Pearl - March 07, 2026


The Women Who Approach Men (and Fail)

Traditionalism Is Not Coming Back High Value Men Will Always Be A Target To Modern Women

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Length

12 minutes

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223.06

Word count

2,741

Sentence count

32

Harmful content

Misogyny

10

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Toxicity

11

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Hate speech

5

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In this episode of Reaction Series, I talk about how women only deem like 5% of men hot enough to be interested in the rest of the men in society, and how to deal with it. I also talk about the 5 reasons why I ve been rejected by men in the past, and why it s so hard to go up to men.

Transcript

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00:00:00.000 from my guy friend and it was tough he's a lot shorter than me too he comes up to my shoulders
00:00:05.020 and i'm like five five five six depending on my weight but i put it all on the line
00:00:08.580 and he did not feel the same way what up guys welcome to my reaction series so women only deem
00:00:14.700 like five percent of men is hot enough to like be super interested in the rest of men were kind of
00:00:20.320 just like i guess you'll do i guess i'll do it whatever and that's a little bit like um it's
00:00:26.740 tough because I think the men feel for us because we can't really help that we feel this way but
00:00:32.920 we're just biologically predispositioned to want to bang like none of you we just want to throw it
00:00:37.480 back for a select few um you would think that the select few would be like the most productive
00:00:42.760 members of society but that's not necessarily the case you know it's usually just whoever's hottest 0.99
00:00:48.220 or has the most balls to tell you to shut the fuck up bitch etc anyway so now that the pool 1.00
00:00:55.320 getting smaller and smaller women are gonna keep um they're gonna start approaching men and yeah 1.00
00:01:02.440 i don't know why i feel the need to constantly embarrass myself on this app but um basically
00:01:07.480 there's this guy and he showed up on my um like instagram explorer page and i was like oh like
00:01:14.520 that's like a really attractive guy like he's very handsome and i clicked on his profile and i was
00:01:21.480 like oh like this is a really like pretty guy like he's very good looking and i don't normally
00:01:28.280 like like like really pretty guys like looks just aren't really like i don't care that much about
00:01:33.240 looks like there's that she always cares about looks they're at least tall bare minimum tall 0.86
00:01:37.800 sometimes a woman say that they mean like his face guard wasn't that good still better than hers but
00:01:43.080 not like amazing but they're tall or funny or something other things like there's always
00:01:48.840 something to make up for it a person besides our looks and as i'm looking at his profile i'm like
00:01:54.440 oh he is in a similar industry that i'm in and we have like mutual friends and whatnot and so i was
00:02:01.800 just like you're gonna shoot let's hear it daisy like huh what an attractive person so then i start
00:02:08.360 going out and i start seeing him more like i went to a bar and he was like three seats down from me
00:02:14.760 and I was like that's the guy from Instagram like the really hot guy and then I see him again and
00:02:20.760 again and when I tell you guys I was literally at a fair in a tent for taxidermy animals and this
00:02:31.320 man was in the same tent as me so I'm like this is so weird never worked up the nerve to talk to him
00:02:39.060 I could not talk to him I was just like you're just way too pretty I could never talk to you 1.00
00:02:44.440 and i don't like to pursue guys like i would rather have a guy talk to me first but we will
00:02:50.920 right if we like you enough we have no problem getting rid of our ego 100 100 so if she's not 1.00
00:02:58.360 doing that it's just not you king i'm not like about to go up to a guy and start flirting with
00:03:02.600 them so i keep seeing him and i keep seeing him and my friends are just like you think this guy
00:03:09.960 is so hot like you have to just like talk to him like one time and so I think in my head I was just
00:03:15.920 like I just want to do it just to like say that I did it so this one night I'm out with one of my
00:03:23.520 friends and he was there and I literally I saw him like a bunch of times and I chickened out every
00:03:28.800 single time and then finally I was like you know what like get your head in the game like
00:03:32.780 just go up and just say something and so I went up and I don't know I mean he was thinking chop 0.98
00:03:39.940 this bitch is chopped took over my body but i was literally i touched this man's arm i literally 1.00
00:03:46.560 touched his arm and i was like hey you did a great job because he like did something and he 0.99
00:03:52.580 was like oh like thank you so much and i was not trying to like flirt with him at all i just started
00:03:57.560 talking about like industry related things and he was like oh like here have my number like text me
00:04:03.200 sometime not like flirty it was about like a work thing so i text this man i'm never listening to
00:04:10.340 my friends so i don't know why i feel the need to constantly okay what happened with part two
00:04:15.640 all right is there gonna be part two oh well i don't know where it is i guess he wasn't into it
00:04:19.740 okay let's see the next one five reasons i've been rejected by men reasons why men have rejected me
00:04:24.960 while i finish my makeup for context i've been single for almost a year and i've been on apps
00:04:29.220 like bumble him oh wow she's got like a etc the first reason being because i am not a gym girly
00:04:35.600 just recently a guy matched with okay so you're fat me and he told me that he wants his future
00:04:39.800 girlfriend to be his gym buddy gym partner which i just said no uh to be honest it's kind of fair
00:04:45.480 because you only have so much time you can spend together so if you're going to the gym four nights
00:04:50.380 a week after work like when are you gonna see her you get home now you go to bed wake up the next
00:04:55.400 day oh i'm not really like a gym girly he just goes oh well like how do you keep your body so
00:05:00.040 slender and i'm like i don't know i just exist that was a deal breaker for him and honestly i
00:05:04.900 find this one to be one of the most common like i've had multiple guys tell me like if you're not
00:05:09.680 a gym they're tired of dating women and them getting fat after they're like you're not doing 0.95
00:05:13.940 this today ladies i don't want to date you i feel like gym heads probably need like their own dating 1.00
00:05:18.440 app or like if you want to date a gym girl and you go to the gym why are you not finding the
00:05:23.080 girl at the gym i don't know okay number two i'll tell you why because it's a it's a very big risk
00:05:28.760 you don't want to lose your gym like as a gym people we get attached to our gyms
00:05:34.520 and if they hit on you and you tell everybody is i'm too dark for them this one guy asked me if i
00:05:41.000 what's the thing yeah some guys are just into white girls middle eastern to which i said no i'm
00:05:45.840 actually puerto rican i'm a latina he goes oh you look like really middle eastern and i'm like
00:05:51.300 you mean like i'm a brown girl he's like yeah and i'm like yeah i am a brown girl he's like you know
00:05:56.820 i prefer latinas so like i'm happy that like you're latina but yeah i've literally had guys
00:06:01.840 contemplate whether they wanted to date me or not because i was a darker latina or darker brown skin
00:06:07.620 girl and it's usually latinos themselves or like white guys too much melanin going on over here 0.96
00:06:13.420 third reason is because of my disability on these dating apps i personally never hide my disability
00:06:18.820 i have full body photos that show my entire body from head to toe but even with that i feel like
00:06:23.460 some guys just probably don't notice because i do get a lot of guys that will initially match with
00:06:28.160 me but once i really sit there and do a double take and realize that i do have a limb difference
00:06:32.680 they will unmatch and i can usually yeah because they they need you to use your hands for some
00:06:37.400 things you know what i mean hell because it's usually like would that be a deal breaker for
00:06:42.040 you guys if so put why in the comments and usually like the vibes are vibing the chemistry is there
00:06:47.140 through text and all of a sudden they go like go silent block me everywhere what's interesting
00:06:51.900 about that is that they never admit to it another reason is they find out that i'm a content creator
00:06:56.520 for a lot of guys that are more private that is kind of a turnoff for them usually when i get to
00:07:01.260 the stage and i tell them oh yeah that's a thing that's happened to me some guys not doing youtube
00:07:07.240 the creator they kind of get a little clammy a little bit reserved they ask like a ton of
00:07:11.600 questions of like what do you mean what do you post on how large is your following blah blah blah
00:07:16.080 blah i feel like it kind of intimidates them and i also feel like they just don't want to be held
00:07:20.720 accountable and if they're just not supportive of what i do or my job then it's fine we're not
00:07:26.220 aligned let's move on and the last reason is that i'm simply just not attractive to them
00:07:30.600 traction is a relative what one person finds attractive the other person doesn't and i'm not
00:07:35.000 really talking about my disability in this instance some of them also do think that physically i'm
00:07:39.580 just like too short and that can be like either really attractive to guys yeah my brother had
00:07:43.660 that he there's a girl who's dating casually in college and he would not date her because he
00:07:47.820 he wanted a taller one he married a girl not that like tall but below five five he wasn't doing it
00:07:54.700 guys are really unattractive to guys it's like one or the other anyways those are the five reasons
00:07:59.140 can't water down the gene pool all right let's see my mindset when guys reject now but back when
00:08:04.800 i was dating i would make the first move on guys a lot i would go up to guys and i would ask them
00:08:10.400 out or whatever flirt with them and if they weren't into it and didn't respond well then i never took
00:08:16.920 it as like oh i'm ugly it's embarrassing that i did this well you don't know why they're rejecting
00:08:22.580 you they could be they could have another girl you just could not be their type yeah women are 1.00
00:08:27.860 gonna have to start approaching men because men are tired i took it as oh i'm just not his type
00:08:32.900 he must be into blondes. Because I'm hot. It doesn't negate what I've got going on. It's just
00:08:39.640 not for him. And I also use this in my everyday life, in my career, in music. If I walk into a
00:08:46.060 room and pitch myself and they don't want to work with me or it doesn't work out, I never feel like,
00:08:51.860 oh, I'm bad at music. I'm bad at this thing. What I have is still good. It's just not for them.
00:08:59.360 Send this to your friend. Yeah, sometimes you're just not the target audience, you know.
00:09:02.900 although men will bang anything so there probably is something wrong with you if they reject you
00:09:07.360 so rejected from my guy friend and it was tough he's a lot shorter than me too he comes up to my
00:09:12.840 shoulders and i'm like five five five six depending on my weight but i put it all on the line
00:09:16.680 and he did not feel the same way i was so embarrassed i'm still embarrassed like the
00:09:21.800 only thing i can do is just hold my head up high just so i never see him again i recently got
00:09:27.340 rejected from my guy yeah occasionally chad will have girlfriends that he rejects sometimes chad
00:09:34.100 does put women in the friend zone rejected me tonight and i survived i went to a singles dating
00:09:39.400 event and my goal you're fat was to get rejected because i needed some rejection therapy from men
00:09:44.580 specifically and i was only rejected by one man it did hurt my ego for like 30 seconds and then i was
00:09:50.140 completely fine here's what happened so i'm at the singles event we have a bunch of matches but i
00:09:54.220 already met my matches and i was just like talking to men flirting whatever getting to know guys so
00:09:59.500 this guy comes up to me and he's talking to me and like pretty much immediately i realized that
00:10:04.780 he was not interested in me even though he came up to me he kept like i was making eye contact
00:10:08.700 with him and he kept like looking around like looking away yeah we are terrible adam taking a
00:10:13.420 hint awful at taking a hint like men men are actually pretty good i would say i have noticed
00:10:19.980 a stark difference in the past decade now it could be that i'm getting old and uglier right
00:10:23.580 that is a possibility but my gut feeling is that societally men don't want to get falsely accused
00:10:30.300 so they they're way better at taking a hint than they were like 10 years ago to answer my questions
00:10:35.500 but like not asking me anything so like i already knew he wasn't interested in me but i was like i
00:10:40.860 told myself i was going to get rejection therapy and i told myself every man that i talked to i'm
00:10:45.020 going to ask for his number the thing about me is i really am so afraid of rejection from men so like
00:10:49.580 Like I haven't put myself in situations where I can be rejected by men.
00:10:52.240 So right now I'm really trying to put myself in a situation.
00:10:54.800 Oh, and you're going to feel more of it.
00:10:56.140 But I say keep going. 1.00
00:10:57.100 If you don't want to lose weight, you might as well shoot your shot. 1.00
00:10:59.800 Show them what you got. 1.00
00:11:00.840 And then eventually someone will do it.
00:11:02.760 Men go low all the time.
00:11:05.220 So you might as well be that low, you know.
00:11:06.960 Myself out there.
00:11:07.660 And if a man rejects me, it's going to be okay.
00:11:09.400 I'm not going to lie to you.
00:11:10.180 I did find him very attractive.
00:11:11.700 He seems nice.
00:11:12.500 He had a good job.
00:11:13.240 So I said, hey, his name, would you like to exchange numbers?
00:11:16.820 And he got very awkward.
00:11:18.060 he was like looking around and he goes um i was like you don't have to and he goes no i'm gonna
00:11:22.460 pass i was like okay no problem and i walked away of course like it obviously hurts every reason
00:11:28.460 the reason men get scared to do that is they don't want you to crash out yeah they like don't
00:11:33.180 want you to do a crash out the ego when you're rejected but there were so many other guys that
00:11:37.980 i got to talk to and like i asked every other guy for his number and i got five numbers and two
00:11:42.460 instagrams the two instagrams that i got i didn't ask them for their number i don't know why we were
00:11:45.900 were talking about instagram but i asked for their instagram so overall a great night for sydney and
00:11:50.180 i accomplished what i wanted to i got rejected by the man and i didn't die i think i can do this
00:11:54.900 again guys a man yeah you know what i'm gonna give it to her that's a good attitude to have 1.00
00:11:59.500 if you're if you're if you have a terrible um like if you're fat you gotta sell it to somebody 0.99
00:12:05.340 so you might as well start asking no there's nothing wrong with asking you know so anyways 0.86
00:12:09.460 guys let me know what you think in the comments um if you could like the video and subscribe to
00:12:13.520 the channel on your way out. I love you guys. Thanks for watching. I'll see you next time.