Pearl - The Second Worst Take I Ever Had

00:00:00.000 All right, what up guys? Welcome to my coffee talks. Today I'm going to keep going and talk

00:00:06.940 about my bad takes because I think there's nothing like life humbling you a little bit.

00:00:12.920 And sometimes I watch some of my old content and there was stuff I really did believe at

00:00:17.360 the time and think was true. And now the same stats I wouldn't really quote anymore. And

00:00:23.580 I want to go through my thought process. So one of the stats I used to say a lot was that

00:00:29.520 married men are happier. Women are happier when they're married. And the older I got,

00:00:36.540 the more like rose colored glasses fell off on like couples, you kind of thought at a glance

00:00:41.880 we're happy. But when you get red pilled, you realize she just hen pecks him. And he just is

00:00:49.260 miserable. And you start to realize that the sexes don't really like each other as much as we 1.00

00:00:55.620 previously thought. The women, it's like we love men. We love their attention. We love,

00:01:01.220 you know, their time. They entertain us. But I don't think we actually love them because of

00:01:07.080 obviously the way we treat them in the world. And if I'm being honest, most women, I would say they 1.00

00:01:14.700 get value from being married. Like their husbands help sort their life out a little bit. Their

00:01:19.560 husbands are nice. You know, their husbands do things for them. But in terms of like the man 1.00

00:01:26.200 making them happy, from what I've seen, it's the person has to be able to make themselves happy.

00:01:35.660 And if you make your happiness someone else's problem, that's almost like a terrible way to live

00:01:43.660 because you don't know where life's going to take you. Like I know a man.

00:01:48.960 He had one kid and he had a wife and they both ended up passing away. But, you know, he's from my

00:01:55.240 hometown and it was a really sad situation, but he was still a happy guy. You know, he's a happy guy

00:02:03.720 before he's a happy guy after. And the other thing I realized is that people don't like grumpy people.

00:02:13.660 Um, so the people that are going to be selected for marriage aren't going to be in general, the

00:02:22.640 grumpy Debbie Downers, you know, but for some reason we just attribute it all to marriage.

00:02:31.600 And it's almost putting marriage on a pedestal of like something that it can't live up to. Like

00:02:37.580 it gives people false expectations. Like if they get married, they're all of a sudden going to be

00:02:43.140 a different person. Like if they're an unhappy person, they cross, you know, they, they take

00:02:47.720 the vows and now they're a happy person. And that's just not what I've seen. What I have seen

00:02:54.280 is that grumpy people don't get selected because who wants a Debbie Downer? Nobody, right?

00:03:03.660 The other thing I've noticed is that I don't see women being able to answer their happiness 1.00

00:03:10.140 question honestly, because our incentives are just too much for attention. And not only do

00:03:20.480 people lie to each other, they also lie to themselves. And there's a lot of women that 1.00

00:03:24.200 check happily married, but they nag their husbands. They henpeck their husbands. They don't listen 1.00

00:03:30.880 to their husbands. They're just not nice people. And so it doesn't, um, shock me

00:03:37.140 it doesn't shock me that women would select that. And even if we select it the other way,

00:03:47.540 women love being victims, not all, not all for attention. So in general, I don't like putting 0.99

00:03:56.720 happiness as a metric for measuring anything because, um, there's people, it's like happy to who,

00:04:06.160 right? Um, I, there's somebody very grumpy I'm thinking of. And on this person's happiest day,

00:04:15.000 it's like my unhappiest day, right? You know, I'm, I'm just kind of an upbeat person

00:04:20.240 and not always, right? I can also be a bitch as you guys probably have seen. Um, but you, 0.99

00:04:28.280 you guys see what I'm saying. And what I realized is the happiness metric is always used by people

00:04:34.920 trying to sell you something. So it's a little bit embarrassing that I always used to quote that.

00:04:40.040 Um, because when you think about it, it's always people trying to either sell you their religion,

00:04:46.960 sell you their way of life. Um, it's all of them trying to sell you something. And a lot of them say

00:04:54.180 that because it's almost like using their relationship for clout. And that's the next

00:05:04.300 thing that I've learned over the years is I have not found a traditional woman, a traditional woman 0.95

00:05:11.980 under 25, I'm sorry, under 40 that acts traditionally without using the relationship to build

00:05:20.520 her brand. And that's kind of what you see on Tik TOK. Um, and she's nice enough, but the Savannah

00:05:26.920 girl, I forgot her name, but she's always got her boobs out in a sundress. Like, what do you do? 1.00

00:05:33.420 You know, posted her, posted her, um, her recipes.

00:05:42.020 And, um, I almost think the worst relationships come from that having to like maintain an image.

00:05:48.920 And I'm someone I've been in a public relationship before, like kind of years ago. I don't like

00:05:54.960 talking about it too much because I never want to, um, you know, I never want to bring up

00:06:02.440 personal, you know, whatever, but I'll say this about it. I remember the pressure of having to

00:06:11.400 maintain that image and it was just awful. It was like, you know, you're, you're afraid they're

00:06:17.980 going to embarrass you. They're afraid you're going to embarrass. And it's like a lack of almost like

00:06:21.880 freedom in a way. Um,

00:06:25.620 and you include people's opinions who don't really like matter, if that makes sense.

00:06:36.120 But I think that's one stat that I wouldn't say the same way. The next one I realized, um,

00:06:43.580 was the body count stat was that women that sleep with more people are more likely to divorce. 0.81

00:06:50.580 Now, while I do believe that's true, the older I've gotten, the more I realized that it's not as

00:06:57.560 black and white as you think. And most of the biggest hoes at my college are married. 1.00

00:07:03.320 Now they probably won't stay married to be fair, but a lot of them probably got through the door

00:07:10.140 faster than pure prudes. And I'm just being honest about what I saw. I mean, a bunch of them have

00:07:16.540 kids and then they were doing a bunch of stuff in school.

00:07:26.180 So anyways, I think it's tough to conclude anything from the body count stats because

00:07:32.720 women just lie about their body counts. You just never even know what it is. 1.00

00:07:37.140 And even if they have a low one, they just have these workarounds like backdoor or like whatever.

00:07:42.940 And they don't count it. And I don't want you guys to, um, misunderstand me. I do. I don't think

00:07:50.720 that's good. I do think it makes a difference, but it's tough to say how much of one because

00:07:57.100 I've also seen virgins crash out and go crazy. Um, but anyways, guys, I hope you're having a good

00:08:04.460 day. Enjoy the decline and maybe I'll continue the series of the takes that I wouldn't, um,

00:08:10.960 that I would maybe change or I see a little bit differently now. So anyways, like the video,

00:08:18.080 subscribe, and I'll see you next time.

Pearl - July 23, 2025

The Second Worst Take I Ever Had

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