Pearl - The SHOCKING SCIENCE of What WOMEN Really WANT! w⧸ @TheSilkMethod &Ice White @GameGlobalOfficial

00:00:00.000 What up guys? Welcome to the Just Pearly Things YouTube channel and welcome to another episode

00:00:06.500 here at the Audacity Network. Today I have two special guests on the channel. The first is Michael

00:00:12.840 Lee aka Mr. Silk. He has an academic background in communication and behavioral science

00:00:19.120 that he has been adapting practical methods in the dating scene. We also have Ice White who has

00:00:25.720 the channel Game Global and is a dating coach and best-selling author. Welcome to the show guys.

00:00:31.900 How are you? I'm good Perl. Thank you for having me. It's great to be here. Perfect. Great to be back.

00:00:37.100 Let's go. So today we're going to be having you know a general conversation about men women and

00:00:44.540 relationships. So to start the show I thought a good question would be what do women want in men

00:00:51.340 and relationships? Well I think it has been a lot of misconception out there today because when we

00:01:00.260 look at the western world and what men think women want in relationship it's mostly about passive value.

00:01:07.200 You either have to look very good or you have to have a lot of money, a great career and status

00:01:14.140 within that one as well and that is not what I believe is what women want today in relationships

00:01:21.300 because I believe much more that what women want today is actually men being real. So many men out

00:01:29.800 there have been so hyped about being someone in order to come up in the same attractiveness level

00:01:36.240 as beautiful women and it just doesn't work that way. So that is why I believe women actually want in men.

00:01:43.600 They want normal men. They can behave normally and we rarely see that today.

00:01:49.420 Can I have an example of what a woman would disqualify and what a woman would like say yes to?

00:01:56.680 Like how do we tend to like disqualify men and deem them as not normal?

00:02:02.320 Okay so what women knows specifically those women that have a loss of male attention they know their

00:02:09.180 spell power over men. So I mean most beautiful men most beautiful women are just normal people

00:02:17.420 and when men coming up to them and really get spelled by the beauty they become overly friendly

00:02:27.240 and their interpersonal communication skills get really damaged by their that kind of spell and

00:02:34.700 most of the time when they come up to the women they just can't talk normally. It's all about

00:02:39.980 rambling about themselves they're putting themselves a lot in focus they're trying to you know convey

00:02:48.360 ideas interesting stories being playful being funny and all that in order to in some way impress the

00:02:55.580 women. And I've seen that over and over again. If you just look how men behave in front of beautiful

00:03:02.460 women we will see that the human behavior in normal conversation is not really there. It is a lot of

00:03:11.580 what can I say compromised conversation based on how men feels and there is a scientific reason

00:03:18.220 for it and it has to do with the spike of neurotransmitters in men's brain. They get released

00:03:25.260 when they see something beautiful and those neurotransmitters are directly linked to attraction,

00:03:31.660 sexual attraction, bonding and love itself. So that is how men really feel when they see beautiful women.

00:03:40.140 And when men trying to behave normally which is almost impossible when you feel something like that

00:03:46.300 women can see that instantly. You probably have been in that situation many times when you know the guys

00:03:52.860 find you attractive for example he goes up and he talks with you and you just look at him and you

00:03:57.100 can just feel it that there is something with him that is not really a normal conversation based like

00:04:04.460 a normal person talking with you because you have co-workers you have your family you're talking normal

00:04:09.340 normally too and you know how normal people act in front of you they don't have any romantic interest

00:04:14.620 but when guys is coming up to you and find you attractive the whole conversation is actually

00:04:20.380 getting compromised and women can see that and many times women disqualify that directly they just want

00:04:27.020 men that can behave real to them have a normal conversation to them not being this

00:04:34.300 person that put her into the into the center of universe in terms of her beauty and then behaving

00:04:42.140 accordingly if you get what i mean it's a huge problem today really just today for example i run uh game

00:04:49.420 global so we have uh the biggest network of wingmen in the world and normally we get guys well sometimes

00:04:57.820 we get guys who are kind of off the mark and they kind of think that a man needs certain things uh certain

00:05:06.940 specific things oddly specific things in order to get women as if it's the only way so one person today

00:05:16.060 for example was so intentional on believing in the fact the fact that a man needs a lamborghini in

00:05:27.420 order to have a woman falling over like this stuff is just ridiculous to me obvious like for the two

00:05:34.060 women for the two women the two women watching have you dated anyone with a lambo like i haven't

00:05:40.620 sorry god exactly did did your dad have a lamborghini how the were you born like are you this is

00:05:50.140 some nonsensical stuff that uh i see all the time that that's the extreme side but um there

00:05:58.060 is um some truth in the fact that some women may be into that kind of person uh but you know this stuff

00:06:08.220 is extremely vague um not everyone has a lamborghini but people are trying to have sex all the time so

00:06:16.860 that to think that you need certain requirements like you have to be six foot tall you have to be

00:06:23.580 uh a millionaire these are just ridiculous things that are implanted in some people's minds and it's

00:06:30.540 becoming dangerous for a lot of guys out there uh because it not only damages your own chances uh but

00:06:38.860 it's harming your own mindset and preventing you from actually doing things that help you go forward

00:06:46.540 and if you're just making excuses saying well i don't have a lamborghini i'm never going to get a woman

00:06:51.980 then you're never going to get a woman because you're never going to do anything in order to try so

00:06:57.980 finding your own uniqueness having some kind of personality that does not depend on having a

00:07:05.420 lamborghini like i was saying today i'm glad i grew up poor because um my personality would then have to

00:07:13.980 rely on finding myself rather than trying to show off like crazy expensive possessions that is not me

00:07:23.020 in some alternative universe there could be a version of me that is extremely materialistic and that will

00:07:30.860 attract gold diggers if you frame it in the wrong way but if you're smarter about these kinds of things

00:07:37.260 you don't need to rely on having certain things like here's a big one for a lot of guys um the height

00:07:45.500 argument of course a lot of guys think they have to be tall like seriously i'm i'm a tall guy i'm six

00:07:51.820 foot two so some people may not want to listen to my advice about this but if you are short i believe

00:07:59.740 if i was short too i would follow this to the letter um i would see it as my superpower being short

00:08:07.020 because you would be able to stand out and you having a woman on your arm especially an attractive one

00:08:14.300 that makes you look really good that makes you look better than me a tall person with the same woman

00:08:22.060 in my arm you being smaller than me with the same woman in a different context that makes you look

00:08:29.100 better than i would because you're smaller so you get the well not attention necessarily but

00:08:34.940 it looks so much better so being short is a superpower any weaknesses flip them upside down

00:08:42.940 and turn them into your strengths so do you guys feel as though women or do you guys think that women

00:08:51.020 are picky well they have to be but go ahead yeah okay so what i think when it comes to pickiness of women

00:09:00.060 i believe it is not what men are thinking today when people are thinking that when men are thinking

00:09:06.860 women being picky they're thinking in terms of passive value trait as what i just mentioned that

00:09:12.780 they are picky with the wallet that men have does have a thick wallet that's is he rich is he handsome

00:09:19.740 does he take care of himself in terms of extreme physical uh training for example and all that so men

00:09:27.660 think that they have to be really on the top of the game in so many different fields like making money

00:09:33.980 going to the gym in some way being pretty cool in terms of having a great lifestyle and so on

00:09:40.380 i don't believe that that is what women are picky for there are some gold diggers as what i also mentioned

00:09:48.060 that i believe exist but if we want to talk about the rule itself not women that belongs to the

00:09:54.380 exception of the rule women are not really picky based on those things what i've seen based on

00:10:02.460 close to thousands of clients that i've coached including myself having you know a lot of experience

00:10:08.380 approaching and dating women what i've seen is that the women pickiness today is actually to be with

00:10:15.820 someone who is is real behaving real towards you can talk normally towards you and being curious about you

00:10:23.820 just someone who is real and that real is actually quite rare today there are so many guys that

00:10:29.580 can't be real and that is a huge problem in the society when it comes to the dynamic between men and

00:10:35.820 women being real and we're going to go later in this podcast we're going to go through what i mean with

00:10:42.220 being real but in all in all sense being real is is what women are craving for that is what i've seen

00:10:50.140 and do you guys think that's different with what the manosphere says women want

00:10:59.660 yeah absolutely i mean you you go ahead i i mean we know how manosphere works or do you guys consider

00:11:07.180 yourself a part of it or yeah i'll keep it short but similar to what i kind of said there's like

00:11:12.940 uh sorry you cut off there like what are you sorry sorry and you guys do you guys consider yourself a part

00:11:17.820 of it maybe would be good to like do you guys consider yourself red pill manosphere like where

00:11:22.460 do you like do you consider yourself a part of it also um so me being um essentially uh some people

00:11:34.380 in the comments seem that joe rogan of the manosphere who even knows what the manosphere even is uh there's

00:11:41.100 uh the producer of louis ferroux uh documentaries had a meeting with me just about two or three weeks

00:11:47.180 ago and uh we were talking about like what the manosphere actually is manosphere is about men but

00:11:53.740 in the media it's about heterosexual men aren't gay men part of the manosphere they're men so uh why are

00:12:01.020 they excluded from um not to say that yeah i think it's used in kind of like uh with bad intent when it's

00:12:08.140 especially in media context but um yeah i wouldn't just i wouldn't parade around saying hey i'm a

00:12:14.460 manosphere person but uh if someone wants to label me as a manosphere person because i'm a man then i

00:12:21.100 suppose that makes me a manosphere person but essentially having built game global people see me as the um

00:12:30.060 the person who filled the vacuum of the community the pickup community and the person who made that happen

00:12:36.460 and has to be associated with the manosphere in some way if they feel like that but to be honest i

00:12:42.620 don't really care it's a label whatever it has to do with me maybe i could be a good example because

00:12:48.620 i'm a married man if you want to run game front pickup artistry for your end goal and that end goal

00:12:56.300 is marriage and having a family that's a great end goal to have and i'm an example of that so let me

00:13:02.300 be a good example if i'm me okay and so what do you yeah go ahead no go ahead no no i i wouldn't

00:13:13.500 consider myself as someone who is part of the manosphere category or the red pill and that has

00:13:20.460 to do with my scientific studies i've done in the area of relationship building and within the relationship

00:13:26.700 building attraction is a big part of it and when we look at the scientific data in that field there

00:13:32.780 is nothing i've seen in the manosphere community or in the red pill community that actually have real

00:13:37.820 scientific backing and now we're talking about things that have been studying uh you know ivy league

00:13:45.500 school have been studying this one for also since 1950s interpersonal communication and relationship

00:13:50.940 building we have solid scientific data of how that works and i've seen nothing like that in the

00:13:57.100 manosphere red pill community or the pickup artist community as well so i cannot really take ideas that

00:14:04.220 are not really scientifically proven and principles that are not proven either so that's my response to

00:14:10.860 that question okay so i guess how are your beliefs different than what they believe in terms

00:14:20.460 of like what women want what is attraction okay so if you're going to look at what attraction actually

00:14:27.500 is it is actually never transmitters they get released in the brain both in females and males

00:14:35.820 but in the route to get them released are different between men and women you see so there have been a

00:14:42.940 lot of research made in this topic and specifically now in the in the later years we have been able

00:14:50.380 able to use you know neural imaging as a functional mri's and so on to really measure the releases of

00:14:56.380 neurotransmitters to really determine that the theories they have been studying since 1950s is actually

00:15:02.860 valid today and what we have seen now for example is that when men are seeing beautiful women they their

00:15:11.660 brain releases strong amount of neurotransmitters strongly connected with attraction sexual attraction bonding

00:15:19.740 and love itself we're now talking about dopamine endorphins serotonin and oxytocin they did the same

00:15:27.340 study with women and what do you think they saw in the neural imaging nothing almost nothing happened when

00:15:35.500 women saw beautiful men also when they saw men they also experimented they wanted to make it more complex

00:15:42.300 so they actually they actually put men in powerful positions like men they were not only handsome but

00:15:48.620 they looked like they they are in a high status area such as work for example like they are a doctor

00:15:55.420 they are someone who have been successful in the in the business industry and so on and yet it didn't

00:16:01.340 trigger them much the one the only thing they saw was a small release of dopamine and that was an

00:16:06.620 indicator of interest only that she might want to know more about him but there was nothing like how

00:16:13.980 men felt when they saw something attractive it was just sick comparison really so what is then my belief

00:16:21.980 that we can do as men when it comes to attraction well we have to look at what element actually

00:16:28.460 triggered attraction in women the real elements and there is another study that have been made a lot of

00:16:35.660 studies that have been made by by university all over the world but harvard made a very interesting

00:16:40.460 study harvard university cognitive lab so what they did was to measure the never transmitters release

00:16:47.580 in female brains in communication so they actually did it in two ways one way was when women were

00:16:56.300 listening to something very interesting interesting storyteller interesting joker like a comedian and so on

00:17:03.740 and what they saw in the female brain was a small release of dopamine almost the same as what they

00:17:11.020 saw in in in women when they saw beautiful men not so much happened there but then they made vice versa

00:17:18.540 it's like we asking the questions to women instead and let them talk about what they think about things

00:17:24.540 and about themselves in depth it was not until then when they saw a huge spike of never transmitters

00:17:32.700 in the same way as what men saw when they saw beautiful women so we could replicate that effect

00:17:40.060 when women were talking about themselves they have to be in a certain depth it wasn't exactly as strong

00:17:45.980 but the exposure of those never transmitters was very stable it could even increase with time

00:17:52.700 so now we're getting somewhere when it comes to attraction what actually triggers attraction in women

00:17:59.180 and that is very very interesting so the answer to your question is that is what i believe in because

00:18:05.900 that is what we have been proven to use attraction in women in contrast to routine based game or scripted

00:18:15.100 game or something like that where we're taking a lot of external factors to trigger attraction in women

00:18:22.460 it doesn't really work that way we have to trigger attraction internally and we're doing that with

00:18:28.620 interpersonal communication would you say that's another way to say that women like men that are

00:18:33.660 charming yeah yeah you could see that you could say that but when you look at charisma and and being

00:18:42.060 charming it involves more than one liner most of the time yeah yeah absolutely so i mean if we look at the

00:18:50.380 charisma code and and and being charming and so on it's much more about how a man can make a woman

00:18:58.140 feel in conversations and interactions rather than trying to say something funny taking out of thin air

00:19:05.420 absolutely so uh that is what i believe is um i've seen i've seen men um date women very out of their

00:19:15.260 league looks wise but they're funny or charming i could see that i could totally see that absolutely

00:19:21.660 i mean there is not so big difference and now i think a lot of people from the red pill community

00:19:26.300 is going to scream now but there is not so big difference between being pretty average dating women

00:19:33.660 and being someone who is pretty handsome and dating women there is we're not talking about the homeless

00:19:39.820 person living on the street here we're talking about a pretty good decent looking guy comparing

00:19:45.180 that with someone who is really handsome and and who is being successful in something compared with

00:19:50.620 the average man with a pretty average job the difference between those two can be huge if none

00:19:56.700 of them know how to communicate with women but if both of them could communicate with women the the

00:20:01.900 difference between those two become like almost equal it's almost like a different oh sorry sorry yeah

00:20:07.820 but i i was gonna say it's almost like a different language that you guys have to learn to talk to us

00:20:14.140 because yes yeah i noticed that um men that work in more um i guess rough fields where they're not

00:20:25.980 really around women it's like a learning adjustment as they get older to like say things in a different

00:20:32.220 way so we don't get offended or it's more palatable or we answer questions more whatever yeah so here

00:20:41.100 comes the tricky part per here's comes the tricky part is that in order to be able to communicate in

00:20:46.460 this way that actually trigger the never transmittance in women we have to take things in depth and that

00:20:52.700 is what communication skills comes in and my my main advice are professors from universities of in

00:21:00.780 communication basically and people that work in professional fields and so on and what we have

00:21:05.660 seen here is that no one knows real empathetic communication skills unless they are schooled so

00:21:13.100 what happens when we have a bunch of men out there in the society they don't know how to communicate

00:21:18.700 in a way that it triggers attraction in women what happens then well the attractionist level between

00:21:25.500 men and women are completely unbalanced and i remember you saying one time that oh women don't

00:21:31.100 bring so much to the table in relationship basically so if we look at it objectively yeah you might be

00:21:37.180 right they they don't do anything they they just exist right but if you're going to look at the brain

00:21:43.500 and how the attraction and those narratives are getting released women being pretty being attractive is

00:21:52.140 it's enough for that kind of feeling in male brands have you been doing have you been to america we're

00:21:59.340 fat here they're not so actually uh on the most uh recent uh dating coach panel um there was one dating

00:22:18.700 coach on there who said because he goes to a bunch of our countries he probably hasn't had sex with an

00:22:24.860 american woman for about six or eight years and then michael sartain said good you're absolved it was just

00:22:32.380 the funniest thing ever everyone was so happy about it yeah yeah i've heard that so what do you guys

00:22:39.980 think of the advice um just be yourself okay so here comes again i mean being yourself means that

00:22:49.660 you're going up to a woman and you don't know what to talk about that is being yourself in today's

00:22:53.900 context you just want to stay there look at her and just rambling on just because she's beautiful you're

00:23:00.300 also going to be nervous so being yourself in that state is not very helpful so being yourself

00:23:09.420 it's actually more about learning how to communicate in the way that you want to communicate

00:23:14.300 not until then can you be yourself and i used to say that if you really want to be good with women

00:23:22.380 you have to be much more yourself than you've ever been before and you have to be authentic

00:23:27.420 and in order to be authentic you need to inject curiosity in your mindset so instead of focusing about

00:23:35.100 you about what you are doing how cool you are and what you want in life you have to shift it over

00:23:41.740 and make it about her instead to be really curious about what is going on in her life in depth that

00:23:48.940 goes beyond just the beauty that we see not that till then do you have the right mindset to alter

00:23:54.780 the behavior that can support that mindset and now we're going into

00:23:59.180 you know real interpersonal communication skills that i believe guys need to learn in order to be

00:24:06.460 themselves more than ever before to be authentic it's nothing that you really get born with you

00:24:12.860 really have to learn to be yourself i mean most of my clients they are not someone who want to go with

00:24:19.340 polygamy or something they just want to find a girlfriend and be with with an attractive girlfriend

00:24:23.340 and they are happy but the truth is it's like they just don't know how to be themselves how to be

00:24:31.820 authentic so it's very very important here to to really look at at what is actually the goal with

00:24:40.700 the woman holistically if you look at the beautiful woman and and you get all this feeling that you

00:24:45.740 really desire this woman you also you need to shift your mindset to know more about her than just the

00:24:51.340 look that is the trick to actually go away from the spell of she's being beautiful and actually

00:24:56.940 learn something it's a conscious act that you have to take in order to take a step back and really be

00:25:03.420 able to communicate for real does it make sense i like to say um especially recently find your own

00:25:13.980 uniqueness uh there is some truth and just be yourself but it it's just three words so it's extremely

00:25:20.860 vague if you're telling some potato head with no personality to just be himself uh he's not going

00:25:27.180 to be very exciting uh so if we were to replace one of those words maybe we could say something along

00:25:33.820 the lines of just create yourself just build yourself become a better self that you currently are

00:25:42.540 because if i stayed the same as i was uh 10 years ago i wouldn't have my own youtube channel i wouldn't

00:25:50.460 have my own best-selling book i wouldn't have this or that i would be a completely different person

00:25:56.380 i never would have done stand-up comedy that never would have got me here or there or any other place

00:26:03.100 um improving yourself is such a key thing off people talk a lot about all fast authenticity which is

00:26:10.140 um definitely necessary but having your own uniqueness is something i have pretty much been forced to live

00:26:18.300 having a weird name myself um and finding my own uniqueness is a way that i was able to stand up

00:26:26.940 it could even be little things like some people might be able to relate to having pretty cool rings on

00:26:32.380 their fingers maybe are some crazy uh fashion style that they have some people take it overboard some

00:26:40.940 people uh are subtle about it finding your own uniqueness is a great way to go about it but you can't

00:26:50.540 expect to be a sucker for all your life and expect things to happen improving your communication um

00:26:59.100 um a lot of people recommend like going to the gym i'm a lazy so it doesn't really matter to me so

00:27:07.260 some people may may also be especially any americans watching you you will especially relate to this but

00:27:13.580 uh you don't have to go to the gym if you want to that's another way you can go personally i i don't

00:27:19.020 anymore but finding your own uniqueness is uh one of the key ideas i'm currently thinking about in terms of

00:27:25.820 in terms of that and do you guys think it's harder now or before social media i think i think it's

00:27:36.060 actually harder harder harder but not for someone who can communicate then it might even be easier so

00:27:43.420 people that have i've taught communication skills normal social skills can can can make it

00:27:49.420 easier today i think than it was before but if you don't know how to communicate with women and also

00:27:57.260 you don't know how to approach women you know something we used to call call approaches if you

00:28:01.980 don't go and approach women and start a conversation it will be hard but if we come from the perspective

00:28:07.020 that you're actually doing something and you have conversational skills i haven't seen that anything

00:28:13.980 i haven't seen anything that is harder today than than back in the days or something like that i've seen

00:28:18.620 a very good success rate with guys just being able to go to the woman start talking having a normal

00:28:24.940 conversation and score getting her number and then later on going on date i haven't seen any anything

00:28:31.420 that actually sticks out i've heard people saying that oh i i used a certain dating method and i had to

00:28:38.860 approach several hundred several of hundred women to score one date i've never experienced anything like

00:28:45.580 that most of people that can actually go and interact with with women and those women being

00:28:52.380 available meaning not married not having a boyfriend and so on have been very open to

00:28:58.060 go for a for a date or and so on so i've seen guys going up to like five six seven girls maybe and

00:29:05.340 then actually get one date and then can make something happen so i cannot say that that would be

00:29:10.540 hard in that sense so no i i don't believe that i just believe that people lack communication skills

00:29:18.380 today and i also want to be very clear on one thing just i mean i know that a lot of people say that

00:29:24.220 just be yourself as something moral like something moral morally thing that guys should think about

00:29:31.900 but i'm not saying that if we're going to look at it objectively in order to be able to talk with women

00:29:37.740 in the depth that actually trigger attraction trigger the brain chemistry to make the feel

00:29:44.060 attractive for you you have to be more yourself than ever before you have to be authentic you have

00:29:49.980 to be able to take conversation into depth where it matters you see the the scientific papers are very

00:29:56.700 clear it doesn't say that you're going to flash off with a lot of things and telling a lot of funny

00:30:02.380 stories or or telling a lot of interesting stories to captivate the woman to just fall in love with

00:30:08.380 you that is not what the scientific papers are saying they are saying that in order to really

00:30:13.900 trigger the attraction in women the first step is to make them talk about what they think about things

00:30:20.460 with the guy being a true listener and that is what we need to apply to the dating field and we have

00:30:28.300 to be ourselves more than before because we have to listen to what she says and we have to be able to

00:30:33.820 listen so for a cold approach what are the general topics you tell guys to use

00:30:42.620 so for my approach is you open up with intent it could go like excuse me i know this is spontaneous but

00:30:51.020 i saw you i think you look really nice i just had to come and say hi i'm michael what is your name

00:30:57.100 and after that point straight into a normal conversation straight into normal conversation

00:31:02.860 rather than trying to come up with a lot of script based routines or gambits that is that is not what

00:31:10.780 i believe in at all i believe in going authentically into a normal conversation and then listen to what

00:31:17.900 she says and then take what she say into depth not only finding out what she is doing and what she is

00:31:24.700 liking but the underlying reason why she liked me the under raising underlaying reason why she did what

00:31:30.460 she did and with with the guy being a real listener that is when we coming into that depth that actually

00:31:36.620 makes an impact so that is what i do what is the can you give me an example like what like listening on

00:31:44.700 a deeper level would mean to a guy like like the why behind what she does what she does like that you

00:31:50.220 would get in a first conversation you know that's what i'm thinking i guess i guess so where are you

00:31:57.260 at the moment uh pearl i'm in chicago chicago okay so if i ask you this question what do you think about

00:32:06.140 chicago um i like the summer hate the winter you like summer hate the winter you know what i've been

00:32:15.020 for example let's say that i've been in chicago and i would say like you know what i i like chicago

00:32:20.860 but only on the summer time because i don't like winter in general but i'm curious when you say you

00:32:26.220 like the winter and summer time start with summer time when you say i like summer time what do you

00:32:31.820 actually mean um well the summers in chicago are hot but they're not stupid hot like in the south

00:32:41.180 so it's just a nice atmosphere there's like gate like cubs games and um i don't know it's just nice

00:32:49.260 because you can go outside it's not like crazy hot and it's just like nice atmosphere okay so what

00:32:56.300 you're telling me now is that the reason why you like i see yeah the reason why you like chicago on

00:33:01.420 the summertime is simply it's a perfect temperature yeah that's what it is and you like to go out for

00:33:07.340 walks and so on but tell me what is your favorite thing to do on a perfect summer day that is not

00:33:14.300 too hot if i'm doing something fun i like um i think wrigley is really fun in the summer like

00:33:25.100 wrigleyville so you can go to like a cubs game and there's like outdoor bars it's really fun

00:33:29.900 okay okay so that is actually the main reason why you like chicago that much yeah wrigley i love

00:33:37.500 wrigley all right all right i get you i don't like baseball though i just like the atmosphere

00:33:43.500 i don't i don't really care about the game okay okay i guess i get it the atmosphere is is more

00:33:49.420 about the vibe with people being happy basically yeah so happy gives you energy i guess yeah i see what

00:33:56.860 you mean because it's like you're asking like why i get it and it doesn't feel like an interrogation

00:34:03.420 because i'm curious about what you actually think yeah so it went from what do you think about chicago

00:34:08.380 because it might sound from from an objective point of view it might sound like a normal conversation

00:34:14.380 but in order to be able to do what i just did there you need to form a habit of hearing the words that

00:34:20.700 you are saying once you have the habit of taking the words to listen to the words that you are saying

00:34:27.100 i can actually take that and really finding out what is your relationship to those topics

00:34:32.700 i mean if you say i like the summertime in chicago i don't know what that means i'm seeking deeper

00:34:38.700 meaning and i also relate myself into that meaning and that is the area where women and people in general

00:34:46.700 really really feel good you have to take into debt because suddenly wow we are now talking about

00:34:53.260 things that actually matters in my life and according to all the scientific studies that we have seen

00:34:59.020 this is what women actually like to talk about but they don't do it by themselves you have to have

00:35:05.420 someone who can take that into that depth and so when you hear examples of men um approaching like

00:35:13.900 a hundred two hundred three hundred women and having no luck in your experience is it that they have

00:35:20.540 improper communication skills like they didn't learn that or is it yes you think it's more of that than

00:35:26.460 like a looks thing i think that people that actually have short-term success with pickup artist

00:35:33.900 game and so on methods are people that that might be able to do a certain limited routine based

00:35:43.820 gimmick naturally you see naturally so women cannot really see that they are doing something but if

00:35:51.580 you're not really schooling that most women and specifically those women that have a lot of male

00:35:56.380 attention around they will see that a mile away that this guy is just weird and also when they open up

00:36:05.020 with something many times women are actually not following a certain route so they might ask something or

00:36:11.900 they might want to want want to know something about the guy in a way that he can't handle because

00:36:17.660 he was in this routine scripted game and what happens then is like sayonara i'm not interested and they go

00:36:24.700 so i think how in authentic as being not authentic to hurt a lot of guys in their approaches but if i

00:36:32.700 go to ask you now like i did uh by the way are you from here yes i'm from chicago okay i'm just curious

00:36:39.020 what do you think about chicago and then we go into this normal conversation there is no gimmicks here

00:36:43.820 yeah it's just real it's just being real and i guess that even if you know that we just made that kind of

00:36:49.660 role play it felt great telling about them telling to me what you think about chicago why why summertime

00:36:56.140 is that good that the atmosphere was actually the thing not the baseball but the atmosphere with happy

00:37:01.420 people everything's around it that makes you feel good telling me about it with me being genuinely

00:37:07.580 curious that's also one thing i'm genuinely curious about your life and relationship to things

00:37:13.340 that's extremely powerful but no one can do it unless you're trained to do it right so my main

00:37:21.900 my main man the advisor advisor i would say his name is alexander lyon um professor at university of

00:37:29.340 new york and we'll be speaking a lot about this and when we try to predict of how many people in general

00:37:37.580 know how to communicate in a proper way inter personally we're talking about one person in 50

00:37:43.900 maybe yeah maybe no maybe not even that so if we have one person in 50 men that is somewhat good

00:37:53.900 in interpersonal communication then we have 49 men that don't know how to trigger real attraction in

00:37:58.860 women yes then how does it look well women just have it they're looking pretty they are attractive

00:38:05.340 already all the never transmitted in the brain of of men is just there but then the opposite women

00:38:12.140 might be interested in certain men but they never get really triggered attractively and then we have

00:38:18.460 this huge imbalance and if you're going to look at human behaviors based on not feeling so attracted to

00:38:25.420 someone that is when you are right that is when women start having bad behaviors towards the men

00:38:31.260 and that's a huge problem today do you have anything you want to add

00:38:40.300 i don't know covered it very nicely but um so kind of uh something brought up earlier about how people

00:38:47.420 feel about things getting harder um i would say uh where social media is concerned i had some brief

00:38:56.060 conversations with dr um mark rosenfeld or no michael rosenfeld uh who's a professor at stanford university

00:39:07.340 he um famously put together a set of studies on uh how couples meet in the usa and there's an entire graph

00:39:18.140 that is produced somewhere from 1940s or 1960s up to now and it has been uh the study has been done

00:39:27.420 several times to keep it updated and uh you'll see that since 1995 online dating uh started to take off

00:39:35.740 and then especially from around 2012-2014 um it started to really take a lot of heavy hitting against

00:39:44.780 all the other ways people were meeting like for family for friends uh church to a lesser extent

00:39:50.380 through education uh workplace for example and um one of the popular ones aside from family friends

00:39:58.780 normally would have been uh bars restaurants and that has kind of maintained but online dating is now

00:40:05.500 well the internet is now responsible for more than 50 percent of how couples are needing since the last few

00:40:13.660 years and i'm talking about 2020 2021 approximately only in the last few years um and it's just completely

00:40:23.100 crazy how um you know we knew the internet was going to take over even 10 years ago 15 years ago but um

00:40:32.540 is dating going to get harder it's going to get harder for you if you're not doing a damn thing about it

00:40:38.780 but at the same time if you are able to perform very well in social media like i had a trash instagram

00:40:47.740 for years um and then only pretty recently i started getting a lot of followers once it's there it's

00:40:55.100 already done the point is that if you can get the work done to make your profile look good uh not just

00:41:02.780 tinder necessarily but instagram let's say i am expecting to be alive for the next 20 000 days

00:41:12.380 maybe uh the average human lifespan is 28 000 days approximately so why don't i do something now that

00:41:21.100 will provide me some as you can say passive income but in terms of followers this is why we have youtube

00:41:28.380 jams this is why we have instagram i made it so that with what i designed with game global i get

00:41:34.860 followers on facebook and i don't lose followers on on facebook necessarily like you can easily use

00:41:42.380 lose followers on instagram but it's not easy to lose followers on or subscribers on youtube for example

00:41:49.980 but it's there for the rest of your life as long as you keep that account under your control

00:41:57.660 and having that putting the work in the job is pretty much done all you got to do is maintain it

00:42:05.980 maybe but if you do the complete opposite and don't participate that can also be a strength so

00:42:13.340 similar to what michael was saying uh if everyone's occupied with tinder and you are the one guy doing

00:42:19.420 cold approach and actually socializing with people that is a strength because all the people too fixated on

00:42:25.820 tinder are not necessarily going to have those social skills so there are advantages to both sides

00:42:32.700 and um my term for this is some people say text game but i say message game because texting

00:42:39.580 is an action but messaging is a marketing strategy if you have a marketing strategy for your social media

00:42:47.100 and i don't mean it has to be some serious marketing strategies if you're running a business

00:42:52.460 but you are marketing yourself everywhere you go um like some people wear um nike clothes they're

00:43:01.180 they're a billboard for nike basically be a billboard for yourself um like right now this is a little

00:43:08.700 hill hypocritical but this is a passion of mine i love miami vice i'm wearing a miami vice shirt i'm a

00:43:14.140 billboard for miami vice today however that's one of my passions but kind of irrelevant um

00:43:22.460 to putting in the work and building your internet empire your internet presence is a great thing

00:43:29.580 because if you don't have an internet presence you effectively don't exist in the virtual world if

00:43:35.420 you're present in both the virtual world and the physical world that is the greatest thing you can do

00:43:41.340 in terms of your dating power if you like to focus on one and not the other then

00:43:47.260 that's okay but you may be missing out on the other

00:43:53.900 do you think there is a huge unbalance and attraction level between men and women

00:44:00.860 yes yes as we spoke earlier men just don't know how to trigger real attraction in terms of the neuro

00:44:09.340 uh science in our brain in women men just don't know how to do that while women just have it naturally

00:44:17.980 by looking good and that's a huge problem i mean how can it be balanced when professors all over the

00:44:24.460 world and all communication experts and never scientists uh people that there are doctors and

00:44:31.580 professors in in neuroscience for example when they see that oh men men can't trigger women

00:44:39.340 never scientifically i mean i mean how does it look is is no way they're going to be balanced

00:44:46.220 so uh i think that many marriages many relationships as you said 70 to 80 percent of

00:44:52.060 marriages is is women taking the initiative to to break off it might be the same thing with

00:44:57.580 relationship as you also mentioned one of your clips before when we're looking in that part maybe

00:45:03.020 it is that men comes in and feel full attraction for the woman because she's pretty she's good looking

00:45:11.020 and she have a certain interest of him and a certain amount of attraction but just a certain amount

00:45:17.260 and with the interaction they have together it's not really there it's not really sticky

00:45:22.060 so what happens then well she felt a lot less attracted to the man than the opposite and it's

00:45:27.340 not because he's he don't only make eighty thousand dollars a year and another guy make 150 no it's

00:45:33.900 because he couldn't trigger the never transmitters that was linked to attraction here's the important

00:45:38.300 part you probably heard about the hormone and the never transmitter oxytocin that is sort of the love

00:45:44.220 hormone we used to speak about uh in in the nice never scientific world so oxytocin is a brain um

00:45:52.700 molecule let's say molecule a neurotransmitter that's that makes you feel love so if you're a mother

00:45:58.780 and you have you have a daughter your oxytocin level is pretty high connected with that daughter

00:46:04.700 because you're the mother right so you feel strong love towards your daughter when it comes to romantic

00:46:10.220 situation that oxytocin in order for it to be really strong so you can feel strong feelings for

00:46:17.900 a man the attraction has to be there in the beginning the initial attraction because if there

00:46:23.420 is very little attraction and specifically sexual attraction there won't be any strong love in the

00:46:29.900 end and you know that by yourself everyone knows that yeah we have to have that kind of spark

00:46:35.420 attraction spark in the beginning enable to evolve with the relationship but if men

00:46:39.900 can't communicate in the way that that that gives the balance between the attraction never

00:46:45.820 scientifically with with men and women between men and women how can relationship be good then

00:46:53.180 you're saying if they don't learn the language basically to trigger it then it'll you'll never get

00:46:59.340 there basically yes you know i never get there i had a woman on my show recently and um we were

00:47:07.260 talking about how women will date men with no jobs and the men with jobs are um they're baffled at how

00:47:14.140 these men with no jobs can get these women but it's because they have the men with no jobs have all this

00:47:19.580 time so they learn the language of women and they just learn to be charming and then the men um like

00:47:28.220 i mean the men that haven't learned the language and um like an obvious like it's not black and white

00:47:34.220 obviously but you guys get my point they're like baffled they're like what are they doing but the

00:47:39.180 guys that get it like they understand exactly what's going on it's like they're charming yeah so

00:47:45.580 basically in attraction it's much more how women feels being with that man than what she sees in him

00:47:55.180 before she's being with him if you get the point the attraction is building up with time during

00:48:00.860 interactions with that particular man is so many times and you also and all other women there are

00:48:06.940 so many women there out there that in the beginning didn't like her boyfriend that much but that

00:48:14.700 particular boyfriend became her type in the end so she learned so those those men they have the

00:48:21.580 language and those men that have even though they haven't been schooled they have a certain element of

00:48:26.700 it so they could actually reach to a pretty high attraction attractiveness level in those women

00:48:33.020 and many of those women said that oh he was not in my range before no way but once i started learning

00:48:39.740 about him i i i get more and more attracted and he became my type i've seen that so many times so

00:48:47.980 i'm a strong believer of of really being able to trigger the right the attraction switches in women

00:48:56.140 in the right way i mean i'm a scientist here in that sense if if if the key was to jump on one leg

00:49:03.340 then i would say jump on one leg and she would be attracted to you but that is not the case i'm

00:49:07.660 looking at what is it that actually attract women this is it this is what actually attracts women and

00:49:13.660 it's not something new actually it is relationship building communication and that is called

00:49:20.460 interpersonal communication it's a difference between interpersonal communication

00:49:25.340 which involves a lot of relationship building and emotional connection compared with normal

00:49:31.740 communication skills which is more focused on transaction of information in the right way so

00:49:37.820 we have to differ those two communication styles so yeah and we also have another aspect that i feel is

00:49:45.900 super important in order to learn that language i love when you said the language is that

00:49:51.660 once you start to learn about listening skills how to listen to women and from that create conversations

00:50:00.140 that are interesting what we are doing now is that we are enhancing our cognitive function in our brain

00:50:09.900 because it's a lot of cognitive engagement when we having a social conversation with people when we're having

00:50:16.940 conversations with people they can go either way the brain have to learn how to adapt through something

00:50:22.460 we call experience dependent plasticity it's like a neuroscience term so we're actually creating new

00:50:29.500 neural pathways to handle complex situations and have a conversation with many different people is a

00:50:34.860 complex situation so once you get into the area of like you know what i want to make a conscious decision to make

00:50:42.540 this conversation about her and i want to listen very carefully and i'm going to be curious about

00:50:47.900 the things that she's saying because i want to know the underlying reason of why she's thinking a

00:50:51.900 certain thing or why she's doing a certain thing then you train your brain to handle complex ideas

00:50:58.860 and situations that is very different from something i used to call habituation we will get into that

00:51:06.540 later but in order to learn conversational skills you become a better man you become a better person

00:51:11.500 you evolve as a human intellectually so your emotional intelligence become becomes really strong if you

00:51:18.700 look at the dating coaches today many of them or the pickup artist community what they are learning is

00:51:25.260 certain routine uh scripted material jordan peterson used to call it instrumental language which means that

00:51:32.540 you're learning a certain certain way of attracting women that is very limited so you become really

00:51:40.620 good at that limited thing so you become a habit but the problem with just becoming a habit is that

00:51:46.620 the the neural pathways doesn't form for you to handle complex situations so you just become good at

00:51:52.780 one routine yeah like one specific story or one specific jokes but it doesn't give you the flexibility

00:51:59.580 the cognitive flexibility to be good with people so being good with women is actually just a part of

00:52:07.660 social skills yeah emotionally intelligent and social skills and social skills we know

00:52:12.300 have to be be trained all the time to be better and better and better at it

00:52:17.900 does it make sense no that makes perfect sense do you have anything you want to add

00:52:21.820 i know that's uh michael's field so he'll take that one okay so there is another thing yeah where no

00:52:31.660 go ahead no no go ahead okay there is another thing i want to mention as well that is a psychological

00:52:37.020 principle that is extremely strong and that is and that is reciprocity in attraction

00:52:43.580 is a very very strong concept so when we look at reciprocity and we look at men for example

00:52:49.740 when a woman just smile to a man that is attractive that very basic level of showing interest towards

00:53:00.780 him a very basic level make may spark the attraction like crazy in a man like crazy but

00:53:09.900 it's also that man is like oh she likes me i'm all in but in order to replicate the idea you know to

00:53:16.780 reciprocate it doesn't it is not enough for him to smile back and that's it you see so women are much

00:53:25.020 more complex than that so because there is a saying that that saying goes like this we tend to like

00:53:31.340 people that like us and we tend to love people that love us we want to reciprocate that back to balance

00:53:37.020 our our brain basically so when someone likes us we want to like them back but the thing is that

00:53:43.820 when a woman smiles to a man is enough for the man to to get into that level to feel like oh she likes

00:53:49.980 me but the other way around requires a lot more so while men are having a basic level need a basic

00:53:58.780 level of interest for women women need a very complex level for men to feel the same way like oh he

00:54:04.460 likes me not only sexually but he likes me now we're going into the area of what used to call the empathy

00:54:12.700 we have to want to learn things about her so she can understand that we want to understand her

00:54:19.740 for her to feel like that guy likes me and therefore i like him back you see but men get that wrong

00:54:26.780 they think that when women smile to to a man we just smile back and maybe flex our muscles and that's

00:54:32.540 it we create a balance yeah no no no it doesn't really work that way so if we go into the field of

00:54:38.940 psychology now it's like what there's another guy named dr john howard is one of the leading

00:54:45.740 psychotherapists out there he's saying that women what women need in the beginning is a feeling of

00:54:52.380 safety and trust and before we have obtained a certain amount of safety and trust nothing else will

00:54:58.780 actually sink in so what is safety and trust in women well if we go back 10 000 years ago it might have

00:55:06.700 been or maybe 100 000 years ago it might be a caveman protecting you from the predators in the

00:55:12.940 cave or you bring you're killing the beer and bringing the meat into the cave as well but our

00:55:18.940 brain is very complex we evolve with time and we used to call it structural plasticity or our prefrontal

00:55:25.260 cortex in our brain adapted to new environments so if we're going to look at what safety and trust is in

00:55:30.780 the modern world is actually more about emotional safety and emotional trust basically it's not about

00:55:38.940 we will give you money or something it's more about emotional safety and emotional trust and what is

00:55:44.060 linked to emotional safety and trust is actually understanding we tend to feel safe with people that

00:55:51.180 understands us we trust people that understands us and now we're going into the area of empathy empathy is

00:55:57.820 extremely important for men to to be able to utilize

00:56:04.540 what do you mean by empathy so when we're talking about empathy so what is empathy maybe many people

00:56:11.980 doesn't know what empathy is empathy is actually based on understanding people get it wrong people

00:56:17.660 get it get it connected with compassion or or sympathy you see yeah empathy has nothing to do with

00:56:24.780 with those part actually it's more about just understanding so if i could understand your

00:56:30.220 situation based on being on your shoes right then i have certain amount of of of real understanding

00:56:37.420 about you and if i can communicate that i understand you in that way it's extremely powerful it doesn't

00:56:43.100 mean that i agree with you it doesn't mean that i feel sorry for you i just understand you being being

00:56:49.660 in your shoes i understand you so that part is very very important and i know people get it wrong

00:56:56.940 people think that you have to agree with women all the time you don't have to agree with them

00:57:00.300 you have to understand them right and now we go into depth again in order to be able to understand women

00:57:08.300 we have to we have to go into depth in conversation so we're getting back into the same loop here yeah

00:57:15.660 we have to understand the underlying reason for things like i did with you when we're talking

00:57:20.780 about like why chicago exactly now i know it's not not actually baseball which many people think

00:57:25.820 it's actually the atmosphere around baseball that matters for you yeah understand so uh yeah yeah

00:57:33.660 that's basically what i mean you know i mean psychologists and psychotherapists and all other people

00:57:38.700 that knows communication all over the world knows that empathy in communication is a superpower without

00:57:44.540 any doubt they they classify it as a superpower so yeah and i think um that skill transfers to people

00:57:55.580 that are very likable you know they can they can understand how other people feel like people that

00:58:01.340 are naturally charismatic i can totally see that yeah they're coming from the the fear of likability

00:58:09.420 yeah so it's basically the same the same area but many people think that

00:58:14.060 oh but that likability and those communication concepts oh is that applied dating well they're

00:58:20.540 wrong is is is it's actually referred to dating more than they think it's like more than general

00:58:25.340 communication here so uh i'm really confused why not so many people actually came up with these

00:58:32.620 proven things in in the society really and and i i feel really hurt to see so many guys out there

00:58:39.260 struggling with women really and they are clueless people think that if you are successful up here

00:58:45.980 you have everything but i've seen so many guys having all those things and they have nothing

00:58:50.380 they still they really have nothing they they'll get like it'll be guys that will it actually amazes me

00:58:56.540 ben that can run multi-million dollar corporations or they'll they'll be so good in every other area of

00:59:03.660 their life but they have women running circles around them in their personal life or they can't

00:59:09.580 tell their wife no like it actually amazes me there'll be guys that have um like they order around

00:59:16.300 people at work they you know and you're like how are you afraid of your wife like of all people you

00:59:23.340 know what i mean so there's another factor that that you mentioned there actually is like those

00:59:30.540 rich guys that or successful guys that seems to have a lot of women running around chasing them

00:59:38.380 i hope many women don't take it wrong but those women what i've seen tend to be women that doesn't

00:59:44.540 belong to the area of having a lot of male attention either they put a lot of makeup and

00:59:48.540 they're running around with those men chasing those men yeah but when it comes to women they have

00:59:52.140 a lot of male attention what i've seen is that they don't give a damn as a rule i mean the women

00:59:58.380 shade there are men in all stages in life chasing them and they've done that since they were 13 years

01:00:04.140 old they don't give a damn if you're even a ceo in a big company or something like that they they just

01:00:09.900 want to be with someone they feel good with yeah but then we have but then we have the the gold diggers

01:00:15.820 area and there was another study they actually look into the gold diggers mentality and so on and

01:00:20.140 they've seen that those women doesn't belong to to to the area of being very popular in school being

01:00:26.380 very popular with men it's it's like it's like a couple of steps downwards often and and then they

01:00:32.060 they act and behave differently if that makes sense for you as well so if we're talking about women they

01:00:40.460 have male attention and who are they were pretty women i mean they have men all over their life and

01:00:47.020 their skill of seeing who is real and who is not real is unbelievable their neuro plasticity evolving

01:00:55.260 with time is just unbelievable good so they know directly who is who who is the real guy here and

01:01:01.820 who is just the guy who just playing around or or using some some weird stuff routine games and so

01:01:09.340 on like gimmicks yeah so uh it's very hard to get away from and i think that you can spot those guys as

01:01:14.620 well if someone comes up to you and try to make some kind of game you will feel like something is

01:01:19.020 odd with him yeah i always said the biggest challenge i had dating after i got famous was like some men

01:01:26.060 would turn into fans and it just was a very weird dynamic for me on a date did you mean i'm just okay

01:01:34.220 like i'm taking so wait can i get your autograph that kind of thing i'm i'm taking i'm taking now but like

01:01:40.380 before i was like i i did not like that because it was just weird i'm like what are you like like how

01:01:46.380 am i like like could you talk to me normal it's funny the yeah yeah absolutely no absolutely so um

01:01:55.180 there's a a movie i can't remember maybe it's just called diana but it's the movie about princess diana

01:02:01.260 diana from like 10 years ago or something she fell in love with like some eight south asian doctor or

01:02:07.500 something i remember i i this is like such a goalie movie i only watched it because i had a girlfriend

01:02:13.100 at the time who made me watch it but i noticed even way back then the doctor because it's based on the

01:02:20.860 true story of princess diana of course the doctor was pretty much the only person who treated her like

01:02:27.500 a normal person she was the princess and she was maybe like supposed to be queen of england or something

01:02:34.220 um being treating normal uh treating famous people as completely normal is a philosophy that i have

01:02:44.060 been following since forever i don't even know why i'm just like i'm just not impressed by famous

01:02:52.380 people i've been around them but i'm not like some uh that's not my life originally i didn't grow up

01:02:59.900 that way but um just to treat someone as normal a lot of guys are treating women even not not even the

01:03:08.700 most attractive women but somewhat above average women they're treating them like celebrities and

01:03:15.180 that's where it can become a bit disturbing so for for you having a youtube presence um that must go to

01:03:23.500 some kind of crazy extent yeah well it was just um i guess at the time they would come in with these

01:03:32.540 goggles like i could do no wrong and i just felt like it was too much for me to live up to you know

01:03:37.500 because i'm like i can't i'm like i'm like a person you're like i'm a normal woman you know

01:03:44.460 the like that's exactly that's kind of the weird thing with fame is sometimes people come and they

01:03:50.540 interact with you like yeah like you can do no and this is men and women but if they're fans it's

01:03:55.660 just a weird like dynamic to have at times yeah 100 like i i just randomly met a few um famous people

01:04:07.500 so for example i met someone through my workplace actually uh who's a hollywood actor and a well-known

01:04:14.460 comedian he came over to my house and he invited me to a show i treated him normal but we

01:04:20.380 we met through work circumstances so that was kind of uh something related to what i was doing

01:04:26.220 um but i also ended up meeting dan bilzerian if i treated him like another

01:04:31.740 like i was a huge fan then i'll just look like everyone else just like i said before

01:04:37.980 stand out find your own uniqueness and that uniqueness in a celebrity context is

01:04:43.180 treat that person like they're fucking normal yeah separate yourself from

01:04:50.700 can't did we do how can men become more attractive in a way that makes the level of attraction equal

01:04:56.300 did we do that one yeah i mean as yeah once again we we've we go into the area of learning

01:05:04.300 conversational skills because without that we cannot trigger trigger neurotransmitters in women's brain

01:05:11.580 and i also think that men actually have to learn relationship building material that has been

01:05:17.180 proven for so long back in the days there are shortcuts there are courses you can take but

01:05:22.460 it's actually the interpersonal communication that men have to learn as you said they have to learn the

01:05:28.460 language because it's the language that is like the missing link and when we see that if specifically

01:05:35.740 in the manosphere and and red pill that you're very familiar with when you look at those fields and

01:05:40.060 you can see how women behave towards men which objectively can feel a little bit like

01:05:47.100 bad bad behavior and so on but when i ask guys how do you behave towards that

01:05:53.180 girl that is not attractive you will see similar things so that is just a human behavior of how we

01:05:59.820 behave towards people that we don't find really attractive but that person might go and find us very attractive

01:06:06.220 and we just see that as annoying and i think that is a huge part of all those problems that that yeah

01:06:13.180 you have been talking about before i really believe so yeah well and there's less um

01:06:21.660 i think there's less consequences for women to be bad people than men you know like if a guy's a

01:06:27.820 a dick to someone like that woman can go ruin his reputation around there where like uh men just

01:06:35.020 don't really do that as much like if you're kind of a dick to a guy he just lives with it because he's you

01:06:40.860 know yeah yeah i i mean probably i i don't have any any information about that but i get your point

01:06:49.340 and it might be like that yes like they're more destructive in that sense for for the man if they

01:06:55.580 don't like the man but you probably have seen women that are really attracted to their man how do

01:07:01.260 they behave then amazingly isn't sometimes a little crazy but yeah yeah like um sometimes very jealous

01:07:10.300 if they're really attractive to him but yeah i would say much better of course

01:07:14.060 yeah i mean they they basically do everything for him yeah a lot of things and we i've seen many

01:07:21.100 women that are labeled as bad woman and she got attracted to some guy and she became the best

01:07:27.340 woman in the world you know what i think of i think of amber heard and elon musk he's like he's like

01:07:31.980 what's wrong with amber heard it's like the selfie of them in the costume you know when she's wearing

01:07:38.940 like the anime costume yeah yeah no i get you he's like what's the problem i don't get it yeah yeah

01:07:48.060 and then that's yeah yeah i get that yeah but you get the point yeah there was a good example but

01:07:52.300 he will get it when she shits in his bed okay um um dating methods interpersonal communication versus pua

01:08:04.060 and manosphere uh red pill skill set to evolve socially and romantically romantically effective

01:08:11.500 communication empathy in conversations yeah a lot of things that we we spoke about here so basically

01:08:21.580 again if we know what attracts women we should actually lean towards doing that to attract women

01:08:30.300 and i think that it's actually you know counterproductive and constructive if you go

01:08:37.580 with other areas that actually doesn't attract women it's just like another gimmick and so on so

01:08:43.500 there are two factors here it's like learning how to have empathetic conversation with women

01:08:49.500 with people in general it's also giving your brain the power of evolve you see you you'll be able to

01:08:57.820 have a better cognitive function because of your cognitive engagement with people and so on so your

01:09:03.580 brains get smarter have stronger emotional intelligence everything gets up if you don't

01:09:10.780 learn that you're learning other things such as routines and gimmicks and so on you'll be just

01:09:15.820 you will be good at that particular thing but your brain will not evolve you'll be just you just

01:09:21.580 create a habit on one thing and that's it and and that doesn't benefit anyone it doesn't benefit

01:09:26.860 any guys to try to learn that one thing and then maybe learn another thing because if that routine

01:09:32.860 is finished i have to have another routine to to you know to pull up from the pocket and then another

01:09:38.060 routine and then you have a guy that knows 20 routines and that's that is what he's based on 20

01:09:43.980 routines but his neural flexibility is zero cognitive flexibility is it does increase so he cannot handle

01:09:53.020 complex ideas of having a social interaction with people it's almost like memorizing uh multiplication

01:10:01.020 tables versus learning but like how to multiply almost or like memorizing information versus um

01:10:08.140 understanding the concept absolutely yeah that's basically the same thing one is triggering new neural

01:10:16.940 pathways for your brain to grow cognitively cognitive function the other one is just a memorization that's

01:10:24.860 it so so you you create the memory room and things become automatic because you remember exactly that

01:10:30.620 part but if there will be a similar part that is not that part then you cannot even solve it right

01:10:37.740 so um yeah that's very interesting concept in that sense there are a couple of principles that i've seen

01:10:42.940 change guys lives completely okay and that is for example like if they apply the mindset of being

01:10:49.420 curious and to have that saying in the brain and the saying is if you want to be interesting be

01:10:57.660 interested rather than trying to be interesting if they learn that concept most of the interaction

01:11:04.460 with women will vastly improve mega improve i've seen people change their life just based on that line

01:11:11.180 make it about her and be curious about that many of my clients and many guys like really should i

01:11:18.620 should i make it about her you meaning should i ask her question you mean yes i mean learn about

01:11:24.700 her life learn about her underlying reason of doing things and of course if you are the only one that

01:11:31.340 asks questions it would it will eventually sound like an interrogation so you have to be part of that

01:11:36.860 conversation by relaying back to yourself like for example like when you said you were in chicago and

01:11:42.300 you live in chicago and you like the summertime and the winter time let's say that then i will just

01:11:47.980 rely back relay back to you and say you know what i like chicago too in summertime it's it's really nice

01:11:53.740 here but i'm curious when you are saying right i like in chicago what do you mean can you help me to

01:11:59.500 understand that better i want to know now suddenly we are we are getting somewhere basically you're

01:12:08.460 getting somewhere now and and in the beginning it is hard to learn in the beginning but with consistent

01:12:15.980 practice you will have a habit of listening to what you're saying and then the cognitive flexibility

01:12:21.020 comes in and you know what i want to i want to understand what you mean there i'm not satisfied with

01:12:26.220 i like summertime and winter time and that's it oh really yeah is is that is that the conversation

01:12:32.700 we're going to have you know what you don't get away with me when you when you're saying something

01:12:36.140 i want to know more i don't know which one you talk with maybe a lot of other guys okay that's cool

01:12:41.100 and then he starts talking about himself yeah but i i apply the mindset of making it about you i'm

01:12:47.180 interested in you so i don't want to say a lot of interesting things i'm interested in you so based on

01:12:54.140 that i want to know what you mean with summertime in chicago what does that mean exactly tell me tell

01:12:58.860 me and now we're getting now we're getting into depth and uh yeah that is that is what actually

01:13:05.180 creates influence and impact emotionally so be interested rather than trying to be interesting

01:13:15.100 do you have anything you want to add

01:13:16.380 uh just a minor point i guess like i suppose myself included perhaps uh if you said something

01:13:25.500 like you didn't like winter in chicago i would say say something along the lines of what is wrong with

01:13:30.940 you i love winter we can do all these crazy things in the winter and stuff like that but then that in

01:13:38.140 what michael was saying that becomes a kind of about me i'm applying my personal preferences against

01:13:46.140 yours so that's kind of uh one thing that i'm seeing from what michael says but i have to add

01:13:53.500 something there it was great as a relay if she said oh i like i i like winter time or if you said

01:14:00.540 that you didn't like into time let's say you said i like winter time then you come and say oh i love

01:14:05.420 winter time it's amazing blah blah blah blah blah you keep it short and precise just to open up for

01:14:10.220 you to call a dynamic conversation or a collaborative conversation and then you roll back you roll the

01:14:16.620 ball back to her and let her tell you what she think about or what you mean with unlike the winter

01:14:24.140 time in chicago you see what i mean so so so not saying anything about you at all is also wrong because

01:14:30.780 you don't create a collaborative communication flow then so we still have to have some conversation between

01:14:38.860 us too but it should be much more about her than yourself so you always going to keep yourself pretty

01:14:45.020 short and concise specifically in the beginning of a of a relationship in a date and so on

01:14:51.340 keep it short and precise so that was still good it was still good if you roll back the ball to her

01:14:58.060 i used to say that and i would have said what are you a psychopath

01:15:00.860 you know it can sound psychopathic like oh are you really that interested no but but this whole

01:15:10.300 side should be on her really definitely so uh and and that is the principle that everyone who

01:15:15.820 listens to this podcast if you are a doctor in communication psychology psychotherapist and so on

01:15:19.980 you know this don't know this is a common knowledge basically that if you want to be interesting make it

01:15:25.900 about them and talk about them a good conversationalist and a great influencer if you're

01:15:31.740 going to stand back and listen to that person you will see that he will not talk that much but if he

01:15:37.820 talks it sounds like this he and her is talking about her you see that is how it sounds like that is

01:15:45.900 a great conversationalist yeah not a guy that just rambling about himself and what he think about

01:15:53.740 things and what what he want to achieve in life and so on not much about that he can say it in the

01:15:59.900 context of finding out about her in order to have some kind of dynamic conversation but but you know

01:16:05.100 most guys just make it about them because that's the only thing they can talk about yeah and sometimes

01:16:10.780 being nervous in the same time and then you know it doesn't impress anyone so how do you apply

01:16:17.900 academic theories into dating so what i've done basically is to take the best academic theory in

01:16:25.500 communication psychology and behaviorism and adapt that into the field of dating so we have been talking

01:16:33.980 about neuroplasticity we are talking about experience dependent plasticity which is like the how how the

01:16:41.420 brain works never scientifically we're talking about neurotransmitters and so on it sounds

01:16:46.300 complicated and you don't have to know that stuff but i like to talk about those stuff because people

01:16:53.740 that want to learn real skills they want to know that is something based on it so that's why i i give

01:17:02.380 them an explanation of why things are as they are but when it comes to learning it is actually not that

01:17:09.660 complex it's not that advanced it's more of a practical exercise than an intellectual exercise

01:17:17.100 so it's all about practicing being a good listener and being curious practicing real methods and

01:17:25.340 principles based on real things so i think i think that is very very important because the first part can

01:17:33.420 be good as a introduction and so on it's based on science that might be enough some people are more

01:17:38.220 curious about the real reason because you don't want to learn something if you don't know it's

01:17:42.460 backed of something but once they know they are it is actually backed or something then the motivation

01:17:49.500 and you being able to keep a consistency becomes stronger because you know it's based on something

01:17:55.180 think about learning something that you don't know if it's actually backed about something that

01:18:00.460 would be a waste of time and energy wouldn't it so i think we shouldn't i mean i will not say that all

01:18:10.060 areas uh it should be completely based on academics but in this area have been you know it had been

01:18:16.300 really researched and proven so in this sense it's like when it comes to relationship building and and

01:18:23.100 attraction and so on it's i mean to be studying for for so so so many years 1950s till now we're talking

01:18:28.220 about almost 80 years basically and and it is actually valid valid valid stuff and it's also

01:18:35.820 easy to apply in the in the real world anyone there listen to this one just try try to make a decision

01:18:43.740 in your own brain to you know what i'm going to let the other person talk and you're just going to be

01:18:48.700 quiet and listen to that person you will see immediately how much more popular you become

01:18:53.340 just just like that it's so easy to check out and check you know try out to see the feeling of the

01:18:59.820 other person you will see immediately that that you will have a great you know conversation with them

01:19:05.900 because you're making about them it's it's very easy to check in that sense as well

01:19:13.500 do you have anything to add

01:19:14.540 nope 11 a.m good stuff so far yeah this is great um so the last question is your final thoughts and

01:19:27.180 overall solutions for men as well as advice for men struggling and how to get rid of limited beliefs

01:19:35.820 of female behavior so the limiting beliefs of female behavior is a big thing and i get the point

01:19:49.580 where where a lot of men out there is is basically start hating women because they're behaving badly

01:19:55.980 i mean from a logical perspective if you like a girl or a woman let's say a woman um and then you're

01:20:04.460 doing a lot of things for her but it's not linked to attraction you mean you you're buying her let's

01:20:09.340 say this is is one attractive woman at work for example you're buying her her favorite lunch every

01:20:15.420 day you're trying to drive her home safely every day you're trying to ask her how she feels how her day

01:20:22.060 was if she had a good night's sleep and so on all superficial and then she doesn't give you anything

01:20:28.860 back she don't reciprocate at all what what kind of feeling do we have about her well she's arrogant

01:20:35.180 she she's actually quite rude she doesn't give us anything back and and it's easy to go into the

01:20:41.900 area of she is a bad person and she's not the only one because all the other women i did the same thing

01:20:47.740 for they didn't give anything back so everyone is is bad and now we're going into the area of like

01:20:54.220 men goes their own way or or the black people community it's like i'm not good enough in general

01:20:58.780 and that make her bad because i'm a very kind person but the truth is the advice is for men today

01:21:07.260 is to actually learn how to to to be good with women with communication skills yeah i mean if you

01:21:14.780 find someone attractive oh how she she triggers me maximally i'm so attracted to her and you go up to

01:21:21.100 her what happens you're going to have a conversation but do you really know how to talk with her do you

01:21:27.580 really know how to well some how to drive some guys i think i think what did you expect because i'm like

01:21:33.500 well obviously if she didn't do anything for you she doesn't like you like if you're doing all this

01:21:40.140 what did you think yeah yeah yeah but it is like that so your opinions have said something like

01:21:45.660 if 100 women rejects you and and and you are standing there whose fault is it

01:21:54.300 whose fault is it is it the women's fault or is it your fault if we can start it may be sound a little

01:22:02.060 bit destructive but when we start thinking about that way maybe we can go into the more intellectual

01:22:07.660 area and trying to find out why don't i actually attract women and how can i do that oh when you

01:22:16.380 start thinking about that now you're getting somewhere instead of i am a perfect man or my

01:22:22.140 behavior is is perfect because if a woman buys me my favorite kebab i like her and she should like

01:22:28.860 if i buying her her favorite salad but it doesn't work that way so i think it's it's more about

01:22:35.100 the men learning how to find out what are they lacking at basically and as we already spoke

01:22:43.820 about is communication skills every time you're going to go and try to make something happen with

01:22:48.300 a woman it will be interaction in between it will always be an interaction in between

01:22:53.740 yeah if we're going to talk about the vast majority of women if we if you if you as a guy go up and ask

01:22:59.820 women to sleep with you yeah it might be one in a thousand that will say yes but i'm not

01:23:04.860 not yeah that's like a huge yeah that's someone who have like like mental sex disorder but except

01:23:12.140 for that if you're going to go with the rule itself it doesn't want to work so

01:23:19.500 so i'm curious what do you think per about all this no i think um i've always said that

01:23:25.660 men underestimate i call it charming but like underestimate how important being charming is so

01:23:35.740 no i think this is good stuff i think um i don't personally like coach men and pick up so i can't

01:23:42.780 really talk too much about how to you know date and seduce women that's not really my thing but

01:23:48.300 i think as you should get into it that would be fun uh i i think you have to like do that to be

01:23:56.220 qualified you know you know um but no i think it makes sense the i think i was just talking with a

01:24:08.300 woman the other day like she was on my show and we were talking about how much women value charming

01:24:13.820 then and it's like we'll pick a guy that is has less money is less attractive but is more charming

01:24:21.180 like we totally do that so yeah so instead of the the word charming could we use like you you use that

01:24:30.300 in place of something like personality or game for example is that kind of what you mean

01:24:35.740 i don't know um yeah yeah game personnel yeah that would make sense yeah i think i think it's a

01:24:48.460 it's an effect of someone you feel good with in in an interaction it's just like that it's not like

01:24:54.940 he came up with you and said one liner that was charming and now you find him charming

01:24:59.900 this one has been developed during conversation during interaction and you feel like wow this guy is

01:25:04.860 charming many times it comes from from him being curious about you so for example like now now this

01:25:11.660 was scripted but if i would say that you know what the way you see chicago in the summertime not the

01:25:17.820 baseball itself but the energy of the people in that kind of of game that you really like you know what

01:25:25.420 i find that really really cool about you i find that really is a it is it's sort of attractive

01:25:32.780 if i would say that you will probably find me charming because it's definitely it's directly

01:25:39.500 linked to to what you think and and who you are yeah and it shows you listening yeah yeah exactly and

01:25:46.460 now you feel charmed i mean it is like that and if i also give you compliments based on context

01:25:53.900 so i give you a compliment like the way you see chicago

01:25:56.220 uh on summertime but specifically the right way or temperature and you really emphasize on those

01:26:03.420 baseball games you really emphasize on them but you know not talking about baseball you're talking

01:26:08.220 about the the people and the energy i mean it makes me warm it makes me getting goosebumps i really like

01:26:13.580 people that i like you for example i like you seeing chicago in this way and seeing those environment

01:26:20.780 being so so cool i think that's cool too that's what i like i like those energy places that is how

01:26:29.260 charm gets created you see it's like we're getting into the reciprocity in in attraction it's like

01:26:38.620 when i's liking you you you start liking me back it's like it become like that yeah

01:26:43.340 yeah yeah no that makes perfect sense i liked to um would you say you use that in the dating app stuff

01:26:53.900 that you use because i can't remember the um one you used on my show but oh um there is but i remember

01:27:02.540 it was personal and it had either rollerblading in it or something oh the the free things line where

01:27:08.540 said something along the lines of what are free things you would love to do for the first date no

01:27:12.700 matter how crazy um did i i can't remember what i said but it was like rollerblading rollerblading

01:27:19.340 sushi basketball oh i got a weird memory don't blame me i didn't fucking study this i got a very strange

01:27:26.460 memory yeah and what was the response i don't remember i just remember thinking it was it was very

01:27:33.900 clever the way you did it uh we had a few examples but um yeah that the first example was let's skip

01:27:42.300 all the how adventurous are you and you said you like uh rollerblading for for that one um yeah and

01:27:50.060 simply put it was uh very much like perfect let's do it what's your phone number something along those

01:27:56.060 lines yeah we got the club somewhere yeah but uh my system is very much based on i i was thinking about

01:28:02.780 this as uh michael was talking two minutes ago um where where michael's system is more like

01:28:10.700 or at least the way i understand it um expressing interest and then if she expresses interest back

01:28:17.180 then you know you have clues that she's interested back of course um my system like if we take chicago for

01:28:24.700 example i i wouldn't be bothered on in my system uh like what finding out more about chicago my priority

01:28:36.940 is to identify what is fun in chicago so my system is focuses on the fun so a great example of this

01:28:46.060 similar to to roll let's take rollerblading for example a great example because the one i actually use

01:28:53.020 is ice skating um it's much better than sitting at a restaurant face to face because there there's

01:29:00.140 a table in the way you gotta talk to each other and eat and um you gotta wait for the waiter or waitress

01:29:07.900 it's a very static environment but something like rollerblading or ice skating you can hold hands you can

01:29:13.660 fall over on your ass and laugh about it um the fun is put first and the conversation then becomes

01:29:22.540 secondary plus there's less pressure on having a conversation because when you're focused on having

01:29:28.380 the fun rather than focused on oh what what should i say next what should we talk about you're you're

01:29:34.940 gonna get too much into your head my system is pretty much all about focusing on the fun and then the

01:29:42.060 conversation becomes secondary that's not how i thought about it when i came up with it but that's

01:29:47.420 how i came to realize that kind of aspect to it so so that's where that's my perspective on it i'm

01:29:54.860 simply focusing on the fun in order to give her a dating experience and the reason for asking what your

01:30:02.460 uh the free things you would love to do a first for a first date that is your dating blueprints your

01:30:08.700 perfect uh your blueprint for a perfect first date if i take you to a coffee shop and you don't even

01:30:15.580 like coffee or you're you would rather do basketball then i am missing out on becoming the best date you

01:30:22.940 ever had so fuss i wouldn't be able to stand out i would be definitely able to stand out if i take you

01:30:30.060 on the best stage or one of the best dates you ever went on simply because by extracting that information

01:30:38.300 from you i know what to do so that that's exactly how my system works yeah well i mean holding

01:30:48.220 conversation is hard it is hard if you don't know how to do it then then you either learn it or you

01:30:54.300 try to come up with activities instead it's pretty obvious in that sense um however i prefer to to be

01:31:01.100 able to have conversations but it's not easy to have conversations if not schooled it's just like that

01:31:06.700 yeah especially with gen z because they're more online than ever so so many didn't even learn like

01:31:13.980 basic social skills business game taking over right there but um yeah it first becomes harder like um

01:31:23.980 even a good few years ago parents were noticing that kids were becoming less social like i got a

01:31:32.060 four-year-old daughter and she's like so fixated on a kindle and uh you know maybe it wasn't such a

01:31:38.700 good idea or giving her one but makes my parenting job easier i suppose in some sad way that kind of

01:31:47.260 doesn't bring about the real goodness but keep some entertained but as long as it's not abused too much

01:31:54.460 i suppose well you guys have it tough though because the kids are really i mean she's young but like when

01:32:00.060 they get older they're really left out if they don't have the electronic stuff like i asked my um

01:32:07.260 youngest sister and um they all talk on snapchat like that's how they're and she said you wouldn't

01:32:13.980 get invited to anything if like that's just how the teenagers now they all like they have group chats

01:32:20.060 like that's just i know um it kind of had a different connotation from when i was younger but for them it's

01:32:26.940 just how they talk um yeah um i i was at a small little party a few weeks ago here in peru and um

01:32:37.180 one guy there um has a daughter like seven years old maybe and she broke her leg and the doctor said

01:32:46.380 that kids are breaking their legs more easily these days because they're not hurting themselves anymore

01:32:51.740 because they're hurting their eyes instead with the screens well not necessarily hurting their eyes

01:32:57.900 but they're not touching the ground they're not going outside climbing trees and falling off the trees

01:33:05.260 so when they do go to a playground much less often than we ever did then they're more likely to break

01:33:13.020 their bones because they're not used to yeah that makes sense um well i think that's all the questions

01:33:24.700 i have unless you had anything else you guys wanted to add no that's that's pretty much it i guess i mean

01:33:32.220 i mean we went through all the fundamental of the problems you know in our society today between men and

01:33:39.260 women and women and why that is i think there are so many people out there they just don't have any

01:33:44.700 clue about this no one have been thinking about this area and also when you look at those big dating

01:33:50.620 communities and so on they haven't looked into this area as well the only closest person that had some

01:33:57.180 kind of idea about this is ross jeffries for example but he what nlp has been pseudoscience for so long

01:34:05.580 and and we we based as a communication faculty basically gave it up uh in early in the beginning

01:34:10.860 it looked promising but then they didn't continue with scientific reports and scientific adaptation

01:34:16.300 into the the general area of communication and interpersonal communication but he was like one of

01:34:21.500 the closest one but other than that no one is speaking about this no one knows about this but

01:34:27.180 you're talking about the academic side or people that actually work with people relationship experts like

01:34:34.620 psychotherapists you know uh psychologists and so on they know this very well they know this inside out

01:34:41.100 but the general public have no idea what that is so uh for everyone who actually listen to this i mean

01:34:47.900 it's probably going to be you know an eye opener an eye opener of how does it actually work many times

01:34:55.340 when the the dating community people thought they represent red pill manosphere and so on try to convince you

01:35:01.980 about those stuff i think you many times get confused because maybe that is not exactly how you feel

01:35:08.060 it works for you or your female friends it's like yeah but this guy is so cool he has so much money so

01:35:13.900 successful and he have like the facial expression of being james bond and you're like yeah but that is

01:35:19.820 not really the the thing they're making charming is it it's not really what you fall for yeah but would you

01:35:26.300 actually go with the normal guy that have a normal work yeah as long as he's charming and that just

01:35:32.460 you know oh why is that well scientifically we know this already but it's very hard for those that

01:35:39.580 represent something to try to convince females about this because they don't agree they just don't agree

01:35:45.580 many times yeah you probably have seen that a lot of times as well like i cannot really agree that money

01:35:51.100 means everything if you can't agree on this well and um women say things it doesn't mean that's what

01:35:57.500 we do so like i mean the women that say they want to date a guy that's six foot six like all that stuff

01:36:03.980 i mean who they actually date isn't always true yeah i mean the preferences it doesn't dictate how

01:36:11.900 attractive they feel to what sort of person in the end the whole is to do with network transmitters i mean

01:36:18.700 as i told you before so many women beautiful women their current girl boyfriend was not their type

01:36:25.420 but they became their type yeah i've seen that over and over again and on on the show like i used to

01:36:30.940 think it was insane these standards that i would hear but then i would learn who they would like date

01:36:35.980 in real life and i'm like oh that's like nothing that she said at all yeah exactly yeah yeah but just

01:36:42.460 think about it if we take away men can do that men can do that but they can actually look at women

01:36:49.580 and like almost rate them of of their holistic attraction of level they can basically rate them

01:36:55.740 women can't do that so when they look at a bunch of men without them saying a word and then they try

01:37:00.940 to rate them based on their money their status or whatever it is they don't know what to say even so

01:37:07.660 if we only go with that of course more money is better than no money right but that's the only

01:37:12.620 element into it and then the woman can like oh this guy have the highest ranking i want to go with him

01:37:18.380 and then after after like 30 minutes into the date it's like oh he was an asshole i don't like him

01:37:24.300 he was like arrogant and only thinking about himself no he's not for not for me and she just leave

01:37:29.900 it can so easily be that with with women no question about it if she doesn't feel good with him it

01:37:35.500 doesn't matter what kind of car he has she just she just don't give a damn yeah i've seen it and that

01:37:40.780 is that is a lot more truth than no but she should like him in any case because he have a ferrari right

01:37:46.940 or a lamborghini trust me it doesn't help at all i've never dated a guy with a sports car i don't know

01:37:54.140 maybe that's another the woman's experience yeah that that lamborghini example like uh what

01:38:00.860 contraceptive do you use well i don't have a lamborghini so that's my contraception right there

01:38:06.460 oh no those beliefs are just ridiculous well you know it's kind of funny where a lot of uh

01:38:12.540 red pill creators podcasts or whatever or or just the people viewing them it's like woman a woman

01:38:20.220 woman b and woman c say all these unrealistic things he has to make 250 000 and they've never seen

01:38:27.420 250 000 before and he has to be xyz blah blah blah um but you can't you cannot have this uh it's nothing

01:38:38.860 new like i was seeing this a long time before any of this stuff was seen on youtube um it's nothing new

01:38:48.220 but you cannot uh have this template and say i am looking for someone to fit into this uh shape that

01:38:57.820 i have come up with otherwise i will never marry them uh i've seen women go that way uh years ago when

01:39:05.260 they ended up becoming older and never getting married and now now they're wondering why well maybe not

01:39:12.220 even wondering why or admitting that they're wondering but uh they never get to settle because

01:39:18.060 they were too specific on looking for someone who fits their mold checkbox then for the person who will

01:39:27.420 actually fall in love with you like you should not be having this checklist but the person you will

01:39:37.100 actually love is the one that you should marry but there should be no uh cookie cutting in this kind

01:39:45.660 of thing i i did not come up with this weird crazy random list as a projection in the future saying i will

01:39:55.180 not marry a woman unless she's from peru and she's this height and she has all these other things that

01:40:02.780 she might have and then oh look i just randomly i mean you're probably i never would have predicted

01:40:08.700 that you probably were open to anything right i mean as long as she was attractive enough as a man

01:40:14.220 that's different you know but uh yeah i think everyone may have their own delusions to some extent

01:40:22.700 outside of dating in general and it just may fall upon anyone and everyone but um essentially i don't

01:40:30.620 think those those things are generally important it's just like great for content because people

01:40:37.820 like maybe people like me maybe myself included would watch something like that and be like huh

01:40:44.380 she's dumb and it's just like something to kind of laugh about or be like this is ridiculous but uh

01:40:51.260 yeah they don't mean it you cannot categorize or cookie cut love like i'm not gay i'm not gonna fall

01:40:57.260 in love with a man but aside from that i can't cookie cut love yeah well thank you guys so much

01:41:05.180 for coming on today it's really been a pleasure yeah i really enjoyed the conversation and i think

01:41:13.100 it was really important for the society as well so it was great yeah um can you maybe say where the

01:41:19.180 people can find you guys instagram twitter youtube okay so on youtube i have my own channel called the silk

01:41:27.100 method and i also have uh my um my own website the silk method.com so you can find me on those two

01:41:35.740 also on instagram at the silk method so you can find me there and go in in more depth into this area

01:41:45.180 and specifically on my website we also provide free information we provide courses and so on so

01:41:53.020 feel free to check it out

01:41:56.540 as for me uh instagram ice white official everywhere just google ice white and uh look at the good things

01:42:04.220 uh and aside from youtube youtube is game global and we just reached 10 000 subscribers and try to not

01:42:12.540 to drop the cake 10 000 subscribers i just got the cake today we reached that four days ago real

01:42:19.820 subscribers beautiful subscribers masculine subscribers oh whatever but uh that's where you can find me on

01:42:28.540 notably uh we we had some fun things like uh just a few months ago i hosted on the channel the craziest

01:42:37.180 thing mystery versus ross jeffrey's debate that is uh becoming one of our biggest videos um who won yeah

01:42:46.060 aside from that i'm who won who won um out of the poll that was released uh people preferred mystery at about

01:42:56.380 66 percent to 33 percent so uh mystery came out more favorably according to the people who watched it

01:43:04.540 um but it it was a friendly debate it wasn't like a heated one or anything like that they're they're

01:43:11.820 friends so it was a beautiful collaboration that people waited 20 years to see and we were able to

01:43:19.820 make that happen wow well thank you guys so much um this has been great um guys make sure you like the

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Pearl - November 08, 2024

The SHOCKING SCIENCE of What WOMEN Really WANT! w⧸ @TheSilkMethod &Ice White @GameGlobalOfficial

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