Pearl - The Rise of Situationships (Call-in Show)

00:00:00.000 Most answered very quickly, no, because men are useless.

00:00:05.440 This headline from The Hill, it caught my eye.

00:00:08.220 Most young men are single.

00:00:09.900 Most young women are not.

00:00:11.240 Young men have fallen faster than any demographic in America over the last 40 years.

00:00:15.960 It's a different world now.

00:00:16.960 Like, we don't need men the way that they used to.

00:00:18.980 Nobody needs men.

00:00:20.220 The future is female.

00:00:23.240 Men and women are drifting further apart, and society is crumbling because of it.

00:00:30.000 A fascinating debate has broken out about the value of marriage.

00:00:33.060 You've kind of got the trad con versus red pill thing.

00:00:35.780 This men's rights crowd that sometimes just goes too far the other way.

00:00:39.340 You need to stop acting like grown boys and infants and actually become men.

00:00:43.420 Marriage is a bond and it's a sacred bond.

00:00:46.060 It's a machine designed to extract resources from you.

00:00:49.080 Now many of the red pilled have taken the position that it's bad for men to get married.

00:00:53.860 It's Hannah Pearl Davis or just pearly things.

00:00:57.340 One of the most controversial faces in all of the internet.

00:01:01.340 She goes on to say that marriage is a terrible deal for men.

00:01:04.180 Because if me and you were in a business contract, you would never sign a contract where I am paid to leave.

00:01:09.340 Gee, what could go wrong there?

00:01:11.500 74% or something of divorces are initiated by women.

00:01:15.100 Men have everything to lose, primarily their own children.

00:01:17.980 Men get killed by the courts and by divorce laws.

00:01:20.660 I had no idea that courts of family law were courts of equity, not courts of law.

00:01:25.500 Because in family court, you don't need evidence to accuse someone of abuse.

00:01:28.840 You need no evidence.

00:01:29.980 When you guys say get married young, a lot of these men don't know what they're signing up for.

00:01:33.680 And you're not going to be there when their entire life falls apart.

00:01:37.020 I interviewed them on the other side.

00:01:39.540 I didn't meet my son until he was 15 months old.

00:01:41.840 How much did you spend trying to get him back?

00:01:43.980 The legal fees alone was about $200,000.

00:01:46.320 Before you know it, you're homeless. You're literally just thrown out onto the street.

00:01:49.680 We absolutely reinforce bad behavior from women.

00:01:51.860 Wives are taught to leave their husbands

00:01:53.800 And then daughters grow up without their fathers

00:01:56.100 Family is a foundation of society

00:01:57.980 Every problem in society comes from single mother homes

00:02:01.080 A lot of women will just chase this negative rabbit hole of happiness, endless happiness

00:02:05.340 Feminism's biggest failure is it lies to women

00:02:07.480 We tell women to date as many guys as possible

00:02:09.280 We tell them to put off family into marriage

00:02:10.880 You are allowed to leave your perfect husband

00:02:13.740 You are allowed to end a relationship with a really great boyfriend

00:02:18.100 Oh freeze your eggs, have an abortion

00:02:19.580 What? You're evil

00:02:21.220 i don't think there's anything else in life that we actually ever go into preparing to fail

00:02:25.380 like if you have the mentality of this is going to go wrong and be pessimistic naturally the

00:02:29.860 outcome is going to be that it's going to fail anyway it's self-sabotage that's the thing like

00:02:33.540 women are so willing to leave marriages because they're not happy this is not about happiness

00:02:38.420 the most important thing is the children and the problem is we have a modern society where it's me

00:02:43.700 me me my feelings leave when i feel like it instead of doing what's best for the kids

00:02:48.340 this myth that we live in an age of male privilege where's my male privilege they think well men have

00:02:54.120 all the rights they have all the power privileged patriarchal system that we have why doesn't our

00:02:59.020 society care about men's rights i have no friends no way and no social life men are alone in this

00:03:05.260 situation men are homeless men are thinking about eating guns i've seen so many men on on the brink

00:03:10.860 of suicide and they didn't do anything wrong how are you equal if the men are the ones that have to

00:03:16.620 fight and die to defend the country the men are the ones that build and maintain all the

00:03:21.340 infrastructure women are helplessly dependent upon men the so-called deaths of despair from

00:03:27.020 suicide overdose to alcohol three times higher among men than among women culture is telling

00:03:32.860 men you are no good you got to get your act together i think men have failed themselves

00:03:36.780 what kind of a man are you what kind of a woman are you going to attract if men are in trouble

00:03:41.820 so are women everybody knows this is a huge problem but nobody wants to admit it every

00:03:46.700 single woman at the table said they wanted a man 500k 500k 300k 200k am i crazy everything

00:03:52.220 is really set up against you to fail as a man if men make less than women women don't want to marry

00:03:57.260 them so you know who wants more economically and emotionally viable men women i don't want to be

00:04:03.900 an independent woman anymore i don't want to be a strong independent woman i'm over it when is it

00:04:09.100 it going to be my turn? Where are we meeting the men that don't stop? I can't keep having these

00:04:13.120 same conversations. The only simp here is you, Pearl. You simp for men. No, I think you simp

00:04:17.380 for women. She's a provocateur. She says stupid stuff, but Pearl is right about this. It's already

00:04:21.720 happening. It's just not out in the open yet. Now it's just hookup culture is going to be our

00:04:25.700 fairy tale ending because men don't want a wife and women can't find a husband. The future,

00:04:30.700 if everybody follows your path, is there is no future. We go into population decline and our

00:04:35.620 economy goes into decline. Civilization will crumble. The American story does not end well.

00:04:42.060 This is an existential crisis failing young men.

00:04:51.300 What's going on, people? Thank you for tuning in tonight. You can bring your time and attention

00:04:56.020 anywhere on this planet. And for some reason, you guys have decided to give it to me. So thank you

00:05:01.420 guys so much for tuning in and i appreciate it if you can like the video i want to say first of all

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00:05:18.580 fly fathers in maybe even go to them in person and bring a film crew um anyways thank you to the last

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00:05:33.620 donated a hundred. Thank you guys so much. It's your donations that make this possible. We're at

00:05:38.520 $35,512. So, okay. So today we're talking about situationships. Now this has been a relatively

00:05:48.920 new term. I don't think situationships, um, they're kind of a product of the modern dating market.

00:05:55.480 And it was tough when I was younger and I went to school, I didn't know how to describe to my parents the relationships everybody was in.

00:06:04.940 Because while there was maybe one or two or three boyfriend girlfriends on the teams, most of my lifetime, I've probably known more people in situationships than I know married or in relationships.

00:06:16.280 Now, so welcome to another episode of Pearl Daily.

00:06:19.540 Not very long ago, it was required for a man to commit to a woman to be able to have sex.

00:06:24.580 It was required, at least for most men, for what they knew of, for a man to marry a woman before the woman would bear his children.

00:06:33.020 But those times are long gone.

00:06:35.120 For the sexual revolution came a culture where women are empowered to be promiscuous and have casual sex.

00:06:41.100 This dynamic is praised in modern culture.

00:06:44.540 Where there was once long-term relationships, now there is nothing but a bunch of situationships.

00:06:49.440 Now, what is a situationship?

00:06:51.600 A situationship is a romantic or sexual relationship that lacks clear labels, commitment, or long-term expectations.

00:06:59.920 It's more than just like a one-time casual hookup, but less than a traditional relationship.

00:07:06.660 More and more women are getting stuck in situations for months and even years as more and more average and men women are trying to get commitment from men that are out of their league.

00:07:17.840 If you ask these women whose fault is it that the situationship is persisting, they will always blame the men instead of taking accountability for the type of man they choose to spend their time with.

00:07:28.600 Now, I'd like to give a little bit of a caveat.

00:07:32.200 So there's a few different types of situationships that I see.

00:07:36.340 There's a few.

00:07:39.680 So there's situationship number one, which is a woman sleeping with a guy that's out of her league.

00:07:47.120 This can go on for months and even years.

00:07:50.640 Now, this type of situationship is on and off.

00:07:53.520 Oftentimes, the woman will go back to this guy throughout her entire life.

00:07:57.820 So in between marriages, she'll go back.

00:08:00.420 In between boyfriends, she'll go back.

00:08:02.340 This is the ultimate guy that the woman wanted.

00:08:05.520 This is the jack, you know, of modern women.

00:08:10.880 Now, there is a different type of situationship that I also see.

00:08:14.540 and this is a guy that a woman sleeps with but is embarrassed of. So oftentimes you hear from

00:08:22.940 these guys and you may laugh but this is a problem for certain men that the women always want sex and

00:08:29.300 never commitment. Now men that have never been in that position can't even fathom this but these are

00:08:35.400 the men that are chosen to be side dude material where the women could not see themselves getting

00:08:40.920 along with the man maybe they're embarrassed to be with that man in public but they just cannot

00:08:45.620 for whatever reason see it long term but they like the sex or maybe even the comfort of the

00:08:51.520 situationship um you also see the fat chicks that um men bang and you know they don't really know

00:09:01.120 their place um but those are really the different types of situationships i see and i was thinking

00:09:07.960 about the experience of men and women. And I noticed that you can compare a situationship

00:09:12.920 with an older woman to a young man in the friend zone with an attractive woman. And I would argue

00:09:18.500 it's up to the man to end a relationship with a woman that he's putting effort into, but not

00:09:23.040 getting the sex from. Just like it's a woman's responsibility to end things with a man that

00:09:27.820 she's not getting commitment from. Women say all the time that they know right when they meet a

00:09:32.360 man, if they would sleep with them or not. I think it's the same for men. It won't take long

00:09:37.380 for a man to realize if he wanted he would be in a relationship with a woman sort of okay so i did

00:09:45.440 a poll and i was kind of curious about this so i pulled men what is the longest or sorry i pulled

00:09:53.620 people what is the longest situationship you've been in so 30 percent of situationships this is

00:10:00.200 over 2,000 people, so this is a decent sample size, under a year, one to three years, 20%,

00:10:07.600 10% say three to five years, and the majority of situationships are over five years long.

00:10:16.420 And when I got this poll, I realized that's longer than most marriages.

00:10:21.600 Many situationships last longer than most marriages.

00:10:25.560 Now, I also did a poll today asking men if they've ever promoted, let me find it, fellas, have you, because me and Doug MPA were talking before the show, and I don't agree that, I don't agree at all that situationships the women always lose.

00:10:50.560 His initial thought was that if a man doesn't know in a year if he's going to marry you, he's never going to.

00:10:59.920 And I think it's a generational difference, but that's not what I've seen at all or make you his girlfriend.

00:11:08.340 And I'm being honest here.

00:11:09.780 That is not at all what I've seen.

00:11:12.220 I've seen about 50-50.

00:11:15.160 half of situationships get left in the dust and half actually get what they want even after one

00:11:23.460 to three years there's winners and there's losers in this life now there was a girl in school and

00:11:28.520 she was dating I knew in school and she was dating let's just call him Chad and to be honest the

00:11:36.580 whole time I would watch her and I would think that she was stupid right and I would think that

00:11:41.260 she was dumb and idiot. Chad will never take you seriously. You know, I recently checked in her

00:11:48.880 profile and she's pregnant with his kid now. So I was wrong. That girl was in a four year

00:11:54.540 situationship, four years and one, but then for every winter there's a loser, right? And I knew

00:12:01.660 another girl that was in an on and off situationship with let's call him Tyrone. And, um, it was on and

00:12:09.980 off for years and no he never took her seriously i i would say probably she wasn't good looking

00:12:16.400 enough um neither were right both um the one guy did bald early so maybe that helped i don't know

00:12:24.520 now the women that win and the women that lose i'd like to say there's no guaranteed outcomes

00:12:34.200 there's just strategies. But the women that I saw win, the strategy they would enact is they

00:12:40.140 wouldn't bring up commitment. And they would just work to give the man the most positive experience

00:12:45.600 possible. Now, the women that would nag the man constantly about what are we and da da da da da,

00:12:51.860 I didn't really see them winning. So I was curious, I wanted to pull the people and this is a smaller

00:12:57.140 poll. I wanted to poll and see what the people had seen. Because in my experience, from what I've

00:13:04.240 seen, it's about 50-50. Maybe 60-40 with 60% of situationships stay that way, 40%.

00:13:13.260 And I promoted a situationship to my girlfriend or wife. This was asking men.

00:13:20.480 32% said they have done that 30% just wanted to see results 37% said they'd never done that

00:13:27.820 and that's about what I've seen I've also seen men on the losing side of a situationship where

00:13:34.200 the girl's just a little hotter than him or has more choice and he wants to be in a relationship

00:13:39.540 you know and she doesn't but my question is for the men I really want to hear about your

00:13:47.820 situationships. You know, what is the longest situationship you've been in? Why was it a

00:13:54.320 situationship? And what made you stay in it for so long? And did you ever promote her? Or maybe

00:14:01.240 you were on the end of wanting to be promoted. Did you get promoted? So we're going to watch

00:14:07.100 some TikToks on situationships, and then you guys can call in.

00:14:11.480 you know how they say it's always harder to get over someone that you never actually dated

00:14:19.060 well i would like to add something to that not only is it harder to get over someone that you

00:14:23.440 never dated it is the hardest to get i know a guy who's been in one for 35 years seems like a great

00:14:29.340 story call in for someone that you never dated that you also met in a very serendipitous way

00:14:35.160 and i know for a fact that is why it was so hard for me to get over a couple of the men that i was

00:14:40.640 involved with in my 20s. And mind you, these are men that I never was in a committed relationship,

00:14:45.760 but because of the way that I met them in these crazy, unexpected, out of the blue

00:14:51.160 fairytale ways. Yeah. So when they say I met him in a fairytale way, it just means he has a script.

00:14:57.600 He's very good at running. So he's got like a routine that he's good at like putting women in.

00:15:03.340 It made it near.

00:15:04.260 women are the ones in situationships most of the time they're older women that are desperate for

00:15:12.140 a relationship and get one i doug mpa i've seen it both honestly these days i'm being honest

00:15:18.500 i see a good amount of men in situationships with young women where they want

00:15:24.900 it's like it's like they want the situationship to be taken seriously but the women are young

00:15:30.620 they're like, no, just sex. I've seen it. I've seen it both ways. Uh, the older women,

00:15:36.620 the older women, um, younger man. Yeah. I mean, that's, that's another one that you see.

00:15:46.580 Nearly impossible for me to think that it wasn't destiny for me to be with them.

00:15:50.460 So yeah, granted they were showing me, they were definitely showing me in the moment who they were

00:15:56.500 as people, even if their actions were not aligning with their words at all, even if they were hot and

00:16:01.340 cold and treating me terribly. Women close to hitting the wall will accept situations. If I'm

00:16:06.980 being honest, guys, I saw it the most in school. That was like when I was in college, more women

00:16:13.580 were in situationships than relationships. And some of them, it was on their terms. Some of them,

00:16:21.920 it wasn't. But if I'm just being real here, that's what I saw the most. And I'm not I'm not

00:16:30.480 trying to like white knight for women, right? I'm just like, I have to go with what I'm seeing with

00:16:35.240 my eyes. So yeah, simply just did not care because I was like, well, I met them in this way. And this

00:16:43.360 is how I've always wanted to meet someone. So therefore, it's just gonna have to work out

00:16:46.920 somehow. And then I would get stuck in like very on and off situations with people that sometimes

00:16:53.000 lasted up to two years. So on top of already being someone who tends to project her daydreamed

00:16:59.480 fantasies onto people in the real world, even if they are showing the complete opposite, add to

00:17:04.800 that the fact that since I was a little girl, I've always wanted to meet someone in that like

00:17:09.240 Disney princess way. Of course, it was hard for me to let go of these men. Like why wouldn't it

00:17:15.020 have been hard. Like one of the guys that I'm referring to, he actually chased me down as I

00:17:19.900 was pulling out of my parking lot to go to my friend's house. Like he waved me down and made

00:17:25.200 me stop my car and then ask for my number. And then the other person I met while I was on vacation

00:17:30.420 just hit it off right away. We got along so well that we ended up spending like every single night

00:17:36.260 together for the rest of the time that I was there. And then we just happened to either run

00:17:40.000 into each other or see each other for the next two years after that completely unplanned. And

00:17:45.200 mind you, this person and I both live in different countries. Like there's no way that that's a

00:17:51.080 coincidence. So it was situations like that where I would either keep running into the person or

00:17:55.740 the way that I met them genuinely made me believe that this was going to be how it played out with

00:18:01.420 this person. Like it was meant to be. And I think unless you've been through this yourself, or

00:18:05.900 unless you are a very imaginative person and you have a very clear idea of like how you want things

00:18:12.300 to play out which i know you can't even control that you really won't understand how difficult

00:18:16.540 it is to let go of people that you do meet in these unexpected and serendipitous ways like i

00:18:21.740 don't know in my mind it's just a lot easier for me to get over someone that i meet on a dating app

00:18:27.020 versus someone that i meet like in the wild completely unplanned and unexpected trust me

00:18:32.460 when i say that i've been through this situation enough times now to know that the way that you

00:18:37.340 meet someone really does not play into the kind of person that they are at all definitely had to

00:18:42.380 learn that one the hard way but i'm just saying if you are someone that has also found it way more

00:18:48.060 difficult to let go of people that you met in these crazy ways you are not alone because i

00:18:54.700 stand by the theory that the people that you meet in these kinds of ways are 10 times harder to let

00:18:59.980 okay yeah and and what you get is when you meet a guy in a crazy way he's practiced that so he's

00:19:05.660 got choice oh i've been in a situation for six fucking years now i cannot believe i just said

00:19:14.180 that on camera but i'm so fucking over it i'm so over it basically this boy and i started dating

00:19:20.580 when we were in high school and like honestly that shit was so toxic like we were both stubborn as

00:19:26.400 fuck. And we would just argue constantly. So what happens is women will always go back to the most

00:19:32.720 alpha guy of their past. So sometimes women find that guy in high school. Sometimes we find that

00:19:39.380 guy in college. Sometimes we find that guy in the workforce. But usually, especially women,

00:19:45.960 I want you guys to know if there's a woman that gives you a really low body count and she's not

00:19:50.060 lying. There's some ex that has a subscription still. I'm just letting you know. But anyways,

00:19:56.560 he broke up with me. I was so sad, but then we remained really close friends. And eventually

00:20:01.860 just basically, because you guys have to think about it. Women are getting, you know, thrown at

00:20:06.800 us 24 seven. And I want you when you start looking at sex as a need, women's behavior makes way more

00:20:14.980 sense and like it humanizes us in a way women you know men it would be like

00:20:25.220 you know women they're gonna find a way to take care of that need and obviously women were gonna

00:20:31.300 do it in the most manipulative ways possible and exes are a great way to do it we continue to date

00:20:39.380 but without label and then we both went to the same college so we weren't she picked that college

00:20:45.620 really dating then either but we continued this whatever the that was going on

00:20:49.940 and that with my head because it felt so much like a relationship that when i

00:20:53.700 got upset at things like which if you're in a relationship it's totally valid

00:20:57.780 but because we weren't it wasn't justified and so i kept feeling all these things

00:21:02.260 that i wasn't technically allowed to feel because we weren't dating like i've always been really

00:21:06.580 shy with like dating and all that like i don't really know how to flirt me i'm 23 and i don't

00:21:11.860 i can't flirt and the thing is it was on off on off but because for me i was so scared to like

00:21:17.140 meet other people because i was so comfortable in this little like security blanket that yeah

00:21:22.020 so a lot of times guys when you're meeting a woman and she's acting weird there's someone

00:21:26.820 in the background like if you if you start thinking i can tell she likes me but there's

00:21:32.500 something holding me back or whatever there i promise to god either she doesn't like you at all

00:21:38.700 or there's someone in the background that is this boy and i regret not going on dates and like

00:21:43.600 around in college because now i'm 23 i work at home now so it's not like i can meet people at

00:21:48.740 work and like i don't want to do dating ads either because it just feels so forced and i've heard

00:21:52.320 too many bad stories from friends that like i'm not doing that shit but anyway last year of college

00:21:57.680 we finally dated which apparently recently i talked to him about it and according to him

00:22:02.640 we weren't even dating back then but we were doing like the whole flowers valentine's day

00:22:07.440 all that shit so like i don't know what's wrong with him it has come to my attention finally

00:22:11.760 i need to move the fuck on and yeah and that's that's what you're competing with and remember

00:22:17.640 this is a six-year situationship situationships oftentimes last longer than marriages

00:22:23.180 think about that think about that stop wasting my time on this boy we broke up the last year

00:22:29.880 of college because of long distance but now we're in the same city in the same fucking

00:22:33.120 friend group and it's so much harder but fuck this this year i told myself to stop wasting my

00:22:37.820 time and energy on the people who don't return the same energy back i'm 23 still have not dated

00:22:42.800 anyone else like at this point i feel like i'm just gonna die alone all my friends are in

00:22:49.120 relationships too and it's so cute I'm like I want one where do people get one at this point

00:22:54.800 I feel like I've lost all of my dating skills because I didn't have to use that muscle for like

00:22:59.280 six years for the first time in my life I finally feel like I'm ready to move on and meet other

00:23:06.880 people I'm just fucking terrified too I keep saying that I'm only sticking with this boy

00:23:12.200 because of comfort and familiarity but like he's not giving me any of that because he's stressing

00:23:17.540 me out so much i just need to rant today oh my god she just went up two points holy

00:23:24.020 did you guys see that oh my god makeup works we can't deny this that's okay hot girl rant

00:23:31.780 wait i've been loving brushing my hair like this recently

00:23:38.100 and just look at that all right so yeah she's got the situation ship let's see who's next

00:23:47.540 oh this is the same one okay let's see who's next i just texted my situationship of eight months and

00:23:58.680 said hey i love coloring you love coloring you but i'm never gonna meet my husband if i keep

00:24:04.420 coloring you and i think i actually am finally ready for more commitment from someone um all

00:24:09.780 was great in my head like in my head he didn't even reply great life lived on why did he reply

00:24:16.180 and say who's to say that person can't be me now she just got another six months he got another

00:24:27.880 six months of subscription that wasn't in the script so now my brain is frozen

00:24:35.240 he's taking notes all right let's see who's next and this is super common for girls in

00:24:44.000 their early twenties. Like it's that, that's what, you know, you guys are saying the older

00:24:48.800 women are in the situationships and maybe they are, but I'm telling you in school, it was like

00:24:54.280 everybody, everybody. Say what you will, but I'm in what they call a long-term situationship. It's

00:25:03.120 an Aquarius. So you already know. Anyway, I'm a Libra. So it's like two air signs and I get on

00:25:08.260 his fucking nerves for sure so let's play a game of questions long have we been in a

00:25:14.180 situationship i don't know i don't really count time like anniversaries it's just like

00:25:20.680 time passage this guy does not care two and a half years who braided my hair for soul cycle

00:25:27.780 this morning i do because i've known how to braid for a long time okay but who makes me dinner

00:25:35.400 every night not every night but me because i feed the cats and you around the same time

00:25:42.600 how long have i been staying in your apartment um long enough i mean you have your own i don't

00:25:49.960 understand why you can't move the out so why are we not in a relationship

00:25:58.760 because i can't even commit to my clothes why the would i commit to like

00:26:03.480 a thing like that a thing he braids my hair he makes me food

00:26:11.560 i didn't i stay in his apartment bitch every night he makes me food define situationship

00:26:19.940 i already did what does it mean to you i told you it's just something that like

00:26:28.560 he like does not want to be on camera this is he's like lady you got a chest tattoo i can't do this

00:26:36.640 is there for the time

00:26:40.720 it means when people just got too much going on that they don't have the time to

00:26:48.960 put a label on something but you know that something is there all the time

00:26:55.040 acting for food every night so like

00:26:58.980 anyway two and a half years no commitment but he will braid my hair he will cook for me

00:27:07.900 i can stay in his zoo of a there's too many tattoos and her hair is too short

00:27:12.660 fucking house because you make this shit a zoo fuck my house is so much cleaner when you're not

00:27:18.740 around anyway there's cereal on the floor why is there cereal i don't even eat cereal

00:27:23.900 that's it yeah gonzo knows ah yeah see the guy in the background he's thinner and he kind of

00:27:33.260 looked better looking at a glance oh i think oh this is okay so i'm in a new situation ship

00:27:39.520 but i need you guys to tell me what base am i on okay like how serious is this yeah we're not

00:27:46.320 official we're not exclusive we're not dating but we are watching love island usa together even

00:27:51.720 though we are currently on opposite sides of the country i'm in chicago right now because i'm home

00:27:56.040 and they're in la and so what we've been doing is every night we've been like syncing up in how we

00:28:00.760 watch love island like we'll press play at the exact same time and then we'll binge like three

00:28:05.320 or four episodes together our entire text threads have just become like syncing up pressing play

00:28:10.520 syncing up time codes because also i have ads and they don't so that's become fickle like we have

00:28:15.640 like 10 000 text messages back and forth over the last few days where we've been binging this show

00:28:20.280 and just live texting it as it's happening this is commitment so yeah guys let me know do you

00:28:24.840 think it's serious enough for me to propose or like there's another one all right let's see

00:28:31.720 and we're gonna have you call it and i just i want to hear all about if you guys have been in

00:28:35.800 situationships you know we're gonna go you know how they say it's always harder to get over someone

00:28:43.140 that you never actually dated well i would like to add something to that not only is it harder to

00:28:47.760 get over someone that you never dated. It is the hardest to get over someone that you never dated

00:28:52.860 that you also met in a very serendipitous way. And I know for us, we did this one already.

00:28:59.180 All right. So guys, I want you to call in and tell me about your situationships.

00:29:06.620 All right. So let's, let's call in. That one girl had the dreaded long distance

00:29:15.140 situationship. Oh, that has to be the worst. What do you think is the worst kind of situationship,

00:29:20.840 Pearlie Pearl? Well, I don't think hers is long distance. She was just home.

00:29:24.520 No, she was in college. I've followed her before. She lives in LA, but she's in college.

00:29:29.340 So she's just home for like Christmas, summer, you know, but go ahead.

00:29:35.100 Yeah. But still, you know, you've met women who they're holding onto a situationship

00:29:40.380 and it's long distance and it's it seems even more delusional when the guy's like a thousand

00:29:46.140 miles away and the guy's keeping them spellbound i think it's actually great it's great for women

00:29:52.760 because you know we can't get along with anyone unless they're a thousand miles away

00:29:57.200 so he could just whisper sweet nothings and get his subscription every other weekend that's great

00:30:05.940 you are wise beyond your years my friend so it's kind of a win-win go ahead i can tell you

00:30:13.760 my longest situationship lasted longer than my marriage how long was it uh

00:30:21.280 so i was married for four years and my longest situation was seven years oh wow

00:30:32.880 yeah yep and it just the the woman in the situation just never graduated

00:30:40.520 to the next part i never um never got bumped up to relationship what made you know what made you

00:30:47.440 not want to do it or was it her like who was it uh it was her for sure there's just certain things

00:30:53.480 that um it was just it was just never going to happen she had certain things with her personality

00:31:02.120 certain things with their mindset that just weren't conducive to actually making her a part of my life

00:31:07.800 and did she ever like ask you for commitment of course oh yeah and she and you just would say how

00:31:14.200 what would you let me let's let's role play here show me just so the guys know how they could

00:31:19.800 string this along seven years or six years okay okay um doug mpa i really i just want to be with

00:31:27.640 you and just us together um i would say um i would say i just don't have the bandwidth for that right

00:31:40.120 now i'm giving you i'm giving you all that i can give right now and if that's not enough you need

00:31:47.400 to let me know but but i see you dating you're dating that other girl and you've been hanging

00:31:53.080 out with her more then i would say i would just keep reiterating the point i'd say um we have what

00:32:03.000 we have and that's separate from what's going on there i'd say i you know i compartmentalize

00:32:10.420 certain things in my life and i only have a certain amount to give to certain things and

00:32:14.280 this is all that i can give and i would literally tell her like you know this is all that i can give

00:32:19.100 you. That's it. No more, no less. And you just keep putting it on, keep putting it on them and

00:32:27.400 saying, look, like if, if you want more and I can't give it to you, well, then you have a decision to

00:32:32.360 make. Yep. That'll do it. That'll keep her. Yep. Yep. And then you also, so guys, to keep a

00:32:44.160 situationship going you got to give a little bit so like this i would take this person on you know

00:32:49.720 a trip you know we would go to to florida you got to do nice enough things to keep the illusion of

00:32:56.620 a relationship going but you don't do never do like thanksgiving together or dinner together

00:33:03.120 maybe do new year's but never do thanksgiving never do christmas never do major holidays

00:33:07.640 but you know do a trip or something like that you know take them out to dinner and stuff like that

00:33:12.200 but don't do anything like you know big time so yeah that's that's

00:33:22.440 longest situationship i've ever seen

00:33:27.320 probably 10 years i've seen someone in a situation ship for a decade so just real fast so i said that

00:33:35.640 just like, okay, if a man is young and he is dating a woman and he's not getting sex,

00:33:45.400 it's his responsibility to end a relationship with a woman where he's not getting sex because

00:33:51.500 what's the point? And he can't get mad at the girl because the girl doesn't want to sleep with

00:33:56.520 them. It's his responsibility to not deal with that woman in the first place. And that's what

00:34:00.160 I would say about older women and the situationships because a lot of women past the age of 30

00:34:05.380 end up in situationships with guys because they want to rush to try to get married or have a

00:34:10.260 relationship and these women can't get mad at a guy that won't commit to him she needs to be

00:34:15.840 have the wherewithal to cut it off if she's not getting the commitment right yeah no i agree

00:34:22.340 it's interesting you say i saw the most situationships in college like that was like the top

00:34:28.700 like did you not see that when you were in school or no no i've seen the most relations i've seen

00:34:35.040 the most, I've seen the most situationships in my thirties. In fact, I've been, I've been the

00:34:42.420 person not committing to the most women in my thirties. Have you ever been close to promoting

00:34:48.360 a girl or no? Yes, I have. And, um, look, the only thing about it is, is you kind of change

00:34:56.060 the social contract a little bit and see how they react. Okay. And a lot of women in situationship,

00:35:02.760 they're looking for those small little indicators that they're going to get promoted they don't

00:35:07.720 understand that if a man isn't committal and he starts showing signs that he's about to commit

00:35:15.720 ladies don't try to take um his ability to be able to promote you away because a lot of women

00:35:23.160 they'll see the change and they'll be like so are we in a relationship now is it finally finally

00:35:27.800 finally and that'll make the guy not want to promote you ladies you have to make sure it's

00:35:32.360 his decision and his decision only do you know what that's the women because i've seen it like

00:35:37.800 50 50. when i think of like the people i knew in school like which girls got like pumped and dumped

00:35:44.520 and which girls got into that who actually won one commitment has to be on the table for him

00:35:52.520 eventually there's some guys that like they're not gonna if they settle down they're gonna be old

00:35:59.040 when they do it like so one of the girls i'm thinking of like he just was never gonna settle

00:36:03.860 down like if he does he'll be 40 or 50 he's just that type of guy do you know what i mean yeah i

00:36:09.700 agree because some of the guys they just wanted to mess around in college and then they they might

00:36:15.380 go find a girl so like when they graduated they would kind of look at the girl that'd been there

00:36:19.760 all four years and they're like fine you know fine bitch you've worn me down like

00:36:28.400 you're still here after all these years so might as well reward yeah like yeah the girl and i would

00:36:33.360 say it was like 50 50 for the ones that were long term if it's like i don't really count a situate

00:36:39.520 like i'm thinking like long-term situationships go ahead yeah see i was in a weird situation in

00:36:45.920 college because my first girlfriend i was with for four and a half years five years and then i went

00:36:52.400 off to college and i wasn't even thinking about a relationship so i was putting women in

00:36:59.440 situationships in college but everyone else around me was getting together so a bunch of my friends

00:37:05.680 from college got married out of college but i was one of the only people where i had gotten out of

00:37:10.000 really out of a relationship uh i moved away from my serious relationship to go to college

00:37:17.120 so generational difference it was all situationships by the time i got to school

00:37:24.160 not all i would say like maybe 20 percent were in relationships but the rest no

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00:38:15.220 Make sure to go to Pearl.

00:38:16.240 Yep.

00:38:18.060 Hey, Todd.

00:38:19.100 How's it going?

00:38:20.680 Pretty good, you?

00:38:21.900 Good.

00:38:23.620 So tell me about your situationship.

00:38:26.860 How old were you?

00:38:27.880 Where'd you guys meet?

00:38:28.880 How long were you together-ish?

00:38:32.120 First of all, you can hear me, right?

00:38:35.580 Yeah, I can hear you.

00:38:36.300 yeah okay good to go good to go okay i was active duty military which was a no-no to begin with

00:38:42.720 i was uh god this was back in uh the mid 2000s and i was down in uh down in uh south texas okay

00:38:53.700 and and uh the bar i was going to this was after my divorce the bar i was going to

00:39:00.580 it was obvious at the time it wasn't so obvious now that i've been red pilled it is very obvious

00:39:07.640 that uh there's quite a few people you know doing doing what they do and they're married at the same

00:39:14.920 time my situation ship happened be where a specific woman no names obviously but uh she

00:39:23.880 would come in there at the same time i i would and we would get you know we would we would have

00:39:29.500 drinks, shoot darts, play pool, et cetera, et cetera. And it was the kind of thing where if

00:39:34.920 you didn't go home with anybody at the other night, she got ahold of me. Okay. So I would get

00:39:44.020 home and I'm, you know, I'm sitting there eating whatever, you know, you know what you do after you

00:39:48.240 get home from a bar, you go get your bar food and you're, you're watching a movie. Well, I would get

00:39:52.760 a, you know, I'd get text messages saying, Hey, Hey, are you home alone? I want to come do, you

00:39:58.260 know come do the thing and the bad part about it is in in i've come to terms with it she was married

00:40:05.080 and uh she didn't care i mean that's what i found most of these most most women

00:40:13.020 if you're in a situation like that they do not care you're you're just giving them what they're

00:40:18.840 missing from their current relationship and um did you want to like or would i guess

00:40:28.680 was there a part of you that wanted commitment or that she wanted commitment or was it purely

00:40:33.640 physical on both ends ah at at the time i guess i might have i i would have committed

00:40:41.640 had she had she gotten divorced but now looking back on it no way in heck no way

00:40:47.080 it was it was a pump and dump for sure and how long did it last oh god uh

00:40:53.900 i'm gonna say two and a half three years okay wow so a lot of uh a lot of pumping dumps now

00:41:03.600 is was that the only situation chip you've been in

00:41:06.460 not no actually no um how many would you say how old are you if you don't mind me asking

00:41:14.660 I'm 52.

00:41:15.500 52.

00:41:16.120 So how many situationships have you been in, would you say?

00:41:20.000 I'd say two.

00:41:21.220 Two.

00:41:21.840 And the other one, how old were both of the women?

00:41:26.920 The one was, I think she's three years younger than I am,

00:41:30.200 and the other one was 15 years younger than I am.

00:41:33.400 I'm sorry.

00:41:34.300 At the time, I meant.

00:41:36.100 Yeah, yeah.

00:41:36.640 At the time, now, they were both three years younger than I am, I think.

00:41:44.180 If I remember correctly.

00:41:45.540 No, I'm saying how old were they when they were doing it?

00:41:50.200 Not that.

00:41:50.940 Oh God.

00:41:52.320 30s, 20s.

00:41:53.920 Yeah.

00:41:54.300 I'd say mid 30s, mid 30s.

00:41:56.160 Cool.

00:41:56.660 So the other woman, did she want commitment from you or no?

00:42:00.800 Hell no.

00:42:02.400 That was so she didn't.

00:42:03.600 It was a situation where she found me attractive.

00:42:08.300 I found her attractive and, you know, we were both in the same place at the same time.

00:42:14.040 at the bar at the same time and she's like hey you want to do this and i'm like let's do it and

00:42:19.960 we did it yeah no that's what because a lot of times people have this idea that only women like

00:42:26.180 sometimes women are the ones that want like they don't want commitment they just want the sex

00:42:30.840 well that's what happened with my ex-wife i'll tell you that right now

00:42:34.340 okay um doug mp you got any other questions for him no great story cool great story thanks for

00:42:42.300 calling in absolutely bro take care bye-bye um guys i forgot to say this announcement before

00:42:50.000 that was a great call he called in he had the story he didn't ramble we i you know then when

00:42:55.620 he stops i ask him a few questions we can go back and forth it's great then we move on to the next

00:43:01.160 caller um the only thing is make sure the youtube's not playing in the background so usually you do

00:43:06.180 get um uh you can see if we put you on so um who's the next caller we got second and the the zoom for

00:43:17.540 all because i know we stream on a few different platforms the zoom link is in the youtube chat

00:43:22.980 pinned so if you have to go click youtube click zoom and then you're on gary c you're up next

00:43:30.900 hey how you guys doing gary how's it going i'm doing good how you guys doing good are you in

00:43:37.560 the midwest i am in the southwest cool and how how old are you i'm 39 39 okay how many

00:43:47.120 situationships have you been in in your life uh if i had to guess maybe like around 10 10

00:43:55.500 um i've been single most of my adult life i've had like three longer term relationships which

00:44:02.240 are like between two and three years each and pretty much any relationship outside of that

00:44:07.320 has been a situationship i think it's kind of the natural course of things nowadays is that

00:44:13.000 um you find if i if i meet a girl i like her we hit it off and we have good dates and

00:44:19.280 eventually sleep together then i'm never i've never wanted to push for a relationship period

00:44:25.020 so I'm still continuing to vet even while we like once we get past the point of things getting

00:44:31.640 physical and then it's just always the case that something will come up that will uh red flag her

00:44:38.100 and and make me realize okay well she's not somebody I want to have a long-term relationship

00:44:42.680 with and then it just becomes a game of how long can I keep her around while like not you know not

00:44:50.280 tipping my hand and letting her know that I don't have any intentions of, of, of making this last

00:44:55.420 very long. What percent of the women would you say didn't, what percent wanted something serious

00:45:01.560 and what percent didn't? I'd say probably like 70% wanted something serious and 30%, uh, they were

00:45:10.180 either in the same headspace as me or kind of like you said, they were probably even more serious

00:45:15.200 about it where they never had any intention of being serious with anybody and and that kind of

00:45:20.560 became clear at the beginning okay so um how long would you say how long did your longest one last

00:45:27.540 and the shortest one and um what what were some of the things that came up in the time when you

00:45:33.900 guys were dating okay so the longest one was about two years um and then i think doug said it earlier

00:45:43.000 and a couple of whoever else came on before uh what would come up is just that

00:45:48.740 i mean the fact is that if the longer that something goes on um more often than not you're

00:45:55.860 gonna have to do things that are relationship type things uh in order to keep the interest going

00:46:01.620 because again it's like you are you said it yourself that it's kind of like you're running

00:46:06.780 a script you're doing a sales pitch basically over a long period of time so um what would

00:46:14.180 happen is that there would be discussions that would come up after you did some of those

00:46:18.380 relationship type stuff and those would always be like the what are we does this mean that

00:46:23.340 something has changed uh yeah and like doug said that honestly those conversations would

00:46:30.360 immediately kind of uh for me bring up a situation where it's like okay is it time to just end this

00:46:35.800 because those conversations are just the worst and uh it does sometimes also kind of play on my

00:46:42.460 conscience because it's like okay well clearly this girl's getting more invested i i don't really

00:46:48.520 like it's not my intention to like waste anybody's time to the point where they're gonna miss out on

00:46:52.840 like a a more meaningful opportunity although honestly there's sometimes where i feel like

00:46:58.060 i'm actually doing other men a service by kind of keeping a girl off the market

00:47:02.620 yeah let's go

00:47:07.180 that's one of the funniest things i've had a caller say

00:47:13.600 i mean honestly because i feel like the way that i approach things like i i i always come at like

00:47:21.900 from the first date when i try to have conversations like i've never asked a girl

00:47:25.880 about her body count i i think that's really stupid to do something like that but i do always

00:47:31.800 try to make assessments right from the beginning and it will always be like in a way where i'll do

00:47:38.100 things like ask her like oh like what's the craziest thing you've ever done or like the

00:47:41.640 craziest hookup you've ever had and then i'll always make it like a flowing conversation where

00:47:46.640 i'm sharing stuff she's sharing stuff but at the end of the day i'm like taking notes in the back

00:47:51.040 of my head and like i've been so shocked sometimes at the amount of things that have been revealed to

00:47:56.820 me that in my mind, I'm like somebody else would totally wife this chick up and she would destroy

00:48:02.240 them. What's been admitted to you? Uh, honestly, just like, like group activities, just like,

00:48:11.300 um, again, no numbers, but just kind of like through like gathering through conversation,

00:48:17.000 the sheer number of people that they've been with was just way more than I would have guessed

00:48:22.520 from just like the first couple of encounters that i had with them and just if i just again i

00:48:27.540 think i'm a pretty good judge of character and like if i just had like a one-time sit down and

00:48:32.880 it was just like that coffee date or whatever i would have never guessed that they were that

00:48:37.900 like active and had that many different partners well here's the thing um pillow talk you know you

00:48:45.020 know after sex talk with a situationship who's trying to get upgraded to a relationship they'll

00:48:50.840 say anything the sales sorts of crazy stuff and did you ever think about upgrading any of them

00:48:58.520 um i honestly i have not and and i think that i just uh

00:49:07.080 okay let me put it this way i i personally have only seen other people so i i like you i have seen

00:49:13.560 people uh upgrade their situation first of all i'm about to say this at the beginning i don't know

00:49:19.160 any guys that actually use the term situationship unironically like we don't say that what do you

00:49:25.060 guys like what do you guys say like a side chick or like or somebody that like if they're like is

00:49:32.340 that your girl and you're like no i'm just hitting it that's like that's what the situation yeah we

00:49:37.500 make up all these terms to make us feel better yeah like if i heard one of my buddies say

00:49:43.100 situationship i would really have to check his man card that's funny you gotta i could have come up

00:49:49.580 with a better title my bad no no no i mean it's it's like uh like we need terms to be able to

00:49:56.320 discuss stuff right so i think situationship makes a ton of sense and women are already using it so

00:50:01.620 like it does describe uh what we're talking about i just like i said i just never heard it's almost

00:50:06.560 like the word inappropriate i've never heard one of my friends say inappropriate i think some of

00:50:11.060 these words are really like female words yeah they are yeah gary i'm gonna give you a piece

00:50:17.120 of advice to to ease your conscience like i said to pearl in the conversation you gotta make sure

00:50:23.700 she's aware that she's choosing to be there oh no absolutely yeah because then that'll ease up

00:50:31.260 on your conscience yeah and to be honest i like my conscience is clear all the time because i i'm

00:50:37.720 always honest like um again at the beginning i i do uh i give like i give enough hope for them to

00:50:46.220 uh stick around but the fact is is that for the most part especially on the onset i i am actually

00:50:53.140 giving them a shot like i i am open to somebody surprising me and every single one of my

00:50:58.860 my serious relationships have been girls that otherwise would have been a situationship but

00:51:04.500 it was like as i continued to get to know them better they surprised me at having more character

00:51:10.320 than i assumed people to have so eventually i was like okay so i guess technically all my

00:51:15.820 relationships were upgraded situationships but it's almost like once i've really decided that

00:51:20.580 it's not going to be serious i've never really like you're saying once she's in the non-serious

00:51:25.440 box then she's never she's never clawed her way out

00:51:29.120 hello

00:51:32.960 yeah are you there

00:51:35.780 well we got the gist from him okay can just move on all right uh next up we have

00:51:45.360 spencer how many people do we have on the line we have one two three four cool i thought this

00:51:54.120 be a good topic people would call in spencer how's it going spencer you're on mute spencer

00:52:00.840 you're on mute he's probably listening to the youtube spencer you're on mute spencer going once

00:52:07.160 spencer going twice i put you back in the waiting room we have dash is coming up

00:52:14.120 dash is on mute

00:52:18.120 dashie there

00:52:21.640 obviously people are probably listening

00:52:24.240 to the youtube so

00:52:25.500 dashie there you're on mute

00:52:27.600 dash

00:52:30.520 or ladies you can call in and tell me about your biggest

00:52:34.400 L

00:52:34.840 situation ship

00:52:37.620 okay

00:52:38.500 let me try spencer again

00:52:41.220 we love hearing about L's here

00:52:43.980 yeah let's see women taking out spencer right there spencer going once see you guys are lucky

00:52:52.560 you can just be anonymous if i tell you about nell the internet holds it over my head for until

00:52:57.700 i die i want you sometimes i want to but i'm like you know what i yeah i gotta shut the fuck up

00:53:06.920 next we have uh guys make sure you're liking the stream subscribe if you haven't already

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00:53:19.040 super chat button we'd really appreciate it jc as audio is connecting jc are you there

00:53:28.140 it's just connecting audio

00:53:30.200 connecting audio

00:53:33.600 jeez

00:53:36.440 give it one second

00:53:38.940 nope we're still connecting audio

00:53:40.680 so i'll put jc back

00:53:42.120 and we have

00:53:44.760 i tried to send a 500

00:53:46.760 message but only callers can

00:53:48.940 curse apparently

00:53:49.980 i don't know why i would

00:53:52.880 stop you from doing that but you can send

00:53:54.900 it

00:53:55.200 yeah you can paypal me if you want hold on spencer came back in so maybe he got his

00:54:03.520 spencer right there you're on mute i saw you go and come back in i guess not oh and right now

00:54:12.880 there he is hey how's it going guys hey spencer oh florida oh florida what's up i'm

00:54:20.080 yeah i've been listening for a while i'm bound to connect you know this week has been kind of

00:54:25.760 interesting um i'm in a bunch of situationships at any given time you know the whole dating scene

00:54:33.520 to me is just it's just chaotic convoluted the expectations are high you know what i have to

00:54:42.640 offers low you know these girls who are twos and threes expect what a 10 would expect you know we're

00:54:50.640 just living in so how many how many situationships would you say you've been in oh hundreds i'm in

00:55:00.240 like three or four right now okay and what percent what is do they want commitment um

00:55:07.520 out of like the 100 let's say um i would say a good 75 percent kind of are expecting them from

00:55:19.740 like just day one it's it's like they kind of put it out there like yeah i'm looking for something

00:55:25.380 serious from day one that'd be like me saying like hey i want a baby on the first date you know

00:55:31.380 it's like it's kind of scary you know who puts that out there you know like let's feel it out a

00:55:36.900 bit so and then the other quarter don't want anything serious

00:55:43.940 yeah you know i'm kind of like the last guy like you know i'll put one foot in and then

00:55:49.140 they get a little over like committed and i just might stick around until

00:55:53.220 they you know eject and then i'll just kind of walk there it's just um

00:55:59.220 Um, you know, high expectations, low offerings, you know, especially where I live.

00:56:07.560 Where are you at?

00:56:08.680 I would say that's where I'm at now.

00:56:13.740 I live in North Carolina.

00:56:15.700 Okay.

00:56:17.860 So what age, what age, what age are most of the women that are in the situationships?

00:56:24.260 Like, have you noticed any patterns or is it all over?

00:56:26.600 yeah so i'm i'm 40 and i seem to attract sort of a lot of women in their like early 50s and

00:56:36.720 like women in their 30s okay i seem to go towards the older women because i think they

00:56:42.100 are more feminine in a lot of ways they just kind of try harder and you know maybe put a little bit

00:56:47.300 more effort in like old call me old-fashioned i guess femininity the younger women they just

00:56:52.600 don't really try that hard or you know they they'll shave their legs or their armpits or

00:56:57.080 you know they got a chest tattoo or some you know something that's maybe a turn off you know

00:57:04.760 what's the what's the average length of a situation ship

00:57:08.360 i don't know a couple years maybe um just depending on you know they kind of start

00:57:17.820 they all kind of start off very similar but you know some might you know i guess if it feels good

00:57:24.620 it might kind of go up a little notch and hang on a little bit longer but it kind of fizzles

00:57:30.060 in the long term you know a lot of women are on those dating apps even if we're talking you know

00:57:35.740 i might pop in every now and then here and there and i'll be like oh she's still on there anyway

00:57:39.900 still looking you know so what are you gonna do um have you ever promoted a woman who you didn't

00:57:50.940 initially think you're gonna take seriously but then you gave her girlfriend or wife status

00:57:58.060 yeah you know i i've i've put like a little bit of a second foot in and kind of regretted it

00:58:07.100 um okay got a little possessive too quick um you know or you kind of fizzle out of that honeymoon

00:58:16.060 phase and it um it can they flip the switch on you you know that you know all of a sudden it's

00:58:23.420 not so casual that they're not as it it the lens zooms in not as you know zooms in a little bit

00:58:32.060 more you know it's funny i have a friend he's very liberal and he does open relationships and

00:58:38.020 that's why because he said whenever i make a girl my girlfriend she sucks he's like i'll just be

00:58:44.200 open sometimes he's you know they're just pragmatic go ahead yeah you know i'm pretty

00:58:50.940 open-minded when it comes to but like the the whole open relationship stuff i think that's

00:58:57.780 why I draw the line you know I've had three songs isn't that kind of isn't that kind of what you're

00:59:04.040 in though if you're in a situationship like she's probably banging other dudes yeah but I think what

00:59:09.780 you don't know does that I don't I don't know I don't ask the questions I don't want to know the

00:59:13.560 answers to I guess yeah you know I think start asking how many guys he fucked I think um I don't

00:59:19.880 know if that how much that turns me on maybe some of those weird dudes like knowing how many dudes

00:59:25.760 have came in this girl you're about to fuck but i don't want to know yeah so that's kind of doug

00:59:31.840 mp you got any other questions for him yeah um i mean not really it's just balancing all these

00:59:39.440 situations man how do you do it how can you balance all these situations you know effort

00:59:46.320 isn't it you know but so is one relationship too you know yeah you got um i can never know i

00:59:53.680 and i just i guess it just depends i because i am not attracting my equal i think a lot of times

00:59:59.860 is why i'm on a lot of situationships i think if i was out west where i'm originally from you know

01:00:06.580 um california i used to live in las vegas is that's where all the beautiful women go and you

01:00:12.480 come out here kind of a little more sheltered from reality and it's slim pickings and it's

01:00:18.560 that could be a little sad, uh, existence if you, uh, like beautiful women, I guess.

01:00:24.900 Yeah, I hear you. All right. Well, Hey, I'll call back. Thanks for your time. I've been listening

01:00:29.540 to you for a while now. Thanks for taking my call. Thanks for calling in. Um, hi, I'm from

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01:01:10.320 who's next that we have Chad, Chad. All right.

01:01:15.040 Excellent. Excellent. Chad Chaddington calling in. That's his actual, uh,

01:01:20.980 has he called in before? It sounds familiar.

01:01:23.360 I think so. Chad, are you there?

01:01:27.040 Hello. Can you hear me? Chad, how are you?

01:01:31.000 Hey, what's up, Pearl? What's up, Doug?

01:01:33.520 would you mind turning off the youtube in the background yeah i know i'm trying to get it

01:01:39.220 situated sorry about that okay there we go is that better yeah that's better all right so how

01:01:47.220 old are you chad uh 48 okay how many situationships have you been in in your life oh god we didn't

01:01:57.240 call them situationships back then how many side checks you know what i mean

01:02:01.420 Oh, my gosh, man. Side chicks that never got promoted.

01:02:08.420 Well, I haven't called in in a while, so I have a prolific sleeping...

01:02:16.920 Oh, I think I remember you. You had a lot of girlfriends, right? Didn't you date a lot of them?

01:02:24.220 185 to 190. I had names written down and everything. You just rounded up to 200.

01:02:30.620 I can give percentages.

01:02:33.220 But some of them, if I remember from last time,

01:02:36.760 you dated a lot of them, like they were your girlfriend, right?

01:02:42.720 I've had some long-term relationships with quite a few of them, yeah.

01:02:47.400 Okay, so I'm only asking about the ones that you're not trying to be seen in public.

01:02:52.500 Do you know what I mean?

01:02:54.920 Oh, gotcha.

01:02:56.300 yeah like or maybe like but you like someone you would never take like you would never call

01:03:01.660 her your girlfriend okay so okay i was in a 15 year situation holy shit that is long in fact i

01:03:11.160 had a three-year long-term relationship with one woman while i was in the 15-year relationship and

01:03:17.440 another four-year long-term relationship with another woman while i was in the 15-year

01:03:23.600 situation show. Wow. What time of day did she come over? Did she have like a 2 a.m. slot?

01:03:30.100 Well, no, we lived in, we lived, uh, we, we lived in two different States. So we would only see each

01:03:37.300 other when I would visit her or she would visit me. What made you not want to promote her? What

01:03:43.840 was her problem uh actually it's not really you see i i'm not looking at it as a negative thing

01:03:53.940 like you said it's not it's not like a moped someone you want to ride but no one sees you

01:03:58.620 in public type of thing it's a situation ship where you know just the situation isn't right

01:04:06.080 but you know the the chemistry is just off the charts the conversation too we got along

01:04:11.800 this sounds great what was the like what was the situation she had a kid or something

01:04:18.500 no no age difference was 15 years apart she was 15 years older oh okay um right um and the biggest

01:04:29.540 thing that kept us in the situationship was she wouldn't move out of her state and i wouldn't

01:04:35.980 move out of my state oh I see okay so it was a it was a location thing but but

01:04:45.820 here's the funny thing about two years ago I ended up moving to her state and

01:04:54.220 we started to get close and then she was like reacting really funny after 15

01:05:03.220 years you kind of know someone i mean especially when you got good conversation good everything

01:05:10.180 uh you just know something's up and i i figured it out it was uh she was dating

01:05:19.220 several guys in town and she didn't want me to mess up her rotation

01:05:25.300 oh man yeah so we we continue the situation ship for a little bit longer but after 15 years i

01:05:35.940 finally just had enough and said no no more so so she probably had a rotation the whole time

01:05:43.020 oh well so did i and we both actually knew it we were both honest and open with one another

01:05:48.700 But I think her rotation, when I moved too closer to her, I think her rotation involved

01:05:59.860 the doctor and lawyers and people with money.

01:06:05.160 And you know, I don't know what else to say.

01:06:09.620 I've had a lot of other situations, shorter term situationships over my vast career.

01:06:15.460 So what would you say is the average length of one before the women, let's say out of the women

01:06:20.400 that wanted commitment and you weren't going to give it to them, how long do they stick around

01:06:24.520 until they bounce usually? Oh God, they'll stick around until I put a restraining order.

01:06:32.580 Oh, I ain't lying, man. One straight up was, here's the other thing. I learned in my 30s

01:06:39.860 going through, you know, I went through some crazy times in between long-term relationships

01:06:45.240 and that's how I got the numbers I did.

01:06:47.440 Plus, I was in a small town where everyone knew each other.

01:06:50.180 And when you're in a small town like that, you know, women talk and they were my best

01:06:58.560 salespeople.

01:06:59.520 I mean, I would literally be at a bar and then all of a sudden one of my situationships

01:07:06.240 at the time, she was in another situationship.

01:07:10.320 So she would tell her friend, oh, well, Chase is over there.

01:07:13.380 I bet you if you go there tonight and blah, blah, blah, that happened so many times.

01:07:18.160 I was just like, oh, whatever.

01:07:21.440 So I was single.

01:07:23.060 They were single.

01:07:23.960 It wasn't like we were, you know, I'm not into breaking up marriages.

01:07:27.340 I don't, you know, I really don't even want to date someone if they have a serious person

01:07:32.240 or anything like that.

01:07:33.360 I'm more of a, you know, we're both single.

01:07:36.340 We're both adults and we both know each other.

01:07:38.680 Hey, all's fair in love and war, you know?

01:07:40.820 Average situationship, I'd say between six months to a year and a half, maybe two if

01:07:50.260 it's that good, but the majority of them wanted something more after about six months, and

01:08:00.760 I'd say half of them, they either weren't the caliber of person I would think about

01:08:06.820 taken to the next level. Not too many were, you know, they don't look good and I don't want to

01:08:14.060 be seen with you because again, we were in a small town, so people knew. But the one thing

01:08:20.180 I've been watching, I wanted to call in a few times, but my phone wasn't working right and

01:08:25.540 everything for Zoom. But it's like, I tried to call in for the tea video the other night because

01:08:32.580 I had a couple of things to add to that, and it kind of relates to situationships.

01:08:37.280 It's like in my 30s, I discovered when you're brutally honest and you act like a mild jerk,

01:08:47.720 you cannot beat the women off of you.

01:08:50.340 I mean, seriously, it's like if I'm upfront and truthful with them and kind of neglect

01:08:57.220 them a little bit, oh my God, that guy, I'm not a jerk, but being a little bit of a jerk

01:09:02.560 got me more ass than i could ever do any which way you know so it's like an example

01:09:10.960 of a time that got you laid that like you wouldn't have thought god okay so um it sounds

01:09:20.080 like there's a good story there it sounds like there's a good no not gory i know this is you

01:09:24.960 you know, sort of public airways, semi-family. But yeah, in the bar, we're playing trivia.

01:09:36.360 I'm with one girl playing trivia that I've been, again, I know these people because we're in the

01:09:42.700 same town. So they know of me, but I was with this one for about a month or two. And it was

01:09:49.680 just a situation we were just having fun nothing serious well her other friend comes sits next to

01:09:55.760 me and their friends uh i was with her like less than two weeks ago and then the third friend comes

01:10:04.460 up and i was with her like the night before yet i'm kind of on a makeshift date with their friend

01:10:12.480 all three of us literally sat at the bar just all night smoking joking drinking playing games and

01:10:18.480 everything like that. And there was several people, including the bartenders that knew the

01:10:23.220 story. And a couple of them would just look at me and just shake their head. And it's just like,

01:10:29.020 they can't even get one woman. And here I am trying to fight off, try to keep three at bay

01:10:34.260 type of thing, you know? So what happened? Did you take them all home or how did that?

01:10:40.300 So I ended up going home with the one I came with that night, but within the same week,

01:10:45.940 both their friends were over at my house. So it amazed me because in my 20s, even though I got a

01:10:54.680 lot of tail and everything, I did it more wholesome-y and respectfully. Once I hit 30 and

01:10:59.840 started just, hey, this is who I am. This is what I'm going to do. This is blah, blah, blah.

01:11:05.760 You take it or leave it and then just walk away. Oh my God, it's like crack to them. It just blew

01:11:11.900 my mind that being a jerk and being totally upfront and honest got me more tailed than

01:11:18.340 anything I've ever done in my life. So what age, what age did you find women were most

01:11:25.340 open to situationships? Oh God. Um, well, I'd have to say the majority of women I've been with

01:11:35.780 were older women so from let's say from 30 to 50 when i was in my mid-20s to mid-30s cool so

01:11:45.200 uh half of them younger guy older yeah that makes sense yeah yeah i well i found that the older

01:11:52.460 women it was more no nonsense you know it it just is what it is they've already been through the

01:11:58.460 role i've already been chewed up and spit out by divorce and we were just kind of on the same

01:12:03.360 playing field like, hey, you're a clean single adult and you're friendly and I know you're

01:12:08.080 in town. Hey, you're a clean single adult and I know you're in town. Let's get together

01:12:12.400 and have fun. Okay. Some of them, I mean, I'm still friends with a lot of women I've

01:12:18.020 slept with. So to this day, you know, not that I call them up and everything, but we

01:12:23.240 could actually just meet and have a conversation in the coffin. It's pretty, I'm sorry, go

01:12:30.520 back to the question you asked about the... I just was curious if there was an age you

01:12:34.440 noticed that women are more willing to be in situationships? No, no, because yes, I used to

01:12:41.180 date older and they were more than 50% of them were down for a situationship, but the younger

01:12:47.660 ones I did date, I'd say there was more of a majority of the younger ones were okay with a

01:12:54.160 situationship with me where it may be like 75% of the younger ones and 50% of the older ones.

01:13:00.940 Cool. Cool. Well, thanks for calling in. You got any other questions, Doug MPA?

01:13:06.640 Nope. I'll just get talking to you today. Have a good one.

01:13:08.980 Hey, y'all have a good night, guys. Take care. I'll see you. Peace.

01:13:13.520 See you.

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01:13:55.380 new people in here before we go to the oh geez we have rebirth pro coming in rebirth pro

01:14:06.100 rebirth pro you're probably listening to the youtube you're on mute we can see you rebirth pro

01:14:13.300 rebirth pro are you there you're on mute

01:14:17.060 yo yo what's up can you hear me i can hear you um tell me about your situationships rebirth pro

01:14:26.820 uh is it echoing on your end not echoing here okay i think yeah situationships

01:14:37.220 you probably have the youtube open in a different window or something yeah all right well situations

01:14:43.900 i have right now i mean that's kind of the normal thing that's what i i pretty much go for

01:14:50.160 okay so um how many situationships would you say you've been in in your life

01:14:56.000 i may be a little bit above average i guess i don't even know what average would be but

01:15:04.200 just throwing a random number out there because I can't count on say 20. Okay. And out of the 20,

01:15:10.880 what percent wanted something serious and what percent were just okay as it was?

01:15:16.480 I'll say about 80%. 80%. Okay. They always want a relationship usually. And so was there ever a

01:15:23.820 girl that you initially did not want to take seriously that you, did you ever promote a

01:15:28.300 situationship? And if so, why, if not, why? I did. Um, the most recent one I did was about

01:15:37.180 three weeks ago. And of course I regretted it because I had, I had, um, I hate to use these

01:15:46.120 terms, but I had a roster. I didn't really call it that, but everybody knows what that means.

01:15:49.860 I had a roster at the time. So I was casually dating multiple girls

01:15:53.440 and there weren't relationships though the woman that i gave the relationship

01:15:59.560 she was actually the one that put me on the uh hey you can't smash for 30 days rule

01:16:05.320 and she was a self-proclaimed feminist uh stuff that you would expect and so when i went over

01:16:13.840 her house i visit her she'd do intimate things with me everything except we wouldn't sleep

01:16:19.560 together. And so before 30 days came up, she couldn't help herself. She jumped on top of me

01:16:27.320 and things happened. And then of course, right after that day, you get the typical, so what are

01:16:33.960 we? Almost immediately. I told her that, Hey, look, I already, I was on a Twitter. I said, look,

01:16:40.680 I already have other people that I hang out with. And she was shocked. She thought I was just

01:16:46.460 waiting 30 days for her and i said no i do see other people and i don't know yet i'm gonna think

01:16:53.140 about it and she said okay i understand i can't make help you make a decision but she kept seeing

01:16:57.940 me and after that she started trying to flood me with the box she kept flooding it flooding it

01:17:05.300 onto me then she kept throwing it on me and then i just gave in i said maybe i should cut them off

01:17:10.500 because she's being real consistent now so i made the typical mistake most guys do even though i've

01:17:15.840 had plenty of experience and then eventually I just woke up like two two months into the

01:17:22.340 relationship and I realized yeah I'd rather go back to her roster and then so I just

01:17:27.840 told her that I was going to go my own way what made her different than the other girls you were

01:17:32.340 dating was she better looking she did not better looking she didn't cause me a lot of stress she

01:17:41.800 It was easy to get along with.

01:17:43.740 It was basically just whatever I wanted.

01:17:45.360 I hate to say it.

01:17:46.000 That's the type of, when I like date, like I hear people talk about they want to get

01:17:49.920 a submissive woman and she called herself a feminist, but to me, she didn't act like

01:17:54.920 one once we were in a relationship.

01:17:56.140 She was just very submissive.

01:17:58.640 Everything was about whatever I wanted to do, wherever I wanted to go, whatever I wanted

01:18:02.540 to eat for dinner.

01:18:03.480 Sometimes I would do nice things where I would cook her dinner and take her places, but she

01:18:09.460 just kind of let me lead the whole thing.

01:18:11.080 so that's what i look for and that switched after

01:18:13.660 what switched after that like after you gave her the title well i was aware that you can't

01:18:22.560 i can never invest too much so her birthday came around and an ex-boyfriend and a guy that was

01:18:31.460 pursuing her both sent birthday gifts to her home on her birthday and so i didn't want to

01:18:40.240 check her phone or nothing i'm done with that stage of checking phones but i just thought it

01:18:45.180 was very suspicious because i was like why would they randomly send you these gifts if you haven't

01:18:50.140 been contacting them and i was like i've been talking to you for a few months now something's

01:18:56.500 still probably going on there and then i thought about it i cut off all of my girls but obviously

01:19:03.280 there's something still there so i felt i felt a little dumb yeah i didn't actually find anything

01:19:11.320 but i was just like it's still better for me i'd rather just have multiple yeah got it doug mpa you

01:19:17.080 got any other questions for him the guy said earlier you know um you're gonna deal with it

01:19:23.040 either way you there are a lot of instances where you deal with more from one woman being all up in

01:19:28.080 you visited multiple women so yeah she was at a point she was actually about to agree to an open

01:19:35.840 let me be have it open on my end but uh i could tell that she didn't really want to do it it

01:19:41.740 looked like it hurt her feelings when we had the conversation so i said i'll just go ahead and do

01:19:46.680 my own thing we're still cool though i hung out with her like last week she's got a boyfriend now

01:19:52.840 and she's still hanging out with you yeah that was a few years ago and she uh texted me like

01:20:00.320 two weeks ago she said she missed me um so i went over to her house i went over to her house and at

01:20:06.540 the time that we were laying down together that's when she said oh well i'm still in my relationship

01:20:10.900 with my boyfriend and she said nothing's going wrong everything's going well i just didn't say

01:20:15.840 anything about it wow scandalous well but i've seen that multiple times for many women though

01:20:23.880 that's not nothing out of the norm for me yeah um that's about right did you find at a certain age

01:20:31.760 women are more willing to be in situationships than others have you noticed any patterns with

01:20:36.640 that for me um yeah younger younger it seems like they don't care as much like the women in the 20s

01:20:43.640 so i do like that but they also they're just very more free and fun to be around sometimes

01:20:51.080 the older women always try to lock you down they're more desperate in my opinion yeah yeah

01:20:56.400 cool well thanks for calling in doug mpa you got anything else

01:21:00.020 nope all right appreciate it thanks call in anytime

01:21:04.040 all right we have another new person i've never seen before i'm gonna let greg in

01:21:10.840 greg you're on mute greg has probably listened to the youtube guys okay what's up

01:21:19.760 hey greg thanks for calling in

01:21:22.540 make sure you turn off the youtube in the background okay yep i just shut it off okay

01:21:30.620 cool um so tell me about your situationships have you ever had a really long term one

01:21:35.980 uh yeah i've had a lot of long-term ones as a matter of fact i'm in a long-term

01:21:43.280 situationship right now how long has it been like what's the long nine years holy shit

01:21:49.160 nine and 15 okay so how did you guys meet the the nine-year one how did we meet oh a friend of mine

01:22:01.260 that I was with just knew her and she needed a ride home from a party and that was it and what

01:22:09.340 made you not want to date her seriously well on that ride home from the party she did whatever

01:22:16.840 I asked her to do so I figured that's kind of how it goes for every guy and she just isn't

01:22:23.940 committable you know it's like you know if you're if I'm in the car with you for five minutes and

01:22:28.760 you're already I don't know maybe you were maybe you were special yeah she keeps telling me that

01:22:35.560 she tells me that still but um I don't know about all that okay why so was it it wasn't just that

01:22:45.620 though I'm guessing she had other like signs that you weren't special like based on her like behaviors

01:22:51.080 yeah no I mean she she definitely treats me like I'm special but there's like many

01:22:57.940 other things like she's just not attractive enough but um she don't have her life together

01:23:04.220 either and so there's there's variable things that go on there but the first thing was

01:23:09.640 that turned me off it was like no was the first night you know yeah but i've had many

01:23:16.040 situationships that have lasted for quite a while i mean that's like the i've had very

01:23:23.820 few actual relationships um just because that's just kind of how it goes these it just seems to

01:23:32.040 be the way it goes I don't know why um and oh wait hold on sorry so have you ever noticed a

01:23:44.420 certain age that women are more open to situationships or have you noticed no difference

01:23:49.160 um no not really no difference uh i was i've been in situationships i'm 36 and i was with

01:24:03.780 a girl that's 54 now or a lady that's 54 um whatever you want to call her um but she was

01:24:11.180 off and off with her for two years no commitment and then i've been with people my age not anybody

01:24:17.460 much younger cool uh what percent of situationships would you say want commitment are you close to

01:24:25.780 what the other guys have been saying like 70 80 percent i mean what last more they all they all

01:24:35.260 claim that they would they would be with me you know and want to be with me but they say these

01:24:43.000 things but their reactions don't show it it's like they have other people on the side too that

01:24:48.700 they're talking to and uh there's been a few that i have talked to about getting serious with and

01:24:55.020 then they just won't make that commitment um or i won't make that commitment for like you know

01:25:01.600 certain ones it just depends it's kind of like i was watching your show yesterday or something

01:25:06.780 you were talking about um people that are can be different to different people you know it's like

01:25:11.900 might be the right person you might treat somebody they're right and then somebody else might treat

01:25:15.880 them wrong or whatever it's kind of like that situation goes on back and forth it's like

01:25:19.900 if you're not the right person for me i'm not going to commit to you type of deal

01:25:24.620 um just kind of back and forth and what was the average length of a situation ship in your

01:25:32.220 experience um a couple years like two three yeah two and a half probably and a half okay

01:25:48.060 now is there ever a moment in a situationship where like maybe you were thinking about taking

01:25:53.020 a girl seriously but then she said or did xyz and you thought nayski nada never um if that's

01:26:01.420 happened what happened what did she say oh oh yeah that's happened um oh my so there was there

01:26:12.200 was this one girl I was with and I was like we talked about getting serious and she knew that I

01:26:19.480 had girls on the side and I said listen I'll drop all those girls if you will do the same

01:26:25.280 and we'll be serious but uh she committed to that but then she had her ex over at her house

01:26:34.440 um and was making him breakfast claiming that the ex was now dating her roommate

01:26:42.680 but her roommate wasn't there so how did you find out like i showed up oh shit okay yeah that'll do

01:26:53.620 i pulled up and was like hey i'm outside i got something for you and she was like uh well hold

01:26:59.860 on i'll don't come in i'll come out i'll come out and i'm like yeah that's what i just said come out

01:27:04.900 i gotta get i'm gonna give you something and yeah it was just real weird so she did that so obviously

01:27:09.860 i got out of my car and went inside and saw him and i'm like what's up big party here so did you

01:27:18.900 Did you guys become pals then or what?

01:27:23.620 Me and him?

01:27:24.620 Yeah.

01:27:25.620 Some guys, sometimes Eskimo brothers bring men together.

01:27:29.180 I've seen it.

01:27:30.180 No, I mean, I didn't have no hate.

01:27:33.120 He didn't, he don't even, he didn't even know about me really, I don't think.

01:27:36.620 I mean, really, I don't, I don't hate on guys whenever that situation happens unless they

01:27:40.640 know me.

01:27:41.640 Yeah.

01:27:42.640 Like, unless it's like one of my buddies, but normally I'm just like, it's, you know,

01:27:48.240 I would do the same thing in their shoes probably so cool cool well thanks for calling in Doug MPA

01:27:54.680 you got any other questions no thanks for sharing I really appreciate it come on Doug MPA I want a

01:28:00.920 question from you come on man you laid it out pretty well all right you guys have a great night

01:28:09.180 thanks thanks guys for calling in these shows would be awful if we didn't have any callers

01:28:16.180 so i really do appreciate you guys calling in and telling your stories um i find it really interesting

01:28:23.700 um everyone's saying herpes std guys you realize that people are sexually active and catch nothing

01:28:30.820 some people catch something but some people make it out alive yeah it's if you wear protection

01:28:37.220 if you wear protection as a guy most guys won't catch anything you guys have it easier in that

01:28:41.860 regard women you can women yeah we just are easier to catch stuff doug mpa go ahead yeah and

01:28:49.620 we all have that friend that you know should have been burned a bunch of times it should be a walking

01:28:55.540 with talking cesspool of disease but they made it out okay you know or and then women have that

01:29:01.700 friend that started whoring herself around after after a major breakup or something and made it out

01:29:07.380 unscathed and didn't get pregnant anything like that so yeah you never know you but that's why

01:29:12.500 but that makes the case that you have to protect yourself even more because for everyone like you

01:29:16.740 said earlier um for every winner there's a bunch of losers yeah there's winners look at there's

01:29:25.060 winners and losers in life but the only way to successfully avoid have a 100 std avoidance rate

01:29:32.980 is to literally stay celibate for life because half the guys i interviews viewed that get stds

01:29:38.340 got them from their wife so yeah i would say i would say the guys that get burned the most are

01:29:45.060 naive men that's like that's who gets burned in my opinion the it's either a guy that's

01:29:51.140 irresponsible and just bangs women without condoms and gets and he's like close to chad level or a

01:29:57.060 a guy that's super naive up next we have james james he's probably listening to the youtube so

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01:30:19.460 the divorce documentary so thank you for hitting the super chat button james are you there you're

01:30:25.540 on mute now you're off mute james hey james james going once hey can uh can you hear me now

01:30:38.900 i can hear you are you from the south you have a nice voice james oh thank you i'm actually from

01:30:45.780 new york but my whole family's from the south all right you got it right i like i like the accent um

01:30:52.420 so tell me have you ever been in a situationship oh my god that that seems like everything i've

01:31:02.340 dated since i've been about 23 and i'm 30 now so the exception really is a relationship the

01:31:10.500 the standard nowadays is a situationship huh that's true i'll be straight up like i when i

01:31:18.260 was 18 i would say like looking back at it now i got really lucky like i dated a girl we were both

01:31:25.620 17 and 18 and we had never dated anyone before and we were just so career driven people that

01:31:33.460 a lot of our stuff just lined up and i knew that she wasn't doing anything crazy because she was

01:31:39.380 just spending all her time with me like working and studying and i was working and studying but

01:31:44.100 But, you know, I'm going to say this, like girls in this generation, they get like flashy

01:31:50.980 object syndrome because then they see something that they don't have.

01:31:54.780 And now they're like, okay, I could have that on top of what I already have.

01:31:58.760 And sometimes it's like, it doesn't, the world does not work.

01:32:01.140 Like at least in my opinion, it just does not seem like it does.

01:32:05.600 And, you know, now with like situationships, I just feel like, like the guy said earlier,

01:32:13.100 he's like all you got to do is be a little bit of a dick and just be honest and you can get these

01:32:17.660 girls to do like anything like i would approach girls in the past after that relationship like

01:32:22.780 very honest straightforward and like you know kind of like a nice guy but then once i started being

01:32:28.220 like a little bit of a dick oh it it's like night and day like sometimes i go out and i just try it

01:32:34.380 out just to see if it'll work and yeah it does like just i kind of hate that it does almost

01:32:40.300 how old are you 30 so how many situationships would you say you've been in in the last um

01:32:48.460 like when did you get out of that like i got out of that relationship when i was like 23

01:32:55.020 she was a great girl i'll be honest very intelligent but like she had a very big

01:33:00.480 drinking problem and i just was yeah i was like i would drink too obviously but it's a little

01:33:06.700 different when your girlfriend's on the ground drunk every weekend like face down like plastered

01:33:12.220 you're like that's playing xbox you know a lot of things can be worked through but in my opinion

01:33:17.020 for men or women to be honest drugs and alcohol it's just not something you want to deal with

01:33:22.460 yeah personally yeah if you're even if your girl's sexy even if your girl smokes weed marijuana and

01:33:31.180 stuff like it's just a no-go guys you it it's fun for a little bit you know i know a lot of guys

01:33:37.100 were you know it's fun woohoo but when you want to get serious and you're you're trying to make

01:33:43.100 plans the person there's no urgency that they can't keep it together you end up babysitting

01:33:49.500 them a lot of the time guys don't do it it's terrible oh yeah i had to babysit my ex someday

01:33:55.580 she'd be some nights she'd be drunk on the floor like almost incapacitated and i'd be like

01:34:01.660 taking care of her like a baby like literally picking her up putting her over my shoulder

01:34:06.740 and putting her back in bed and making sure she's like and i'd be like yeah this is too much you

01:34:11.540 know doing that odd weeks in a row after a while you're like yeah no so what's been what's been

01:34:18.220 the average what's been your longest situationship

01:34:21.180 probably probably let's see probably like five years is it still going yeah like

01:34:35.840 okay so i played like semi-pro hockey so i would travel across the country right

01:34:41.860 so there'd be women i'd meet like you know in some towns and you know you just go to a bar

01:34:48.760 you just meet them up for a night and then you just you know anytime you're in town you just hit

01:34:52.580 them up and it's like okay and i remember i was living in in the town for about like six months

01:34:57.800 and like i didn't know she was married like had no clue never had an inkling right like

01:35:05.260 nothing ever heated off in my head like just just ever right and i only found out because i moved

01:35:12.720 to the town and like i'd be like yeah come hang out with me here and she'd be like oh i can't go

01:35:17.180 there and i'm like why not and then i kind of pieced it together after a while dang okay but

01:35:24.140 you're still seeing her now are you ever like afraid you're gonna get shot or something or

01:35:28.300 doesn't cross your mind i mean i mean i'm gonna say that she is still married but like he okay

01:35:39.340 this is this is even crazier he knows about me and doesn't care is he doing his own thing too or what

01:35:45.340 bro it's like it's like a swinger type thing it's kind of weird it's kind of weird honestly

01:35:53.240 like he knows but like i've never met him and never like talked to him like she's been like

01:36:01.320 oh yeah he's like seen your messages in my phone and he just doesn't care i'm like that's so weird

01:36:06.720 man all right i'm like yo i'm not trying to date you you just you just like throwing it back that's

01:36:14.040 i think like i don't know i have a very before you knew would you have taken did you like like

01:36:20.200 her before you knew like did you ever think it could go somewhere or no okay i i have me personally

01:36:27.720 because i i've been with a i don't say this to sound crazy but i've been with like

01:36:33.080 damn near hundreds of women and i've like documented it with like an excel spreadsheet

01:36:37.160 so like yeah no me and my friends we were pretty weird we used to sit there in college and just

01:36:46.440 i don't know we were dumb we used to try to just get our numbers up and shit and we had like an

01:36:52.260 excel spreadsheet that we put all the girls into so we just kept track so i just kept track after

01:36:57.800 like years and you know but yeah like it is kind of weird because i'm like i would be mad if

01:37:06.820 someone was seeing my girl like even even just talking to my girl like i'd be i'd be mad about

01:37:11.860 it but i haven't dated someone that serious where i'm like yeah i would consider marrying you since

01:37:18.260 that first girl i dated what's yeah what's been the average length of the situationships

01:37:22.980 right about about a year for like two years yeah that's i would say that's the average

01:37:29.700 would have been told um and

01:37:36.180 have you ever thought about promoting a situationship

01:37:42.100 yeah oh yeah okay and what what stopped you did you do it how did it turn out okay i did it i did it

01:37:52.500 probably two times because i know i definitely did it once and i was it was a good decision

01:38:00.900 but like okay so family is like very important to me like my family's huge like i come from a very

01:38:08.340 big like well-off family so like my thing is your family got to be like cool and the one girl i was

01:38:15.720 gonna like because i'll say this i'm african-american and german right and the girl i was dating was

01:38:21.260 indian and i'm just gonna be real so some indians can be very very very like non-apropos to that

01:38:31.980 and i knew that and her fan her dad wasn't and her mom was but then like her little brother was

01:38:37.340 racist and like all this other stuff and i was just like you know i don't know like if i could

01:38:43.100 do this but she was a great girl like what did what did they say to you like what did they did

01:38:48.700 they say something directly to you oh okay so this is crazy we were because we were in we were living

01:38:55.260 in new jersey at the time we were like i was going to college in newark and we were at dinner at this

01:39:01.180 one like pretty nice club that i know and it was like it wasn't dinner it was the middle of the day

01:39:06.700 it was like lunch but it was at that club and we're sitting there eating and the indian population

01:39:11.900 in jersey is gigantic it's huge like okay from edison up to newark it's huge so she's pretty

01:39:19.660 like well known in the indian community because she does like a lot of charity work she works

01:39:24.540 really well job like very like public so at the time so a lot of people in the indian community

01:39:31.260 knew who she was so we're sitting at lunch and she gets a text message from her dad like straight up

01:39:36.860 says why are you out to dinner with some n-word right and i was just like you know what that's

01:39:42.840 crazy and i was like looking around apparently there was someone that worked there at the

01:39:50.200 restaurant that knew her dad and knew that she was there saw her and told her dad so i had to

01:39:56.200 sneak her home and like not get her caught so yeah that was one reason why that didn't like

01:40:04.160 evolved because it was just like yeah has there ever been a girl that's like you were she was on

01:40:09.760 track to be in a relationship but then she did something crazy not her parents her family but

01:40:14.400 she did something oh yeah oh yeah there was another girl she was like she was like in my

01:40:22.400 mind i thought was perfect but then like we went to dc like she paid for the trip to go to dc like

01:40:29.360 we saw one of my like favorite like djs in person i had no idea like she surprised me with it like

01:40:34.640 paid for the whole trip and everything so i'm sitting there like okay i you know i like her

01:40:40.400 family i like her she's a good girl but i'm gonna be real we're in the hotel i think the night

01:40:47.760 yeah the night after like the night of like us going to the concert and she leaves her phone

01:40:53.760 like she's really drunk so she leaves her phone like on the counter and goes into the shower

01:40:58.880 and i'm gonna be real i just grabbed the motherfucker i just grabbed it and i was like

01:41:04.080 i just grabbed it because like for a couple weeks we were dating for like maybe like

01:41:09.360 four months but it was like i had met her family i had like really thought about it and this was

01:41:15.920 like after me being in like a lot of different situationships for like five six years at that

01:41:21.360 point so i was like okay maybe i want to slow down right so i see that she's still texting her ex

01:41:29.120 and i had told her to dead that like maybe a month before like i told her i am out if i see

01:41:35.440 one more thing with utah i'm out and literally i like she was drunk so i was i did not bring

01:41:41.920 it up in the moment i waited till we were driving back from dc to new york and i say something in

01:41:48.160 the car oh my god it was such an argument on the way back but yeah she was real close like until

01:41:54.640 like i was legitimately thinking about marrying her until i saw that message and then i was like

01:41:58.960 well i'm completely done she fumbled i can't even respect me enough to like not talk to this dude

01:42:04.720 anymore like that's crazy have you noticed um what percent of women want commitment that you've been

01:42:10.240 in situationships with i think they all do so you've had a hundred you know it's interesting

01:42:16.400 i get guys that either say like none of them do or all of them do like that seems to be like i took

01:42:22.780 i pulled like guys on um twitter like where i had them send me their stats like what percent want

01:42:27.800 commitment and like the most common thing is like 70 to 80 percent do or 70 to 80 percent don't

01:42:34.000 it's like one way or the other yeah i could see that because like some girls oh i know some girls

01:42:41.420 don't want commitment. I could ask them 100 times. I know that. Some of them, I'm going

01:42:46.840 to be real, some of them just like cheating. If I'm being honest, I don't know. I hate

01:42:58.300 saying that because I'm a very relationship, I love trying to have a relationship with

01:43:04.360 a woman where I can have kids and actually trust her. But then it's like I see the dark

01:43:10.480 side of of like psychologically how they act and i'm like yo ah ah it's kind of uh it's kind of

01:43:19.600 hard to make that decision logically like once it's like once you open your mind to that you're

01:43:24.320 just like yeah because the only way to to the only way to not lose that game is just to not play dude

01:43:30.960 honestly yeah oh yeah that's why i don't play any games anymore i just i just tell them what i want

01:43:37.040 and if they don't if they don't want to do it okay i know where to put you now

01:43:41.040 like i can mess around with you and have fun with you and like go to the bar with you

01:43:46.720 you ain't gonna be my shorty like i'm not gonna take you see like i would just never like why

01:43:52.080 like you're not anything i want and you're probably not gonna change into that so um i'm

01:43:57.600 gonna read some super chats i'm digital money marcus being a jerk with riz is the best way to

01:44:02.640 keep a situationship going no riz guys go find the married chicks on dating app and hold that over

01:44:09.440 eric perez women invented the talking stage just basically made everything start up as a

01:44:14.080 situationship they created this fake sophisticated dating ritual based on sex in the city modern

01:44:19.600 dating bs um i mean i think it's just you know we'll take less from a guy we like more so you

01:44:28.320 you have to look at feminism it's just a strategy for women to not be with betas or like women men

01:44:33.480 we deem as betas um i never sent a man i fucked katie to meng um and we're winning to be honest

01:44:41.340 like i'm just i'm being honest here all the guys are calling in and saying that's the norm so

01:44:46.720 feminism won congrats ladies yeah thanks for calling thanks for calling in the next caller

01:44:53.380 okay yeah no problem guys all right thanks buddy okay i'm gonna let up glenn and then sean is gonna

01:45:02.380 be last and that's gonna be everybody because glenn is coming in there he is what's going on

01:45:12.760 glenn yo sis i got a story for you all right so i'm streaming right now on my channel i got this

01:45:18.900 guy named vlad and vlad is going through it he is being kept away from both of his kids he has a son

01:45:25.600 and two daughters and canada canadia is keeping him from his kids yeah so glenn i don't mind

01:45:33.840 going over that story but right now we're have a topic oh situationships yeah today we're talking

01:45:39.180 yeah so a different day we could do that but yeah today we're talking about situationships so what's

01:45:45.960 What's been your longest situationship on average?

01:45:49.340 How long have they lasted?

01:45:50.640 And have you ever promoted a situationship?

01:45:52.920 Go ahead.

01:45:54.540 Damn, this is a confession hour.

01:45:57.280 So my situation, I'm always in a situationship.

01:46:01.580 There's always a situation I'm in.

01:46:05.020 You ever fall in love with a situationship?

01:46:09.940 It's always my fault.

01:46:15.960 like that what am i gonna say like i find myself in these situations

01:46:26.040 doug help me out man it's not my fault so so tell me what percent of the situationships

01:46:32.440 you've been in wanted to commit to you like wanted to be in a relationship

01:46:37.240 well they all did that was my problem i fell for the situationship and then yeah really so out of

01:46:45.800 100 let's say 100 wanted to be in a relationship with you none just wanted the sex and went oh no

01:46:52.120 no no no no no no you're talking about okay okay yeah yeah so so go ahead the ones that the ones

01:46:58.040 that would call me at like 10 o'clock 11 o'clock at night they never wanted anything more than just

01:47:04.600 okay so what percent out of out of 10 women oh probably about like

01:47:10.040 a quarter a quarter they just want the saxon to go yeah yeah and what was their reasoning do you

01:47:17.700 think it was because they're they were they they were richer than me oh okay so yeah they just

01:47:23.340 wanted to okay yeah that's what i said buy them dinner actually yeah yeah that's what i was saying

01:47:30.800 where there's situationships where the women don't want it because you're like the bartender

01:47:35.280 You're the what I like they don't see the

01:47:38.060 You being a serious thing and then there's situations where the men don't want it for you're either crazy or not hot enough

01:47:44.800 Would you say that's accurate? I don't know why I wasn't that I wasn't hot enough. It was it was that I was just too poor

01:47:52.520 I don't understand why a guy would want to

01:47:55.220 Would be in a situationship with a woman who made a lot more money than him

01:48:00.460 It would want to commit to that woman because she's gonna see them like garbage

01:48:04.500 want to get serious you got to turn off this someone's oh yeah my bad

01:48:11.000 i don't know i think i think it depends on the dynamic like like look some of those i was i was

01:48:20.340 great for women to pay rent and and some of the pookies get the women to pay rent and they get

01:48:26.200 submissive behavior you know what i mean like like i didn't see the great thing about those

01:48:31.420 situationships is like because i was just a late night like i was just a late night call

01:48:36.860 you know what i'm saying i was nothing more than that and um that made it a lot easier because like

01:48:45.220 the i didn't have to do the whining and dining everything else that these other guys are doing

01:48:49.800 they were doing the whining and dining i didn't do the whining and dining i did the you know

01:48:55.480 the stocking info i can't say that on youtube

01:48:58.300 they were used to me spending and i wasn't spending would they ever bring you um would

01:49:06.540 they ever bring you food from their date that the guy

01:49:09.100 yo this one went to a steakhouse i was like hey make sure you bring me a t-bone back i

01:49:16.980 was joking there was a t-bone that's the game um how long do the situationship stick around till

01:49:30.420 they they realize you're not going to commit or they are done with the fun did you see a difference

01:49:36.260 in how long how long the rich women about three months okay three months on average okay what

01:49:42.820 What about the wealthy, the women that made more that just wanted you for fun?

01:49:46.860 They wanted me to be like a little pet, like, you know what I'm saying?

01:49:50.100 Like, they just want to be able to call me up and like, hey, come on over.

01:49:53.500 Like, and like, like, like this is not a fucking service.

01:49:56.460 OK, I got a life, woman.

01:49:59.800 Yeah, it's like treat me like a human being.

01:50:02.260 I got feelings, too.

01:50:03.720 I'm not just a piece of meat.

01:50:05.920 Was that tough for you being treated like a piece of meat?

01:50:08.680 No, no, not at all.

01:50:09.940 But still, you know.

01:50:12.820 have you ever been in that in that role where you've been the piece of meat uh i oh here we go

01:50:22.840 mandingo so when i met this woman in college um she uh you know i worked two jobs in college

01:50:32.020 i went to school full-time and i was on a lifting team and um this girl she worked at a casino and

01:50:41.440 she worked at the high stakes uh blackjack room as a a cocktail waitress so she was like 25 and

01:50:49.360 she had like a bins in her own house and stuff like that and i met her in college and i'm like

01:50:54.800 why are you going to school you you make so much money at your job she said i hate my job because

01:50:58.960 you know i have to walk around in this little outfit and all this whatever so and i was anyway

01:51:03.440 whatever so i only saw her a couple days out of the week because i had to work and go to school

01:51:07.920 full-time and she literally said look um i don't see you enough i said i know but i have to go to

01:51:13.040 work and i have to go to school she's like quit your job and i'll pay your bills yo you could

01:51:18.080 have had it made what did you do you tell her no i i told her no i'm not gonna do that no way you

01:51:23.360 would have been hired yeah no thanks no i will never be a captain man no way she she said i want

01:51:35.760 to buy you a phone so you you can have your phone but you're gonna have another you're gonna have

01:51:41.280 the back call and when the phone rings i'm gonna be the only person with the number so when i call

01:51:47.200 it you have to pick up i was like nope sorry hey did she have a doug mpa signal she would like put

01:51:53.440 out out her window that was the plan that was you had to come in there like blank man you remember

01:51:59.280 a blank man iron blank man yep but yeah i had to say no i said nope i'm not that guy

01:52:06.420 nope oh never be a cat man no way all right so bro i'm gonna dip but i'm gonna give uh this guy

01:52:13.680 vlad your email i want like you want to do an interview with him trust me okay all right

01:52:19.880 thanks for calling in glenn all right you guys peace

01:52:23.080 we got sean coming in is that sean from

01:52:29.960 overseas i forgot what asian countries in that sean or the other sean

01:52:35.060 hello can you guys hear me it's not perla okay go ahead perla it dropped you out for a second

01:52:45.560 oh what the heck um i asked what sean call what sean is calling in oh you are sean okay cool

01:52:52.960 Hey.

01:52:53.960 That's my spirit animal.

01:52:55.960 Hey, Sean.

01:52:56.960 Welcome to the show.

01:52:57.960 Hey, guys.

01:53:00.960 So tell me about your situationships.

01:53:02.960 Yeah, I mean, I had a situationship in college for about a few years, so freshman and sophomore

01:53:09.200 year.

01:53:10.200 And then my other situationships, the girls were like 22, 25, and then 31, 33.

01:53:16.720 And they last about, I would say, on average, those ones lasted about six months post-college.

01:53:22.960 So, I mean, that's kind of what I've seen.

01:53:24.480 I would say age range wise, girls are accepting of a situationship from like 18 to like maybe

01:53:30.660 27 max.

01:53:31.760 And then you start to see a break from like 28, 29, and then it starts up again in the

01:53:37.040 30s, like when they get a little bit more desperate.

01:53:39.300 So, like, you know, I think you can kind of bucket them into age groups, if that makes

01:53:43.400 sense.

01:53:43.700 Like young girls, they're not looking to settle down, right?

01:53:46.520 Like most of these girls are running through multiple decks a year.

01:53:49.100 Like, they don't care unless they get, like, an unbelievable option in their mind that's worth settling down for.

01:53:54.900 For the most part, they'd rather just chase fun and excitement with attractive guys, whatever excites their emotions, right?

01:54:00.820 Of, like, once they get to their late, late 20s, and I'm here in Texas, so things are a little bit more conservative.

01:54:05.940 People usually tend to settle a little bit early relative to the rest of the nation.

01:54:09.420 But if they get to their late, late 20s and they have any sexual capital, then, like, they usually start looking for more of a, quote, unquote, reliable guy.

01:54:17.240 someone who they know they can easily get commitment for from and you know you got about

01:54:22.820 six months to make it official with them or they're going to bounce and then i would say the

01:54:27.120 majority of the girls that are like 30 plus that are ending up in situationships are usually because

01:54:32.100 they just lack sexual capital relative to the guys who they want and so that's usually what

01:54:37.940 really pushes things off or they they start saying things that are just very unattractive and the guy

01:54:42.140 just thinks do i really want to put up this for another you know 40 50 years and that's what kind

01:54:46.880 makes them get pushed to the side if that makes sense did you ever take a woman seriously who

01:54:52.320 you initially didn't think you would yeah i actually did and i kept putting it off so it

01:54:58.400 i gave her commitment after six months uh she and the reason was she was just very traditional

01:55:04.000 she's very feminine uh she had a very attractive body uh she didn't have any debt she had good

01:55:08.960 habits she put out frequently and she was loyal to a fault i would say and just very helpful she

01:55:14.720 She didn't cause any problems, kind of made my life easy and trouble-free.

01:55:18.340 So when a guy recognizes, you know, a girl has these qualities and she's, you know, doing

01:55:23.220 it consistently, you know, you have about six months to give her that commitment because

01:55:27.280 eventually some guy else will come along and take her.

01:55:30.180 And you know, you're not going to see that every so often.

01:55:33.220 So, you know, if you do like her, I would say it's worth promoting her.

01:55:36.900 Absolutely.

01:55:37.800 What was your longest situation, Chip?

01:55:41.220 Longest one was in college.

01:55:42.280 So that was the one that lasted about two years, freshman and sophomore year.

01:55:46.200 And did you want commitment or did she?

01:55:49.700 I would say she wanted commitment.

01:55:51.680 Pretty much all the situationships I've been with, the girls want commitment.

01:55:55.700 I'm just the type to never ask for commitment.

01:55:57.860 In my opinion, like I'm not seeking a relationship.

01:56:00.480 If the girl wants it, she should be asking me.

01:56:02.960 And that was always sort of my mindset is like you shouldn't be like the girl should be begging you for one.

01:56:09.140 and then you determine if she's worth giving it to her not the other way around but i know guys

01:56:14.240 who have been uh put in a situationship and it's usually because they're not attractive in the

01:56:19.500 girl's eyes of what she wants to be viewed as on instagram or like basically he lacks kind of like

01:56:24.740 you know what i mean like like i've seen a guy who has a high income and has a very prestigious job

01:56:29.640 but he's not attractive and the girl has a very high salary and doesn't want to date down and but

01:56:35.040 she has a lot of sexual capital and she's like, yeah, he has a lot of money, but I don't want to

01:56:39.420 post him online because none of my friends are going to like, you know, like the photos or

01:56:43.140 they're not going to give me the kind of praise compared to if I had a much more attractive guy.

01:56:46.660 So like those kinds of girls will always stay on the dating apps, making an excuse why they don't

01:56:51.260 want to, you know, give the guy commitment. That's what I've kind of seen. Or the other way around.

01:56:56.060 It's like the bartender, like he doesn't have the other status, right? Yeah, there's that,

01:57:01.520 you know like he's very attractive and you know he's like her mr thursday dick but like he's not

01:57:06.260 like the kind of guy she wants to get married to so she kind of keeps that fun and excitement going

01:57:10.440 while she kind of looks you know around the corner for something that makes her look better uh public

01:57:16.280 facing yeah so yeah i mean and it's similar to like yeah it's similar to how guys that you know

01:57:21.860 put girls in situationships or you know what i think we used to call it the f stone right

01:57:25.700 instead of you know it's just the opposite of the wife stone it's just because you know they're good

01:57:30.300 enough for sex but not really a lifetime of what you want to project publicly yeah yeah because

01:57:36.680 marriage and relationships are more about image than than who you're like most attracted to or

01:57:43.780 even want to be with i would say absolutely and then you know for for guys who want to know how

01:57:49.200 to keep it going like you kind of have to sell like you can't tell them i'm never going to give

01:57:53.500 you commitment because a lot of those girls will leave right so you kind of have to almost like

01:57:58.540 mental judo them that like, you're willing to settle down, quote unquote, if the right girl

01:58:03.720 comes along or like start saying things like, you know, Oh, I was hurt in my past relationship. So

01:58:09.740 I want to move slowly. So I'm sure you are the one that you got to convince them that, you know,

01:58:14.760 if they, they suck a little harder, if they gluck, gluck a little, you might just give them

01:58:19.800 that relationship. So you got to sell them on that. And there are things you can say to kind of,

01:58:24.900 you know, stimulate their emotions. Cause it's all about exciting their emotions, right? So

01:58:28.500 You got to be like, you can't say you're my girlfriend, but you got to say, who's my girl?

01:58:32.780 And you got to want you got to get her to go along with it and be like, I am I am.

01:58:36.080 Right. Or like you got to be like, smile for me or like, you know, earlier, you got to make sure that she you got to put the onus on her and say, look, you know, I'm giving you all I can right now.

01:58:48.280 And, you know, you got to take it or leave it.

01:58:51.060 Just make sure where she knows that she's making the choice to be here because she can't get upset.

01:58:57.400 yeah but you also got to be like you know i really care about you don't you care about me

01:59:02.840 like you you kind of have to make them believe you really do want a relationship with them and

01:59:09.360 you're really all in without giving them that official title so that way like you can just

01:59:13.240 walk away and be like i don't know this girl you know what i mean okay okay that's so funny

01:59:19.100 um well thanks um thanks for calling in doug mpa you got any other comments questions

01:59:24.800 always good talking to you Sean have a good night buddy absolutely thanks guys thanks that is

01:59:31.060 everybody all right um so my final thoughts are this is the way forward so ladies if you

01:59:39.840 want to be in a relationship in 2025 um that's step one situationship unfortunately I don't say

01:59:46.940 this in a happy way um but we've made this dating marketplace so terrible that you got to give free

01:59:52.740 Yeah. And, um, I started my position, like Pearl said, we were talking about, you know, I said, if, uh, say to the ladies, if a man hasn't committed to you in a year or two, you should leave, but Pearl's got me to change my mind. Ladies, hold on for as long as you can, especially, uh, in this dating market, you know, you find a good one. He's not good. I think you're better off trying for a good one for five years.

02:00:22.740 years and then freaking getting banged by nug nug gavin tyrone and all those guys i really a good

02:00:29.960 guy i i think it's situational i can't say it's like you got a 50 50 shot my opinion

02:00:36.080 yeah it's you know because there's some girls that waste years and then he marries someone else

02:00:43.400 you gotta let me see your picture in his picture and ask would it make sense

02:00:47.240 that's that's actually step one is because this tea app we've seen the difference in looks

02:00:56.880 oh yeah that's step one do you guys have a similar body fat percentage

02:01:02.120 yeah and if you don't that's step one yeah a bunch of whales and dogs on that thing man

02:01:11.280 straight up woof woof jeez i think it's like anyways um thanks for your input doug mpa i

02:01:18.240 appreciate it i'm sorry i interrupted you you got anything else oh no it's okay that's it you know

02:01:23.760 just be uh five years you're better off being in a situationship with a decent guy for five years

02:01:32.240 and then they're out here banging and clanging so that's all um i say it's 50 50 it's situational

02:01:39.680 um you got to ask yourself a couple things um the first thing i would ask yourself is is this a guy

02:01:47.840 and be honest is this a guy that could commit anytime soon um that's again you're gonna have

02:01:54.640 to make the final choice so that's that's a question there's some men they're not gonna

02:01:58.800 do it till they're old there's some men that are gonna do it never and there's some men where they

02:02:03.440 could do it in a few years if you give them space that's the joy um number two um how hot are you

02:02:12.800 and does it make sense i don't think you need to be as hot as him but if you're less good looking

02:02:18.240 facially you need to at least come with a good body so a lot of times we're in the

02:02:23.600 fuck zone because of our body fat percentage i'd work on that and if it's not that i'd look at your

02:02:28.400 personality um um what would you say about 20 pounds a lot of women are 20 pounds away from

02:02:37.760 a relationship yeah i mean you know uh do you mind if i reference a story you told me i won't

02:02:43.840 say who it was uh yeah go ahead you said you knew somebody that um the weight was the reason he

02:02:52.320 broke up with a girl and then he ended up like sticking it out but like later but it would have

02:02:57.760 have been like the road would have been shorter if she just lost the weight yeah like she would

02:03:03.520 have got a bunch of guys like that yeah like she would have got what she wanted sooner if she lost

02:03:07.420 the weight yeah yep 100 true yeah anyways guys make sure you like the video and subscribe to

02:03:14.800 the channel i i appreciate your questions comments and concerns and i will see you guys tomorrow

Pearl - July 29, 2025

The Rise of Situationships (Call-in Show) ｜ Pearl Daily

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