Pearl - November 22, 2024


The Female Fantasy Exposed： Why Women Love Toxic Love Stories ｜ Pearl Daily


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In this episode, we discuss the modern woman fantasy and how they are brainwashed by the media and the way they are presented to us in movies and TV shows. We also discuss how women are being brainwashed in media and TV.

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00:00:00.000 So to start today, I want to have a section of the show dedicated to media brainwashing
00:00:07.620 and catering towards women, right? So let's talk about female fantasies. When you think of
00:00:14.460 movies that are catered to women, I think of Titanic. I think of The Notebook. I think of
00:00:21.800 Scandal is another one. And when you look at the videos and the movies that are popular amongst
00:00:27.840 women, Fifty Shades of Grey, right? You can come to conclusions about female nature the same way 1.00
00:00:33.820 you can come to conclusions about male nature by the videos that go viral amongst men. James Bond,
00:00:40.380 there's hot women, big boobs, skinny, attractive, and it's a guy going on an adventure. Same thing 0.97
00:00:46.820 with Transformers, right? Cars, guy going on an adventure, hot woman. You can gather some things. 0.99
00:00:53.360 Now, I want to first talk about The Notebook. So The Notebook is a movie that resonated with women 1.00
00:01:00.400 across America. And what happened was there was a woman named Rachel who had her summer love in high
00:01:08.280 school. And she falls in love with this boy. And this is them together. So let me show you.
00:01:13.500 After that night, Allie and Noah spent every waking hour together. And soon, they were
00:01:20.420 accepted. That's really nice. Here we go on the count of three, okay? Really? Okay, ready? One,
00:01:27.880 two, two, three. Get in the water! Get in! Get in the water, baby. Baby, would you get in? Get in the water! 0.97
00:01:35.980 Get in the water! Get in the water! Get in the water! They didn't agree on much. In fact,
00:01:45.020 they rarely agreed on anything. They fought all the time. And they challenged each other every day.
00:01:51.220 But despite their difference... Yeah. So remember, this is exciting to us. I don't know what it is
00:01:56.180 about the female psychology, right? But we, the on again, off again, the toxic, it's very exciting. 1.00
00:02:03.000 So it's a young love. They're fighting, but they're in love. Yada, yada. Okay. Now, you
00:02:09.880 know, we continue and they break up. And so this is the breakup scene. So they're in high
00:02:16.140 school and they graduate and now they're breaking out.
00:02:18.500 Hey, you leave me. I'm so sorry. I don't even know what to say. I'm nervous.
00:02:22.880 You're like, it's all right. I know. It's not. Yeah. No.
00:02:28.380 I'm gonna go. No, I don't want you to go. Think about this stuff.
00:02:32.000 What do you gotta think about? Come here. Talk to me. Talk to me.
00:02:36.880 About what? You wanna? You're going away. You're leaving. I'm staying here. And I'm so happy that you're doing that.
00:02:42.380 So again, it's the, the modern woman fantasy, right? Leave, you know, she could pursue a family, 1.00
00:02:49.620 but the fantasy in a lot of these movies is the woman pursuing whatever dream she has. So this
00:02:55.460 girl wants to be an actress. I'm gonna have a million things to do. You got so much ahead of
00:03:00.200 you. Don't talk like that. It's true. I'm not gonna have nice things, fancy things. It doesn't,
00:03:06.900 it's never gonna happen for me. It's not in the cards for me. I don't have to go to school, okay?
00:03:11.700 Yes, you do. I can stay here. No. Do you see? That's exactly what I'm talking about.
00:03:15.720 Then you can come with me. To New York? Yes. What am I gonna do in New York? Are you with me?
00:03:20.900 We all gotta figure all this out tonight. Finish out the summer and we'll see what happens.
00:03:24.480 Are you saying? I'm saying we'll see how it goes later on. Are you breaking up with me?
00:03:28.220 I don't see how it's gonna work. I see. Please don't do this. You don't mean it. Oh hell,
00:03:33.860 well, if you're gonna do it, why wait until the summer ends? Why don't you just do it right now?
00:03:39.080 Come on. Do it. Do it. Do it. No. Do it. No. Stop it. Oh. You know what? I'm gonna do it. It's over.
00:03:49.500 Okay? It's over. Don't touch me. I hate you. I hate you. Why don't you just go. Get down.
00:03:56.800 Okay. Yeah. So obviously she's assaulting him. No one bats an eye as usual. Okay. So
00:04:03.600 next, you know, she goes off to New York. She becomes this actress. I think she's a nurse at
00:04:10.300 one point. I don't know. Who cares? Now she continues to follow her dreams and she meets
00:04:17.280 another guy. And again, it's the same story, just in a different way. This guy is the safe guy.
00:04:22.960 So she went out, she lived her dreams, and she found, you know, Mr. Right, Mr. Prince Charming.
00:04:29.900 I think you have to marry me. I think you need to marry me. I do. Yes, you do. Because
00:04:37.680 if you do, your parents will always know the unhappiness that you feel for not being able
00:04:41.900 to disappoint. I think you may have overlooked one line of detail. What's that? Well, you
00:04:47.060 see, you have to get the permission first. And I think you may have overestimated their picture
00:04:51.720 thing. Is that right? Oh, I don't think so. Oh, why not? Oh, because I asked them already,
00:04:56.300 and they said yes. What? One more thing. I love you. Will you marry me? I know I kid
00:05:02.840 around a lot, but I'm crazy about you. Marry me? I mean, he even looks like the guy in Titanic,
00:05:08.480 right? And it's the same thing. Rich, wealthy man, a good looking, nice ring. Make me the happiest
00:05:15.540 man in the world. And boom, they get engaged. Yes, yes. Where are you going? Oh, mama.
00:05:22.320 I'm going to stop the man. Excuse me. I'd like everyone here to know that this young lady and I
00:05:28.520 are getting married. She has a challenge though. She is still in love with the ex, just like the
00:05:35.240 woman in Titanic, right? When women get a guy on a certain level. And by the way, each woman,
00:05:41.040 it's different. Some women like the drug dealers, right? Their dream guy is some thug down the street. 1.00
00:05:47.340 I don't know. Other women, maybe they, you know, they like the farmers. So their dream guy is the 1.00
00:05:54.080 archetype in this one, which he's kind of like a farmer type of guy. Other women, it's, it depends 1.00
00:06:00.460 on the woman, right? But it's, there's a reason this stuff blows up for women because they resignate. 1.00
00:06:07.960 It resonates with many women. Now, Rachel's getting all excited to get married until one day she sees her 0.97
00:06:16.320 ex-boyfriend in the newspaper. So look at her. 1.00
00:06:19.780 Is it there too much? Are you kidding? You look perfect.
00:06:22.920 You look gorgeous, honey. Wait until God sees you in this dress. He won't be able to take his eyes off 0.99
00:06:30.760 or his hair. Have you seen this morning's paper? The Daily Journal says that you are going to be the
00:06:37.460 social holly of the season. Of the season? This is going to be a celebration of life,
00:06:41.500 which this time has never seen.
00:06:44.060 She didn't plan. She blocked. 1.00
00:06:48.360 Mama, look, the governor's coming.
00:06:50.120 You better. Let me see.
00:06:55.260 Oh, boy.
00:06:55.920 So she fainted. She saw the ex-boyfriend and this is a challenge today, right? Because in the old days
00:07:07.600 before social media, the women could, I mean, maybe they would date the sailor or the whatever 1.00
00:07:14.840 the bad boy was in their time. Let's not, I get really tired of women of the past acting like they 1.00
00:07:20.740 were that different. It was the same thing. I mean, there's that woman that goes around on these 0.96
00:07:26.200 different college campuses saying that she used to be a whore. I forgot her name, but the one with 1.00
00:07:30.940 the gray hair and she's like, I was a whore in college. I mean, she's saying that same stuff was 0.97
00:07:38.000 going on in the seventies that it was today. I mean, right. But the thing is, again, even older women, 0.99
00:07:44.440 they use this plausible deniability. It wasn't like that when I was young, whatever, ladies. 0.99
00:07:49.460 Anyways, so the difference was social media exacerbated it, right? So social media before
00:07:57.480 the women could date the guy and, you know, she'd kind of forget because she'd never see him again. 0.68
00:08:04.580 But now our exes are at the click of a button. It takes two seconds to check in. So that makes
00:08:11.840 this problem worse. Yeah. So now she's thinking, I miss him so much. What do I do? You know,
00:08:19.460 and you've got to think from the woman's point of view, you know, she's got love, she's got money. 0.98
00:08:23.900 What does she pick? She goes back and cheats on her husband. Have you noticed how all of the female 1.00
00:08:29.020 fantasy movies are women cheating? Titanic. She's cheating. I mean, 50 shades of gray, I guess she's 1.00
00:08:35.140 not cheating, but it's the same female fantasy. This hot guy with an emotional side. That's just,
00:08:41.340 you know, doing all the BDSM, you know, I mean, that book was one of the most popular books ever
00:08:48.740 amongst women. And this is one of the most popular movies ever amongst women. So it shows you the
00:08:55.720 female struggle, which is, I need security for the rest of my life. I need security for children. 1.00
00:09:01.960 And I also, but I'm more attracted to these other type of guys. So they hook up, right? And this is
00:09:11.300 the fight they have because she's trying to decide whether to go back to her husband or her fiance or
00:09:17.920 stay with the ex-boyfriend. I see you got my letters, finally. What are you going to do, Al?
00:09:27.180 I don't know. We're back to that. Are we back there? What about the past couple of days?
00:09:32.040 They happen, you know? I know that they happen and they were wonderful,
00:09:35.280 but they were also very irresponsible. I have a fiance waiting for me at a hotel who's going to be
00:09:40.320 crushed when he finds out what I did. So you make love to me and then you go back to your husband?
00:09:43.920 Was that your plan? Was that a test that I don't pass? No, I made a promise to a man. He gave me
00:09:49.160 a ring and I gave him my word. And your word is shot to hell now, don't you think? I don't know. 0.98
00:09:52.980 I'll find out when I talk to him. This is not about keeping your promise and it's not about
00:09:57.060 following your heart. It's about security. What is that supposed to mean? Money! What are you
00:10:02.020 talking? He's got a lot of money. Now I hate you, you slow bastard. Well, I hate you. If you leave here,
00:10:06.520 I hate you. Why are you paying attention to anything that's been happening? I guess not. I think I must have
00:10:11.280 misread all of those signals. I guess you did. You're bored. You're bored and you know it. You
00:10:15.420 wouldn't be here if there wasn't something missing. Now remember, women love this fight scene, 1.00
00:10:21.820 right? This is viral on TikTok, Twitter. This is one of the most viral parts of the movie. We love
00:10:29.700 this. Why? Because it speaks to female psychology, right? He's saying you're bored. It's money. And deep 0.89
00:10:38.140 down. A lot of women know they're with their husbands for security. I'm not saying that's 0.91
00:10:41.960 right or wrong, right? I mean, you got to think of kids. Not every woman can be with a husband that 1.00
00:10:46.940 she loves. You know, there's just not enough of them to go around. Sadly, right? So I'm not saying
00:10:53.040 it's right or wrong, but I'm saying this is the female struggle, right? Do you pick more chaotic guy 1.00
00:11:01.160 that you love more? Or do you pick the safer guy? That's what women are struggling with. That's what we see 1.00
00:11:07.240 the, or should women go for security or excitement? And a lot of women dream about going for excitement, 1.00
00:11:15.420 but they can't because we live in the real world. And I'm sorry, Diane, your drug dealer boyfriend
00:11:21.460 just is not going to, I know you love him, but it's just not going to work. It's just, you know what I
00:11:26.280 mean? When this plays out in real life, it's like, no, you know, like Brianna chicken fry. No, Brianna,
00:11:32.720 that's not going to work long term with a celebrity, right? That's, that's never going to work. You'd be a lot
00:11:41.000 better to go work for your guy next door. And then she says, no, no, I want the celebrity. Please God, I can't
00:11:49.980 have an, you know, that's the female struggle. Would you just stay with me? Stay with you? What for? Look at us. 0.99
00:11:57.140 We're already fighting. Well, that's what we do. We fight. You tell me when I'm being an arrogant son
00:12:01.480 of a bitch. And I tell you when you're being a pain in the ass, which you are 99% of the time. 1.00
00:12:06.540 I'm not afraid to hurt your feelings. They have like a two second rebound rate and you're back 1.00
00:12:11.320 doing the next pain in the ass thing. So again, that's the guy that's not afraid to hurt her 0.99
00:12:16.820 feelings, right? This speaks to female psychology. We don't like guys that are run by our emotions 1.00
00:12:22.560 or they do, or we do for until the second kid comes around. Then we start running.
00:12:29.200 So what? So it's not going to be easy. It's going to be really hard. And we're going to have to work
00:12:33.400 at this every day, but I want to do that because I want you. I want all of you forever. You and me
00:12:39.380 every day. Will you do something for me, please? You just picture your life for me 30 years from now,
00:12:45.340 40 years from now. What's it look like? If it's with that guy, go, go. I lost you once. I think I
00:12:52.420 could do it again. If I thought it's what you really wanted, but don't you take the easy way
00:12:56.320 out. And this is how a lot of guys feel, right? Because a lot of guys will hook up with a woman
00:13:01.560 for years or date her for years. And she goes for a different guy. That's completely not their type,
00:13:07.560 her type. And it's almost like the ex knows that's not what she really wants, but it's what,
00:13:15.540 I mean, most women are not going to get both. Most women's both doesn't even exist to be fair. I mean, 1.00
00:13:22.000 we've been, you know, we're shown these, I would actually put these two at equal attractiveness
00:13:26.800 levels, but the uglier the woman and the more attractive the man, the more viral the movie's
00:13:32.800 going to go for women. So, I mean, would you guys agree in the chat there? I would say these two are 0.99
00:13:38.020 equally attractive or close. Are we agreeing? Easy way. There is no easy way. No matter what I do,
00:13:44.560 somebody gets hurt. Would you stop thinking about what everyone wants? Stop thinking about what I want,
00:13:49.200 what he wants, what your parents want. What do you want? What do you want? It's not that simple.
00:13:54.280 What do you want? What do you want? I have to go. It's kind of, I think this is the trad cons
00:14:00.940 argument. The women are like, we want to be mothers. And the trad cons are like, what do you want? 0.81
00:14:07.560 And I'm like, guys, they want to party. I mean, it's, we just, it's too much fun to not. Okay.
00:14:12.980 Okay. Now the end of the movie. Hold on. So this is the end of the movie. Let me show you guys.
00:14:18.540 Poor fiance. The way I see it, I got three choices. He did everything right. I mean,
00:14:24.020 he shouted to the whole room. He was going to marry her. One, I can shoot him. Two, 0.58
00:14:29.180 I can kick the crap out of him. Or three, I leave you. But all that's no good. You see, 1.00
00:14:35.140 because none of those options get me in. In spite of everything, I love you.
00:14:38.720 I love you too. I meant what I said when I gave you that ring. I did too. I did too. It's just that
00:14:45.120 when I'm, when I'm with Noah, I feel like one person. And when I'm with you, I feel like someone
00:14:49.540 totally different. It's normal not to forget your first love. I love you, but I want you for myself.
00:14:55.180 I don't want to have to convince my fiance that she should be with me. You don't have to do.
00:14:59.640 I already know I should be with you. And they lived happily ever after.
00:15:04.680 Who? Who did?
00:15:08.720 And there it is. The female fantasy in five minutes. I wish everyone could see this
00:15:34.920 is what's going on with society. Well, why? Okay. Why did feminists fight so hard for no 1.00
00:15:40.840 fault divorce, for abortion, for all of this stuff? And to be fair, most of the exes in this scenario,
00:15:46.620 and this is what guys don't understand, because they look at us as logical. We're just not logical
00:15:52.020 beings. They're like that guy. I have all of these things. I'm better than him in every way.
00:15:57.840 Like, can you imagine this guy, the rich guy? He's thinking, I have my own company. I'm attractive.
00:16:04.640 I'm taller than him. And you're leaving me for this guy in this small... Like, we don't make sense,
00:16:12.620 right? That's what feminism's fighting for at its course. It's so women don't have to be with men 1.00
00:16:19.200 they don't like. That's the female fantasy. But unfortunately, who we like changes day by day, 1.00
00:16:26.060 and we just, you know, women, right?
00:16:30.200 I remember it was us. It was us.
00:16:32.980 Oh, my darling. Oh, my sweetheart.
00:16:35.980 Oh, my God. I love you so much.
00:16:38.040 So, I mean, you can learn a lot from the genders by looking at what's popular. Like, okay, look at this
00:16:43.840 in a different way. Why do women like The Handmaid's Tale? Why do women like The Handmaid's 1.00
00:16:49.720 Tale? Why do women like serial killers? Like, why do we watch all the serial killer documentaries? 1.00
00:16:55.800 Number one, excitement. And why do women write letters to Ted Bundy? You know, thank you so much
00:17:01.760 for watching, guys. Please like the video on your way out and subscribe to the channel.
00:17:05.760 I love you guys, and I'll see you next time.