Pearl - This Is Why Pearl GAVE UP On Fighting ABORTION

00:00:00.320 I have been talking about radical acceptance on my channel as of late.

00:00:07.040 And you know, there is a point in my career, and I think a lot of people kind of relate

00:00:12.920 to this when you're young, where you moralize and think that you can change the entire world.

00:00:19.880 You know, I think that's why like hippies was, you know, there's a lot of people alive

00:00:24.880 today that when they were young were hippies, you know, it's why people have these phases

00:00:28.940 in college where they're like blue haired feminists or whatever.

00:00:32.720 But there was just a point where I was debating on these issues all the time.

00:00:38.960 And I just had to accept that things were just not going to change.

00:00:43.180 Now, I want to give an example of this is pro-life versus pro-choice debate.

00:00:47.920 So as you guys know, I'm very pro-life.

00:00:50.680 My mom took me to pro-life rallies when I was like 12 years old, like we went to a Sarah

00:00:54.960 Palin rally.

00:00:56.540 And what happened at these was I used to, I actually remember debating, I don't know

00:01:01.900 why, I remember being like 12 and debating abortion on the playground.

00:01:05.940 This is an especially near and dear issue to my heart because my parents have been on both

00:01:11.780 sides of adoption.

00:01:12.940 So they've given a kid up for adoption and we've also adopted.

00:01:15.880 I've been on both sides, but I just refuse to argue about abortion anymore.

00:01:23.400 And the reason I came to this conclusion, there was a couple of reasons.

00:01:27.320 So first of all, my, my dad, he thinks I'm a little extreme.

00:01:32.800 He, he's always been conservative.

00:01:34.800 And my dad did is one of the reasons I am conservative, but he even thought that the

00:01:40.900 abortion stuff is just too far.

00:01:42.800 And I said, dad, but you don't think it's murder?

00:01:45.680 Like you don't think it's wrong?

00:01:47.080 And he said, yeah, it is, but it's never going to change.

00:01:52.640 Most people don't agree that it should be legal at nine months.

00:01:56.160 So why don't we just cut a deal with them?

00:01:59.080 Why don't we just say, okay, three months, cut a deal, be done, quit arguing about it.

00:02:04.920 And another reason I came to this conclusion was when I was in London, I would show women

00:02:11.800 videos of abortions.

00:02:13.360 I would show them actual, you know, evidence of how terrible abortions were and they don't

00:02:19.960 care.

00:02:20.960 They don't care in the slightest.

00:02:21.960 Um, I mean, women tick tock their abortions now.

00:02:25.320 And I realized it's always been this way because if you look at the infant mortality rate of

00:02:30.080 a hundred years ago, I believe it's similar to the abortion rate today because women were

00:02:36.080 either being negligent or killing their kids.

00:02:38.000 That's what I believe that it's possible.

00:02:40.880 It's not true, but that, that, and I really thought that somehow I was doing something moral

00:02:48.400 by arguing about these issues.

00:02:50.160 I really did at the time.

00:02:53.280 I, you know, you almost develop like a hero complex, you know, and you, you, you feel

00:02:59.600 like by debating this stuff, you are saving society, saving the babies, whatever it is.

00:03:06.720 But there are some ships that are just sinking and that's the best way I can describe it.

00:03:13.680 So the abortion, I understand we won Roe versus Wade.

00:03:17.440 Maybe the abortion rate goes down slightly, but overwhelmingly women have won.

00:03:23.920 They won, they get abortions and they're going to have them forever.

00:03:27.760 At least as long as I am alive in my lifetime, I am encroaching in on 30, I'm 28.

00:03:35.360 And so I'm getting close to my halfway around, like, let's say I live to be 80.

00:03:40.480 I'm a decade.

00:03:41.440 I don't really see this changing in my lifetime.

00:03:44.800 Okay.

00:03:46.080 And radical acceptance has really made me think about my morals and think of, and it's made

00:03:52.880 me a happier person because before, if I would debate somebody about abortion, I would get really

00:04:00.960 frustrated if they didn't see my point of view and I would view them as immoral.

00:04:06.560 You know, I would think that they were an immoral person and I was fighting on the side of morality.

00:04:11.520 And what I realized is that people have a right to their hell.

00:04:14.400 Now, I believe abortion is murder.

00:04:18.400 If it were up to me, it would be illegal.

00:04:20.960 But people have a right to make complete chaos in their lives.

00:04:26.480 And some people will just not learn from their mistakes until their life is a living hell.

00:04:31.280 28 and granny.

00:04:32.560 I know I'm like a granny.

00:04:34.080 If I live to be 95, I'm going to be pissed.

00:04:36.560 I don't want to live that long.

00:04:37.760 So I used to, and I really do regret this to some, I can't say I regret it because it was

00:04:43.920 what I believed at the time, but I think you guys have sort of seen me grow up a little bit on camera

00:04:49.920 because I've been making TikToks since I was 24, 23, maybe 22.

00:04:56.080 I don't know, 20, 23 or 24.

00:04:59.040 So you guys have kind of seen me like live through my twenties.

00:05:02.240 Right.

00:05:02.880 And while even in that clip, I was saying abortion is morally wrong.

00:05:08.800 Being a single mother is morally wrong.

00:05:10.800 And well, that may be true.

00:05:12.960 Radical acceptance has helped me separate the morality of women's actions to have a better

00:05:17.840 discourse and accept things the way that they are.

00:05:20.960 Because, you know, there's some stuff that women are just never going to change ever, ever.

00:05:28.080 And you get to a certain point where you realize that there are causes that are just

00:05:32.720 sinking ships.

00:05:34.000 They're going down and you got two choices.

00:05:37.200 You can either save yourself and go learn to swim or try to save everybody that wants to drown.

00:05:44.640 So I started thinking about this and I started thinking, what would it take for the average

00:05:50.240 person to give up on a hopeless pursuit?

00:05:53.520 What would it take for the average person to give up on a cause that's losing?

00:05:59.600 You know, I, for example, I have met so many people over the years that are environmentalists.

00:06:05.520 They care a lot about the environment.

00:06:07.520 And when I went to a Kamala rally, that was one of, not one of the main, but that was

00:06:13.440 a not uncommon answer that I got from people when I was interviewing was that they were voting for

00:06:18.400 Kamala to save the environment.

00:06:20.880 I also meet so many people that understand that there's not really much that we can do to save

00:06:26.960 the environment. You know, Americans think that driving a hybrid or recycling will make a dent in

00:06:32.160 the world's pollution problem. But, you know, I've actually been to India. I went there a decade ago.

00:06:38.720 I promise to God we are not doing shit when it comes to the environment. Nothing. And I see all this,

00:06:46.880 you know, time and energy that they're spending on a cause that's just sinking. It's a sinking ship.

00:06:53.200 So I've also, you know, I have a vegan guitar teacher and I've told you, I think he's been on

00:06:57.440 the show and he's a really intelligent guy, really smart guy. And I was having conversation with him

00:07:02.480 the other day and I was asking him, what would it take for him to abandon this? You know, cause he

00:07:10.080 doesn't, he's not a Trump fan, obviously. Right. But I asked him, I said, how much more money would

00:07:14.480 you have to make under Trump to abandon this vegan stuff, to abandon this environment stuff? And at

00:07:22.480 first I said, you know, I said 10,000 a month, would you do it? And he said, no, I walked away from all

00:07:28.320 this money before. I wouldn't do it. Cause he, he worked in really smart guy, really great person.

00:07:33.760 Um, but he worked in, he worked in finance before. And then I, you know, I kept upping the number

00:07:41.120 and I saw him, you know, getting closer. And then I said, what about this music opportunity? What if

00:07:46.800 this musical under Trump, there was some sort of funding that went towards musicals and you got an

00:07:53.200 amazing role in one, would you abandon? So on your Trump ticket, it says you get this opportunity,

00:08:00.880 but F the environment, the environment, there's no policies. It's all drill, baby drill. Would you

00:08:07.200 vote for it? And I said, for me, if Kamala went out and said abortions up to nine months,

00:08:13.280 but you get your monetization back or the divorce laws change tomorrow, I would say, fuck it. Click.

00:08:19.600 I'd say Kamala, you know, so at a certain point, there are causes that are not worth fighting.

00:08:28.640 And it's not necessarily compromising your morals because I would never perform an abortion. I would

00:08:35.280 never get an abortion. There's no amount of money that could make me do that. They could not pay me,

00:08:40.000 but I also am aware that I cannot stop these hoes from killing their kids. I cannot. You guys are

00:08:46.240 saying hell no. I mean, if women, if they want to throw their kids in dumpsters, how many, how many

00:08:51.200 kids get thrown in dumpsters every year that nobody finds? Only God can change a woman's mind.

00:08:56.400 The most you can do is try to convince woman to do the right thing is that she'll make harmful

00:09:01.920 choices and more enthusiastically out of spite. Exactly. At some point, it's a lost cause and you

00:09:08.960 got to abandon the sinking ship because if you don't abandon the sinking ship, you will drown.

00:09:15.440 Now I want to tell this other story. So this is kind of, it's kind of interesting. And I genuinely think

00:09:22.400 that I had someone on my show a while ago. I never released the footage because he was just too

00:09:26.880 controversial and it just didn't make sense for me, but he had his version. I'll just say of a sinking

00:09:33.200 ship. So he, he really believed in the J question. I'm not getting into that, but he showed me his

00:09:40.720 evidence and it seemed, it was very convincing and he really laid out his case. And I really

00:09:45.920 understood why he believed what he believed, but I could just see that all of, you know,

00:09:52.160 he was an older guy, like seventies. And I could just tell that all of the years he spent fighting,

00:09:59.120 you know, he could have been building something, you know, if he just accepted, you know, he spent

00:10:03.600 years arguing over this topic. And if he just said, you know what, this is the way it is. Let me go

00:10:09.840 navigate the world the way it is. And maybe build an app, maybe, you know, build something to make my

00:10:15.920 community's life better. And I realized I was like, I don't want to turn into this guy. I don't want to

00:10:21.840 go crazy fighting for stuff that'll just never change and getting hopeful and expecting things

00:10:29.520 to change. I would rather just accept and navigate the world, the way it is. For example, you could

00:10:36.400 have a conversation saying, you know, degeneracy is bad degeneracy, like no sleeping around. We hate

00:10:42.480 whores, but, or you could say, if you're going to sleep around, these are the STDs that can ruin your life.

00:10:50.080 These are the STDs you got to watch out for. These are the risks. These are the pros. These are the

00:10:55.120 cons. If you're going to do it, do it this way. If you choose not to try an arranged marriage,

00:11:00.080 ask your family. You know, there's practical ways that we can kind of take away the morality

00:11:05.840 and just have a little bit more interesting of a conversation because morality is not going to

00:11:11.360 change the way the world is. Any group, you're going to have the same dynamic. Women go for 20% of

00:11:17.360 men, then convince the next 20% they didn't sleep with the top 20% of men, get married, divorce.

00:11:25.840 I mean, there's just stuff that that's never going to change. And, you know, growing up, my dad,

00:11:31.200 he never verbalized this to me, but he really had this point of view or has, I would say,

00:11:36.960 because he would, every time gossip would come out or crazy story or like something in our town,

00:11:43.680 I would say, Dad, can you believe that this happened? And he would say, what do you expect?

00:11:47.360 People are people. Nothing surprises me. And my dad is a very happy person. And he just never,

00:11:55.120 even though my dad is a very, very moral, like the way he lives his life is stupid moral.

00:12:00.880 He just works, doesn't drink, doesn't smoke, doesn't, he's just, when you meet, like, if you ever meet my

00:12:06.400 dad, he's just a great person. And he doesn't really worry about political, he casts his vote,

00:12:13.840 and then he goes. My boyfriend's another one who really showed me this. I mean, there were just

00:12:19.840 times where, you know, we were talking and, you know, he would kind of just show me how this was a

00:12:26.720 waste of time arguing about morality. I don't bother saving anyone. I just give them enough rope and let

00:12:32.320 them hang themselves. And sometimes you've got to let people fail if you don't let them fail.

00:12:36.560 To be honest, guys, my dad, during the last year, when I had all these like business problems,

00:12:43.680 my dad let me fail. I, when I was burning through cash, because I over hired people, when I was making

00:12:51.760 management mistakes, my dad very well could have saved it for me. And he's so intelligent because he

00:12:58.640 just said, No, you need to learn. And to be honest, guys, I have a really good feeling this time

00:13:03.520 around. I know. I know Anna's leaving, right? But I am in so much better of a position now because I

00:13:09.600 failed because I have a new business model. And in six months, I understand how to do it. And I even,

00:13:17.040 I understand how to grow other people's accounts too. And this is going to be a great business model

00:13:22.480 that's going to keep me employed forever. And I never would have learned it if I didn't fail.

Pearl - March 07, 2025

This Is Why Pearl GAVE UP On Fighting ABORTION ｜ Pearl Daily

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