Pearl - February 12, 2025


This Is How Women Want To Force Men To COMMIT After Their Prime ｜ Pearl Daily


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18 minutes

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Word Count

3,530

Sentence Count

251

Misogynist Sentences

44

Hate Speech Sentences

24


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00:00:00.000 Okay, so I want to talk about ultimatums and what women have a tendency to want out of relationships.
00:00:07.200 So we all know that the number one thing that women want when they're young is to be a whore, right?
00:00:13.700 I mean, that's, I mean, what do women fight harder for than abortion and the right to be naked?
00:00:17.800 But when they are older, we have a tendency to look for other things.
00:00:22.060 I mean, you know, you don't see women at 18 saying, make me a homemaker.
00:00:26.660 You see women at 25 saying, I'm ready to settle down.
00:00:29.380 After I've acquired all this student debt and a job that hates me.
00:00:33.680 So when women get to this phase, women want a wedding, a ring, you know, the two kids, sometimes a husband, but not really.
00:00:43.100 What's more important to women, wedding, ring, kids.
00:00:47.660 Why? Because each of these, each of these steps is, remember, attention is our currency.
00:00:54.740 We love being celebrated.
00:00:56.480 Men love building things and learning.
00:00:58.060 They don't like to be the center of attention.
00:00:59.860 Women, on the other hand, we love being the center of attention.
00:01:03.260 We love parties, birthday parties, get together.
00:01:06.600 So you got to think of each of these as like a celebration for women.
00:01:10.880 So many times women, it's not like we go into a relationship thinking, I am really looking forward to ruining your life.
00:01:18.200 Like women are, this woman here on this day is not thinking, how can I ruin this man's life and career?
00:01:26.700 You know, how can I, how can I take all his money?
00:01:28.940 I mean, you know, there's some predators, but in general, what happens is women's time starts running out.
00:01:35.260 So it's like TikTok, TikTok, I'm out of time.
00:01:38.360 And they're like, oh shit, I got to look in my friend zone now.
00:01:41.760 Damn it.
00:01:42.580 They're like, damn it.
00:01:43.640 I wanted Brad and Chad.
00:01:45.720 I wanted the drummer.
00:01:47.300 I wanted the rapper.
00:01:49.480 I wanted the celebrity.
00:01:51.100 Now I have to marry this engineer.
00:01:53.240 Now I have to marry this, this boring guy.
00:01:56.800 Because, you know, the other thing is our currency is entertainment.
00:02:00.460 We're pretty boring ourselves, right?
00:02:02.160 I mean, what, I know you guys are watching me, but I'm an exception and I am an exception
00:02:07.360 to that rule.
00:02:08.300 I'm very entertaining.
00:02:09.360 I don't care what any of my detractors say.
00:02:12.420 However, in general, women, we're just not that entertaining.
00:02:15.060 And let's be honest, like the top female comedian is maybe Nikki Glaser or whatever her name was.
00:02:21.900 She's, she's pretty funny, but compared to say, you know, Dave Chappelle, nothing, nada.
00:02:28.560 So it's not like she's over here thinking, I can't wait to ruin her life.
00:02:32.160 She's like, you know what, or ruin his life.
00:02:34.420 I, I, and the attention makes it hard for women to even tell the difference.
00:02:40.600 Do I like him or do I like the wedding?
00:02:42.640 Do I like him or do I like the ring?
00:02:44.720 Like you'll always see, it's never women posting a picture of like their Ryan Reynolds husband
00:02:50.060 and saying, oh, I'm so happy to marry him.
00:02:51.860 It's always them posting pictures of the kids, the ring and wedding.
00:02:55.740 It's never a picture like this.
00:02:57.300 Like, yay, I get to be his wife.
00:02:58.800 It's always this.
00:03:00.600 So now women have to think about how can I get these things?
00:03:06.880 Not so much this.
00:03:08.160 I mean, women, we don't really seem to care about that.
00:03:11.140 So the women have to think, how do I get what I want?
00:03:13.680 And this is where ultimatums often come in.
00:03:16.600 Now, the first strategy women have to get the ring, the wedding, the kids is to whine and cry.
00:03:23.860 Now, men are kind of afraid of this.
00:03:26.460 I don't know why and I get it, you know, Nala whining and crying is trying to ruin my life now.
00:03:33.320 That's what she's attempting to do.
00:03:34.620 She's saying, Pearl, I don't like your opinion.
00:03:36.980 So I am going to file a lawsuit and try to steal half a million dollars from you.
00:03:42.700 And so I get it.
00:03:43.700 You know, women have a lot of power in this society.
00:03:46.020 You know, she could call the police.
00:03:47.320 She could do all these things.
00:03:48.360 So men are like, fine, I'll marry you.
00:03:51.340 But that doesn't always work.
00:03:52.820 So strategy two is the ultimatum.
00:03:55.080 Now, this is a show I took a screenshot from.
00:03:58.160 Basically, these couples, I think they date other people in the show.
00:04:01.800 I can't remember the whole concept.
00:04:03.300 I just know couples go together and they basically have to decide if they're going to get married or break up by the end of the show.
00:04:09.740 So can't see how that would ever go wrong.
00:04:12.720 And, you know, it's just, you know, there's like a difference between dragging a guy down the aisle and him wanting to take you down the aisle.
00:04:21.240 Do you know what I mean?
00:04:21.980 It's just not really the same.
00:04:23.660 So another strategy that women could take but never do.
00:04:27.360 That's why I took a picture in black and white, because the last time a woman's thought of this strategy, I literally think it was like the 1950s with black and white photos.
00:04:37.680 So if a woman's in a prolonged relationship with no ring, she could become a better woman, right?
00:04:43.920 She could try to be a nicer person, learn to nag less.
00:04:49.260 You know, I mean, guys, a good blowjob does wonders for a guy.
00:04:53.480 I mean, the amount I have seen, I have seen men wife up fat chicks just because they do good blowjobs.
00:05:01.960 I've seen wife, our men wife up straight whores that are just, you know, and the men, the men think they're above this, right?
00:05:11.100 It's really funny.
00:05:12.140 They think they're above it.
00:05:13.520 They think, oh, well, I mean, I'm just using her for fun.
00:05:17.540 But men will, you know, go into something and be like, oh, this is just a casual thing.
00:05:22.540 I'm not going to fall in love.
00:05:24.220 I'm not going to end up married.
00:05:25.720 I know she's a whore, but then she does that gluck gluck 5,000 and he's like, oh, shit.
00:05:31.780 He's like, so, you know, that's a strategy.
00:05:33.820 You know, some women do the cooking thing.
00:05:36.500 They're like, you know what?
00:05:37.820 I'm not going to do the gluck gluck 5,000.
00:05:40.200 I feel like it degrades me, but I'll learn how to like bake a good cake, you know, and I'll make your favorite foods.
00:05:47.760 I'll make dinner every night for the rest of your life.
00:05:50.780 And the guy's like, fine, I'll do it.
00:05:52.440 I'll marry you.
00:05:53.480 But, you know, recently, in recent years, you know, women, it's not like they're learning the gluck gluck 5,000.
00:05:58.920 It's not like they're losing weight.
00:06:00.480 It's not like it's more the ultimatum whining and crying.
00:06:06.100 Beaten Cheeks said when I was broken fat, I would lower my standards.
00:06:09.400 I know.
00:06:10.100 I know.
00:06:10.520 And this is why this is why I got to call you guys out for the cap in the chat, you know, because this is what you guys are telling me, right?
00:06:16.420 If every group I've been in in my entire life, every man I've ever seen ever has simped at some point, and look at him, I've simped, right?
00:06:26.320 I mean, ladies, let's not pretend we haven't like, you know, gone above and beyond for a guy that didn't care about us.
00:06:34.340 See, like, can we, can we, like, let's not cap, right?
00:06:39.320 But so when you guys saying, like, I'm never going to have sex with a fat chick, I'm never going to simp for my wife.
00:06:47.640 I'm like, oh, you're so you're immune to being a man.
00:06:51.100 That's what I'm hearing.
00:06:52.660 You're immune to the things that make like men and women, too.
00:06:56.620 Like when women are like, I would never do all that for a man.
00:06:59.080 I'm like, really, you've never slept with a guy for less than you're proud of, ever.
00:07:03.820 The average age of first sexual experience is 16.
00:07:06.980 You're 36.
00:07:07.920 This is 20 years.
00:07:09.420 Never.
00:07:10.140 I got to call.
00:07:10.880 I got to I got to get like a soundboard at some point that says stop the cap, the cap.
00:07:16.180 So that's the now what made me think of this story?
00:07:20.680 So I know a guy who is a high powered attorney, right?
00:07:25.920 So he very good attorney, makes very good money.
00:07:29.460 And he told me about the best relationship that he was ever in.
00:07:32.540 And this guy said the best relationship I was ever in was with a single mother.
00:07:37.180 And I was like, oh, do tell.
00:07:39.080 You know, I'm always thinking that, you know, I hear from you guys that single mothers are the worst and don't ever marry him or wife him.
00:07:44.460 But I mean, you know, I mean, look, just because she's a single mother, I don't I don't think she's a bad person.
00:07:50.540 You know, there is one of the most feminine women I've ever met was a single mother.
00:07:55.980 You know, life is long.
00:07:57.100 People make dumb decisions.
00:07:58.380 Right.
00:07:59.220 So anyways, he said this woman, his her son was older, so it didn't really affect me too much.
00:08:04.820 She was over the age 18.
00:08:06.300 And I'm like, OK.
00:08:07.900 And I'm like, well, why why did it end?
00:08:10.200 You know, this woman sounds amazing.
00:08:11.740 He said, yeah, she was amazing.
00:08:13.340 And like, that's the most I've ever loved a woman.
00:08:15.180 But she wanted to get married and being divorced.
00:08:19.500 I did not want to get married.
00:08:22.760 And, you know, she tried the crying.
00:08:25.400 She tried the and ultimately she gave him an ultimatum.
00:08:28.840 And he said, look, I was willing to be committed the rest of my life.
00:08:32.780 I was not going to go anywhere.
00:08:34.440 But I just did.
00:08:37.280 You know, she didn't love me.
00:08:39.720 She loved the title more than she wanted to be with me because she had me.
00:08:44.660 I didn't cheat.
00:08:45.440 I wasn't with anyone else.
00:08:46.940 She had me.
00:08:47.900 And, you know, I see all these, you know, traditional conservative women that will talk about how women need to leave if they're not getting back to the slideshow.
00:08:58.220 If they're not getting the ring or the wedding, they say, leave.
00:09:03.040 Make sure you leave him.
00:09:04.380 Don't waste your youth.
00:09:05.740 But what does that communicate?
00:09:07.400 Like, I want us to think about, you know, there's a reputation that women are better girlfriends than wives because we're just not the best of people.
00:09:14.660 When we get leverage.
00:09:16.260 And it tells me that she wanted the ring and the wedding more than she wanted the man.
00:09:23.060 And when all the conservative women are saying, I'm only with my husband because he gave me what I wanted, what they're communicating is they want the ring, wedding and kids more than the man.
00:09:33.960 Now, I'm not saying that's right or wrong.
00:09:36.280 You know, I mean, I'm sure you guys have been with a woman who didn't give you the gluck gluck 5000 when you demanded it.
00:09:44.660 And you said, nay ski, not I'm done.
00:09:47.880 I'm done with this.
00:09:48.620 I doubt it.
00:09:50.740 When men fall in love, they just put up with damn near anything.
00:09:53.880 But, you know, so, yeah.
00:09:56.440 And Rich says, oh, living in sin.
00:09:58.500 So, you know, then they do this appeal to morality.
00:10:02.160 You know, oh, we need to do this God's way.
00:10:04.240 Well, you're either a virgin on your wedding night or you're not.
00:10:07.500 I'm not saying there's no value in marriage, right?
00:10:09.700 There kind of isn't in 2024.
00:10:12.260 I mean, if you leave every time, not meaning it kind of takes away the value.
00:10:16.740 But at its core, I think marriage is better for children.
00:10:20.420 However, what is more important?
00:10:23.460 A woman that listens to her boyfriend or husband or a piece of paper?
00:10:28.920 Now, the current.
00:10:30.160 Now, anyway, so this lawyer tells me the woman ended up leaving and it broke his heart.
00:10:34.660 Like, this was a couple of years after the fact and he still seemed like torn up about it.
00:10:40.720 It's pretty sad.
00:10:44.760 And I think women, in a way, communicate to men that they want the things that they provide
00:10:50.880 and not who they are as a person.
00:10:52.660 And that's a very tough thing for men to get over.
00:10:55.860 Now, the current narrative with modern women is they don't want marriage.
00:10:59.120 Now, I mean, it's sort of a lie.
00:11:01.920 They want marriage with like Brad Pitt, you know, if you look at like or they want marriage
00:11:07.420 after they've had their fun.
00:11:09.980 Now, you know, feminism has told women that there are no good men out there, that women
00:11:14.780 that actually give men the benefit of the doubt that are friendly, feminine, the women that
00:11:21.340 actually date men and give them the benefit of the doubt that are feminine and friendly
00:11:25.640 will ultimately find the type of man that they will marry.
00:11:29.040 If the man that doesn't commit, they will give the man the ultimatum.
00:11:33.880 If it's not about a matter of if, it's a matter of when.
00:11:38.880 And what we're going to talk about is women giving men ultimatums.
00:11:43.760 It's my opinion that when a man doesn't want to commit, it's not the specific woman, it's
00:11:48.380 marriage that they have a problem with.
00:11:50.140 Is this the end of the road?
00:11:51.800 I would say no.
00:11:52.720 But I would tell the ladies that the goal is to love a guy enough to give up what you
00:11:58.140 want for what he wants.
00:11:59.700 That is the only way modern women are going to have hope of getting married in 2025.
00:12:04.640 Now, it was interesting because when I first got into this space, you know, this is one
00:12:09.300 of the few things I really disagreed with Kevin Samuels on.
00:12:12.680 He said you have a year or less and then you either get married or you don't.
00:12:17.220 Now, I have seen men take that strategy, but it's usually a guy in his like mid to late
00:12:22.840 thirties who's just done.
00:12:24.200 He says, you know what?
00:12:24.900 I'm going to go first girl that qualifies.
00:12:27.800 It's the right time.
00:12:29.020 I'm done playing the field.
00:12:30.680 I want to focus on other things in my life.
00:12:32.940 Either works out or it doesn't.
00:12:34.640 It is what it is.
00:12:35.640 But that to me is rare.
00:12:37.940 What I see more often, to be honest, is women that get the guys that most women want have
00:12:45.240 to put in the time.
00:12:47.220 One woman that I think of that dated a man that's making like 350,000 working in finance
00:12:52.320 on the East Coast.
00:12:54.080 Guess how many years she waited for a ring?
00:12:56.800 Ten.
00:12:57.780 A decade.
00:12:58.560 She said she gave him literally her entire twenties and like half of her thirties and then got
00:13:05.340 a kind of a buzzer beater baby.
00:13:08.340 She wanted the kids like a decade earlier, but he didn't want it.
00:13:11.860 But she loved him more than the wedding, more than the ring, more than anything.
00:13:16.160 And that's really the pattern that I've seen for the men that most women are attracted
00:13:21.660 to or going for unless they're at a certain stage in life.
00:13:25.260 Now, there's an article that talks about a woman who has been with her boyfriend for over
00:13:30.040 nine years.
00:13:31.000 He said he didn't want to get married, but she's been there anyway and wants financial
00:13:37.180 advice.
00:13:37.640 I just realized I want to get married partially because of money and my boyfriend of nine
00:13:42.980 years won't do it.
00:13:44.600 Do I really have to leave?
00:13:46.360 My boyfriend of nine years says he doesn't believe in marriage because his parents had
00:13:49.840 an ugly divorce.
00:13:51.520 I knew this early on because he warned me that he would never get married and I guess I thought
00:13:55.280 I could live with it.
00:13:56.640 Maybe some small part of me hoped that I could get him to change his mind.
00:14:00.140 But now we're a decade in talking about having kids and I realized getting married is a deal
00:14:04.380 breaker for me.
00:14:05.800 There are obvious tax advantages to getting married and financial disadvantages to having
00:14:11.020 kids with someone who isn't your spouse.
00:14:13.600 My friends say that my only options are to accept his decision or to break up with him
00:14:17.740 and find someone else.
00:14:19.140 They're probably right, but I'm hoping there's a third way.
00:14:21.740 Any ideas?
00:14:22.640 Well, I have the ideas for you.
00:14:24.640 I have all your choices laid out.
00:14:26.620 Whine and cry?
00:14:28.140 Ultimatum.
00:14:28.580 Be a better woman so he wants to do it.
00:14:31.700 That's all I got for you.
00:14:33.040 All right.
00:14:33.560 So this woman married a military guy by giving him an ultimatum and now she talks about,
00:14:40.960 you know, ladies, is it really the same if they marry us when we drag them down the aisle?
00:14:46.360 Is it really like, do we really still get the feel good feeling out of this?
00:14:51.360 Like, are we really like happy?
00:14:53.640 All right, let me, let me pull this up.
00:14:55.080 So you know that girl who posted the video about the $128 engagement ring in Walmart and
00:15:01.980 she was kind of trying to persuade her boyfriend to propose to her and he was like, no, I don't
00:15:07.240 really have anybody want to get married to.
00:15:09.520 She has no idea the favor that that man did for her because there is nothing worse than
00:15:14.920 persuading or pressuring a man to marry you when he really doesn't want to.
00:15:20.340 And I know this because that's exactly how I ended up married.
00:15:23.760 My husband and I were dating for probably about two years before we got married.
00:15:27.460 We got married in 2007.
00:15:28.800 And the reason that the idea of marriage really came up for us is because he decided to join
00:15:34.960 the military.
00:15:36.160 And when I realized that he was serious about joining the military, I panicked.
00:15:41.080 I knew this was going to involve us being separated, him being deployed.
00:15:45.560 The truth was I was afraid to lose him.
00:15:48.380 So I brought up getting married and he agreed.
00:15:51.680 He didn't propose.
00:15:53.140 He didn't get out, get down on one knee.
00:15:55.400 We just made an agreement to get married.
00:15:57.260 Now, of course, we loved each other.
00:15:59.360 I loved him very much.
00:16:00.520 And I believe that he loved me.
00:16:02.540 But I don't think that he wanted to get married.
00:16:06.060 I think that he kind of went along with it because it's what I wanted and he wanted me
00:16:10.300 to be happy.
00:16:11.360 And I think he also thought that's what he should do.
00:16:14.200 And it's proven to be a disaster.
00:16:17.240 We're 17 years into this marriage and it's coming to an end.
00:16:21.240 My husband has always been a reluctant partner in the relationship.
00:16:25.220 And I've been the person that makes all the plans, does all the work.
00:16:29.560 And I think my husband has allowed that to happen because I think in his mind, he felt
00:16:35.060 like, you know, you're the one that wanted to get married.
00:16:37.380 So you should be the one doing all the work, basically.
00:16:40.160 And he's just kind of along for the ride.
00:16:43.320 I don't know why I didn't see the red flags earlier.
00:16:48.100 I didn't really notice his reluctance at the time.
00:16:52.700 And I didn't really notice that he wasn't really all in.
00:16:56.780 It just didn't occur to me.
00:16:58.320 I guess I was so excited and so happy about being married.
00:17:01.860 I just didn't see what was right in front of me.
00:17:04.500 One of the biggest regrets I have is not paying more attention, asking those questions and
00:17:10.360 realizing that my husband at the time was not all in.
00:17:13.480 Okay, the next one we have, the woman has been with her boyfriend and they have a child,
00:17:17.980 but he doesn't want to marry her.
00:17:20.000 My boyfriend and I have been together for four years.
00:17:22.940 We have a child together.
00:17:24.400 He doesn't want to marry me.
00:17:25.800 I don't know what to do next.
00:17:27.400 But like I said, my boyfriend and I have been together for four years and he is not ready
00:17:33.420 for marriage yet.
00:17:34.480 When I first brought up marriage, he would give me a bunch of excuses like he wants to
00:17:39.060 have a wedding that's different from everybody else or he wants to save up for a nice ring.
00:17:45.080 And he would even ask me things like, why don't you propose to me?
00:17:48.440 Like, why do I have to propose to you?
00:17:50.560 I told him that I would and he still told me that he wouldn't say yes.
00:17:55.140 Recently, we had a discussion about it and he finally came clean and told me that he doesn't
00:17:59.860 want to marry me now because I have growing to do.
00:18:03.400 He said he feels like I'm still a little bit too childish.
00:18:07.600 I also feel like he's a little bit childish too, but I still know that I want to marry
00:18:12.960 him and be with him forever.
00:18:14.920 He says that he feels the same way that he does want to marry me and be with me forever,
00:18:19.380 yet still no ring.
00:18:21.480 We've lived together for three to four years and we have a three-year-old child together.
00:18:26.300 I mean, if you had a kid.