Pearl - This Is The Biggest Problem With Older Virgin Women ｜ Pearl Daily

00:00:00.000 Before 1970, men could expect for the most part that their wife was going to be a virgin on their

00:00:07.940 wedding day. And from 1970 to 2010, the number of women that were virgins on their wedding night

00:00:14.520 dropped to 5%. As of 2024, 65% of people in the United States have had sex at least with one

00:00:24.580 person by the age of 18. The biggest issue is that many studies have shown that the likelihood of

00:00:31.500 your marriage succeeding decreases as the number of women's sexual partners goes up. Now, I want to 1.00

00:00:37.480 say before I do dive into this show that there are exceptions to every rule, but I like to give a

00:00:44.940 picture of what is going on in society. So there's always exceptions. So people that have sex before

00:00:52.260 they are married are two to three times more likely to divorce than those who don't. By their

00:00:57.820 fifth wedding anniversary, only 8% to 10% of virgin couples will divorce. Does that mean that the

00:01:03.940 couples are happy? No. Really, it just shows that the couple isn't divorced. Now, this article was

00:01:09.280 written by a woman. So, you know, this means that she thinks marriage is about happiness. A different

00:01:16.080 study showed that sex before marriage decreased the quality of marriage for women, but not for men. 0.54

00:01:21.300 Another study from 2010 showed that women's psychological and emotional satisfaction was 0.97

00:01:28.260 increased by the lowered level of guilt that came in part from losing their virginity to someone they

00:01:35.380 are emotionally involved with. A 2016 study sought to answer this awkward question, how much sex before

00:01:42.840 marriage is too much? The answers of 200 internet participants between the age of 18 and 22 were clear.

00:01:50.020 Both men and women found it less attractive when their potential partner had previously had sex

00:01:55.300 with more than 10 partners. Two or three previous partners was highly preferred. Now, we all know we

00:02:01.800 don't watch what women say. We watch what they do on this channel. So a lot of times what women do is 1.00

00:02:07.820 when there's a double standard that doesn't benefit us. So body count is obviously a high body count

00:02:13.280 for men. Women don't really care about a high body count for women. Men care about they will not date 0.93

00:02:19.940 you. They will not wife you if you've had sex with too many people. And he finds out about it unless

00:02:25.720 you're like Adam 22. Then I don't know. But what feminists have a tendency to do is they try to make the 1.00

00:02:33.940 double standard the same. And you're going to see this from Christian feminists, from left feminists, 1.00

00:02:40.100 as they try to make it the same. We all know it's not. I don't even need to study to tell you that

00:02:45.020 it's not. I just need to see women throwing themselves at Drake every single concert he has. 1.00

00:02:50.120 And then there's some idea that this just is a special type of ratchet woman. Not true. This is 1.00

00:02:56.220 across socioeconomic class, culture, and race. Individuals of both genders were more receptive to

00:03:03.600 higher body counts if they had a higher body count of their own. However, with these with high numbers

00:03:09.560 of previous sexual encounters were less tolerant of partners whose number was too small. So that's

00:03:17.240 what the studies say. So let's have a conversation about virgins. Now, it's my belief that both men and

00:03:23.640 women virgins get eaten alive in the modern dating market. Let's talk about adult virgin women. You might 1.00

00:03:31.320 think based on all these stats that men would want a virgin. I would put an age limit on that. I would 0.51

00:03:38.880 say that most adult female virgins are strange to say the least. Guys, you know what I'm talking about.

00:03:46.260 Think about adult women that are virgins that you know. I've met enough in my life that I can narrow it 1.00

00:03:52.720 down to a couple different archetypes of virgin women over. I'm going to be generous. I think you age out 0.99

00:03:59.740 at like 21, 22. If you don't meet your high school or your college person that you're going to wait

00:04:05.800 till marriage with, it's probably not going to happen for you. But I'm going to be generous and

00:04:10.800 say 24. Generally, if women are virgins over the age of 24, they like the attention of being a virgin.

00:04:18.500 Attention is currency. If they were serious that they wanted to get married, they would go ahead and

00:04:24.620 do it. But they will reject all of the suitable candidates except the ones and except instead of

00:04:31.440 saying that the candidates don't make six figures, they're not tall enough, they will say that he does

00:04:37.860 not lead me to God, even though that is your own problem. That your religion, what are you going to do 0.68

00:04:45.040 if you get married and your husband passes away? Wouldn't it then be your responsibility to lead

00:04:50.900 yourself to God? Anyways, they will keep saying that he is not holy enough and they will shame any man

00:04:56.840 that even tries. Shaming the male sex drive is super common in church culture, which is why you see a lot

00:05:03.380 of men leaving the church. They do not put up with that BS. The adult virgin woman tends to spend their 1.00

00:05:10.480 time with other single women in the church. They will pray to God that their husband will magically come.

00:05:16.660 No work, no putting themselves in social situations, just magic. One example that I think

00:05:23.440 of is Lolo Jones, and we're going to talk about that in a little bit. Instead of submitting to their

00:05:27.880 husbands, they submit to the church elders. What happens when you interpret the Bible one way and

00:05:32.800 your husband interprets the Bible another way? And the church elders interpret the Bible another way.

00:05:40.000 Do you trust your husband or do you listen to the church elders? If he converts to a different 0.99

00:05:45.120 religion, are you going with him? If he decides to leave the church, will you follow him? More often

00:05:51.640 than not, especially in Protestant churches, the answer is no. The pastor is who they are actually

00:05:57.540 submitting to or the doctrine, not the man. No man with options is going to sit and wait. So generally,

00:06:05.500 they will have little to no option. Do you see Brad Pitt waiting till marriage? The answer is no.

00:06:11.440 In general, most guys that have the option to not wait are not going to. They have nothing else to

00:06:17.480 bring to a man skill-wise, and they think their virginity makes up for their attitude problem. 0.99

00:06:23.620 They bring their virginity, and that is it. Most of the virgins do not have wifey skills and a bad 1.00

00:06:30.120 attitude if they are over a certain age. They have too much anxiety around sex and what could go wrong

00:06:36.560 after they lose their virginity. They're rooted in fear. They want to use marriage as an escape for

00:06:41.780 their relationship burden of performance. They want the guarantee of him not leaving when in life

00:06:47.560 nothing is guaranteed. The act of giving up your virginity guarantees nothing even if it's on your

00:06:54.200 wedding night. Christians divorce too. Everybody has a burden of performance in marriage. The other 0.99

00:07:00.260 type of virgin that I see is asexual and socially awkward. The next type of female virgin I see is 0.99

00:07:07.520 lying. They are not telling the truth. They're not actually virgins. They get around this 0.95

00:07:12.160 by maybe technically being a virgin, but they've blown like five guys. They did anal. They did. 0.99

00:07:20.000 They were fingered. I mean, does it really count if you gave three guys blowjobs? Let me know in the 0.99

00:07:25.320 chat. You know, you know, smart men are not going to believe you over a certain age. Only naive men

00:07:30.400 will. No woman wants a naive guy. I went to Catholic school and believe me, I have seen women do their

00:07:37.540 workarounds firsthand. They will do everything else and still call themselves a virgin. I'm not saying

00:07:42.740 that's right or wrong. Everyone has a right to do what they want with their body. However, over a certain

00:07:49.440 age, the purity doesn't really count like it used to because there's no guarantee. They have

00:07:55.240 no relationship skills and they don't have the talent to keep a attractive man interested. Women that 1.00

00:08:01.620 are virgins have never had to deal with phase two of a relationships that have relationship that happens

00:08:07.820 after sex and is important where it is important that you are likable. Virgins think they are somehow a 1.00

00:08:15.660 good person simply by the fact that they are virgins. They don't put in the work to be a likable

00:08:21.120 girlfriend. What's better, a bitchy virgin or a nice whore? Twelve, they are fat or ugly. The next, 1.00

00:08:29.460 they think they're traditional because they're a virgin, but you can't be traditional in this

00:08:33.940 culture because the woman will always have the upper hand. They want the benefit of a traditional 1.00

00:08:39.220 marriage without the responsibility of being obedient to their husbands. There's the Instagram

00:08:44.340 virgins which will settle for nothing less than a millionaire or billionaire. They use 1.00

00:08:49.320 God for clout to build a brand and to marry rich. They have no interest in serving a man. They would 1.00

00:08:55.980 rather have a man as an accessory, not somebody to obey and start a family with. Okay, so I pulled up

00:09:04.960 some TikToks and I'm going to go through which type of virgin they are. 1.00

00:09:10.780 My sister's really mean to me. She says I'm a loser and I'm gross. I'm going to die alone. I mean, 0.99

00:09:16.520 it's true. I don't have a boyfriend and I want one. All I want to do is play video games all day.

00:09:21.720 That doesn't make me a loser. Like, let me play my games. Like, okay, so she, this is a 30-year-old

00:09:26.640 virgin woman who's extremely socially awkward. There's no virtue in staying in your apartment, 1.00

00:09:32.440 playing video games, and socializing with nobody. God will not send you, I don't know if hers is

00:09:38.860 religious, right? But God isn't going to send you a husband to your doorstep with doing no work.

00:09:45.360 And so what if I'm a, that just means that my goal of not getting a boyfriend will work because

00:09:50.260 then I'll be free to just continue playing video, you know? Like, who cares if I'm a 29-year-old

00:09:55.520 virgin? I, I just don't like sex. I'm asexual. So you guys can guess in the chat, lying, asexual, 0.97

00:10:03.120 super awkward. I'd put her as a socially awkward virgin. Now there will be a simp to wife her up 1.00

00:10:10.880 someday. Now this woman I would put as either lying because she's saying she's a virgin, but her boobs 1.00

00:10:19.840 are out and she has really heavy makeup. I just don't really get modesty vibes from her. Call me 0.90

00:10:25.440 crazy. But that is, that's my guess on this one. My virgin has proven to be very difficult in terms

00:10:31.300 of dating. Men get scared off when they learn my truth. They pursue me based on my physical

00:10:36.520 appearance. Right. But then when they find out more about me, they go poof. They dart the, they go in

00:10:41.880 the other direction. Right. They're scared. Because like you said, we live in a hookup culture. We do.

00:10:46.280 Instant gratification. Yeah. Our generation is just, you know, one night stands, friends with benefits,

00:10:50.940 no strings attached relationships. Yeah. But I've held my ground. I, a one night stand will devastate

00:10:56.180 me. Yeah. It will, I need a man who will be there for me longterm. Yeah. I'm not desperate for

00:11:00.700 marriage. I'm not desperate for a husband, but I am looking for my soulmate for companionship. Yeah.

00:11:05.340 Soulmates robust is what I always say. And to those out there who say, you know,

00:11:10.080 there's sayings out there like, oh, don't drive a car before test driving it, all that stuff. Yeah.

00:11:13.800 Don't buy it before test driving. Exactly. Right. You know, look at my social media. I'm a dancer. I grew up dancing,

00:11:19.080 as I mentioned, and those who dance well, you know, exactly. It indicates their love making

00:11:24.060 abilities. So you want to wait until marriage. Absolutely. Now we got to think about this from

00:11:29.360 the guy's point of view. One in the chat, if you believe that woman has done nothing,

00:11:34.640 that she's a hundred percent pure, let me know in the chat. I'm going to read, I'm going to read

00:11:39.420 the chat right now. It said, Dane says, Pearl, no such thing as a male virgin. The idea is a product

00:11:46.360 of egalitarianism to say that men who have sex the first time is giving something to a woman or that

00:11:52.240 he loses something. Think about it logically. If a male gives, gives his virginity to her and she

00:11:58.480 gives her virginity to him, do they both still have their virginity? Does one, do they cancel the other 0.98

00:12:04.280 out? Virginity is man valued by men because of paternity and because men are territorial and

00:12:10.140 protective of property that gives virginity value beyond simply a physical act like sneezing.

00:12:15.600 Male virginity is a creation of feminists in the Protestant churches. That's not to say that 0.95

00:12:21.100 premarital sex for men before marriage isn't a sin, but he's not losing his virginity. What I taught

00:12:27.400 my daughters was that purity and virtue were more important than the concepts of virginity and that 0.98

00:12:33.460 merely abstaining from intercourse didn't really do what scripture called women to do. Scripture and

00:12:39.440 even non-Christian men value purity and virtue in a wife more than the absolute question of has she had

00:12:46.740 a dude inside of her who? Glenn says she may never had had a one night stand, but she had a boyfriend

00:12:52.980 for one night and his name was Stan. Dane says a virgin, a woman could be a stone cold virgin 100%

00:13:00.200 but covered in tattoos, drinking, dressing provocatively, cussing more than a redneck who finds 0.89

00:13:05.300 someone in his deer stand and they aren't doing it. Okay. The next one we have is a 30 year old

00:13:11.600 woman. Now this I would put in the socially awkward category of virgin. So let's make sure the sound is

00:13:17.300 up. Okay. How to find someone because I'm almost 30 years old and I never had sexual experience or

00:13:24.800 anything with a man. And people tell me that I have this masculine energy and I want to know how to get

00:13:31.260 out of it. So here's what I always tell women how you can start small. My women who are hyper 1.00

00:13:37.040 independent, you grew up in an environment where you had to take care of yourself. There was no one

00:13:42.820 there for you to care for you. So you had to survive, right? So you're in that survival mode.

00:13:49.460 So I say start simple. If a man, you're going into a building, just to open a door, let him.

00:13:55.500 Okay. Okay. It's going to be very hard for me. No, no, no. Don't let it be hard. Let it be simple.

00:14:03.380 If you are going into a department store, if you're going to a clothing shop,

00:14:07.220 you can't reach something or a guy says, I'll help you with that to your car. And he works in a store.

00:14:12.800 Allow him to. Start small. Work on little things. Wear a little bit of lip gloss some days. Put on

00:14:19.180 mascara. You don't need a full face of makeup. Wear your hair down. Put a little something.

00:14:24.500 So I've noticed with femininity coaches, it's always let him do things for you and put on 0.88

00:14:30.860 makeup and hair. It's never about, you know, because when you think of really feminine women, 0.64

00:14:37.340 like when I think of the women I knew growing up that were the most feminine, none really cared 0.99

00:14:42.400 about makeup. None really cared about hair. And none were really focused on what men could do for

00:14:49.880 them. They were focused on serving their community and serving the people around them. So you guys

00:14:57.120 know the feeling, like when you go to your grandma's house, she's got food ready. Ours had some cookies.

00:15:01.680 It was real nice.

00:15:02.520 We had a flash hundreds of cookies every Christmas.

00:15:05.060 You know, but that's what, but it's interesting because the femininity coaches, I would say 1.00

00:15:11.320 femininity at its core is selflessness, right? It's giving up your youth for the family. It's giving 1.00

00:15:17.440 up your body for the kids. It's giving up your free time for others, right? And this is why I say,

00:15:23.440 look, I'm not, I'm not saying I'm a spitting example of what that should be, but you can find examples of

00:15:29.420 women that did that. And you can tell by the way they carry themselves, that it's not about makeup. 1.00

00:15:36.620 It's not about hair. It's about giving to everyone else. And so that's why, you know, how many

00:15:43.200 commentators that, you know, virtue signal traditionalism give up their career after they

00:15:50.820 have kids. I couldn't find one. And so again, that's why most traditionalism, especially on the

00:15:57.880 internet, it's all cosplay. You know, the real traditional women aren't really online and they're 1.00

00:16:03.420 pretty rare. Most are over 40. You're not going to find many under 40. Those are unicorns.

00:16:08.720 The shiny on the lip, put a little mascara. Okay. Wear bright colors. Smile when you go out.

00:16:15.560 Talk a little bit softer. Listen a little bit, you know, and allow them to do it. What? We know

00:16:22.280 you're in the, but think about what this woman's going to be like in a relationship. So she said 1.00

00:16:26.340 no relationship experience. Is she going to know how, how to be a girlfriend and why would a guy,

00:16:35.520 you know, that, you know, there's a certain age where it's really better for women to give it up. 0.99

00:16:40.740 You know what? Because how else are they going to get experience? And I wish I could just virtue

00:16:46.660 signal, right? I wish, I wish I could just virtue signal like everyone else and say, just wait till

00:16:51.880 you're married. Well, if you're 30, that is not going to work. Oh my God, that is not going to work.

00:16:57.820 Sorry. Like, do I want to talk about what would be ideal or what is going to work in 2024?

00:17:06.340 No guy is going to risk. He's not going to think, you know what? Let me risk this whole,

00:17:11.660 the state taking away everything, giving you the ultimate authority and taking your word that

00:17:20.060 you're a 30 and a virgin. Now, maybe you've known him your whole life. Okay. That's a little

00:17:24.980 different. Are there exceptions? Sure. But I w I would say that any guy that signs up for that is

00:17:31.200 foolish. He's an idiot. And the, the trad cons can virtue signal all they want, but you know, 1.00

00:17:38.800 I'm the one being honest. The guys in the red pill, they're the ones being honest. This woman,

00:17:43.160 she, she would be better. She would get closer. If her outcome is she wants to be married with children, 0.99

00:17:48.040 she's got to go get some experience. She, she has to, you know, hopefully with someone within a point 0.63

00:17:53.680 of her league.

Pearl - January 13, 2025

This Is The Biggest Problem With Older Virgin Women ｜ Pearl Daily

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