Pearl - September 28, 2025THIS Is How Widows Should Act： JFK and Tupac vs Charlie Kirk's funerals
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Summary
Tupac Shakur was an American rapper who died at the age of 25 in a helicopter crash in the early morning hours of January 16, 1996. His death was initially reported to be an accident, but the medical examiner determined that he was shot by a passing motorist. The cause of death was listed as multiple gunshot wounds to the head and torso. His family and friends identified him as a victim of an apparent helicopter crash.
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And the whole eulogy, I didn't hear anything about Charlie.
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If it was my brother who died, to be honest, I would be pissed.
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If it was, I just kind of think, because Charlie, he kind of reminds me of my brother a little bit.
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And if somebody, like, I think if my brother died, even if it was a cause he believed in,
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and they were just milking his deathly, I just, I think it would make me sick to my stomach.
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I really wonder how the immediate family feels about this.
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So I would have some recommendations of what I would have said to do.
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I would say I would have recommended she leaves the public eye for a minimum of one to two weeks
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And the reason being, you know, I was looking up how long they ask YouTubers to stay out of the public eye
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They say to leave the public eye for a minimum two weeks, up to six months.
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But the problem is women are so phone addicted now and so clout and attention addicted.
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We do not know how to have almost normal human interactions.
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We are so addicted to our phones that, I mean, we're using death for clout at this point.
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I think there's a lot of Christians that find it disrespectful to do a funeral in a stadium.
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In that, it wasn't even actually the stadium, to be honest.
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I think it was more just the manner they did it in.
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I'll show you guys JFK's funeral and you'll see.
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All right, now, we listened to Erica Kirk's reaction last show.
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So blessed to have more work than we even could ever dream of.
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If you go like two or three streams ago, we reacted to Erica's whole speech.
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And, again, I said what I noticed was that she kind of used...
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And I'll think, how does the rapper, criminal that died at a shootout, get more respect, a more respectful, I guess, more respectful dialogue around his death and remembrance than the Christian conservative family guy?
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It's like, as women, we can't be mad when these guys start treating us like shit, because we reward terrible behaviors.
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A lot of people, you know, talk about my relationship with Pac and trying to figure that out, you know.
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I guess lose men that we perceive to be alpha, it just tends to be a completely different reaction.
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Because he was one of those people that I expected to be here.
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But I really did believe that he was going to be here for the long run.
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I remember you telling me a while back that you had a Tupac story that you always wanted to share.
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Do you see the, like, genuine choking up these women?
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But they're all getting choked up talking about him.
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And, I mean, we were in the same places, but not running in the same circles.
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So, I mean, I'd be at the same events, be at the same place, but we, I mean, we took a flight together once.
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And it was weird, because I was in first class, and he was in coach.
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And when I sat down and I saw him, I was like, ooh, I'm going to talk to Pac all the way to Atlanta.
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And when he kept walking, I was like, who the fuck put Pac in economy?
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But these interviews feel more genuine than the speech Erica Kurt gave.
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But this one particular time, and I thought I had lucked up, got first class and Tupac.
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So, the two interactions I had with him, he was completely different on both interactions.
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And the extreme, like, the first time I met him, I didn't know what was happening to me.
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I was, and if he had had a wife and we was in the right moment, I'd have been like, well, we grown.
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I hope your wife feels like me and it's not a deal breaker.
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I'm not having sex with married men intentionally, but.
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She's, like, wishing she banged him 50 years later.
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Because when women are very in love with men, I mean, this is kind of how they got another one.
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Some insight on what it was like, you know, working with Tupac on Poetic Justice.
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He was one way, I think, the way people saw him.
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So, again, the stories focus on who he was as a person.
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That that wasn't him, but he was also had another side to him where he was fun and silly.
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I think he's really special, or he was very special, incredibly talented.
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And he's just so much talent and so brilliant here.
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Do you see all of the attention in that story was on him?
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And when you compare and contrast, I mean, it's just, there we go.
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He wanted to save young men, just like the one who took his life.
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That young man, that young man, on the cross, our Savior said,
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Father, forgive them, for they not know what they do.
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Like, if I'm being honest here, I just don't, there's no tears.
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And the whole eulogy, I didn't hear anything about Charlie.
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But, you know, I'm just being honest when I think this is kind of weird.
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So, again, the people that don't understand the criticism of this,
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they don't really understand female nature, which is that women want attention.
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So her going into a male role indicates that maybe she was jealous of him on some level.
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And we really seize every opportunity to take power and use it to get as much attention as possible.
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Now, the best practices, I would recommend really what Jackie Kennedy did.
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What do you think my odds of getting copyrighted on this music are?
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At last in Washington, a nobler drama takes command.
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Led by the slim, dark figure of Jacqueline Kennedy,
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by which the nation bears its fallen presidents into history.
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I would have recommended a non-attention-seeking attire.
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You know, I mean, I don't even remember what Erica was wearing
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Okay, but that was still her choice to do it, right?
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I mean, at some point, it can't be the writer's fault.
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I mean, if she chose to go with writers, she still read it.
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I mean, if she chose to go with writers, she still read it.
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I mean, these are certainly the one I see or not.
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it's for those of the veterans that we would portray.
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On Pennsylvania Avenue, the drums go by, 100 beats a minute.
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Behind them, the caisson goes to the Capitol, where John Kennedy received power three years ago.
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Wait for traditional military honors to be accorded the dead president before he is taken into the rotunda to lie in state.
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So, I would just say overall, I think the audio, I don't know, it's an old video.
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You know, again, that's different than, like, streaming the body, which is what Erica did.
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Transfigured by sorrow, she stands erect before the world's gaze
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and makes of her public ordeal an enduring testament of proud devotion.
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Now, through all the chill hours until the rotunda doors must close tomorrow,
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the unnamed mourners come, for there has been a death from the family.
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Yeah, just thank you for joining the membership.
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So, in the aftermath, Jackie Kennedy's initial mourning was marked by
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stoic public composure contrasted with private devastation.
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After JFK's assassination in Dallas, Jackie remained in her blood-stained pink Chanel suit,
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standing beside Lyndon B. Johnson during his swearing-in
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drawing an inspection from Abraham Lincoln's 1865 funeral
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She chose the Cason Eternal Flame at the Arlington National Cemetery
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and other elements channeling grief into legacy building.
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She walked in the funeral procession on November 25th,
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holding her children's hands, projecting strength despite private anguish.
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replaying the assassination and struggling with suicidal thoughts,
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confiding to friends like Theodore White that she felt bitter about losing JFK.
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She chain-smoked and drank heavy in those days,
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Jackie's mourning evolved into a balance of public restraint and private struggle.
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She made a few public appearances such as honoring Secret Service agent Clint Hill
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in late 1963 and a Democratic National Committee event in August of 1964.
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These were emotionally taxing and she withdrew after media leaks
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about her Warren Commission testimony, setting emotional strain.
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Her focus was protecting her children, Caroline and John Jr., from publicity.
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She told historian William Manchester she felt robbed of her life with JFK
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and struggled with faith, questioning God, why God allowed the tragedy.
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She sought solace in private conversations with priests,
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friends revealing depression and guilt over not saving JFK.
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Jackie shaped JFK's legacy by granting a 1963 interview to Theodore White,
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coining the Camelot myth to romanticize his presidency.
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This was a mourning act, ensuring JFK's memory endured as heroic, not tragic.
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She also participated in a sealed oral history reflecting on her life together.
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Over the years, Jackie's mourning became more private
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She did remarry, but it was her and it was a private.
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Oh, this was actually, she did marry her sister's ex.
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Jackie largely withdrew from public life, focusing on her children and privacy.
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Her 1971 private White House visit for JFK's portrait unveiling was a rare acknowledgement of her past.
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She avoided discussions of JFK, declining interviews about their White House years.
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Until her death in 1994, Jackie maintained a private mourning style, focusing on her children's well-being.
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Her companion noted she carried JFK's memory privately, avoiding public displays of grief.
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Because, again, Jackie's point was she did not want to make it about her.
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Now, I'm not saying that maybe Erica has different intentions, but her actions are just very strange to me.
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Now, we're next going to talk about why this happens.
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This is not to ascribe morality to it, but explain why one widow seems sad and another seems fine.
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An alpha widow is a woman who's been imprinted by a high-value man.
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Think a guy with dominance, charisma, emotional unpredictability, and raw sexual pull.
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The guy, the alpha in her past, that's a benchmark that lingers like a ghost in her psyche.
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He's the one that got away, whether that be through a breakup, death, or just a fading memory.
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Her husband, the guy she ended up with, often doesn't measure up to that peak experience.
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So, when he dies, her emotions are a mixed bag, not just with grief, but a weird cocktail of relief, detachment, or even indifference.
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Even if the marriage was a slow bleed, losing a husband means losing stability, financial, social, or just the rhythm of daily life.
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She seems to be mourning the role he played, not necessarily the man himself.
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If he was the provider type, steady, reliable, but lacking that spark, she might cry for the security, the shared history, or the kid's sake.
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Society got her on a leash to perform the grieving widow act, and she might lean into it consciously or not.
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So, she might fake it to save face or dodge judgment.
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So, this is about widows in general, but I think it could potentially apply to this.
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If her husband wasn't that guy, the one who lit her up like the alpha did, she's been living with a quiet resentment maybe for years.
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Women's instinct to speak, to seek the best possible mate.
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Her heart still tethered to the memory of a man who owned the room, who made her feel alive in a way her husband never could.
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When the husband died, it's not just good riddance.
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She's not sad because she's already checked out emotionally a long time ago, chasing the shadow of that alpha.
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His death might even feel like a freedom, a chance to pursue that spark again, even if she's not consciously plotting it.
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Women's hypergamous wiring makes them compare men to their highest value experience.
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An alpha widow's husband was likely a compromise.
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Maybe a great provider or a good guy, but not the guy who made her pulse race.
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She might have stayed for the duty, the kids, or the social optic, but her emotional investment was low.
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There are women who mourn publicly but privately feel unshackled, even if they're ashamed to admit it.
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It's human nature clashing with modern expectations.
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An alpha widow isn't just a one-dimensional ice queen.
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She might go between sadness and relief, torn by the guilt of not feeling enough.
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If the alpha who shared her is dead, she might project that unresolved longing onto her husband's memory, complicating her grief.
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Or if the alpha is still out there, she might fantasize about reconnecting, making her husband's death kind of a strange opportunity.
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Women don't owe anybody eternal devotion, especially if the marriage was a pragmatic deal, not a passionate one.
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Men need to understand this to avoid becoming the beta husband who gets outshined.
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Maintain your frame, your confidence, your edge, and your ability to keep her on her toes.
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If you're dealing with an alpha widow, don't try to out-alpha her past.
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Instead, build your own value, physical, emotional, social, and let her see you as the new benchmark.
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So I just thought that was an interesting article that kind of talks about why the widows mourn in different ways.