41.220 she wanted the kid in the marriage and the problem for us is attention is our currency the same way

00:02:48.260 sex is you guys's currency so once we get that attention and it wears off then we have to ask

00:02:54.320 ourselves the question do we actually like the man that's in front of us i got what i wanted i got the

00:02:59.960 wedding i got the kids so what happens is women start to realize after they have the number of kids that

00:03:07.560 they wanted and the attention goes away from the kids that they don't like the man in front of them

00:03:12.660 that's when they start to looking for other options and they usually leave when the kid the kid is around

00:03:18.960 four like three to five whenever it starts going to daycare or public school and you can tell the

00:03:26.180 women that don't like their husbands you can tell because they start to count favors back and forth

00:03:34.200 and they start to complain about him not doing chores or these other terms like he's not you know

00:03:41.540 women do more emotional labor it doesn't make any sense because men don't really talk about their

00:03:46.760 problems that much where we complain a lot so if anybody does emotional labor it's definitely the men

00:03:53.640 right it's definitely the guys men are just at you know i think as a woman the one thing women envy

00:04:01.600 about men is the peace that they could have with a mattress on the floor and an apartment right you

00:04:07.740 guys get it's like you'll see a guy and he'll just one time when i i was in california for a while i met

00:04:14.280 a homeless guy and this homeless guy was talking to me about how he loved being homeless like he was

00:04:20.660 just content in like this little shack that he had built and he was happy and i'm like could a woman

00:04:26.000 be happy doing that no women will be in like mansions and unhappy so here we go why i considered

00:04:33.080 divorcing my husband i've been with my husband for almost 20 years but about three years ago i was

00:04:37.740 strongly considering divorce and i want to talk to you about why so i'm going to tell you the story

00:04:42.320 of the day where i thought to myself maybe i don't want to do this anymore in similar words of do or die

00:04:48.400 in 1996 trad cucks didn't study pimpology and logically they never learned how hose biology and

00:04:55.760 obviously lone ranger hashtag sysbm my husband and i had four kids we both worked full-time we had been

00:05:04.420 together for 16 years at this point we've been together since high school yeah and so the problem

00:05:08.640 is you wonder why the divorce rate is lower or is higher for people that get married before 20 and

00:05:16.360 before 25 the lowest divorce rate is like it's either 25 to 30 or 30 to 35 the reason being

00:05:23.520 women don't want to spend their youth on their husband and the the problem you get with women

00:05:27.980 that marry young it's a benefit for you guys because i'll tell you why it kind of benefits you guys

00:05:33.260 the woman you get all the good years right and then when she decides to leave you right because we

00:05:39.500 tend to do this in our late 20s early 30s you know we see all the yachts we didn't go on

00:05:46.360 all the stuff we missed out on then we start hating the husband for it we're like you took all the

00:05:50.880 free shit i could have gotten and the guy's like i provided for you for the last decade i've done this

00:05:56.960 this and this and she's like amnesia it's like so then she gets early 30s maybe late 30s and she's

00:06:04.660 gonna like she leaves right this is really not a bad deal for you guys but the reason is we get all

00:06:11.340 these offers 24 7 so it's like you act up the girl's gonna think i have 10 offers i'm turning

00:06:18.580 down this i'm turning down this it builds the resentment and then they leave your ass sorry

00:06:24.480 fellas and on paper i have an amazing so she married young she's seeing all her friends doing

00:06:30.660 sex in the city lifestyle now she's mad at her husband for chores and he's like i it came out later

00:06:37.820 this woman had a nanny and she was complaining about chores she doesn't even have to watch her

00:06:41.920 kids she works full-time and yet still not happy don't try fellas don't try to make us happy impossible

00:06:49.060 we can't even make ourselves happy you guys have that shit on lock you guys can get an apartment

00:06:55.040 you know it's crazy i'll interview men his lives are completely shattered like i interviewed this guy

00:07:01.080 came on the show his kid was transitioned and still and like that's a terrible thing right

00:07:07.000 he's still pretty happy go lucky do you know what i mean i'm like you went through a terrible

00:07:11.500 i'm not trying to laugh at the situation sorry i laugh sometimes it makes it seem insensitive

00:07:16.200 but it's just amazing to me like men can keep a positive spirit through so much where women it's

00:07:24.580 like our coffee our barista gives us the wrong order and it's world war three and our life is falling

00:07:31.020 apart and we're not happy and need to divorce our children and the husband's like hey you can

00:07:36.900 get another coffee it's okay right so now this woman like i mean that looks like a nice house

00:07:42.980 i don't know where she lives but granite countertops it looks like a lot of counter space

00:07:50.340 that looks like a great place to live right now let's see let's see her husband's crime let's see

00:07:56.400 what the husband did that was so bad did he cheat husband he is incredibly supportive okay so didn't

00:08:01.780 cheat he's kind okay cat that's good he's loyal he's a great dad okay kind loyal great dad but i'm

00:08:09.780 sure if you wanted to leave him and we're gonna get to it right there's gonna be something really bad

00:08:14.800 he did he's very hands-on he's an active participant he's always present like but she's thinking she

00:08:19.820 wanted to leave her husband so let's the what's the bad on paper what else could i ask for

00:08:26.060 okay but in reality okay in reality there must have been something really bad that happened right

00:08:34.360 my experience is very similar to the experience of other women i had this amazing husband who on paper

00:08:39.400 was great but i was incredibly frustrated and burnt out from our marriage and from motherhood

00:08:45.240 because what happens to so many of us is that we marry these amazing men okay so she's burnt out

00:08:51.320 from marriage and motherhood i'm sure something she's got to be a stay-at-home mom right no help

00:08:57.520 right and we have amazing relationships and then we have kids and when we have kids women tend to carry

00:09:04.280 a disproportionate amount of the work in the home the work of raising kids and the mental load and that

00:09:09.500 is exactly what happened to us about three the mental load so what was he screaming at you like

00:09:16.120 what was this mental i keep hearing about this mental load but what do you know what i think the

00:09:21.560 mental load actually is it's women having to deal with our mental that's the mental load like we have

00:09:28.420 to carry more of a mental load because men don't have a mental load because they're sane like in general

00:09:35.100 i would say eight out of ten men are pleasant to be around where one out of ten women are pleasant to

00:09:42.460 be around like i think that's the so women have a higher mental load because our mental is just too

00:09:49.080 much it's like we got all the emotions and the ups and downs and that that pissed me off and she made

00:09:55.480 me mad and that girl did this that guy did that da da da da months after my fourth baby was born

00:10:01.260 i remember looking at my husband and saying i need more i need you to do more i am exhausted i am in

00:10:07.160 charge of everyone and everything in this house every night when we cook dinner you ask me what to

00:10:13.440 make okay so the mental load is he asks you what you have to cook okay this is what i don't get

00:10:20.920 don't you have to eat yourself like don't you know because women always say i don't want to cook

00:10:26.980 right but like how do you eat don't you have to eat for yourself you know and does it take that long

00:10:34.760 you know there's like crock pots now like you could make some chili in the morning and at night

00:10:39.460 i mean that's a family of four because i think it says she has four kids every day when you drop off

00:10:44.220 the kids at daycare you ask me what they need in their back okay so she has daycare but what he did

00:10:49.780 that was so bad you ask me what they need in their backpacks so okay so the mental load is having to

00:10:57.960 choose what to eat for dinner and packing their backpacks okay packs i am the project manager of

00:11:05.560 this home and i need you to do more okay she is the project manager of the home and he looked at me

00:11:14.940 and he said okay just tell me what to do okay so again doesn't seem like this terrible guy if he said

00:11:21.660 she says i need help he says okay what do you need you didn't say you're wrong you're not he said

00:11:28.000 okay that sounds like a reason doesn't that sound like a reasonable guy to you what would warrant

00:11:33.760 the possible divorce right every woman has heard this just tell me what to do and i'll do it and i said

00:11:38.960 okay you know something so if every woman has heard tell me what to do and i'll do it that's a guy

00:11:45.080 with no frame because that he doesn't understand women you're like oh you guys it's so funny you guys

00:11:51.260 will be like just tell me what to do we don't even know what to do like we can't even make good

00:11:57.900 decisions for our lives okay we have all this debt we date guys that don't want to commit to

00:12:04.800 we make bad choices and you're like the guys are like just tell me what choice i need to make

00:12:10.600 to make you happy we can't even make choices to make ourselves happy dumb question dumb question

00:12:19.100 i think that would make my life easier is if in the mornings when i came downstairs with the four kids

00:12:24.300 because i do mornings by myself the dishwasher was emptied the dishes were put away and the trash was

00:12:29.700 taken out okay so she doesn't have to hand what i'm hearing is she doesn't have to hand wash she

00:12:35.660 has a he got her a dishwasher okay i lived in england do you know how much more time cooking takes

00:12:42.720 when you have to hand wash all you have to do now is just plop plop okay that would make my pearl women

00:12:49.280 can't handle making decisions yes they can women make a lot of decisions they make decisions of where to

00:12:54.820 get their botox done their lip fillers bbls boob jump women can make decisions but they want we're

00:13:02.540 lazy so we want you to do it for us we totally can do it we make the decision to dump you

00:13:09.160 that's a decision we make yeah okay life so much easier because when i've got the four kids running

00:13:15.760 around and the baby crying i can't be looking for their favorite water bottle in the dishwasher i just

00:13:19.740 need to know it's clean i can't okay now if you have one dish it takes like five minutes to clean

00:13:26.100 it i know i just said it kind of contradicts but i'm saying when it's like a big load right not a

00:13:32.420 little one and he said yeah of course what yeah i'll do that that's no problem and so of course he

00:13:37.840 does it but then i have to remind him and then he forgets and i have to remind him again and there

00:13:42.740 was this one morning where i woke up and i went to put something in the trash and it was overflowing

00:13:48.200 and here's the thing men would rather have a messy house than a nagging wife they would rather look

00:13:54.640 they would rather you not clean at all and just shut the fuck up instead of nagging them right

00:14:00.940 and i went pearls blackpilled yep i am i went to get my son's water bottle and it was in the

00:14:07.060 dishwasher with all the other yeah the guys are already coming up with solutions they're like paper

00:14:11.600 plates they're like we don't need to do dishes get the what do we need dishes for

00:14:15.600 men are so funny clean dishes and i felt so disrespected and unseen and unvalued at that

00:14:24.840 point in time and i remember texting my husband being like what happened like why didn't you do

00:14:28.720 this and he said sorry i was running late for work and i remember thinking oh my god he doesn't see me

00:14:34.620 because what he's done has now made me late for work and he doesn't care about that he doesn't care

00:14:40.560 about the impact on me and he doesn't see how every single thing in our home happens because i

00:14:46.620 ask him to do it or because i do it myself so again to me this is just narcissism because that looks like

00:14:53.220 a big house do you think that she fixes things when the dishwasher breaks this is this is what happens

00:14:59.420 women do things but the difference is men are like good people right not all not all so when they

00:15:05.840 do something nice they don't keep track of it they're like here i did this to be nice but women

00:15:10.920 it's a scorecard so women we have like this mental tracker that's just there so when we do something

00:15:17.140 it's like here then we do something else and we do something else and we do something else and we do

00:15:21.080 something else then three years in we list all of those things and the guy's like i wasn't even

00:15:26.500 keeping track we were supposed to keep track the guy's like i don't even remember the things i did

00:15:32.820 i do stuff for you all the time and she's like i did this this this this this and you did this wrong

00:15:37.740 that wrong that wrong and he's like we were keeping score he's like i didn't know i was supposed to keep

00:15:43.360 score and then you guys lose every argument you guys got to play chess not checkers or because i

00:15:50.860 planned and organized it the diaper bag is full because i filled it right okay so her contributions

00:15:56.600 are taking out the trash the dishwasher and filling a diaper bag i don't know i can't say but what's

00:16:03.860 really happening below the surface is she's mad she reproduced with him so she's trying to women

00:16:09.660 don't get mad at men they're happy they reproduced with right and the thing is remember we can't be

00:16:14.980 happy anyway so don't take it personal fellas like we it takes so much like but for whatever reason

00:16:22.860 our wires go and she's convinced she could have did better with the youth she had she met him in high

00:16:27.980 school so she's like i could have did better in college i saw my friends do better in college

00:16:31.720 and then it just goes off right so now you know she's she's mad she reproduced with him

00:16:38.500 and now she's rationalizing put the wipes in there and i felt so frustrated and i remember thinking

00:16:46.380 what's the point what's the point of doing this with someone else i might as well just do it all

00:16:50.660 and it's not because my husband didn't love me or he did anything to okay so again he loved me he

00:16:55.600 didn't do anything to me but i can sit i'm considering a divorce and not to the point that

00:17:00.300 she's putting it on the internet look we're human everybody's got thoughts we're not proud of the men

00:17:05.160 think i want to bang that hot girl at work right the women think i want to leave this is world war three

00:17:11.120 but you know what you can do you can complain to maybe your immediate family or whatever but not the

00:17:17.960 internet right to me and it's not because i didn't love him but because i felt so taken advantage of

00:17:24.020 in our relationship and this dynamic it doesn't happen but i hope he goes and finds a 22 year i

00:17:29.640 wish you all a 22 year old it's a better experience i know it's a little hypocritical because i'm old now

00:17:36.140 but you know i'm just saying they're much more pleasant i accident right it's not like my husband

00:17:41.340 did it to me but we've been raised in this society that tells men and women who they should be in

00:17:45.560 marriages and and what it looks like to be a good mom versus a good dad we know the bar for moms is

00:17:50.600 way up here and the bar for dads is way down here and we fell into these norms we fell into these

00:17:55.080 roles in our family despite the fact that we never wanted to and i'm lucky and i say lucky because

00:18:01.140 i have a partner who i know loves me and wants me to be happy and was willing and able to change and

00:18:07.620 so we did the work to figure out what equity looked like in our relationship and i can tell you now

00:18:11.960 three years so now translation he does whatever i say now that's what that means like when we did

00:18:17.280 the work it means now the relationship i used to let him not do whatever he wants but have some

00:18:22.940 things that he enjoys now he has nothing that he enjoys i have ruined i have taken away all joy from

00:18:30.120 him years later that we are happier than ever our kids are thriving our home runs like a well-oiled

00:18:34.860 translation he does all the work now and i i put a dish in the dishwasher and he allows me to feel

00:18:43.240 like i did more than i did because he doesn't want me to divorce him so he he does the work i'll take

00:18:50.060 the credit that's what that means machine and that took a lot of work i want to say it took like 18

00:18:54.240 months to get there and it was well worth it but it is not uncommon and so if your wife is coming to you

00:18:59.920 and she's saying i'm burnt out by the mental load and i need you to do the mental load okay again so

00:19:04.880 let me get this straight the mental load is garbage dishwasher and packing a backpack okay more she's

00:19:12.360 not just saying that because she wants you to do more chores she's saying that because truly

00:19:15.840 it can hurt your relationship it can ruin your marriage if you do not participate in an equitable

00:19:21.540 way in your home and so what does that look like i want to i want to boss him around in the house

00:19:26.560 i want this to be my house not his house what does it look like to change these dynamics i want to

00:19:31.660 dictate the way everything's done but we need to really assess in our homes what the work looks like

00:19:37.740 because in most homes the the data supports this women do a disproportionate amount of work men actually

00:19:44.360 work longer hours and they only count the chores that women tend to do like kitchen chores they don't

00:19:51.080 count the yard work chores how many women mow the grass will fix anything so it's it's like imagine

00:19:58.260 it's kind of like the it's kind of like the wnba where women don't do as much but like they give

00:20:04.440 them more free media attention and even though they operate at a loss they keep paying them that's the

00:20:10.500 equivalent of how women feel like they're doing everything in the house they just do they do more

00:20:15.120 of the cooking and the cleaning and the laundry and the the child care while also working full time and

00:20:20.020 men have more time for things like their hobbies like golf for example or just okay that is just

00:20:24.800 not true so when men get into a relationship they tend to give up their hobbies because women calendar

00:20:30.960 block so they make you to go go to all these stupid events you don't want to go to so men are the ones

00:20:37.340 that give up their hobbies so you can go to the the sports games visitor sister visitor mother do all

00:20:45.740 this stupid stuff you don't even want to do where women keep their hobbies but pretend which i mean

00:20:51.800 most women's hobbies are social media gossiping and watching the kardashians or some dumb shows like

00:20:57.180 that so we keep those right going to see our friends but we hate anything that makes men happy

00:21:04.540 that doesn't benefit us so that's why we hate video games that's why she's bitching about golf because it

00:21:09.700 doesn't directly benefit us working out running a marathon right and so we need to have hard

00:21:14.860 conversations about what our time looks like what our labor in the home looks like what is invisible

00:21:20.300 labor we have to talk about these things and when we don't the alternative is that you no longer have

00:21:25.240 a marriage or you don't have a happy one i will divorce you if you don't do chores that's what she's

00:21:30.100 saying and so i share this story because i don't think i'm alone in this experience because women in the

00:21:36.300 west are terrible and i feel better for being a terrible wife if other women are terrible wives

00:21:41.100 and i want people to know that there's hope you can control your husband you can you can you can

00:21:46.720 make him simp and that if you have a willing and able partner i'll show you how to get a simp

00:21:51.980 you can change this you can absolutely change here's how to get more power and control in your

00:21:57.480 relationship dynamic there you go so let's look at this woman's page she's a demon i can just tell

00:22:05.300 oh men's hobby this is a really weird comment but i'm going to use it as all right it says god

00:22:09.200 forbid a man have hobbies that don't revolve around women oh i just she's going to dig her grave

00:22:14.080 to talk about hobbies and specifically the difference is between men and women when it comes

00:22:18.680 to hobbies now i don't know if you're familiar but there's actually a leisure gap between men and

00:22:22.520 women where men have more time for things like hobbies and leisure than women do and this is directly

00:22:27.300 correlated with the fact that women tend to do more domestic labor the cooking the cleaning the laundry

00:22:31.520 and they do more caretaking for children so they're spending more time with their kids on

00:22:35.820 i'm a working mom of four and i do morning this is this is a really weird comment but i'm going to

00:22:41.060 use it as an opportunity to talk about hobbies and specifically the difference is between men and

00:22:45.660 women when it comes to hobbies now i don't know if you're familiar but there's actually a leisure gap

00:22:49.500 between men and women where men have more time for things like hobbies and leisure than women

00:22:53.740 men work more hours it's just simply not true do and this is directly correlated with the fact that women

00:22:59.480 tend to do more domestic labor the cooking the cleaning the laundry and they do more caretaking

00:23:04.440 for children so they're spending more time with their kids on average than men are daycare is a

00:23:08.880 billion dollar industry billion with a b and this women are not having children either they're not

00:23:15.260 this means that men have more time for hobbies they have more time for hobbies that take them out

00:23:20.220 of the house let's think golf hunting fishing working on cars right all of these things take them

00:23:25.200 outside of the home and typically are not done with kids whereas women's you can fish with a kid

00:23:30.320 you can golf with a kid doesn't trump golf with his grandkids like aren't they like pro golf okay let me

00:23:36.920 go back i want to i want to hunting fishing working on cars right those are all things that you could do

00:23:42.800 i mean maybe not under like three but could could you bring a baby fish i don't fish so this this

00:23:49.240 probably a stupid question but like i don't see why you couldn't like if you bring the baby bag and

00:23:54.900 stuff get some shade or whatever i don't understand fishing you guys just stare at the water for hours

00:24:00.960 it just couldn't be me but again could you guys have that peace inside of you i'm a woman right so

00:24:05.600 there's no peace here like we have to like wrestle the mental energy really is just arguing with

00:24:11.200 ourselves that's the mental load she's talking about it's not him it's in us right all of these things

00:24:18.000 take them outside of the home and typically are not done with kids whereas women's hobbies they

00:24:22.800 don't revolve around men but they typically are done in the home and can be done while watching

00:24:27.040 children women will say their hobbies are things like reading knitting gardening okay because i'm

00:24:32.800 thinking reading i understand you're in the home but aren't you just kind of sitting there when you

00:24:37.200 fish i don't know if this is a dumb question you guys have to forgive me i don't fish i'm not a

00:24:42.340 fisher but this is like she's playing 4d chess with how she's rationalizing how women's hobbies

00:24:49.620 benefit the family while men's don't making and men they have hobbies that take them outside of the

00:24:56.140 home and these hobbies oftentimes don't just happen over an hour or two they happen over extended

00:25:00.860 periods of time sometimes a full day or even a weekend hunting right aren't their kids dying now

00:25:07.020 because their mom left them home alone to go like clubbing so when women complain about men's hobbies

00:25:11.820 like golf or fishing or hunting it's not because they want their husband's hobbies to revolve around

00:25:16.380 women they want their partners to be more involved in the house in the caretaking they want their

00:25:20.940 partners to be an active participant and they also want hobbies too hobbies that they don't have to do

00:25:25.540 in between nap time and dinner they want time for rest and relaxation the same way that men get it

00:25:30.700 and so no women don't hate it when men have hobbies that don't revolve around them what they probably

00:25:35.180 don't like is the fact that their partner gets a lot more time to themselves than they ever had

00:25:38.800 this woman's a demon oh my gosh the comment section is i find that women have to make time for our

00:25:44.640 hobbies wake up at 5 a.m to work out where men can take time for theirs but men do you know men are

00:25:49.780 better at they're better at incorporating their kids into their hobby like i went on this business

00:25:55.260 trip the other day and the guy that like drove us around his kid was with them the into us the entire

00:26:01.100 time so we're like doing all this stuff and the dad and he's so excited his kids there were mom the

00:26:06.440 moms like don't like when you have the kid with them they're like complaining about the kid they're

00:26:12.160 like i mean that's just what i've seen right so hypothetically like the same way the dad brought

00:26:18.420 the kid to the business meeting and he was fine the kid was like really well behaved the mom could

00:26:22.620 take the kid to the gym but then they'd have to like i would think i mean maybe not

00:26:27.800 a big gym but i'm saying like an at home like you can buy some weights or whatever i mean

00:26:33.100 teach them how to do a push-up i don't know like okay also no knitting sewing crafting gardening and

00:26:39.560 baking all produce outcomes that are reinvested into the home okay yeah but what women i have never

00:26:44.200 met a woman my age or younger or 10 years older that knits i don't know are you guys meeting women

00:26:51.260 that knit let's be honest even their household chores are child free that is not true i know so many

00:26:57.380 guys that would work on cars with their dad my dad knew i was useless when it came to fixing cars so

00:27:02.580 he didn't even try sorry dad you know what i mean that there's things i'm good at that's not it

00:27:07.160 how come women's hobbies are always trying to be monetized i started crocheting all i heard is oh you

00:27:13.120 can sell that why can't i do something for the joy of it i'm a distance runner it takes a lot of times

00:27:18.680 to run 26 miles and i have to fight for it yeah distance do you know what though the men do you know

00:27:25.200 what the men do i've seen it because i ran a marathon this fall the men will bring out their

00:27:30.060 kids and push them so i'm just thinking through what i've seen and like if a man and a woman does

00:27:35.680 a hobby the man will figure out a way to incorporate the kid so it's like something like my dad coached

00:27:40.440 me in basketball and he loved it oh my gosh that's like my favorite memory with my dad it was like

00:27:45.620 fifth grade and we were like missing layups and he's like go go he's like screaming he's like

00:27:50.000 coaching fifth grade he still to this day talks about like we won like our fifth grade championship

00:27:56.080 and like it it's one of my favorite childhood memories and i think a lot of people have that

00:28:00.620 experience where something they did with their father that was their favorite memory where the

00:28:06.340 moms don't incorporate you as much into the hobbies that's just not that's what i've seen

00:28:11.380 and this this is how women feel when they do the chores okay well i'm gonna go do the dishes

00:28:18.160 cool it'd be nice if you help me no problem get them pearl reed she's telling the female friendly

00:28:24.300 version of the story the female friendly version is where the woman is the hero and the victim at the

00:28:28.460 same time a little bit later i'm just gonna get the streets here for a little bit come on i don't

00:28:32.780 want to do them later let's just do them now take 15 minutes oh honey i am so exhausted i just

00:28:36.700 honestly want to relax for a little bit if i could just sit here let my food digest and just try to

00:28:42.700 enjoy the quiet for a little bit get some get some get some that's what happens and we will you know

00:28:48.980 we can clean the dishes tomorrow you know i don't like waking up to a dirty kitchen who cares i care

00:28:53.880 all right i care i busted my ass all day cleaning this house and then cooking that meal and i worked

00:28:59.620 today it would be nice if you said thank you and helped me with the dishes fine i'll help you do the

00:29:04.240 damn dishes oh come on you know what no let's see that's not what i want you just and i'm telling

00:29:08.980 you guys women love this said that you want me to help you do the dishes i want you to want to do

00:29:13.320 the dishes why would i want to do dishes why see that's my whole point let me see if i'm following

00:29:19.700 this okay are you telling me that you're upset because i don't have a strong desire to clean

00:29:23.580 dishes no i'm upset because you don't have a strong desire to offer to do the dishes i just did

00:29:28.540 after i asked you guys women love this movie we do jesus brooke you're acting crazy again don't you

00:29:35.440 call me crazy i am not crazy i didn't call you crazy i didn't call you crazy no i didn't i said

00:29:39.960 you're acting crazy you know what gary i asked you to do one thing today one very simple thing to bring

00:29:44.440 me 12 lemons and you brought me three damn it if i knew that it was going to be this much trouble

00:29:49.360 i would have brought home 24 lemons even a hundred i know what i wish i wish everyone that was at that

00:29:53.780 goddamn table had their own little private bag of lemons it's not about the lemons well that's all

00:29:57.540 you're talking about i'm just saying it'd be nice if you did things that i asked it would be even

00:30:01.640 nicer if you did things without me having to ask you please read my mind read my mind and do

00:30:07.760 whatever i say well i do seem to remember doing something for you this morning without you asking

00:30:13.160 gary come on i'm serious no i'm serious i really am come on you knew i was working today and i made

00:30:20.640 that meal and you could have thought to yourself you know what you could have said you know i think

00:30:25.540 i'm gonna get brooke some flowers you said on our very first date that you don't like flowers that

00:30:31.140 they're a waste of money every girl likes flowers gary you say that you don't like flowers i'm supposed

00:30:35.240 to take that to mean that you do like flowers no this is not about you're not you're you're that you're

00:30:39.640 not getting it you're not getting this gary okay it's not about the lemon he's soaking okay it's not

00:30:44.540 about the flowers it's not about the dishes it's just how many times do i have to drop hints about

00:30:49.260 the ballet you know i can't stay brooke come here we talked about the damn ballet i hate the goddamn

00:30:55.220 ballet you got a bunch of dudes in tights flopping around for three hours it's like a medieval techno

00:30:59.680 show it's a nightmare if i sit there in a sweat the whole thing i do it wondering when the hell's

00:31:03.200 the goddamn nightmare gonna end going on with damn ballet it's not about you loving the ballet gary

00:31:07.100 it's about the person that you love loves the ballet and you want to spend time with that person

00:31:11.740 not when they're at the ballet forget the ballet forget the ballet we don't go anywhere together

00:31:16.780 we just went to ann arbor together to ann arbor to the michigan notre dame game you think you think

00:31:24.020 screaming drunk kids and leprechauns doing backflips that's fun that's fun for me come on man i did that

00:31:30.800 for you what do you how do you show up for me i'm up on the bus every goddamn day come on i'm busting

00:31:36.840 my ass to be the best tour guide in the damn city so i can make enough money to support both of us

00:31:41.260 and hopefully you won't have to work one day i want to work all i ask brooke is that you show a

00:31:46.200 little bit of appreciation that i just get 20 minutes to relax when i come home instead of being

00:31:50.800 attacked with questions and nag the whole damn thing you think that i nag you that's all you do

00:31:56.600 all you do is nag me the bathroom's a mess your belt doesn't match hey gary you should probably go

00:32:01.740 work out nothing i ever do is ever good enough i just want to be left the hell alone

Pearl - April 06, 2025

The Epidemic Of Modern Women SHAMING Their Husbands On Social Media ｜ Pearl Daily

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