Pearl - The Women Who Stay With Their Husbands AFTER They Cheat

00:00:00.000 what up guys welcome to my reaction series so again in life a lot of times women take l's and

00:00:05.820 instead of taking that l and moving on um we have a tendency to broadcast it and rationalize it on 0.99

00:00:11.000 social media so the l we're talking about today is getting cheated on although women do tend to

00:00:16.120 pick cheaters nobody you know is excited or got cheated on so today we're going to talk about

00:00:23.780 women who stayed with their husbands after they cheated and decided to broadcast it to the world

00:00:29.980 old now remember this isn't like a proud moment if you cheat imagine if the men were broadcasting

00:00:35.100 they stayed with their cheating wives you'd be like why you know zero shame zero when i tell you

00:00:41.660 zero shame because if i had any ounce of shame do you think i would come and put myself on such a

00:00:47.340 public platform i never have shame ever but the other day i made a video about me and my experience

00:00:53.740 staying with my ex-partner for 10 years while he cheated on me basically throughout the whole

00:00:58.300 relationship and it got over a million views guys on instagram and tiktok like it's gone

00:01:04.540 international at this point which is insane anyways with that people have their opinions

00:01:09.740 right people have their judgments people try and shame and i just wanted to come on this app and

00:01:14.460 just let you guys know just in case as women would rather share a real than be with a simp

00:01:19.660 who never corrects them and lets them lead the relationship women constantly are testing for 1.00

00:01:24.940 control and power you thought differently you can't come and shame me at all you cannot come 1.00

00:01:31.300 and shame me for the decisions i made when i was going to keep going through what i was going through

00:01:35.480 point i get i get it you're not embarrassed and the more you tell me you're not embarrassed the

00:01:39.860 more i think you might be a little embarrassed because anyone that has been married being in a

00:01:45.540 long-term relationship you know had a shared bank account children whatever with someone you will

00:01:51.440 know it's not as easy as waking up one day and saying yeah because i get it you have mutual

00:01:56.460 friends i mean you built a life together at that point once you've been together for a while

00:02:00.720 so it's very difficult to leave it's not an easy choice right yeah i'ma leave i'ma just leave i'm

00:02:06.800 just go yeah you cheated on me i'ma just go that in principle that is what we should do and we know

00:02:11.900 it we know in our heart of hearts we shouldn't be there but all these different factors that

00:02:16.840 come into play it doesn't make it easy to walk away everyone ladies men whoever stay humble

00:02:23.440 okay stay humble a lot of you get cheated on and you don't even know so well because life will come

00:02:30.180 at you real fast i'm not wishing bad upon anyone i genuinely hope everyone's life turns out exactly

00:02:36.800 how they planned but the reality is and as you get older you will understand this things happen

00:02:42.700 you can't control people some people are master manipulators some people are big deceivers let

00:02:49.320 people live their lives let people make the decisions that they want to make and don't

00:02:53.720 shame people for it and don't try and shame me for it because listen i have zero shame okay all

00:03:01.420 right she's just gonna keep going why did i stay with my husband after he cheated why would i stay

00:03:06.280 with somebody who cheated you're fat um case closed case closed i mean uh the other side wasn't 0.94

00:03:11.760 to be great and he might have cheated because you were fat all right let's see who's next 0.87

00:03:27.600 if i should stay with my husband or leave their relationship once i have discovered

00:03:31.760 that he has betrayed me hi my name is kyleen i am a betrayal trauma recovery coach functional

00:03:36.640 why do women always become coaches out of their l's it's just incredible classic nutrition

00:03:41.280 practitioner and neuro linguistic programming life coach so basically i work on the physical

00:03:45.680 mental and emotional recovery of women who have experienced betrayal from their partner i have

00:03:49.920 the unique history of actually being with someone who cheated on me and i got the worst and i have

00:03:54.960 married someone who betrayed me and then i have recovered with him so i know so you got cheated

00:04:00.960 it on twice and you're doing coaching what it takes for both sides the ability to leave and

00:04:06.040 also the courage to stay so any coach therapist or practitioner you're driving these men away

00:04:11.740 is always going to tell you that oh you just like playas you know what i mean i get it i get it we

00:04:16.080 like the sauce tell you what to do in your situation because it's your situation it's

00:04:20.740 unique to you and it's your choice however from a bird's eye perspective of what is healthy and

00:04:26.420 the probability of likelihood that you can achieve a healthy relationship here's what i can tell you

00:04:30.940 If your partner who has betrayed you is somebody who takes 100% responsibility for his behavior, is willing to do all the work, empathizes with the pain that he has caused you, wants to make amends, and actually proves by his actions that he is being proactive in recovery and taking it really seriously, you have a really strong potential of recovering the relationship and seeing success in the recovery journey.

00:04:55.620 and that specifically is seeing success in the relationship and the recovery in a very healthy

00:05:01.660 way attain okay um women stay with men that are awesome so if a man a man has got the sauce he's 0.64

00:05:10.360 just a really cool guy then the women will stay if it's enough money um otherwise they won't so

00:05:16.880 and you at the time he was having an affair how did you find out he told me what came oh okay

00:05:23.600 clean and he told me you guys be more likely to stay if they tell or no and i remember the shame

00:05:30.800 and i felt like it was my fault probably was that i'd not been a good wife probably not

00:05:39.200 when i look back at it what i realized was that he was just trying to cope he loved me

00:05:45.440 And he loved our family. And he just wanted to feel pleasure and connection. And he wasn't

00:05:53.320 getting that from me. And for some reason, it is just easier for women to give up their sexuality 0.86

00:05:59.680 than for men generally. When he was having that affair, all he was trying to do was stay in the

00:06:05.120 marriage and not be miserable. And once I got right with that, and I realized he didn't do

00:06:09.480 anything to me, I don't even look at it as cheating. I literally look at it as that man

00:06:12.960 was still trying to stay married to me he loved me and so it was it was our mutual problem which

00:06:18.920 was a lack of knowledge he didn't understand how my body worked I didn't understand how my body

00:06:23.240 worked once we learned that we learned technique and I was able to stay present and okay so he was

00:06:30.380 a she was probably cheating too that's what I'm gathering from connected with that's what I'm

00:06:35.080 gathering is she let it go because she was also cheating so if you choose to stay with your spouse 0.97

00:06:41.240 or partner after an affair you're kind of a fool right you're just kind of weak you're kind of an 1.00

00:06:47.320 idiot you're not very smart you probably have no self-esteem and basically you're just staying 1.00

00:06:53.800 because you don't want to do anything else and you have no options i hate this narrative so much and 1.00

00:06:59.960 i don't know where this idea came from because in that world there's no potential for forgiveness

00:07:07.160 or growth or change. I wholeheartedly believe people can heal from affairs. I've seen it happen

00:07:13.220 a bunch of times. And I keep telling you guys this, because obviously I'm passionate about it,

00:07:17.560 but because I want to give you hope. You don't have to stay in a relationship if you don't want

00:07:22.440 to. But if you choose to stay, that doesn't mean that you are dumb or unintelligent or have low 0.99

00:07:29.280 self. Because we all flaws, right? And I don't know why we look at cheating as so much worse 0.99

00:07:36.160 of a flaw than other flaws as people like being a bitch is a flaw eating gluttony that's a flaw 0.99

00:07:41.160 everybody's flawed so it just kind of depends what flaw you want to deal with esteem or low 0.99

00:07:46.740 self-confidence or anything it may just mean that there's enough good there that you want to try to

00:07:52.500 work on it and you don't have to stay on the same path you begin on right you might say like okay i

00:07:58.960 want to try to heal it and let's see how that goes and you could change your mind at any point so 1.00

00:08:04.320 So please reject whenever anyone is telling you, oh, you are just a total chump and a total fool 1.00

00:08:09.960 if you stay in this relationship. Because, you know, according to science, people are 300% more 1.00

00:08:15.400 likely to have a second affair after their first affair. Well, that is technically true. However,

00:08:20.840 people do. Yeah, but we don't deal, like, you're not living in statistics. And if you're in love

00:08:25.640 with a guy or in love with a woman and you have kids together, a whole family, there are situations

00:08:31.680 where people want to figure it out you change right you've done things in your life that really

00:08:37.520 shook you right and you change from that point on that happens with people who cheat too so please

00:08:43.920 believe in the power of change look for changed behavior and if you want to stay know that that

00:08:50.560 means that you're strong and loving all right let's i actually agree with that woman okay

00:08:56.480 i have had since day one starting this account how did you stay with your husband why did you

00:09:01.280 you stay with your husband? Because it is unfathomable after you go through such deep

00:09:05.840 betrayal and pain and trauma. Why would you even stay? Just pack your things and leave,

00:09:14.080 like automatically done, right? Like divorce, breakup, I never want to see you again, right?

00:09:20.040 And I've answered this before. There's obviously a lot of reasons, but something that I never really

00:09:24.280 talk about is how when I first married my husband, this was, you know, 10 years ago when I first,

00:09:30.000 when I first started dating him, when I first married him, I was very deep in my relationship

00:09:35.060 with God. And I, and this is just me personally, you know, and this is not going to make this

00:09:40.640 make sense to everyone. But for me personally, I will tell you how I felt and what I believe.

00:09:46.300 I felt like God had a great purpose for our life, for our marriage. I always felt like that from

00:09:51.200 day one, from day one, even when me and my husband were living, like living in an efficiency,

00:09:57.760 not even an apartment in a tiny little, like basically a studio, right? $400 a month, no

00:10:03.520 money, no nothing to barely afford food, barely afford rent. We had nothing. I told my husband

00:10:10.440 all the time and almost every day, God has a great plan for our life. God has a great plan

00:10:16.000 for our life. And from day one, you know what else I believe? And I said, and I said this to

00:10:19.560 him, I didn't say it all the time, but I did say it to him because we talked about marriage. We

00:10:23.600 read books about marriage. We did marriage retreats. We did marriage Bible studies. We

00:10:27.400 did so much to like protect our marriage from yeah a lot of times we take our eye off the prize

00:10:32.860 and start focusing on other things other people that are important that we lose sight of you know

00:10:38.560 the the men we love so a lot of women lose their husbands because they were too busy doing other 1.00

00:10:43.800 things if there's any guys watching put in the comments what your wife was focused on instead

00:10:48.840 of you if you ever cheated destruction to protect our marriage from you know just not making it

00:10:53.840 Right. Um, I told him, God forbid one of us has an affair one day, God forbid. I said, you know,

00:11:01.340 I do believe marriages can work, work out, work through that. I do believe that it is possible to

00:11:07.820 have successful marriages after affairs. Okay. And that was really just because I would listen

00:11:14.980 to these radio shows, these Christian radio shows. And I would always be hearing stories

00:11:19.620 of husbands and wives who there was an affair either on the wife's part or the husband's part

00:11:24.540 and they overcame that together and they conquered that betrayal and they came out stronger right

00:11:31.760 I had no idea what that was like I had no idea like how like how do you go about doing that

00:11:36.520 and I really really really truly in my life never thought that that never thought that

00:11:41.160 would happen to me I never thought but I did believe it was possible okay and it's kind of

00:11:46.160 weird i even would think about that considering i had this husband who was really in my eyes

00:11:52.700 every minute of every day extremely faithful so it's weird that i would even have those thoughts

00:11:57.280 in my head but i think it was just i kind of knew it was a reality and i knew what happened in

00:12:01.540 marriages and no one gets married expecting betrayal no one gets married expecting i don't

00:12:07.120 know some guys nobody gets married expecting i'm gonna cheat my husband's gonna cheat or my wife

00:12:13.660 i don't know some people cheat like if they cheat before they'll probably cheat out here

00:12:18.380 but yet it still happens right it still happens so i i tried to like just keep that in the back

00:12:23.260 of my head like i felt like god was always just telling me things just about marriage in general

00:12:27.580 like pray for your husband and do this and do that and like be faithful um like be faithful to god

00:12:34.060 right and just like trust in him and lean on him and if you have a problem like take it to god first

00:12:39.420 and then take it to your husband or do this or that whatever so i really lived my life like that

00:12:44.020 i mean i tried to i failed a lot but then i over time got better at it and you know my faith got

00:12:48.940 stronger like in the lord um but then we started to hit the rocks we started to hit the bumps in

00:12:53.620 the road right and at this at that point when those things started happening i had no idea why

00:12:58.180 i didn't know like i was like our marriage should be getting better but it's not it's getting worse

00:13:02.620 you know what's happening we stopped going to church as much we started having kids finances

00:13:07.740 got worse which as you guys know money is one of the number one like problems in a marriage

00:13:12.040 but we agreed on so much so it didn't make sense that our marriage was going through problems like

00:13:17.700 we agreed really on almost everything right or we could compromise on almost everything so it just

00:13:23.820 didn't make sense and there was always something I knew was missing but I wasn't really sure what

00:13:27.220 it was and so you know but I still knew and and I don't I don't know why I don't know why but I

00:13:33.720 still knew. And I told my husband all the time, I said, God has a great purpose for our life. God

00:13:38.940 has a great purpose, great plan for our life. Um, and I still said that even, even the nights

00:13:45.040 that I was like on the bathroom floor crying, like just distraught, like confused. Like this

00:13:50.740 would be again, before my discovery day, this was before that God told me repeatedly, literally all

00:13:57.460 the time, I would ask for answers. And if you're a Christian, you know, I would ask for answers

00:14:02.340 and I wouldn't get them I would ask God for answers what is going on in my marriage why is

00:14:09.500 this happening why is that happening why do I feel this way you know whatever just show me just tell

00:14:15.120 me I need to know I'm tired of living in the dark and he and he wouldn't tell me anyone and I and I

00:14:20.040 got very frustrated but right but I just said okay I'm just going to keep praying for my husband

00:14:24.580 I'm just going to keep praying for him right even if things really are really oh that's a really

00:14:31.380 interesting point of view like how many women would not get spiteful that's that's difficult

00:14:37.400 that's a really difficult thing to not do looking good like really really really not looking good

00:14:41.720 i knew god had a great plan for our marriage i knew that he did because i i believed that and

00:14:46.600 i heard that from day one and maybe that's just delusion maybe i was just delusional but

00:14:50.360 because i do believe in god i don't think it was delusional i think it was really god telling me

00:14:55.220 that i think it was god preparing me i think the things that he told me early on in our marriage

00:15:00.280 that, again, I didn't even know why I felt or thought about those things. I think that it was

00:15:05.600 him preparing me for what was to come in 10 years, right? And then when everything came out,

00:15:11.940 you know, I, everything in me, my logic and my reaction was, I need to leave. I need to get out

00:15:22.080 of this. I cannot, I thought, this is divorce. This is the, this is, we're getting a divorce,

00:15:27.920 You know, that was my first reaction was like, there is no way there is no coming back from

00:15:35.480 this.

00:15:35.740 There's, there's none.

00:15:36.640 There's no coming back from this.

00:15:38.160 I don't care how great I used to say God was.

00:15:41.760 I don't care how powerful or how this or that I used to say God and Jesus are so they can

00:15:45.900 do anything about it.

00:15:46.780 They can perform miracles.

00:15:47.980 I said, they can't do this.

00:15:49.740 They can't perform this miracle.

00:15:51.160 They cannot bring our marriage back from this.

00:15:53.940 Right.

00:15:54.220 but he showed me every day every day god was showing me look at your husband he is a man

00:16:01.340 living in the world well it looks like she has a good marriage now if you look at i got she's a 0.97

00:16:06.840 cash app in the bio again um some cheating is common in 2026 both men and women work it out

00:16:13.680 at times um so let me know if you ever accepted or gotten through cheating put it in the comments

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Pearl - April 12, 2026

The Women Who Stay With Their Husbands AFTER They Cheat

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