Pearl - October 09, 2024
Things KAMALA HARRIS Is Willing To Do FOR VOTES! | Pearl Daily
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Summary
Alexa Cooper is a 29-year-old former Call Her Daddy host who is now running for president of the United States. In this episode, she talks about how she got her start as a podcast host, why she decided to run for president, and why she thinks sex should be a part of every relationship.
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About five years ago, Call Her Daddy was the biggest podcast in the U.S., and young women
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It was a podcast that got famous for what they call the Gluck Gluck 9,000.
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Now, basically, two young women who were living in New York City, again, it's the same concept,
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were showing their dating escapades around New York City. So this was one of the hosts at the
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time, Alex Cooper, talking about how to give a gluck gluck. I'm not going to play the whole
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thing because it's a little raunchy, but I'm just going to play a little bit so you guys can see
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what I'm talking about. The dick sucking was a grade C minus D. I'm rich. I'm going to tell anyone
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listening. I can't describe it, but there's like all the fucking Cooper special. I know that's why
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about to start talking about sucking dick super special you were here first partying in miami
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please i'm currently packing from miami and new york my forehead looks extremely large and shiny
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hello my boyfriend happens to be making a movie in miami at the same time as we have to do work
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in miami we've been working at barstool for i think about a month ago yeah and things have
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gone pretty great guys you know what's for our podcast and the podcast has been doing amazing
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it's killing it yes with that said we are so psyched with our podcast oh my gosh you're such
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perfectionists we overthink everything and we cry after every single recording i don't know i
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feel like it's not funny either i think we're doing horrible i'm about to get her fast and
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i'm all about it let's get that show okay i'm in a weird place right now and i've never in my life
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really thought about this i've had a three-some before i've never had four-some i enjoyed myself
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it was with another girl um and a guy but it was he was kind of he's just like a pig so like i just
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was like it was like fun but it wasn't anything like i need to do this again yeah then with this
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new guy he was sexual and we've had conversations about like it's the first real relationship that
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i've been so like sexually pushing the limits like he pushes me to the limits and he's like
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would i want to do everything with you because it makes me even if we do that's wild like you
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like whatever it is it makes us closer so we've been talking about possibly like while we're
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traveling because you can't do it in your bed at home no traveling
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so he travels a lot for work and we are maybe going to a different country
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together and he was like it could be hot like if we're like out one night and we
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you go pick someone up and we bring them back and i've been thinking about it
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it's early enough in the relationship that if it's ever going to happen it
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would have to be now so that like i would have to see like did i like it
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or would it be a thing that if you do like it do you think would be part of
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your relationship like or like a holiday what he said is like if you
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hated it he was like i'm down to do with another guy or another girl it's down to
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you like you pick the person he's like i want you to pick them because it's
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more so i want you to have sex with the industry some that like i want you to
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attracted to the guy and he was like i wore the girl i want you it's not even for me because i
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will be more turned on if you are having sex with this girl i'm having sex like it's so hot like
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i don't have to her like whatever whatever it's all perspective he's making you see things in a
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new light because he's like and if we hate it we never have to do it again okay so alex previously
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teased her big day with a wedding themed lingerie shoot for kim kardashian's company skims but it
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seems she was a bit more covered up for her actual ceremony the 29 year old podcast host
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wore a custom-made gown by designer daniel frankel and when it came to planning the occasion it was
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a quote dream for her oh my goodness now why does that lead to call her daddy having kamala on in
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2024 now if you guys don't know kamala harris is our vice president and she's currently running
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for president of the united states and many people have asked and i think it is a very valid question
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how on earth does a sex podcast get a sitting vice president on the show? And the answer to
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that question is because a lot of women relate to Alex Cooper. They relate to her. We look at
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this woman, right? You can tell that she's not the best interviewer. It's not like she's cultivated
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a very unique talent but what she is is she's relatable women do not care about skill or they
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don't have the tendency to care about skill they have the tendency to care about relatability at
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which point my mother turned her head looked at me and had the biggest smile had the biggest smile
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ever these women had very similar career cycles who knows maybe alex cooper will run for office
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one day i don't say this to be cynical but if i had to predict the future i think we're going to
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see more of this where we sell our sexuality young and then many of these women are going to cycle
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into other areas as kamala did into politics you know she was a known 304 in the political scene
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and she was even known to be a side chick of a married guy and now she's gets to run for office
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without even getting elected that was my mother sitting across from you i think you know as women
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we have to work 10 times harder we got to be smarter we got to play the game to even get our
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foot in the door sometimes can you tell the daddy gang yeah when people tell you no now this is an
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example of living in delusion. I am appalled by that question. This is a woman who kick-started
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her career by giving blowjob advice, saying that women have it harder. What about the men
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in the oil rig? What about the men in the coal mine? What about the men in construction? Those
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are 99% male fields. And somehow a woman that has spent her 20s partying in New York City
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and getting the privilege of getting paid to document it and get $60 million is going to
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cry about women having it harder. This is appalling. This is ridiculous. This is living
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in delusion. When people look at you and doubt you, what does that ignite in you?
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So I've been told that many times. And through the course of my career, I've been told,
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you know, at one point, you're too young. I've been told, oh, nobody like you has ever done that
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before. Oh, they're not ready for you. Oh, and this is the one that kills me. Oh, it's going to
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be a lot of hard work, right? As though we don't like hard work. And here's my response.
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I don't hear no. I don't hear no. And I urge all the daddy gang, don't hear no. Just don't
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hear it. Throughout this election, your identity has been called into question many times. Your
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opponent has called you crazy, weak, fake, and dumb. How does that affect you? I think it's
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really important not to let other people define you and usually those people who will attempt to
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do it don't know you i want to talk about before your career in washington yes you mentioned you
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worked as a prosecutor specializing in sexual assault cases and this is something obviously
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i touch on on my show i have so many women that listen and i i want to talk to you because i know
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you had a personal connection as to why you really sought that out can you talk about what led you to
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taking on that career so when I was in high school my best friend her name is
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Wanda I learned was being sexually assaulted by her stepfather and you know
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I knew something was going on because she she didn't want to go home she you
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know she just seemed sad and so she told me and I immediately said you have to
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come and stay with us I called my mother was at work yes she has to come stay
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listen she did now for the women that are watching I want to show you guys how
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politicians manipulate us. I actually don't like that word because how we allow ourselves to be
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manipulated by politicians. What they do is before every election season, they tell us some sad story
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that has to do with SA, grape, or abortion to get us to run to the polls instead of thinking about
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the issues that are actually important this election season. So I don't go too into politics
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on this channel, but culture, politics, or culture, relationships, and sex absolutely affect every
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political season. It absolutely does because that's what's important to women. If you look
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at our media, that's what we care about. We care about relationships, sex. Those are the things
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that women read on. Politicians know that. So what do they do? Every election season, they come in and
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say, you're not going to be able to get your abortion. Somebody is going to grape or SA you
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because they know we love true crime or whatever. They placate on what we consume as an audience
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in order to get us to run to the polls and not pay attention to the important issues
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that actually affect our day to day. And I just, it, it upset me so that someone
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where they should feel safe and protected were being so horribly abused and violated, right?
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And anyway, I decided at a young age, I wanted to do the work of protecting vulnerable people.
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I mean, look, I was raised, I'm the eldest of two daughters. I was raised with my mother saying
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since practically the day my sister was born, you know, look out for your sister. So maybe it
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started when i was two but um wanda and and her experience really um convinced me and made me
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realize how this can happen and what we need to do to stand against it can you because again like
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i have women write in being like i don't know who to tell i'm dming you and i'm telling you because
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the shame and the terror and the where do i go from here and most of the time it is the people that
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are closest to them that are doing this like it is what feelings do you have and like what is the
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course of action in that moment that you take so the first thing that i would say to anyone
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going through it is tell someone that you trust don't don't quietly suffer you have done nothing
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wrong you have done nothing wrong and don't let anyone convince you you have often the abuser
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will tell her that if she tells, then something worse will happen. And that is usually wrong.
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And know that there are people that want you to be safe and will want to protect you.
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But don't silently suffer. And know that you have a right to live in a place where you
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feel safe and are actually safe. Unfortunately, I know that so many women
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can relate to what we're talking about. One in three women has experienced some form of
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sexual abuse in their life. That's exactly right. Now again, if you're a woman and you're watching
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this channel, you know they want you to be a victim. So what they're going to convince you,
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what they do is rape used to be, the definition of rape or grape used to be forced sex. They
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switched that definition to sex without consent. And when they broadened it, it's to convince us
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that we're victims and that any awkward sexual experience is an assault of some kind and
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that's what and they put this in our institutions and even schools teach this stuff and the police
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system they back it up and it's all in an attempt to get us to run to the polls because and paint
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us as victims because there's power in victimhood and i feel like when we say that that number can
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get lost because it's like one in three moment like this is happening this is real this is
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happening right now but Alex let me just say this also thank you for talking about it because part
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of the issue is that people don't talk about it and I don't mean the survivors of it I mean nobody
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does and the more that we let anything exist in the shadows the more likely it is that people are
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suffering and suffering silently and we need to talk about it we have to talk
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about it child sexual assault is something that affects far more people
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than the public discourse about it acknowledges and it the more we talk
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about it the more we will address it and deal with it the more we will be
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equipped to deal with it be it in terms of schools in terms of the society at
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large right and to not stigmatize it i i agree i think like the power that we have is through
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our voice over here like me trying to have a conversation any chance i can get the amount
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of times i have conversations with women and then i have thousands of women reaching out being like
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oh my god i just remembered something from watching this podcast episode and it brought
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back the trauma but now i know i need to get help like years ago this wasn't even a conversation
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let's see this is and that again because years ago there wasn't as many resources to convince us
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that we're victims that's what it is they expand the definition and throw everything under essay
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everything to the point that men are afraid to approach women because they don't want to be
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accused of it this is how insane it's gotten that's exactly right and so when i talk about
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when i say stigmatize it what i mean is stigmatize the survivor yeah we still have so far to go on
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the issue of child sexual assault just like in a previous time the issue of domestic violence
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people didn't talk about domestic violence and part of it was this really warped idea that well
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what happens in the home is none of our business but if it happened on the street it would be our
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business if we witnessed it on the street and so the point being that abuse of anyone is something
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we should all take and again what they're doing is and and women i just once you hear this stuff
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you will not unhear the pandering what they do is abuse used to be one person hitting the other
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unreciprocated that's what it used to mean you know what it means now they have expanded the
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definition to include things like emotional abuse emotional abuse financial abuse and all different
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types of abuse and again they do this so that we have more victimhood status now everyone can say
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i was abused and they know that in the realm of women we operate on attention as our currency so
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when we operate as when we operate on having attention as our currency and we can use the
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victimhood status for attention it it's a no wonder that me too was a thing it's no wonder
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because anybody could post it and get victimhood points seriously as opposed to saying
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it's not our business it it it's something that we have to agree should not happen and whatever
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resources and whatever attention we can put into reducing the likelihood that it happens is
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worthwhile how do we make this country safer for women now this is what i call gaslighting
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this is what i call what she's not asking is how immigration has affected safety for all people
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but what i don't hear from her is thanking the men that protect us every day you if you have
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a dispute in your home you can call the police you can walk alone at night in any major city
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really with relatively no problems i know it's getting more dangerous nowadays but even if
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something bad happens we still have the option to call the police and men will protect us we are a
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protected class and still every day they will sell us victimhood none of us are doing the hard jobs
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in society that there are men literally dying every day trying to get us oysters so we can eat
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in alaska and yet still the question is how can women be safe men are killing themselves at nine
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times the rate of women and yet we still have the tendency to make it all about us and the
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politicians just buy into it or the politicians realize that we are the biggest swing voters so
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again it's it's no wonder that we see so many adult women in a state of perpetual
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child-like behavior because the politicians are catering to us the police force is catering to
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us the media is catering to us they give us whatever we want corn stars get married sex
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podcast gets 60 million dollars how what do we not have if we want to have kids at 35
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ivf still works the majority of the time you can freeze your eggs and still do it they have
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extended fertility by a decade what more do we need we have contraceptives that have a 99
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percent rate of not getting pregnant. You can get an IUD and you will be fine. There's so many
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options. And yet still we talk about how do we make it better for women? That's a big question.
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There's a lot to unpack there. I mean, one of the things, for example, on domestic violence
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that I can tell you is this. When a woman, and in particular, if she has children,
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if she is economically reliant on her abuser, she's less likely to leave because most women
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will endure whatever personal physical pain they must in order to make sure their kids have a roof
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over their head or food. So one of the ways that we know that women are able to walk away
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from abuse, and there are many layers to her being able to do that, but one of them is,
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does she have the economic freedom to be able to do that right in 2024 you can work off of your
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laptop we can go turn on a camera and make millions of dollars running a podcast we can
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go get a tech job where you do virtually nothing we can go work at the oil rigs just like the men
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we can go become police officers we have the ability to do all of these different jobs and yet
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we still complain. Why? Why? So one of the ways that we know we can uplift the ability of women
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to have choices is uplift the ability of women to have economic health and well-being. I'm going to
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get more into that later, but about, you know, how we can make that possible. But I do want to
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reference something I saw was at a rally in Pennsylvania, former President Trump recently
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told women you will be protected and i will be your protector what do you make of that so he who
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when he was president hand selected three members of the united states supreme court with the
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intention that they would undo the protections of roe v wade and they did just as he intended
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and there are now 20 states with trump abortion bans including bans that make no exception for
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rape or incest which we just discussed which means that you're telling a survivor of a crime
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of a violation to their body they don't have a right to make a decision about what happened so
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99.5 percent of all abortions are elected rape and incest is not a primary reason for abortions
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so what i would like to say to the maybe two women that are watching this is they sell these stories
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to us to try to make us run to the polls. That's always what they do. It's always some
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terrible, awful scenario that's going to happen if you don't vote for our party.
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It's to their body next, which is immoral. So this is the same guy that is now saying that.
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This is the same guy who said that women should be punished for having abortions. This is the
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same guy who uses the kind of language he does to describe women. So yeah, there you go. I do want
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to focus on abortion for a moment because two years ago, Roe v. Wade was overturned and women
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lost their constitutional right to an abortion. I put out an episode about it. I flew to North
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Carolina. I went to a preferred women's health center. I met with women. I get a little frustrated
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because these are adult women. I mean, this woman's older than me. And you know that we have
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plan B. You know that we have IUDs. You know that we have pills that we can take every day. You
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know there's some shot they can put in your arm that you can take to prevent a pregnancy. We have
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condoms. We have so many different forms of contraceptive. And even if you're in a state
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where abortion is limited, you can still drive to another state and get an abortion. Yet we still
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want to be victims an option is to be more responsible with who you have sex with or
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more responsible with when you have sex you can only get pregnant like three days a month
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or it's very unlikely otherwise so you can track your cycle there's so many options and
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yet we still have the ability to play victim that we're getting screamed at and chanted
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that and called baby killers. And it was the most eye-opening experience I've ever had
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because I am a privileged white woman that lives in Los Angeles. And I am so aware of
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that. I understand that a lot of the younger generation sees things online and is like,
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what is right? What is wrong? What is real? What is not? Can you explain and talk about
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what is actually happening to abortion access right now in this country?
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Yeah. So again, I thank you for what you've been doing and at the earliest stage of this
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and following the stories. So, you know, on public policy, I often tell my team, look,
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I don't want to hear about public policy is a fancy kind of speech or paper. Tell me how it'll
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affect a real person. So let's talk about how it affects a real person. The majority of women who
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receive abortion care are mothers. So if she's in a state, and by the way, every state in the south,
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except for Virginia, has an abortion ban. Okay. So imagine she's in a state with an abortion ban.
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One out of three women are, by the way, in our country. And she's a mom. So she's going to have
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to figure out, one, God help her if she has affordable child care. God help her if she has
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paid leave and then she's going to have to go to the airport stand in a tsa line sit on a plane
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next to a perfect stranger to go to a city where she's never been to receive the care she needs
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she's going to probably have to get right back on that plane because she's got those kids her
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best friend's probably not with her because that's who's taking care of the kids to get back in that
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tsa line to get back on a plane to go home and again they're doing it again i am a victim that
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is what she's selling you are a victim and you will not be able to abort your kid if trump is
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elected that's what they're selling us it's interesting because the same people that talk
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about empowering women never talk about all the options that we have and are empowered to take
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if we so choose that this whole situation could be prevented from the beginning and that's all
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if they can even afford the plane exactly or the bus exactly exactly because when roe v wade
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was overturned i remember my dms were flooded with thousands of women begging me to help and
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it's overwhelming and i can't even imagine i'm saying that in front of you but it's overwhelming
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and i remember people begging me like i just need to afford a bus ticket so i can get out of this
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abortion desert that i live in in the south so i can get to a state but they can't even if you
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know what i mean so it's like these people are literally landlocked into a position that they
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don't want to be and and here's the thing here's the thing is that you don't have to abandon your
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faith or deeply held beliefs to agree the government shouldn't be telling her what to do
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if she chooses she'll talk to her priest her pastor or rabbi her imam but not the government
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telling you what to do and that's what's so outrageous about it is a bunch of these guys up
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in these state capitals are writing these decisions because they somehow have decided
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that they're in a better position to tell you what's in your best interest than you are to
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know what's in your own best interest it's outrageous it's outrageous i mean daddy gang
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to put it in our tick tock terms um i have seen girls on the street walk up to men and be like
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do you know where a tampon goes do you know how many tampons we use do you even know how like do
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you know what a x or y or z is of a part of our and they don't know the answer i was the first
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vice president or president to ever in office go to a reproductive health care clinic ever really
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yes yes yes i didn't know that but i guess that makes sense to your point and yet the men are
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making the decisions and what's so interesting is what they don't talk about is that men
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have conscription now it hasn't been used in years right but if the government decides that
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a war has broken out and it's bad enough men can still be put in the military right
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where they have no choice. Here's the other thing about this point, that it's
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about IVF treatments and access. It's about access to contraception, which is
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very much at risk with these folks. It is about, back to the point about
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reproductive health clinics, you know what those clinics also do? They do PAPs.
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They do breast cancer screenings. They do HIV testing. So this is the same thing.
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Plausible deniability. No, no, no, no. It's not abortion. It's the PAPs. It's the
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testing how dumb do they think we are this is what the the same way i i think how dumb is ross to
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accept that deal i think the same thing when we listen to this stuff you're telling me an abortion
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clinic yes they have other services but let's be honest the main service that they are selling
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at places like planned parenthood is abortion there have been whistleblowers that have come out
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and said this. And they're having to close in many places with these bans. So think about the fact
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that for anyone who has gone to one of these clinics, you understand that it is sometimes
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the most trusted place where people receive that kind of health care because they walk into those
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places that are generally staffed by people who create a safe place for people to come in without
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judgment so anyone seeking any kind of reproductive health care and and wanting to go to a place where
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they feel safe and without judgment these clinics have often been the place that people can go
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and many of them are having to close because of these laws i was raised catholic and
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abortion is a sin and when i put out that episode i had a lot of women reach out to me saying like
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wow, I live in the South and I never thought about it that way. Maybe I am pro-choice because
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I won't get an abortion because of my religion, but why should we control what someone else wants
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to do? And you know what's interesting, Alex, to your point, what I'm finding as I travel,
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people who before two years ago, before Roe v. Wade was overturned, people who felt very strong
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about that they are anti-abortion anti-abortion are now seeing what's happening and saying
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i didn't intend for all this to happen and i think that's also why in state after state so-called
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red states and so-called blue states when this issue has been on the ballot the american people
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are voting for freedom because ultimately it's about look this is not about imposing
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my thoughts on you in terms of what you do with your life or your body it's it's actually quite
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the opposite it's saying the government shouldn't be telling people what to do i think that
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unfortunately we have these these real life names we have these horrific moments that these people
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are losing their lives right we have a woman named amber thurman who died in georgia because
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the abortion bans in that state the doctors were too afraid to treat her do you guys believe that
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i mean someone will have to send me the story but come on every election cycle they find some sob
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story to scare us into the polls and there has to be a point where we realize that other issues are