Pearl - UNTHINKABLE： Some Modern Women Regret Ruining a Man's Life

00:00:00.000 And it's tough because our biology is saying we can't reproduce with average men, and that's going on in the background.

00:00:08.020 All right. What up, guys? Welcome to my reaction series.

00:00:11.700 So sometimes in life, women make decisions and they're bad. That's pretty much all of them. 1.00

00:00:16.480 And today we are going to watch women talk about regretting their divorce.

00:00:20.980 A lot of men get divorced and they think, why? Why would you do this to me? And they take it very personally.

00:00:25.040 But women aren't happy with anything, not with each other, not with ourselves. We're just unhappy people. 1.00

00:00:29.460 so if you can't make a woman happy welcome to the club nobody can so women are now going to 1.00

00:00:34.180 talk about their bad choices of divorcing their husbands and their regrets so i'm ordering old

00:00:38.780 fashioned dirty martinis and these bars then we're going out to steak dinners with my co-workers and

00:00:43.680 we're ordering expensive bottles of wine and i'm showing up at home wasted and i get i start

00:00:51.900 resenting my husband because he's just like like any normal husband probably would do like what

00:00:59.360 are you doing coming home on a tuesday night at 10 30 drunk out of your mouth used to be really

00:01:05.800 hot you can tell when she was young she was really really cute and a lot of women they just can't let 1.00

00:01:10.420 it go they start getting ugly they start getting old which is it's happening to me too it's

00:01:15.920 happening to all of us and um they just can't let the party lifestyle go you know it's like where

00:01:21.320 were you? Um, and so I realized then that I couldn't be married anymore. I was like, this

00:01:29.340 is not going to work out for me because, and again, I'm, I'm spinning the truth. I'm telling

00:01:34.260 my family, he's so controlling. I got to get out of this relationship. I mean, he's insecure.

00:01:40.320 It's just, I'm just saying the family believes her. That's the biggest problem. So many families

00:01:45.500 encourage women to leave their husbands because they believe the daughter's version of the story

00:01:49.160 and they don't talk to the dad or the husband.

00:01:52.240 Whatever I need to, to make my family be like,

00:01:54.960 I mean, that doesn't sound anything like them,

00:01:56.760 but like, I guess, yeah, if you're unhappy, go for it.

00:02:00.160 Not go for it.

00:02:01.080 Obviously my family wasn't like, yeah, get divorced.

00:02:03.340 But I mean, they're like, if it's gonna make you happy,

00:02:05.620 like, I guess you have to do what's gonna make you happy.

00:02:07.780 And they don't know the real reason why, yeah.

00:02:10.500 My mom will still say to this day,

00:02:12.320 she watches my TikToks and she's like,

00:02:14.820 I didn't know that you were hiding all this drinking

00:02:16.920 from your ex-husband.

00:02:18.420 like my ex and i was like yeah i know you didn't because i did whatever i could to make you not

00:02:23.620 know and my ex-husband would not tell my parents because he knew that would just piss me off so he

00:02:30.820 keep he protected me in a sense which um beginning of december and i get home and i'm like i'm moving

00:02:39.380 out and he's just like what and i'm like yep i don't want to be married anymore i want freedom

00:02:46.340 i don't i feel like you're controlling and we don't realize what's on the other side of freedom

00:02:50.500 we don't know how much men protect us from and how like frustrating our day-to-day lives are

00:02:55.700 look even when i'm in a relationship i sleep better because the men are always more structured

00:03:01.620 on when they go to bed and wake up it's like little things like that you don't even um i don't

00:03:07.380 know take into account i guess me you are always wondering where i am just like normally yeah of

00:03:13.060 course he is but i i couldn't it didn't make sense to me and i'm experiencing this life now what if

00:03:20.100 he took that person and thought it was him he's like what did i do wrong no it's just her crazy

00:03:26.060 woman of going out and not having not being tied down to anyone and i'm like this is what i missed

00:03:32.020 out throughout my 20s because i was in a serious relationship from the moment i got out of college

00:03:36.940 to now and i'm 30 years old and so i just didn't so again i'm just fine i'm like i just need a

00:03:43.900 couple years of going out in new york get it out of my system i just need it out of my system it's

00:03:49.820 just all pent up and i definitely don't have a problem it's just me needing to live life a little

00:03:54.160 bit um so i move out um that divorce was that was heartbreaking for him um and for me but i didn't

00:04:02.360 experienced the heartbreak until after i got sober because i drank through it all um so all right

00:04:08.600 let's see um she'll be a problem forever stay away fellas stay away wakia let's see this lady and i 0.98

00:04:15.800 was just listening to a video by kevin samuels and i'm going back to kind of like reaccumate myself

00:04:22.600 with some of his teachings and he was telling this woman that the person she had a baby with

00:04:27.640 she needs to go back and try and make it work rather than going through random dudes who is 0.95

00:04:32.320 not vested in her or her son and who won't marry her. And, um, about five or six years ago,

00:04:38.340 I divorced my husband being selfish, not thinking about my child, the people that I really was

00:04:46.540 fucking selfish, even though I chose him after 16 years, I decided to delete him and it has cost me. 0.76

00:04:55.020 And so let this be a message. 1.00

00:04:56.600 Yeah, because again, women are bad with money. 1.00

00:04:58.460 So even if we get the child support and the alimony, like, I don't know what it is.

00:05:02.100 We just self-destruct.

00:05:03.260 I don't know if it's because we're lazy. 1.00

00:05:05.760 I don't know if it's because we're just dumb. 0.98

00:05:08.780 I can't really say why, but we just have a tendency, like, average men can figure things 0.99

00:05:14.760 out better than the most intelligent women. 1.00

00:05:17.260 to you women i know that being in a non-unfulfilling marriage don't feel good but guess what

00:05:25.920 well the hard thing is it's it's like biology

00:05:28.500 so um

00:05:32.040 it's tough because our biology is saying we can't reproduce with average men and that's going on

00:05:43.900 in the background and so we're biologically predispositioned to go for the highest status

00:05:49.460 men in any room and now social media we're seeing higher status men than we're supposed to see

00:05:54.580 you know we're supposed to just come like reproduce with the highest status men in your town not in

00:05:59.100 the world leaving your son without his father inside of the home doesn't feel good either

00:06:05.240 man i was just yeah okay yeah and you can't like living together is just a different type of like

00:06:12.320 involvement. You're just going to see the person way more. I have a parent's regret that I would

00:06:17.320 like to share. My biggest parent's regret was getting a divorce. My ex-husband and I didn't

00:06:22.680 have any major issues. There was no abuse, cheating, or money problems. I think we just

00:06:28.260 got bored with each other. We wanted excitement and grew to resent each other. Of course, we

00:06:33.900 started to argue more and touch each other less, and then ultimately decided to part ways.

00:06:38.160 and it was really hard and we're programmed to like seek fault in people so figure out stuff

00:06:44.720 that's like wrong with them so part on our children i remember during the first stages

00:06:50.320 our children thought it was cool they had two houses and two of all the things they loved

00:06:55.080 but about a month in they were over it and they were trying to understand what happened that was

00:07:00.300 so bad that we couldn't live together i remember my then six-year-old saying so you and daddy had

00:07:06.480 an argument and you don't want to forgive him. I was stumbling over my response because I had had

00:07:12.860 to regulate arguments between the children and asking them to forgive each other for

00:07:18.340 misunderstandings. It broke my heart. But at the time, I really did not want to be with him

00:07:24.860 and I couldn't force myself to do it for the kids. Time went on and I would see how hard it was when

00:07:31.900 we started dating other people it was rough yeah because no one's gonna be perfect so you're just

00:07:37.380 gonna like one women are gonna compare the new guy to the x's and like there's gonna be pluses 1.00

00:07:43.880 with the new guys but then you're gonna miss things about the x's so all right let's see

00:07:50.720 then eventually the kids grew up and they were fine with the arrangement but then the grandkids

00:07:56.260 came and they were asking all the same questions. But this time they were asking us together and my

00:08:03.080 ex-husband and I found ourselves surprised at how we were reliving the breakup all over again,

00:08:09.340 answering all the same questions. But now that we are older, we understand and agree that we didn't

00:08:15.540 fight for our family unit the way we should have. We are both happily married to other people and

00:08:21.440 that has a lot to do with our understanding of what we didn't fight for.

00:08:25.580 Sometimes in marriage, you go through periods of growing apart,

00:08:28.900 but it's the ability to grow back together that makes a long and lasting family unit.

00:08:34.460 So if you're in the thick of it, talk to your spouse about it.

00:08:37.760 Set aside 30 minutes.

00:08:39.280 All right, let's see the next one.

00:08:41.000 Yeah, and a lot of times, you know, they date someone else,

00:08:43.420 and then the new person annoys them in different ways.

00:08:45.660 Women are never happy, so it's not you guys, it's us. 0.90

00:08:48.540 out there who got divorced and like regrets it especially women women 35 40 45 please tap in and 0.97

00:08:55.660 let me know because at this point i am like probably not 99 maybe 89 sure that i'm probably

00:09:03.020 going to be divorced within the next year so i can't stay with it oh you think women don't regret 1.00

00:09:07.020 it my dear you're just not searching let me help you out husband i miss my family and i don't know

00:09:13.900 if i believe women crying on the internet and i miss my husband i don't want just any husband i

00:09:20.620 want mine the thing is though i wish more men would divorce their useless wives because they 1.00

00:09:26.460 just create brats like any woman that can't be fired is cooked yes mine miss mine i miss mine 1.00

00:09:39.180 mine mine i don't know why i'm really stuck no you guys are sick of this you guys are so sick 0.92

00:09:46.780 of this i don't blame you i don't know how to replace my husband i don't know how i don't know

00:09:51.660 how a lot of times the women have no relationship skills because they learned nothing from their 1.00

00:09:58.940 relationships they didn't pay attention to their husbands at all lonely i'm sad i miss my family

00:10:05.820 list fell in the parking lot of walmart and i went to grab my phone in that moment

00:10:13.740 that i was hurting and i wanted to call my husband and cry to him

00:10:19.980 and have him come for me like y'all was had after 25 years the first thing i wanted to do was

00:10:24.460 call him and then i realized that he's not mine to call anymore

00:10:29.180 a lot of women don't appreciate what they have till it's gone 1.00

00:10:34.160 because they don't realize all the little things that their husbands like did for them 0.99

00:10:39.380 and then how alone i really am and it sucks it really sucks

00:10:46.560 and i haven't been able to stop crying since and i'm fine

00:10:54.500 but it sucks so bad so in november i decided i no longer wanted to be a responsible parent and

00:11:04.720 i gave up my kids i was just tired of being responsible and caring for them i felt like

00:11:09.880 i was too young and i wanted to go out there and experience life and i started dating someone else

00:11:13.800 so it just didn't fit with my new lifestyle and i didn't have anything to worry about because

00:11:18.400 translation i got a bunch of plastic surgery and i felt like i was hotter than i was and i didn't

00:11:22.880 realize that the men that smash weren't going to commit the other parent is a very responsible

00:11:26.720 parent but now i'm here because now i'm in child support and to top it off i'm really pissed off

00:11:32.180 that i took care of them all the way up to november and i couldn't claim them on my taxes

00:11:35.840 because the other parent had already claimed them there anybody out there who got yeah so let's see

00:11:40.580 the comments most regret it but will never admit it some women don't realize how much they really 1.00

00:11:47.360 like and need the small things in a relationship until they're not getting them yeah a lot of

00:11:51.340 women have no idea what it's like to be completely alone or they have families that like step in so 1.00

00:11:56.320 like the brothers and the dads are their problem for life god give me sons no daughters please

00:12:01.560 anyways guys let me know what you think in the comments make sure you like the video and

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Pearl - February 21, 2026

UNTHINKABLE： Some Modern Women Regret Ruining a Man's Life

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