Pearl - TradCons Are Lying About What Men Owe Women w⧸ @thisisshah

00:00:00.080 so i i just hear the tradcon stuff and what they will do is say men need to be protectors and

00:00:04.560 providers and they will be very hard on young men and they'll put all this pressure on young men

00:00:08.800 they'll say men need to do better you know women just need to just be good women and men need to

00:00:13.600 come in here and do all this stuff but then when i look at it historically i'm looking at all this

00:00:18.720 stuff starting from you know the turn of the you know two millennia ago coming all the way down

00:00:25.200 young men have never had the kind of pressure that they're putting on them and i would say

00:00:29.280 unjustly because what would happen is they would get married. He would have some kind of income

00:00:35.320 that her family would know what his trajectory was going to be. He's from this family. It looks

00:00:41.100 like he's a pretty sharp young guy. We want to marry our daughter within the same class. We're

00:00:47.620 going to give her this dowry for her wedding. When they get married, they now have what's called a

00:00:52.480 conjugal fund, and this helps set up the new household. It helps set up the trade shop or

00:00:57.880 whatever for whatever this guy is going to be doing and then they would go in

00:01:00.700 that way nowadays what we have is this really bad deal for monogamy you know so

00:01:07.600 you'll have these trad cons that'll say you need to be monogamous you need to be 1.00

00:01:11.400 do that the groom needs to make this much money and it's it she should never 0.98

00:01:16.060 have to think about it they never mentioned anything about her family

00:01:19.660 contributing at all and it's just impossible to do and you know when you

00:01:25.280 look traditionally, the way a family attracted a high status groom or a groom of equal class

00:01:30.720 was they typically endowed their daughters with the dowry. So if you're a groom and you're looking

00:01:39.020 at your options on the table, you're going to be okay with taking a monogamous match and focusing

00:01:45.780 your time and efforts here because she's coming with something that's helped setting up a strong

00:01:51.040 household.

Pearl - June 02, 2025