00:00:26.180And it is kind of an L if you try and you just cannot succeed.1.00
00:00:30.000so let's see let's see what they say okay i wish i thought about when signing the paper because
00:00:37.860again i was signing not really thinking about divorce but the one thing i would change is the
00:00:41.560fact that i didn't put anything in relation to housing and all of that after the fact so there
00:00:46.640was nothing about housing that was stated but of course it's going to benefit him more because he
00:00:51.140was more established than me so everything you come in with basically is what you leave with
00:00:55.080but all the community property that would be divided community property is all the stuff
00:00:59.720that was bought or whatever while you guys got married we had separate businesses i started a
00:01:05.000business when we were married it was established that that business was mine completely if y'all
00:01:10.260don't know i was a personal trainer and i had my own so all that genuine equipment was mine
00:01:14.520essentially of course there was an undisclosed amount of money that i would receive whatever
00:01:19.840it wasn't as much money as she thinks i bet she wasn't making as much as she thinks or i had once
00:01:26.780we separate that debt would be that that person's responsibility so my debt would not be on him his
00:01:33.120debt would not be on me when we did the post up i had to go through everything that we own like
00:01:38.660jewelry and bags and basically list each item and their value and we spoke about like the stocks and
00:01:45.000anything like those like basically whatever was mine would be mine and i would be fine so like
00:01:50.580anything he bought me all that stuff 100% mine like i said the only issue we had when everything
00:01:56.200when shit hit the fan it was basically like okay um because we didn't get to buy in a house we were
00:02:01.380in the process of doing that years ago it fell apart we didn't get around to that and in the0.99
00:02:05.400post-up the house that he owned would be his or whatever which was fine so i that's the only thing
00:02:11.060that we had to negotiate basically like how would we go about this and he basically paid like one
00:02:16.940year rent for me and that was it off the top of my head i can't think of anything else because i
00:02:21.760don't have the document anymore maybe i can check my email if i need to be more specific but like i
00:02:25.380like the only thing i regret not doing is talking about the living condition because when you are
00:02:29.880signing a prenup you have to actually think like there is a possibility of divorce i wasn't thinking
00:02:34.480of that possibility so i was just like that let me sign the prenup had a separate undisclosed amount0.88
00:02:40.980when we did the she's more mad that she just didn't get the money that amount was raised
00:02:45.740which is really good because at the time like that was fine but of course luckily he changed that and
00:02:50.560And again, all the terms were completely...
00:02:52.620Even if you give women money in divorce, they'll just spend it.0.99
00:02:56.340I mean, they won't know what to do with it.1.00
00:02:58.540All right, let's see what's going on with this lady.1.00
00:03:01.220Any comments on my prenup post calling me stupid1.00
00:03:06.460and saying how dumb I was to have signed that prenuptial agreement.0.99
00:03:12.380But let me tell you why I did sign it.
00:03:16.260So I met a man who was 20 years older than me,
00:03:19.140who wasn't a deadbeat, who had a nice career and was ready to settle down and was ready to have
00:03:27.060kids. And so I thought I hit the jackpot. Yeah. Like most women who find a good man with a good
00:03:33.440job and he seems like he's ready to have kids and settle down. Yeah, I hit the jackpot. And I was a
00:03:41.340teacher before I got married to this man. I made $41,000 a year as a teacher in South Florida.
00:03:49.140I didn't have any savings. I didn't have any assets to bring into the marriage. No.
00:03:53.740And he has a business and all this stuff. And I didn't want any of it. All I wanted was to marry
00:03:59.940the man. I didn't want his money. I still don't want his money. It's not about that. So the
00:04:07.560prenuptial agreement, I was, I guess, lied to by him and told that it protected me. I did not know
00:04:16.560that I wouldn't have any rights to the house. I didn't know. Yes, I was dumb. I was naive.
00:04:24.120I grew up in North Carolina with a mom who has never owned a home. I didn't know anything about
00:04:30.260a deed or mortgage, nothing. I knew nothing. And no, I did not educate myself before I signed it.
00:04:38.340Looking back, hindsight's 20-20. Yes, I wish I would have known what I was signing. And I did have a lawyer who was given to me by his lawyer. In my eyes, I wasn't bringing anything into the marriage, so I shouldn't get anything out of it.
00:04:59.120i wasn't thinking about my future or having kids i was excited to marry this man and if i needed
00:05:09.780to sign a prenuptial agreement to marry him then i was signing yeah so i bet she had genuine desire
00:05:14.740for him at the time and was willing to do anything and then um probably you know friends got in her0.95
00:05:20.520ear became disobedient later and then took that ellen you know got divorced happens i
00:05:26.420I let love blind me and I saw everything through rose colored glasses and I never in my entire
00:05:36.840life thought that this man would do this to me. He's just he was my knight in shining armor that
00:05:41.380came and saved me and he was going to take care of me as I take care of our kids and him and our
00:05:47.560home and then when he gets old then I'll get to take care of him but obviously we're not going
00:05:54.500to get to that point. The only thing that I would have changed is I would make sure that my name
00:06:00.320was on the deed to the house that we built together after we were married. That's it.
00:06:08.060At 27 years old, when I signed that prenup, I signed away my rights to everything. Good. Good,
00:06:17.020as you should. He was 20 years older, so it's like, okay, he already had a life before you.
00:06:23.000anything that he had before our marriage anything that he that he makes or grows or builds during
00:06:32.300our marriage and then I signed away all of my rights to anything after the marriage so like
00:06:38.280people are talking about uh retirement and social security all right so let's see what's next
00:06:43.520I don't even know what that is uh but I don't get any of it because I waived it I waived
00:06:50.560alimony. I waived any kind of spousal support. I waived everything. For this house,
00:07:03.940it specifically states that him and his trust will always own this house.
00:07:12.420Yesterday, I asked him again if there's anything I could do to get my name on a deed. He said no,
00:07:17.080you know period um i mean i don't know if they're i don't i signed i signed it like i signed the
00:07:23.540paper and and that it just is what it is um i don't expect anything other than child support
00:07:29.960and the fact that he's not wanting to give me child support after i signed the way
00:07:35.940literally everything is shocking what do you think the put in the comments what the real0.72
00:07:42.280version of the story is was it i'm so i was so insufferable and i've made his life a living hell
00:07:47.820and yes i signed the prenup but i tried to fight it with everything i had and i'm only asking for
00:07:52.380child support after making your life out like what is the real story if this sounds like your ex-wife
00:07:58.580to me like everything i waived everything
00:08:05.820except child support because you can't wave child support in a prenup
00:08:12.240because it's not mine it's my kids but yeah i in my prenuptial agreement i waved i waved
00:08:22.220everything i waved it all thinking that i would be protected and that the man that i was marrying
00:08:30.240was a good man and he would never do anything to hurt me
00:08:36.080but people change feelings change love changes and people can lie so if you're a female if
00:08:48.920you're a woman if you're a girl and you are watching this protect yourself
00:08:53.900protect yourself never it's not always protect yourself and never figure out how to make your
00:09:00.360marriage work women are incredible young woman come into me or a middle-aged woman come into me
00:09:05.420and she has a prenup that cuts her out totally what do i think i think it's so sad i am so sorry
00:09:12.520and again this is the whole um the whole complex like everybody's trying to convince women to be
00:09:18.560terrible people we can't really um be shocked that women do it right it's like everyone said
00:09:24.320the lawyers are saying the judges are saying the girlfriends are saying so it doesn't really shock
00:09:28.860us that we just become awful people i feel like the bad news bear when i am telling them that
00:09:34.520what they signed is what they're going to get. Nothing. Whose wife gets paid more child support?
00:09:40.500A, husband makes $100,000 a year and spends every dime. B, husband makes $100,000 a year,0.58
00:09:46.640saves $50,000 and spends $50,000. C, the husband makes $100,000 a year and spends.
00:09:53.640Yeah. It's going to be the one that saves the most money, pays the most. What I've seen,
00:09:58.720the system really punishes men that are responsible and rewards men that are irresponsible.
00:10:04.140two hundred thousand dollars a year which husband pays more child support i'll tell you in the
00:10:08.860comments you will not believe the answer if it's purchased during the marriage yeah okay all right
00:10:15.420let's see i think that's all of them all right guys um let me know what you think in the comments
00:10:21.180thanks so much for watching and like the video um women are signing more and more prenups
00:10:27.740it really is dependent on the judge if they get if they're enforced or not or how disputed they
00:10:37.200are but it's always great to see women take L's so let me know what you think in the comments
00:10:41.420like the video subscribe and I'll see you next time0.99