Pearl - The Performative Wives of Instagram

00:00:00.000 i was honestly just really really in my head when it came to having sex now my husband and i

00:00:04.160 have been best friends since we started dating why are you telling us this what's going on guys

00:00:09.040 welcome to instagram is not a real place where we react to instagram reels that doug mpa and i

00:00:14.720 send each other if you guys want to be a part of it um make sure you join our discord uh where you

00:00:19.840 can submit reels for us to react to yourself so you know the truth doesn't mean that you should

00:00:25.520 say it and people should have to earn the truth from you that doesn't mean lie but people have

00:00:31.200 to earn the full truth what i mean by that when you're first talking to somebody if they haven't

00:00:35.840 earned your trust here's how you should talk you the man you the woman sounds awesome crazy amazing

00:00:41.760 that sounds fun if they start to go into victim thinking you say sounds like that's a very

00:00:46.160 frustrating feeling yeah because it takes time to explain something to somebody so if they're not

00:00:51.440 going to let men kind of naturally do this like they're like if you're not going to listen anyway

00:00:55.760 it's not my problem do not tell them that they have victim consciousness now this is tough because

00:01:01.440 if you're somebody who's intelligent you can look at somebody see their limiting beliefs

00:01:04.560 self-justifications rationalizations place they're limiting themselves all the in their

00:01:09.520 mind that's going to ruin their lives and you're going to understand their psychology you're going

00:01:12.880 to be able to see right through them you're going to want to tell them it's very very tempting to

00:01:16.400 tell them but the problem is that if you do that can cause them to explode look if you study

00:01:21.740 spirituality one awareness that you may have is that there is a parasitic consciousness that sort

00:01:27.860 of suffocates the base level consciousness that people want to maintain in order to stay asleep

00:01:33.560 so if that advice that you would give would wake them up they're going to freak out and they're

00:01:37.240 going to attack you um we see this in the bible they say do not cast your pearls before swine

00:01:41.420 and likewise we see that just jesus gets crucified just for telling the truth so wow that's actually

00:01:47.340 such a good point that literally jesus got crucified for being honest good luck to you guys

00:01:53.980 tell you do not cast your pearls before a swine or you get trampled underfoot basically what you

00:01:57.340 do is you keep things light and then as people earn your trust or even pay to maybe get advice

00:02:02.460 from you then you give them the accurate truth but up until then social calibration you don't

00:02:07.340 need to spend your entire life getting crucified have fun with people know what you want to get

00:02:10.300 get out of interaction have phone people that's the best way to go about it yeah wow that's really

00:02:14.800 good advice um yeah because guys don't go out into the real world and talk about red pill all

00:02:19.980 the time because i do it and you know it's it's tiring i'm in dallas especially in highland park

00:02:25.760 are the park cities these are three in-home services oh okay this is why i sent this reel

00:02:30.500 you're gonna see this is the new economy so i i i'm kind of in this area highland park's like a

00:02:36.140 rich, white, suburban area. And as I said, high status women can't do their jobs like they want 1.00

00:02:44.060 to do other things other than raise their kids. So now the new industries are going to be outsourcing 1.00

00:02:49.100 that can make your life so much easier. First is Sensational Swim School. They actually come

00:02:53.740 to your house and teach your kids how to swim in your own. Imagine being a mom dumb enough to bring 1.00

00:02:58.460 a hot woman in a bikini into your house. Cool, which is huge because your kids are learning in 1.00

00:03:03.880 the exact environment that they'll be swimming in all summer. And it just takes one more thing

00:03:07.840 off your plate. No driving, no scheduling around a facility. Second is Sunshine Learning. This is

00:03:13.040 an in-home tutoring, but they also do admission prep for private schools. A lot of families...

00:03:17.740 So again, you know, you could study with your kid, but that's hard. That's a lot of mental energy,

00:03:23.660 right? And women would rather do anything else. So instead, they're gonna have some other woman 1.00

00:03:28.420 do it. Probably a Latina. Use them, not just to say... Shout out to the Latinas for watching 1.00

00:03:32.140 their kids on track academically white women ain't doing that but also to help their kids get into 1.00

00:03:36.700 schools like hockaday st mark's or esd so it's both support and strategy third is pamper me cute 1.00

00:03:42.940 they do in-home spa themed parties for girls think robes mini facials nails and the whole setup and

00:03:49.180 they come to you to handle everything which makes hosting birthdays and special events so much easier

00:03:54.140 yeah so again like you could uh do it yourself maybe spend time with the kid and learn it together 0.98

00:03:59.340 but instead they'd rather a latina come in and pay them to do it again mothers we got to stop

00:04:04.900 with this idea that mothers like want to watch their kids okay so here's a man making the worst

00:04:09.320 mistake of his life um putting on video how great his wife is um i'm so tired of men being fooled

00:04:15.600 by this look so first of all when you put a woman on camera now the incentive is to perform for the

00:04:21.480 camera not for him and two now you're marketing her to other men and see all look at look i want

00:04:27.300 guys to look in the comments of all the men praising her oh she's so amazing oh you're so

00:04:32.340 lucky this is every man you guys can't be given this praise to women for no reason um it's cute

00:04:39.380 it's a cute video right ideal but this is a mistake this is going to blow up in his face

00:04:44.900 hi brookley hi where'd you get the steak from oh i got a casco card today i i got all ready for my

00:04:51.460 picture and i pose so you have to come with me so you can get yours i do i'm so excited i went and

00:04:58.580 i got speaks there so i went and i i got the card and then i need to explore so then i walked down

00:05:03.060 the store i got i now i know where everything is so next time we go we can get it and then

00:05:08.420 surprise your favorite these are my favorite snickerdoodle cookies this is just for sweet

00:05:14.740 treats and then i made you a baggie for work with a little note but you can't read it until tomorrow

00:05:18.980 because the note says it's for tomorrow yeah this is gonna be a mistake um again

00:05:26.340 not to say you can't praise your wife ever but um i just gotta be honest you guys gotta

00:05:31.460 stop marketing for other men um praise her to your friends and your family not the internet

00:05:37.300 so how was your day it was good so how was your day my day was so good i just

00:05:42.260 yeah i met like again this is what i mean when men are weak in a way because they'll never tell

00:05:54.260 you to shut up i don't care they'll just you know listen because they love us they like us so much

00:05:59.060 they crave our validation um okay well you're the prize and she doesn't get that let's see 1.00

00:06:05.780 that's why would you cancel the date sorry sorry i got other plans i got hit up by another female

00:06:11.380 that i was like all right i'm gonna take this date instead um excuse me is that is that not

00:06:18.180 something that's happened to you before is this like a first tell me why would you tell me that

00:06:23.300 if you're gonna cancel at least lie about it i mean i'm the prize like if anything like do girls

00:06:30.500 do this to you guys like crazy you should be okay with this um but i would say that you're chopped

00:06:39.300 and that you should go to license to glow um and i'd send you a venmo for it but i'm kind of broke

00:06:45.460 and i lied about being rich so i was about to you can see to be honest that'd be kind of funny i

00:06:51.780 would laugh babe what's it like packing up my house and moving with me oh you want to know what

00:06:57.620 it's like oh my gosh it's amazing look how much work he has done he has done so much of this stuff

00:07:03.540 all on his own i mean i did the kitchen look how great i did look empty empty but yet i keep putting

00:07:10.100 things back in like here's my popcorn spice i can't pack that yet and look he even has paper

00:07:15.300 plates how did he know that we needed to have paper plates i know this is what i mean our sins

00:07:20.580 are like with the tongue our sins are like he thinks and we're so egotistical she's gonna say

00:07:26.340 she did it so amazing and you know point out all of his flaws everything oh my gosh i am so

00:07:32.340 look he literally he's thought of everything like my mind is blown my mind is blown like

00:07:38.500 he is just the best let me just show you a few more things we have look at all these boxes look

00:07:46.020 he even put supplements in here i just left him on the counter but he thought of that that's what

00:07:50.740 it's like okay um this is to show you guys how kids can see that their mom's crazy from a young

00:07:56.420 age but then the world tells them that they're not crazy. My son pretending to be me.

00:08:26.420 All right, you like this, right?

00:08:29.280 All right, let's go, let's go.

00:08:30.700 Everybody, one, two, three, let's go.

00:08:35.380 You take my keys?

00:08:36.820 Where are my keys?

00:08:38.680 That's so true.

00:08:39.600 I always look like keys.

00:08:40.920 Where are my keys?

00:08:42.120 Where are my keys?

00:08:43.200 Oh, they're just in my bag.

00:08:44.700 Don't worry about me.

00:08:46.560 Where's my phone?

00:08:48.520 Tim, pick that up.

00:08:50.400 I said nothing.

00:08:51.440 My phone right here, and it was in my bag.

00:08:53.680 And one of you guys took it out.

00:08:54.800 I really need my phone.

00:08:56.420 okay drama itization any resemblance to actual events is coincidental or maybe it's not 1.00

00:09:07.860 yeah she's a bitch she's a bitch you know it's okay sometimes in life we're bitches all right 0.99

00:09:13.820 next but it is part of my story and so i am openly talking about it back in 2018 when my husband and 1.00

00:09:19.960 i first got married i was extremely insecure i had zero confidence my relationship with myself

00:09:25.420 was so poor I was constantly picking myself apart and I was honestly just really really in my head

00:09:30.000 when it came to having sex now my husband and I have been best friends since we started dating

00:09:34.220 why are you telling us this like we are soulmates men need to correct their wins and I don't say

00:09:39.280 that to brag but like we truly don't fight about very many things at all like we have such a good

00:09:44.340 relationship and I remember back at that point in time we were newlyweds like so in love and

00:09:50.780 the fact that i didn't want to have sex or be intimate did start to cause some issues in our

00:09:55.560 relationship and it wasn't whoa whoa why are you telling girls shut up because my husband like made

00:10:00.800 me feel bad or anything like that it was truly because i made myself feel bad i didn't feel

00:10:05.060 sexy i didn't feel confident i didn't want to be seen naked and i had zero sex drive and honestly

00:10:09.720 when you're carrying that much insecurity intimacy no longer feels enjoyable it more so feels

00:10:17.060 vulnerable this is why i'm so passionate about sharing yeah it's rationalization of post not

00:10:22.240 clarity women reproduce with a man man they didn't really want to reproduce with figure out he's weak

00:10:26.740 and now um crash how health and fitness has changed my life because yeah i'm a lot more

00:10:31.320 confident now i feel cuter in clothes but like it runs so much deeper than that my relationship

00:10:38.240 with my husband has improved so so much i actually enjoy being intimate like that is something that

00:10:43.500 I'm excited about it's actually a healthy part of our relationship now whereas before it was not

00:10:48.700 like seriously being on a health and fitness journey has changed the way I show up it has

00:10:52.500 changed my confidence has changed the way I talk to myself it has changed the way that I view myself

00:10:57.040 it has changed every aspect of my life so yeah the goal for me was mainly just to like lose weight

00:11:03.060 but what I didn't realize was how many aspects okay all right guys um let me know what you think

00:11:09.460 at the comments and like the video on your way out and subscribe to the channel um women we 0.90

00:11:14.080 gotta shut up more this is not doing well for us all right like the video i'll see you next time 1.00

Pearl - May 26, 2026

The Performative Wives of Instagram

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