Pearl - May 12, 2026


The Female ＂Purity＂ LARP

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purity culture
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In this episode, we are reacting to modern women and purity culture. Women today are more modern than ever before and there are many reasons why it s a good idea to wait till marriage to have sex with your husband.

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00:00:00 if you're really gonna think about it and ask about it then you probably should be doing it
00:00:02 it's not a seesaw i'll weigh in okay but like okay we gotta start with the number one problem
00:00:07 which is women talking what up guys welcome to my reaction series today we are reacting to modern
00:00:13 women and purity culture so we have an issue with women today women are modern meaning we behave in 0.60
00:00:18 a modern way and even women that convince themselves that they're traditional they still 0.99
00:00:21 behave in a very modern way so we travel alone we do life alone we go to college alone um when a 0.98
00:00:27 traditional woman does life with someone else. So they get married young. And young is 18 to 25. 0.96
00:00:33 Even in some time periods, it was as young as 16. But in the modern time period, if you are
00:00:38 traditional, you're getting married from 18 to 25. You're staying for life. That's the traditional 0.51
00:00:43 action. Now I'm not here to say one's better than the other. I've seen people get married young and
00:00:48 get cooked. I've seen people get married old and be okay or get cooked. I've seen too much. I've
00:00:53 just i've seen a lot in my life uh but the issue what happens is these women don't behave in a 1.00
00:00:58 traditional way but they want pure outcomes um they want traditional outcomes so they want to 1.00
00:01:04 not work for life but they're not willing to exchange their youth um for that so it becomes
00:01:10 this kind of inverted thing where the guy is like more pure than the woman which is just um
00:01:17 not a good look somebody waiting for marriage you probably think oh they're probably really
00:01:22 religious but I bet you I can convince you from a period so she's saying I'm pure and she's got 0.99
00:01:27 like fake nails um her shirt's a size too too small um little belly going on there and again
00:01:34 I'm not I'm not really I want to be clear I'm not a stickler for uh I don't dress the most modest
00:01:41 you know I mean I grew up in volleyball so spandex everywhere I don't really care about it
00:01:48 but what i don't like is the jesus cross it's like you can't claim purity and do unpure things
00:01:55 or you can't expect pure outcomes and do unpure things you know secular standpoint
00:02:01 why it makes so much sense and the more i think about it the more sense it makes now the reason 0.95
00:02:06 a lot of religious women um when you have sex with a guy first um it gives him leverage 1.00
00:02:12 and power over you both emotionally he gives the power to ruin your reputation a lot of them it's 0.71
00:02:19 really not about um god it's not about being a good person it's not even about saving themselves
00:02:25 for their husband it's having more control over the outcome and femininity in itself um when a
00:02:31 woman submits to a guy she submits to his rules not the church's rules so a woman's going to be 0.98
00:02:37 more feminine if she obeys what the man says rather than what you know the church says or the 1.00
00:02:42 Bible says. You know, that's where like a lot of churches kind of get in the way of a marriage 1.00
00:02:47 because the woman's listening to the pastor or the rules, not the man. And so a lot of times when
00:02:52 they want to wait till marriage, it's not really, it's just about getting their way. Like I want
00:02:57 commitment for life. So, you know, instead of like being a nicer person to achieve it, they just take
00:03:02 sex off the table. Number one, you are protected from a lustful man that cannot control his desires
00:03:09 and has no self-control so again a lot of these women are really hypocritical so they'll say oh 0.94
00:03:14 i'm i'm uh like she implies that she's not lustful come on chica i know if brad pitt or whoever your 0.96
00:03:21 celebrity crush is walks in the room you're gonna feel some type of way you might look you know
00:03:26 really women show their lust with the way our eyes you know we give them i don't know i can't i can't
00:03:31 do it now but but you know what i mean like the i don't know that one that one you know so a lot 0.57
00:03:37 of women call men lustful because okay they look at corn but how many women would throw back
00:03:42 immediately for their celebrity crush if he's waiting till marriage you know if he can a man
00:03:49 that can control his lust can also probably control other things his anger his impulsiveness
00:03:57 so yeah but a lot of times what happens is a lot of times these guys get older and they just crash
00:04:03 out because they think they're going to get something. A lot of times people, including
00:04:08 myself, all people do things because they want a certain outcome. Like they work hard because they
00:04:13 want to make more money. And this is a completely logical thing. So a lot of people, uh, wait till
00:04:19 marriage because they want a certain outcome. They want love. And then a lot of these guys find
00:04:24 out, uh, they get nothing in return and then they crash out. Already from that, you're filtering out
00:04:30 a lot of people with poor character qualities character traits sorry you are not clouded by
00:04:38 sexual attraction or lust during the time that you get to know here's the thing um sexual
00:04:43 attraction is really the only thing that gives men leverage in 2026 everything else women can 0.59
00:04:48 get money they can go on sugar dating apps it's cooked outside of that sorry fellas i'm so bonded
00:04:54 to this person because i've been so intimate with this person because let's be real i don't care what
00:04:59 you say I don't care how casual people try to make sex it's not casual it's not at all I mean
00:05:04 you are letting okay I have a thought and this is a thought I came up with this weekend okay
00:05:09 I was talking to somebody about um how you know I think women crave variety more than men and they
00:05:16 were saying no that's not true do men want to eat like do you want to eat the same food every day
00:05:21 and I thought about it and I'm like you know what men actually literally do I was thinking I'm like 0.96
00:05:26 men love routine and i'm like i think even when a guy has hoes like he likes some routine in his 0.98
00:05:32 own like okay any guy that's dated me that the guy the girl they date after is always another 0.97
00:05:38 redhead like it's always and i'm like did i start even if i was the first redhead they dated it's
00:05:43 like now they're on the redhead train and i'm like did i create a routine for these guys so anyways
00:05:51 um for for her um yeah uh sorry that's just a thought process i had and i'm curious about you
00:05:59 guys's opinions on that just as guys um i think women because i was thinking about it more men
00:06:05 when given the chance i think choose um monogamy rather than variety and no women are choosing
00:06:13 monogamy because all women pretty much have the opportunity to get married young with one guy for
00:06:18 life and we don't pick it so anyways into the most intimate intimate now like we call men the
00:06:25 horn dogs i'm like i think women are the horn dogs like okay i go to my gym and at my gym there's so
00:06:32 many girls that are like half naked right they're literally like half naked and i see more guys like 0.99
00:06:37 ignoring the naked like i can't ignore it i'm like do you guys see your ass dude um yeah so 0.98
00:06:44 it part of you as a being and i i think everybody can acknowledge that this is not a casual thing 0.98
00:06:54 this is not a whatever thing we may like to act like it in today's society it's not it just means
00:07:01 she got burned she found some giga chad who didn't like her back what up guys have you ever wanted 0.99
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00:07:38 first grade it's not i was losing my earlier point yeah you oh you also avoid having that bond with
00:07:46 the wrong people and so when you wait you avoid having to heal from having that connection with
00:07:55 somebody right because the person that you end up sleeping with is going to be your life partner
00:08:00 also I had a I had a friend ask me at dinner once she was like what would you do if you ever
00:08:10 got pregnant with your boyfriend I was like that wouldn't happen think about it if you wait okay 1.00
00:08:18 if you here's another thing they say oh no like an accidental pregnancy I'm like are you stupid 0.99
00:08:23 I mean honestly there's so much information out there now and to not get pregnant 1.00
00:08:28 so much technology i i literally think as a woman if you didn't plan it you just are low iq
00:08:36 we're not the most intelligent to have sex until you're married when you get married you're already 0.97
00:08:42 kind of saying you're in a position to where okay i'm able to raise a child and take care of a child
00:08:47 and have a team of a mom and a dad to raise a child and support this child so the the thought
00:08:55 of oh my gosh what would i do if i got pregnant you know what would i decide that's not even a
00:09:02 thought because when i get married to somebody i'm saying okay we are stable enough to get married
00:09:10 we're probably stable enough to raise a child so that's an issue that's not you to understand see 0.74
00:09:16 women care more about the title than an action because being a wife right that's an action 1.00
00:09:20 that means being loyal being supportive um you can be a wife before you're married i know women 1.00
00:09:27 that aren't married but they're more wifely than married that's why the the title wife has just
00:09:33 it's meaningless now i hate to say it it is completely meaningless because um these guys 1.00
00:09:40 just give it to anybody i swear i swear um i've just seen so many women that are just terrible
00:09:47 wives so they care more about like the title of a wife than being a wife so what she's saying is 1.00
00:09:53 i want to do no work even thought about when i want to i want to give you none of my sexuality 1.00
00:09:59 i want to i want to give you no leverage and i want the title and men will sign up in droves
00:10:05 wait making the wrong bonds not an issue when you wait being so intimate with somebody the wrong
00:10:14 person not an issue when you wait i don't to be honest um you can wait till marriage and still
00:10:19 marry the wrong person all that work for one and don't try to tell me and also people make wrong
00:10:26 decisions because they want to have sex so bad so they don't see like oh my gosh that's so common
00:10:31 in christian churches like they want to have sex so they just get married and then after it's like 0.85
00:10:37 post not clarity you know oh well what if they end up being bad in bed you have gone through every 0.87
00:10:46 issue up until the point you got married you think you can't learn each other in bed practice
00:10:52 makes perfect the freak you think you can find somebody you bond so deeply on an emotional level
00:10:59 an intellectual level a personal level and you can't handle some issues in the bedroom
00:11:04 and even if they never got fixed sex isn't everything i just it just makes so much sense
00:11:10 it just makes so much sense to wait and i never yeah so okay she's she's sick of taking alice 0.99
00:11:18 because she's not likable and instead of improving her likability score um she would like to 0.99
00:11:23 uh do a rebrand and get the title and then find some sim dating we value purity above everything
00:11:30 physical purity, emotional purity, purity in your heart and in your thoughts, and physical purity
00:11:35 when you're not dating is really easy. If the other person tempts you even a little bit, you can't do
00:11:41 it. Both people have to be so on the same page that you don't even want that person to even
00:11:46 remotely get there. People always ask, what's the line? And I realized it's literally about your
00:11:52 heart, the position of your heart, the desires of your heart, who has the affection of your heart,
00:11:57 because no we didn't cross any boundaries no nothing happened but i realized that purity isn't
00:12:02 about what you do it's about what's in your heart so devoted to jesus and i love the sacrifice that
00:12:07 i'm making to like managing that's not the sacrifice jesus is asking for he doesn't want
00:12:13 you sitting there being like oh i wish i could no it's a thank you jesus i get to make this
00:12:17 sacrifice incredible women talking about purity with a face full of makeup i'm not judging i have
00:12:22 a little makeup on myself right i'm not judge i'm not judging but do you guys not see the
00:12:27 contradiction do you see what i mean it's just like insulting my intelligence i think that's 1.00
00:12:33 what's so insulting about tradcon women is is they're insulting your intelligence because 0.99
00:12:37 they're like oh purity purity purity and i'm like do you not do you think i'm stupid i look 1.00
00:12:42 the improvement of our relationship the purity that we're walking in now there is no confusion 0.76
00:12:50 there's no arguments it's only yeah there's gonna be no arguments in a relationship with a woman
00:12:56 give me a break this and confidence in each other in ourselves and it's natural these things are
00:13:01 natural but if you don't even let yourself awake in that part and go there and trust me if i can
00:13:07 do it you can do it i promise you that it just sows discord between you when there's any bit of
00:13:12 impurity i can't believe once again jesus does what he says he's gonna do it's not by accident
00:13:18 peace comes from obeying it does peace comes from yeah they're like obeying god and god is gonna
00:13:24 tell you to do exactly what i want you to do what about what your husband wants um well there's a 0.99
00:13:30 mutual submission okay let's see what this girl doesn't begin with just avoiding sex because you
00:13:35 can avoid sin and still not be pure and hearted matthew 5 8 says blessed are the pure in heart
00:13:38 for they shall so this is how cope because they're like oh well i have a purer heart
00:13:44 because i i didn't avoid sex but i still have a purer heart than you it's like cope
00:13:48 just cope elsewhere. You know, it's okay, ladies, just take that L.
00:13:54 Purity starts with your heart because it's tangibly allowing the Holy Spirit to change
00:13:57 your desires in your way so that when you look at someone, you're not just thinking of avoiding sin
00:14:01 with them. You're viewing them through the eyes that God had when he made them. Avoiding sin will
00:14:05 only cause you to think more about sin because we become what we behold. And if we're only
00:14:08 entertaining, oh, I got to stop. Oh, I got to stop. I can't do that. It's going to create a relationship
00:14:12 where you don't actually see God as a sustainer. You see him as a punisher. When you are in a place
00:14:17 where you are allowing the holy spirit to make you pure begin to remove things from your life
00:14:21 that used to cause you to think those things and every time you get a thought of lust or you get
00:14:25 a thought of impurity yeah you just got to get married look at this the solving for purity 0.70
00:14:29 culture is get married but here's the thing they still want to assist women in being hypergamous
00:14:34 so again it's either we want to solve purity culture whatever and so we're going to do 0.62
00:14:39 arranged marriages and then the women you say you're arranged marriage or get out so again 0.97
00:14:44 you're forcing women to have sex with men they don't want to you can either you know swallow
00:14:49 that and i i can kind of understand why people wouldn't want to do that i'm kind of i'm kind of
00:14:54 agnostic i see the side in both so i think i drive some of my audience crazy because they're like
00:14:59 pearl do you just agree with the arranged marriage and i'm like but there's nothing like you know
00:15:05 a woman that wants to be there because she loves him i don't know so anyways you say hey i'm weak
00:15:11 but you are strong you're giving God his rightful position to correct you so that when you see sin 0.99
00:15:15 when you come yeah but I just I think all women have to be corrected through a man not God I mean 0.99
00:15:20 like God has to work through the man because you are just are never as a woman going to be corrected 0.98
00:15:25 by anybody else about purity purity is actually more of a heart posture than it is a physical
00:15:30 posture first and foremost I just made a video about sex before marriage so go watch that first
00:15:35 what if I'm a committed relationship and I really love my person or like what if we know we're going
00:15:39 to get married well you're not married yet and you never know what's gonna happen so just hold
00:15:43 off so many times we like ask the question like how much can i do without sinning like i'm the 0.99
00:15:48 fake nails how much is full of makeup it's too far in a relationship like women don't understand
00:15:54 it's modesty is a virtue right so it's not living in a super frivolous way and we all do you know 0.97
00:16:02 or in general i've heard this analogy and y'all probably heard it too but it's not about how close
00:16:07 we can get to the line but it's how far we should stay away from the line so people ask like okay
00:16:12 well i can't have sex can i do x y and z y'all know what i'm talking about see when you're doing
00:16:16 that stuff you're actually still exposing yourself in such an intimate way that is still only for your
00:16:22 future spouse like you are still being so vulnerable and intimate with someone else
00:16:26 when that is created for your spouse first corinthians 6 18 says run from all sexual sin
00:16:32 no other sin so clearly affects the body as this one does for sexual immorality is a sin against
00:16:37 your own body and i said that in my other video but it says all it says run from all sexual
00:16:42 immorality not just sex and that includes self-pleasure y'all sorry our hearts on our
00:16:48 intention should always be to stay peer in everything our hearts behind it should always
00:16:52 be like okay how can i glorify god in my relationship and not how can i get so close to
00:17:01 pleasure or get so close to sin but like not sinning if you're really gonna think about it
00:17:06 and ask about it then you probably should be doing it it's not a seesaw i'll weigh in okay 0.99
00:17:10 but like okay we gotta start with the number one problem which is women talking and and so 0.78
00:17:16 so it's like how could you uh you as a woman it's not in your authority to tell men what to do
00:17:22 or really anybody i could give my observations as a woman but yeah you can't purity is more than not
00:17:29 having sex is abstaining from sex outside of marriage sure but it's such a cope it's also
00:17:33 the purification of my vessel it's learning that this thing is a temple for the holy spirit to live
00:17:37 and dwell so i start getting convicted about what i put in my lips what i consume with my eyes
00:17:42 not that convicted because i see botox lip filler and obviously you're slightly overweight so again
00:17:50 what i hear with my ears it's like drake will come on when we're in our workout class and it's
00:17:55 not that i'm no fun i'm just like hearing the p word and the f word and i'm like oh oh ah like i 0.63
00:18:00 just i want to remain this is just so fake you guys are too old to signal purity at all you're
00:18:06 and you know the bible says to have a childlike faith or don't bother like just become childlike
00:18:11 and i think when we think of child we think of innocence we think of purity if you and your
00:18:14 husband or you and your friend are watching an r-rated movie and it's a sex scene or a fighting
00:18:19 scene or a war scene and it's just not really it's just normal it's become normalized but say
00:18:23 your two-year-old's upstairs you hear him start coming down the stairs what do you do you're like
00:18:26 grasping for the remote you're like turn it off because what purity entered the room right all
00:18:30 of a sudden this conviction grows you're like turn it off we don't want to taint the expression of 0.77
00:18:34 this okay let me just stop giving women microphones i know that's hypocritical when it comes to whole
00:18:41 conspiracy think about what tick tock it did it gave women microphones everywhere oh my god we
00:18:46 gotta sue whoever made tick tock as a christian woman i think it's super important that we're
00:18:52 transparent about the struggles for me personally my biggest challenge is other people's opinions
00:18:58 who don't share the same faith as me so i've had comments like it's a waste no man's ever
00:19:04 gonna wait for you you're gonna really struggle to find a man and you know if you're not careful
00:19:11 those voices can become really loud so i have to remember did it the purity pure way or you didn't
00:19:18 And if you didn't, it's time to start giving it away for free, ladies. 0.99
00:19:21 Yup. 1.00
00:19:22 Free trials.
00:19:24 Mind myself all the time that these. 0.99
00:19:26 Oh, but Pearl. 0.88
00:19:27 Oh, but Pearl.
00:19:28 Like, that's not the solution.
00:19:30 I'm like, yeah, it is. 1.00
00:19:31 For a single. 1.00
00:19:32 If you have a single mother, go F yourself if you tell her to wait till marriage. 0.99
00:19:37 I mean, honestly, and over a certain age, I would say the same thing. 1.00
00:19:40 You can go to, you can go straight to hell in a handbasket. 1.00
00:19:44 Straight to hell in a handbasket. 0.99
00:19:45 we've come from people that haven't experienced the grace the forgiveness the love and the strength
00:19:53 that i have from jesus christ it can be really easy to fall into a judgmental mindset and other
00:20:00 people's opinions and allow them to become louder than what god is saying over your life but the
00:20:06 bible calls us to be compassionate to not judge and not hold resentment as christians we're called
00:20:11 to walk differently from the world. We're called to walk in obedience, to share the word on how we
00:20:17 live and let God's glory. Yeah. Okay. Yeah. I'm face full of makeup. All of them harmed my
00:20:24 relationships, armed my relationship with myself so much that I want to talk about it. She's talking
00:20:29 about purity culture ruined her life. This is my experience. It doesn't have to be yours. I grew up
00:20:33 in a home where we were taught you weren't supposed to have before marriage. There was
00:20:38 another conversation on what was allowed, what is not allowed, what does it mean to kiss someone,
00:20:44 what does it mean to be in a relationship, what does it mean to like someone. I had a very
00:20:48 prescriptive idea on what it means to be intimate with someone. Based on what I was taught at home
00:20:54 and in the church, I thought that everything besides you know what was okay. And so I didn't
00:21:00 really have any feeling behind anything that I did. I thought well as long as I don't do this
00:21:05 and it's fine but i didn't realize that everything that they do gluck gluck 9000 back door i mean
00:21:11 there there's always a workaround you share with someone even a kiss like holding hands
00:21:16 that can be intimate and i ended up with lots of regrets on people that i was with wait because
00:21:21 you held hands oh dear here's the thing um a lot of the churches are just very controlling
00:21:26 and again um sexual energy it's meant for your husband right so the solution if you're super
00:21:33 horny it's not to wait till me like if you really want to do it the pure way it's just to find 0.98
00:21:39 someone to get married to and try it out but now we keep pushing women keep pushing marriage longer
00:21:44 and longer because they want a better choice uh which is fine they can do that we can you can do
00:21:48 that that's fine uh but the result is it doesn't really make sense to wait till you're 30 to have
00:21:54 sex why especially when you're the most horny at like 16. i was with them later on i had to
00:22:01 relearn how to date i had to relearn how to listen to my intuition and my body instead of listening
00:22:08 to this one rule that was prescribed to me by a lot of old men in the church and that was so hard
00:22:15 i'm still working to get past all of these messages that i took in as a child i just yeah
00:22:22 um here i mean it's it's good intentions purity culture but it's just not it doesn't really work
00:22:27 and practice in 2026 so anyways guys let me know what you think in the comments I love you thanks
00:22:31 so much for watching um and I will see you next time