Pearl - The Female ＂Purity＂ LARP

00:00:00.000 if you're really gonna think about it and ask about it then you probably should be doing it

00:00:02.240 it's not a seesaw i'll weigh in okay but like okay we gotta start with the number one problem

00:00:07.460 which is women talking what up guys welcome to my reaction series today we are reacting to modern

00:00:13.240 women and purity culture so we have an issue with women today women are modern meaning we behave in 0.60

00:00:18.040 a modern way and even women that convince themselves that they're traditional they still 0.99

00:00:21.480 behave in a very modern way so we travel alone we do life alone we go to college alone um when a 0.98

00:00:27.280 traditional woman does life with someone else. So they get married young. And young is 18 to 25. 0.96

00:00:33.300 Even in some time periods, it was as young as 16. But in the modern time period, if you are

00:00:38.420 traditional, you're getting married from 18 to 25. You're staying for life. That's the traditional 0.51

00:00:43.180 action. Now I'm not here to say one's better than the other. I've seen people get married young and

00:00:48.160 get cooked. I've seen people get married old and be okay or get cooked. I've seen too much. I've

00:00:53.660 just i've seen a lot in my life uh but the issue what happens is these women don't behave in a 1.00

00:00:58.840 traditional way but they want pure outcomes um they want traditional outcomes so they want to 1.00

00:01:04.680 not work for life but they're not willing to exchange their youth um for that so it becomes

00:01:10.440 this kind of inverted thing where the guy is like more pure than the woman which is just um

00:01:17.160 not a good look somebody waiting for marriage you probably think oh they're probably really

00:01:22.000 religious but I bet you I can convince you from a period so she's saying I'm pure and she's got 0.99

00:01:27.820 like fake nails um her shirt's a size too too small um little belly going on there and again

00:01:34.060 I'm not I'm not really I want to be clear I'm not a stickler for uh I don't dress the most modest

00:01:41.620 you know I mean I grew up in volleyball so spandex everywhere I don't really care about it

00:01:48.300 but what i don't like is the jesus cross it's like you can't claim purity and do unpure things

00:01:55.600 or you can't expect pure outcomes and do unpure things you know secular standpoint

00:02:01.220 why it makes so much sense and the more i think about it the more sense it makes now the reason 0.95

00:02:06.500 a lot of religious women um when you have sex with a guy first um it gives him leverage 1.00

00:02:12.360 and power over you both emotionally he gives the power to ruin your reputation a lot of them it's 0.71

00:02:19.240 really not about um god it's not about being a good person it's not even about saving themselves

00:02:25.120 for their husband it's having more control over the outcome and femininity in itself um when a

00:02:31.960 woman submits to a guy she submits to his rules not the church's rules so a woman's going to be 0.98

00:02:37.300 more feminine if she obeys what the man says rather than what you know the church says or the 1.00

00:02:42.140 Bible says. You know, that's where like a lot of churches kind of get in the way of a marriage 1.00

00:02:47.060 because the woman's listening to the pastor or the rules, not the man. And so a lot of times when

00:02:52.740 they want to wait till marriage, it's not really, it's just about getting their way. Like I want

00:02:57.180 commitment for life. So, you know, instead of like being a nicer person to achieve it, they just take

00:03:02.560 sex off the table. Number one, you are protected from a lustful man that cannot control his desires

00:03:09.380 and has no self-control so again a lot of these women are really hypocritical so they'll say oh 0.94

00:03:14.100 i'm i'm uh like she implies that she's not lustful come on chica i know if brad pitt or whoever your 0.96

00:03:21.940 celebrity crush is walks in the room you're gonna feel some type of way you might look you know

00:03:26.580 really women show their lust with the way our eyes you know we give them i don't know i can't i can't

00:03:31.780 do it now but but you know what i mean like the i don't know that one that one you know so a lot 0.57

00:03:37.780 of women call men lustful because okay they look at corn but how many women would throw back

00:03:42.980 immediately for their celebrity crush if he's waiting till marriage you know if he can a man

00:03:49.060 that can control his lust can also probably control other things his anger his impulsiveness

00:03:57.460 so yeah but a lot of times what happens is a lot of times these guys get older and they just crash

00:04:03.460 out because they think they're going to get something. A lot of times people, including

00:04:08.340 myself, all people do things because they want a certain outcome. Like they work hard because they

00:04:13.000 want to make more money. And this is a completely logical thing. So a lot of people, uh, wait till

00:04:19.020 marriage because they want a certain outcome. They want love. And then a lot of these guys find

00:04:24.100 out, uh, they get nothing in return and then they crash out. Already from that, you're filtering out

00:04:30.260 a lot of people with poor character qualities character traits sorry you are not clouded by

00:04:38.380 sexual attraction or lust during the time that you get to know here's the thing um sexual

00:04:43.540 attraction is really the only thing that gives men leverage in 2026 everything else women can 0.59

00:04:48.860 get money they can go on sugar dating apps it's cooked outside of that sorry fellas i'm so bonded

00:04:54.620 to this person because i've been so intimate with this person because let's be real i don't care what

00:04:59.240 you say I don't care how casual people try to make sex it's not casual it's not at all I mean

00:05:04.780 you are letting okay I have a thought and this is a thought I came up with this weekend okay

00:05:09.520 I was talking to somebody about um how you know I think women crave variety more than men and they

00:05:16.840 were saying no that's not true do men want to eat like do you want to eat the same food every day

00:05:21.180 and I thought about it and I'm like you know what men actually literally do I was thinking I'm like 0.96

00:05:26.400 men love routine and i'm like i think even when a guy has hoes like he likes some routine in his 0.98

00:05:32.160 own like okay any guy that's dated me that the guy the girl they date after is always another 0.97

00:05:38.080 redhead like it's always and i'm like did i start even if i was the first redhead they dated it's

00:05:43.840 like now they're on the redhead train and i'm like did i create a routine for these guys so anyways

00:05:51.280 um for for her um yeah uh sorry that's just a thought process i had and i'm curious about you

00:05:59.220 guys's opinions on that just as guys um i think women because i was thinking about it more men

00:06:05.720 when given the chance i think choose um monogamy rather than variety and no women are choosing

00:06:13.680 monogamy because all women pretty much have the opportunity to get married young with one guy for

00:06:18.020 life and we don't pick it so anyways into the most intimate intimate now like we call men the

00:06:25.340 horn dogs i'm like i think women are the horn dogs like okay i go to my gym and at my gym there's so

00:06:32.140 many girls that are like half naked right they're literally like half naked and i see more guys like 0.99

00:06:37.200 ignoring the naked like i can't ignore it i'm like do you guys see your ass dude um yeah so 0.98

00:06:44.460 it part of you as a being and i i think everybody can acknowledge that this is not a casual thing 0.98

00:06:54.240 this is not a whatever thing we may like to act like it in today's society it's not it just means

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00:07:38.560 first grade it's not i was losing my earlier point yeah you oh you also avoid having that bond with

00:07:46.760 the wrong people and so when you wait you avoid having to heal from having that connection with

00:07:55.500 somebody right because the person that you end up sleeping with is going to be your life partner

00:08:00.700 also I had a I had a friend ask me at dinner once she was like what would you do if you ever

00:08:10.420 got pregnant with your boyfriend I was like that wouldn't happen think about it if you wait okay 1.00

00:08:18.000 if you here's another thing they say oh no like an accidental pregnancy I'm like are you stupid 0.99

00:08:23.520 I mean honestly there's so much information out there now and to not get pregnant 1.00

00:08:28.680 so much technology i i literally think as a woman if you didn't plan it you just are low iq

00:08:36.020 we're not the most intelligent to have sex until you're married when you get married you're already 0.97

00:08:42.300 kind of saying you're in a position to where okay i'm able to raise a child and take care of a child

00:08:47.680 and have a team of a mom and a dad to raise a child and support this child so the the thought

00:08:55.420 of oh my gosh what would i do if i got pregnant you know what would i decide that's not even a

00:09:02.380 thought because when i get married to somebody i'm saying okay we are stable enough to get married

00:09:10.460 we're probably stable enough to raise a child so that's an issue that's not you to understand see 0.74

00:09:16.540 women care more about the title than an action because being a wife right that's an action 1.00

00:09:20.700 that means being loyal being supportive um you can be a wife before you're married i know women 1.00

00:09:27.720 that aren't married but they're more wifely than married that's why the the title wife has just

00:09:33.820 it's meaningless now i hate to say it it is completely meaningless because um these guys 1.00

00:09:40.560 just give it to anybody i swear i swear um i've just seen so many women that are just terrible

00:09:47.080 wives so they care more about like the title of a wife than being a wife so what she's saying is 1.00

00:09:53.320 i want to do no work even thought about when i want to i want to give you none of my sexuality 1.00

00:09:59.720 i want to i want to give you no leverage and i want the title and men will sign up in droves

00:10:05.640 wait making the wrong bonds not an issue when you wait being so intimate with somebody the wrong

00:10:14.040 person not an issue when you wait i don't to be honest um you can wait till marriage and still

00:10:19.680 marry the wrong person all that work for one and don't try to tell me and also people make wrong

00:10:26.580 decisions because they want to have sex so bad so they don't see like oh my gosh that's so common

00:10:31.980 in christian churches like they want to have sex so they just get married and then after it's like 0.85

00:10:37.560 post not clarity you know oh well what if they end up being bad in bed you have gone through every 0.87

00:10:46.300 issue up until the point you got married you think you can't learn each other in bed practice

00:10:52.680 makes perfect the freak you think you can find somebody you bond so deeply on an emotional level

00:10:59.300 an intellectual level a personal level and you can't handle some issues in the bedroom

00:11:04.620 and even if they never got fixed sex isn't everything i just it just makes so much sense

00:11:10.640 it just makes so much sense to wait and i never yeah so okay she's she's sick of taking alice 0.99

00:11:18.660 because she's not likable and instead of improving her likability score um she would like to 0.99

00:11:23.760 uh do a rebrand and get the title and then find some sim dating we value purity above everything

00:11:30.200 physical purity, emotional purity, purity in your heart and in your thoughts, and physical purity

00:11:35.120 when you're not dating is really easy. If the other person tempts you even a little bit, you can't do

00:11:41.420 it. Both people have to be so on the same page that you don't even want that person to even

00:11:46.660 remotely get there. People always ask, what's the line? And I realized it's literally about your

00:11:52.420 heart, the position of your heart, the desires of your heart, who has the affection of your heart,

00:11:57.340 because no we didn't cross any boundaries no nothing happened but i realized that purity isn't

00:12:02.380 about what you do it's about what's in your heart so devoted to jesus and i love the sacrifice that

00:12:07.820 i'm making to like managing that's not the sacrifice jesus is asking for he doesn't want

00:12:13.340 you sitting there being like oh i wish i could no it's a thank you jesus i get to make this

00:12:17.980 sacrifice incredible women talking about purity with a face full of makeup i'm not judging i have

00:12:22.460 a little makeup on myself right i'm not judge i'm not judging but do you guys not see the

00:12:27.740 contradiction do you see what i mean it's just like insulting my intelligence i think that's 1.00

00:12:33.660 what's so insulting about tradcon women is is they're insulting your intelligence because 0.99

00:12:37.580 they're like oh purity purity purity and i'm like do you not do you think i'm stupid i look 1.00

00:12:42.780 the improvement of our relationship the purity that we're walking in now there is no confusion 0.76

00:12:50.140 there's no arguments it's only yeah there's gonna be no arguments in a relationship with a woman

00:12:56.700 give me a break this and confidence in each other in ourselves and it's natural these things are

00:13:01.900 natural but if you don't even let yourself awake in that part and go there and trust me if i can

00:13:07.020 do it you can do it i promise you that it just sows discord between you when there's any bit of

00:13:12.220 impurity i can't believe once again jesus does what he says he's gonna do it's not by accident

00:13:18.700 peace comes from obeying it does peace comes from yeah they're like obeying god and god is gonna

00:13:24.060 tell you to do exactly what i want you to do what about what your husband wants um well there's a 0.99

00:13:30.700 mutual submission okay let's see what this girl doesn't begin with just avoiding sex because you

00:13:35.020 can avoid sin and still not be pure and hearted matthew 5 8 says blessed are the pure in heart

00:13:38.620 for they shall so this is how cope because they're like oh well i have a purer heart

00:13:44.060 because i i didn't avoid sex but i still have a purer heart than you it's like cope

00:13:48.700 just cope elsewhere. You know, it's okay, ladies, just take that L.

00:13:54.480 Purity starts with your heart because it's tangibly allowing the Holy Spirit to change

00:13:57.920 your desires in your way so that when you look at someone, you're not just thinking of avoiding sin

00:14:01.320 with them. You're viewing them through the eyes that God had when he made them. Avoiding sin will

00:14:05.480 only cause you to think more about sin because we become what we behold. And if we're only

00:14:08.880 entertaining, oh, I got to stop. Oh, I got to stop. I can't do that. It's going to create a relationship

00:14:12.640 where you don't actually see God as a sustainer. You see him as a punisher. When you are in a place

00:14:17.500 where you are allowing the holy spirit to make you pure begin to remove things from your life

00:14:21.200 that used to cause you to think those things and every time you get a thought of lust or you get

00:14:25.060 a thought of impurity yeah you just got to get married look at this the solving for purity 0.70

00:14:29.680 culture is get married but here's the thing they still want to assist women in being hypergamous

00:14:34.040 so again it's either we want to solve purity culture whatever and so we're going to do 0.62

00:14:39.360 arranged marriages and then the women you say you're arranged marriage or get out so again 0.97

00:14:44.320 you're forcing women to have sex with men they don't want to you can either you know swallow

00:14:49.120 that and i i can kind of understand why people wouldn't want to do that i'm kind of i'm kind of

00:14:54.840 agnostic i see the side in both so i think i drive some of my audience crazy because they're like

00:14:59.920 pearl do you just agree with the arranged marriage and i'm like but there's nothing like you know

00:15:05.120 a woman that wants to be there because she loves him i don't know so anyways you say hey i'm weak

00:15:11.000 but you are strong you're giving God his rightful position to correct you so that when you see sin 0.99

00:15:15.580 when you come yeah but I just I think all women have to be corrected through a man not God I mean 0.99

00:15:20.300 like God has to work through the man because you are just are never as a woman going to be corrected 0.98

00:15:25.680 by anybody else about purity purity is actually more of a heart posture than it is a physical

00:15:30.820 posture first and foremost I just made a video about sex before marriage so go watch that first

00:15:35.140 what if I'm a committed relationship and I really love my person or like what if we know we're going

00:15:39.340 to get married well you're not married yet and you never know what's gonna happen so just hold

00:15:43.180 off so many times we like ask the question like how much can i do without sinning like i'm the 0.99

00:15:48.220 fake nails how much is full of makeup it's too far in a relationship like women don't understand

00:15:54.980 it's modesty is a virtue right so it's not living in a super frivolous way and we all do you know 0.97

00:16:02.180 or in general i've heard this analogy and y'all probably heard it too but it's not about how close

00:16:07.160 we can get to the line but it's how far we should stay away from the line so people ask like okay

00:16:12.040 well i can't have sex can i do x y and z y'all know what i'm talking about see when you're doing

00:16:16.600 that stuff you're actually still exposing yourself in such an intimate way that is still only for your

00:16:22.600 future spouse like you are still being so vulnerable and intimate with someone else

00:16:26.520 when that is created for your spouse first corinthians 6 18 says run from all sexual sin

00:16:32.840 no other sin so clearly affects the body as this one does for sexual immorality is a sin against

00:16:37.480 your own body and i said that in my other video but it says all it says run from all sexual

00:16:42.040 immorality not just sex and that includes self-pleasure y'all sorry our hearts on our

00:16:48.120 intention should always be to stay peer in everything our hearts behind it should always

00:16:52.920 be like okay how can i glorify god in my relationship and not how can i get so close to

00:17:01.400 pleasure or get so close to sin but like not sinning if you're really gonna think about it

00:17:06.360 and ask about it then you probably should be doing it it's not a seesaw i'll weigh in okay 0.99

00:17:10.520 but like okay we gotta start with the number one problem which is women talking and and so 0.78

00:17:16.200 so it's like how could you uh you as a woman it's not in your authority to tell men what to do

00:17:22.440 or really anybody i could give my observations as a woman but yeah you can't purity is more than not

00:17:29.160 having sex is abstaining from sex outside of marriage sure but it's such a cope it's also

00:17:33.960 the purification of my vessel it's learning that this thing is a temple for the holy spirit to live

00:17:37.800 and dwell so i start getting convicted about what i put in my lips what i consume with my eyes

00:17:42.680 not that convicted because i see botox lip filler and obviously you're slightly overweight so again

00:17:50.520 what i hear with my ears it's like drake will come on when we're in our workout class and it's

00:17:55.560 not that i'm no fun i'm just like hearing the p word and the f word and i'm like oh oh ah like i 0.63

00:18:00.120 just i want to remain this is just so fake you guys are too old to signal purity at all you're

00:18:06.280 and you know the bible says to have a childlike faith or don't bother like just become childlike

00:18:11.240 and i think when we think of child we think of innocence we think of purity if you and your

00:18:14.760 husband or you and your friend are watching an r-rated movie and it's a sex scene or a fighting

00:18:19.400 scene or a war scene and it's just not really it's just normal it's become normalized but say

00:18:23.240 your two-year-old's upstairs you hear him start coming down the stairs what do you do you're like

00:18:26.440 grasping for the remote you're like turn it off because what purity entered the room right all

00:18:30.680 of a sudden this conviction grows you're like turn it off we don't want to taint the expression of 0.77

00:18:34.760 this okay let me just stop giving women microphones i know that's hypocritical when it comes to whole

00:18:41.400 conspiracy think about what tick tock it did it gave women microphones everywhere oh my god we

00:18:46.920 gotta sue whoever made tick tock as a christian woman i think it's super important that we're

00:18:52.360 transparent about the struggles for me personally my biggest challenge is other people's opinions

00:18:58.600 who don't share the same faith as me so i've had comments like it's a waste no man's ever

00:19:04.520 gonna wait for you you're gonna really struggle to find a man and you know if you're not careful

00:19:11.000 those voices can become really loud so i have to remember did it the purity pure way or you didn't

00:19:18.200 And if you didn't, it's time to start giving it away for free, ladies. 0.99

00:19:21.960 Yup. 1.00

00:19:22.480 Free trials.

00:19:24.160 Mind myself all the time that these. 0.99

00:19:26.120 Oh, but Pearl. 0.88

00:19:27.300 Oh, but Pearl.

00:19:28.780 Like, that's not the solution.

00:19:30.540 I'm like, yeah, it is. 1.00

00:19:31.880 For a single. 1.00

00:19:32.540 If you have a single mother, go F yourself if you tell her to wait till marriage. 0.99

00:19:37.740 I mean, honestly, and over a certain age, I would say the same thing. 1.00

00:19:40.940 You can go to, you can go straight to hell in a handbasket. 1.00

00:19:44.140 Straight to hell in a handbasket. 0.99

00:19:45.780 we've come from people that haven't experienced the grace the forgiveness the love and the strength

00:19:53.240 that i have from jesus christ it can be really easy to fall into a judgmental mindset and other

00:20:00.160 people's opinions and allow them to become louder than what god is saying over your life but the

00:20:06.680 bible calls us to be compassionate to not judge and not hold resentment as christians we're called

00:20:11.880 to walk differently from the world. We're called to walk in obedience, to share the word on how we

00:20:17.300 live and let God's glory. Yeah. Okay. Yeah. I'm face full of makeup. All of them harmed my

00:20:24.240 relationships, armed my relationship with myself so much that I want to talk about it. She's talking

00:20:29.260 about purity culture ruined her life. This is my experience. It doesn't have to be yours. I grew up

00:20:33.800 in a home where we were taught you weren't supposed to have before marriage. There was

00:20:38.500 another conversation on what was allowed, what is not allowed, what does it mean to kiss someone,

00:20:44.380 what does it mean to be in a relationship, what does it mean to like someone. I had a very

00:20:48.780 prescriptive idea on what it means to be intimate with someone. Based on what I was taught at home

00:20:54.320 and in the church, I thought that everything besides you know what was okay. And so I didn't

00:21:00.040 really have any feeling behind anything that I did. I thought well as long as I don't do this

00:21:05.300 and it's fine but i didn't realize that everything that they do gluck gluck 9000 back door i mean

00:21:11.840 there there's always a workaround you share with someone even a kiss like holding hands

00:21:16.580 that can be intimate and i ended up with lots of regrets on people that i was with wait because

00:21:21.700 you held hands oh dear here's the thing um a lot of the churches are just very controlling

00:21:26.220 and again um sexual energy it's meant for your husband right so the solution if you're super

00:21:33.980 horny it's not to wait till me like if you really want to do it the pure way it's just to find 0.98

00:21:39.020 someone to get married to and try it out but now we keep pushing women keep pushing marriage longer

00:21:44.220 and longer because they want a better choice uh which is fine they can do that we can you can do

00:21:48.700 that that's fine uh but the result is it doesn't really make sense to wait till you're 30 to have

00:21:54.780 sex why especially when you're the most horny at like 16. i was with them later on i had to

00:22:01.100 relearn how to date i had to relearn how to listen to my intuition and my body instead of listening

00:22:08.140 to this one rule that was prescribed to me by a lot of old men in the church and that was so hard

00:22:15.640 i'm still working to get past all of these messages that i took in as a child i just yeah

00:22:22.020 um here i mean it's it's good intentions purity culture but it's just not it doesn't really work

00:22:27.280 and practice in 2026 so anyways guys let me know what you think in the comments I love you thanks

00:22:31.900 so much for watching um and I will see you next time

Pearl - May 12, 2026

The Female ＂Purity＂ LARP

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