Pearl - April 17, 2024Things Your Mother Should Have Told You ｜ Pearl Daily
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Summary
In this episode of Pearl Daily, I talk about the things we wish our mothers would have told us when we were growing up, and why we should have listened to them. I also talk about how women are the last generation of semi-traditional women and why it s time to go back to being a traditional wife and mother.
Transcript
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What up, guys? Welcome to the Audacity Network, and welcome to another episode of Pearl Daily,
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has media that really depicts reality instead of what women want to hear and what women want to
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be on the screen. Okay, so today's topic, I want to know in the chat, today's topic, I want to talk
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about things we wish that our mothers told you, told us. So I have been doing interviews for about
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three, four years, and it's actually crazy the amount of people that I have met, like I've done
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street interviews in Miami. I've done them in Vegas. I've done them in London. I've done them
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in Ireland, Germany. Like I have literally gone all over the world, done street interviews. I've
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lived all over the world. And I found commonalities when interviewing women. And what I found is women
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around the age of 70 to 90 seem to be the last generation of semi-traditional women.
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women between the ages of 40 to maybe 70 years old they tend to be the women that
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they might not have divorced but they they were really quarrelsome rebellious contentious this
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is the first generation of women that went to work they were on birth control and what they did was
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they lied to their daughters this was the generation of women they might not have divorced
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but they wanted to make sure they had a backup plan and they told their daughters to never trust
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a man to never need a man then you get the generation of women between say 40 to 60 years
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old maybe 35 to 40 yeah 35 let's just say 45 35 to 55 years old and that was the first generation
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of truly shitty wives. I mean, that generation
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was the first generation to really divorce. Half of the marriages of that generation ended in
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divorce, so much so that the next generation of women really didn't get married. You know,
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the skills of a traditional wife and mother were just lost. You know, a hundred years
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after women decided we wanted to work, we wanted to vote, we wanted to be equal to men,
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you know, we all got together and decided we didn't need a man. And so, you know, my findings
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from interviewing men the last three years, men and women, about relationships is there are things
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that our generation wishes our mother told us. Because unfortunately, older women have not been
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overly helpful to younger women in terms of getting results in dating. You have one group
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which says go back to traditionalism, even though most people meet on dating apps nowadays.
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You have another group that says you don't need a man and to do your own thing.
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And you have another group that, you know, kind of raises women to be boys. And so the question I
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really had for the audience is what, and I really wanted to talk to women today,
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what do you wish your mother told you I'm gonna put a and this is a book I'm
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writing it's the the things your mother should have told you I'm so I'm gonna
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put a link in the chat and I'm really curious to hear from the women and I'm
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probably gonna read a little bit of what I have written here I'm trying to find
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Okay, so I would always say, if you started over at 18, right, if I could go back and
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I was 18 again, I think the first thing you should do as a chick is focus on fitness.
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If you are not in good shape, it's got to be your number one draft pick, you know, and
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what i would do if i was 18 is i would go into a field that would pay me to be good looking so that
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is personal trainer nutritionist and what i would do is i would go back and i would get as much
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information as i could about nutrition because unfortunately ladies you can't really get into
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the door without the looks so do we have any girls on the line and guys this is just for the women
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today. Hold on, actually, I want to check the chat. Mrs. Ziegler says on the
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audacitynetwork.com, my mom told me this good advice, a way to a man's heart is
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through his stomach. I'm gonna pull up the chat on YouTube, too.
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I want to find, there's a chick going viral right now.
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I want to find okay should I want to go on the whiteboard can I go on the
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whiteboard are there any girls that called in probably not yet right oh I
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thought oh am I supposed to put it yes I did yes I did you asked me right before
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for if I wanted to call in. No, I was talking about reacting. Okay, well, I'm
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gonna show them anyway. This mic works, right? Because I'm kind of a visual person,
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guys. So I kind of want to show you guys. One second.
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Okay, so this is just what I found from interviewing people.
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All right, so we've got to get me a better marker out here.
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These are the women, maybe let's just say 70 to 90 years old.
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So remember, guys, now we have everything documented, but a lot of women act like they
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Okay, but what I found is the 70 to 90-year-old women, you know, they're semi-traditional.
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You know, women, birth control came in in the 60s, 70s.
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But what happened with these women, their daughters, their daughters were about.
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So these women, they might have separated at times.
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And generally, when I interview this age group of women
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and I ask them if they listen to their husbands,
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if they need a man, if they believe in divorce,
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um and the issue is that even though these women might have stayed married they instilled
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fear into their daughters now the worst thing you can do to women is scare them they said what if
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he leaves you high and dry what if he becomes abusive what if he you know what if he you need
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to have a backup plan so the 50 to 70 year old women said yeah sure now these women
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and it's like 50 50 here on the good wives now the first generation of truly shitty wives
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the let's just go now let's go 35 to 50 roughly
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these women were terrible terrible wives this these women are a lot of the reason that we have
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all of the issues we have today they pushed misandry they pushed hating men you know and
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a lot of these women they were married when social media came into the picture
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they divorced their husbands i these it's like i can count maybe how many trad women i've met
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in this they're mostly divorced or shitty wives because again it all started these women might
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have stayed married but the bad wives from this generation instilled fear into this generation
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and said you always need a backup plan and so then this generation of women saw this generation
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of women be selfish mothers divorce their husbands or completely tried to domineer and
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control the relationship and then 35 and under are so bad this is my generation
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We are so bad, we are not even, see this always goes, not even making it down the aisle.
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And now, I'll tell you why my generation of women is especially bad.
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because now this generation kind of knew how to cook.
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They knew how to take care of a household, right?
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This generation, maybe half of them still had the skills.
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This generation, all the traditional skills were gone, wiped away.
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This generation, yeah, there's less than 10%, 5%.
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Myron also verified this when I was in a space with him the other day.
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But I'll tell you why especially it's not great.
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Now, I'd like to clarify before we go into this.
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I would not in any way, shape, or form consider myself trapped.
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Everybody who would always say, Pearl, you're not traditional, I know.
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But as women, I think we should try to point out the elite women.
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But I think when you look and analyze the elite men, you can learn something from them.
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I think as women, we can do the same thing.
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So these are women that were taught how to manage their husbands,
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You know those women where they just, you come in the room
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And they just, they know how to make the men feel like men.
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met a woman like that, yeah, they rarely exist, yeah.
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Oh, in shape, no fatties, and puts the family, and traditionalism at its core, is the family
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And the reason this correlates to married before 25 is because traditional women spend
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their youth on their family and not themselves.
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they've actually seen a successful relationship I would say it's very
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difficult damn near impossible to be a traditional woman
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oh I said can cook but yeah like a cookbook that that works too cookbook so again typically a
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question I'll ask when on the show is that I would ask if you can cook and the women would always say
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yes and I could tell you the difference of how you can tell a woman who can cook versus can't
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cook. Women that can't cook, they often say steak or salmon. Women that can cook can detail step
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by step how they make the dishes, and they typically will know traditional dishes from
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their family. Now, a way that I would say I really wasn't raised overly traditional is
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it wasn't like I had family dinner every night. I was in the gym. You know, I don't know Irish
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recipes that wasn't really a big thing, even though I'm Irish, you know.
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But women that were raised like that, that's typically what they can do.
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And this is why trad women are, like, especially annoying,
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And actually, I don't like saying trad because I use that,
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but like a real traditional woman with a husband.
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she gives virginity serving his needs um her youth
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and he might give her the husband gives her
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bills taken oh I forgot children what am I doing she gives him children and he might
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take care of the bills. He might protect the family, protect slash die for the family.
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You know, and so if you think of a traditional date, he opens the doors, pays for the date,
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and, you know, in exchange, he gets purity, youth, serving his needs and children.
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Now, the problem you get with the fake trads, now, again, I'd like to clarify, not a trad, not a trad, is they typically marry past, oh, wait, feeds family.
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Now, again, this can change a little bit because we are in the modern world.
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There are husbands that maybe they prefer Uber Eats.
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maybe you know they're they don't care they have a chef they you know you like I saw that Alex
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Hormosa and the Layla chick I think their name is I mean the guy doesn't seem to care if they
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eat out or eat in there's couples like that they're kind of exceptions though most people
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can't afford to eat out every day oh and he might fix stuff that's another stuff around the house
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And you can tell that they weren't raised to be a wife.
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Again, I haven't really seen real wives in four generations.
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You can tell because they'll say things like they'll tell men how to talk.
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That is inherently out of order because the natural order of the world goes God, men, women, children.
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And if the women think they have authority to tell the men how to talk, right there, that is not traditional.
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You'll see when they're in a couple, the woman will always answer first when they're asked a question as a couple.
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When in a more traditional relationship, she would know to look to the husband first, again.
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Typically, they have two kids, so, you know, they're on some sort of birth control in general.
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It's not like if you got married before 25 and you make it to 40.
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And, again, this doesn't mean bad person at all, but the fake trads, you know, they have a sense of entitlement.
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Because they expect the traditional treatment from the husband, the bills all paid for, protect and die for your family, you know, all of this without offering, you know, virginity, youth, all of that.
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And so that's where the disconnected, it's not a fair trade, you know.
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So most women will make the compromise, only one out of four women gets to stay home.
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So, you know, as women, if we get married past the age of, say, 25 or odds are you'll have to take care of a percentage of the family bills for a lifetime because we didn't do it the traditional way.
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Doesn't mean it's the end of the world, you know, life goes on.
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But and then you'll see the fake trad women saying, you know, because I think I heard one of them, I can't remember which one.
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they'll say the bare minimum is a man to pay for the date but if you guys really
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knew the history of traditionalism you know the women actually gave the dowry
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to the men because women don't typically like men that serve them we like men that
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we serve because femininity at its core is serving the men its selflessness
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that's truly what it is and the way we do dating now I think it's kind of out
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order because again it's the men planning the date serving the woman when again women only like
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men that we serve so does that make sense blessing did i did i did i break this down all right so a
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more fair trade right now we're in 2024 so if you're not and again no fret ladies it's not the
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end of the world you know don't don't everyone thinks i'm saying you're a bad person or you
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should look up to me. No, there's better role models. I'm just an analyst. Now, if we go modern
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chicks, the trade is you give one to two kids. Again, this is why the trads are annoying. It's
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like a pretend you know one to two children work part-time for life most women you know unless
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you're top like 20% of chicks that's the future buckle up ladies you know you might not like it
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I know all the all the trads will say Pearl's a feminist because I live in reality ladies only
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one out of four women gets to stay home it's called buckle up anyways um work part-time
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and then you know so you you're like 30 whatever
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35 or maybe 28 27 but I mean whatever you guys want to put danger zone yeah and then the man
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you know still you still get the protection provisioning you know and then you know maybe
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it's 60% of the bills. I don't know, 60%. It can vary, different households. Normal guy.
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And boom, that's life. So that's why the trad chicks are annoying, because they say,
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you're not a real man if you don't treat me traditionally. But I mean, we've had four
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generations of shitty wives, if I'm being honest, guys.
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You know, four generations ago, they separated.
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And then the last generation is not even making it down the aisle.
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I'm not here to sell dreams. I think it's mean to sell dreams
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because selling hope instead of saying, prepare for the worst,
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I think I'm nicer, you know. So I'd like to get you guys' thoughts. So, sorry, I got a little
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nervous before. I am, let me put my thing down. I am writing something called Things Your Mother
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Should Have Told You. And it's kind of like if I was 18 again, if I was telling a chick,
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all right, you're 18, this is what I would do. I would say, chica, first, if you're fat, we got
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to get you to the gym we got to get in shape we got to get into nutrition and that should be your
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number one goal you're 18 you have two years till you're 20 stay pure stay chaste and get in super
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good shape then you're 20 and I would get a job that pays you to stay in shape then you're 20
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I would get a job I would think about the type of guy you want to date so let's just say you're
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let's just say you're a german chick i'm german you know partially maybe you want to marry an
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american boy where can you go in germany where do americans hang out are there american bars
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are there american clubs you know i grew up with nannies and i'll tell you what guys
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nannies come to america at times on a mission there was one nanny i had she was from germany
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and I'll tell you what that woman oh no no she was from South Africa I lied South Africa I got
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the country wrong and she was from South Africa and she came to America and that woman was on a
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mission she did not want to return to South Africa I think there was like farm killings or something
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it was dangerous where she was from and she was not going back there she was married within a year
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oh yeah she was getting that visa not coming back guys and you know
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because she she figured out okay the guys work out at this gym
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she went that she was interested in she went to that gym
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and then i would say you know you want to learn to cook the meals those type of guys would want
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to eat so if you want to get a fitness bro you get the meal prep maybe you want to
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a German guy, you learn some corned beef, you know, and then you got to think of what skills
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would be complimentary to the guy you want to be with. So I'll give you an example. You want
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to marry a guy that wears suits every day. You got to figure out how to like tie the tie, you know.
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I'm just, I'm just coming up with examples, but if I was 18 again, I would say that would be the
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best way to go about it. Now, you can take it or leave it. I'm not saying I have all the answers.
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This is just my opinion. But what I want to know is, from the audience, is there, women,
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yeah, yeah. Is there bad advice or good advice that your mom gave? And what do you, I got to
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put my headphones back in. What do you wish your mother told you? Jan, I'm going to read the chat.
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I'm a happily married woman who has a bad marriage to compare to. Just give the man food and something
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worth to protect. If there's nothing to protect, it's only going to be fun. Overweight is the
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reason I usually don't want to date a girl. Okay, so who do we have on the line?
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And oh wait, and to start, I'm sorry guys, I'm new to the call-ins. To start again, please put your
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phone down here like this okay no hands like set it somewhere and also please please speak clearly
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into the microphone um or if you have a mic don't if you're going to be a troll we're trying to have
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a serious conversation here i'm going to kick you off if you're going to over talk me i'm going to
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kick you off if you bring your own topic about what you want to talk about i'm also going to
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kick you off. Today is just for the ladies. I do male call-in shows all the time, so today I just
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wanted to talk to the women. What is something, what is advice your mom gave you that maybe was
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good or bad, and what do you wish your mom told you? All right, so I didn't listen to my parents
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when they told me my first husband was not good husband material and that is because he did not
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come from a good family you know he he was raised by a single mom who uh did not know his father's
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name and um she also was um a lesbian as well oh wow and so there was a lot of things there
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were a lot of red flags that even though he was a nice guy and he you know seemed nice smart great
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he just wouldn't he wouldn't understand that marriage is a lifetime commitment because I
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got the hybrid message um so I I was raised to learn how to cook and to clean and to be a wife
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but also to have a career so that my my parents are like he's not he doesn't understand what this
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means and you got to get along with the family because of that tension when I did get pregnant
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after we were married his mother just was so upset with me because obviously when you're
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the pastor's daughter in a town of 300 people and you get pregnant out of wedlock you know that
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creates tension in your family so she was upset with me for my family being excited you know that
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we were going to have a child how old and so 26 okay so 26 so we were 25 when we got married and
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26 when i had was pregnant with the first child and we miscarried and he was so excited that he
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was like thank god you know we didn't you know i didn't need that and i was like devastated i was
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like you're excited our baby died you know and um it just his mother and her girlfriend at the time
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just kept intervening with this um with our into our marriage and it eventually caused this this
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complete and total breakdown when i got pregnant with the second shot you know what is now my
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daughter and so my parents kind of said we told you so yeah so i had to own up to that
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and so i'm curious what problems would you say it caused that like just like day-to-day problems
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does it cause when you date a guy that doesn't have a good family background a lot of times
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he would prioritize seeing his friends whenever they needed something because well I've known
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them longer he didn't understand that as a wife then I I took it like a different role in his life
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and so he's like but I've known my best friend for so many years so he takes priority so if my
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best friend's lonely then I'm going to just leave and not stay home for dinner and you know I'm like
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we're married you know we're we have and so he was never home and that was one thing that caused
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a strain in the relationship not understanding that he needed to financially provide so we were
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homeless for a period of time um and then another big thing this was right after we were no longer
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homeless we had just gotten an apartment he had signed the lease with a best friend of his
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and we were living in florida because that's where his mom was living
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i'd flown back to illinois where my family's from and i got an you know that's when i was visiting
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to get an ultrasound that was when we found out i was having a girl and um so this friend decided
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he was going to sign the lease with my husband so their names were on the lease but he wasn't
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he didn't have a job wasn't paying any rent okay so he was kind of he was kind of he was kind of a
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bum like pretty much right yeah and i was i said you know hey you know since we're married and
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we're just now getting on our feet we have a baby on the way the second bedroom is for the baby
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this is not for this grown adult who is able to take care of himself and he's like no no no no no
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no, no, he, he gets that room. And my childhood bedroom furniture that I had saved for our child,
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he took and got. On top of that, there was only one vehicle between me and my husband. And so he
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took that to work. And I'd woken up this morning after I just got, I just flipped back, you know,
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so I'm in this apartment for two days, right? You know, I hadn't had a chance to go put my name on
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the lease. So my name's not on the lease yet. All the food in the apartment has been eaten,
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you know so i asked the the roommate hey can you go drive me to the grocery store to get groceries
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so i can have dinner ready from my husband gets home and he's like you can't spend his money
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and i'm like oh it's our money and it's to buy groceries to have dinner for when he gets home
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and he didn't understand that again the you know a lot of his friends are also from similar
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backgrounds so they're also not understanding that where i'm coming from i'm thinking like
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I'm going to continue unpacking the boxes to get the kitchen unpacked and have dinner ready,
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all this. And he's just like, this is not your money. You're not working. You don't have a job.
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And so you wished you listened to your parents when they told you that.
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Exactly. And so what ended up happening was when I confronted him about this,
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it resulted in a confrontation that resulted in me not being let back into my apartment because I
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technically wasn't on the lease. So I ended up having to go home to my parents and
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he just didn't understand, you know, he just didn't get like
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what mirrors was, you know, and my parents knew like we told you so. So
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i am best friends with my new mother-in-law and my sister-in-law like we are now at the point where
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my parents were both married his parents were both married all of his you know everyone is like
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there's no divorce in this you know and so we're actually starting to build our own like homestead
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life i'm hoping that as soon as i finish you know with this cancer treatment that hopefully i can
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start homeschooling the two younger kids in the fall so i have the full support of my parents
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his parents you know so it's a huge huge difference you are mirroring into the family
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really look at the family dynamic it's a big big thing it's not just a single person because when
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you talk about raising you know the village the village is your whole family so you're marrying
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into that family it's not just two people in love it's a whole big family dynamic yeah yeah it's
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really hard when it's a super different dynamic especially if like it's a chaotic background it's
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tough to come together did you say you're getting cancer treatment yes oh wow how what is that why
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you were doing the homestead part of it yeah so my in-laws are actually starting them since they
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have chickens um and they're growing all kinds of fruits and vegetables they are actually hunting
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deer as well or the neighbors are hunting the deer and then she does the beef or the deer jerky and
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deer sausage and then she'll like all the berries that she grows she turns into jams and then
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the cucumbers she'll turn into pickles and preserves and soups and she's
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baking breads and stuff so hopefully um and also like my kids would go over
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there and they spend time over there learning how to do a
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lot of that stuff too um okay so what did what did you look for
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in your second husband that made him different than your first
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what you picked two bad ones or did you oh yeah it's
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so I did it twice but I won't that's a whole nother whole nother story I won't
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go into that one that will be a story for a different day so what was
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different about the third one the third one well that was when I realized the
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common denominator between all these failed relationships obviously were me two things can
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be true at once obviously my exes can be assholes and i can also be the dumbass for choosing them
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and i really had to start thinking about how did i what was my decision process in making
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these decisions and these these men because in going into another relationship i don't want it
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just to be a different guy same shit basically i need to figure out what is going into my thought
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process and really kind of break it down into looking at each and every single micro decision
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that i'm making and that's factoring into each and every decision that is creating the environment
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you know so basically because i was so mentally emotionally distraught from my first divorce
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ow i basically fell into domestic violence like when we talk about you know
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stepfathers that are predatory on stepchildren you get what i'm saying so that was very short
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very you know um but just really having to take the realization that you know my two kids don't
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have that they're never going to have what I had growing up because I chose the wrong guys
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ultimately and when I went out about dating I knew I had to do something completely different
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I had to be and act different and I was like you know what what I'm basically bringing to the table
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it's not going to be a whole lot but if I don't hold myself to a different standard I'm never
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going to, it's never going to be like, I can't, I'm not going to have that option. Okay. It's
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not guaranteed. So, so what was different about the third husband? We both decided
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we were going to put up with each other till we died, no matter what, come hell or high water.
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and then we just did that okay and then we kept doing that over and over and over again
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until we just basically unpacked all of the emotional baggage that we've had from all
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our previous relationships and we were still together and we're just like oh you know we've
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we've just made it together we've put our family together you know bring you know because he had
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two kids from his you know first marriage as well and like we just decided like we want
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more than anything for our children to have what we had growing up but they don't
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and that was our common goal and so that was what we decided we were going to do come hell
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high water and so because they were our main goal and our main focus we just right wouldn't
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wouldn't quit you know yeah well um thank you for calling in
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thank you um yeah so she's right though guys about about listening to you know your parents
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your parents do know you better than most people um
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no it's not it's not for guys today's women it's it's okay if we don't i know
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um okay guys what what did you think of that call it's interesting to hear how men
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listen to things and how women listen to things what what what did you think yay nay
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excuses real what did you think um forest sponge marriage is exactly that a sacred vow death till
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us part um i wouldn't say divorce itself as a red flag maybe a yellow flag really good people can be
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caught by abusive um most modern women can't take accountability for sure oh i think we got some
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signups didn't we um okay we got some new subscribers and then i'm going to talk about
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a couple more things i think would have been helpful if i had to start all over again
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Oh, we got another one from, I'm going to just say first names in case people want to be anonymous, Nathaniel, thank you, Jan, you rock, thank you, again, guys, all of these, they really help, and then thank you for the cash app, give this lady the reverend, the reverend, what is the reverend, is that flip?
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oh the third thing now I know this third thing that I would tell a girl at 18 so
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if I had to go back to 18 again the first thing I would do is get in shape that'd be number one
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thing you know you don't really have to do the plastic surgery and that stuff if you're young
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now i i have not really gone down that route but a lot of women do you know ladies you don't have
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to do all that if you start young if you get into really good shape eat super clean sleep have a
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really good sleep schedule you know live life don't you know don't in like a normal way nothing
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crazy but you know then then this is something I wrote once you accomplished getting in shape
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I assume this took you time because most women are overweight at 20 I would start looking for
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a husband remember the first man you meet may not commit or it may not work out so you need
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to have time in case something goes wrong I would get a job somewhere handsome successful men
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frequent you will have to research your own on this one but places i can think of high-end
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cocktail bars members clubs high-end gyms high-end hotels home depot law clerks or maybe you want
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blue collar whatever your thing is ladies you want a job that does not take a lot of time to learn
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like a secretary but where you're in the vicinity of high status men now this could be maybe somewhere
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you're not working directly with them i know some men don't want to cross that line whatever
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um and the third thing i would say is have and i know this is hypocritical
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very little you you don't really want a lot of social media guys do not see that as a as a plus
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Oh, and avoid chicks that are constantly going out, that are constantly, you know,
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because men, they really, they judge you based on who you hang out with.
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So if you're hanging around a bunch of chicks that are wild in the club every week,
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and even if you're not doing that, men just assume you are.
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So I would be really careful with who you associate with, who you're friends with.
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And I would also say to start looking at fashion, right?
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And I know I'm not a fashionista, okay, but I was thinking about this.
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I don't think that you should look at high-end fashion now
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you have to look at like what outfits men tend to find attractive and you can do this by looking at
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movies where men you know they really liked an attractive woman in the movie i have other ways
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too but that's going to be more in my book anyway so i'd really still like to hear from ladies
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you know what do you wish your mother told you what do you wish your mother taught you
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what was good advice or bad advice that your mother gave you
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don't marry a man that's broke or unemployed
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keep them closed in high school ladies at 18 you got to get into shape you should already be in
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shape. Look, I'm talking about the 2024 stats. Young women are fat. I don't know what to tell you.
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You must continue the pregame. Guys, I'm sorry. You cannot pay me to do that one again.
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For real, just be somewhat healthy. Wear things that are feminine, but don't make you look like
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a 304 and be a decent person. Men have a list a thousand miles long. If you're a Christian,
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be a hundred percent sure not what she this is for the ladies all right
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what no prada guys make sure you like the video
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do we have another call-ins or no because if not i'm going to react to ben
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oh i would also say for women young women to date older
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guys your age the problem with you're going to get with guys your age
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is they really don't have experience to understand female fuckery
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and even the best women we're still women we still have like a factory reset
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where men you know the guy you're with really has to understand how to pass your shit tests
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he has to understand you know the shit that we do because you don't want a guy that doesn't
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understand the stuff and just lets you get away with it for a lifetime because those women end
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up resenting their husbands they really do and so what i would say honestly is i would i would date
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if I was, all right, so you get 18 to 20, right? Now you're 20 to 25, let's say. Now you're on the
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prowl. I would date a guy 10 to 15 years older. You're always going to be the young, hot one
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in comparison, right? And those guys are going to be a bit more ready to settle down
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than the guys in your age group. And they're going to understand a bit better how to run a
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relationship. I don't know. But yeah, that's my two cents. I know this is very early stages. This
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isn't going to be a long show tonight. I got stuff to do. But no more Collins, right? Okay.
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So then the second part of today's show, you know, I want to talk about,
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God, Ben Shapiro always gives me gold sometimes.
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Ben Shapiro made this clip criticizing Andrew Tate,
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you know 100% that they are a grifter. They're a con man. They're trying to con you into something.
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The most obvious sign of a con artist is somebody who's telling you that a well-known, well-worn
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truth, something that is absolutely irrefutable, is not true. They know better. They know better
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because they've seen through the matrix. They've seen through that truth. That truth is actually
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a mask. Oh, I need to read the title here. Anyone who tells you to ignore marriage in favor of
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impregnating lots of women and abandoning your children as a grifter, the kind of grifter who
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also sells you meaningless platitudes for 50 bucks a month, guaranteeing you big money income for
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little or no work. I'm not trying to be rude. Wait, don't. Wait, take it off the screen. Take
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it off really quick um the daily wire subscription i don't i don't know i'm just trying to
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okay we got 15 bucks a month i guess it's a little bit cheaper but isn't this kind of the
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same thing look show on the screen you know 15 8
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Isn't that a bit hypocritical? Am I crazy? Okay, whatever.
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Or the underlying reality. Now, it may be that there are some widely held notions that are
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untrue, but in order to debunk those notions, you would actually have to show why your notions
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are better. However, if you are the kind of person who suggests, for example, that hard work
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is useless, I have a better way, a better way, that better way is going to earn you fast money
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without a lot of work, without getting yourself educated, without putting in the hours, without
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developing a skill set, that person is conning you. They're lying to you. If somebody were to
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tell you, for example, that there is an easy, easy way for you to get absolutely fit with no exercise
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and eating trash, that person would be lying to you. That person would be conning you because
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obviously you need to eat healthy and do exercise if you want to be in shape. I'll tell you what.
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One of my clippers, he made a good amount of money using Tate's program.
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I mean, he worked for us, so we actually do pay well here, you know.
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And the biggest one of all, and has been held true by pretty much every griftery movement
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of the last couple of centuries, is the idea that you should not get married, that marriage
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is bad for you, that somehow marriage is going to ruin your life.
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So, Ben Shapiro, marriage is going to ruin your life.
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Now, I know Ben and them, they accuse me of being a doom and gloomer.
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And I would say that's true, but I'm a happy doom and gloomer.
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So, the issue you get, Ben, is we have the marriage system.
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the marriage system is some rings here. So we yay, we got the rings, then you know
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we got the man, the woman, the man, the woman, we're happy. Okay and then they're
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together until the woman is not happy. So now she's unhappy and this is typically
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five to seven years in. The kids, you know, they had their children.
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Now, the issue is the next thing that happens, and oftentimes in this part, they maybe had
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a sexless marriage, you know, for a couple years, she maybe was a total bitch.
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money, loses reputation, loses children, sometimes loses job, children, etc.
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they're eight to nine times more likely to kill themselves.
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I had a guy run the numbers out of every 50 divorces
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but it was either one out of 50 or one out of 100.
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because they can then date a younger, hotter chick,
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And so what you say to men is the men will look at the stats,
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at least, right, maybe, let's just say, 15% chance to be called an abuser.
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And the Tradcons, because they really believe in religion.
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But what they'll try to do is they'll, these are what I call the copes.
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If your wife left you, you just didn't pray hard enough.
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Have you ever tried to pray a woman into doing something she doesn't want to do?
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Do you think women will just say, oh, he's good enough today?
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Are there, you know, so let me try to be a better man for the marriage.
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is a recipe for disaster then they'll say you know
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go to therapy work it out but all the therapists are feminists
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i'll think of more copes i'll come back i'm going to watch the rest of the video
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i wish i could see the chat while i'm up there it'd be like a nice
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well we'll figure out a way guys this is a new set
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okay there are a lot of problems with the current legal structure of marriage
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i agree with that critique of the current legal structure yeah so here he's saying
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pearl would say but prepare for the worst fellas i'm sure he'll have a logical answer he cares
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about stats doesn't he marriage no fault divorce is one of the worst things that ever happened to
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us oh ben it was before that birth control was far more impactful people wanted to get divorced
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anyways i mean they downplay the culture when they do this the culture people were going to
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get divorced anyways civilization marriage is a commitment that commitment is lifelong there
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should actually have to be a really really really good reason why but there's not ben again the
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reality i understand you know religion you know then that goes back to pull the whiteboard up
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pray harder pray harder oh you know what else i should add i just put these back in
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i need someone writing over there in the future the next one is how the world should be not how
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it is well it should be this way well it's not ben or divorcing and that's particularly true if
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you have children because of course marriage is designed as the fundamental building block of
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institutional society but it's not anymore sorry ben is the place where children are reared it is
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the place where you produce children in the first place and children require stability it is from
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of those fundamental building blocks of civilization. The little platoons, as Edmund Burke
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called them, that you can actually build a functional free civilization, which is why
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every griftery movement of the last couple of centuries has assaulted the family from the
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outside. So for example, I'm not even trying to be rude, but I mean, if we're going to call a grifter
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like who makes more money than Ben off of these. Okay. All right. Karl Marx, very big on assaulting
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the family. The Communist Manifesto famously suggests abolition of the family. Why? Because
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the family is a place where you might learn bourgeois values. It's a place where you might
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be inculcated into things like responsibility, duty, church. These are all very bad things
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according to the Marxist movement, which is why the Communist Manifesto says, on what foundation
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is the present family, the bourgeois family based? On capital, on private gain. In its completely
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developed form, this family exists only among the bourgeois. But this state of things finds its
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compliments in the practical absence of the family among the proletarians and in public
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prostitution. And so blowing up the family would allow for a better world. Don't get married. Fight
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the fight. Blow up the traditional institutions that actually support a functional society.
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No, no. No, no, Ben. No, no, no. Men just look at these options and they say, this is not great.
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Women are paid to leave me. And if I look, if I pulled up, I don't want to flip it,
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But if he pulled up the marriage wheel, I mean, would you, if you took a pill, there's a 1% chance you get so screwed up that you die.
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There's a 20% chance that, you know, she takes you to court maliciously, takes you away from your kids.
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Then there's, okay, a 10% chance or 20% chance it's just a normal divorce.
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50% chance you stay married, but a quarter of those are sexless.
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doesn't matter what i say the men aren't gonna sign up anyway and fight the fight this is also
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why today the new york times has an entire article titled lessons from the 20 person polycule
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because the new york times also wishes to destroy the fundamental basis of western civilization
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namely the family and they wish to do this because they wish to build something new atop the ruins
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They wish to create a society of atomized individuals who then can be molded and shaped
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Because once you're isolated from other human beings, once you have no duty to your family,
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once you have no duty to kids, once you have no duty to the community that is built upon
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those families, well, then we can militarize you in any possible direction, which is why
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you've seen so many left-wing outlets lately pushing for polyamory.
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All right, now let's talk about how polyamory is starting.
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All right. So I am going to make the case today that women are choosing polyamory, not men. Yes.
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So if tomorrow all the men got together and said, we want to be with one woman for a lifetime,
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the women would be the first ones to protest the women would be the first ones to complain
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not the men so here we go we got we're gonna get all the men here now pretend I've done this
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exercise before pretend these men are ranked from most desirable on top to least desirable on the
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bottom. And all the women here. So, you know, first of all, there's more women than men on
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the planet. So there actually is not somebody for everybody. I think maybe God created that
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extra woman for hookers, someone's got to do it. Sorry, guys. I'm kidding. I'm kidding. Please
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don't come for me, trad cons. So if all the men, so how do you see what people really want to do?
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Now, a hundred years ago, there was cultural shame. If you got divorced, everyone would shun you.
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Step two, we gave women the freedom to divorce for whatever reason.
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I mean, as a man blessing, do you want to be with a woman that doesn't want to be with you?
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So, I mean, like what, you guys want to force the women to stay?
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So now women, you know, and women have the most sexual agency around 22, so the most sexual power.
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Where men have the most sexual power, arguably 35, some would say higher, some would say lower, but let's just say 35.
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When women are 22, we could pick to wait till marriage and be with one man for a lifetime.
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Men have not built themselves up to the point where women want to marry them until they're older, unfortunately.
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And so women, now the average age of first marriage now for women is 30.
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Average age of first marriage for men, roughly around 30.
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But anyways, so meaning that men actually want to get married more than women.
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Men want monogamy more than women because when men have the choice to choose it, more men pick it.
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How can you see what someone wants to do when they have the freedom to do anything?
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So when women got freedom, they said, screw these guys.
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If you were not a virgin on your wedding night as a chick,
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And what the simps tend to do is they say the women didn't know,
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not really I know chicks at 22 that got married but most women we don't want to do it
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now I'm not saying it's bad or good I'm just saying what is and so the thing is now if Andrew
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Tate let's just put him here let's just say that's Tate if the women are all saying yeah we want to
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share this guy I would rather share this guy than be with that guy and the men are saying well yeah
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this is awesome. Give me my three wives, baby. Most people, because the Tradcons ascribe
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Christian morality to it. So they say, well, they're Christians or Ben's Jewish, whatever,
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live by my standards. But most people really aren't that religious. And so what they'll say,
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and typically over here, these are the guys that the women marry after they're done with these
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guys, right? So they go to these guys, and then at 30, they're like, all right, shit, we'll go back
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here. So, and you see this in dating apps. Remember, guys, this is becoming more and more out in the
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open. Dating apps are showing this. That's the number one way people meet under 30. That's the
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new normal, like it or not. And you can see this because there's men like Dan Bolzerian,
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who have screwed like 500 chicks or whatever. I forgot what number he says. A lot, right?
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Anyways, so I would argue that women, if all the men got together and said,
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we're going to be with one woman for a lifetime, the women would be the first to complain.
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Because when women are given the choice, they want to be with the top guys.
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so a lot of these trad con women will come in and say
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Andrew Tate is so evil he is the worst how could you how could you accept
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you know that he's having multiple baby mothers or whatever
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and I say ladies I hope you have that same energy for the non-virgin women
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now i i'm not really a scribe man if that's what tate wants to do is baby mamas are happy with it
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i don't really care you know that's that's his thing or he wants to impregnate a bunch of chicks
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it's not my problem you know as long as the chicks are happy with it so you know
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a lot of you guys do this simping it just kind of annoys me again as i said
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As I said, if we took away, if every man said monogamy for life, the women would be the first
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ones to cry. We really would. If the Communist Manifesto once pushed for polyamory and the
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holding of all sexes in common. Oh, and by the way, I'd like to clarify, Ben, we're actually
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in polyamory already. As you know, women are not getting married till 30. Men are not getting
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married till 30. What do we do before 30? Usually people will date one or two more people. Hookup
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culture is rampant. So again, we're not really in monogamy now. It's kind of been dead.
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So for example, today, the New York Times says, quote,
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the word polycule is a synthesis of polyamory, engaging multiple romantic relationships and
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molecule. It's not clear when the word was coined, but it seems to have started catching on around
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15 years ago to suggest an intricate structure formed of people with overlapping deep attachments,
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romantic sexual sensual platonic it's difficult to describe a polycule words like family and
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network are used but neither on its own captures it perhaps it's best left to a polycule to offer
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descriptions now again personally that would not be my thing but this is gonna be normal guys get
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used to it you're gonna see more poly couples you might not like it it's coming buckle up
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are the voices and images of people who are part of a polycule in the boston area
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Katie says, the word, the polycule is like this weird family.
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It works like complex kinship networks work, only a little kinkier.
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Because the basic idea of the left is that every single person is basically a malleable
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widget violating the strictures of the evil society, right?
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the big con is the idea that there are things like gender roles and these gender roles are
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rooted in biology but if you can see through that immutable truth then you will have destroyed
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the matrix this is i hate people that use big words for no reason i'm so sorry it's just
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just speak immutable what the hell does that mean perspective of the left and this is why they fight
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the family this is also why children have basically become to this group of people
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a tote bag it's something that you occasionally have in order to manipulate in a particular
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form or fashion but this is not restricted to the left the attack on the family is not
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unfortunately restricted to the political left all grifters all con men have to take immutable
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truths i wonder would he call me a con man do i get con man you think he would would he
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would i be con man status according to this i can't hear you blessing i think he'd give you that
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those immutable truths in favor of something only they-
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Covered something incredible that you never knew about.
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And if only you take that red pill, then you'll know it.
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you won't have to do hard work in order to be rich.
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Again, if nice guys finished first, then you would see more men telling each other to do it.
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Your children, in order to be a successful man, they've discovered the secret.
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The leader on this side of the movement is, of course, Andrew Tate.
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And first, the cost of living has already increased 17% this year.
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Start a little bit of money and precious metals.
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Start a little bit of money and precious metals.
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Andrew Tate, who got his start as a provocative reality TV star,
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who then started a webcam business, grooming women into sex.
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grooming. Please stop simping. Stop simping. I'm begging you. No, no, no. If they're above 18,
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they can make a choice. If they're above 18, they can make a choice.
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Trafficking effectively. And that is according to his own admission. That's how he made his money.
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Whether he says that they were groomed or not groomed, the reality is he groomed women
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into the only reason they can do this is because they've expanded the definite they've changed
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these words they've expanded the definitions to include damn near anything in it again if i went
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on a date with a guy i had no interest in did i groom him into paying for me
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if a man of a woman i think because he he would tell the girls he was in love with them or
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whatever and say, do cam work, something like that. I can't remember. If a woman does cam work
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for a guy she thinks she's in love with, is it an L? Yeah. Take the L. You weren't groomed.
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Getting into the webcam industry, which is pornography. Well, Andrew Tate has this,
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this is his game. His game, Andrew Tate, he's become incredibly popular online for a reason,
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which we'll examine in a moment. Number one, Andrew Tate is very entertaining. He's entertaining
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because he explodes the myths. But the way that he quote-unquote explodes the myths is he plays
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a really stupid game. It's a game for stupid people. The game is like this. I'm going to say
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two transgressive things, things that violate the taboos of the culture around me. One of those
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things is true, and one of those things is false. But because they are both transgressive, and
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because people will oppose me on both of them, one for bad reasons and one for good reasons,
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this means that I have somehow gotten under the skin of the matrix. Everyone opposes me,
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which is why I'm a rebel. That's Andrew Tate's entire game. So he will say things like,
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feminism has ruined men by usurping the male role and robbing men of their initiative.
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That is a true thing. That is a true thing that is not politically correct to say.
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Then he will say another transgressive thing that is absolutely false. Like, for example,
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women love it when you treat them like garbage, and you should treat women like garbage. And
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Dominant men are the kind of men who treat women like garbage.
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So, Ben, I used to think they were lying about this.
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Until I started interviewing chicks, and I'd ask them about their ex-boyfriend.
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Every chick, the guy that she would talk the most about, the toxic, abusive, terrible ex.
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Good chicks, Christian chicks, non, it didn't even matter.
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It's just true. You might not like the truth, but I mean, I'm not trying to be rude, Ben, but
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you married young. You have no idea what's going on out there. So, so I don't know why you're on
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these shows pretending, you know, that is not a true thing. It's a transgressive thing.
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And it's transgressive specifically because it's evil. It is a bad thing to say. It is a bad thing
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to think women should not be treated like trash and good women do not want to be treated like
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trash. And you're treating women like trash is not going to make your life better. And it's not
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going to make their life better. But it is a transgressive thing to say. It is taboo. And so
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Andrew Tate has violated so many taboos and he can get away with it because, of course, the rules
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don't apply to him. He's a Nietzschean ubermensch because he is very, very buff and because he works
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out a lot and because he smokes cigars. And this means you should listen to him. You should listen
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to him, in fact, so much that you should pay him $49.99 a month to join Hustlers University where
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you will learn other secrets. Like, for example, you don't need hard work and initiative in order
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to really get ahead. You can learn his magical methods for making lots and lots of money. You
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can own a Bugatti just like Andrew Tate owns a Bugatti. And all you have to do is listen to his
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magical business advice, which explodes all of the matrix, explodes the matrices of truth,
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the immutable truths. Now, why am I talking about Andrew Tate today? The reason I'm talking about
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He's so jealous. He comes off as very jealous in this.
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Tate today is because Andrew Tate, again, playing the two transgressive things, one true, one false
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game, has over the past few months said some true things and then said a lot of false things, all of
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them transgressive, right? So the true thing that he has said is he said, quote, I pray Christianity
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regains its strength and protects its societies against the pervasive and constant erosion of
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morality by the devotees of Satan. If you accept everything, you stand for nothing. I agree with
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literally every word of that Andrew Tate statement, that Christianity ought to regain its strength
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and protect its society against the pervasive and constant erosion of morality by the devotees
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of Satan. I agree with all of those things, actually. Then Andrew Tate will put out tweets
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like the one that he did yesterday. Oh, this was kind of funny. Here is Andrew Tate's tweet,
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and this is why it comes up in the context of marriage. Again, he is telling you an immutable
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truth must be exploded. That immutable truth is the fundamental good and necessity of family.
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You're being replaced because none of you have children.
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but he goes further because of course this is his game
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You're being replaced because none of you have children.
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even those of you about the replacement online like little girls don't find the gumption to f
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i see white men bragging about having five kids as if it's an achievement
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oh five lol per year right oh all you white boys lost control of your women he's a genius y-o-u
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apostrophe r-e all you white boys lost control of your women and now they won't accept multiple
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wives anymore now they tell you they don't want should i tell my dad that seven biological kids
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wasn't enough blessing should i tell him should i should i call him and say dad why didn't you
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have five kids per year okay one's enough okay again just move the apostrophe in any case put
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aside the grammatical picayune concerns is they don't want to do their god-given job anymore no
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they want instagram likes instead so your genetic potential is stumped by the whims of some singular
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female a female who takes nine whole months to grow a single baby other races have multiple
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ovens for bread we're not cucked some is screaming at you about loyalty and you're sitting there
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saying yes baby off to porn when she's asleep or maybe cheating with a side condom on oh no i
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couldn't get another woman pregnant my wife would kill me total effing losers yeah okay so
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look like it or not women are picking this ben go go show my my board please go show my board
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yeah women want to screw the top men and women have the freedom now to do whatever we want
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that's what you're gonna see like it or not and i think what he's talking about more
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is most men let their wives run the show how many men
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really and especially white guys i mean how many really run their relationships
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it's it's not common keep keep going soon your race will be nothing more than a few pages in a
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history book a lesson on what happens when you f the female psyche so hard they're obsessed with
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money and social media as opposed to being one of many baby factories for a king 30 children
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minimum for the dons white people go talk to your best friend wife about what to do this weekend
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maybe you can take a nice walk around ikea that's so funny i don't care what it even says enjoy
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extinction okay so again one true thing many false things one true thing people need to be having
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more kids in western civilization the many false things marriage is bad loyalty to your spouse
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is bad society can be built on men running around having sex with 30 women and having
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then it's always how it's always happened it's like one out of 100 people is from genghis khan
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i don't apply morality to it i've seen too much guys i don't apply morality to it my morality me
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saying hey top guys stop screwing so many chicks stop doing it or ladies stop being a side chick
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to the top guy is utterly useless i used to kind of do stuff like that and i just
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i've grown up because what i've seen is i've seen conservatives lose the culture war for 50 years
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feminism has won ladies buckle up um you wanted equality here it is
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women have every freedom to do what we want now you're gonna see it happen
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kids per year and this is the and saying to the top guys like ben is now
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stop screwing stop screwing men stop it stop screwing it's like what is that gonna do nothing
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who measure of a man and young men think of that like wow that sounds amazing because of course
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the male sex drive looks for various women that is just that's the women picking it it's the women
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that mammalian biology is built. Men, males seek to impregnate many females. And so that sounds
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great to a bunch of young men who are off to Andrew Tate's webcam business. It sounds amazing
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to them. That's also not how societies are built. But again, the idea is, and this is how you know
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it's a con, marriage is bad. He's actively saying that marriage is bad because if you're a person
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who has five kids, LOL. Now, Andrew Tate himself claims that he has double digit kids. We've never
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met any of those kids we don't know exactly who the moms are they maybe it's like a girlfriend
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in canada we don't actually know but for those of us who do have say four kids i have four kids
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i've been married for 15 years if you have four kids double the replacement rate you are in fact
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doing your societal job and this sounds like a cope yeah and there's nothing wrong with having
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kids, you know, but having four kids, you know, I think he's kind of being hyperbolic, but
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I think more of the point that Andrew's trying to make is that men shouldn't be run by their
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wives. And if that's what he wants to do, that's what he wants to do. And me crying about it isn't
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going to make the top men stop screwing. There's a child support case in California that Shaw told
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me about they had like 13 kids by 13 different women am i gonna stop them yeah right should be
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doing that but that can only exist functional children children who are going to propagate
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good values require a father in the home see here's the thing if you knock a bunch of ladies
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and you leave you have created a generation of young men who are incapable of raising themselves
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wait let me say that again a generation father and only exist functional children children who
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are going to propagate good values require a father in the home i don't know ben the muslims
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have figured it out i don't look at i i'm not saying
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look i'm not saying the right or the wrong way to do it but i mean a whole part of the world
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has multiple wives i don't think it's the end of the world see here's the thing if you knock
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a bunch of ladies and again it's not it's not my choice the top men they're just gonna they're
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gonna screw that's what's gonna happen but women don't have to have any kids they don't want to
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women are in 100 control of who is born so if women don't want to be a single mother
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they don't have to be and you leave you have created and again that's really on the women
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i mean you women are 100 in control of who we sleep with so you see this is again back to the
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sim thing he does this entire speech shaming the men did he put anything in here shaming the women
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for screwing the top men no he said the grooming i just a generation of young men who are incapable
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when i look at what's going on i see a lot more women that can't raise themselves or whatever
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the effects of single motherhood in the united states are very well known you're talking about
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higher levels of drug use higher levels of crime that's not what he says though he says he's still
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involved in the kids lives i'm based on what i've heard levels of poverty higher levels of suicidal
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ideation it creates actual pathologies and that is what andrew tate is promoting because he is a
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con artist yeah and he's conning you that that's the way the world's going ben like it or not you
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can take it down i'm getting kind of sleepy guys sorry i wish i scripted this show a little better
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today because i'm just kind of tired but you know um yeah guys look i don't i'm not here to tell you
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how i'd wish the world is going to be i'm not here to rob a genie and you know make wishes
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The future is single parents prepare for the worst.
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If I was 18 again, I would tell chicks to, you know, fight for what you want and win.
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It's easier than ever to win as a woman because the competition really is not that steep.
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Let me know what you think in the comments, guys.