Pearl - The Pathetic World Of Born Again Virgins

00:00:00.000 From the time we started dating until the time we got married was literally less than six months.

00:00:04.100 The Bible says, rather you marry than burn with lust.

00:00:06.400 Just so you know, quick marriage usually signals not many options.

00:00:10.920 All right, so let's move on.

00:00:13.020 Doug MPA's got a clip for us. 0.92

00:00:15.420 A Mormon girl who's a born again virgin.

00:00:18.080 And look it, this isn't a bad deal for some of you guys. 1.00

00:00:20.660 Some of you guys are ugly, chopped, right? 0.99

00:00:23.200 And that's your only way to go is to go to church, 1.00

00:00:25.860 pretend to be a religious and then get a girl out of your league, right? 1.00

00:00:28.520 and unfortunately it would be a girl in your league but um because of the options that women 0.97

00:00:34.900 have which are like crazy it would kind of be out of your league does that make sense

00:00:39.580 okay let's go I don't think I've ever officially told you guys that I'm a born-again virgin I'm

00:00:45.560 waiting till marriage again I literally just recorded a whole podcast episode about this

00:00:48.960 but I grew up Mormon right like I grew up in the LDS religion a huge emphasis in that religion is

00:00:53.700 waiting until marriage okay so that had always been my goal in life even when I left the church

00:00:58.180 17 i was still like no like i'm still gonna wait like that's something that's genuinely really

00:01:01.860 important to me and then i moved out to college and i had a situation where i didn't get away

00:01:08.900 until marriage if you catch my drift and then from that yeah she whored out you know point on i was

00:01:13.300 like you know what i don't even care anymore like i tried my darndest to wait that got taken from me 0.95

00:01:18.500 so i literally just went and slept notice like look at that got taken from me it's not something

00:01:22.980 she did and enjoyed i mean come on like can we not the early sex is like the most exciting some 0.97

00:01:29.060 of the most exciting sex you have you know like let's just let's just keep it a buck i know she's 0.98

00:01:35.620 a mid but we're in america and america's fat so she's treated as above mid here with like guys 1.00

00:01:41.620 this is crazy that i'm telling you this on the internet but i literally slept with three different

00:01:45.380 guys within that two days two day time period like that why did you say that oh my god i was

00:01:51.060 was like screw it and i can't do this anymore it was just very much a shame spiral and that's the

00:01:55.020 situation where i got herpes and chlamydia at the same time so like a week after that i oh my god

00:02:02.080 was feel something was off something was weird and i like went down this whole google spiral

00:02:06.620 and i was like oh my gosh i think i have an std went to the urgent care i got the diagnosis i

00:02:11.220 thought my life was freaking over now here's what the story gets crazy the guy who r-worded me kept 0.51

00:02:15.820 showing up at work i had gotten laid off and now she was raped okay of course of course from like

00:02:20.380 my full-time job so i got like a random retail job and he kept showing up at my work and asking for

00:02:25.400 me and i was having the craziest panic attacks one of the reasons i ended up moving out of my

00:02:28.960 home state i was like i literally cannot be here anymore when i was 19 i packed up all my stuff

00:02:33.560 and i had this whole breakdown where one night i was like i have to leave i have to move and within

00:02:37.640 a month i moved out of utah i moved to austin texas and it's been three years since i left

00:02:43.100 utah so for two of those years i'm still pretty sexually active and then i start hearing myself

00:02:47.420 saying oh all men want is all they want is to just like hook up and they want to be physical and then

00:02:51.720 they leave and i start noticing myself becoming very jaded and i had to look at myself and say

00:02:56.580 beth we're not complainers we don't sit here and complain and go oh i'm the victim what are you

00:03:00.300 going to do about it you notice this pattern of guys are you going to sit here and complain that 0.97

00:03:04.260 guys suck or are you going to take this into your own hands and set a boundary for yourself around 0.80

00:03:08.160 this time i also had an experience with someone named utah boy who showed me what it was like to 0.99

00:03:12.820 have experiences with someone you actually love and i was like oh my gosh this is what it's supposed

00:03:18.280 to feel like last april is when i finally made the decision i had a guy sleeping over and i was

00:03:23.340 like i can't i can't do this anymore like i literally never want to do this again in my

00:03:27.180 entire life can you imagine you're about to bang a girl with herpes and she turns you down

00:03:30.880 it's got to be incredible what an experience life until it's my husband the next person that i am

00:03:36.600 giving myself to like in this intimate way they're going to be literally contractually obligated to

00:03:41.880 love me for the rest of the freaking lives okay there i can't do this anymore i cannot be meaningless

00:03:47.180 anymore i need depth i need connection i need comfort i need safety here's what's so vulnerable

00:03:52.860 is i don't know what's normal anymore like i don't know what it's supposed to feel like i don't know

00:03:58.820 like what's normal but what i do know is that intimacy is supposed to equal safety not just

00:04:04.040 lust and that was a hard lesson to learn that took a lot a lot of pain but with the amount of like

00:04:08.760 traumatic experiences that i've had with intimacy in order for me to start healing i gotta take a

00:04:14.900 step back first i need to remove myself from that situation and then allow that person who was going

00:04:19.440 to be that safety that comfort that person they're gonna have to wait there i'm gonna put them for

00:04:23.580 the freaking ringer okay if they want to literally touch me and like there's a wall here show me first

00:04:28.700 show me who you are show me i'm safe with you first and that's why i'm waiting again and whenever 0.95

00:04:33.000 i say that people are like oh why not just like wait until you're dating someone or wait until

00:04:36.520 your fiance because my heart okay because of my tender little heart because of my yeah so then

00:04:42.700 again they never tell her it's not about the sex like the sex like it doesn't really matter that 0.96

00:04:48.920 much when you give a guy sex if you're a good woman you know 17 year old self who first lost 0.65

00:04:57.340 that first experience when she was r-worded when she was 17 and then again when she was 18 and then

00:05:02.580 a myriad of other experiences where i'm like no i am putting my foot down for my past self and for

00:05:09.400 my future self just out of like protection and out of love for myself yeah okay cooked here's another

00:05:14.140 one my husband and i waited for marriage girl i do not regret it i'm gonna take you on a little

00:05:18.640 story time okay he had been saved since he was four i had been walling out in the trenches of

00:05:24.420 the world he had been a virgin his whole life i had been far from okay that's where we're starting

00:05:30.180 we got together when I had been saved for about a year and he had been single for about 10. I had

00:05:34.860 been single for about three minutes. It wasn't three minutes. It was longer than that. I had a

00:05:38.440 single season with Jesus, but it wasn't very long. Okay. And so when we got together, the Lord had to

00:05:42.560 put his hand so graciously on our relationship and give us strength because your girl was not

00:05:47.660 so fond of patience. You know, from the time we started dating until the time we got married was

00:05:52.700 literally less than six months. The Bible says rather you marry than burn with less. Just, you

00:05:57.000 know the quick marriage usually signals uh not many options per both one or both parties and we

00:06:04.420 said say no more but for real we both had confirmation from the lord that we were going

00:06:08.140 to get married we knew very early on a week into our relationship that we were going to be husband

00:06:11.940 and wife so we start dating we start loving each other okay i don't need to hear the rest of this

00:06:17.460 we already know where this is going to go okay this woman's not going to get to the point i feel

00:06:21.740 comfortable talking about this on social media but i woke up with the urge to share it and that 1.00

00:06:27.860 is if you and your boyfriend have made the notice this guy says if only she had a dad i know women

00:06:33.560 with and without dads that have poured out it's the woman's choice not the man's choice it's the

00:06:39.640 woman making a choice to wait till marriage stick to it there are so many podcasts and pastors and

00:06:47.960 YouTube videos and interviews you can listen to about how to be successful in that and they all

00:06:52.780 say make firm boundaries and when they say that they mean it we heard that my boyfriend and I

00:07:00.340 and we kind of took it with a grain of salt we went a year without having sex and then once we

00:07:06.120 moved long distance that like rush of emotions when you see each other if you don't have the

00:07:11.220 right boundaries put in place it will win and it did and we fell and it took us a while to and see

00:07:18.360 notice we fell like look every time in my life i have gluck gluck 9000 i wanted to gluck gluck

00:07:24.500 there is no there is no falling i mean it's like you get horny and you get naked do you know what 0.99

00:07:30.180 i mean like how did you how the fuck did you guys fall how did you fall into on the day like do you 0.99

00:07:35.180 what I mean it's like 0.98

Pearl - April 11, 2026

The Pathetic World Of Born Again Virgins

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