Pearl - When Boyfriends Find HOTTER GIRLFRIENDS

00:00:00.000 you're addicted to the hope of being wanted again not the actual person your ego wanted to win but

00:00:04.740 now it feels rejected so your ego panics and stupidly i wonder who's the chad behind this

00:00:09.740 well guys welcome to my reaction series today we are going to react to women at our very very

00:00:16.800 worst when our ex moves on especially when it's someone younger than hotter younger and hotter

00:00:23.600 than us as a woman women just for your mental health it's not if your ex will do better it's

00:00:29.700 just when generally speaking unless he like fell off during the relationship um yeah i mean i i

00:00:36.480 just you got to mentally accept that they he will get with someone younger and better looking than

00:00:40.760 you at some point so just accept it things i hear you guys talk about the most is the devastation

00:00:45.960 you feel when you see your ex with someone else and they look happy the new girl is smiling and

00:00:50.680 laughing i hate seeing men happy here's the thing you know i think men like they kind of want their

00:00:57.360 wife to find someone new or their ex-girlfriend like i think they're they would be a lot of times

00:01:02.560 sadder if you didn't find someone else unless you're a complete but if you're good to them

00:01:07.600 women don't want like good things for you it confirms all of your worst fears that someone

00:01:13.120 else is getting the best of them and by default that makes you feel like you just weren't good

00:01:16.720 enough you start kicking yourself for leaving too soon because there's the thing a lot of times it's

00:01:22.640 timing like maybe you weren't good enough at the time or maybe he did find out he could do better

00:01:28.000 or maybe he just got better at relationships the second time around so i'm afraid that she's going

00:01:33.520 to get the man you were waiting for you're afraid that she's going to get the man you lost yourself

00:01:37.840 look at this is just not helpful thinking it there's it's not helpful break up figure out

00:01:45.600 we can do better move on so i find it's so devastating for us to see the memory of the

00:01:54.480 man we were waiting for but i want you to listen to me i want you to go back to those earliest days

00:02:00.320 back when he was still pretending to be everything you always wanted back when he actually was the

00:02:05.040 man you fell in love with and back before you knew any better if i had taken a camera and recorded

00:02:10.480 every moment of every day in the beginning would you have looked blissfully happy of course you

00:02:15.680 would have because you are so in love with that version of him that you spent years waiting for

00:02:20.480 it to come back again isn't it possible that you're seeing that same temporary happiness in

00:02:25.520 her that you once saw in yourself he's pretending to be for her who he pretended to be for you

00:02:32.000 and even if that looks a little bit different you have to understand that they mold to the person

00:02:36.800 because their greatest power is their sense of perception and today we know that the man that

00:02:42.080 calls again this just isn't a good way to think you you need to move on i understand it's really

00:02:47.920 difficult but women if there's any women watching you'll waste years thinking like this um

00:02:54.960 look if you want to check on what he's doing like once a month or whatever but i would just take all

00:03:00.320 that energy of sadness and go to the gym diet like there's no one that can get more done after a

00:03:08.160 breakup okay you want to use that pain okay that awful pain and like use it to become like all

00:03:17.200 that's all the motivation that you're you like um are not going to have day to day so it's going to

00:03:23.440 be a tool use it a tool to go on dates um use it as a tool to um you know get to the gym learn

00:03:32.800 better blow job skill whatever you got to do chica those same smiles and you never actually existed

00:03:39.120 you envy her because she has what you wanted but the truth is that no one can have what isn't real

00:03:44.800 well and you don't know you you have no idea what their relationship is like long to see that

00:03:49.360 version of that there was um there was a time that i was really sad i had an ex-boyfriend he

00:03:54.800 like moved on pretty quick to someone younger and hotter and i was sad and then she ended up

00:04:00.320 like crashing out on him doing all this crazy stuff and it was a very like public fit like

00:04:05.920 and i wish you know i don't know it's just it kind of goes back to it's just not worth being

00:04:12.880 sad over because you don't know and it doesn't matter even if they're blissfully happy it does

00:04:17.200 not matter i'm just one more time but you have to remember that they use that version only to

00:04:23.360 get and never to keep but let's take it a step further because even when the mask came off and

00:04:29.280 you realized who he actually was did you post pictures of the tears did you post the fighting

00:04:35.360 the heartbreak these days women do actually post it or the pain no you posted fake smiles and

00:04:41.120 temporary highs to hide the shame and avoid anyone knowing the reality of the relationship

00:04:47.120 you hid the reality of the situation in snapshots that showed what you wished it was but wasn't

00:04:52.880 yeah well because women are very performative when it comes to relationships because you're

00:04:56.320 not seeing the same shell of her that you once saw of yourself does not mean he's not leaving

00:05:00.640 or feeling empty inside we can't envy someone's relationship with our ex without remembering our

00:05:06.800 own timeline don't compete with another woman to be someone's victim because sometimes we're

00:05:13.040 sisters in that heartbreak and not enemies all right um that just sounds like much mumbo jumbo

00:05:19.060 your ex's new relationship let's see what this old broad has to say a woman that he worked with

00:05:23.420 so when my husband and i divorced he started dating a woman that he worked with they are now

00:05:28.100 happily married now and the day that i met her i welcomed her with open arms it looked like she

00:05:33.040 going to be a part of our family and she was going to be in my kid's life so i wanted us to

00:05:36.880 have an easy transition at least kindness between us but then the kids started telling me all the

00:05:42.720 things that they were doing together that he didn't do with me like lots of cuddling and

00:05:48.160 public displays well yeah because you failed at your burden of performance um and that's making

00:05:54.160 men want to do these things that's your burden of performance as some women got to work harder

00:05:58.320 because they're uglier you know and there was a little voice in my head that thought what the

00:06:03.600 hell how come he never did that with me for 20 years but then i realized we married the wrong

00:06:09.040 person when you marry the right person who you're compatible with each person is going to behave

00:06:14.080 differently than how they would behave if they were in a relationship with the wrong person i

00:06:18.480 recognized that they were much more compatible than he and i were so did i get angry that he

00:06:23.520 and her are happy absolutely not it makes perfect sense he and i were in an arranged marriage through

00:06:30.080 a prophet in our church we never really fell in love and i believe that a lot of people get into

00:06:35.280 arranged marriages and they're not marrying because they actually love each other they're

00:06:39.120 marrying because they got pregnant marrying for some legal reason they're marrying because they

00:06:43.600 have some financial difficulties it's more of a business partnership than a love connection so if

00:06:48.800 you and your partner break up and they go on to be an amazing partner for someone else that doesn't

00:06:52.800 mean that you were a bad person or that you didn't deserve really beautiful love i actually

00:06:57.520 agree with her because some people just are not compatible personality wise just means that you

00:07:02.400 and your partner were never compatible because no good relationship ends in a breakup and the key

00:07:08.000 to a successful long relationship is marrying the right person so if you're bitter that your ex is

00:07:14.640 now a good partner to someone else and wasn't to you don't take it personal they're just more

00:07:20.000 compatible and hopefully your partner learned from their mistakes that they're more self-aware now

00:07:25.920 and that they've had a lot of personal growth that thought process was super healing for me

00:07:30.480 and sent me on my path to find the right match for me all right let's see tips to help you cope with

00:07:35.840 seeing your ex with someone new i know it feels disgusting but you don't want them you only want

00:07:40.400 them because they don't want you and you're experiencing limerence where you're obsessively

00:07:44.400 thinking about someone who isn't reciprocating the same romantic connection your nervous system

00:07:48.480 is trying to resolve the tension of feeling unchosen you're addicted to the hope of being

00:07:52.520 wanted again not the actual person your ego wanted to win but now it feels rejected so your ego

00:07:57.500 panics and stupidly manipulates i wonder who's the guy having her make this video who i wonder

00:08:02.140 who's the chad behind this relates you into thinking that you're not good enough ego mixed

00:08:06.800 with limerence is like emotional cocaine because your brain creates this fantasy of how special

00:08:10.860 they were how deep the connection was and how they've had the audacity to throw it all away

00:08:15.180 now all you want is for them to come running back and beg for your forgiveness to prove that their

00:08:19.220 feelings were real but it's all a load of bullshit because the relationship was shit and you weren't

00:08:22.820 even happy you're just experiencing attachment withdrawals and on the other side of it is going

00:08:26.660 to be peace and relief laugh don't cry because whoever moves on first moves on worse they're not

00:08:30.940 healing they're running away from the pain and hiding but grief avoided is grief delayed they're

00:08:35.480 weak they didn't have the courage to sit with the discomfort so they ran to the easiest option

00:08:39.360 you're crying now and facing your demon so you can laugh later and you should genuinely be proud

00:08:43.820 once the honeymoon phase dies out they'll realize they never got over you and the real plot twist is

00:08:48.100 when they realize what they've lost you'll realize that they were nothing special take it personal

00:08:52.380 and seek revenge you're allowed to feel triggered because they meant something to you and now they

00:08:56.280 belong to someone else but the best revenge is showing them exactly what they've lost without

00:09:00.480 saying a fucking word not out of bitterness you're just fighting for the version of yourself that you

00:09:04.380 abandoned whilst trying yeah i mean all this mumbo-jumbo just be a better person actions not

00:09:09.400 words to keep them you're not jealous of the new person they've just got traits that you admire

00:09:13.760 so take inspiration and evolve your avatar reinvent yourself hit the gym with vengeance

00:09:17.880 heal your nervous system really fix your appearance build your money up expand your

00:09:22.360 knowledge and embody your femininity become unattainable and unrecognizable i do agree

00:09:27.100 um yeah the the gym i just think breakups are a useful tool for gyms it sucks to see an ex with

00:09:34.040 somebody new it's a jab in the heart it never feels good but what you need to remember is that

00:09:39.460 people do not change that much that fast right so the next person just has your men will not women

00:09:49.700 women don't change men change all the time problem and they just don't know it yet this is gonna

00:09:55.860 so this is that's bitter women trying to cope um which is okay i mean we gotta do we gotta do it

00:10:01.500 somehow we gotta i mean how else are we gonna cope with the fact that we're aging and they can

00:10:05.440 do better forever. And they'll be happy with what they have. We could have like Tom Brady and not

00:10:10.500 be happy. Can you imagine that? Hi, Tom Brady. And then he's like, hi, honey. And she's like,

00:10:16.140 you're never home enough. And then he's like, I'm Tom Brady, bitch. Yeah, we do know how to

00:10:22.120 torture men. Anyways, guys, let me know what you think of the comments. Make sure you like the

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Pearl - December 18, 2025

When Boyfriends Find HOTTER GIRLFRIENDS

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