Pearl - What Is The Greatest Lie Your Mother Ever Told You？ (Call-in Show) ｜ Pearl Daily

00:00:00.000 this headline from the hill it caught my eye most young men are single most young women are not

00:00:06.880 young men have fallen faster than any demographic in america for the last 40 years it's a different

00:00:12.000 world now like we don't need men the way that they used to the future is female 1.00

00:00:18.960 men and women are drifting further apart and society is crumbling because of it 1.00

00:00:24.720 a fascinating debate has broken out about the value of marriage you've kind of got the tradcon

00:00:30.180 versus red pill thing this men's rights crowd that sometimes just goes too far the other way

00:00:34.940 you need to stop acting like grown boys and infants and actually become men marriage is a

00:00:40.060 bond and it's a sacred bond it's a machine designed to extract resources from you now many of the red 0.94

00:00:45.800 pill have taken the position that it's bad for men to get married hannah pearl davis or just pearly

00:00:52.700 things one of the most controversial faces in all of the internet she goes on to say that marriage 1.00

00:00:58.380 is a terrible deal for men because if me and you were in a business contract you would never sign

00:01:03.020 a contract where i am paid to leave gee what could go wrong there 74 or something of divorces are

00:01:09.340 initiated by women men have everything to lose primarily their own children men get killed by 0.98

00:01:14.940 the courts and by divorce laws i had no idea that courts of family law were courts of equity not

00:01:20.300 courts of law because in family court you don't need evidence to accuse someone of abuse you need

00:01:24.780 no evidence when you guys say get married young a lot of these men don't know what they're signing

00:01:28.780 up for and you're not going to be there when their entire life falls apart i interview them on the

00:01:33.660 other side i didn't meet my son until he was 15 months old how much did you spend trying to get

00:01:39.100 him back the legal fees alone was about 200 000 before you know it you're homeless you're literally

00:01:43.980 just thrown out onto the street we absolutely reinforce bad behavior from women wives are 1.00

00:01:48.300 are taught to leave their husbands,

00:01:49.740 and then daughters grow up without their fathers.

00:01:52.140 Family is the foundation of society.

00:01:53.820 Every problem in society comes from single mother homes. 1.00

00:01:57.020 A lot of women will just chase this negative rabbit hole 1.00

00:01:59.540 of happiness, endless happiness.

00:02:01.220 Feminism's biggest failure is it lies to women. 1.00

00:02:03.260 We tell women to date as many guys as possible.

00:02:05.060 We tell them to put off family into marriage. 0.99

00:02:06.900 You are allowed to leave your perfect husband.

00:02:09.580 You are allowed to end a relationship

00:02:12.100 with a really great boyfriend. 1.00

00:02:14.020 Oh, freeze your eggs, have an abortion. 1.00

00:02:15.860 What? You're evil. 1.00

00:02:17.100 I don't think there's anything else in life that we actually ever go into preparing to fail.

00:02:20.980 Like if you have the mentality of this is going to go wrong and be pessimistic,

00:02:25.080 naturally the outcome is going to be that it's going to fail anyway.

00:02:27.800 It's self-sabotage.

00:02:28.720 That's the thing.

00:02:29.280 Like women are so willing to leave marriages because they're not happy. 1.00

00:02:32.500 This is not about happiness.

00:02:33.980 The most important thing is the children.

00:02:36.640 And the problem is we have a modern society where it's me, me, me, my feelings,

00:02:41.080 leave when I feel like it instead of doing what's best for the kids.

00:02:45.140 This myth that we live in an age of male privilege, where's my male privilege?

00:02:48.900 They think, well, men have all the rights. 0.95

00:02:50.460 They have all the power.

00:02:51.720 Privileged patriarchal system that we have.

00:02:54.000 Why doesn't our society care about men's rights? 0.99

00:02:56.620 I have no friends.

00:02:57.880 No white and no social life. 0.84

00:02:59.860 Men are alone in this situation.

00:03:01.780 Men are homeless.

00:03:02.740 Men are thinking about eating guns.

00:03:04.480 I've seen so many men on the brink of suicide and they didn't do anything wrong.

00:03:08.820 How are you equal if the men are the ones that have to fight and die to defend the country?

00:03:14.200 The men are the ones that build and maintain all the infrastructure.

00:03:18.220 Women are helplessly dependent upon men. 0.99

00:03:20.900 The so-called deaths of despair from suicide, overdose, or alcohol,

00:03:24.860 three times higher among men than among women.

00:03:27.940 Culture is telling men, you are no good.

00:03:29.800 You've got to get your act together.

00:03:31.020 I think men have failed themselves.

00:03:32.640 What kind of a man are you?

00:03:33.880 What kind of a woman are you going to attract? 1.00

00:03:35.840 If men are in trouble, so are women. 0.66

00:03:38.500 Everybody knows this is a huge problem, but nobody wants to admit it.

00:03:42.060 Every single woman at the table said they wanted a man. 1.00

00:03:44.420 500K.

00:03:45.100 500K.

00:03:46.020 300K.

00:03:46.480 200K.

00:03:46.940 Am I crazy?

00:03:47.640 Everything is really set up against you to fail as a man.

00:03:49.940 If men make less than women, women don't want to marry them. 1.00

00:03:53.540 So you know who wants more economically and emotionally viable men?

00:03:57.400 Women. 0.81

00:03:58.880 I don't want to be an independent woman anymore.

00:04:01.040 I don't want to be a strong, independent woman.

00:04:03.300 I'm over it.

00:04:04.460 When is it going to be my turn?

00:04:05.780 Where are we meeting the men that don't stop?

00:04:07.520 I can't keep having these same conversations.

00:04:10.020 The only simp here is you, Pearl.

00:04:11.520 you sin for men. No, I think you sin for women. She's a provocateur. She says stupid stuff. But 1.00

00:04:15.900 Pearl is right about this. It's already happening. It's just not out in the open yet. Now it's just

00:04:20.260 hookup culture is going to be our fairy tale ending because men don't want a wife and women 1.00

00:04:24.300 can't find a husband. The future, if everybody follows your path, is there is no future. We go

00:04:29.700 into population decline and our economy goes into decline. Civilization will crumble. The American 0.87

00:04:35.800 story does not end well. This is an existential crisis failing young men.

00:04:41.520 what is up guys welcome to another episode of pearl daily here on the audacity network thank

00:04:51.840 you guys for tuning in you could bring your time and attention anywhere but for some reason you

00:04:56.940 guys choose to tune in here i want to first say thank you to everybody that has donated to the

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00:05:07.200 might actually hit it um we're trying to get to 100k that's like my lowest quote so we got 37

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00:05:45.820 for the $5 donation, Robert $200. So, you know, if someone donates another 500, the show we can

00:05:54.360 hit 38,000. That'd be pretty exciting. So thank you guys so much for tuning in. So today we are

00:06:01.080 going to be talking about mothers lying to their children. So when I, um, when I first got into

00:06:12.740 interviewing victims of divorce rape, it actually amazed me, um, how many

00:06:20.600 children had been lied to about their fathers. So welcome to another episode of Pearl Daily.

00:06:29.000 Fathers are judged harshly in today's society, and all we hear about is how fathers aren't needed. 0.97

00:06:34.740 They are deadbeats.

00:06:36.220 When they are in the house, women complain that he doesn't do enough.

00:06:40.180 He's like having another child, blah, blah, blah.

00:06:42.720 This is a smokescreen to keep society from pointing out the shortcomings of mothers. 1.00

00:06:48.260 Starting in Generation X, mothers have gotten worse and worse. 1.00

00:06:51.900 There are women that put their own interests above their community, their husbands, and their families. 1.00

00:06:58.440 These women lied and gaslit their way through life without caring about the consequences and outcomes of their actions. 1.00

00:07:05.960 It's only when you are an adult that you realize how much your mother lied to you and gaslit you.

00:07:11.060 Your mother lied about who your father was, the kind of man he was, how much he contributed to the house and the sacrifices he made as a father.

00:07:18.300 Your mother lied to you about her contributions to the family, pointing herself as some kind of super mom that held the fabric of the universe together. 1.00

00:07:27.980 Your mother lied to you about her virtue and her purity. 0.53

00:07:30.620 She lied to you about her career accomplishments and took credit for things she didn't even do. 1.00

00:07:35.460 These are the type of things that your mother lied about and told you when you were young and you believed them. 1.00

00:07:40.640 It's a good day and a bad day when you figure out how much of a liar your mother was. 0.98

00:07:44.800 It's good because you can finally see her for the horrible person that she is, 0.98

00:07:48.160 and it's bad because your perfect image of her is gone forever.

00:07:51.100 You also start to regret some of the things you did when you were little because of her lies,

00:07:55.880 and you wonder how different your life would have been

00:07:57.980 with the information that you had back then.

00:08:01.700 So we're going to look at some ex-posts about this.

00:08:06.760 The myth that mothers possess an inherent protective instinct

00:08:11.580 to shield their children from harm is a patriarchal fabrication,

00:08:18.280 a lie that crumbles under scrutiny,

00:08:20.140 especially when considering the treatment of daughters.

00:08:23.080 In reality, mothers perpetuate the very misogyny 1.00

00:08:25.680 that enslaves them, grooming their female children into a lifetime of suffering and 1.00

00:08:30.400 subjugation.

00:08:31.140 I asked my own mother about her severe phobia of blood, and she recounted her four C-sections

00:08:36.880 in excruciating detail.

00:08:38.900 She described the complete paralysis she felt after each surgery, the lasting health problems

00:08:43.820 they caused, and the psychological trauma she endured.

00:08:46.780 Yet despite this litany of horror, she concluded with a chilling, you will understand all of

00:08:53.540 this when you get pregnant. 0.96

00:08:54.580 Mothers are as protecting and nurturing as a farmer preparing his livestock for slaughter.

00:09:02.460 They ensure that their daughters inherit the same suffering and abuse they endured.

00:09:06.420 This is not protection.

00:09:07.680 It is a transmission of torture to maintain the dominance of men. 0.99

00:09:11.340 Many of you have a problem.

00:09:12.920 Okay, so that's the one.

00:09:14.680 The next we're going to go through is my mom made me believe I'm actually a useless human being because everything I do for her is not good enough.

00:09:27.860 So I stopped doing anything at all every single day.

00:09:30.480 She always reminds me of the stuff I didn't do instead of praising me for the stuff I did do.

00:09:34.800 I'm tired.

00:09:35.960 And by the way, guys, I understand there are good mothers.

00:09:39.000 This is not the show for that.

00:09:40.580 So please do not call in and tell me that wasn't your experience.

00:09:45.240 This was not the call-in show for you.

00:09:47.220 I hate it.

00:09:48.340 But we're doing a call-in show about a specific topic.

00:09:51.100 And they're like, well, that wasn't my experience.

00:09:53.340 Like, well, then why are you here?

00:09:55.300 Sorry.

00:09:56.260 Thank you, Gabriel, for the $2 super chat.

00:10:00.140 That's why I wanted to impress someone, hoping they'd recognize my effort.

00:10:03.400 I just wish my parents would recognize my effort.

00:10:05.580 But they always pressure me 24-7 because I'm not doing enough in life.

00:10:08.740 They can't use my depression as an excuse. 0.96

00:10:11.640 I'm just useless.

00:10:14.140 Mothers used to get away with this all the time, but now social media is giving sons 0.76

00:10:17.840 and daughters an outlet to share the lies that their mothers told them. 1.00

00:10:21.440 This is going to be a call-in show, and I want you to share what was the worst lie your

00:10:25.260 mother ever told you, how did you find out it was a lie, and what happened when you confronted

00:10:29.520 your mother about the lie?

00:10:33.880 Hi, everybody.

00:10:34.740 nanny here somebody asked me what was the biggest lie my mother ever told 1.00

00:10:43.740 hang on to your hat

00:10:46.960 when my mother became pregnant with me she went to my grandmother

00:10:53.640 and told her it was my grandfather's

00:11:00.400 because she hated my grandfather

00:11:02.440 and she wanted him out of the house and she thought that would be the way to do it to get

00:11:11.920 him out of the house she never told my grandmother the difference my grandmother from that day on

00:11:19.940 hated my grandfather but they still lived together because of financial reasons and

00:11:24.280 Back then, you just didn't get a divorce, and it ruined their marriage.

00:11:32.400 And when I turned 15, I think, I don't know why, but my grandmother felt she needed to tell me that I was a product of incest, which devastated me.

00:11:47.020 And I felt like I was a freak.

00:11:49.060 and even before I married my husband

00:11:53.780 I told him that there could be some abnormal

00:11:57.160 children involved because of the DNA issues

00:12:01.680 and it wasn't until

00:12:06.320 I was in my 30s that my mother

00:12:09.840 confessed that it was all a lie

00:12:11.680 she just hated my grandfather and didn't want him in the house anymore because he was 1.00

00:12:17.920 a drinker, and he was drunk a lot, and she did not like him, and he did not always give

00:12:23.080 her her way. So she ruined my grandmother's marriage. And she didn't realize that my 1.00

00:12:32.000 grandmother had told me this. And that's when she confessed to my grandmother and my sister,

00:12:36.980 never to me that it was all a lie. It was all a lie. And for 15, maybe 20 years, I felt

00:12:50.440 like I was an anomaly, that there was something wrong with me.

00:12:56.440 that's the biggest lie my mother ever told wow crazy okay let's see what's next

00:13:07.360 what 0.89

00:13:09.400 what was the biggest lie that your mother told you as a child i have two major lies that my

00:13:17.980 mother used to tell us when we were children i know actually one of them is more recently but

00:13:21.420 the one we were kids is she used to tell us that she was a good mom and what kind of mom needs to 0.88

00:13:25.540 tell her children that that's so true good mom unless they're a narcissist so um yeah there's 0.96

00:13:33.940 that one and we know that's not true now and as an adult this one was very recent actually

00:13:38.840 my mom has decided that she does not remember or doesn't want to remember our childhood abuse 0.97

00:13:44.980 that's always the gaslighting oh i don't remember doing that really bitch 1.00

00:13:48.900 How convenient that you don't remember all the bad things. 0.98

00:13:54.620 Abuse that she put us in.

00:13:56.320 And after many, many years of telling her, she's decided those conversations never happened.

00:14:01.680 We are like 99% sure my sister murdered her mother-in-law and made it look like a self-dilogy.

00:14:07.840 So I'm hoping that one day when she passes and sheds that cloak of ego and narcissism,

00:14:13.740 that we can actually have a healthy, decent conversation about what life was like with her.

00:14:18.900 Hmm. Okay, let's see what's next.

00:14:26.620 What was the biggest lie that your mother told you as a child?

00:14:33.680 I was in my 20s. My fiance wanted to postpone our wedding. It absolutely put me into a tailspin.

00:14:39.620 And I was given anxiety medication at the hospital because I had a complete emotional breakdown.

00:14:44.840 and I had to be transferred to a higher level of care because they couldn't take

00:14:51.080 care of me in the facility that I was at and so my fiance called my mom and

00:14:55.460 asked her to please come and see if she could help get me out sooner when I got

00:14:59.660 there my mom told my fiance to go to his motorcycle race and that she would see

00:15:03.680 him on Monday I got out of the hospital and my mom told me that he did not want

00:15:08.880 me he did not want to get married that he absolutely still wanted to keep the

00:15:13.400 wedding called off and took away my phone and moved me back to montana when he came home i was

00:15:19.200 gone and i never knew until actually it's been 13 years and i found out last year oh my gosh 0.96

00:15:27.280 holy shit there's nobody that lies better than a woman um okay let's see what's next you grew up 1.00

00:15:37.880 more conservative and obviously masturbation wasn't something you yeah i was blamed for it 1.00

00:15:49.400 yeah i remembered my mom planted a seed for me when i got my first period i got home as a mom i

00:15:55.880 think i uh i had a miscarriage were you like 12 yeah because when i was 12 i watched all the

00:16:02.040 Chinese soup operas of the king and the 20

00:16:06.160 concubines trying to get pregnant and then somebody get poisoned and then they

00:16:09.600 bleed. Were you having sex? I wasn't having sex. 0.99

00:16:12.960 I didn't know. She's so funny. I said, mom, I think Buddha put a seed on me.

00:16:16.960 So like a Virgin Mary, I got pregnant and then someone poisoned me.

00:16:20.340 And now I lost a baby. I'm sorry, mom. And you weren't being funny.

00:16:23.280 I wasn't. She goes, you lost a baby? Did you, what? I said, it's the blood.

00:16:27.760 She goes, oh, you are, you have your period. I said, what is a period?

00:16:30.160 she goes that means you are a woman now i said that doesn't mean that i'm a 0.99

00:16:33.520 slut she goes did you ever have sex with them 1.00

00:16:36.480 no of course not i i can't do that and she's a it's nobody poisoning you 1.00

00:16:41.440 you are a woman now yeah look at yourself in the mirror as that yes she 0.96

00:16:44.400 goes i always tell you it's not possible for 0.61

00:16:47.280 to get uglier but there there is possibilities if you touch yourself you

00:16:50.480 will get uglier yeah everything is possible i don't think 1.00

00:16:56.560 you could get any uglier but you could if you masturbate oh my god 1.00

00:17:07.440 let's see what else 1.00

00:17:11.280 okay guys let's talk about it i feel like it's so weird

00:17:18.720 because growing up i never okay guys let's talk about it i feel like it's so weird because growing

00:17:22.880 up i never realized how my mom used to just lie to me like i remember like when i was younger and 0.99

00:17:27.520 i used to get money from birthday parties or get money from my grandparents or just anything and

00:17:32.720 my mom really used to say like let me hold your money let me put it up for you and keep it in

00:17:36.400 savings now i'm 20 years old and i'm like where the hell that money went like where's my money

00:17:41.840 i just could have sworn i made over at least two thousand dollars from all the money i made

00:17:45.680 up until i was like five i feel like it's like 12. like i could have made a lot of money like

00:17:52.880 where's my money yeah they just take it all right let's see what's the biggest

00:18:04.240 that your parents ever told i win i win this one so when i was younger like elementary school i

00:18:09.920 I would always have this fight every day with this kid and he would argue that I was Hispanic

00:18:15.520 and I was getting so mad because I was like my my family is Italian and Polish that's where I like

00:18:22.820 get tanner skin and he was like I I don't believe you you're Hispanic and I fought this kid for 1.00

00:18:30.160 probably four years I'm 22 now one year ago one year I was 21 years old I get a dm from this

00:18:37.980 random girl and she's like your father is not your father your sister is not your sister um

00:18:43.220 your dad is blah blah blah your mom met him when she was living in blah blah blah and it was like

00:18:46.120 general information so i was like this is like a trafficking scam like they happen sometimes and i

00:18:50.200 was like whatever not falling for it so i told my dad about it and my family drove up to my college

00:18:54.520 town the next day turns out i am this manic for 21 years they lied about my biological father

00:19:02.400 wow holy crap oh my gosh let's see this one she'd win the okay 1.00

00:19:11.940 oscar and remembers exactly how her mother reacted academy when i won the oscar for misery she said 0.97

00:19:21.700 i don't know what all the excitement about you didn't discover the cure for cancer

00:19:25.080 i forgot to thank her that night you know you did thank her at the end of your speech you thank her

00:19:31.580 No, I did not. I did not. You go back and look at it. I didn't.

00:19:35.400 We did go back and look. And we showed it.

00:19:38.100 I want to thank my family, my friends, my mom at home, and my dad, who I hope is watching somewhere.

00:19:51.520 What do you think of it?

00:19:53.760 Thank you.

00:19:57.180 Why did I think I didn't thank her? Oh, what a relief.

00:20:02.580 Why does that mean so much to you?

00:20:06.200 Because she should have had my life. 0.85

00:20:09.940 When she died, I said, come into me.

00:20:13.500 She'd win the Oscar and remember.

00:20:17.500 Okay.

00:20:20.420 Okay, so we're going to do a call in.

00:20:22.340 And I want to know what the craziest lie you guys' mother ever told you was. 0.55

00:20:27.840 so we're going to put a zoom link in the chat um i'm gonna give it to the

00:20:34.300 people on twitter i have a few group chats i send all right so let me

00:20:41.580 send this out doug mpa 1.00

00:20:44.760 are you i am here how how are you doug i am fantastic my friend how are you i'm good um

00:20:54.380 so tell me what's the biggest lie your mom ever told you well I've shared multiple times about

00:21:01.980 mom 2.0 how my mom was a demon most of my life up until I was in my mid-30s and then she went 0.97

00:21:07.740 to therapy and now she's a different person uh but before that man it was just awful um my mom

00:21:15.640 did the thing where she painted herself as superwoman that she was carrying the universe 0.99

00:21:21.200 on her shoulders and you know uh everything in this house and everything of my existence is

00:21:28.400 because of her uh she said horrible things about my dad just all of it and then um the gas lighting

00:21:37.920 but the go ahead the worst part about my mother was probably that kathy bates clip my mom was 1.00

00:21:45.200 just like that um it wasn't the lies so much as the the harsh language uh but some my mom would

00:21:56.240 tear you down if anything positive ever happened she would crap all over it i'm trying to think of

00:22:01.520 the worst lie the absolute worst lie that she um oh yeah she she didn't come to my graduate school 1.00

00:22:09.840 graduation because she said that um my parents didn't have the money to be able to afford

00:22:15.800 a ticket and they did have it but she just didn't want to get on a plane

00:22:21.000 and fly to my grad school graduation oh yeah so she didn't she just didn't want to go 0.99

00:22:29.860 so i walked across the stage in grad school and she wasn't there because she just couldn't be

00:22:35.840 bothered and to this day she just said oh we didn't have the money we didn't have the money

00:22:39.880 so i couldn't go oh so yeah that was pretty bad um my mom was awful go ahead i'm sorry my mom used

00:22:50.380 to call herself a single mom and i'm like mom we had nannies oh so worst i'm like why would you say

00:22:57.000 that i'm like we live in a 10 bedroom mansion 0.71

00:23:01.160 yeah why would you say that it's freaking gaslighting man all these women 1.00

00:23:10.220 uh the reputation is what's first and foremost and how dare you you know challenge them or make

00:23:18.900 them look bad yeah um is anyone on the line or no no not yet okay i guess

00:23:26.120 guys make sure to like the videos subscribe if you haven't already and hit that zoom link

00:23:33.900 and call in and tell us the biggest lie that your mother's ever told you you don't have to show your

00:23:38.840 face just come on in and let's let's all trauma bond you know what the worst part is you don't

00:23:47.240 know the stories that are like true and not true and like sometimes you'll repeat stories from your 0.99

00:23:53.140 childhood and you'll say it out loud and you're like fuck that sounds fake yeah or that sounds 0.99

00:24:00.020 over exaggerated like you'll start telling it you're like god damn it like this isn't real is 0.99

00:24:06.380 it or you said things that your mothers have said to other people and they're like 0.97

00:24:12.660 their mother is sane and so they hear you say something about your mom that your mom's told

00:24:18.900 And they're just like, what?

00:24:21.080 Who'd you hear that from?

00:24:25.240 Yeah.

00:24:26.160 Okay.

00:24:26.720 I'm going to bring Mama Don Teal on. 0.91

00:24:30.380 Okay.

00:24:34.440 It says, connecting audio.

00:24:37.200 While Mama's coming on, smash that like button, everyone. 0.57

00:24:40.860 Really appreciate that.

00:24:43.120 It says, connecting to audio.

00:24:48.900 still connecting to audio

00:24:51.760 thank you to all the regulars in the YouTube chat

00:25:00.320 thank you for everyone in the audacity chat, I really appreciate it

00:25:04.500 it says that's connecting to audio

00:25:06.140 this technology, it's great when it works

00:25:11.080 connecting to audio

00:25:17.000 mama don't you'll drop out and come back in and maybe that'll fix the issue 1.00

00:25:25.580 because it keeps trying to connect this person's audio

00:25:29.380 i'm going to take them out

00:25:32.600 i think um but yeah in your monologue you're talking about the generation

00:25:43.920 this problem literally started with generation x women and just got worse and worse and worse 1.00

00:25:50.200 i disagree i think i think women have always been like this i just i don't look i found

00:25:58.080 writings from 1920 complaining about the same thing women of the past they're not 1.00

00:26:04.960 different they're not i mean there's maybe different circumstances where they can't do

00:26:10.080 as bad of stuff but women have always been women i think it's been like all of time go ahead

00:26:18.880 mama don't you are on mute unmute your your audio is connected on mute okay

00:26:28.400 let me drop them and put them in the waiting room fry you're up next

00:26:35.520 fry is joining the call

00:26:40.080 and let's make sure if you want to call if you want to call in to click the zoom link at the top

00:26:48.080 of the chat click that and come on in and give us all the best stories of the worst lie that your

00:26:55.120 mother ever told you um okay fry are you there yes i'm here hey fry how are you i'm doing all right

00:27:08.160 you know with all things setter um so what's the worst lie your mother ever told you

00:27:16.320 uh there's there's quite a few stories but there was one do you remember when the government was

00:27:22.960 furloughed so i just finished nuclear power school at the time and i was gonna go to my

00:27:32.240 duty station on the west coast so drive all across country won't be able to see my mom for a few years 0.83

00:27:41.120 and i called her up a few weeks before i was gonna head out and i knew what i knew she wasn't

00:27:48.480 working because she was furloughed she was in the government and said hey i had some free time

00:27:53.920 you might have come visit you and she said well unfortunately i just don't have the time to see

00:27:59.680 you i'm busy with work and maybe you know after you get out of the navy we could probably talk and

00:28:05.680 keep the time busy wow okay and you know it's how she was my entire life she just never wanted to

00:28:18.640 like see you and spend time with you no she he did but it wasn't that she wanted to see me

00:28:29.680 it was that she wanted me to be around so she could vent so she could what uh then so my uh

00:28:38.420 before i joined the navy she got divorced for a long time oh so she wanted you around just a 0.87

00:28:45.240 trauma dump and just uh then to all the horrible things too yeah well she would try calling me and

00:28:52.460 do that but then when it came to uh you know saying goodbye to me or see me like she didn't

00:28:59.760 come visit me during my navy graduation or you know completing boot camp completing my training

00:29:04.680 she didn't want to see me at all because she knew i kind of talked to my brother instead

00:29:10.760 oh so she was she was mad because you had you were close with your dad

00:29:15.300 and so she would take it out on you got it did when you were younger did she ever tell you

00:29:20.780 something about your dad that just wasn't true it's every single time she would talk to me she

00:29:27.340 said well i know i wasn't a great mother but your dad was never there for us he was always out of

00:29:32.420 the house because my mom picked her picked him out because he had to work you know in order to

00:29:37.380 pay off her bills so what did like what was the real story was did he like was he actually not

00:29:43.740 around or what was the real story uh i guess the best way it would be talking about when i was in

00:29:51.180 high school i had those issues where i was kind of suicidal like i would have i was breaking my

00:29:57.740 bones i was you know cutting myself and just really unsafe behavior and my dad lived uh two

00:30:06.940 hours away from us at the time because of his job and oh i see when i when i told my mom i wasn't

00:30:14.780 feeling well and you know i'm kind of worried about you know constantly touching the wall

00:30:20.620 the wall which is still behold for me just anger and she said well you just need to grow up no one

00:30:28.620 cares about you or your money and then because it got to a really bad point where at the

00:30:37.580 play school um you know i had to go to the emergency room because of the attempt i did

00:30:44.300 and my mom said oh i couldn't leave work but my dad and me when he found that he

00:30:51.020 immediately left his job drove two hours and was with me the whole night at the emergency room

00:30:57.500 wow and so she basically said all this stuff and then um he was the one who showed up

00:31:04.700 yeah well thanks for sharing that um doug mp you got any questions for him

00:31:09.980 no i don't thanks for sharing call anytime okay yeah no problem okay next up we have chad

00:31:20.380 make sure you hit that zoom link hey we'd love to hear hey chad how are you

00:31:37.020 he's listening to the zoom we gotta figure something out for this

00:31:40.780 because we can't keep doing this uh like i don't know if it's a different platform or what

00:31:45.020 can y'all hear me yeah i can hear you turn off the youtube in the background yeah i just did

00:31:54.620 okay hey chad what what was the what was the biggest lie your mother ever told you

00:32:03.740 uh yeah it's been non-stop lies pretty much my whole life um but the biggest one

00:32:15.020 Well, my biological sperm donor, because I refused to call him my father, split before

00:32:24.300 I was born.

00:32:27.640 And ever since I was one, two years old, my mom would just tell me he's dead, not he's

00:32:36.000 gone, he's dead.

00:32:39.640 This continued on until I was about five or six, and in school, the teacher was just like,

00:32:47.560 okay, tell us what your mom's name is and what she does, and tell us what your dad's name is

00:32:54.440 and what she does.

00:32:55.220 And when they got to me, I said, oh, my mom's name is this, and she does this, and my dad

00:33:01.060 is dead.

00:33:01.660 And what I didn't know was that the teacher actually knew my biological sperm donor and contacted my mother and brought her into the principal's office.

00:33:18.600 Oh, wow.

00:33:19.340 And yeah, and that was the first time, like when I was five or six, she finally admitted, you got to stop saying your dad's dead.

00:33:31.100 And I'm like, why? Because he isn't. And I mean, that just started off so many lies down the road.

00:33:45.960 But it just, the amount of lies she's told to me has ruined several of my careers, my marriage, several long-term friends she lied to about me that I often wondered why.

00:34:06.260 And later to find out years later, oh, well, your mom told me this.

00:34:10.480 And I'm just like, uh.

00:34:11.580 What did she say?

00:34:12.640 Like, what did she say you said or did?

00:34:15.960 Oh, I don't even know everything, but she would just lie about me. 1.00

00:34:21.140 My mom is, and I've studied sociopathy and psychopathism, and unfortunately, my mom is what they call a low-level sociopath. 1.00

00:34:35.860 She's not a psychopath, but a low-level sociopath, narcissistic.

00:34:39.780 uh has she's had probably 30 surgeries to change herself like one of the key signs she's not happy 1.00

00:34:47.760 with herself she never was uh it i the amount of lies she told my family what just i was a horrible

00:34:58.940 person i was a drunk i was a druggie i couldn't be trusted i blah blah blah i mean you name it

00:35:04.420 she told them. And one of my cousins was like at a party. She was telling everyone similar stories

00:35:14.100 to this. And my cousin was the one that finally brought it to my attention. And I was wondering

00:35:19.740 why all my aunts and uncles and certain people in my family were treating me like shit and comes to 0.99

00:35:26.420 find out she's been lying to them my entire life about me. And the good news is that only in the 0.97

00:35:33.980 past year or two, they actually have caught her in the lies. And the majority of them have gotten

00:35:43.780 to know me as a person better and have just realized that everything they've ever heard

00:35:50.300 about me was pretty much untrue. But the biggest one, yeah, the biggest one was your dad's dead.

00:35:56.920 And that was an eye-opening experience for a five to six-year-old boy to find out.

00:36:02.940 you know oh she wouldn't tell me his name until i got to be like an older teenager and stuff like

00:36:08.820 that so but uh did you ever reach out to you i'm sorry go ahead bro were any of the stuff that she

00:36:15.920 was saying like half true because she said she did drugs alcohol did you like i i have to ask

00:36:21.380 i don't know you right you know was there i did normal teenage and young 20 year old stuff but

00:36:28.820 I'd never been in jail because of it.

00:36:30.840 I'd never lost jobs because of it.

00:36:32.680 I did normal smoking and joking and drinking here and there, partying.

00:36:36.780 But I wasn't a party boy.

00:36:38.680 It wasn't every night of the week I didn't get drunk and lose my jobs or something like that.

00:36:43.480 No, it was just the, I got to make him look worse than me so I can look better.

00:36:49.360 And that, like, I've noticed the pattern all my life.

00:36:52.260 And it just took me 30 years to realize what she was doing, you know?

00:36:57.100 Yeah. Yeah. So it was like, it was something small and she just timesed it by 10. It was

00:37:02.920 like normal, like college, young adults. 50 to a hundred. Yeah. She, she had to make

00:37:09.860 her, the other thing was she, I mean, bottom line is 95% of women should not be single 1.00

00:37:18.940 mothers. Yeah, I agree. Period. And I've known too many single mothers to, I've met 0.74

00:37:26.160 A couple really incredible single mothers, but boy, the amount of stuff that they have to do 1.00

00:37:33.180 to keep that in line is, I mean, you got to be a responsible adult. 95, oh yeah, okay, I'll go 90.

00:37:40.280 90% of them just don't have the capability of raising healthy children. And I've read the

00:37:47.080 studies too. Children of single mothers, 80% of them fall in worse circumstances after the age

00:37:55.960 of 18 than 80% of single fathers that raise children, boy or girl. And living it my whole

00:38:04.520 life and seeing it in the dating scale, because I've dated a lot of single mothers in my day, 0.66

00:38:10.600 you know five to ten percent of them had their shit together were really solid people much less

00:38:18.240 mothers but people the rest just their kids suffered for it i mean it just it it did whether 0.88

00:38:25.520 it was the discipline there was either no discipline or too much discipline and i'm sorry

00:38:31.500 i thank god i had an incredible grandfather and since i didn't have a father around he was like

00:38:37.480 a father to me and taught me what a father should be. And he was my only reprieve from her actually,

00:38:43.380 because I mean, the emotional and physical and mental abuse that you take from a bipolar, 0.79

00:38:50.660 sociopathic, narcissistic mother who has an incredibly intelligent son. And I just, like I 0.80

00:38:59.320 said, I started noticing patterns in my twenties and thirties, and it really clicked in my thirties.

00:39:04.160 what she did to me the whole time was to keep her thumb on me the whole time 1.00

00:39:08.840 because she didn't want me to be a better person than she thought she should be. 0.97

00:39:13.780 So how old were you when you figured it out?

00:39:19.580 I'd say early 30s. Mid-20s, I didn't talk to her for three years. It got that bad. I didn't talk

00:39:27.500 to my mother for three years in my 20s. I kept my baby son away from her for eight months until my

00:39:33.380 wife begged me and convinced me to at least let her see her grandchild. I conceded to that,

00:39:39.480 but I still didn't talk to her for two years after that. Then, being the bigger person I've

00:39:44.100 always been and forgiving everything I've forgiven without any apology, because narcissists,

00:39:50.920 sociopaths can't admit they ever did anything wrong. Even if it's blatantly obvious and you

00:39:56.100 have proof, they can't admit it. To this day, my mother has never said she was sorry to me.

00:40:03.380 to this day they can't do anything they can't they can't they're they're incapable

00:40:09.620 it's impossible the good news is between my grandfather who taught me to be a good man

00:40:15.220 uh and everything not to do that my mother did raising me i have an incredible relationship

00:40:21.540 with my adult grown son who loves me to death and we have we have the kind of relationship a

00:40:27.300 father and son should have when a son gets to be 18 so um thank you corey for the documentary

00:40:33.860 super chat um doug mpa do you have anything to add did you ever have a conversation with your

00:40:41.840 biological father or no uh at 36 it was getting to me it was starting to get to me like bad for the

00:40:49.140 uh, um, abandonment issues and stuff like that. Uh, so yeah, I reached out to him, uh, 36 years

00:40:57.200 old. Uh, he, he believed it, but didn't believe it had me had to take a paternity test, even though

00:41:06.440 everyone in the town knew that was my dad. And I look like my cousins on that side, even though I

00:41:11.480 didn't know any of them, but he made me take a paternity test. I say, yeah, it's cool, whatever.

00:41:16.260 so came back 99.9999 he paid for that after fourth nine um and i met him uh found out where

00:41:26.280 i got my nose and my eyebrows and my ears from uh i met my half brother and half sister which

00:41:34.160 i didn't know i had that was a real shocker at 36 years old and they knew nothing about me uh

00:41:42.120 Uh, even though he 50% was sure I was his child, um, uh, he, he never mentioned it or anything.

00:41:53.580 And his wife that he knew again, everyone was from a small town where we grew up.

00:41:57.280 So they, everyone knew, but no one talked about it.

00:42:01.060 So his, his wife did know, but they never talked about it.

00:42:05.000 So here I have a, a 26 year old, this is 30 when I was 36.

00:42:09.240 So he's 10 years younger.

00:42:10.420 My brother was 26 and my sister was 19, and this was the first time they're ever hearing about an older half-sibling.

00:42:19.440 So they not only were pissed at their parents for not just mentioning it, like, oh, you could have a half-brother out there and stuff like that.

00:42:30.680 So I did meet them once or twice, but after that, they wanted nothing to do with me.

00:42:35.300 I mean, look, I wanted a brother and sister so bad growing up.

00:42:40.700 I had great cousins that were like brothers and sisters, but I never had a brother and

00:42:44.080 sister growing up.

00:42:45.440 And I was really like, oh my God, I'll get a half brother and half sister out of this,

00:42:50.240 even if it's just for a, hey, how you doing every now and then.

00:42:53.700 And my brother ixnayed me in about six months after I met him.

00:42:57.960 And then my sister ixnayed me about a year and a half after.

00:43:01.440 and I'm just and then he he barely talks to me so it just is what it is well you you got the

00:43:11.320 ultimate revenge and you have a good relationship with your son so I have an amazing I have an

00:43:18.160 amazing relationship with my son and you know what I couldn't have done it if I didn't have 0.57

00:43:22.820 that shitty of a mom raising me but that good of a grandfather her dad raising me and showing me

00:43:28.880 what it is to be a good man, a good parent, and a good father. So you're absolutely right, Doug. 0.96

00:43:34.980 I treasure, in fact, anyone who ever knew me for five minutes, if you ask them, what's the most

00:43:41.380 important thing in my life, without hesitation, they'd be like, his son. And he was, he always

00:43:46.360 was and always will be. So very, very thankful for that. Well, thanks for calling in. Call it

00:43:53.400 anytime. Thank you for sharing your story. We really appreciate it. I wanted to help other

00:43:57.960 people and let them know that your situation might be just as bad or not as bad, but there's

00:44:03.820 other people out there that go through this every day and you're not alone. And you can also be a

00:44:09.820 better person. You don't have to take that low road of being that lying piece of shit parent that 1.00

00:44:16.120 beat you, emotionally abused you, whatever they did to you. You can be a better person. After 18, 1.00

00:44:22.240 you can be a better person and you can raise good children and not do what they do if you learn the

00:44:28.180 right lesson so awesome thanks hey great talking with you sorry that's okay thanks for calling in

00:44:35.700 i appreciate it great talking with y'all y'all have a blessed night guys take care man what a

00:44:42.700 good call. Wow. Nice. Oh, these small towns, man. Okay. Next up, we have Daniel.

00:44:56.300 Daniel, are you there? Daniel? Daniel SR? Is he listening to the YouTube too?

00:45:06.280 Daniel

00:45:09.340 Take Daniel out

00:45:12.900 And I'll bring in

00:45:15.880 Ernie

00:45:17.400 Ernie

00:45:21.360 Yeah

00:45:22.280 Are you there?

00:45:24.200 Okay

00:45:24.760 Can you guys hear me?

00:45:27.660 I can hear you, how are you?

00:45:29.940 Yeah, you know

00:45:31.120 You're doing alright

00:45:31.700 Where are you calling out of what state? 0.99

00:45:33.540 oh shit we're doing that uh yeah yeah i'm in i'm in uh texas oh cool all right so 0.99

00:45:41.900 nice nice so what is the biggest lie your mother ever told you uh basically um how her and my dad 0.99

00:45:50.660 broke up like they were never married or anything it was like the common law thing or whatever but

00:45:55.340 uh yeah it was like she said that he just kind of like approached her one day and was like all right

00:46:01.220 i'm i'm leaving and she said oh well when you you know on your way back do you think you can pick up

00:46:07.140 some diapers or whatever and and he said no i'm i'm just leaving i'm leaving you i found another

00:46:13.620 woman that i'm interested in and i'm done here and she said oh okay see you later don't let the 1.00

00:46:19.380 door hit you uh on the way out and see that that story does two things that i know you're familiar

00:46:24.580 with pearl uh on the one hand it uh paints her like the first part of that story paints her as

00:46:30.420 just the big doe-eyed innocent young girl who just you know was like oh okay well on your way back 0.63

00:46:35.700 oh you know plain innocent and all that and then on the other hand it turns

00:46:40.020 her into the first you know the strong independent woman like yeah whatever all right i got this

00:46:45.220 it's all good it's the female friendly version of the story she's the hero

00:46:49.700 and the victim in the story absolutely damn right man so yeah so what was what actually happened

00:46:55.700 well according to my dad who you know you know years later he would tell me that what happened

00:47:03.180 was that she I don't know like they got into like a big fight and she ended up just like snatching 1.00

00:47:10.660 me and my brother like away from him and just started walking down the street with us while

00:47:15.320 he's like trying to trail her you know in his car I don't know if he cheated or what the hell

00:47:20.700 happened like you know he gets really cagey when he talks about his infidelities even though I know 1.00

00:47:25.680 it's like i called that motherfucker out on it and like dude i know you cheat don't be a bitch 1.00

00:47:29.000 tell me anyway but uh no like uh i'm assuming that he probably cheated she uh snatched us both 1.00

00:47:36.140 uh my brother and i away from him she walked down the street he was trailing behind her in his car 0.62

00:47:40.140 you know begging her to come back and i guess she just took the bus to uh her you know my grandma's

00:47:45.660 house and um just pretty much cut him off like that and then uh eventually he he actually got

00:47:52.080 married he wasn't married to her but yeah he got married later but uh no it was just you know okay

00:47:57.440 so she acted like he laughed but really she laughed yeah he cheated but like yeah yeah okay

00:48:05.220 yeah was there any other was there any other lies that she told throughout your childhood

00:48:09.860 or was that the extent of it uh you know just that she loves me no uh no you know i

00:48:16.120 it's mostly just like every 0.90

00:48:21.500 sorry god it's basically like every other fucking uh dude that come oh oh you know what this is a 0.98

00:48:29.380 good one too damn i'm glad she doesn't fucking listen to this uh yeah the only other one was 0.97

00:48:33.900 like she uh she called uh my stepdad out on his supposed infidelity but it turns out that she was 0.99

00:48:41.380 also fucking around like she had actually uh had my had my grandma on my dad's side uh funnily 0.95

00:48:49.620 enough uh take her to a fucking uh car show so she could meet up with some dude that she was like 1.00

00:48:55.380 i think she was kind of inching towards eventually cheating i don't know if she actually did go 1.00

00:48:59.840 through with it but yeah just uh mostly just also lying about that like no i would never do that i've 0.99

00:49:04.800 never cheated i've never even entertained that but nah like bitch yes you have shut up men will 1.00

00:49:10.360 eventually admit they're bad people like they'll own up to like yeah i did it but women it's like 1.00

00:49:15.500 you could have like print out texts of them cheating and they'll still gaslight you 0.88

00:49:20.580 my dad and stepdad owned up to that shit she never did she never did and even my grandma told me like 0.97

00:49:28.500 yeah no i took her to that car show like she wanted to meet up with some guy and i called her 1.00

00:49:31.640 out like dude you're married she's like yeah but you know he's old it's like bitch 1.00

00:49:36.040 yeah it's just we like pearl said in the monologue we judge fathers so harshly and we don't judge

00:49:48.800 mothers at all i think we're finally starting to see a little bit of a turnaround but it's

00:49:53.500 gonna take a while man it's gonna take a long time for society to because there are too many 0.99

00:49:58.240 scumbag mothers and i always say mothers inflict infinitely more damage on their children than 1.00

00:50:04.220 fathers do because guys honestly think about it especially the women the girls look to the 0.99

00:50:11.100 one or two girls in the chat who was the first person to say you were too tall too short too 0.97

00:50:17.180 thin too fat your boobs are too big they're not big enough your hair is stringy your skin 1.00

00:50:22.780 is terrible you dress like a who's the first person that most kids hear call a woman a 1.00

00:50:30.140 to slut her a whore it's your mom yep yep i agree yeah she she was pretty bad man in the 1.00

00:50:36.880 beginning she didn't know what the hell she was doing she uh there was one point where she 1.00

00:50:39.940 fucking uh had me on the floor and kicked me so hard and so repeatedly that she broke her own 1.00

00:50:46.220 fucking toe dumb bitch oh my gosh yeah man it got pretty bad at times but you know she's she's a 1.00

00:50:54.580 little more chill now that she's old and she needs my help but yeah yeah it got pretty bad at times 1.00

00:50:59.240 you still deal with her wow yeah yeah she's old yeah yeah i know men are such good people you can

00:51:07.980 have your mother abuse you and you'll still take care of her when she's old you know and and it's

00:51:13.520 funny that you use that word pearl uh because like you know whenever i have called her out or

00:51:18.180 like in the past when i called her out on the way she disciplined quote unquote us uh she would say 0.98

00:51:22.300 like well then that's the way uh my mom treated me are you calling my grandma your grandma my

00:51:28.280 mother an abuser and she puts my grandma on a pedestal like she's she could do no wrong you 1.00

00:51:33.620 know she never did anything wrong it's like like no don't you dare because if you call me an abuser 0.97

00:51:37.920 you're calling your grandma an abuser how dare you you i almost think the more i almost think 0.90

00:51:42.700 the more someone's put on a pedestal like by the kid the more crazy they are because i feel like 0.94

00:51:49.120 the pedestal half the time it's there because the mother is putting herself on the pedestal and just 0.88

00:51:54.200 in the kid's ear and the kid knows if they go against the narrative then the mom's gonna crash 0.95

00:52:01.220 out oh yeah for sure yeah and in some weird way she kind of puts herself on the pedestal too 0.99

00:52:08.000 she's actually said that too like mothers should be held to a higher standard like all right bitch 1.00

00:52:13.260 well i think i'm i mean you know it's only you who says our maybe norman bates too but yeah bitch 1.00

00:52:19.160 like i don't fucking not a lot of people whatever yeah okay keep telling yourself that whore 1.00

00:52:23.940 anyway cool cool well thanks for calling and call it anytime okay oh i appreciate that bro 0.99

00:52:31.220 you're kicking ass man you're doing a great job thank you bye oh all right except daniel 0.83

00:52:39.180 i saw him drop in drop back out well nope never mind we'll bring up daniel you're not there 0.98

00:52:53.120 okay sean

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00:53:12.240 hey how's it going can you hear me hey sean how are you i'm doing well um so what's the biggest

00:53:20.100 lie your mother ever told you oh that's interesting so there are lies that she tells me that she's

00:53:27.480 just completely oblivious about okay because she's like the equivalent of like a 1920 1930s housewife 0.69

00:53:33.960 okay and then there are the lies that she knows but she tells me or like sort of lies of a mission

00:53:40.860 she won't tell me about but it's more to like sort of protect the honor of her family if that

00:53:46.640 makes sense like okay uh so i'll give you the examples of both so as far as like lies she tells 0.96

00:53:52.160 me that she's completely ignorant about is just so she grew up sort of in a society where like

00:53:57.860 you don't have sex before marriage and you basically live with your parents until you get 0.91

00:54:01.640 married off if that makes sense okay and so she still thinks that girls my age are like virgins 1.00

00:54:07.980 until they're married if that makes sense like she thinks you're not like getting their backs 0.99

00:54:11.800 blown out in college or they're not getting on in high school and stuff like that so she still

00:54:16.320 tells me that like all the girls are still like that but that's because she's never really stepped

00:54:21.760 outside the house she's only raised kids she's never worked in the workforce never went to 0.80

00:54:26.080 college so like that's what she still believes still happens and that the girls who don't do 0.99

00:54:31.900 that are in the minority so uh it is funny to sort of hear that because like only someone who's that

00:54:39.220 sheltered their entire life would basically believe that if that makes sense uh as far as

00:54:43.660 the lies she's told me that like she knows is going to be like you know uh that my like my dad

00:54:50.440 was actually married to like an american girl before he got married to my mom and then that 0.96

00:54:55.300 didn't like turn out well uh and then i only found out about that because like i looked up into like

00:55:01.640 my my county's uh marriage records and i saw that he was married to somebody else for a little bit

00:55:06.880 and i was just like i asked her about it like uh i kind of confronted her about it and she's like

00:55:11.700 yeah don't tell your siblings about that but like yeah that kind of happened like so it's just

00:55:16.780 things like that that she'll kind of keep from me unless she knows that like okay it's time to tell

00:55:21.860 me when like other people's honor can be preserved so that's what i usually get from my mom is like

00:55:27.420 more uh lies to like protect other people uh but not really like blatant lies uh but i think to

00:55:36.060 some extent she does know what women are really like uh you know now that she's like lived a lot 1.00

00:55:40.940 of years in this country. And it's just, uh, I guess she just doesn't want people to have a

00:55:46.140 negative reputation of women. And I think that's why most women do it. Like if they were to tell 1.00

00:55:49.620 their sons from a young age, yeah, women are sluts. They're going to go for the best they can 1.00

00:55:53.440 get. You know what I mean? Like all that's really going to do is really red pill their kids from

00:55:58.080 like, you know, age 13. I don't know if that's going to have a good outcome either. You know

00:56:02.480 what I mean? At this point, I don't believe, hold on Doug. Um, at this point, I don't believe most

00:56:08.180 mothers possess a maternal instinct yeah i agree go ahead you know it's the sad part about it it's

00:56:15.460 the age old thing where um especially single mothers will tell their sons the opposite of

00:56:23.620 what their father did to get their mother in bed yeah and i think part of it is just because like

00:56:31.060 it is somewhat of a selfish nature like i think women they they have to deal with reputation in a 1.00

00:56:36.900 in a different way that sort of shapes their view that men don't really have

00:56:40.500 to. Right. If a guy goes out and says he, you know,

00:56:42.880 slept with a bunch of girls or, you know, uh,

00:56:45.240 just hooked up and stuff like that, no one's really going to turn.

00:56:47.760 Like it doesn't really do anything to his reputation the same way for a girl.

00:56:51.820 Like if she goes and says things like that,

00:56:53.880 instantly people will view her in a very negative light. Right.

00:56:57.140 So I think they have more incentive to lie to sort of protect their

00:57:01.660 reputation because they know it has more adverse consequences for them.

00:57:05.560 so i think everything kind of goes back to incentives if that makes sense yeah totally

00:57:09.660 makes sense yeah all right buddy we have a full call line so we'll move on to the next call but

00:57:15.680 thanks for calling and we really appreciate it absolutely thanks guys actually i want to i want

00:57:19.460 to riff for a second before the next caller so it's interesting because i was always told growing

00:57:26.220 up till to wait till you're married right and then when i got older i found out my mom got

00:57:32.220 pregnant by my dad three months after they met and I'm like mom why don't you just tell me to

00:57:36.600 download tinder and get pregnant I'm like that worked for you I'm like 30 years you didn't want 0.99

00:57:50.080 to tell me what you actually did I was like come on I don't know how long it was but it wasn't that

00:57:58.580 long i'm like why didn't you tell me that you told me to withhold the one thing they want like

00:58:05.940 okay god i knew a good woman that was um she was 57 and her and her husband had been married for 0.90

00:58:17.680 40 years oh wow right because uh no she was 56 he was 57 they had been married for 40 years because

00:58:25.880 they're from alaska and he was 16 she was 15 and guess what happened he got her pregnant 0.92

00:58:32.600 but they were married for 40 years and they're and i knew them 15 years ago so they're still

00:58:39.560 married so they've been married no go ahead keep going they've been married 55 years now and

00:58:46.640 because he got her pregnant and they made him get married so that's exactly what you're talking

00:58:52.280 because women want to be with the men for the genetic material so the guys you let get pregnant 1.00

00:58:56.680 immediately are the guys you actually like like that that's that's who women want so it's like

00:59:05.720 and it was it was funny i was with my sister the other day and we're like get tinned

00:59:10.280 i was like um my little sister she's like 21 i'm like eva get tinder right now

00:59:15.000 like we're kidding we're kidding but like and then this lady that like lived lives near us 1.00

00:59:22.220 she's like a housewife she's like she's like what that's not what we said i'm like but that's what

00:59:26.500 worked i'm sorry go ahead um okay uh okay let me bring on because nathan was in the chat putting

00:59:39.000 down a good story in the chat i told him to call in so okay nathan hey hey nathan how are you

00:59:47.880 i've been better i mean i've been listening to a lot of your content lately on everything and

00:59:54.040 today just resonated with me more than anything because of my childhood that i had of about 15

01:00:03.320 years of neglect and child abuse by the hands of my biological mother.

01:00:08.240 That, as I explained to Doug earlier,

01:00:12.720 she knows better than to call me no matter how old she is,

01:00:16.720 whether she needs help or not, because she's dead to me.

01:00:21.200 And that's me being nice.

01:00:23.200 So because I almost went to prison because of her.

01:00:27.080 No. Sorry.

01:00:28.440 What happened?

01:00:29.520 OK, go ahead.

01:00:30.840 I was in high school and she had been abusing me by this point for years, 1.00

01:00:38.160 and she actually started as far back as elementary school.

01:00:45.040 Even when I was six years old in the first grade, she would

01:00:48.960 just because she had a bad day at work, she would backhand me across the face.

01:00:53.960 She would punch me, insult me every way possible,

01:00:58.440 slam my head into the staircase at home all that sort of stuff and eventually I got to the point

01:01:06.760 in high school that I couldn't take it anymore and I started saying I wanted to commit 0.98

01:01:13.900 pardon my language murder I wanted to kill her is we were at each other's throats and I had to 1.00

01:01:21.320 verbalize that it would have been a double because her idiot husband would have defended her because 1.00

01:01:27.220 he's the king of simps because my bio mom is the kind of woman that she insults 1.00

01:01:39.400 her older sister and my grandmother for mistreating their husbands she treats her 1.00

01:01:46.880 husband the exact same way and she'd have the audacity to do this in their house so here we are

01:01:54.740 at Christmas and it's around the time of my great of my grandparents 50th wedding anniversary 0.99

01:02:01.460 she goes into the guest bedroom calls her idiot husband my stepsister and myself 0.99

01:02:09.820 and proceeds to badmouth my grandmother and say that my grandfather needed to grow a backbone 1.00

01:02:15.700 50 years ago and her husband's just standing there going yes dear you're right dear he's 0.93

01:02:22.620 so miserable she's so terrible you're so wonderful and i'm looking at him like dude she 0.99

01:02:29.100 does this crap to you in fact she just flipped you off and embarrassed you in public last week 1.00

01:02:34.320 but she also does things like throw my dad under the bus and say we had to spend a night in a 1.00

01:02:42.400 shelter and he abused me no you abused him by having him work two jobs while you were spending

01:02:52.000 the money like no tomorrow then while he's doing those two jobs and taking care of a newborn

01:02:59.760 you can't even throw away a pot roast so you put your foot in his back and shove your husband out

01:03:06.720 of bed to make him go deal with the pot roast and then you're having an affair on him with a co-worker 0.99

01:03:13.440 Really? Holy crap. 1.00

01:03:17.280 What? 0.98

01:03:18.780 Yeah. So you almost go ahead.

01:03:22.440 Go ahead.

01:03:23.340 So you almost you said you almost like tried to murder her.

01:03:26.940 How close did you get?

01:03:29.440 I talked about it and a couple of times I threw just dull little punches at her.

01:03:36.000 But I'm a I'm a Christian guy.

01:03:39.180 So it's like, OK, I didn't want to do that.

01:03:42.340 and so i was constantly telling the schools my middle school bless their hearts tried as they

01:03:48.340 might but the thing was she has a degree in social work so she knew how the laws read she knew how to 1.00

01:03:55.940 skate that line to where it was my word versus hers and the high school was stupid they took 0.99

01:04:03.140 her side every time but the middle school and the elementary school said hold on something's 0.99

01:04:09.060 up here but she's not giving us enough for us to get cps involved 0.89

01:04:16.980 got it wow yeah the only physical evidence she ever left

01:04:22.740 was one time she messed up and she sent me to my dad's house and my dad was took the day off

01:04:31.380 to spend with me and my I just call her my mom and she's my stepmom and I had fingernail marks

01:04:39.780 in my arm oh my gosh from her and what was her reputation like like at school at her job like 1.00

01:04:47.180 did was it known that she was crazy or did she kind of put on a good front oh she put on a good

01:04:52.620 front to where the only people that knew who she really was was anyone at the house but ever since

01:05:01.260 i left when i turned as soon as i turned 18 i said eff it i'm gone i don't care i'm

01:05:08.780 if i'm a junior in high school and i left uh my stepsisters and my stepfather threw the blinders

01:05:19.020 on everyone in the family threw the blinders on and it took years to where my aunt in arizona

01:05:28.300 finally admitted look i knew something was going on i didn't physically witness it

01:05:35.500 but clearly something's going on because what happened because otherwise he wouldn't just do

01:05:40.380 this he would not leave have to leave half of his family for dead because they take her side 0.95

01:05:49.260 and he doesn't want to deal with her she left me with a brain condition called hydrocephalus

01:05:56.220 that's water on the brain so my brain was being crushed by its own brain fluid because it wasn't

01:06:01.340 recycling into my body like it was supposed to for 19 years it took my mom and my dad figuring out

01:06:10.540 he's got a migraine for a week something's wrong and they figured it out it was was it from her

01:06:17.740 hitting you? Very likely in my book. Holy crap. So how long has it been since you talked to her?

01:06:27.900 The last time I spoke to her was in May of 2018 for my high school or for my college graduation 0.99

01:06:35.580 because I wanted to be the bigger person so that her side and her idiot husband's side 1.00

01:06:42.380 couldn't tarnish my name and say oh he's so horrible and they they don't even say I'm 1.00

01:06:50.340 horrible they say my dad brainwashed me into hating her oh wow and did she lie about your 0.54

01:06:58.120 dad I'm guessing too oh yeah she lied and said that he abused her because he grabbed her hands 1.00

01:07:07.460 because she was assaulting him and he was just like going what is wrong with you calm down it's

01:07:13.860 just a the the pot roast story she actually charged at him like an angry bull and tried to 1.00

01:07:20.560 start punching him and he stopped her and was like what is wrong with you and then she wants to say

01:07:28.040 that was abuse and that we spent the night in a shelter never happened oh wow and the pierce county

01:07:34.400 police department found that out for us when we moved into my childhood home my dad my mom and

01:07:42.700 myself and they found that on his record and they just whitewashed it because they said there it was

01:07:49.380 a report but it was never officially filed there was no anything it was just she made that claim

01:07:57.140 and that was it are you talking like uh pierce county washington yeah yeah i grew up in thurston

01:08:05.220 county so what you're talking about is uh part for the curse part for the course in pierce county

01:08:12.260 yeah cool wow well um i'm sorry you went through that that's an insane story she gave you brain

01:08:19.140 damage that's mad wait how old were you did you ever get to did you have to leave the house at 18

01:08:25.540 or could you get out sooner? I had to at 18. It was literally two weeks after my 18th birthday,

01:08:32.500 because while I was in high school, even my family had shared custody to where my father

01:08:40.120 would get me every other weekend. And so the first weekend, cause I was terrified to drive

01:08:46.080 on my own. I was still learning how to drive. I was terrified to drive on the freeways alone.

01:08:50.940 and we lived in Gig Harbor. My dad lived on the other side of the bridge so of course I had to

01:08:57.620 get used to driving on the freeways. So instead just treated it like a normal weekend but I had

01:09:04.140 smuggled out a bunch of personal items in my duffel bag of clothes for the weekend

01:09:09.580 and then I just told her on Sunday yeah I'm not coming back. How did she react? Did she crash out?

01:09:17.280 oh big time and then she got idiot involved and tried to say i don't like the way you're talking 1.00

01:09:24.260 to your mother but and i told him the hard truth of going dude let me tell you something 0.99

01:09:29.160 she's wanted to divorce you twice and i had to beg her not to because i like that she uses you 1.00

01:09:36.160 as a punching bag instead of me every day just because she had a crap day at work 1.00

01:09:40.980 she cusses you out and wants to beat you up instead of it always being me 1.00

01:09:45.140 what did he say to that why does he stay why do you guys stay in that i will never understand it 0.98

01:09:52.460 i don't understand why he does how the hell i mean she is literally she's a hippo his ex-wife 0.97

01:10:03.760 treated him exactly the same but at least was good looking and it is to this day still far 0.91

01:10:10.520 better looking than my bio and yet he stays with her i'm like what the hell is wrong with you 0.77

01:10:19.400 but yeah somehow she's still with them sorry and just like torture no it's okay okay well 0.72

01:10:24.920 thanks for um calling in i appreciate you telling the story sorry you had a crazy mom 0.97

01:10:29.720 but how old are you now how long has it been since you've seen her uh that was 18 so 19 20

01:10:37.320 about seven years and i'm 30 now so i was about 23 24 and i actually she was mad at me because i 0.89

01:10:48.300 had a recovered drug addict that i had met through a mobile gaming app mobile strike that

01:10:56.580 arnold schwarzenegger used to advertise for that i actually met online and she was like a surrogate

01:11:02.460 mother to me have you um have you forgiven her or do you think you're still mad oh i won't forgive

01:11:09.840 her until i'm dead yeah yeah is if it wasn't for the fact that i finally told her at my graduation

01:11:18.480 that i had the hydrocephalus my initial plan was i was going to take that to the grave and the

01:11:23.980 hospital screwed up and actually gave them my discharge gave her my discharge date in a survey

01:11:32.460 from a third party even though I had a do not disclose order with her name his name and their

01:11:40.560 house address on it so I could have sued Tacoma General for giving out information I told them not

01:11:48.320 to wow well thanks so much for calling in um and telling me your story i'm sorry you went through

01:11:55.200 that that's brutal so thanks so much thank you for everything yeah thank you for everything that you

01:12:03.760 guys do i really support you guys keep up the good work thank you thanks buddy okay guys we

01:12:12.800 actually have a lot of callers so we're going to keep it uh to four and a half minutes or less

01:12:19.440 okay because we have one two three four five six callers right now yeah guys so try when you try

01:12:27.680 when you get here to think of the beginning the middle and the end of the story so when you get

01:12:31.840 on the line um i might say hi but just um say okay so this is what happened these are the things she

01:12:38.240 lied about this was what actually happened any other details you think are relevant and then

01:12:43.280 we'll maybe ask some follow-up questions so yeah go ahead all right daniel i'm letting you in your

01:12:51.600 your sound better be hooked up this time daniel

01:12:57.200 daniel

01:13:00.080 you were you were in the chat saying that you're ready apparently not and there is another daniel

01:13:05.200 two why don't you why don't you let like three people up and the first one that figures out

01:13:10.640 their sound gets to go daniel no name you're on mute okay daniel no name you're on mute i'm gonna

01:13:19.040 bring in james owen oh sorry okay he gets to go is that james or daniel no no this is daniel okay

01:13:30.160 hi daniel thanks for calling in hey guys um well i'll just get to it cool the biggest lie my mom

01:13:38.000 told me was that well my apparently my dad had died and i didn't find out till about nine months

01:13:47.680 later oh my gosh how old were you like this happened like two years ago what did he die of

01:13:58.160 like how did you did you not have a good relationship with him like you guys didn't

01:14:01.680 talk or like what well i'll give you the short version basically my mom's crazy and she was 0.95

01:14:08.240 convinced that my wife slept with my dad she was just convinced of it she even claimed that i told 1.00

01:14:14.480 her i told her out of my mouth that i said that my wife slept with my dad then so she had something 1.00

01:14:22.080 thing against my wife big deal okay so then she would tell my dad oh why because that that bitch 1.00

01:14:30.720 told me that you were sleeping with her what the hell was wrong with that what's wrong with you 1.00

01:14:33.360 why were you sleeping like like what's wrong with you like and my mom would literally beat up on my 1.00

01:14:37.560 dad my dad was already at this point he was like an old he was like disabled at this point he was

01:14:41.980 suffering from kidney failure and i had no idea about the spongy and so the last time i saw my

01:14:50.440 saw my dad and went over to my mom's house and see I live in San Antonio now and she lives in Dallas

01:14:56.440 and what happened was I went to my mom's house my dad was there as soon as he found out I was 1.00

01:15:01.820 there he came out started screaming at me tell that bitch to quit fucking with me tell that 1.00

01:15:06.180 bitch to quit fucking with me and I'm just like I didn't know what to say and I just I ended up 1.00

01:15:10.940 walking in my car and my dad followed me outside and he's screaming at me the whole time and I 1.00

01:15:16.400 said i just said bye dad i'll talk to you later and i didn't hear from my dad for a while and

01:15:23.180 she told me things she told me she just told me oh oh by the way your dad went to mexico he went

01:15:28.060 to visit his family in mexico and i'm like okay cool whatever and the next thing you know is

01:15:34.300 it's like i was with my son he's you know he's like four years old and i was just playing with

01:15:41.300 him on the computer i said look son this is how you look up your name on google and me and my dad

01:15:45.140 the same name so i typed my name into google thinking it's going to you know pull up my

01:15:49.300 facebook and all that good stuff and next thing you know i see obituary a potassium commercial

01:15:53.620 senior what i'm sorry i didn't say it all up my name i love it but we can trim it after the show

01:16:01.140 if you want it out yeah go ahead i've never been so heartbroken

01:16:06.180 and

01:16:08.740 yeah

01:16:11.480 that's what happened

01:16:12.740 do you think your mom had something like to do

01:16:16.100 with it because of what he was saying

01:16:17.800 yeah my mom was

01:16:19.500 we'd be picking at him

01:16:20.860 all my life my mom would be 0.63

01:16:23.740 antagonizing my dad

01:16:25.820 you know my dad

01:16:26.800 my dad

01:16:29.800 was the kind of guy that you know

01:16:31.600 let's put it this way

01:16:34.320 I understand how my dad

01:16:35.800 I understand what my dad did

01:16:37.840 I understand the way he was fighting

01:16:39.800 Because I'm kind of the same way as him

01:16:41.620 And

01:16:42.560 He did everything he could

01:16:46.420 To keep the family together

01:16:47.580 And my mom would just sit there trying to take it down 1.00

01:16:50.380 There was times when she cheated on him 1.00

01:16:52.840 And she had us with him

01:16:54.920 While she went to go see her boyfriend

01:16:56.460 There'd be plenty of times we'd be in the car

01:16:58.960 Waiting while she was over there seeing her boyfriend 0.54

01:17:00.760 Doing whatever she's doing with him

01:17:02.400 While we were like

01:17:03.740 i was like maybe eight nine years old at the time and yeah so what i when i say she had something to

01:17:13.060 do with it i meant do you think she like poisoned him or something like that i don't think she

01:17:18.120 poisoned him but i think she may have hurt him and he may have somehow got some kind of infection

01:17:22.860 and kind of made things worse that's just that's just what i'm thinking but my dad was

01:17:27.260 he ended up dying of kidney failure because it's just it's it's just a weird thing oh sorry go

01:17:33.900 ahead sorry okay no i just i i didn't know what i didn't find out until like a year and a half later

01:17:39.780 that what happened how my dad died and what did she say when you confronted him oh i'm so happy

01:17:46.080 that you know oh i feel like a weight's off my shoulders ah gaslighting dude that's exactly what

01:17:51.940 said to me and like did you did no one else in the family tell you about the funeral like that nobody

01:17:58.100 told me anything not even my brother why the thing is my brother was my brother is was the product of

01:18:05.380 my mom's cheating what and my brother was there when my dad died but i wasn't there

01:18:12.980 why would they do they not like like you or what i just can't

01:18:20.980 my mom that's so weird go ahead i can't explain my mother i can't explain her i don't understand

01:18:27.540 her half the time but she's the person she's who she is yeah no i i understand she was crazy i

01:18:35.300 just i don't understand how all the mutual relatives um my mom my mom's the queen bee

01:18:42.420 basically the family okay and when i called my brother i said hey brother what's going on why

01:18:49.080 didn't you tell me he goes oh that's what mom wanted mom didn't want you to know he's just so

01:18:54.420 so blase about it and then i called my sister i called my oldest my oldest sister she's just like 0.91

01:19:02.820 well you know how mom is holy crap you you have to be so i would be so angry at everybody 0.99

01:19:11.580 holy that's why i left that's why i moved to santonia to get away from them for a little bit 0.96

01:19:15.600 just to give me that space you ever wonder i'm sorry go ahead i would i would never talk to

01:19:22.640 them again if i was in your show i would be so pissed and that's the thing i would literally

01:19:26.640 about it i'm listening to this thing about i still want to talk to my i still love my mother

01:19:31.780 as much as i hate to say it i still love her um did she do that kind of stuff when you were a kid

01:19:40.800 too like lie to you about a bunch of stuff she used to beat it my mom used to beat us a lot she 1.00

01:19:46.000 my mom was on drugs she'd tell us my mom was always gaslighting us about everything 1.00

01:19:50.220 like she literally we would get up in the morning on saturday mornings like we would be very quiet

01:19:55.460 not to wake my mom up and we'd be watching little cartoons whatever and as soon as she'd wake up

01:20:00.100 it's just like a hurricane came into the house she would literally start screaming at us started 0.98

01:20:04.360 whipping us with the belt, do all this, blah, blah, blah. I'm six years old. You want me to

01:20:11.240 clean the house? I'm six years old. How long has it been since you talked to her?

01:20:18.080 I talked to her a couple of days ago, but I keep it very short. I just like,

01:20:21.880 I keep it very short. Like as soon as I start hearing that tangent in her voice,

01:20:29.320 when she starts going on about something else, I say, okay, mom, I'll talk to her. Love you. Bye.

01:20:32.720 what makes you not just cut her off all the way like i just what do you get out of this relationship

01:20:38.600 i don't i don't know what to tell you bro like i said just the fact that i don't know if it's

01:20:45.100 just the fact that she's my mother or what it is but just like i i don't know what to say it's

01:20:52.520 it's okay i mean i'm not i'm not judging i'm just wondering because it just it just seems like

01:20:58.780 you're not getting much out of it you know no but you're allowed you're allowed to cut her off you

01:21:07.720 know it doesn't make you like a bad person or anything i know a lot of family members try to

01:21:12.560 guilt you but it really doesn't like i said i appreciate that you're letting me talk about this

01:21:20.560 no thanks for calling in yeah um i was sometimes you gotta wonder because your brother and sister

01:21:28.360 it seems like they because i was like that my my other siblings could just let certain things that

01:21:37.220 my mom did just like slide off their back and i'm like how do you do it like how do you not care

01:21:41.420 because like my mother constantly hurt me like all the time and i just had to get away but you

01:21:48.900 know i have siblings where they get to sit there and just like let it slide off and i'm like how

01:21:52.920 you do that how how do you not let it bother you you know and you you don't owe your mom anything

01:22:00.600 man like a lot of women a lot of mothers oh yeah you know i i gave birth to you i carried you for 0.99

01:22:05.400 nine months and what would you be without me i'm telling you like pro said with cut her off man

01:22:10.520 you know well the the best thing you did was move away because those whole queen bees where they have

01:22:15.800 not only do they control your life uh and your family's life but you used to control

01:22:21.160 and a lot of other people in the community's lives too understand what i'm saying yeah so yeah

01:22:27.180 good thing you moved away man and the thing about it is is you got to stop hoping for something that

01:22:33.440 you're never going to get i know i i don't expect the relationship my mom to ever be perfect at all

01:22:39.720 like i said i i see her maybe once a year in person and that's it yeah well thanks for calling

01:22:46.080 in um that's the problem that's the craziest story i've heard in a while what the hell that's 0.54

01:22:52.160 insane yeah i went yeah i went bye guys have a good one tell your dad died i would never talk

01:23:01.840 to a single person in my family ever again especially if you're close with your oh my god

01:23:07.440 i'm just putting myself in like oh i would be so mad yeah you find out on google that your

01:23:15.360 father died and he's a junior so he saw his name senior was the obituary gosh

01:23:27.760 okay next up mike johnson and then l wayne i saw you got that but you can come back in

01:23:36.080 and you'll be next mike

01:23:37.600 can you hear me i can hear you thanks for calling in mike um tell me what is the craziest lie your 0.97

01:23:47.440 mother ever told you this is actually daniel senior i finally got my damn phone to work okay 0.89

01:23:53.240 cool um i just wanted to say shout out to you um you i've seen you on ab first

01:24:01.360 Antoine Daniels, and then I see you on Jesse Lee Peterson.

01:24:05.500 Oh, thank you.

01:24:06.980 So what's the story you got?

01:24:08.440 So you're the type of woman that a man needs. 1.00

01:24:11.680 You're the type of thinking, but there's not many out there.

01:24:13.680 But my mother, the biggest thing about my mother is that I realized she was a narcissistic first. 0.98

01:24:23.000 And it's important to realize if you have a narcissistic mother and what those characters are.

01:24:28.960 and then like you said we gotta let them go don't stay in that let them go they'll torture you

01:24:35.440 forever god you gotta let them go go ahead but yeah i let her go four years ago i'm 54 and i've

01:24:42.160 had the greatest time of my life the most freedom i've ever had i i am done with her and all my

01:24:47.760 family but my mother a lot of things she did i look at now and i laugh one of the things she 0.97

01:24:54.560 would always do and lie to me about was she would the funny thing is she would get mad at me when i 0.94

01:25:01.520 wasn't even in the room and she'd be cussing at me in other rooms the shit was it was crazy like 0.98

01:25:09.120 she would drop something in the kitchen and then she would yell and scream at me and then she'd 1.00

01:25:13.680 call me in there and she'd try to hit me and i i wouldn't let her do it but my mother hates men 1.00

01:25:19.120 i also realized that for 50 years that she hates men she tried to emasculate me she couldn't do it 0.96

01:25:25.600 and she hated me for that and i'm very thankful to this day that it wasn't able to that she wasn't

01:25:31.600 able to complete the job she's done it with the rest of the family everybody hates me and she's

01:25:36.880 made it very much known to everybody that i'm the most worst person in the world i cut everybody off

01:25:43.120 pearl there isn't one family member i have in my life and my life is amazing that's all i wanted

01:25:49.520 to say so if you fellows out there or can't let go do your best to let go do not hold on to it

01:25:56.560 anymore it's just you will not be free until you let go yeah because it's just endless fighting

01:26:01.920 like it's and then they send everyone against you it never ends so yeah thanks so much for

01:26:06.960 calling in we love you girl keep going thank you and that is everybody

01:26:17.520 wow the death that was a crazy one the dead oh my god

01:26:24.880 that's the thing mothers are just they're like a different type of evil truly so 1.00

01:26:32.160 yeah i told you society it just keeps giving women a pass and the pass has gotten bigger 1.00

01:26:39.040 ever since the whole single mother thing because here's the thing you know how um

01:26:44.080 i still have to find that stat because i swear multiple sources have said that 75 percent of

01:26:50.480 abuse towards children and the elderly is women i know that 80 percent of workplace bullying oh

01:26:56.240 Oh, let me bring in this person

01:26:58.120 because they're back.

01:26:59.960 Which person?

01:27:02.500 L. Wayne

01:27:03.460 is coming in.

01:27:07.000 L. Wayne

01:27:07.860 is on mute.

01:27:11.540 L. Wayne, are you there?

01:27:15.120 What I'm saying is

01:27:16.280 Yes.

01:27:18.700 Hey, how's it going?

01:27:24.300 Hi.

01:27:26.240 hi um so what's your thoughts on the topic

01:27:29.480 yes i'm here yeah hi so what's the biggest lie your mother ever told you 0.83

01:27:37.400 hey how you doing good i think you're listening to the youtube in the background you have to turn

01:27:45.020 the youtube off ah okay am i still here you're here yes oh okay well this is weird all right

01:27:55.180 So, the best way I can describe my childhood and going on is that when I was growing up, my mom, you know, I was a kid and she's been mentally disabled my entire life.

01:28:14.280 And my dad, being the wonderful person that he is, he did the best that he could to uphold my family and keep things going.

01:28:27.060 But after a while, when I turned a teenager, things got bad and there was a nasty divorce.

01:28:35.700 They got into a horrible fight and that was it. It was over.

01:28:39.860 Well, shortly after that, probably it had been about, it was almost a year, about eight or nine months after the divorce.

01:28:55.180 I got woken up in the middle of the night by my mom with a large butcher knife. 0.99

01:29:03.000 What?

01:29:05.180 Yes.

01:29:06.460 What?

01:29:06.900 And she told me to get up and that we were going to get in the car and she was going to put the family back together.

01:29:18.680 My mom was having a, you know, an episode, psychosis episode.

01:29:26.640 And we got into the car and the plan was to drive to get my brother, who was about, you know, he was in college.

01:29:34.900 and we're going to go down there and get him.

01:29:38.340 Well, we started to run out of gas in the car.

01:29:42.860 And she still had the knife driving, by the way.

01:29:45.420 She was driving with one hand all over the place. 1.00

01:29:47.180 It was crazy.

01:29:53.440 And I had to dive out of the car, I was still moving,

01:29:58.240 and walk to a gas station and call the family that I could depend on to come help

01:30:06.560 and convince her to take medical help.

01:30:17.200 How old were you?

01:30:20.320 I was 11.

01:30:25.280 Wow.

01:30:26.000 wow so at 11 years old you woke up to a knife in your face and your mom um saying she wants

01:30:34.160 to get the family together she drives you and during the drive you convince her to get help

01:30:41.280 on the way to get your brother is that right yes it took me diving out of out of the car while it

01:30:47.200 was still moving but yes and walking to the nearest gas station so what happened after that

01:30:54.800 did you have to go back did your mom lose custody of you or something yeah um after that i went

01:31:02.160 back for a little bit and the episodes continued and then i had to go into state custody for a

01:31:11.280 little bit and eventually i ended up getting in contact with my dad and going to live with him in

01:31:22.000 in a different state from where we lived.

01:31:26.420 Do you still have contact with your mom?

01:31:29.740 Yeah, actually, I live with her right now,

01:31:33.040 and I help take care of her.

01:31:36.500 What is she?

01:31:37.180 Is she, like, I don't know what mental illness

01:31:39.840 causes someone to go into psychosis.

01:31:43.640 It would be paranoia, schizophrenia, and bipolar.

01:31:47.320 Are you ever scared she's going to do that again?

01:31:49.400 Like, does she ever go into episodes now?

01:31:52.000 yes i dealt with one recently wow what it's been it's been most of my life

01:32:00.680 wow what makes you still um like take care of or do you just feel like it's your responsibility to

01:32:07.000 at the moment yes i but i would like to

01:32:18.800 get her more professional help because you know as she ages it tends to get worse

01:32:27.080 yes so so i'm going to ask you so do you ever want to live some type of symptoms of a regular

01:32:37.460 life like do you want to because you know that you can't live a regular life if you're taking

01:32:41.880 care of your mother with who's a paranoid schizophrenic right oh yeah so i mean do you

01:32:49.960 just are you gonna spend the rest of your life just taking care of us better pronounced a 0.74

01:32:53.880 schizophrenic do you want to like live your own life maybe have a relationship have kids or

01:32:58.520 something like that definitely wow um what are your choices can you put her in a home or something 0.97

01:33:07.480 that's that's still kind of in the works

01:33:12.060 yeah i don't you know i don't want to have to live with kathy bates forever

01:33:19.740 what was it what was the recent episode did um like did she threaten to hurt you again

01:33:28.960 i actually i'm sure at this point you've taken all the weapons out of the house right

01:33:32.780 oh yeah yeah

01:33:35.340 wow wow you might you might have beat the other guy in these mother stories

01:33:44.000 the other guy called in and i said that's the worst story i've heard in a while but i think

01:33:50.040 you just topped it oh man i don't mean to laugh i do apologize but hey you know ben franklin is

01:33:58.100 devil right what do you do yeah and you're still in it too you know i'm hoping that the situation

01:34:04.740 can change man because you know time's gonna go by you don't want to look back on your life with

01:34:11.220 a whole bunch of what ifs and woods and coulds and shoulds you know yeah oh yeah i've done my

01:34:18.180 share i still live i'm a fighter yeah well thanks so much for calling and telling your story um

01:34:26.420 call it again keep us posted um all right we'll do how old are you if you don't mind me asking

01:34:34.260 i'm 36. oh my gosh you've spent your whole life dealing with this

01:34:39.700 okay she's been sick my entire life it's been a rough ride but somebody's got to do it

01:34:47.620 thank you for calling in have a good one thank you wow oh my gosh

01:34:53.780 my goodness and he has to take care of a woman that would do that kind of thing and that's your 1.00

01:35:00.320 mom see that's the thing no guys don't ever these women keep painting men to be these horrible

01:35:06.880 people but there's men more often than not men will do what he's doing where he'll sacrifice

01:35:14.680 his life for for the benefit of his mother or women around him but women will not do the same 0.99

01:35:19.820 you ever see that story pearl where um this guy this woman was dating was married to this guy 0.51

01:35:27.540 he got cancer and then she divorced him because he had cancer and then he actually got remarried

01:35:34.820 and lived his new life with a wife and lived his last days with his new wife and this his new wife

01:35:42.440 married him knowing he had cancer and then she had the nerve to do i do cancer half marathons 0.99

01:35:48.340 and marathons in memory of my ex-husband that i left because he had cancer

01:35:52.900 women oh my goodness all right we have one last caller we're gonna let in dan as make sure to

01:36:03.540 like the video if you haven't already subscribe if you haven't already hit that super chat button

01:36:07.660 all super chats go towards the divorce documentary dan are you there yeah can you guys hear me i can

01:36:15.180 oh that was so nice you came in ready to go no youtube in the background that was great

01:36:21.740 awesome awesome yeah it's separate devices so yeah all good okay so um yeah what is the worst

01:36:29.100 lie your mother ever told you

01:36:33.100 very similar to the mexican guy that called okay um you know my parents divorced when i was two

01:36:40.060 and all growing up i heard you know oh your dad cheated he's you know he you know i i came home

01:36:48.700 and he was you know he left me and you know he ruined the family blah blah you know i was too 0.60

01:36:54.780 i didn't know what happened in my mid 40s i caught her you know she just basically told on herself

01:37:01.260 that she was the one that filed for divorce and um i was like you never told me that like

01:37:08.860 and then my dad was the one who said like you know let's figure it out like don't do this blah blah

01:37:14.300 blah and um i was like damn all right i just thought that was like i guess like lying by

01:37:23.420 omission type of thing so how old were you when you found out uh 45. okay oh my gosh you didn't 0.90

01:37:32.140 find out till your did you have a relationship with your dad the whole time or did you get into

01:37:36.940 contact when you were older um so he got custody uh majority custody during the divorce so um but

01:37:45.900 i was kind of like she like kind of turned me against him a little bit so which was kind of

01:37:50.780 toxic because i was with him most of the time yeah yeah like when i'd have weekends with her

01:37:59.340 people don't understand how strong like mother's propaganda is

01:38:03.980 like it's just so strong because it takes you years to figure it out because

01:38:10.060 it's like um it's like you're listening to a podcast in your ear about how terrible your

01:38:15.900 dad is and it takes years for you to like notice that wait i don't think he would do that you know

01:38:21.820 what i mean yeah it's and now my relationship with my dad is way better um but it suffered

01:38:28.060 for a long time like when i was in high school because or even when i was little is kind of like

01:38:32.380 like what you were saying like earlier about like the mom puts themselves on the pedestal and then

01:38:37.120 you just kind of like believe everything she says and in a way it's kind of like out of self

01:38:41.100 preservation it's like okay if i say anything you know it's like she's gonna get pissed off so

01:38:46.760 you just kind of like go along with her narrative and um yeah so that i mean it was it took me a

01:38:53.980 while what actually happened was she cheating also or she just divorced i don't think so um i i think

01:39:01.620 that he was cheating um but knowing my mom she's super emotional she just like you know

01:39:08.400 um i don't know if she forced him to move out or she took her stuff i still don't really know to

01:39:15.560 this day like the actual story um my dad ended up getting like remarried like immediately after

01:39:22.400 the divorce and then my mom got remarried and then they both got divorced and they just

01:39:27.860 created like a downward spiral type of thing i mean they're both fine but you know ended up

01:39:34.320 having like a lot of step parents coming in and out of the house so i really don't to this day

01:39:39.560 don't know if he cheated or how bad or if she cheated so it's my dad doesn't like to talk about

01:39:46.220 it that's the thing the dads will actually preserve the mother's reputation or the women 1.00

01:39:52.900 will just oh totally he never said anything bad about her he never said anything bad about her

01:39:58.500 and then the moms get mad when you come to your own conclusions based off of their behavior 1.00

01:40:03.460 and then they blame the dad and you're like it's your personality actually go ahead

01:40:11.300 yeah no it's just exactly what you're saying it's like even just stating the obvious of like you

01:40:15.780 you objectively did this it's like what are you trying to say that i'm a bad person i'm like

01:40:20.420 like I'm just saving like a sequence of like historical events like yeah what are you saying

01:40:27.680 so yeah I kind of quit talking to her after you know you know I just needed a break because it's

01:40:34.520 like too much drama yeah and um then I just got like a really big job offer I was like oh this

01:40:40.520 maybe is universe telling me something I shouldn't just like talk not talk to my mom and I'll make

01:40:45.180 more money yeah yeah actually I'm like there's no there's no drama in my life and so it's kind

01:40:53.860 of like okay things more fell into place you know yeah yeah no it's like when you cut them off it's

01:41:02.020 like the best feeling in the world you just don't have to deal with it anymore yeah no and it's just

01:41:08.280 like you get the emails it's like no you must contact me now I'm like actually I don't must

01:41:13.100 do anything I'm just gonna like go get a massage or something you know it's like they try to guilt

01:41:21.980 you like you're a bad person if you don't like do exactly what they say you know my favorite one is

01:41:28.300 it's like I gave birth to you and you're like you wanted to do that like so many times you're like

01:41:34.420 you're the one who chose that yeah yeah nine months you were inside of me I was like dude I

01:41:41.340 didn't that wasn't like I didn't sign up for that dude yeah it was it was nine months not five years

01:41:46.220 you know like why are we acting like that's that long of a time it's yeah well the other part of

01:41:56.900 the story actually you guys might find interesting was that um my dad got child support because my

01:42:02.840 mom did have yeah yeah he took me to like Europe twice in middle school because he had all this

01:42:09.140 extra money from child support oh yeah um yeah but she had how much how much did he get a month

01:42:18.020 i don't know it was was not small i know he had her wages garnished a couple times which is

01:42:25.660 hilarious that was another thing my mom was like we should get him on

01:42:34.380 does he want to do a show on how to put your wife on child support yeah yeah

01:42:41.700 um yeah you well it just depends on the woman like my mom did have serious anger anger management 1.00

01:42:49.980 problems yeah um she disowned me like a couple times due to like just academic performance and

01:42:57.040 things like that um you know just like you know it's funny when they disowned you and you're like

01:43:01.660 all right see ya yeah oh darn yeah but I was younger though so it I mean to me I was it was

01:43:12.240 really um I was hurt by it to be honest at that point in my life how old were you you know um 21

01:43:20.680 oh okay okay yeah at that age you don't know how crazy they are I feel like it's like you're mid 1.00

01:43:29.120 to late 20s early 30s when you're like I think she's insane yeah you think that it's like oh 0.76

01:43:37.700 it's your parent like their opinion should matter like you should weigh it into your life you know

01:43:42.100 it's like oh if your parent says that they you know they disown you I must have done something

01:43:46.380 wrong you know yeah but yeah then I like read all the court documents I was like no the actually

01:43:53.240 the judge said she's crazy too so what did your mother do for work they're asking what about your

01:43:58.640 dad? Um, my dad was a corporate attorney. Um, so he was like really smart guy, like top of his

01:44:05.920 class, um, like Ivy league. And, uh, well, so this goes, this goes back to like, um, previous

01:44:12.240 conversations she had, um, she was an immigrant from Asia. So it was kind of like a passport bro

01:44:17.660 situation, but she was like, um, uh, like an accountant, you know, accounts payable. So she,

01:44:25.180 um yeah she got her like citizenship and everything through my dad and um yeah so

01:44:31.440 be careful with it that's so funny be careful with the passport bro stuff you know it's like

01:44:37.480 as soon as they get a credit card it's like game over okay well thanks for calling in call it any

01:44:44.080 time okay yeah thanks guys really appreciate you uh hearing my story because

01:44:48.460 that's everybody cool that was funny

01:44:56.740 i love it when they come in with the we gotta figure out a way around waiting for each caller

01:45:04.200 because it just takes too long we'll think about this next show but okay um my final thoughts is

01:45:11.020 that whenever women um are wrong they'll just gaslight you to eternity and that includes mothers 1.00

01:45:19.500 and so um what i would say is cut off your moms cut them off look at they're going to drag you 1.00

01:45:26.140 into their drama forever and i would just cut them off and you can make a prerequisite to be 0.95

01:45:31.900 in your life that they have to be drama free and if they're not nice to you which are two pretty

01:45:37.180 minimal easy things and if they don't want to do the bare minimum i would just cut them

01:45:42.540 so what about you doug mpa one of the ultimate gas lights i think i've told this story on this

01:45:47.980 show before but i'll say it again um i had a friend and uh she went to uh catholic school

01:45:57.420 elementary school middle school high school right and um you know all of the teachers were catholic

01:46:04.220 you know priest or whatever and when she was in fifth and sixth grade she had the same teacher

01:46:09.340 and this guy was like straight up like sleeping with the fifth graders and the sixth grade girls

01:46:13.900 like her and like two of her friends like like in the classroom right and so she went to tell

01:46:21.260 her mom and her mom uh because all she cared about all her mom cared about was how she was

01:46:26.700 seen in the church and she was a woman of of status in the church whatever and um so she

01:46:33.980 was like oh no what are you saying these horrible things about this man for he's a good man blah

01:46:38.940 blah blah blah blah she's like no mom like this guy's doing this stuff to me and my friends and

01:46:44.060 she's like how dare you say that and how dare you say don't tell anybody blah blah blah right so she

01:46:49.660 had to go through fifth grade and sixth grade what is happening to her right oh my gosh when she was 1.00

01:46:57.740 in high school that guy messed around with one of the daughters of someone in the city that was like 0.97

01:47:05.260 rich and powerful right so that girl told the dad and that guy got criminally the priest got

01:47:13.660 criminally prosecuted and got arrested and convicted and sent to prison for like a long time

01:47:19.500 right because once that case started a bunch of other girls spoke up so he got like a bunch of

01:47:24.860 her time in prison. And she said, mom, look, I told you. And her mom just gaslights her to this

01:47:32.100 day. You know, if you would have just told me, you know, I had so much going on. And what about

01:47:40.380 me? What about me? What about me and my feelings? And to this day, she's just like, mom, I just

01:47:46.840 want you to say. Just say I was wrong. That's it. And we'll forgive you. That's the crazy thing.

01:47:51.060 The kids will forgive the mother if you just say, hey, I was wrong for doing that.

01:47:57.420 That's it.

01:47:57.840 That's all you have to do.

01:47:58.980 I was wrong and I'm sorry.

01:48:02.040 She said, all you have to do, mom, is say, I wasn't there to protect you.

01:48:06.140 I didn't believe you.

01:48:07.240 I'm sorry, but she can't even do that. 1.00

01:48:09.880 They never can.

01:48:11.340 That's modern women, everybody. 1.00

01:48:13.980 All right, guys.

01:48:15.680 Thank you so much for tuning in tonight.

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Pearl - August 15, 2025

What Is The Greatest Lie Your Mother Ever Told You？ (Call-in Show) ｜ Pearl Daily

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