Pearl - April 12, 2025


The Modern Woman Life Cycle Is a Trap – And Here’s the Proof

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Length

8 minutes

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172.78

Word count

1,403

Sentence count

115

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22

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9

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It s the quintessential roadmap of the path that women in 2025 are taking to end up alone with their dog or cat in their 40s and 50s, look back at their life with nothing but regret. Modern women will go to a high-priced institution, get a degree that nobody cares about, put themselves in a whole bunch of debt, and will burden them for the rest of their lives. After they learn in school, all they learn about in school is how to be disagreeable and how to use men. Modern women at stage 4 will wake up between the ages of 33 and 37, rush to have kids, find a husband or do both, step into their late 30s and early 40s, try to get pregnant by a loser or go through IVF, step 6. Women will start on antidepressants or become alcoholics, either or we don t discriminate here. Step 7, women will buy a dog or a cat and die alone.

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00:00:00.000 I took a career break to raise my kids and now I feel like a failure.
00:00:03.780 Today we're going to talk about the modern woman life cycle. 0.95
00:00:08.300 It is the quintessential roadmap of the path that women in 2025 are taking to end up alone
00:00:14.340 with their dog or cat in their 40s and 50s, look back at their life with nothing but regret.
00:00:20.060 So just to recap, modern women will go to a high-priced institution, get a degree that 1.00
00:00:26.560 nobody cares about to put themselves in a whole bunch of debt and will burden them for
00:00:30.600 the rest of their lives.
00:00:31.920 After they learn in school, all they learn in school is how to be disagreeable and how
00:00:36.460 to use men.
00:00:37.760 Modern women, number two, modern women will get a job that is too stressful and does not 1.00
00:00:42.880 care about them.
00:00:43.600 In reality, the job isn't that hard or stressful, but the women will convince themselves that 1.00
00:00:48.960 it is.
00:00:50.000 Three, modern women will feel entitled to a certain lifestyle when they begin their careers 1.00
00:00:55.140 and will buy houses and cars they can't afford or spend all their money on travel while ignoring
00:01:00.440 their student loan debt.
00:01:02.320 Modern women at stage four will wake up between the ages of 33 to 37, rush to have kids, find 0.97
00:01:09.180 a husband or do both, step five.
00:01:11.840 Modern women will hit their late 30s and early 40s, try to get pregnant by a loser or go through 1.00
00:01:16.660 IVF, step six.
00:01:18.420 Modern women will start on antidepressants or become alcoholics, either or. 0.93
00:01:23.080 We don't discriminate here.
00:01:25.140 Step seven, women will buy a dog or a cat and die alone. 1.00
00:01:30.160 So today we're going to talk about the slight variation of the modern woman life cycle.
00:01:34.580 There are women who choose to have kids when they are young, but choose their careers for 1.00
00:01:39.340 their kids.
00:01:40.520 These women, just like women in the modern women life cycle, paid too much for a degree 1.00
00:01:45.280 to get a job that doesn't pay well and are usually in positions out the door, are in
00:01:51.600 positions that are out the door when an economic downturn happens.
00:01:55.440 These women neglect their children, causing serious damage to them and their development. 0.98
00:01:59.920 Many of these women miss their children's first words, first steps, and formative early
00:02:04.260 years.
00:02:04.740 And for what?
00:02:05.800 The average salary of a woman with a degree in the United States is still around $50,000 1.00
00:02:10.540 a year.
00:02:11.200 Is this still enough compensation to miss out on important things in their kids' lives?
00:02:17.560 Sadly, if you ask many of these career women, they would say yes. 0.61
00:02:22.060 So we are going to talk about women regretting picking kids over her career.
00:02:27.120 Can you imagine, like, the kids reading this?
00:02:33.680 Like, can you imagine?
00:02:35.000 Like, you're like, oh, mom wrote an article today.
00:02:37.120 Oh, let's see what it said.
00:02:38.800 Mom! 0.97
00:02:39.880 Like, can you imagine?
00:02:41.920 Okay.
00:02:42.280 I took a career break to raise my kids, and now I feel like a failure.
00:02:47.240 Every other Saturday, British Vogue resident, agony aunt Eva Wiseman answers questions about 0.95
00:02:53.420 life.
00:02:53.860 Okay.
00:02:54.400 So here we go.
00:02:56.620 All right.
00:02:57.240 A few years ago, I was flying high at work, but when my husband got the opportunity to
00:03:01.720 almost double his salary by working far away from home three nights a week, juggling my
00:03:06.840 job and caring for my young son, all I got was too, all, sorry, juggling my job and caring
00:03:13.400 for my young son all got too much for me, and I decided to quit.
00:03:17.260 At first, it felt liberating, but after a year, I was ready to go back to work.
00:03:21.480 Turned out it was really hard to find a job.
00:03:23.540 I couldn't get a similar job to my old one.
00:03:25.720 Despite having tons of interviews, I eventually took a job that I find boring because I'm overqualified.
00:03:33.360 Now I feel like a complete loser, and I'm full of regret for giving up my career.
00:03:40.220 Plus, I can't help but feel bitter and angry with my peers, one of who is now a CEO at a
00:03:46.000 really cool company and has three kids.
00:03:48.440 So translation, they paid a nanny to raise the kids, right? 0.68
00:03:52.240 She didn't want to do it.
00:03:53.460 She had someone else do it. 0.96
00:03:54.440 I feel weak and pathetic and like I'm being punished for it, and I'm in a job I hate partially 0.95
00:04:00.540 because I don't want to look like I've failed. 0.88
00:04:02.420 So question for Eva.
00:04:05.740 Drop her an email so you can ask this person.
00:04:09.100 Firstly, you did not give up.
00:04:10.460 You just didn't.
00:04:11.060 You left work because that was the right decision for your family at the time.
00:04:14.460 But then what happened was work left you.
00:04:18.400 After having a child, many parents discover, first slowly but then fast, the realities of
00:04:23.200 a painfully unbalanced world, suddenly seeing for themselves how a lack of a flexible working
00:04:31.080 arrangement and affordable childcare is preventing many thousands of women from progressing in
00:04:36.800 their careers.
00:04:37.440 So this is a.k.a.
00:04:39.720 I wasn't going to progress in my career anyway, otherwise I wouldn't have given it up.
00:04:43.560 But I want to blame it on something, so I'm going to blame it on the kids.
00:04:46.740 That's the translation.
00:04:48.860 Working mothers might be the norm today, but large flakes of the old patriarchy remain in 0.98
00:04:53.540 all kinds of work and also in relationships.
00:04:56.200 It's quantifiable.
00:04:57.540 A campaign around the motherhood penalty last year revealed that the gap between mothers 0.73
00:05:02.400 and fathers in the U.K. has grown by nearly a pound an hour since 2020.
00:05:07.980 On average, mothers earn 24 cents less an hour than fathers in 2023.
00:05:13.240 A penalty of four forty four dollars and forty four pounds an hour.
00:05:18.160 One consequence of this is that because women earn less than their male partners, it makes 0.99
00:05:22.940 sense, as you found for them to be the one to leave their jobs when it becomes untenable
00:05:28.820 for both parents to work.
00:05:30.260 As it's hard to return, even with the new knowledge you've gained about interpersonal relationships
00:05:35.080 and negotiation, patience and budgeting from having a kid, some new employers are suspicious
00:05:40.600 of your career break or somehow they don't want like they don't want to pay for career
00:05:45.480 number two.
00:05:46.420 Right.
00:05:46.600 So they're like a maternity leave. 0.96
00:05:48.540 Oh, no, we're not doing that.
00:05:51.300 OK.
00:05:51.800 Or certain somehow that your brain has defrosted in times of motherhood.
00:05:55.580 All previous experience and sense now surely replaced with naptimes or Lego.
00:06:02.780 And they say this is the world's hardest job.
00:06:04.700 Or they're unwilling to employ somebody they believe will never prioritize work or will
00:06:10.280 no doubt leave in 10 minutes to have another baby. 0.75
00:06:13.020 Yeah, there you go.
00:06:13.920 Be gentler on yourself.
00:06:15.340 These failures are not your own.
00:06:16.960 They are the failures, of course, of our society.
00:06:19.260 One that pays lip service to the pursuit of equality but refuses to adapt in order to
00:06:23.740 accommodate those who have caregiving responsibilities.
00:06:26.620 If you can't afford to, I think you should quit the job you hate.
00:06:30.300 Stop talking yourself down. 1.00
00:06:31.640 You're not weak or pathetic. 1.00
00:06:32.980 You're not a failure. 1.00
00:06:34.120 You're simply a woman struggling to find fulfilling work in a world designed for men and struggling 1.00
00:06:39.980 with politics and identity shifts that come with motherhood.
00:06:43.560 Once you start being sweeter to yourself, you will be able to rediscover the ambitious
00:06:48.220 drive that you saw flying high and find a job that offers growth and satisfaction.
00:06:54.940 No promises, but maybe.
00:06:57.660 And one more thing.
00:06:59.120 You need to stop comparing yourself to other mothers. 0.90
00:07:03.980 It's silly and it only makes you feel worse. 0.94
00:07:07.220 Stop it. 0.93
00:07:07.860 The CEO with the kids, she has nothing to do with you, your life, or your careers. 0.93
00:07:13.680 Wow.
00:07:14.500 That's like, um, that's actually the only good advice I've ever heard a woman give. 1.00
00:07:21.720 Stop comparing yourself to other women. 0.99
00:07:24.940 All right.
00:07:25.900 For all you know, despite the job and the children, she is struggling too.
00:07:30.680 In fact, I am sure she is, undoubtedly.
00:07:37.840 Countless sacrifices she is making when she appears to excel.
00:07:41.540 It's probably that.
00:07:42.440 Like you, some of them feel imposed upon her by that great, brutish hands that nudge one's 1.00
00:07:50.480 life as they age, pushing and bruising even the best laid plans.
00:07:54.580 So there's your advice.
00:07:55.700 Leave your job.
00:07:56.500 Go gentler on yourself.
00:07:57.740 Don't compare yourself to other women and fight the patriarchy. 0.96
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