Pearl - Waiting Till Marriage？ Enjoy Being 30 and Awkward!

00:00:00.000 I actually think the whores have a point when it comes to purity culture. Sex is part of life and 1.00

00:00:05.300 it's a natural desire. Women being sexually active is getting delayed like it's happening later but 1.00

00:00:11.960 I think there's kind of levels of maturity women go through and usually it's dating a guy a little

00:00:16.900 bit out of women's league, dating, sleeping with. Some women can get relationships with him 1.00

00:00:22.100 but usually the most alpha guys we go to for are when we're younger and I would say there's a level

00:00:29.300 of maturity that comes with getting humbled right and I would say I think Gen Z everything's

00:00:36.600 getting like delayed like all of the big canon events that happen to men and to women are

00:00:42.160 either not happening or they're getting like delayed. Yeah so I don't know if that made

00:00:48.240 sense that was not my most coherent thought but. Cut off point to start doing. Yeah and

00:00:53.340 I'm saying I would advise my daughter to wait until she's 23 to even post like a bikini photo

00:00:57.820 on Instagram because the rates of sexual regret in general just completely plummet after the

00:01:02.120 age of 23. Um do you know why sexual regret though is higher? Oh sorry it's not because

00:01:08.120 delaying sex that's what I was gonna say. I actually I don't think delaying sex is really

00:01:16.440 gonna do much. It just pushes the can down the road. So when women lose their virginities 1.00

00:01:21.640 later what I see happening is it it just stunts them like it stunts them as people stunts them

00:01:29.820 sexually. Um like honestly the girls that got it over with younger got married sooner just 1.00

00:01:37.020 my anecdotal experience. Um I understand the ideal is to wait till marriage but most women 1.00

00:01:44.540 are doing that so it's like usually um there's a certain point that women go through where 1.00

00:01:52.760 they're they you know we have to be more pragmatic with what we're gonna pick and it's usually what

00:01:59.160 I've seen is like two or three boyfriend two or three long-term relationships before women 0.99

00:02:03.480 get married. Um and by delaying that it just kind of stunts. Um anyways I don't know I don't know if

00:02:15.000 that makes any sense. I don't know if I'm I don't know if I'm making sense but I just see a lot of like

00:02:19.240 adults that are still functioning as teenagers because we don't go through the canon of especially

00:02:26.220 like millennials we just didn't go through like the canon events. Um that a lot of other generations 1.00

00:02:34.580 went through. You know like for example my mom she went to school with someone that got pregnant at 16 0.84

00:02:39.900 and everyone kind of saw her as a whore but she just married the dad and then they stayed together. 1.00

00:02:47.460 Um there there is enough that's another reason which motivated early marriage. 0.92

00:02:51.720 Yeah like I just don't what I see with delayed like virginity and I could I could even try not to 1.00

00:03:03.440 speak about my own experience online but what happens is you are just stunted like sexually and

00:03:11.760 you don't get relationship skills and nowadays you can't change society so if you're not having sex 0.86

00:03:18.940 you're not getting into a relationship unless you're super religious but that's rare. And so I

00:03:24.200 even see this a lot in the churches well-meaning Christians will tell women to wait and some of them 0.84

00:03:28.580 do but they the women don't get any relationship skills so by the time the women get into those 1.00

00:03:35.500 relations like I mean there was a girl I knew in high school she dated like uh three or four dudes in

00:03:42.040 the same social circle and she's really pretty but she had more relationship skills by the time she

00:03:48.920 graduated high school. Um not all experience is like bad experience. Um yeah um and if anything

00:03:56.780 because I was in I kind of saw the other side of the spectrum with a very religious church I was in

00:04:01.700 and like the problem you get with old virgins is they just have like no skills and they over 1.00

00:04:07.800 dramatize sex so they make sex the end of the world and it puts way too much pressure um on the 0.90

00:04:16.900 guy relationship skills how to control your husband. No I would say um it's not what I mean like for

00:04:23.900 example it's and you really only develop these if you have a guy that tells you no and that is pretty

00:04:30.720 rare but it's kind of like when you deal with the opposite gender there's just stuff that you learn 1.00

00:04:36.160 like you learn when to shut up as a woman that's a great skill to have. You learn when to give him 1.00

00:04:41.740 space. You you learn how to like women that have lived with a guy before they have the skill of

00:04:47.600 cooking for two right um you know cleaning up and not nagging him about it. Now some women get into 1.00

00:04:55.100 relationships and they get worse I'm I'm not I'm not discounting that but I don't see women that hold 1.00

00:05:02.340 off on losing their virginity I don't I I see it and this is just me being on I I see them getting

00:05:10.040 cooked I really I see them getting cooked in the dating market more than anybody um because usually

00:05:17.240 the women holding out on virginity are overweight they're not attractive enough to hold out 1.00

00:05:21.480 um they're not you have to be a certain level of attractive to you know you got to be as thin as

00:05:32.220 farah so you know the age is because they're in the context of casual sex yeah and the reason why

00:05:39.960 because of sexual coercion and you're actually most likely to be sexually coerced by a romantic partner

00:05:45.100 rather than a casual partner women report being most likely to be reported into violent sexual acts

00:05:49.020 by their boyfriend or husband and that's why pimps for instance are so eager to employ like the lover

00:05:53.400 boy method because they know nothing gets a woman saying yes faster to a sexual act than playing 0.79

00:05:56.960 boyfriend or husband so when you talk about sexual regret and sexual coercion it's not more from

00:06:01.420 casual sex it's actually more likely to be uh caused by your boyfriend or husband does it concern you

00:06:06.260 it's actually it's actually under the it's now what she's talking about and all right I'm gonna I'm

00:06:12.480 gonna be very real about I want to have adult conversations here so if you don't have any yes 0.97

00:06:18.260 sex I would say that sex and a guy playing husband and boyfriend is very intoxicating for women it 0.97

00:06:26.960 totally is you can be completely under a guy's spell um however that is why I really would tell women to 1.00

00:06:35.440 go in with the expectation to figure out what your values are and go in and expect nothing because

00:06:42.360 nowadays you don't know what you're gonna get so because under the influence of drugs and alcohol which

00:06:47.540 is when a lot of sexual okay but what do you think about that and you're actually citing studies by

00:06:51.520 the american psychological association but you don't really know no genuinely address it what

00:06:56.300 do you think of the fact that women are most likely to be pressured into sexual acts by a boyfriend or

00:06:59.620 husband because that type of arrangement that you see is so loving and respectful actually prime

00:07:03.860 so what she's talking about sorry is betas that don't have social there's men that do not have the

00:07:10.460 skills to seduce women into sex there are men that have not and do not how know how to seduce their

00:07:17.180 wives and women resent having to have sex where they're not seduced where they don't really want 1.00

00:07:24.220 to where they feel pressured and so what she's talking about is hey what about the women that are 1.00

00:07:29.740 forced to sleep with their husbands they're not attracted to that's what that's what she's communicating 0.99

00:07:35.260 or she's trying to communicate i've come to realize arranged marriages are the way to go 0.91

00:07:41.100 well it depends um it depends what you believe you either want to force women to have sex with men

00:07:47.740 they're not attracted to or you don't i understand both points of view but yeah i mean if you think that

00:07:58.700 women should be able to it's a burden of performance right and in a way i would say marriage takes the 1.00

00:08:04.220 burden of performance off of men and women what about when they say no a hundred times um why should

00:08:12.540 a man even bother does more damage to the guy yeah at that point cheat cheat

00:08:19.260 i um prefer arranged but they have a choice in it too well okay but if you do that if you go back

00:08:25.420 to arranged marriage what happens women are always going to pick the hot guy 1.00

00:08:29.660 and it's gonna it's gonna go back to the same thing so we either want to force women or not 1.00

00:08:36.860 her for coercion first of all that's self-reporting so we don't actually have the context behind and 1.00

00:08:41.180 secondly because you were just so eager to cite sexual regret in the context of casual sex and

00:08:45.260 now that it's inconvenient now you're like of course i regret every sex i had that didn't work out

00:08:50.940 do you know what i mean of course of course but you can't get in the door unless you put out

00:08:58.380 sorry it's 2025 any other youtubers claiming purity and that that's not part of the deal are just lying

00:09:05.420 okay they're lying you could do that with your high school boyfriend um

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00:10:53.180 ones that get lucky but the data is telling us that is not part of the deal anymore

00:10:59.500 it's not it doesn't really count no but the point is if they're in a relationship where they feel

00:11:04.380 pressure to commit sexual acts they're in the wrong relationship and usually do you know how to model

00:11:08.140 a right relationship when you've seen it when you've seen people in healthy stable relationships

00:11:11.660 i don't know why you jump from one extreme to another because you clearly have a very negative

00:11:14.860 association with sex and hang-ups around and you just think i'm just going to make myself safe by

00:11:18.860 being this virginal weirder that spreads my legs on the internet but somehow being in a healthy stable

00:11:23.340 relationship which has actually been the prime conditions for building a society having loving

00:11:27.420 relationships raising children i am in a healthy stable relationship that's why he's so thrilled that

00:11:32.460 you're on only fans but wait until you have that conversation i'm sure he'd love the mother of 0.77

00:11:35.580 a child to have a bum hole spread does it concern you that only fans is owned by ukrainian billionaire

00:11:40.540 he's making a fortune no because it's empowering women like you do what you do cut out the middlemen 1.00

00:11:44.780 so it's important my point being he's a man does it bother you what industry isn't run by some

00:11:48.540 male what happens is now this is why i try to stress that men that try to control their daughters 0.99

00:11:54.940 through purity called now i actually think the whores have a point when it comes to purity culture sex is 1.00

00:12:01.820 part of life and it's a natural desire it is natural for people to want to have sex that's 0.92

00:12:09.180 natural that's normal um i mean that's one of the greatest parts of life falling in love is is one of

00:12:16.700 the greatest parts of living right and what the church does is they take it away from you in a way

00:12:24.620 because what they do is they shame the sex drive and they they make you feel like this having a sex

00:12:31.020 drive and wanting to be wanting to have sex is wrong now in the old days they knew that it was a

00:12:38.140 natural desire that's why people got married at 16 but they make people very weird um and not in a good

00:12:47.980 way um not like socially normal because they just say to keep pushing it off um so now you got 30 year

00:12:55.900 old virgins that haven't experienced life you know that's one of the greatest parts of life is falling 1.00

00:13:01.820 in love getting your heart you know sometimes it works out and you fall in love and things are great

00:13:06.140 sometimes you get your heart broken but that is that's part of living right and um religion just

00:13:14.220 says take zero risks when it comes to sex don't go for the guy you want don't go for the girl you want

00:13:20.860 don't try to don't try to bang her on the first day do you know what i mean like i mean that's how

00:13:26.780 you know what i remember i remember the day i found out my parents have been married 30 years

00:13:32.060 and when i was 22 i found out so i was raised in like catholic catholic school and i found out my

00:13:41.900 parents who had been married 30 years they got pregnant with a kid when they were super young

00:13:47.900 and gave this kid up for adoption and i'm like mom you should have told me the best way to get married

00:13:53.740 is to get pregnant do you know what i mean someone said why um and i'm like that's part of what you know

00:14:05.500 turns out every girl and i'm not i'm what i'm not saying is but when when women can't 1.00

00:14:15.100 not have like when women cannot withhold sex over their husband when they do not have the desire to 0.99

00:14:20.780 do it those are the best those are the best relationships they really are um but what the

00:14:28.060 church does is they teach they teach women to weaponize sex to get what they want because think 1.00

00:14:34.540 about it if she's saying no no we can only we can only have sex when we get married think about it

00:14:43.420 that's her weaponizing sex to get lifelong commit is that even fair is that even a fair exchange 1.00

00:14:49.980 the church is teaching men to take bad deals and they're saying if you don't take this terrible deal 0.98

00:14:55.660 you are going to be alone like or sorry you are going to go to hell i think that's evil oh that's 0.99

00:15:03.580 so evil why would you have sex with someone you're not attracted to women do it all the time uh for 1.00

00:15:08.380 resources sex is the glue of a good relationship yeah and conservatives downplay that it is it is one of

00:15:16.620 the most important thing it is better to get um your heart broken and a committed relationship than a

00:15:25.020 sneaky link well i hate to say it but situationships are before relationships now that's you can't

00:15:32.860 change society right um and again because when the sex comes first the burden of performance is now on 0.69

00:15:41.980 the woman it's now on the woman to be a good woman and make him want to commit and that's when you get

00:15:49.500 the best out of women really that's why women give more to their sneaky links than their husbands um so 1.00

00:15:59.900 that's what she's complaining about is she's complaining about having to have sex with um 1.00

00:16:05.660 men she's not attracted to i agree rolling the dice but women sleeping around isn't good for them 1.00

00:16:09.660 emotionally just the facts i only slept with women i was seeking a relationship with which is why i got a

00:16:14.220 a low body count um okay sleeping around isn't good for women but i'm telling you women waiting till 1.00

00:16:22.060 25 30 to have sex that's terrible for women that's it makes women very weird 1.00

00:16:29.740 it it makes women weird you know at least once a woman has sex with a guy if she's smart she knows 0.99

00:16:35.420 where she stands okay he didn't call you back out of your league try again try again 0.89

00:16:41.580 try you know try look um

00:16:53.180 men and women should get married young yeah but they're not so i i try to have a conversation with

00:16:59.260 adults on how we're going to be pragmatic with the society we have i do not i don't like having 0.99

00:17:06.620 conversations about what should be because if we just have a wish list oh wish lists are for idiots 0.99

00:17:14.540 wish lists are for people that have never been in charge of anything and gotten nothing done in life 0.99

00:17:20.380 because if you've ever been the head of an organization if you've ever had to deal with

00:17:24.060 a budget you know you have to work with what you have we don't have virgins on the market we have fat 1.00

00:17:29.980 whores yeah i'm pragmatic and it's you know i keep hearing this oh we need a theocracy we need all 0.92

00:17:36.380 this stuff okay you're gonna be by the time that happens you're gonna be halfway through life and 0.75

00:17:42.780 wondering why you didn't live i'm not convinced that women are better off being used for practice 1.00

00:17:48.060 they get stuck on bat pass guys they can't get over the idea okay well at least the woman look i've

00:17:55.580 i've actually met the 30 year old virgin look at at the end of the day in life i you're it's ideal 0.64

00:18:02.380 for women to stay with the first guy they lose their virginity to it's ideal to know as a woman what 0.97

00:18:09.420 kind of guy is completely out of your league okay that's that's ideal but we gotta we gotta be honest

00:18:15.260 here number one a lot of women are using men for practice that's why they call them starter husbands 1.00

00:18:20.060 so let's not pretend the women are super innocent in this okay and number two 1.00

00:18:27.980 at least a woman that got into a relationship or got married at least she tried it's better 1.00

00:18:33.020 than someone that's just never getting in the game it's really easy to criticize from the sidelines

00:18:40.860 yeah young marriage these days would put divorce at 85 90 percent yeah i i i can't

00:18:47.740 i can't change the world we're in

00:18:53.900 so you know it's easy to say oh let's women shouldn't do this or we shouldn't well this is 1.00

00:18:59.820 the world you're in and if you're a young woman you are probably going to meet your husband on instagram

00:19:06.060 tinder hinge it's not going to be at church it's not it's most likely it could be on snapchat

00:19:13.420 that's the world we're in if you're in a major city it might be at the bars or out and about

00:19:19.740 uh your argument to conform to the world is an insane one okay well how else are you going to

00:19:25.260 exist you have to get a job i mean it in this in these days getting married in a traditional way

00:19:33.580 could make you commit suicide in the long term

Pearl - October 12, 2025

Waiting Till Marriage？ Enjoy Being 30 and Awkward!

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