Pearl - April 27, 2025


The SAD Destiny Of Post-Wall Women Who LEFT Good Men


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Length

15 minutes

Words per Minute

204.40175

Word Count

3,071

Sentence Count

294

Misogynist Sentences

11

Hate Speech Sentences

10


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00:00:00.000 Even liking the text would have been sufficient, but like he's done nothing. So we'll see if he
00:00:04.940 if he responds to that text. Probably saw your TikTok. If they catch you on TikTok talking about
00:00:10.420 your dating life, you're cooked. What up guys? Today we're talking about women dating over 50.
00:00:16.280 50 years ago, most women over 50 would be married to their husbands and would be a grandma. But in
00:00:21.900 2025, that is no longer the case. Too many women divorce their husbands in their later years and
00:00:27.140 come back out into the dating market and expect to find a man. Today we're going to react to this
00:00:32.420 50 year old woman who met a guy online who was looking for dating advice. She's talking like
00:00:37.060 she's in her late 20s. Oh dear. Holy shit. I mean, she looks pretty good for over 50. Can we just
00:00:44.020 tell me if you guys would? Would you do it? Would, wouldn't, would, wouldn't, would, wouldn't.
00:00:50.660 Dating over 50 story time. So I need y'all's help because. Do you know what?
00:00:55.780 She's definitely going to get smashed and passed. Cause I don't know if men over 50 want to remarry,
00:01:01.060 but I do think she'll find a boyfriend. She looks good enough. Um, it depends how insufferable
00:01:07.380 she is. I guess we'll keep listening. A guy is like not returning my text after like 24 hours and
00:01:14.200 then he'll return my text and it's confusing me. And so he's with other women. Yeah. So I'm just
00:01:19.700 wanted to get y'all's opinion. So I'm going to tell you a little story. So basically I have video
00:01:24.380 chatted with this guy. The video chat went amazing. We matched on Bumble. This was like
00:01:28.700 probably two and a half weeks ago. And the video chat was awesome. Like we had really good deep
00:01:33.580 conversation and good vibes. He was like, okay, I'm going to come into town for you. You don't know
00:01:38.280 how it was for him. Yeah. It's a cold world in the dating market. Like you could be having a great,
00:01:47.520 like people will be hooking up for a year and then one will ghost, right? You can't get attached
00:01:53.960 to anybody in this market. You could have a wife today, not tomorrow, right? You could,
00:01:58.420 people used to stick around. No moss on the bright side. Um, if someone's really annoying you, you can
00:02:07.120 also ghost. We got it. We got to flip this around ladies and fell the two women that are watching and
00:02:14.480 the men, you know, at least I understand it's tough that your wife could leave you tomorrow,
00:02:19.900 but you could also leave her if she's getting too bad. Now I know you're like, well, but she's can take
00:02:25.180 my money and the kids. Well, let's, let's look at it on the bright side. Now you got more time for
00:02:30.940 the new young, hot things that are going to come around. Um, and it's, you're going to be happier
00:02:37.860 in an apartment with a mattress than in a giant, nice house with a miserable wife. It's going to be
00:02:44.560 like men experience this, like when they're finally done until she drags them back to court. It's going to
00:02:50.980 be a long 18 years. I won't lie to you guys, but you, most men I do believe are happier after divorce
00:02:56.620 if the wife doesn't screw them too hard. It depends on the, yeah. But, and if they're,
00:03:03.460 they got to be accepting like the men that want to fight to the end, just how do I put this? Like
00:03:10.460 the men that have hope, the men that go in expecting the worst, they're going to be happier than the men
00:03:14.940 that think they're going to win. Do you know if they win, then they'll be happy, but okay.
00:03:20.280 I'm going on a tangent. Let me go back to this lady. He lives in Houston. He was like, I'm going
00:03:24.080 to take you out on a date. So since then he's texting me like every day it's been, it's been
00:03:28.460 great. We've had one other phone conversation. It wasn't a video call. It was just like a phone
00:03:32.720 call, but it lasted like, I don't know, 30 minutes, you know, another really good talk,
00:03:37.020 like good conversation, like not just about the weather, but about like good stuff,
00:03:40.320 you know, deeper stuff, whatever, nothing too deep though. And you know, again, just really
00:03:45.860 consistent with this communication, like text me, you know, once or twice a day, nothing like too
00:03:50.640 much. Then this last weekend, um, I had my daughter's wedding. It was fabulous. Oh my gosh,
00:03:56.380 it was so amazing. So I'll be doing a post on Instagram and Facebook about that soon. But
00:04:00.480 anyway, she got married. It was just wonderful and magical. So he told me, you know, the night of the
00:04:05.960 wedding, he texted me like 5 PM and was like, you know, have a great time at the wedding,
00:04:09.920 thinking about you. So I texted back and said, thank you. I'll be sure and send you some photos.
00:04:14.620 Well, I didn't send him any photos that night, obviously, because I was at the wedding having
00:04:17.820 a good time. Right. So then the next day, which was Sunday, I sent him a text with like three or
00:04:23.020 four photos and just like a text saying like, you know, here are some photos. It was such an amazing
00:04:28.060 time. You know, hope you're having a great day. Okay. He doesn't return that text. He doesn't return it
00:04:33.560 for 24 hours until the next morning, which was Monday. And he was like, Oh, Hey, good morning.
00:04:38.580 Those pictures are beautiful. You looked elegant and classy and blah, blah, blah. So it was a nice
00:04:42.340 compliment. Yeah. Cause he was with someone else. I said, thank you for the compliment. But still,
00:04:50.100 that was like the first time that he didn't return a text, you know, taking 24 hours.
00:04:55.100 Yeah. And that's what they got to do. They got to give us all the attention and then slowly take
00:04:59.160 it away. So we start to chase them. Yup. Mm-hmm. That's the game. Then they see who comes and
00:05:07.180 they're like, all right, this one likes me. There you go. Taking two hours, taking three
00:05:13.600 hours, even five hours. She's too old to be like, this is what you do. And let's be honest,
00:05:19.060 early twenties, teens, when you're older, you really should be more socially aware and just
00:05:25.660 take the hint. You know what I mean? Like, I mean, if you're interested, keep, keep showing
00:05:30.100 you're interested, but like five hours, he probably, he's like, I got her on the hook.
00:05:34.380 Now I can go do this other girl. You know what I mean? He's like, I got this one. She's hooked.
00:05:39.820 Let me go bang Tracy and Stephanie. And then I'll come back to this one.
00:05:44.660 The whole entire day, especially when that day with it, he didn't return. It was a Sunday.
00:05:48.540 So I thought, you know what, should I play the cool girl and not respond or not, not respond,
00:05:53.940 but just like respond in a way and not addressing the fact that he took a whole day to respond to
00:05:58.460 me and act like I don't care. But I was like, no, no, I don't want to do that. I was thinking back
00:06:02.280 to something that Matthew Hussey said, which if you've never heard of Matthew Hussey, he's a great
00:06:07.180 dating and relationship coach. And he's like, you shouldn't play the cool girl. You should always
00:06:11.620 just be direct and honest about how you're feeling. So if something's bothering you, you should say it.
00:06:16.420 So I did. That's terrible advice. Cause everything bothers us, right? Like, oh my gosh.
00:06:23.940 Oh, my relationships would go to hell. If women said everything we already say way too much. That
00:06:30.780 bothers. Oh my God. All right. I'll listen. I said, Hey, thanks for the nice, the kind word.
00:06:39.160 You know what? I guess you say something if you're going to be passive aggressive later anyways,
00:06:43.940 but it's better to just let it go and stop thinking about it. You know, cause, oh my gosh,
00:06:51.960 women saying everything that bothers them. Oh, I don't care. Or whatever. And then they get into
00:06:59.740 the, I don't care. You don't care about my feelings. I don't because you have so many.
00:07:06.640 God, it's like, I have this moment. Okay. Um, but I really value consistent communication. And when
00:07:16.880 I didn't hear from you yesterday, yesterday, I felt a little sad. Like I actually used the
00:07:21.820 adjectives, adjectives sad, because that's how I felt like a little sad. I wasn't like heartbroken
00:07:26.680 or anything. I don't really know this guy, but I was like a little sad that he didn't text me back.
00:07:30.820 So I said that for, you know, 24 hours and then he was, yeah, she communicated. I am crazy.
00:07:37.400 That's what she said. He waited a day. A day is not that bad. It's not a week, it's not a month.
00:07:42.280 It's a day. Responded back and said, I don't want to make you feel that way. He said, um, I was just
00:07:47.560 busy yesterday. Um, but I'm sure I wasn't as busy as you. And that was it. And I was like, okay,
00:07:53.580 I didn't like love that response. So I didn't even respond back to it because there was really no
00:07:57.800 reason to respond. And then he texted me this morning, which today's Tuesday. Um, and he said,
00:08:04.960 Hey, you know, good morning. Hope you're having a great day. He said, I would love to talk to you
00:08:09.160 today. Um, on the phone, if you have some time. So then I responded, um, actually that was last
00:08:15.280 night. So then I responded to that text this morning because I was actually in bed after I got
00:08:20.160 the, after he sent me that text. I think he sent me that text last night at like eight 30 or nine.
00:08:24.260 Yes. I go to bed by like nine o'clock every night. That's crazy. I know, but I love my sleep. So
00:08:28.900 I responded to him this morning and said, sure. Good morning. That sounds great. Um, uh, would you
00:08:34.500 be able to talk at five 30 today? Question mark. And so that was this morning at seven 30. It is now
00:08:40.880 4 PM. He hasn't responded. So we'll see if he calls me at five 30, but like, it was a question of
00:08:47.320 me saying, so are you going to be able to call me today at five 30? And he hasn't responded. It's like,
00:08:51.680 it's super easy to just respond to that text and say, sure, I'll call you at five 30.
00:08:55.820 Even liking the text would have been sufficient, but like he's done nothing. So we'll see if he,
00:09:01.460 if he responds to that text. Probably saw your Tik TOK. Yeah. You're cooked. If they catch you on
00:09:07.780 Tik TOK talking about your dating life, you're cooked, cooked, cooked. You're done in the next hour
00:09:13.480 and a half, or maybe he won't respond to the text at all. And he'll just call me at five 30,
00:09:17.840 or maybe he won't respond to the text and he won't call me at five 30. And he's just going
00:09:22.640 to be ghosting me. Like I have no idea, but I am getting the vibe that this guy isn't very
00:09:27.820 communicative. And I've already told him once and I'm not, she's in love. Yeah. Women complain about
00:09:33.660 the men that they love. Yeah. Translation. I'm in love with him. I'm in love and I'll wait forever.
00:09:41.340 As long as he wants to take to text me. That's what she's saying. I'm going to tell him again.
00:09:44.920 So I'm just going to let him be who he is. See what he does. See how he communicates.
00:09:49.040 He did tell me a couple of days ago that he wants to, he could treat me like dog shit and I'll still
00:09:53.440 be there. That's what she's saying. Come into town this weekend on Saturday to take me on the date.
00:09:59.520 So like, if he's going to be this, like, you know, non-communicative, then I don't really want
00:10:05.560 to go out with the guy on Saturday night because communication is valuable to me. I do, I do value
00:10:11.080 it. And it is important to me. Like if I'm going to have a relationship, not that we're in a
00:10:14.420 relationship, I realize we're in the beginning stages of dating, but still it's like, yeah,
00:10:18.680 if you got this much pent up energy and it's like, has she even met him in person yet?
00:10:24.040 Really want to have that back and forth, like consistent communication. And it's just kind
00:10:28.260 of weird that he isn't responding to my texts when in the beginning for the first two weeks,
00:10:31.940 he was always very responsive. So leave me a comment down below. Let me know if you agree.
00:10:36.360 Yeah, you're cooked. Done. All right. Let's see. Part two. Let's see. Now I guess we're in for the
00:10:42.700 update. I'm actually very impressed that this woman is 50. Like she looks great for 50. I don't care
00:10:51.760 what anyone says. I understand she's probably a wooden just for her age, but I hope I look that
00:10:57.320 good at 50. Okay.
00:10:58.840 Over 50 story time. Part two to yesterday's video. I'm going to tell y'all what the guy actually did.
00:11:04.300 So last night I was supposed to have maybe a call with the guy that started becoming
00:11:09.520 inconsistent with this communication. So if you didn't watch the previous video, go back and watch
00:11:14.900 that really quick and then come back here and I'll tell you what happened. But in case you don't feel
00:11:18.160 like it, let me just summarize quickly. So I matched with this guy on Bumble. We had a video call. We had
00:11:23.940 a few phone calls. He's been texting pretty consistently until this last weekend. And my daughter got
00:11:29.320 married on Saturday and I was like, Oh, I'll send you some photos, you know, from the wedding later. I said
00:11:34.060 that on the wedding day, which was Saturday. Well, I didn't send him any photos until the next
00:11:38.020 morning. And then he waited 24 hours to respond to that text, which I didn't love. Like I thought
00:11:44.360 that was very inconsistent. So I said that I was like, I don't love the inconsistent communication,
00:11:48.780 you know, and he was like, Oh, I'm, I was super busy. And I just didn't respond. He sends me another
00:11:53.120 text saying, Hey, well, let's chat on the phone, you know, sometime tomorrow. So I responded to that
00:11:59.820 text the very next morning. And I said, sure. How about today at 530? That was 7am. Well,
00:12:05.640 yesterday he did not respond to that text. In fact, he left me on delivered. He didn't even read the
00:12:11.340 text, which I know he read it because you can like read a text without opening it. Okay. But he left me
00:12:16.360 on delivered regardless, which I didn't love that either. So then yesterday I'm thinking like,
00:12:20.620 is he going to call me at 530 or is he just not going to call? Well, he didn't call me at 530.
00:12:24.360 He didn't return that text until 630 PM last night. And here's what that text said. It said,
00:12:31.120 Hey, I've been traveling all day. I'm really busy and I'm headed to dinner. That's it. He did not
00:12:37.680 address like, Oh, I know you asked me to call you at 530. I'm so sorry. I wasn't able to,
00:12:42.620 I've been working and I've been traveling, nothing. He didn't say anything about it. So
00:12:46.320 you know what I did? You know what I responded? Nothing. I'm not going to, I'm not going to respond
00:12:51.500 because first of all, he didn't ask me a question. Second of all, I just thought it was really rude
00:12:56.020 that a, he took 30. Yeah. And the thing is the, this is why men don't want old women
00:13:01.460 because they just don't give the benefit of the doubt anymore. Right? Like he's probably with
00:13:07.380 someone else. Let's just, right. And, but that's his right, right? This is early stages of dating.
00:13:14.640 He's either with someone else or maybe he's busy and her micromanaging all of this. That's just
00:13:23.220 exhausting. She's cooked. Done. He now has to return my text and be, he didn't even acknowledge
00:13:29.220 that. I said, call me at 530. So when it was his idea originally to have a phone call, so he's done,
00:13:35.180 he's fired onto the next. It's okay. I wish him, if he comes back, she will say yes, the best,
00:13:41.360 no ill will. But since I value communication, this is just not going to work for me. But,
00:13:47.280 and like I always say, when you remove somebody from your life, you're just making room for God
00:13:54.920 to bring in the right person. And I know that God must be still working on me because I also know
00:14:00.600 this. And I heard this recently, which I love, which is, you know, God is just making me the best
00:14:06.600 version of myself and the version of myself that I need to be in order to be ready for my husband to
00:14:13.160 come along. So. Wow. Cooked. Anyways, guys, if you want to see what dating is like over 50,
00:14:19.900 this is the lady. I want to see a full body. Stop scrolling. If you want to learn the best
00:14:24.120 style solution when you're trying to decide between. I don't care what anyone says. If I looked like that,
00:14:30.600 I don't know. Was she like 55? If I look like that at 55, I'm happy. I don't care. I know you
00:14:37.420 guys are going to say old. You're going to say would it, but somebody's doing it. And we talk
00:14:41.460 about this every show. Somebody is. She could go well with like the 70 year old dudes. She would.
00:14:48.080 Yeah. Anyways, guys, let me know what you think in the comments. Please like the video on your way
00:14:52.880 out and subscribe to the channel. Let me know if you've dated women over 50. What's that experience
00:14:58.120 been like? Like the video, subscribe, and I'll see you guys next time.