Pearl - Things Your Mother Should Have Told You ｜ Pearl Daily

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00:01:43.200 be on the screen. Okay, so today's topic, I want to know in the chat, today's topic, I want to talk

00:01:53.800 about things we wish that our mothers told you, told us. So I have been doing interviews for about

00:02:03.240 three, four years, and it's actually crazy the amount of people that I have met, like I've done

00:02:09.160 street interviews in Miami. I've done them in Vegas. I've done them in London. I've done them

00:02:14.020 in Ireland, Germany. Like I have literally gone all over the world, done street interviews. I've

00:02:20.580 lived all over the world. And I found commonalities when interviewing women. And what I found is women 0.90

00:02:31.600 around the age of 70 to 90 seem to be the last generation of semi-traditional women. 0.52

00:02:37.760 women between the ages of 40 to maybe 70 years old they tend to be the women that 1.00

00:02:46.660 they might not have divorced but they they were really quarrelsome rebellious contentious this

00:02:54.320 is the first generation of women that went to work they were on birth control and what they did was 0.94

00:03:01.260 they lied to their daughters this was the generation of women they might not have divorced 1.00

00:03:07.280 but they wanted to make sure they had a backup plan and they told their daughters to never trust

00:03:13.100 a man to never need a man then you get the generation of women between say 40 to 60 years 0.99

00:03:20.440 old maybe 35 to 40 yeah 35 let's just say 45 35 to 55 years old and that was the first generation 0.99

00:03:34.020 of truly shitty wives. I mean, that generation 1.00

00:03:38.920 was the first generation to really divorce. Half of the marriages of that generation ended in

00:03:48.460 divorce, so much so that the next generation of women really didn't get married. You know, 1.00

00:03:53.820 the skills of a traditional wife and mother were just lost. You know, a hundred years 0.57

00:04:00.820 after women decided we wanted to work, we wanted to vote, we wanted to be equal to men,

00:04:05.940 you know, we all got together and decided we didn't need a man. And so, you know, my findings

00:04:12.620 from interviewing men the last three years, men and women, about relationships is there are things

00:04:21.280 that our generation wishes our mother told us. Because unfortunately, older women have not been

00:04:30.640 overly helpful to younger women in terms of getting results in dating. You have one group 0.69

00:04:36.620 which says go back to traditionalism, even though most people meet on dating apps nowadays.

00:04:42.720 You have another group that says you don't need a man and to do your own thing.

00:04:47.660 And you have another group that, you know, kind of raises women to be boys. And so the question I 0.89

00:04:54.040 really had for the audience is what, and I really wanted to talk to women today,

00:04:58.340 what do you wish your mother told you I'm gonna put a and this is a book I'm

00:05:06.160 writing it's the the things your mother should have told you I'm so I'm gonna

00:05:10.460 put a link in the chat and I'm really curious to hear from the women and I'm 0.97

00:05:16.220 probably gonna read a little bit of what I have written here I'm trying to find

00:05:21.320 a couple

00:05:28.340 Okay, so I would always say, if you started over at 18, right, if I could go back and

00:05:43.560 I was 18 again, I think the first thing you should do as a chick is focus on fitness.

00:05:50.060 If you are not in good shape, it's got to be your number one draft pick, you know, and

00:05:57.380 what i would do if i was 18 is i would go into a field that would pay me to be good looking so that

00:06:03.780 is personal trainer nutritionist and what i would do is i would go back and i would get as much

00:06:10.740 information as i could about nutrition because unfortunately ladies you can't really get into 1.00

00:06:16.100 the door without the looks so do we have any girls on the line and guys this is just for the women 1.00

00:06:23.380 today. Hold on, actually, I want to check the chat. Mrs. Ziegler says on the

00:06:32.540 audacitynetwork.com, my mom told me this good advice, a way to a man's heart is

00:06:37.060 through his stomach. I'm gonna pull up the chat on YouTube, too.

00:06:46.100 Okay, thank you.

00:06:53.380 Okay, one second.

00:07:18.380 I want to find, there's a chick going viral right now. 1.00

00:07:21.760 I want to find okay should I want to go on the whiteboard can I go on the

00:07:32.480 whiteboard are there any girls that called in probably not yet right oh I 0.98

00:07:40.420 thought oh am I supposed to put it yes I did yes I did you asked me right before

00:07:47.980 for if I wanted to call in. No, I was talking about reacting. Okay, well, I'm

00:08:00.640 gonna show them anyway. This mic works, right? Because I'm kind of a visual person,

00:08:07.180 guys. So I kind of want to show you guys. One second.

00:08:17.980 Okay, so this is just what I found from interviewing people.

00:08:23.180 You can take it or leave it.

00:08:24.900 This is just my point of view.

00:08:27.220 All right, so we've got to get me a better marker out here.

00:08:39.020 So right here, we have the women. 0.99

00:08:50.960 These are the women, maybe let's just say 70 to 90 years old. 1.00

00:08:55.320 What year would someone that's 70 be born in?

00:08:58.260 Can you do the math, Blessing?

00:09:01.400 Okay, yeah, 54.

00:09:05.120 So remember, guys, now we have everything documented, but a lot of women act like they 1.00

00:09:12.060 weren't like that back then.

00:09:13.840 You realize we had free love in the 60s.

00:09:17.340 Okay, but what I found is the 70 to 90-year-old women, you know, they're semi-traditional. 1.00

00:09:25.680 You know, women, birth control came in in the 60s, 70s. 0.97

00:09:35.320 No-fault divorce came in.

00:09:37.260 They lived through a lot.

00:09:39.880 But what happened with these women, their daughters, their daughters were about.

00:09:48.800 So these women, they might have separated at times.

00:09:55.680 but no divorce.

00:10:00.540 And generally, when I interview this age group of women

00:10:05.640 and I ask them if they listen to their husbands,

00:10:08.760 if they need a man, if they believe in divorce,

00:10:11.980 their answers are a bit more traditional.

00:10:16.400 Where, now the 50 to 70-year-old women, 1.00

00:10:21.220 i find that maybe they're like half and half

00:10:28.100 um and the issue is that even though these women might have stayed married they instilled

00:10:39.200 fear into their daughters now the worst thing you can do to women is scare them they said what if 1.00

00:10:46.900 he leaves you high and dry what if he becomes abusive what if he you know what if he you need

00:10:53.500 to have a backup plan so the 50 to 70 year old women said yeah sure now these women 1.00

00:11:01.420 this is the beginning of the daycare children 0.99

00:11:05.380 and it's like 50 50 here on the good wives now the first generation of truly shitty wives 1.00

00:11:19.160 the let's just go now let's go 35 to 50 roughly 0.93

00:11:30.200 these women were terrible terrible wives this these women are a lot of the reason that we have 1.00

00:11:40.700 all of the issues we have today they pushed misandry they pushed hating men you know and

00:11:48.540 a lot of these women they were married when social media came into the picture 0.99

00:11:53.600 they divorced their husbands i these it's like i can count maybe how many trad women i've met 0.55

00:12:03.580 in this they're mostly divorced or shitty wives because again it all started these women might 1.00

00:12:16.720 have stayed married but the bad wives from this generation instilled fear into this generation 0.98

00:12:22.200 and said you always need a backup plan and so then this generation of women saw this generation 0.99

00:12:29.060 of women be selfish mothers divorce their husbands or completely tried to domineer and 1.00

00:12:35.140 control the relationship and then 35 and under are so bad this is my generation 0.80

00:12:43.760 We are so bad, we are not even, see this always goes, not even making it down the aisle.

00:12:59.740 And now, I'll tell you why my generation of women is especially bad. 1.00

00:13:07.800 Especially.

00:13:08.340 because now this generation kind of knew how to cook.

00:13:13.900 They knew how to take care of a household, right?

00:13:16.440 This generation, maybe half of them still had the skills.

00:13:22.140 This generation, all the traditional skills were gone, wiped away. 1.00

00:13:28.660 This generation, yeah, there's less than 10%, 5%. 0.56

00:13:36.420 Myron also verified this when I was in a space with him the other day.

00:13:40.880 But I'll tell you why especially it's not great.

00:13:46.120 Why it's not too great.

00:13:52.080 Now, what is a traditional woman? 1.00

00:13:56.620 Now, I'd like to clarify before we go into this.

00:13:59.920 I was raised an athlete.

00:14:01.260 I would not in any way, shape, or form consider myself trapped.

00:14:05.720 Everybody who would always say, Pearl, you're not traditional, I know.

00:14:09.380 I know, I know, I know.

00:14:10.560 But as women, I think we should try to point out the elite women. 0.84

00:14:15.640 You know, not all men are high-value men.

00:14:18.660 But I think when you look and analyze the elite men, you can learn something from them.

00:14:23.340 I think as women, we can do the same thing. 1.00

00:14:26.580 So if I was to describe a traditional woman.

00:14:29.920 we're going to pink now

00:14:35.440 typically they get married

00:14:39.800 before 25

00:14:43.620 if we're going to go all the way traditional

00:14:50.980 like truly traditional

00:14:52.680 virgin on wedding night

00:14:56.700 can cook and raise to cater to a man.

00:15:17.020 So these are women that were taught how to manage their husbands, 1.00

00:15:23.000 you know, make a man feel like it.

00:15:24.520 You know those women where they just, you come in the room 1.00

00:15:28.800 and they're just soft.

00:15:30.120 And they just, they know how to make the men feel like men.

00:15:33.260 Doesn't matter who they're talking to.

00:15:35.080 And if you're thinking, I've never

00:15:36.300 met a woman like that, yeah, they rarely exist, yeah. 1.00

00:15:41.760 Virgin on wedding night, married before 25,

00:15:44.680 can cook and can cater to a man.

00:15:50.960 What else, blessing?

00:15:51.840 What am I missing?

00:15:54.520 Oh, in shape, no fatties, and puts the family, and traditionalism at its core, is the family

00:16:09.900 above self.

00:16:11.620 And the reason this correlates to married before 25 is because traditional women spend 1.00

00:16:19.120 their youth on their family and not themselves.

00:16:21.640 they're typically raised by married parents

00:16:26.080 and they've had the

00:16:28.940 they've actually seen a successful relationship I would say it's very

00:16:33.560 difficult damn near impossible to be a traditional woman 0.99

00:16:36.540 without having coming from a two parent home

00:16:41.000 anything else blessing

00:16:43.560 oh I said can cook but yeah like a cookbook that that works too cookbook so again typically a 1.00

00:16:56.780 question I'll ask when on the show is that I would ask if you can cook and the women would always say 1.00

00:17:01.600 yes and I could tell you the difference of how you can tell a woman who can cook versus can't 1.00

00:17:07.000 cook. Women that can't cook, they often say steak or salmon. Women that can cook can detail step 1.00

00:17:15.080 by step how they make the dishes, and they typically will know traditional dishes from

00:17:20.900 their family. Now, a way that I would say I really wasn't raised overly traditional is

00:17:27.500 it wasn't like I had family dinner every night. I was in the gym. You know, I don't know Irish

00:17:34.680 recipes that wasn't really a big thing, even though I'm Irish, you know.

00:17:38.460 But women that were raised like that, that's typically what they can do. 1.00

00:17:43.580 Now, I'll tell you why

00:17:46.660 my generation is especially bad.

00:17:50.920 Because, now, what is the exchange here? 0.97

00:17:55.600 And this is why trad women are, like, especially annoying, 1.00

00:17:58.720 because they just play pretend. 0.96

00:18:01.520 Alright, so we got...

00:18:04.680 a trad woman, and then husband.

00:18:14.080 And actually, I don't like saying trad because I use that,

00:18:16.280 but like a real traditional woman with a husband.

00:18:18.800 You know, she gives her virginity. 1.00

00:18:23.480 She gives serving his needs. 0.99

00:18:30.840 she gives virginity serving his needs um her youth 0.95

00:18:39.360 and he might give her the husband gives her 0.96

00:18:49.040 bills taken oh I forgot children what am I doing she gives him children and he might

00:18:58.840 take care of the bills. He might protect the family, protect slash die for the family.

00:19:11.740 You know, and so if you think of a traditional date, he opens the doors, pays for the date,

00:19:16.920 and, you know, in exchange, he gets purity, youth, serving his needs and children.

00:19:22.500 Now, the problem you get with the fake trads, now, again, I'd like to clarify, not a trad, not a trad, is they typically marry past, oh, wait, feeds family.

00:19:42.280 Now, again, this can change a little bit because we are in the modern world.

00:19:46.540 There are husbands that maybe they prefer Uber Eats. 1.00

00:19:50.040 maybe you know they're they don't care they have a chef they you know you like I saw that Alex

00:19:56.640 Hormosa and the Layla chick I think their name is I mean the guy doesn't seem to care if they

00:20:03.580 eat out or eat in there's couples like that they're kind of exceptions though most people

00:20:08.260 can't afford to eat out every day oh and he might fix stuff that's another stuff around the house

00:20:14.880 you know, mow lawn, et cetera.

00:20:19.680 Okay, but this is right.

00:20:21.520 Now, the fake trads, they marry past 25. 1.00

00:20:26.640 They have two kids not raised to be a wife.

00:20:39.020 And you can tell that they weren't raised to be a wife.

00:20:42.100 This isn't a knock.

00:20:43.260 Most women weren't. 1.00

00:20:44.880 Again, I haven't really seen real wives in four generations. 1.00

00:20:48.820 You can tell because they'll say things like they'll tell men how to talk.

00:20:52.720 That is inherently out of order because the natural order of the world goes God, men, women, children.

00:20:58.980 And if the women think they have authority to tell the men how to talk, right there, that is not traditional. 0.89

00:21:06.020 You'll see when they're in a couple, the woman will always answer first when they're asked a question as a couple. 0.99

00:21:11.940 When in a more traditional relationship, she would know to look to the husband first, again.

00:21:20.000 Typically, they have two kids, so, you know, they're on some sort of birth control in general.

00:21:25.680 It's not like if you got married before 25 and you make it to 40.

00:21:30.200 Odds are you'll have more than one kid.

00:21:33.020 And, again, this doesn't mean bad person at all, but the fake trads, you know, they have a sense of entitlement.

00:21:40.540 Because they expect the traditional treatment from the husband, the bills all paid for, protect and die for your family, you know, all of this without offering, you know, virginity, youth, all of that.

00:21:57.100 And so that's where the disconnected, it's not a fair trade, you know.

00:22:02.360 So most women will make the compromise, only one out of four women gets to stay home. 1.00

00:22:10.540 So, you know, as women, if we get married past the age of, say, 25 or odds are you'll have to take care of a percentage of the family bills for a lifetime because we didn't do it the traditional way. 0.55

00:22:27.120 Doesn't mean it's the end of the world, you know, life goes on.

00:22:29.740 But and then you'll see the fake trad women saying, you know, because I think I heard one of them, I can't remember which one.

00:22:36.320 they'll say the bare minimum is a man to pay for the date but if you guys really

00:22:43.640 knew the history of traditionalism you know the women actually gave the dowry

00:22:49.500 to the men because women don't typically like men that serve them we like men that

00:22:54.780 we serve because femininity at its core is serving the men its selflessness

00:23:00.080 that's truly what it is and the way we do dating now I think it's kind of out

00:23:04.920 order because again it's the men planning the date serving the woman when again women only like

00:23:13.080 men that we serve so does that make sense blessing did i did i did i break this down all right so a

00:23:21.240 more fair trade right now we're in 2024 so if you're not and again no fret ladies it's not the

00:23:27.960 end of the world you know don't don't everyone thinks i'm saying you're a bad person or you

00:23:33.780 should look up to me. No, there's better role models. I'm just an analyst. Now, if we go modern

00:23:43.100 chicks, the trade is you give one to two kids. Again, this is why the trads are annoying. It's 1.00

00:23:56.020 like a pretend you know one to two children work part-time for life most women you know unless 1.00

00:24:06.220 you're top like 20% of chicks that's the future buckle up ladies you know you might not like it 1.00

00:24:13.520 I know all the all the trads will say Pearl's a feminist because I live in reality ladies only 1.00

00:24:18.640 one out of four women gets to stay home it's called buckle up anyways um work part-time 1.00

00:24:29.680 a lot of times daycare you know 50 50.

00:24:37.040 and then you know so you you're like 30 whatever

00:24:40.720 35 or maybe 28 27 but I mean whatever you guys want to put danger zone yeah and then the man

00:24:51.640 you know still you still get the protection provisioning you know and then you know maybe

00:25:02.440 it's 60% of the bills. I don't know, 60%. It can vary, different households. Normal guy.

00:25:16.680 And boom, that's life. So that's why the trad chicks are annoying, because they say, 1.00

00:25:22.840 you're not a real man if you don't treat me traditionally. But I mean, we've had four

00:25:27.560 generations of shitty wives, if I'm being honest, guys. 1.00

00:25:31.280 You know, four generations ago, they separated. 1.00

00:25:34.180 Three generations ago, they divorced.

00:25:38.480 Two generations ago,

00:25:40.660 they also divorced. They just divorced more.

00:25:44.660 And then the last generation is not even making it down the aisle.

00:25:49.560 I'm not here to sell dreams. I think it's mean to sell dreams

00:25:52.540 because selling hope instead of saying, prepare for the worst,

00:25:55.920 I think I'm nicer, you know. So I'd like to get you guys' thoughts. So, sorry, I got a little

00:26:05.560 nervous before. I am, let me put my thing down. I am writing something called Things Your Mother

00:26:12.820 Should Have Told You. And it's kind of like if I was 18 again, if I was telling a chick,

00:26:19.140 all right, you're 18, this is what I would do. I would say, chica, first, if you're fat, we got 1.00

00:26:24.920 to get you to the gym we got to get in shape we got to get into nutrition and that should be your

00:26:30.440 number one goal you're 18 you have two years till you're 20 stay pure stay chaste and get in super

00:26:38.900 good shape then you're 20 and I would get a job that pays you to stay in shape then you're 20

00:26:44.820 you know what I would do

00:26:46.560 I would get a job I would think about the type of guy you want to date so let's just say you're

00:26:54.680 let's just say you're a german chick i'm german you know partially maybe you want to marry an 1.00

00:27:03.620 american boy where can you go in germany where do americans hang out are there american bars

00:27:11.140 are there american clubs you know i grew up with nannies and i'll tell you what guys 0.96

00:27:16.740 nannies come to america at times on a mission there was one nanny i had she was from germany 1.00

00:27:23.300 and I'll tell you what that woman oh no no she was from South Africa I lied South Africa I got

00:27:30.140 the country wrong and she was from South Africa and she came to America and that woman was on a 0.99

00:27:35.500 mission she did not want to return to South Africa I think there was like farm killings or something

00:27:41.440 it was dangerous where she was from and she was not going back there she was married within a year

00:27:48.540 oh yeah she was getting that visa not coming back guys and you know

00:27:55.500 because she she figured out okay the guys work out at this gym 0.67

00:28:01.140 she went that she was interested in she went to that gym

00:28:04.780 and then i would say you know you want to learn to cook the meals those type of guys would want

00:28:10.560 to eat so if you want to get a fitness bro you get the meal prep maybe you want to

00:28:18.540 a German guy, you learn some corned beef, you know, and then you got to think of what skills

00:28:25.640 would be complimentary to the guy you want to be with. So I'll give you an example. You want

00:28:30.580 to marry a guy that wears suits every day. You got to figure out how to like tie the tie, you know.

00:28:40.440 I'm just, I'm just coming up with examples, but if I was 18 again, I would say that would be the

00:28:45.880 best way to go about it. Now, you can take it or leave it. I'm not saying I have all the answers.

00:28:50.840 This is just my opinion. But what I want to know is, from the audience, is there, women, 0.99

00:29:00.820 yeah, yeah. Is there bad advice or good advice that your mom gave? And what do you, I got to

00:29:06.520 put my headphones back in. What do you wish your mother told you? Jan, I'm going to read the chat.

00:29:14.380 I'm a happily married woman who has a bad marriage to compare to. Just give the man food and something 0.92

00:29:21.440 worth to protect. If there's nothing to protect, it's only going to be fun. Overweight is the

00:29:25.960 reason I usually don't want to date a girl. Okay, so who do we have on the line? 1.00

00:29:35.440 And oh wait, and to start, I'm sorry guys, I'm new to the call-ins. To start again, please put your

00:29:41.840 phone down here like this okay no hands like set it somewhere and also please please speak clearly

00:29:53.200 into the microphone um or if you have a mic don't if you're going to be a troll we're trying to have

00:29:59.840 a serious conversation here i'm going to kick you off if you're going to over talk me i'm going to 0.77

00:30:03.880 kick you off if you bring your own topic about what you want to talk about i'm also going to

00:30:09.560 kick you off. Today is just for the ladies. I do male call-in shows all the time, so today I just

00:30:15.860 wanted to talk to the women. What is something, what is advice your mom gave you that maybe was

00:30:25.020 good or bad, and what do you wish your mom told you? All right, so I didn't listen to my parents

00:30:33.000 when they told me my first husband was not good husband material and that is because he did not

00:30:39.800 come from a good family you know he he was raised by a single mom who uh did not know his father's

00:30:50.500 name and um she also was um a lesbian as well oh wow and so there was a lot of things there

00:31:01.380 were a lot of red flags that even though he was a nice guy and he you know seemed nice smart great

00:31:07.160 he just wouldn't he wouldn't understand that marriage is a lifetime commitment because I

00:31:12.380 got the hybrid message um so I I was raised to learn how to cook and to clean and to be a wife 0.99

00:31:19.240 but also to have a career so that my my parents are like he's not he doesn't understand what this

00:31:24.740 means and you got to get along with the family because of that tension when I did get pregnant

00:31:33.100 after we were married his mother just was so upset with me because obviously when you're 0.51

00:31:39.360 the pastor's daughter in a town of 300 people and you get pregnant out of wedlock you know that 0.99

00:31:45.400 creates tension in your family so she was upset with me for my family being excited you know that

00:31:52.700 we were going to have a child how old and so 26 okay so 26 so we were 25 when we got married and

00:32:04.120 26 when i had was pregnant with the first child and we miscarried and he was so excited that he

00:32:11.440 was like thank god you know we didn't you know i didn't need that and i was like devastated i was

00:32:17.280 like you're excited our baby died you know and um it just his mother and her girlfriend at the time

00:32:25.360 just kept intervening with this um with our into our marriage and it eventually caused this this

00:32:32.320 complete and total breakdown when i got pregnant with the second shot you know what is now my

00:32:36.920 daughter and so my parents kind of said we told you so yeah so i had to own up to that

00:32:47.840 and so i'm curious what problems would you say it caused that like just like day-to-day problems

00:32:54.580 does it cause when you date a guy that doesn't have a good family background a lot of times

00:33:01.420 he would prioritize seeing his friends whenever they needed something because well I've known

00:33:08.480 them longer he didn't understand that as a wife then I I took it like a different role in his life

00:33:16.760 and so he's like but I've known my best friend for so many years so he takes priority so if my

00:33:22.940 best friend's lonely then I'm going to just leave and not stay home for dinner and you know I'm like

00:33:29.780 we're married you know we're we have and so he was never home and that was one thing that caused

00:33:35.540 a strain in the relationship not understanding that he needed to financially provide so we were

00:33:40.980 homeless for a period of time um and then another big thing this was right after we were no longer

00:33:49.780 homeless we had just gotten an apartment he had signed the lease with a best friend of his

00:33:56.020 and we were living in florida because that's where his mom was living

00:34:00.500 i'd flown back to illinois where my family's from and i got an you know that's when i was visiting

00:34:06.980 to get an ultrasound that was when we found out i was having a girl and um so this friend decided

00:34:14.180 he was going to sign the lease with my husband so their names were on the lease but he wasn't

00:34:20.260 he didn't have a job wasn't paying any rent okay so he was kind of he was kind of he was kind of a

00:34:26.740 bum like pretty much right yeah and i was i said you know hey you know since we're married and

00:34:32.660 we're just now getting on our feet we have a baby on the way the second bedroom is for the baby

00:34:38.900 this is not for this grown adult who is able to take care of himself and he's like no no no no no

00:34:46.020 no, no, he, he gets that room. And my childhood bedroom furniture that I had saved for our child,

00:34:51.160 he took and got. On top of that, there was only one vehicle between me and my husband. And so he

00:34:59.040 took that to work. And I'd woken up this morning after I just got, I just flipped back, you know,

00:35:05.400 so I'm in this apartment for two days, right? You know, I hadn't had a chance to go put my name on

00:35:09.600 the lease. So my name's not on the lease yet. All the food in the apartment has been eaten,

00:35:13.600 you know so i asked the the roommate hey can you go drive me to the grocery store to get groceries

00:35:19.360 so i can have dinner ready from my husband gets home and he's like you can't spend his money

00:35:23.820 and i'm like oh it's our money and it's to buy groceries to have dinner for when he gets home

00:35:31.560 and he didn't understand that again the you know a lot of his friends are also from similar

00:35:36.780 backgrounds so they're also not understanding that where i'm coming from i'm thinking like

00:35:41.740 I'm going to continue unpacking the boxes to get the kitchen unpacked and have dinner ready,

00:35:47.760 all this. And he's just like, this is not your money. You're not working. You don't have a job.

00:35:52.560 And so you wished you listened to your parents when they told you that.

00:35:56.000 Exactly. And so what ended up happening was when I confronted him about this,

00:36:03.140 it resulted in a confrontation that resulted in me not being let back into my apartment because I

00:36:08.840 technically wasn't on the lease. So I ended up having to go home to my parents and

00:36:19.880 he just didn't understand, you know, he just didn't get like

00:36:25.560 what mirrors was, you know, and my parents knew like we told you so. So

00:36:34.040 listen to your parents they know

00:36:39.520 and also get along with the family

00:36:45.100 i am best friends with my new mother-in-law and my sister-in-law like we are now at the point where

00:36:54.420 my parents were both married his parents were both married all of his you know everyone is like

00:36:59.880 there's no divorce in this you know and so we're actually starting to build our own like homestead

00:37:06.600 life i'm hoping that as soon as i finish you know with this cancer treatment that hopefully i can

00:37:11.880 start homeschooling the two younger kids in the fall so i have the full support of my parents

00:37:17.560 his parents you know so it's a huge huge difference you are mirroring into the family

00:37:23.320 really look at the family dynamic it's a big big thing it's not just a single person because when

00:37:31.160 you talk about raising you know the village the village is your whole family so you're marrying

00:37:35.180 into that family it's not just two people in love it's a whole big family dynamic yeah yeah it's

00:37:42.520 really hard when it's a super different dynamic especially if like it's a chaotic background it's

00:37:48.060 tough to come together did you say you're getting cancer treatment yes oh wow how what is that why

00:37:55.740 you were doing the homestead part of it yeah so my in-laws are actually starting them since they

00:38:01.860 have chickens um and they're growing all kinds of fruits and vegetables they are actually hunting

00:38:07.040 deer as well or the neighbors are hunting the deer and then she does the beef or the deer jerky and

00:38:12.400 deer sausage and then she'll like all the berries that she grows she turns into jams and then

00:38:17.700 the cucumbers she'll turn into pickles and preserves and soups and she's 0.99

00:38:21.720 baking breads and stuff so hopefully um and also like my kids would go over

00:38:26.300 there and they spend time over there learning how to do a

00:38:28.680 lot of that stuff too um okay so what did what did you look for

00:38:33.740 in your second husband that made him different than your first

00:38:36.280 actually this is my three oh god three

00:38:39.760 what you picked two bad ones or did you oh yeah it's

00:38:47.700 so I did it twice but I won't that's a whole nother whole nother story I won't

00:39:01.580 go into that one that will be a story for a different day so what was

00:39:06.440 different about the third one the third one well that was when I realized the

00:39:13.160 common denominator between all these failed relationships obviously were me two things can 0.99

00:39:19.200 be true at once obviously my exes can be assholes and i can also be the dumbass for choosing them 0.99

00:39:24.640 and i really had to start thinking about how did i what was my decision process in making 0.98

00:39:30.460 these decisions and these these men because in going into another relationship i don't want it 0.96

00:39:36.440 just to be a different guy same shit basically i need to figure out what is going into my thought 0.96

00:39:41.740 process and really kind of break it down into looking at each and every single micro decision 0.96

00:39:46.620 that i'm making and that's factoring into each and every decision that is creating the environment

00:39:51.580 you know so basically because i was so mentally emotionally distraught from my first divorce

00:39:58.540 ow i basically fell into domestic violence like when we talk about you know

00:40:04.060 stepfathers that are predatory on stepchildren you get what i'm saying so that was very short

00:40:17.300 very you know um but just really having to take the realization that you know my two kids don't

00:40:31.320 have that they're never going to have what I had growing up because I chose the wrong guys

00:40:36.720 ultimately and when I went out about dating I knew I had to do something completely different

00:40:44.420 I had to be and act different and I was like you know what what I'm basically bringing to the table

00:40:51.240 it's not going to be a whole lot but if I don't hold myself to a different standard I'm never

00:40:57.540 going to, it's never going to be like, I can't, I'm not going to have that option. Okay. It's

00:41:03.580 not guaranteed. So, so what was different about the third husband? We both decided

00:41:20.440 we were going to put up with each other till we died, no matter what, come hell or high water.

00:41:27.540 and then we just did that okay and then we kept doing that over and over and over again

00:41:36.000 until we just basically unpacked all of the emotional baggage that we've had from all

00:41:41.540 our previous relationships and we were still together and we're just like oh you know we've

00:41:44.660 we've just made it together we've put our family together you know bring you know because he had

00:41:49.700 two kids from his you know first marriage as well and like we just decided like we want

00:41:55.480 more than anything for our children to have what we had growing up but they don't

00:42:02.260 and that was our common goal and so that was what we decided we were going to do come hell

00:42:08.540 high water and so because they were our main goal and our main focus we just right wouldn't

00:42:15.440 wouldn't quit you know yeah well um thank you for calling in

00:42:21.360 thank you um yeah so she's right though guys about about listening to you know your parents

00:42:29.960 your parents do know you better than most people um

00:42:35.120 yeah um what do we have another caller or no

00:42:42.080 what

00:42:49.200 no it's not it's not for guys today's women it's it's okay if we don't i know

00:42:57.380 um okay guys what what did you think of that call it's interesting to hear how men

00:43:03.920 listen to things and how women listen to things what what what did you think yay nay 1.00

00:43:11.420 excuses real what did you think um forest sponge marriage is exactly that a sacred vow death till

00:43:19.540 us part um i wouldn't say divorce itself as a red flag maybe a yellow flag really good people can be

00:43:24.880 caught by abusive um most modern women can't take accountability for sure oh i think we got some

00:43:31.160 signups didn't we um okay we got some new subscribers and then i'm going to talk about

00:43:36.460 a couple more things i think would have been helpful if i had to start all over again

00:43:40.480 Oh, we got another one from, I'm going to just say first names in case people want to be anonymous, Nathaniel, thank you, Jan, you rock, thank you, again, guys, all of these, they really help, and then thank you for the cash app, give this lady the reverend, the reverend, what is the reverend, is that flip?

00:44:05.560 one second

00:44:10.080 oh the third thing now I know this third thing that I would tell a girl at 18 so

00:44:22.100 if I had to go back to 18 again the first thing I would do is get in shape that'd be number one

00:44:28.760 thing you know you don't really have to do the plastic surgery and that stuff if you're young

00:44:36.140 now i i have not really gone down that route but a lot of women do you know ladies you don't have 1.00

00:44:43.340 to do all that if you start young if you get into really good shape eat super clean sleep have a

00:44:49.340 really good sleep schedule you know live life don't you know don't in like a normal way nothing

00:44:56.740 crazy but you know then then this is something I wrote once you accomplished getting in shape

00:45:06.180 I assume this took you time because most women are overweight at 20 I would start looking for 1.00

00:45:11.480 a husband remember the first man you meet may not commit or it may not work out so you need

00:45:18.840 to have time in case something goes wrong I would get a job somewhere handsome successful men

00:45:25.020 frequent you will have to research your own on this one but places i can think of high-end

00:45:31.040 cocktail bars members clubs high-end gyms high-end hotels home depot law clerks or maybe you want

00:45:38.760 blue collar whatever your thing is ladies you want a job that does not take a lot of time to learn 1.00

00:45:45.100 like a secretary but where you're in the vicinity of high status men now this could be maybe somewhere

00:45:52.980 you're not working directly with them i know some men don't want to cross that line whatever

00:45:57.940 um and the third thing i would say is have and i know this is hypocritical

00:46:03.540 very little you you don't really want a lot of social media guys do not see that as a as a plus

00:46:11.860 they do not no they don't um

00:46:14.660 Oh, and avoid chicks that are constantly going out, that are constantly, you know, 0.96

00:46:25.140 because men, they really, they judge you based on who you hang out with.

00:46:31.040 So if you're hanging around a bunch of chicks that are wild in the club every week, 1.00

00:46:35.840 and even if you're not doing that, men just assume you are.

00:46:39.800 So I would be really careful with who you associate with, who you're friends with.

00:46:44.660 And I would also say to start looking at fashion, right?

00:47:00.020 And I know I'm not a fashionista, okay, but I was thinking about this.

00:47:04.000 I don't think that you should look at high-end fashion now

00:47:07.860 because most women dress for women. 0.99

00:47:09.780 you have to look at like what outfits men tend to find attractive and you can do this by looking at

00:47:17.280 movies where men you know they really liked an attractive woman in the movie i have other ways

00:47:23.220 too but that's going to be more in my book anyway so i'd really still like to hear from ladies 1.00

00:47:29.020 you know what do you wish your mother told you what do you wish your mother taught you

00:47:33.920 what was good advice or bad advice that your mother gave you

00:47:39.780 oh someone says stop dating men with potential

00:47:47.700 social media is like heroin for women 1.00

00:47:53.580 don't marry a man that's broke or unemployed 0.82

00:47:59.040 keep them closed in high school ladies at 18 you got to get into shape you should already be in 1.00

00:48:07.320 shape. Look, I'm talking about the 2024 stats. Young women are fat. I don't know what to tell you. 1.00

00:48:16.860 You must continue the pregame. Guys, I'm sorry. You cannot pay me to do that one again.

00:48:24.820 For real, just be somewhat healthy. Wear things that are feminine, but don't make you look like 0.90

00:48:29.360 a 304 and be a decent person. Men have a list a thousand miles long. If you're a Christian,

00:48:35.820 be a hundred percent sure not what she this is for the ladies all right 0.86

00:48:46.220 what no prada guys make sure you like the video

00:48:50.860 do we have another call-ins or no because if not i'm going to react to ben

00:48:53.900 shapiro

00:48:57.340 yeah it's all right

00:49:00.140 it's going to be a quicker show today

00:49:04.320 oh i would also say for women young women to date older

00:49:11.420 guys your age the problem with you're going to get with guys your age 0.98

00:49:16.640 is they really don't have experience to understand female fuckery 0.96

00:49:23.060 and even the best women we're still women we still have like a factory reset 1.00

00:49:29.840 where men you know the guy you're with really has to understand how to pass your shit tests 0.99

00:49:36.800 he has to understand you know the shit that we do because you don't want a guy that doesn't 1.00

00:49:43.340 understand the stuff and just lets you get away with it for a lifetime because those women end 1.00

00:49:47.440 up resenting their husbands they really do and so what i would say honestly is i would i would date

00:49:55.160 if I was, all right, so you get 18 to 20, right? Now you're 20 to 25, let's say. Now you're on the

00:50:00.500 prowl. I would date a guy 10 to 15 years older. You're always going to be the young, hot one

00:50:05.980 in comparison, right? And those guys are going to be a bit more ready to settle down

00:50:13.100 than the guys in your age group. And they're going to understand a bit better how to run a

00:50:19.200 relationship. I don't know. But yeah, that's my two cents. I know this is very early stages. This

00:50:31.500 isn't going to be a long show tonight. I got stuff to do. But no more Collins, right? Okay.

00:50:37.820 So then the second part of today's show, you know, I want to talk about,

00:50:44.320 God, Ben Shapiro always gives me gold sometimes.

00:50:51.680 Ben Shapiro made this clip criticizing Andrew Tate,

00:50:58.220 and I wanted to go over it.

00:51:00.060 Why don't we pull it up?

00:51:04.380 Let me check the chat.

00:51:06.340 Oh, wait.

00:51:07.320 I can't do it on there.

00:51:08.640 It's all right.

00:51:09.140 Pull it up.

00:51:11.540 Well, if somebody tells you those things,

00:51:13.560 you know 100% that they are a grifter. They're a con man. They're trying to con you into something. 0.97

00:51:19.720 The most obvious sign of a con artist is somebody who's telling you that a well-known, well-worn

00:51:24.920 truth, something that is absolutely irrefutable, is not true. They know better. They know better

00:51:30.760 because they've seen through the matrix. They've seen through that truth. That truth is actually

00:51:35.840 a mask. Oh, I need to read the title here. Anyone who tells you to ignore marriage in favor of

00:51:42.460 impregnating lots of women and abandoning your children as a grifter, the kind of grifter who 0.99

00:51:47.880 also sells you meaningless platitudes for 50 bucks a month, guaranteeing you big money income for

00:51:55.280 little or no work. I'm not trying to be rude. Wait, don't. Wait, take it off the screen. Take

00:52:03.040 it off really quick um the daily wire subscription i don't i don't know i'm just trying to

00:52:12.920 okay we got 15 bucks a month i guess it's a little bit cheaper but isn't this kind of the

00:52:23.780 same thing look show on the screen you know 15 8

00:52:33.040 Isn't that a bit hypocritical? Am I crazy? Okay, whatever.

00:52:38.840 Or the underlying reality. Now, it may be that there are some widely held notions that are

00:52:44.780 untrue, but in order to debunk those notions, you would actually have to show why your notions

00:52:48.880 are better. However, if you are the kind of person who suggests, for example, that hard work

00:52:53.760 is useless, I have a better way, a better way, that better way is going to earn you fast money

00:52:58.500 without a lot of work, without getting yourself educated, without putting in the hours, without 0.89

00:53:02.360 developing a skill set, that person is conning you. They're lying to you. If somebody were to

00:53:07.320 tell you, for example, that there is an easy, easy way for you to get absolutely fit with no exercise

00:53:13.100 and eating trash, that person would be lying to you. That person would be conning you because

00:53:17.880 obviously you need to eat healthy and do exercise if you want to be in shape. I'll tell you what.

00:53:24.720 One of my clippers, he made a good amount of money using Tate's program.

00:53:31.080 I mean, he worked for us, so we actually do pay well here, you know.

00:53:37.660 And the biggest one of all, and has been held true by pretty much every griftery movement

00:53:41.520 of the last couple of centuries, is the idea that you should not get married, that marriage 1.00

00:53:45.960 is bad for you, that somehow marriage is going to ruin your life.

00:53:49.900 All right, let me do a whiteboard on this.

00:53:54.000 Let me do a whiteboard.

00:53:58.140 All right, guys.

00:54:01.080 So, Ben Shapiro, marriage is going to ruin your life.

00:54:09.840 I got to go through this with you, Ben.

00:54:12.200 Now, I know Ben and them, they accuse me of being a doom and gloomer.

00:54:17.040 And I would say that's true, but I'm a happy doom and gloomer.

00:54:20.520 I think my future is going to be awesome.

00:54:22.840 So, the issue you get, Ben, is we have the marriage system.

00:54:28.960 the marriage system is some rings here. So we yay, we got the rings, then you know 0.98

00:54:38.640 we got the man, the woman, the man, the woman, we're happy. Okay and then they're

00:54:51.480 together until the woman is not happy. So now she's unhappy and this is typically

00:55:02.540 five to seven years in. The kids, you know, they had their children.

00:55:12.020 Okay.

00:55:20.460 Oh, wait, let me get some hair here. 1.00

00:55:23.660 Now, the issue is the next thing that happens, and oftentimes in this part, they maybe had 1.00

00:55:30.480 a sexless marriage, you know, for a couple years, she maybe was a total bitch. 1.00

00:55:42.020 Calls him an abusive monster. 1.00

00:55:51.380 Okay. 0.98

00:55:52.700 Boom.

00:55:53.980 Then now they have the kids.

00:55:55.820 Then next, it's, you know, she's unhappy.

00:56:00.940 Then they divorce.

00:56:03.700 And then he loses money.

00:56:06.540 money, loses reputation, loses children, sometimes loses job, children, etc.

00:56:27.580 Now, mind you, many times, men in this stage,

00:56:34.580 they're eight to nine times more likely to kill themselves.

00:56:44.020 So it's not doom and gloom when, you know,

00:56:47.540 I had a guy run the numbers out of every 50 divorces 0.91

00:56:50.420 around like one guy may commit suicide.

00:56:53.820 If there was a pill, there's 100 marriages.

00:56:57.980 I can't remember the exact number,

00:56:59.560 but it was either one out of 50 or one out of 100.

00:57:02.120 I would never take a pill with those odds.

00:57:07.120 Never been, never.

00:57:09.460 So now he's here, and he's sad.

00:57:11.640 Now, men do fare better after divorce 0.99

00:57:14.520 if they make it to the other side, often,

00:57:17.160 because they can then date a younger, hotter chick, 0.99

00:57:19.880 and no longer controlled, whatever.

00:57:22.300 But this is the divorce wheel.

00:57:30.200 And so what you say to men is the men will look at the stats,

00:57:34.120 and the stats say 50% divorce rate,

00:57:40.120 50%, you know, 25% of marriages are sexless.

00:57:45.600 at least, right, maybe, let's just say, 15% chance to be called an abuser.

00:57:59.660 And the Tradcons, because they really believe in religion. 0.99

00:58:04.080 Now, mind you, I believe in God.

00:58:07.300 I'm not anti-God.

00:58:08.480 I'm not anti-religion.

00:58:10.400 But what they'll try to do is they'll, these are what I call the copes.

00:58:14.480 This is what they tend to do.

00:58:16.400 Pray harder.

00:58:20.240 If your wife left you, you just didn't pray hard enough.

00:58:26.400 Have you ever tried to pray a woman into doing something she doesn't want to do? 0.84

00:58:33.940 Good luck.

00:58:35.880 Good luck.

00:58:36.820 Then the next one is be a better man.

00:58:48.020 Blessing, are we ever happy as women?

00:58:52.400 Do you think women will just say, oh, he's good enough today? 0.99

00:58:59.700 Are there, you know, so let me try to be a better man for the marriage.

00:59:06.820 is a recipe for disaster then they'll say you know

00:59:13.060 therapy

00:59:16.340 go to therapy work it out but all the therapists are feminists 1.00

00:59:25.300 i'll think of more copes i'll come back i'm going to watch the rest of the video

00:59:36.820 i wish i could see the chat while i'm up there it'd be like a nice

00:59:45.000 well we'll figure out a way guys this is a new set

00:59:47.980 okay there are a lot of problems with the current legal structure of marriage

00:59:53.680 i agree with that critique of the current legal structure yeah so here he's saying

00:59:58.540 i agree guys this system is terrible

01:00:01.600 pearl would say but prepare for the worst fellas i'm sure he'll have a logical answer he cares

01:00:10.980 about stats doesn't he marriage no fault divorce is one of the worst things that ever happened to

01:00:15.520 us oh ben it was before that birth control was far more impactful people wanted to get divorced

01:00:23.460 anyways i mean they downplay the culture when they do this the culture people were going to

01:00:29.480 get divorced anyways civilization marriage is a commitment that commitment is lifelong there

01:00:35.780 should actually have to be a really really really good reason why but there's not ben again the

01:00:41.820 reality i understand you know religion you know then that goes back to pull the whiteboard up

01:00:48.880 pray harder pray harder oh you know what else i should add i just put these back in

01:00:55.240 i need someone writing over there in the future the next one is how the world should be not how

01:01:01.340 it is well it should be this way well it's not ben or divorcing and that's particularly true if

01:01:06.800 you have children because of course marriage is designed as the fundamental building block of

01:01:10.980 institutional society but it's not anymore sorry ben is the place where children are reared it is

01:01:17.780 the place where you produce children in the first place and children require stability it is from

01:01:22.820 of those fundamental building blocks of civilization. The little platoons, as Edmund Burke

01:01:26.720 called them, that you can actually build a functional free civilization, which is why

01:01:30.260 every griftery movement of the last couple of centuries has assaulted the family from the

01:01:34.260 outside. So for example, I'm not even trying to be rude, but I mean, if we're going to call a grifter

01:01:42.080 like who makes more money than Ben off of these. Okay. All right. Karl Marx, very big on assaulting

01:01:51.740 the family. The Communist Manifesto famously suggests abolition of the family. Why? Because

01:01:57.220 the family is a place where you might learn bourgeois values. It's a place where you might

01:02:01.080 be inculcated into things like responsibility, duty, church. These are all very bad things

01:02:05.900 according to the Marxist movement, which is why the Communist Manifesto says, on what foundation

01:02:09.960 is the present family, the bourgeois family based? On capital, on private gain. In its completely

01:02:14.780 developed form, this family exists only among the bourgeois. But this state of things finds its

01:02:18.580 compliments in the practical absence of the family among the proletarians and in public

01:02:22.060 prostitution. And so blowing up the family would allow for a better world. Don't get married. Fight 1.00

01:02:27.060 the fight. Blow up the traditional institutions that actually support a functional society.

01:02:32.840 No, no. No, no, Ben. No, no, no. Men just look at these options and they say, this is not great.

01:02:42.280 Women are paid to leave me. And if I look, if I pulled up, I don't want to flip it, 1.00

01:02:48.000 But if he pulled up the marriage wheel, I mean, would you, if you took a pill, there's a 1% chance you get so screwed up that you die. 0.97

01:02:59.880 Would you take it?

01:03:01.340 There's a 20% chance that, you know, she takes you to court maliciously, takes you away from your kids.

01:03:08.100 Then there's, okay, a 10% chance or 20% chance it's just a normal divorce.

01:03:14.480 50% chance you stay married, but a quarter of those are sexless.

01:03:18.000 i mean are you are you signing up

01:03:21.980 doesn't matter what i say the men aren't gonna sign up anyway and fight the fight this is also

01:03:30.140 why today the new york times has an entire article titled lessons from the 20 person polycule

01:03:35.180 because the new york times also wishes to destroy the fundamental basis of western civilization

01:03:39.860 namely the family and they wish to do this because they wish to build something new atop the ruins

01:03:45.480 They wish to create a society of atomized individuals who then can be molded and shaped

01:03:50.140 according to the whims of the New York Times.

01:03:51.960 Because once you're isolated from other human beings, once you have no duty to your family,

01:03:55.380 once you have no duty to kids, once you have no duty to the community that is built upon

01:03:58.940 those families, well, then we can militarize you in any possible direction, which is why

01:04:03.240 you've seen so many left-wing outlets lately pushing for polyamory.

01:04:07.260 All right, now let's talk about how polyamory is starting.

01:04:10.680 I think we need a whiteboard on this one.

01:04:12.360 All right. So I am going to make the case today that women are choosing polyamory, not men. Yes.

01:04:25.560 So if tomorrow all the men got together and said, we want to be with one woman for a lifetime, 0.76

01:04:35.220 the women would be the first ones to protest the women would be the first ones to complain 0.99

01:04:43.820 not the men so here we go we got we're gonna get all the men here now pretend I've done this

01:04:54.520 exercise before pretend these men are ranked from most desirable on top to least desirable on the

01:05:02.340 bottom. And all the women here. So, you know, first of all, there's more women than men on

01:05:19.580 the planet. So there actually is not somebody for everybody. I think maybe God created that

01:05:28.040 extra woman for hookers, someone's got to do it. Sorry, guys. I'm kidding. I'm kidding. Please 1.00

01:05:33.900 don't come for me, trad cons. So if all the men, so how do you see what people really want to do?

01:05:42.340 Now, a hundred years ago, there was cultural shame. If you got divorced, everyone would shun you.

01:05:50.220 Now, it's been 100 years, it's gone.

01:05:53.820 Step two, we gave women the freedom to divorce for whatever reason. 1.00

01:06:00.220 If you want to divorce, ladies, go. 1.00

01:06:02.920 I mean, as a man blessing, do you want to be with a woman that doesn't want to be with you?

01:06:08.520 So, I mean, like what, you guys want to force the women to stay?

01:06:11.900 No, if they don't want to be with you, go.

01:06:14.260 I know, I used to think ban no-fault divorce.

01:06:16.620 I changed my mind on that, guys, sorry.

01:06:20.060 So now women, you know, and women have the most sexual agency around 22, so the most sexual power. 1.00

01:06:28.060 Where men have the most sexual power, arguably 35, some would say higher, some would say lower, but let's just say 35.

01:06:34.540 When women are 22, we could pick to wait till marriage and be with one man for a lifetime. 1.00

01:06:43.620 Men don't really get that choice at 22.

01:06:45.960 Men have not built themselves up to the point where women want to marry them until they're older, unfortunately.

01:06:53.820 And so women, now the average age of first marriage now for women is 30. 1.00

01:07:01.880 Average age of first marriage for men, roughly around 30.

01:07:06.420 I think maybe like 31 or 32.

01:07:08.440 I'd have to look up the more recent.

01:07:09.880 But anyways, so meaning that men actually want to get married more than women.

01:07:17.380 Men want monogamy more than women because when men have the choice to choose it, more men pick it.

01:07:25.800 How can you see what someone wants to do when they have the freedom to do anything? 0.71

01:07:29.640 So when women got freedom, they said, screw these guys.

01:07:34.420 No, thank you. 0.98

01:07:35.220 We are all going to go here. 0.78

01:07:39.880 We're all going to screw the top men.

01:07:46.260 Now, I rest my case. 0.99

01:07:51.500 If you were not a virgin on your wedding night as a chick,

01:07:54.740 because what's a traditional marriage?

01:07:56.200 You're a virgin, right?

01:07:57.980 You didn't pick monogamy. 0.99

01:08:00.540 Women are the first ones with the choice. 1.00

01:08:02.360 And what the simps tend to do is they say the women didn't know,

01:08:07.120 we just got bamboozled, da-da-da-da-da-da-da.

01:08:09.880 not really I know chicks at 22 that got married but most women we don't want to do it 1.00

01:08:15.280 now I'm not saying it's bad or good I'm just saying what is and so the thing is now if Andrew

01:08:23.800 Tate let's just put him here let's just say that's Tate if the women are all saying yeah we want to 0.98

01:08:30.260 share this guy I would rather share this guy than be with that guy and the men are saying well yeah

01:08:36.680 this is awesome. Give me my three wives, baby. Most people, because the Tradcons ascribe

01:08:44.520 Christian morality to it. So they say, well, they're Christians or Ben's Jewish, whatever,

01:08:51.360 live by my standards. But most people really aren't that religious. And so what they'll say,

01:08:59.600 and typically over here, these are the guys that the women marry after they're done with these

01:09:05.780 guys, right? So they go to these guys, and then at 30, they're like, all right, shit, we'll go back 0.99

01:09:10.400 here. So, and you see this in dating apps. Remember, guys, this is becoming more and more out in the 0.98

01:09:17.140 open. Dating apps are showing this. That's the number one way people meet under 30. That's the

01:09:23.980 new normal, like it or not. And you can see this because there's men like Dan Bolzerian,

01:09:29.720 who have screwed like 500 chicks or whatever. I forgot what number he says. A lot, right? 0.70

01:09:35.780 Anyways, so I would argue that women, if all the men got together and said, 0.99

01:09:41.840 we're going to be with one woman for a lifetime, the women would be the first to complain. 1.00

01:09:47.240 Because when women are given the choice, they want to be with the top guys. 0.77

01:09:56.720 Did I forget anything, Blessing?

01:09:58.380 so a lot of these trad con women will come in and say 1.00

01:10:04.420 Andrew Tate is so evil he is the worst how could you how could you accept

01:10:12.500 you know that he's having multiple baby mothers or whatever 0.70

01:10:17.660 and I say ladies I hope you have that same energy for the non-virgin women 1.00

01:10:24.400 now i i'm not really a scribe man if that's what tate wants to do is baby mamas are happy with it 0.92

01:10:32.100 i don't really care you know that's that's his thing or he wants to impregnate a bunch of chicks 1.00

01:10:36.560 it's not my problem you know as long as the chicks are happy with it so you know 1.00

01:10:46.500 a lot of you guys do this simping it just kind of annoys me again as i said

01:10:53.360 As I said, if we took away, if every man said monogamy for life, the women would be the first 0.97

01:11:06.900 ones to cry. We really would. If the Communist Manifesto once pushed for polyamory and the

01:11:12.200 holding of all sexes in common. Oh, and by the way, I'd like to clarify, Ben, we're actually

01:11:17.280 in polyamory already. As you know, women are not getting married till 30. Men are not getting 0.98

01:11:23.160 married till 30. What do we do before 30? Usually people will date one or two more people. Hookup

01:11:29.740 culture is rampant. So again, we're not really in monogamy now. It's kind of been dead.

01:11:36.700 So for example, today, the New York Times says, quote,

01:11:39.520 the word polycule is a synthesis of polyamory, engaging multiple romantic relationships and

01:11:44.200 molecule. It's not clear when the word was coined, but it seems to have started catching on around

01:11:48.000 15 years ago to suggest an intricate structure formed of people with overlapping deep attachments,

01:11:52.360 romantic sexual sensual platonic it's difficult to describe a polycule words like family and

01:11:58.200 network are used but neither on its own captures it perhaps it's best left to a polycule to offer

01:12:01.960 descriptions now again personally that would not be my thing but this is gonna be normal guys get

01:12:10.720 used to it you're gonna see more poly couples you might not like it it's coming buckle up

01:12:17.700 are the voices and images of people who are part of a polycule in the boston area

01:12:22.620 Katie says, the word, the polycule is like this weird family.

01:12:25.620 Anne says, it's a chosen family.

01:12:27.800 It works like complex kinship networks work, only a little kinkier.

01:12:31.660 It reflects radical queer values. 0.97

01:12:34.100 Well, I mean, of course it does.

01:12:36.020 Of course it does.

01:12:37.360 Because the basic idea of the left is that every single person is basically a malleable

01:12:45.660 widget violating the strictures of the evil society, right?

01:12:49.240 This is part of the big con.

01:12:50.140 the big con is the idea that there are things like gender roles and these gender roles are

01:12:53.380 rooted in biology but if you can see through that immutable truth then you will have destroyed

01:12:58.480 the matrix this is i hate people that use big words for no reason i'm so sorry it's just

01:13:03.500 just speak immutable what the hell does that mean perspective of the left and this is why they fight

01:13:10.240 the family this is also why children have basically become to this group of people

01:13:15.100 a tote bag it's something that you occasionally have in order to manipulate in a particular

01:13:20.220 form or fashion but this is not restricted to the left the attack on the family is not

01:13:24.440 unfortunately restricted to the political left all grifters all con men have to take immutable

01:13:29.920 truths i wonder would he call me a con man do i get con man you think he would would he

01:13:34.400 would i be con man status according to this i can't hear you blessing i think he'd give you that

01:13:42.020 What?

01:13:45.020 Rude.

01:13:45.860 And they have to attempt to subvert

01:13:47.520 those immutable truths in favor of something only they-

01:13:50.480 Can I eat a peanut?

01:13:51.740 I'm really hungry.

01:13:54.500 Thank you.

01:13:55.340 Covered something incredible that you never knew about.

01:13:58.520 And if only you take that red pill, then you'll know it.

01:14:01.340 You'll know it.

01:14:02.180 And then you'll be,

01:14:03.020 you won't have to do hard work in order to be rich.

01:14:04.600 You won't have to be a good person

01:14:06.100 in order to attract a good mate. 0.99

01:14:07.800 You won't have to spend the time-

01:14:10.540 Ben.

01:14:12.660 Women sent Ted Bundy love letters. 0.52

01:14:25.480 Again, if nice guys finished first, then you would see more men telling each other to do it.

01:14:31.240 I don't know what to tell you.

01:14:32.620 Your children, in order to be a successful man, they've discovered the secret.

01:14:37.200 The leader on this side of the movement is, of course, Andrew Tate.

01:14:40.140 We'll get some more on this in a moment.

01:14:41.360 And first, the cost of living has already increased 17% this year.

01:14:44.440 I will be plugging nothing.

01:14:45.820 I will be plugging nothing.

01:14:50.160 Start a little bit of money and precious metals.

01:14:52.700 Text Ben to 98, 98, 98 to get started.

01:14:54.880 Who then started a webcam business, grooming.

01:14:57.700 Start a little bit of money and precious metals.

01:14:59.700 Text Ben to 98, 98, 98 to get started.

01:15:02.520 Andrew Tate, who got his start as a provocative reality TV star,

01:15:06.220 who then started a webcam business, grooming women into sex. 0.88

01:15:09.920 There we go. 0.97

01:15:10.620 grooming. Please stop simping. Stop simping. I'm begging you. No, no, no. If they're above 18,

01:15:23.240 they can make a choice. If they're above 18, they can make a choice. 0.88

01:15:29.140 Trafficking effectively. And that is according to his own admission. That's how he made his money.

01:15:34.800 Whether he says that they were groomed or not groomed, the reality is he groomed women

01:15:38.280 into the only reason they can do this is because they've expanded the definite they've changed

01:15:46.840 these words they've expanded the definitions to include damn near anything in it again if i went

01:15:53.220 on a date with a guy i had no interest in did i groom him into paying for me

01:15:57.500 if a man of a woman i think because he he would tell the girls he was in love with them or

01:16:07.080 whatever and say, do cam work, something like that. I can't remember. If a woman does cam work 1.00

01:16:12.700 for a guy she thinks she's in love with, is it an L? Yeah. Take the L. You weren't groomed.

01:16:19.820 Getting into the webcam industry, which is pornography. Well, Andrew Tate has this,

01:16:24.660 this is his game. His game, Andrew Tate, he's become incredibly popular online for a reason,

01:16:28.460 which we'll examine in a moment. Number one, Andrew Tate is very entertaining. He's entertaining

01:16:32.720 because he explodes the myths. But the way that he quote-unquote explodes the myths is he plays

01:16:37.880 a really stupid game. It's a game for stupid people. The game is like this. I'm going to say 1.00

01:16:43.620 two transgressive things, things that violate the taboos of the culture around me. One of those

01:16:49.440 things is true, and one of those things is false. But because they are both transgressive, and

01:16:54.360 because people will oppose me on both of them, one for bad reasons and one for good reasons,

01:16:58.260 this means that I have somehow gotten under the skin of the matrix. Everyone opposes me,

01:17:03.100 which is why I'm a rebel. That's Andrew Tate's entire game. So he will say things like,

01:17:07.040 feminism has ruined men by usurping the male role and robbing men of their initiative. 1.00

01:17:12.060 That is a true thing. That is a true thing that is not politically correct to say.

01:17:17.020 Then he will say another transgressive thing that is absolutely false. Like, for example,

01:17:21.880 women love it when you treat them like garbage, and you should treat women like garbage. And 1.00

01:17:25.160 Dominant men are the kind of men who treat women like garbage. 1.00

01:17:29.340 So, Ben, I used to think they were lying about this. 0.99

01:17:32.500 I really did.

01:17:34.060 Until I started interviewing chicks, and I'd ask them about their ex-boyfriend.

01:17:39.560 Every chick, the guy that she would talk the most about, the toxic, abusive, terrible ex.

01:17:48.360 Good chicks, Christian chicks, non, it didn't even matter. 1.00

01:17:52.600 It didn't matter. 0.94

01:17:53.700 Women love bad boys. 1.00

01:17:55.160 It's just true. You might not like the truth, but I mean, I'm not trying to be rude, Ben, but

01:17:59.220 you married young. You have no idea what's going on out there. So, so I don't know why you're on

01:18:06.180 these shows pretending, you know, that is not a true thing. It's a transgressive thing.

01:18:12.660 And it's transgressive specifically because it's evil. It is a bad thing to say. It is a bad thing

01:18:17.540 to think women should not be treated like trash and good women do not want to be treated like 0.99

01:18:21.720 trash. And you're treating women like trash is not going to make your life better. And it's not 0.99

01:18:24.440 going to make their life better. But it is a transgressive thing to say. It is taboo. And so

01:18:28.200 Andrew Tate has violated so many taboos and he can get away with it because, of course, the rules

01:18:32.720 don't apply to him. He's a Nietzschean ubermensch because he is very, very buff and because he works

01:18:37.400 out a lot and because he smokes cigars. And this means you should listen to him. You should listen

01:18:41.120 to him, in fact, so much that you should pay him $49.99 a month to join Hustlers University where

01:18:46.140 you will learn other secrets. Like, for example, you don't need hard work and initiative in order

01:18:50.540 to really get ahead. You can learn his magical methods for making lots and lots of money. You

01:18:55.620 can own a Bugatti just like Andrew Tate owns a Bugatti. And all you have to do is listen to his

01:19:01.560 magical business advice, which explodes all of the matrix, explodes the matrices of truth,

01:19:06.940 the immutable truths. Now, why am I talking about Andrew Tate today? The reason I'm talking about

01:19:10.480 He's so jealous. He comes off as very jealous in this.

01:19:14.600 Tate today is because Andrew Tate, again, playing the two transgressive things, one true, one false

01:19:20.600 game, has over the past few months said some true things and then said a lot of false things, all of

01:19:25.380 them transgressive, right? So the true thing that he has said is he said, quote, I pray Christianity

01:19:29.520 regains its strength and protects its societies against the pervasive and constant erosion of

01:19:33.880 morality by the devotees of Satan. If you accept everything, you stand for nothing. I agree with

01:19:38.800 literally every word of that Andrew Tate statement, that Christianity ought to regain its strength 0.99

01:19:44.780 and protect its society against the pervasive and constant erosion of morality by the devotees

01:19:49.060 of Satan. I agree with all of those things, actually. Then Andrew Tate will put out tweets

01:19:54.620 like the one that he did yesterday. Oh, this was kind of funny. Here is Andrew Tate's tweet,

01:20:00.200 and this is why it comes up in the context of marriage. Again, he is telling you an immutable

01:20:03.120 truth must be exploded. That immutable truth is the fundamental good and necessity of family.

01:20:08.420 Quote, dear white men, you're effed.

01:20:11.320 You're being replaced because none of you have children. 0.74

01:20:13.720 Okay, so again, even within this tweet,

01:20:15.800 he is saying a couple of things,

01:20:17.780 all transgressive, some true, some false.

01:20:20.200 One, Western societies are not reproducing

01:20:23.200 a replacement rate.

01:20:23.840 That's a very bad thing.

01:20:24.660 We've talked about that on the show a lot.

01:20:26.640 It is why, for example, family is necessary,

01:20:28.480 but he goes further because of course this is his game

01:20:30.640 to say many transgressive things,

01:20:32.160 some true, some false. 0.55

01:20:32.960 Quote, dear white men, you're effed. 0.67

01:20:34.680 You're being replaced because none of you have children. 0.95

01:20:36.260 even those of you about the replacement online like little girls don't find the gumption to f

01:20:42.260 i see white men bragging about having five kids as if it's an achievement 0.98

01:20:45.620 oh five lol per year right oh all you white boys lost control of your women he's a genius y-o-u 0.99

01:20:58.360 apostrophe r-e all you white boys lost control of your women and now they won't accept multiple 0.96

01:21:03.840 wives anymore now they tell you they don't want should i tell my dad that seven biological kids 0.94

01:21:09.560 wasn't enough blessing should i tell him should i should i call him and say dad why didn't you

01:21:19.120 have five kids per year okay one's enough okay again just move the apostrophe in any case put

01:21:30.240 aside the grammatical picayune concerns is they don't want to do their god-given job anymore no

01:21:36.480 they want instagram likes instead so your genetic potential is stumped by the whims of some singular

01:21:40.860 female a female who takes nine whole months to grow a single baby other races have multiple 0.99

01:21:44.960 ovens for bread we're not cucked some is screaming at you about loyalty and you're sitting there 1.00

01:21:49.300 saying yes baby off to porn when she's asleep or maybe cheating with a side condom on oh no i 1.00

01:21:54.760 couldn't get another woman pregnant my wife would kill me total effing losers yeah okay so 1.00

01:21:59.560 look like it or not women are picking this ben go go show my my board please go show my board 1.00

01:22:08.440 yeah women want to screw the top men and women have the freedom now to do whatever we want 1.00

01:22:15.340 there's no consequences

01:22:16.940 that's what you're gonna see like it or not and i think what he's talking about more

01:22:24.080 is most men let their wives run the show how many men 0.97

01:22:30.440 really and especially white guys i mean how many really run their relationships

01:22:39.780 it's it's not common keep keep going soon your race will be nothing more than a few pages in a

01:22:47.300 history book a lesson on what happens when you f the female psyche so hard they're obsessed with 0.92

01:22:51.240 money and social media as opposed to being one of many baby factories for a king 30 children

01:22:55.840 minimum for the dons white people go talk to your best friend wife about what to do this weekend 0.95

01:23:00.040 maybe you can take a nice walk around ikea that's so funny i don't care what it even says enjoy 0.63

01:23:07.780 extinction okay so again one true thing many false things one true thing people need to be having

01:23:14.720 more kids in western civilization the many false things marriage is bad loyalty to your spouse 0.86

01:23:19.700 is bad society can be built on men running around having sex with 30 women and having

01:23:24.900 then it's always how it's always happened it's like one out of 100 people is from genghis khan

01:23:30.680 i don't apply morality to it i've seen too much guys i don't apply morality to it my morality me 0.93

01:23:38.740 saying hey top guys stop screwing so many chicks stop doing it or ladies stop being a side chick 1.00

01:23:47.820 to the top guy is utterly useless i used to kind of do stuff like that and i just 0.97

01:23:56.120 i've grown up because what i've seen is i've seen conservatives lose the culture war for 50 years

01:24:03.600 feminism has won ladies buckle up um you wanted equality here it is 1.00

01:24:11.840 women have every freedom to do what we want now you're gonna see it happen 1.00

01:24:16.980 kids per year and this is the and saying to the top guys like ben is now 0.89

01:24:22.020 stop screwing stop screwing men stop it stop screwing it's like what is that gonna do nothing

01:24:32.140 who measure of a man and young men think of that like wow that sounds amazing because of course 0.99

01:24:39.040 the male sex drive looks for various women that is just that's the women picking it it's the women 1.00

01:24:43.760 that mammalian biology is built. Men, males seek to impregnate many females. And so that sounds

01:24:50.420 great to a bunch of young men who are off to Andrew Tate's webcam business. It sounds amazing

01:24:55.960 to them. That's also not how societies are built. But again, the idea is, and this is how you know

01:24:59.800 it's a con, marriage is bad. He's actively saying that marriage is bad because if you're a person

01:25:06.420 who has five kids, LOL. Now, Andrew Tate himself claims that he has double digit kids. We've never

01:25:13.440 met any of those kids we don't know exactly who the moms are they maybe it's like a girlfriend

01:25:16.640 in canada we don't actually know but for those of us who do have say four kids i have four kids

01:25:22.140 i've been married for 15 years if you have four kids double the replacement rate you are in fact

01:25:28.460 doing your societal job and this sounds like a cope yeah and there's nothing wrong with having

01:25:37.480 kids, you know, but having four kids, you know, I think he's kind of being hyperbolic, but

01:25:43.060 I think more of the point that Andrew's trying to make is that men shouldn't be run by their 0.97

01:25:52.860 wives. And if that's what he wants to do, that's what he wants to do. And me crying about it isn't

01:25:59.060 going to make the top men stop screwing. There's a child support case in California that Shaw told 0.95

01:26:06.300 me about they had like 13 kids by 13 different women am i gonna stop them yeah right should be 1.00

01:26:14.020 doing that but that can only exist functional children children who are going to propagate

01:26:18.740 good values require a father in the home see here's the thing if you knock a bunch of ladies 1.00

01:26:22.720 and you leave you have created a generation of young men who are incapable of raising themselves

01:26:28.420 wait let me say that again a generation father and only exist functional children children who

01:26:41.020 are going to propagate good values require a father in the home i don't know ben the muslims 1.00

01:26:46.640 have figured it out i don't look at i i'm not saying

01:26:52.880 look i'm not saying the right or the wrong way to do it but i mean a whole part of the world

01:27:01.000 has multiple wives i don't think it's the end of the world see here's the thing if you knock

01:27:04.800 a bunch of ladies and again it's not it's not my choice the top men they're just gonna they're

01:27:10.180 gonna screw that's what's gonna happen but women don't have to have any kids they don't want to 1.00

01:27:14.860 women are in 100 control of who is born so if women don't want to be a single mother 1.00

01:27:20.120 they don't have to be and you leave you have created and again that's really on the women 1.00

01:27:24.500 i mean you women are 100 in control of who we sleep with so you see this is again back to the 1.00

01:27:31.520 sim thing he does this entire speech shaming the men did he put anything in here shaming the women

01:27:37.900 for screwing the top men no he said the grooming i just a generation of young men who are incapable

01:27:46.640 of raising themselves

01:27:50.120 when i look at what's going on i see a lot more women that can't raise themselves or whatever 1.00

01:27:59.140 the effects of single motherhood in the united states are very well known you're talking about

01:28:02.080 higher levels of drug use higher levels of crime that's not what he says though he says he's still

01:28:06.700 involved in the kids lives i'm based on what i've heard levels of poverty higher levels of suicidal

01:28:11.980 ideation it creates actual pathologies and that is what andrew tate is promoting because he is a

01:28:18.040 con artist yeah and he's conning you that that's the way the world's going ben like it or not you

01:28:23.280 can take it down i'm getting kind of sleepy guys sorry i wish i scripted this show a little better

01:28:28.560 today because i'm just kind of tired but you know um yeah guys look i don't i'm not here to tell you

01:28:37.020 how i'd wish the world is going to be i'm not here to rob a genie and you know make wishes

01:28:45.260 The future is single parents prepare for the worst. 1.00

01:28:48.460 If I was 18 again, I would tell chicks to, you know, fight for what you want and win. 1.00

01:28:53.380 Luckily, women are fatter than ever. 1.00

01:28:55.400 Women are more slutty than ever. 1.00

01:28:57.560 It's easier than ever to win as a woman because the competition really is not that steep. 0.99

Pearl - April 17, 2024

Things Your Mother Should Have Told You ｜ Pearl Daily

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