Pearl - The UNSPOKEN GRIEF of Never Being a GRANDPARENT! ｜ Pearl Daily

00:00:00.000 all right what up guys sorry about the delay we're back live um we're having some wi-fi

00:00:13.340 issues here we're in the middle of nowhere a bit so

00:00:17.580 yeah anyways so we're gonna keep reacting to megan good and devon franklin being a super simp

00:00:29.240 um before I want to check one thing uh Devon Franklin parents does he have

00:00:40.700 Paulette Franklin Devon Franklin yeah okay did he move I want to see if he grew up with his mom or

00:00:50.400 his dad I just can't imagine I'm like you have to be raised by a woman to super simp that hard 1.00

00:00:56.240 um early life son two brothers the couple would separate paulette and her three young boy yep

00:01:06.900 yeah i knew it mother single mother okay out of my league not a chance and i was thinking that he 0.99

00:01:13.840 was out of my league just because of how amazing he was really i was like lord what am i supposed

00:01:17.760 to be doing and i just felt god telling me like it's time for you to get out of this relationship

00:01:22.080 it's time for you to focus on me and so i did that i started to focus on god and and in that time

00:01:27.960 as i prayed god say that does he say megan you must get out of the relationship how does it

00:01:33.940 come to you when he when he told me that devon was my husband it sounded like that it sounded

00:01:38.240 like and they got divorced so she must have just been hearing voices you know what i mean

00:01:43.020 on your husband where was that how what was going on i was just praying i was just on my knees

00:01:47.520 praying and i was just in were you praying for a husband no i was praying for help i was praying

00:01:54.800 for um growth i was praying for healing i was praying for maturity i just felt him saying

00:02:01.280 just focus on you so i spent the next nine months just focusing on me and really you know really

00:02:08.720 finding myself because even at that time i still what do women mean when they mean find themselves

00:02:14.640 I want you guys to think back to the women in your life that you know that said they were

00:02:20.160 finding themselves. What on earth does that mean? Number one, she's going to go on a trip.

00:02:30.280 A lot of women view finding themselves as some eat, pray, love type of stuff. So go on a trip 1.00

00:02:37.180 and hook up with a hot guy that's how women find themselves I know I don't know what BS you guys 0.76

00:02:45.260 hear um yeah I get ran through yeah you know finding myself equals red flag yeah red that's

00:02:55.680 like the biggest red flag but if you haven't dealt with a lot of women uh which I'm very surprised in 1.00

00:03:01.300 his position like being a good-looking actor but you know sometimes you can be a good-looking guy

00:03:08.900 and you can't get rid of the super simp and decided to be celibate right away i was still

00:03:14.580 making mistakes like not in terms of sex being a mistake but i was making mistakes in terms of

00:03:18.740 putting myself in a bad position where i wasn't happy with the results that i was getting in my

00:03:22.900 life in relationships in relationships just emotionally which in the relationship part of it

00:03:28.340 bled ever over into every single other area of my life absolutely so it wasn't

00:03:33.320 until a few months down the line where I decided to become Sullivan I started

00:03:37.220 telling friends and family that he was my husband everyone's like and you sound

00:03:41.120 crazy no we had not started dating I don't know any of it none of so he was

00:03:47.240 a mark yeah this is the problem when guys get fame or money and they don't

00:03:52.580 deal with a lot of women they become targets she knew you manifested this yeah yeah yeah okay so

00:04:02.900 now let's go on this christian journey and see how this

00:04:07.780 i'm going through the divorce okay megan good blast devon franklin for being toxic religious

00:04:15.540 okay let me go that shook me to my core i was just like but lord you asked me to be celibate i was

00:04:24.920 you know you told me to marry i married that person i tried to do everything to the best of 0.60

00:04:29.840 my ability and and no i didn't do everything perfect but i don't know that i could have done

00:04:34.580 anything different if i'm being honest child does it feel like an accident that tyla perry's divorce 0.51

00:04:39.480 and the black starred three actors with high profile divorces yeah i'm talking about megan

00:04:44.180 good corey hardrick and richard lawson well of the three megan has been on rtls a lot with talks

00:04:50.760 about her ex-husband who was according to some people a toxic religious person and she also put

00:04:55.900 kat williams on blast for calling her current boo jonathan majors now she's going so this is what

00:05:01.660 happens right the women get to their late 20s early 30s and it doesn't mean every single time 1.00

00:05:08.580 they're going to go for a super sim but generally what you'll see is she went to a certain level of

00:05:13.880 guy she goes a little bit down and then goes back to her original type this guy uh looks like

00:05:22.760 this guy you see I mean she's older so like a probably a less good looking version I'd put him 0.65

00:05:33.040 better looking than this guy but you know she's older now she's got a couple kids she can't really 1.00

00:05:39.140 but it's the same type she's going back to that ugly if this ugly 1.00

00:05:43.880 is good looking then all is good looking but wait did y'all catch jonathan's

00:05:49.480 face when megan gave the very good looking michael ely a long hug

00:05:56.280 she's back to the streets yep

00:06:06.200 i think that's the guy she was doing the movie with um let me go back to i want to hear her talk

00:06:12.520 with megan as of late but let's start with what megan said about her divorce from devon

00:06:16.840 and whether or not some of y'all have been right for saying that devon was a toxic religious person

00:06:22.040 my greatest fear was for my husband to leave me after 10 years of marriage the way that my dad

00:06:28.680 and my mom separated but remember men don't generally leave they'll stick it out through

00:06:36.440 thick and thin right so when men leave you got to ask what did she do to make him leave 0.78

00:06:43.960 now you might be thinking pearl pearl pearl you're so you can't just take the guy's side

00:06:49.480 but oftentimes what you would not what not you guys you guys are great but the feminists the 0.95

00:06:56.040 left they want me to not notice differences in dating between men and women you know i'll talk

00:07:02.600 to a guy that breaks up with his girlfriend i'll be like why did you dump her well she was hitting 0.96

00:07:07.400 me she was doing this um you know she had sex with my friend she did this this and this and 1.00

00:07:15.160 i'm like okay well that's pretty good reasons and then you talk to a woman that 1.00

00:07:23.640 broke up with her boyfriend and she'll say well

00:07:26.280 i just wasn't feeling it anymore well we grew apart i mean men generally when you ask them

00:07:36.920 why they broke up they'll give you a specific reason where we on the other hand do not tend

00:07:42.440 to exactly what happened so just for a bit of background devon does she swallow or no you guys

00:07:47.480 are gross stop why do you why are you asking that question they were married for 10 years 0.89

00:07:53.320 okay let's not megan were married for nearly a decade and they made headlines a lot over the

00:07:59.400 course of their marriage because of how much devon constantly protected megan from backlash

00:08:04.280 from the christian community regarding her style and fashion choices and i don't know if he just

00:08:08.780 got tired of constantly having to protect megan because in december 2021 devon filed for divorce

00:08:14.340 and later on both of them shared a joint statement confirming their split saying after much prayer

00:08:20.360 and consideration we have decided to go into our futures separately but forever connected we

00:08:25.320 celebrate almost a decade of marriage together and a love that is eternal there's no one at fault

00:08:29.720 we believe this is the next best chapter in the evolution of our love we are incredibly grateful

00:08:34.600 for the life-changing years we've spent together as husband and wife well devon did say later that

00:08:39.400 he cried himself to sleep every night after the divorce from megan and that the experience was

00:08:44.840 truly devastating you know i mean there are nights you know i'm crying myself to sleep

00:08:49.640 you know there are moments when i've been angry but i've allowed myself to feel whatever i felt

00:08:54.520 in order to heal because in my experience when i'm like not facing what i'm feeling

00:09:01.000 then i'm trying to find something else to help me get through the pain as for megan she said

00:09:07.720 during her recent sit down with shannon sharp that devon is a beautiful human being regardless

00:09:12.520 of their split and she is now remember when women speak highly of their exes

00:09:17.160 she didn't like him that much the narcissist he was a cheater she loved that man to death

00:09:25.080 unfortunately thankful for the experience and her time with devon basically she was just saying all

00:09:30.760 these beautiful things that people were not buying even for a second see the thing with megan and

00:09:35.000 devon is that they are still not sharing too much about what happened probably out of respect for

00:09:39.960 one another which is cool but people still said after megan's latest interview it's clear that

00:09:44.640 they were definitely on opposite ends in terms of their personalities and lifestyles and one of the

00:09:49.260 things that has come up many times is how Megan presented herself and given all the backlash she

00:09:54.300 was receiving it's possible that the criticism made it even harder for their conflicting

00:09:58.740 personalities something else that came up a lot is that Megan did not want to start a family with 0.99

00:10:03.600 Devon and even though they denied this a lot of people were convinced that the decision not to

00:10:08.620 have children probably contributed to the divorce now other than that there was the allegation that

00:10:13.960 as much as Devon is a pastor, allegedly he was very toxic throughout the marriage. In fact,

00:10:19.520 there was someone who once spilled that she heard Megan in the washroom stall of a restaurant

00:10:24.060 calling to report her every movement to Devon, meaning that throughout the marriage, Devon was

00:10:29.640 possibly a control freak. We even have people saying that as soon as they split, Megan landed 1.00

00:10:34.060 more gigs, which could only mean that when they were together, he was possibly preventing her

00:10:38.380 from working. I mean, when she was married to Devon, people barely saw her in anything,

00:10:43.580 and it was strange considering that she is someone who was a child actress and grew up in

00:10:48.340 the industry and let's not forget that rumor that devon had megan bleaching and thinking she was fat 1.00

00:10:53.200 so to a lot of people even though megan hasn't directly said anything negative about devon

00:10:58.080 people are of the opinion that it was his toxicity of course he's toxic all right so

00:11:03.060 now they're divorced this is how these tend to end unfortunately i you know i always i like to

00:11:11.240 preface, I hope it works out. You know, I really do. But I got a little blackpilled

00:11:20.680 seeing people under 40. Now, there is a generational switch, right? People above,

00:11:29.220 think of there's two groups, people below 40 and people above 40. So people below 40 are Gen Zs

00:11:37.560 millennials i don't know many that have been married 10 years i don't 10 plus you know and

00:11:48.680 the 40 plusers the challenge we get is that they're in a different time before social media

00:11:59.000 life was just different because you know the top men didn't have access to a million woman

00:12:07.560 at the touch of a smartphone and neither did the women have access to the top men there's a reason 1.00

00:12:14.300 why kings had harems this always happened in history but in history you know

00:12:22.700 the peasant's wife didn't have access to the king I mean maybe maybe he was walking around 0.54

00:12:31.220 and sorry grab her I don't know but but this is the first time in civilization where a woman 1.00

00:12:40.020 in the middle of the woods can get a smartphone and get access to a modern day king right

00:12:46.120 and this blackpilled me a little bit now another woman that is really so what is what is the 1.00

00:12:57.300 feminist what is the feminist dream now the feminist dream is to and I'd have to find the 1.00

00:13:07.040 exact quote but one of the feminists in the night or the I think in the 70s or 80s she talked about 1.00

00:13:13.840 dating the bad boys in your youth and then getting the safe guy who views you as an equal partner

00:13:19.400 um when you're older essentially and she said date oh I think it was Gloria Steinem yeah

00:13:27.560 Gloria Steinem said this date you know date the bad boys the date them all and then

00:13:32.600 go find an equal partner and the the thing we're going to keep seeing is female celebrities 1.00

00:13:41.540 getting married older and older and you're going to see them get pregnant older and older and the

00:13:48.100 The challenge is average women are going to start believing that their fertility lasts 1.00

00:13:53.260 forever.

00:13:54.260 Now wealthy women have access to technology that normal people do not. 1.00

00:13:59.980 It's very expensive and even with the technology there's no guarantee although I'm sure it

00:14:06.760 helps.

00:14:08.920 And now we have Megan Fox revealing she's pregnant in an Instagram post expecting a 0.94

00:14:17.060 child with machine gun Kelly. Now Megan Fox and machine gun Kelly are expecting a little bundle

00:14:23.420 of joy. Fox 38 revealed she's pregnant with her fourth child on Monday with a slick Instagram

00:14:29.200 post posing neck naked covered in what appears to be black oil as she cradles her baby bump 1.00

00:14:35.860 in the first of two photos. Fox captioned the post nothing is ever really lost. Welcome back.

00:14:41.760 the jennifer's body star tagged her on again off again fiance machine gun kelly the pair got 0.97

00:14:48.040 engaged in january of 2022 but called things off in march it remains unclear when or if mox and mgk

00:14:57.380 aka colin colson baker got back together comments on the post were limited and the post

00:15:06.780 was the only one on her grid the pregnancy amount announcement marks the star's return to instagram 0.63

00:15:12.880 after she wiped her account in may ahead of her birthday she also unfollowed all accounts she

00:15:17.580 previously followed with 21.5 million followers the transformer star still does not follow anyone

00:15:24.180 on the social media platform fox has three children with her ex-husband austin green

00:15:29.820 noah bodie and journey mgk is already the parent the rapper is father to cassie 15 who he shares

00:15:39.440 with his former girlfriend emma cannon fox and mgk began dating in 2020 after meeting on the set

00:15:45.180 of the movie midnight in the switchgrass in which fox plays an fbi agent and mgk a low-level pimp

00:15:51.400 Okay. And remember, Megan Fox, it's the same timeline. So she dated, who was the guy? Megan

00:16:03.060 Fox's exes. I forgot his name. She was married to Austin Green. Who's the, oh no, I'm thinking

00:16:15.740 of Angelina Jolie but you know this guy is a lot safer to have kids with right so this is the safe 1.00

00:16:22.480 guy she had three kids with him divorced him um and then goes and gets the wild card again which 1.00

00:16:32.840 is back to this guy tattoos hair you know because that's what happens it's like 30 to 30 like 27 to

00:16:42.200 37 give or take five years you know we get the kids out safe guy and then go back to the exciting

00:16:49.080 men um kelly proposed two years later four months after the pair announced their engagement while

00:16:55.160 on stage at the billboard music awards in may mgk suggested that fox had recently suffered a mixed

00:17:01.240 miscarriage during his performance to their unborn child fox confirmed the mixed miscarriage in

00:17:07.720 november of 2023 with the release of her poetry book pretty boys are poisonous in an interview

00:17:14.280 with women's where daily the star said the miscarriage was difficult to process so i'm

00:17:19.880 predicting her as a future madonna i do i see this is the same life path as madonna

00:17:28.360 um okay well now i'm gonna go back to the next story i think you guys get it right

00:17:35.160 crazy lady pregnant okay a catholic woman 0.99

00:17:41.560 fired for review fusing the covid vaccine wins over 12 million in michigan court

00:17:49.800 lisa don't domski was awarded 10 million in punitive damages 1.7 million in lost wages

00:17:56.680 and 1 million in non-economic damages a catholic woman who was fired for refusing the covid 19

00:18:02.740 vaccine was awarded close to $13 million in damages after suing her former employer Blue

00:18:09.880 Cross Blue Shield of Michigan. Lisa Domsky, who worked in the insurance company for 38 years as

00:18:15.900 an IT specialist, was awarded a massive payout after a federal jury in Detroit ruled in favor

00:18:23.460 of her religious discrimination case. She argued that the company denied her request for an

00:18:28.940 exemption from its 2021 COVID vaccine policy, despite her insistence that it conflicted with

00:18:35.040 her Catholic faith. Domsky's lawyer, John Marco, told Fox News Digital that she had worked remotely

00:18:41.120 during the pandemic and was on a hybrid assignment prior to the COVID outbreak. Her remote work

00:18:46.380 arrangement should have excluded her from the vaccine policy as she posed no risk to others, 0.58

00:18:51.620 he said. This was a woman who was working in her basement office who wasn't a threat to anybody and 0.60

00:18:58.120 was completely fulfilling all of her job obligations for 38 years. After the policy

00:19:03.480 was implemented, Domsky submitted a written statement to her employer detailing her religious

00:19:09.100 beliefs and attached the contact information of her priest and parish. But the insurer never

00:19:15.280 showed up. Instead, the company allegedly denied her accommodation requests and threatened to

00:19:20.360 terminate her if she didn't comply with the vaccine mandate, he said. Domsky refused and

00:19:25.260 was subsequently fired. They made up their minds that they were going to discriminate against

00:19:30.100 people who had sincere religious beliefs, Marco alleged. Blue Cross Blue Shield of Michigan

00:19:35.300 introduced its COVID vaccine policy in 2021, which mandated all employees be fully vaccinated

00:19:40.940 or obtain a religious or medical accommodation. Court filings reviewed by Newsweek show the

00:19:47.960 insurer question whether Domsky was reluctant to get the vaccine over a sincere religious

00:19:53.480 conflict, the outlet reported. Marco told Fox News Digital that the insurer claimed in court

00:20:00.780 to be unaware of her Catholic faith at the time of her firing despite her written statement

00:20:05.580 with contact information for her spiritual advisor. Domsky was awarded $10 million in punitive

00:20:12.160 damages against Blue Cross Blue Shield of Michigan, an additional $1.7 million in lost wages

00:20:19.800 and 1 million in non-economic damages. When reached for comment, the insurer said they

00:20:25.400 were disappointed with the verdict, I'm not, while defending their vaccine policy in a statement to

00:20:30.840 Fox News Digital. So as you guys know, millions of Americans did lose their jobs and had to close

00:20:36.800 their businesses because of a government overreach. I believe this is the reason that

00:20:40.760 Donald Trump was elected because this overreach caused so many Americans across the country to

00:20:47.340 wake up. No longer could they say that conspiracy theories were just conspiracy theories. They had

00:20:53.520 to question everything they believed because of this massive government overreach. And I am glad

00:20:59.160 that this woman was paid out. Okay. Now the next, the next, um, story that we're going to cover

00:21:10.500 today so many times i hear the trad cons talking about how you have to have children

00:21:19.300 okay let me rephrase many times i hear that having children is a moral duty of men that

00:21:29.220 men must have children and the way it is phrased it is phrased as if men are immoral for choosing

00:21:37.140 not to get married and have kids. Now, as you guys know, the laws are completely discriminatory

00:21:42.780 against men. For example, in the state of California, if you find out that you were a

00:21:47.540 victim of paternity fraud over the age of two, you are still on the hook for child support the rest

00:21:53.460 of your life. On top of that, with the expansion of the definition of abuse, women are able to 0.72

00:21:59.960 accuse men of things like spiritual abuse, emotional abuse, financial abuse, and small

00:22:06.100 things can be taken out of context and still put under the wave of abuse.

00:22:10.420 The other problem is in family court, it is based on a balance of probabilities, not on

00:22:16.540 a burden of proof.

00:22:19.040 So basically in family court, it's not based on evidence.

00:22:23.160 It is based on that it's more likely it happened than it did not happen, meaning if you get

00:22:27.140 a blue pill judge that has a tendency to agree with women, which a lot of men, they see a

00:22:33.820 woman cry and they automatically just think she's right. 1.00

00:22:37.180 It's going away now more and more, right?

00:22:39.860 Men are waking up, but that is still a possibility. 0.92

00:22:43.580 Many men, if they make between $50,000 and $75,000 a year, can end up homeless because

00:22:48.980 child support is not taxed, meaning that the woman is getting non-tax money and you have

00:22:57.340 to, on top of paying the child support, you also have to pay the taxes on the money.

00:23:03.080 When men make between $50,000 and $75,000 a year, many times they're living on roughly

00:23:07.920 $800 a month.

00:23:09.880 This causes men to live in their car for a decade at times or live on very, very little 0.68

00:23:15.380 money for 10 plus years.

00:23:17.320 If that is an indentured servitude, I don't know what is.

00:23:21.500 So many men look at the field and say, you know what, I think for now until these laws

00:23:28.480 change, it's a no from me.

00:23:30.220 I personally, I understand that.

00:23:32.360 I think all men should research the laws in their state because what they'll try to tell you is 1.00

00:23:36.480 that a prenup can prevent this. And most of the time, the terms of the prenup are changed. So

00:23:43.320 what you sign on your wedding day oftentimes can change after. I have to remember exactly

00:23:49.360 how they say that. But now they say it's immoral, right? They say that it's your duty to society

00:23:58.540 to have children. And I ask, why is it men's duty to society to have children? Wouldn't that be 0.85

00:24:04.340 women's duty? Because essentially you're saying have children, even though the state is putting 1.00

00:24:11.020 a gun in the woman's hand. And, you know, a lot of times what they'll say is, well, what about

00:24:16.040 your legacy? What about your children and your grandchildren? The challenge is when women are 1.00

00:24:20.480 awarded custody, they're in the kid's ear for 10 plus years. We had Terrence Pop on the show.

00:24:26.160 he was a three-time active um he was deployed to Iraq three times and he spoke of the challenges

00:24:35.900 of you know when the wife's in the kid's ear you don't even know if your kids will like you 0.99

00:24:41.860 you don't even know if you're in you know you can give them your side of the story at 18 but can

00:24:47.620 can you really go up against what the woman has been saying now the other challenge is

00:24:52.720 now women our brains are more fried because of social media and the quality of women today is 1.00

00:24:59.920 less than of 15 years ago so what does that leave us if the divorce rate of boomers is around 60

00:25:05.360 percent gen x is around 50 percent wouldn't it and they're younger so we don't know what it'll

00:25:11.920 be in the future wouldn't it make sense to guess that if the women are more overweight the women 1.00

00:25:18.160 you know the women have more fried brains because of social media wouldn't it make sense to predict 1.00

00:25:26.420 it will probably get worse and the argument that I always hear is that you are immoral it is your

00:25:32.940 duty to do this and I just got to thinking that for men I mean men build civilization

00:25:41.040 they built the buildings they paved the roads they I mean there are men that die every year

00:25:48.560 doing dangerous jobs for this country why on top of that do they owe the country children

00:25:55.660 wouldn't you put that on women not men why is it the men are immoral doesn't make sense

00:26:03.500 And the point I'm making is now there are articles coming out showing that even if you have children, there is no guarantee that you'll have grandchildren.

00:26:15.720 A lot of times the argument is that, you know, you want to have grandkids, but you have no idea if your kids will have grandkids.

00:26:23.560 And ultimately, ultimately, I think a lot of times conservatives promise you things for having children that ultimately are not in your control.

00:26:37.780 You can't control what the kids do after 18.

00:26:41.140 So there's an article by the New York Times saying the unspoken grief of never becoming a grandparent.

00:26:48.820 A growing number of Americans are choosing not to have children.

00:26:51.780 their parents are grappling with what that means for them. Lydia Burke, 56, has held on to her

00:26:58.040 favorite copy of The Velveteen Rabbit since her three children, now in their 20s and 30s, were

00:27:03.160 young. She loved being a stay-at-home mother and filled her family's home with books. All of her

00:27:08.460 children could read before they started school, Mrs. Burke recalled with pride. She hoped to one

00:27:15.140 day be a cool grandmother who would share her favorite stories with a new generation, but none 0.73

00:27:20.460 of her children want to have kids and though that decision is right for them

00:27:24.320 miss Brink Burke said it still breaks her heart I don't have young children

00:27:29.440 anymore and now I'm going to have I'm not going to have grandchildren she said

00:27:34.360 so that part of my life is just over like ms Burke a growing number of gen

00:27:39.040 xers and baby boomers are facing the same painful fact that they are never

00:27:43.000 going to become grandparents a little more than half of 50 and older had at

00:27:48.680 least one grandchild a little more than half of adults 50 and older had at least one grandchild

00:27:55.020 in 2021 down from nearly 60 percent in 2014 amid the falling birth rates U.S. adults say they're

00:28:02.540 unlikely to ever have children for a variety of reasons the chief among them they don't want to

00:28:08.120 this is the best and worst thing about having kids says Ms. Burke's husband John Burke 55

00:28:14.900 you watch them make their own decisions different from your own still would-be grandparents like

00:28:20.380 the Burks may experience a deep sense of longing and loss when the children opt out of parenthood

00:28:25.300 even if they understood and on an intellectual level that the children do not owe them a family

00:28:31.180 legacy said Claire Bidwell-Smith a therapist based in LA and the author of Conscious Grieving

00:28:37.000 it doesn't help that our society tends to paint grandchildren as a reward for aging you always

00:28:43.480 hear people talk about how great it is to be a grandparent and how that it's better being a

00:28:47.980 parent ms bidwell smith said i think that when people don't get to experience that they realize

00:28:53.620 there's a grief that comes with it it's a kind of grief she said that our culture tends not to

00:28:58.400 recognize and that people don't know how to talk about christine cut 69 had her only child at 42

00:29:06.420 after years of thinking she did not want to be a parent the experience transformed her she said

00:29:12.020 she had loved being a mother, but her daughter is adamant that she does not want kids, pointing to

00:29:17.420 her pessimism about the state of the world and climate change. Ms. Cut, who is divorced and

00:29:22.800 lives in the suburbs of Chicago, facilitates between feeling supportive of her daughter's

00:29:28.340 choice and quietly hoping she changes her mind. She dreams of being surrounded by grandchildren

00:29:33.080 as she ages, passing them on to her family recipes and love of rock and roll. Even when her daughter

00:29:38.460 was little she envisioned a future I was like oh my gosh it's so fun to teach her all this stuff

00:29:43.720 and someday she'll have children and I'll be able to teach them parents who are hoping for

00:29:48.520 grandchildren are likely at an age when they're experiencing a shrinkage of time with fewer years

00:29:53.200 ahead than behind them said Maggie Maggie Mulqueen a psychologist based in Wesley Massachusetts that 0.70

00:30:00.100 can mean wrestling with an existential questions about their lives and legacies she said Dr. Mulqueen

00:30:06.360 who has counseled many baby boomers through their longing for grandchildren has found that their

00:30:10.260 decision to remain child-free can strain the parent-child relationship, particularly when a

00:30:15.880 parent who dreamed of grandchildren fails to separate any personal disappointment, they feel

00:30:20.860 a sense of disappointment in their children. And so my whole point in this is not have kids or

00:30:27.920 don't have kids because I more want to predict where the world is going. I'm trying to say,

00:30:37.680 hey, unfortunately, birth rate's going down. Unfortunately, marriage is disappearing.

00:30:44.220 Unfortunately, all of these things are happening and even if you have kids, it's really not within

00:30:51.740 your control if they have kids. Yes, you can raise your kids a certain way, but sometimes when you

00:30:56.980 push something on a child, then they want to do the complete opposite. I saw Matt Walsh

00:31:06.500 tweeting during this when we lost connection and he is out of touch as usual. It's just,

00:31:16.580 you know, Matt, well, I like Matt Walsh. I just watched his video the other day and I thought it

00:31:21.800 was funny the am i racist hilarious documentary but the issue with the trad cons is their religion

00:31:31.240 makes them like deny reality i i don't understand it and when i say marriage is dead the laws are

00:31:38.360 too bad the men aren't going to sign up it's just not going to happen the women want to party rather 0.97

00:31:43.520 than be mothers they they want they want to like put a moral statement on it i'm like guys i mean

00:31:49.500 i've been in the trenches you need to go to the trenches and then you can see what's good you

00:31:54.600 really you just need to download tiktok if you really want to see what's going on download tiktok

00:31:59.860 okay have children raise them to have children be an example out of your control you can't you

00:32:07.160 think you can control kids okay you can control them sure up to like 13 maybe 12 but you don't

00:32:14.300 know who they're going to be friends with at school I mean there's a reason pastor we have

00:32:19.880 the phrase pastor's daughter because the pastor's daughter would always figure out a way to sneak

00:32:25.860 out of the house and do some wild stuff I mean that's saying you can control the universe you

00:32:31.460 can't control that um they're saying the western world you know what guys I have a unique experience

00:32:39.320 because when i moved to england i dealt with people from all over the world i dealt with people

00:32:47.400 from muslim countries i dealt with people from african countries i met women there was a girl

00:32:53.720 on my team from japan there was another girl on my team from germany and yes maybe it's slower

00:33:02.440 in some parts of the world but i i and maybe they can hold off the social media revolution

00:33:12.440 for a couple of years but it's coming you can't un-invent technology once it's out there

00:33:17.960 even if the country said tomorrow we are banning technology people will find a way to get it no way

00:33:26.440 okay MGTOW is based in comfortable but ultimately beta you guys act like you can out alpha the

00:33:35.360 state I mean okay let me get this straight so you get married to a woman and she says

00:33:42.040 I want to leave and he says you're not leaving I mean what are you going to do

00:33:45.780 okay uh don't leave please no I want a divorce I'm we're getting divorced I'm going to go to

00:33:54.080 my lawyer. You get a stopper? Have you ever seen a woman that wants to leave? I mean, 1.00

00:34:00.280 are there better women that are lower risk? Sure, totally. But ultimately, you just can't 0.65

00:34:09.080 control the universe. And that's okay. It just is what it is. So Matt Walsh

00:34:13.820 says, there are a lot of reasons why people aren't having kids these days.

00:34:18.840 The economy isn't one of them. That's a cap out. An excuse offered by selfish people who are too

00:34:25.660 afraid to admit that they're selfish. So let me just Google really quick. Matt Walsh, net worth.

00:34:35.360 It says brothers worth two billion. I think that's another one, but

00:34:45.060 how much is matt walsh a net worth conservative commentator

00:34:50.660 around according to google around 5 million but let's cut it in half and say they overestimate

00:34:58.800 2.5 um people with fewer resources than you have been reproducing since the beginning of human

00:35:07.500 civilization that's true literally billions of people have donate done the thing that we are

00:35:14.680 now being told can't be done unless you have $100,000 in savings. If people had this attitude

00:35:20.180 in the past, the human species wouldn't exist anymore. It's just all nonsense. We all know

00:35:26.780 it's nonsense. I can't afford it. Billions of people have afforded it with less. Billions.

00:35:32.460 How is it that you can't do something that has been done under more difficult circumstances

00:35:39.100 billions of times. Stop making excuses. At least be honest. This is the BS I'm talking about.

00:35:46.400 Why do you need generational wealth to start a family?

00:35:51.400 I mean, what makes you so special? I started a family with no generational wealth. Again,

00:35:57.880 billions of people have, but you're special. You're different. Okay. Now I'm just thinking

00:36:02.940 the average men in this country that work labor jobs this is what matt walsh i mean i love being

00:36:10.560 a commentator it's so fun we have to understand where we are in terms of easy jobs hard jobs

00:36:17.360 okay oh sorry hard jobs easy jobs we did these scale right and commentator has to be the best

00:36:25.560 job ever the it's competitive right it's very competitive many people want to do it but in

00:36:31.340 terms of how tired you are at the end of the day. Can I understand if a guy that's a coal miner,

00:36:41.640 factory worker, truck driver, and that has really grueling hours says, you know what?

00:36:49.660 I don't want to go down in lifestyle. And this is too much work to have more children.

00:36:58.300 is he ultimately selfish because he's doing a hard job that you're not doing

00:37:05.060 right he's doing i would say a selfless job i mean it's not like the average men that are

00:37:11.240 police officers firemen it's not like they get recognition um you know i mean people

00:37:17.120 in a way worship you when when they're on the internet so you know matt walsh is coming to

00:37:22.660 you average men you you average men are selfish and you know i just think i think that's not

00:37:32.820 accurate i think it's wrong because if we're gonna go at the genders here the reason most men 0.90

00:37:42.660 would get married young to be honest most of them if they found a nice girl they would settle down

00:37:47.940 that's hot enough for their liking but the difference is women you know again we're treated 1.00

00:37:56.500 like celebrities in our 20s we have access to too much celebrityism and just like you know

00:38:04.000 matt walsh waited to have children women are they're doing the same thing that's why 1.00

00:38:09.980 and then he kept he doubled down okay I have six kids I was broke when I got married

00:38:20.100 I started a family when I was 26 I will never understand this bizarre mentality so was his

00:38:26.200 wife older because I found that his wife was 29 fact check it anyways I will never understand 0.98

00:38:34.700 this bizarre mentality that says a person is somehow less credible if they've successfully

00:38:40.340 done the thing that they've that they're advocating for yeah let's be real Matt again out of touch as

00:38:47.680 usual um how many people can reasonably replicate your unique path to a very successful career

00:38:56.840 I'm a father of nine kids ready to get married and start their own families and the other question I

00:39:03.500 have i'm really curious because he had his wife had two sets of twins in her 30s so it's like did

00:39:08.920 they use ivf because it's not really common for people to have two sets like to me that indicates

00:39:14.800 that they paid thousands of dollars to have those children i don't know i don't know i seriously i

00:39:20.660 don't know please don't sue me um but i mean i just my gut they could come out and say no and

00:39:32.440 i just wouldn't but like to me okay if i'm gonna put two plus two equals four your wife was around 0.99

00:39:37.720 29 when you guys got married and you guys had two sets of twins in her 30s allegedly right maybe i'm

00:39:46.040 a year or two off but according to what i found online two sets of twins in her 30s i don't know

00:39:54.520 that screams even if it was late 20s that would scream ivf to me i don't know um

00:40:02.440 Yeah. So again, I don't really think you should call especially men selfish that are keeping society together. And I don't think it's your place as a commentator to say that men aren't doing enough when they are literally doing the things that I'm not doing and he's not doing.

00:40:25.740 So I've, you know, so that's my two cents today.

00:40:31.540 I think that's all the stories I have.

00:40:41.660 Three, oh, psychology today, and I'll do this one tomorrow.

00:40:48.040 Okay, guys.

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Pearl - November 13, 2024

The UNSPOKEN GRIEF of Never Being a GRANDPARENT! ｜ Pearl Daily

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