Pearl - January 21, 2025


The Reason FAKE Trad Wifes Target DORKY Guys Is Terrible | Pearl Daily


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21 minutes

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Word Count

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Sentence Count

336

Misogynist Sentences

60

Hate Speech Sentences

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00:00:00.000 Now, becoming a trad wife is going to be tough because the men that have been around the players,
00:00:05.740 the charming men, the men that have the choice are going to know your BS.
00:00:11.240 The men that have choice, they know a rebrand when they see it.
00:00:16.240 So when a woman's going to become a trad wife and she's a former hoe, she's got to pick an easy target.
00:00:23.160 That's why you'll notice their targets are always dorky guys without a lot of experience.
00:00:27.460 If you ask them how many relationships have they been in, it's usually one, maybe two.
00:00:32.320 That's called an easy target because, again, the woman, even let's pretend she's a virgin by 25.
00:00:39.860 The amount of men she's interacted with, dealt with, talked to, her manipulation power.
00:00:46.000 Let's not, like the sexes manipulate each other.
00:00:48.760 You guys say you're the most beautiful woman in the world.
00:00:51.520 You pretend you don't like us as much as you do to keep us interested.
00:00:55.600 You do the hot and cold.
00:00:57.780 I've seen the dating advice stuff, okay?
00:01:00.720 We do the same thing.
00:01:01.900 We manipulate each other.
00:01:03.680 Women are just better at it.
00:01:05.260 Women are just, we're A1 manipulators.
00:01:07.320 We manipulate through a pound of makeup to get a hotter guy.
00:01:11.840 There was a guy in a space the other day who came in and said he had a girlfriend of nine months,
00:01:15.580 never saw her without makeup.
00:01:17.540 And then they didn't live together, right?
00:01:20.260 So every time she came in, always had makeup on.
00:01:23.540 And she was so much less attractive when he saw her without makeup, he just didn't know what to do.
00:01:28.540 So the trad wives, usually they'll do one of three things.
00:01:31.980 They go for a man about their age because, again, a woman, late 20s, mid 20s, early 30s,
00:01:38.560 way more experienced than the man.
00:01:40.800 And she's going to run that relationship.
00:01:43.620 She's going to give up nothing to be a trad wife.
00:01:45.840 She might be an influencer, build a trad wife persona on the internet.
00:01:51.540 And anything that she wants to do, God is going to be calling her to do it.
00:01:56.100 So she's going to say God wants her to have a platform.
00:01:59.540 She's going to say God wants me to put the kids in this school.
00:02:03.380 That's like a form of manipulation.
00:02:05.460 They have a tendency to use God.
00:02:07.260 They also have a tendency to shame male behavior.
00:02:10.300 And even though they're not perfect either, right?
00:02:12.860 You know, they're getting married late 20s.
00:02:15.660 There's something there, right?
00:02:17.080 So they have a tendency to use the Bible to shame any behavior they don't like from the man.
00:02:23.540 So a common thing I hear from the trad wives is that all the men just aren't holy enough.
00:02:28.420 He's not leading me to God.
00:02:30.180 And it's like a worse form of manipulation because you're using God to get what you want and manipulate.
00:02:36.760 It's just, it's like you respect the player.
00:02:39.000 I respect the player more, the tinder swindler who got all that money out of the women.
00:02:44.540 I really respect him more than the trad wives using God to manipulate their husband.
00:02:50.000 The tinder swindler, at least you can be impressed.
00:02:53.120 That's hard to do.
00:02:54.260 Now, the thing is these trad wives, they don't know the alpha and beta traits, right?
00:02:59.180 So oftentimes they marry a beta guy, unfortunately.
00:03:02.820 Or a guy they see as beta based on the men that they've dated before.
00:03:06.440 They don't know that they don't like him.
00:03:08.980 You know, they, it's not like these women go in wanting to divorce their husband, but they need a kid.
00:03:15.440 They need a kid.
00:03:16.560 They got to get married.
00:03:18.140 So they have to do our hamster reel, convince ourselves we like him.
00:03:22.520 The problem is that kid gets born.
00:03:24.760 Postpartum depression is post-nut clarity for women.
00:03:28.060 Haven't you guys ever really thought you liked a woman that had sex with her and realized you just wanted a blowjob?
00:03:33.440 Women have that same thing with children.
00:03:37.160 They think they like the man.
00:03:38.940 That's why a lot of times the sexless marriages happen after the kid.
00:03:43.100 Now, these women also have a tendency to shame male sexuality.
00:03:47.740 So they have no problem not sleeping with their husbands.
00:03:51.320 And they will shame men for trying and also shame them for watching porn.
00:03:55.980 Now, we all know how strong the male need for variety is.
00:03:59.740 There's a reason that, you know, in a way this is just nature correcting itself.
00:04:04.780 Because historically, eight women reproduced for one man.
00:04:08.620 Eight.
00:04:09.460 So the sexless men, the women sleeping with the same men, this is just nature kind of taking its course, right?
00:04:16.360 But what they'll do is they don't really want to have sex with him.
00:04:19.300 But they also don't want to lose their resources and their husband going elsewhere.
00:04:23.440 So they shame the porn.
00:04:24.880 They act like porn is the root of all evil in society.
00:04:28.160 I mean, 70% of men watch porn, admittedly, in the last month.
00:04:33.120 I don't know.
00:04:33.540 Society's running okay.
00:04:35.000 And I think most men would give it up if they had a bunch of women that wanted to have sex with them.
00:04:40.000 I know what they say.
00:04:41.640 To me, I think women just don't like losing the power.
00:04:44.840 Because they can't manipulate the guys as much if they have another outlet, another form.
00:04:49.700 They will also shame men that are players who are exploring their options.
00:04:53.860 So you guys know, when a man's a player, there's nothing you are going to do to get him to not have sex.
00:05:00.960 Imagine, imagine thinking that a man that's dating multiple women, having a harem of five women trying to have sex with him all the time.
00:05:08.720 And you're going to say you're a bad person.
00:05:11.200 Do you think that man is going to say, oh, you know what?
00:05:14.400 But I am a bad person.
00:05:17.280 So what they'll do is they, the reason they love the players, right?
00:05:22.900 They really do.
00:05:23.600 Because at some point, most women have dated a guy that's more of a player than their husband.
00:05:29.560 Let's just say.
00:05:30.500 Most women do not marry the baddest boy that they've ever dated or the biggest player, whatever.
00:05:36.320 They hate that they're attracted to the players.
00:05:38.500 They're not attracted to their husband.
00:05:39.800 Because why is, why are these, why are the women yelling at the men for sleeping around, right?
00:05:47.180 I mean, isn't, you kind of wonder what are you doing there?
00:05:51.260 It's kind of a weird behavior.
00:05:53.040 So they all go on a lot of shows and shame men for exploring their options, even though they did the same thing when they were at their peak.
00:06:00.100 The next thing that the finding religion or spiritual journey does is we should wait till marriage.
00:06:07.760 Making men wait for used goods, the 90-day rule, et cetera.
00:06:12.160 So the women, they're not as hot or innocent as they used to be.
00:06:15.820 You know, good women will make up for this, right?
00:06:19.880 You know, good, reasonable women will know, okay, I'm not as attractive as I used to be.
00:06:24.480 And there's different strategies that women take.
00:06:26.460 We could argue about what strategies are the most effective, right?
00:06:31.500 But, you know, some women decide they want to give really good blowjobs.
00:06:36.720 That's how they try to make up for it.
00:06:38.620 One in the chat if that would help.
00:06:40.120 Other women, they decide, I'm just going to be a nicer person.
00:06:43.700 I'm going to learn to be more pleasant, nicer.
00:06:46.360 You know, like fat women.
00:06:47.440 Fat women used to, they knew they weren't the best, so they made up for it with a really good personality.
00:06:53.160 So maybe the women go that route.
00:06:54.640 Other women, you know, I have a friend.
00:06:55.960 She was older and she ended up getting married to a guy that really doesn't take any shit.
00:07:01.700 I wouldn't say he's beta at all.
00:07:03.260 And she did this by, how did she do this?
00:07:06.440 She learned how to code and built him a website for his business.
00:07:10.140 I mean, she learned skills that would make his life easier.
00:07:13.620 She quit her job, worked for him.
00:07:15.480 That's one way to do it.
00:07:16.720 Some women will get in better shape.
00:07:18.140 You see women in their 30s hitting the gym really, really hard.
00:07:20.940 But the, these women think, no, I don't want to do that.
00:07:26.840 That's too hard.
00:07:28.060 I would rather just charge a higher price for used goods.
00:07:31.480 You know, I am going to sell.
00:07:33.220 I'm going to sell, you know, because at the end of the day, dating, it is selling, right?
00:07:36.420 Everyone's selling themselves.
00:07:37.660 This is what I have to offer.
00:07:38.820 This is what I have to offer.
00:07:39.720 So what they're going to do is they're going to say, look, I know my ex-boyfriend hit all
00:07:45.460 the time for free.
00:07:46.380 He had to pay nothing.
00:07:47.620 But you, you get to wait until marriage, put all your money on the line.
00:07:53.280 Give me the power to destroy your legacy and steal your children.
00:07:57.480 And in exchange, you get nothing.
00:07:59.420 You get the promise that I won't leave.
00:08:01.760 They will get a guy to sign up.
00:08:03.940 Probably one of you in the chat that fell for those blue eyes.
00:08:07.060 I know one.
00:08:07.640 I know it's one of you.
00:08:08.580 I don't know who, but deep down, the woman knows he's an idiot.
00:08:13.540 It's not a smart move.
00:08:15.060 So, you know, the next option for the ex-hoes is running back to school.
00:08:20.360 This is an excessive focus on their career.
00:08:22.900 Generally, it's a graduate degree and a PhD.
00:08:25.820 So they sign up for more debt.
00:08:27.480 They become even more selfish, even though they're already selfish.
00:08:30.800 So they say, I'm focusing on me.
00:08:32.680 Sis, you didn't need to do that.
00:08:34.160 You focused on yourself enough.
00:08:36.620 Here we go for social work.
00:08:38.100 Led me to go back to school for social work.
00:08:40.600 I've actually been wanting to.
00:08:41.920 It's never engineering.
00:08:43.820 Talk about this.
00:08:44.420 It's never like.
00:08:45.420 Long time.
00:08:45.980 Oh my gosh, I need to move this.
00:08:47.400 It's never medicine.
00:08:48.580 It's always something that doesn't make any money.
00:08:51.860 Time about how a heartbreak led me to go back to school for social work.
00:08:56.020 I've actually been wanting to talk about this for a long time, but for some reason, I just
00:08:59.700 never knew where to start.
00:09:01.340 In 2019, I was living in LA with my ex-boyfriend, who I was also working for at the time.
00:09:07.280 And if anyone's watching this who is contemplating working with their significant other, don't.
00:09:12.080 It honestly has nothing to do with why we broke up, but it made the breakup so messy after.
00:09:16.920 I'll never forget the day that started our breakup.
00:09:19.100 He woke up really early, and he went to go play basketball, and we didn't really speak
00:09:22.680 that morning.
00:09:23.100 He kind of just woke up and left.
00:09:24.600 Hours later, I haven't heard from him, so I'm like, hello.
00:09:26.780 All of a sudden, I see in our text that he turned off his location services.
00:09:31.440 I'm like, that's weird.
00:09:33.440 What?
00:09:33.860 I just realized that this story time was supposed to be about why I went back to school for social
00:09:37.580 work, not what happened in our breakup.
00:09:39.480 So long story short, he broke up with me.
00:09:41.880 I was distraught.
00:09:43.280 When I tell you, I have never felt heartbreak like that.
00:09:46.920 Tried for a very long time to just get over it on my own, but I literally could not wake
00:09:51.180 up in the mornings.
00:09:51.820 I was that depressed.
00:09:53.280 So naturally, I'm like, okay, I need help.
00:09:55.360 I found a therapist, and I started seeing her like two times a week, and no joke, she
00:09:59.400 single-handedly changed my life to the point.
00:10:02.240 There's a therapy phase.
00:10:04.160 I want you guys to think about all the people that make money off of us during these phases.
00:10:07.820 The doctors convincing us that we're sick when we're not.
00:10:10.940 Here we go.
00:10:11.660 The therapists convincing us we need therapy and to try to understand our feelings when
00:10:18.140 we don't even...
00:10:20.020 If we can't understand our feelings, I mean, that's an impossible task.
00:10:23.680 I get mad for no reason all the time.
00:10:26.400 I get happy for no reason.
00:10:27.700 I mean, we can't understand that.
00:10:29.560 Me being like, holy shit, I want to be able to do that for people.
00:10:32.980 So I took a big risk, applied to a bunch of schools, got in.
00:10:36.040 Now two years later, I graduate this summer, and the goal is to become a therapist and help
00:10:40.940 people the way that my therapist helps me.
00:10:42.880 It's wild how real rejection is redirection.
00:10:46.040 If I hadn't gotten broken up with, I wouldn't have applied to get my master's in social work.
00:10:50.180 I wouldn't have found Locks Club, which made me realize that I really want to work in the
00:10:54.020 dating and relationship space.
00:10:55.540 I wouldn't have moved to Florida during COVID, met my boyfriend, and I probably wouldn't
00:10:59.320 have started a TikTok.
00:11:00.460 Everything happens for a reason.
00:11:02.360 Rejection is redirection.
00:11:03.740 Next, the false accusation realization.
00:11:07.220 So this is when she realized she consented to none of her hoe activities.
00:11:11.500 This happens when looks start to fade because their looks can't get them the resources that
00:11:16.720 they used to.
00:11:17.360 They used to get all this free stuff, events, attention thrown at them.
00:11:21.700 They can't get it from that anymore.
00:11:23.340 Have you ever noticed all the false accusation, the Me Too ladies?
00:11:26.380 It's always after they're hot.
00:11:27.740 They're not hot now.
00:11:29.520 They were hot before.
00:11:30.740 Then it's the I was dumb, young and dumb justification.
00:11:34.400 So when men commit a crime when they were young, they say I was wrong.
00:11:38.700 But women say I was young and dumb.
00:11:41.460 Everything before post-ho, I was young and dumb.
00:11:45.200 Then they got to marry a boyfriend or a husband that's a placeholder.
00:11:51.240 So they obviously need a beta with no standards that lets them do whatever they want.
00:11:55.640 You're the guy she can get fat on.
00:11:57.220 If your woman's getting fat on you, if she's gaining a ton of weight,
00:12:00.180 she's not afraid of you dumping her.
00:12:02.800 You've instilled no fear.
00:12:04.540 Congratulations, fellas.
00:12:06.160 She wants you to have no standards and zero requirements.
00:12:10.060 Next is divorce.
00:12:12.080 Divorce because you want to be an influencer, go to concerts, or join some sort of community
00:12:19.420 that seems better than your husband.
00:12:22.200 Next, obviously, she's going to raise her standards.
00:12:24.880 Make men wait longer for sex while offering nothing in return.
00:12:30.000 So the older they get, the longer that waiting period.
00:12:32.560 You know, it goes from a month phase, two months, three months, give up, have a one night stand,
00:12:37.760 and then she repeats.
00:12:39.340 So again, you know, that's what they always say.
00:12:41.080 I fell into temptation.
00:12:43.120 How do you fall?
00:12:44.580 I don't, did you choose it or did you, was it an accident?
00:12:47.880 There's a lot of steps in having sex, you know, it starts, I mean, I don't want to get
00:12:51.720 too detailed, but you guys, you know, there's a lot of steps.
00:12:55.620 There's going back to the place.
00:12:57.640 There, it doesn't usually, it's not just something you fall into.
00:13:00.780 It's a choice, but you know, they won't say that.
00:13:03.280 So, you know, women back in the day used to stay at their parents' house until they found
00:13:07.500 a husband.
00:13:07.980 They used to learn how to be wives and mothers from their mothers.
00:13:11.500 When they met the man they were going to marry, they would tailor themselves to fit that man
00:13:15.800 and they would become the woman that he needed her to be.
00:13:19.540 But a woman finding herself as a new phenomenon started by modern women as a way to put off
00:13:24.880 marriage, children, and any other major life decision.
00:13:27.560 Because again, the goal of feminism is to be able to use our youth on ourselves as much
00:13:33.860 as we can, find a bailout guy later.
00:13:36.160 If we could, if we had fertility to push off kids till 40, swear we would do it.
00:13:41.220 I swear.
00:13:42.540 Instead of prioritizing becoming a man's wife, we learn how to be disagreeable, disagreeable
00:13:47.960 and difficult.
00:13:48.740 The quest of a woman finding herself usually leads to the next phase that is the hoe phase.
00:13:55.000 Now, what is a modern woman's motivation for finding her hoe phase?
00:13:59.900 You, now this is an article from a feminist website that says you have been so lost and
00:14:06.400 it's explaining the hoe phase.
00:14:07.900 It's to the girl who needs to find herself again.
00:14:10.420 You have been so lost in the whirlwind of life that you've tricked yourself into thinking
00:14:14.560 that you're happy until the high ends.
00:14:16.740 Until your friends leave you, leave and you feel all alone, all you hit is rock bottom.
00:14:22.460 You've become someone that you don't recognize, someone you thought you were supposed to be
00:14:26.820 and you don't want to be that girl.
00:14:30.400 You've become that girl that you promised yourself you would never become, that girl who doesn't
00:14:35.160 know who she is.
00:14:36.340 You tell yourself that you're happy, that you love the life that you live until you're laying
00:14:41.220 in bed at night and it all hits you.
00:14:42.840 Those fundamental questions.
00:14:45.060 What are you even doing with your life?
00:14:46.560 Who are you?
00:14:47.160 Are you satisfied with where you are at?
00:14:48.940 The answer is never, we're never satisfied, never.
00:14:52.560 Are you really happy?
00:14:54.320 And if you can't escape that resounding no, that you feel because you know it's the truth.
00:15:00.220 You've tried to be what everyone else needed instead of what you needed.
00:15:03.720 You've conceded to what you should have fought.
00:15:06.460 You've conceded when you should have fought.
00:15:08.480 You've tried to be who you thought people expected you to be, to please them instead of
00:15:12.580 pleasing yourself.
00:15:13.400 You're so caught up in everything else that you've lost yourself along the way.
00:15:17.020 You've been so desperately trying to fill that void, but nothing you do, nothing you get,
00:15:46.220 or anyone you ever meet seems to be able to fill it.
00:15:48.580 At the end of the day, you feel empty, you feel lost.
00:15:51.300 What are the common actions of a woman finding herself?
00:15:54.020 Usually dated and broke up with a toxic, misogynistic ex.
00:15:59.460 Selfishness, me, me, me in all aspects of life.
00:16:02.080 Spent a ton of money on living, traveling, and material goods.
00:16:06.520 Long-term planning stops.
00:16:08.000 Live in the now until we smash into the wall.
00:16:10.480 Becomes an amateur psychologist.
00:16:12.100 Will diagnose herself and everyone around her with some sort of mental disorder.
00:16:16.240 Fully embrace misandrous ideas like men are trash.
00:16:19.220 Toxic groups of misandrous female friends, etc.
00:16:23.080 Creative pundits.
00:16:24.200 Social media content creation.
00:16:25.920 Some sort of creative business.
00:16:27.720 Lack of true self-reflection.
00:16:30.140 Taking herself off the dating market for far too long and rejecting all the good men that
00:16:34.040 come along because she's dealing with her trauma.
00:16:36.700 This woman talks about how she started her healing journey.
00:16:39.980 Of course, she had a toxic ex.
00:16:41.580 How did I start my healing journey?
00:16:43.120 Let's talk about it.
00:16:44.120 I feel like I need to preface this in saying that I was in a very, very unhealthy and toxic
00:16:48.700 relationship at the time.
00:16:50.080 That's another video for another time because that was just a lot.
00:16:52.700 The first step to starting my healing journey was getting comfortable with being alone.
00:16:57.480 I had this work view that having somebody there.
00:16:59.820 So that's taking herself off the dating market for far too long.
00:17:02.900 Was better than being by myself and that was far from the case.
00:17:05.360 If you disrupt my peace of mind, you got to go.
00:17:07.380 I learned that the hard way, but it was very valuable.
00:17:09.900 I had to unlearn everything that I had learned within that relationship.
00:17:13.760 Had this really warped view of myself.
00:17:16.200 He was telling me I was too skinny.
00:17:17.840 I need to get a boob job.
00:17:18.940 I couldn't see myself for who I was and what I had to offer.
00:17:22.220 Now remember, these are the men that can demand that.
00:17:27.260 I'm telling you, I've heard guys.
00:17:29.220 I've heard guys that there's one guy in London I knew.
00:17:33.360 Okay.
00:17:33.640 And he, I don't want to give too many details.
00:17:35.680 I don't want you guys to figure out who does, but he always had a rotation of five women.
00:17:40.320 Like always, as long as I knew him, his, this is the thing.
00:17:44.580 You would be shocked what women will accept for the right guy.
00:17:48.240 I mean, and to be fair, this was a good looking guy in good.
00:17:51.380 Like he had all the boxes checked, right?
00:17:53.380 This is very good in his field.
00:17:55.380 I met like three of his girlfriends.
00:17:57.780 He was like friends in our friend group.
00:17:59.880 They always accepted him stepping out.
00:18:03.360 Always, always, always, always.
00:18:04.600 That was, that was like his standard.
00:18:07.520 Okay.
00:18:08.480 And unless you accepted that, you just were not, there was one woman that actually, I think
00:18:14.140 he settled down with, but I'm telling you, she had to go through like a year or two of
00:18:18.500 him doing whatever he wanted.
00:18:20.380 That just was what it was.
00:18:22.460 Now, let me continue.
00:18:23.840 So those guys, when you hear them talk about women and what they like and don't like, they
00:18:30.100 are very critical.
00:18:31.800 Like they are very specific and normal guys, if they're over a certain threshold, it's
00:18:38.100 like, oh, she, that, that's why I do, I do the one to 10 because I hear how these guys
00:18:44.480 think and they will tell you to get a boob job.
00:18:47.160 I swear to God, they'll do it.
00:18:48.380 I mean, they do not care when he, you think about him.
00:18:51.860 So if he has a girl he likes, she's slightly above, below his attractiveness threshold
00:18:57.420 that he usually goes for.
00:18:59.340 He's going to tell her if she's too skinny, he's going to tell her to lose weight.
00:19:03.640 He's going to tell her to get a boob job if he wants it, because he's got four of you
00:19:07.880 lined up.
00:19:08.740 Not only that, these guys have women from their past that are ready to date them at any
00:19:15.340 time.
00:19:15.540 They could be in a whole marriage if these guys called, they're breaking it off and they're
00:19:21.280 coming back.
00:19:22.180 You, you have no idea the abundance that these guys get.
00:19:25.460 So when a 10 gets with a girl like this, she's cute.
00:19:30.700 She's not bad looking.
00:19:31.680 Right.
00:19:31.940 But by no means is she the archetype that the men go for.
00:19:38.300 Right.
00:19:38.420 She's cute, not beautiful.
00:19:40.580 They're going to say stuff like that and you're going to, you're going to have to do it.
00:19:44.140 I had to unlearn everything that I had learned within that relationship.
00:19:48.880 I had this really warped view of myself.
00:19:51.460 She was telling me I was too skinny.
00:19:53.100 I need to get a boob job.
00:19:54.220 I couldn't see myself for who I was and what I had to offer.
00:19:57.520 It's time to let it go.
00:19:58.580 And learn new ways of thinking that would benefit me, empower me, and help me grow.
00:20:03.160 I usually put makeup on my forehead.
00:20:04.700 I started journaling.
00:20:05.680 That was one of the things that really, really helped me get to the root of who I was, what
00:20:09.920 I loved, how I felt about myself, who I wanted to be.
00:20:13.200 I had to work on finding validation within myself and knowing that what I thought about
00:20:17.660 myself is all that mattered.
00:20:19.020 I started meditating.
00:20:20.000 I started meditating because I needed to really get to the essence of what I was thinking.
00:20:24.820 Being alone with my thoughts was one of the scariest things.
00:20:26.880 I needed to rebuild my mindset and just see myself for who I am, what I had to offer,
00:20:31.620 which was a hell of a lot.
00:20:32.920 I started getting back to me and everything that made me happy.
00:20:35.780 I wanted to feel good all around, so I started working.
00:20:38.640 Okay, you guys are saying she's a five.
00:20:40.660 You do it.
00:20:41.400 I don't want to hear it.
00:20:42.760 I don't want to hear it.
00:20:45.120 You would do it.
00:20:46.940 I have seen how these things played out.
00:20:49.400 And you know what the other thing?
00:20:50.760 The women that would argue with these guys on the show, I'm not going to say names,
00:20:55.420 but you guys can put two and two together from these streams.
00:20:59.180 They would throw themselves at the guys that they were arguing with when the cameras were off.
00:21:04.900 That's all I'm going to say.
00:21:06.140 On my mindset, I started working on what I was consuming and was watching things that motivated me.
00:21:11.280 At this point, I'm always working on the relationship I have with myself.
00:21:14.160 My healing journey helped me get back to me.
00:21:16.180 And that's why my book, my journal is called Back to Me.
00:21:19.220 We have to learn to give back to ourselves and nurture ourselves and love ourselves.
00:21:23.260 So, back to me.
00:21:25.020 When men write books, it's about accomplishing something.
00:21:28.040 When women write books, it's just about finding themselves.