Pearl - When Women Regret Their Careers Choices And Want To Be 304s Instead

00:00:00.000 what up guys welcome to my reaction series today we are reacting to an article from buzzfeed that

00:00:05.840 talks about how women over 30 are discussing their career regrets and i'm honestly taking

00:00:10.400 notes on all of the insight they're giving is the title so let's look at this article and see what

00:00:15.680 the ladies are saying we spend our whole lives hearing what do you want to be when you grow up 1.00

00:00:23.440 but very seldom do we hear about the regret that can go into spontaneously choosing a lifelong

00:00:29.360 career it's scary to think about working day in and day out for the rest of your life at the same

00:00:34.320 mundane job or worse a job that was never meant for you so when reddit user midwestern ma max to

00:00:43.920 pose the question do you have any career regrets in ask women over 30 i knew the answers would

00:00:49.120 definitely hold some deeper insight number one i'm currently working a low-paying job for amazing

00:00:56.000 benefits because my husband agreed to take more on money wise he left me on monday so now i'm

00:01:01.280 wondering if i can stay in a low-paying job and get medical benefits or go to a better paying job

00:01:06.320 i regret putting myself in this position i should have stayed at the higher paying job number two

00:01:12.160 i thought i needed to meet 90 of the requirements on a job to apply i now know that i should totally

00:01:17.920 go for jobs i'm interested in even if i only meet 50 to 60 of requirements and you see the difference

00:01:24.480 between men and women women are more rule followers men are more of what works so that's why we're

00:01:30.160 really good at like regurgitating information or like um we're really good at um nagging men to follow

00:01:39.920 the rules uh but women um i guess the rules that benefit us not not like the rule of staying married

00:01:50.720 or anything but you see what i'm saying men um they're a lot more likely to just go for the job

00:01:55.440 because it pays more um number three i'm a pediatrician i love kids i love building relationships

00:02:00.320 with families and i love learning the science of medicine never gets boring it's tons of changing

00:02:06.320 it's interesting and there's a lot of variety but knowing what i know now i wouldn't do it simply

00:02:11.120 put it's really hard to be a doctor and sure that seems obvious on its own but there are so many

00:02:16.080 lies about becoming a doctor that are sold to medical students so here is somebody that chose

00:02:22.240 the career path of being a doctor and as you know most women will quit being doctors by the time they're 0.99

00:02:26.800 40 so the the challenge we get is that um is that women um we just have a tendency to sign up for things

00:02:38.000 for the award and the title and not really think about the day-to-day experience so here's what this

00:02:42.880 reddit user said in my experience one of them was that the painful isolating and exhausting sacrifice

00:02:50.160 of training will yield a better life i don't think that's true yes medical school and residency were

00:02:55.760 peak miserable times of my life but after training my work hasn't exactly been hard yes medical school

00:03:04.000 and residency were peak miserable times of my life but after training my work my work life hasn't

00:03:09.840 exactly been much easier than training even my dream job on paper was incredibly hard i worked 10

00:03:15.360 to 12 hour days was on call all the time and had hours of charting to do every night and was underpaid

00:03:21.200 in lieu of how much cash flow i brought into my practice i don't think there's anything wrong with

00:03:26.080 wanting a soft work life or at the very least a work where the stakes aren't so high all the time and do

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00:05:14.800 idea like women we have a tendency to just like the white coat we have a tendency to like the 1.00

00:05:23.840 the dress up of a job but not actually doing the job that's that's why when the jobs get hard we

00:05:28.560 have a tendency to quit um number four i wish i had followed my heart and gone to school for

00:05:34.000 something i actually love instead of what would have given me the potential for a lucrative career

00:05:39.920 i'm in a pretty well-paid job now but i don't like going to work and that sucks yeah so 0.62

00:05:46.880 again women you know we fought all this time to go to work and we did realize it is it was actually hard

00:05:52.880 you know and some women you know they wish they could stay home i regret that we need careers

00:05:58.400 is not wait sorry number five i regret that we need careers i have two degrees in art history but

00:06:03.920 ended up being a project manager because it pays better than anything in the field that does

00:06:08.560 at least when starting out honestly if we could actually live in the u.s on minimum wage and didn't

00:06:13.520 have to worry about health insurance i would go back to working in a bookstore and spend the rest of

00:06:18.160 my days stocking shelves and talking to people about books well women are the ones that are told 1.00

00:06:24.960 to follow our passion men are told to make money and you can see this by the overwhelming um

00:06:32.880 abundance of men and stem where women don't tend to go into those fields uh six my career is mostly

00:06:39.040 regrets i regret going to law school i regret doing corporate law i regret even doing more public

00:06:43.760 interest-oriented law the only thing i don't regret is eventually striking out on my own i think if i

00:06:49.200 had the chance to go back in time i'd have done something in organizational psychology and probably

00:06:55.520 some kind of strategic consulting basically everyone i know who went into that line of work confirmed

00:07:02.400 that it's not easy can get stressful but it's usually dynamic and fun i would have much preferred

00:07:07.280 that type of career to something as uptight as the practice of law number seven i regret staying

00:07:13.200 home to raise my kids these poor kids i need to work to occupy my brain and i feel like i've gotten

00:07:19.600 dumber because i stayed home a lot of housewives are lazy i'll tell you what again my grandma had 1.00

00:07:25.280 nine kids so i'll hear these housewives saying they're overwhelmed and i'm like you got one 0.98

00:07:30.080 one child my grandma still worked part-time when the kids were of a certain age

00:07:34.720 eight letting a sense of duty or loyalty determine whether i stayed at a job instead of my own well-being

00:07:39.680 there are jobs that i knew right away were negatively impacting my mental health and stayed

00:07:44.960 years hoping it would get better or being worried about leaving my co-workers in the lurch companies

00:07:50.720 can have and will survive without me it's not my fault if they return routinely understaff my intuition is

00:07:56.960 usually right if there are red flags i see in the first few weeks those are unlikely to significantly

00:08:02.320 change and women too yeah and men in people in the future i will set a time line and the types of

00:08:10.080 changes i need to see by then if i'm going to choose to stay if i don't see them i'll have a plan for the

00:08:16.000 next steps to move on to another job nine i hate my career but it's the perfect for my kids and i wish

00:08:23.440 i had cross-trained or something i would change to now to be my own boss or work from home or more

00:08:29.440 i'm tired of doing what i'm doing soul deep tired again and the crazy thing is there's men that pave

00:08:35.600 pavement right there's men that do the dangerous hard jobs that keep our society running for example

00:08:40.720 there's a guy that dies to get us crab in the united states of america there's like crab fishing

00:08:47.760 boats and a man dies every time um to get us crab every every like um time they go out and we um

00:08:56.160 complain because of like a desk job it's amazing to me i wanted to be a doctor when i was in high

00:09:02.240 school but the 17 year old me wasn't found on the path to get there mainly i didn't want to be stuck

00:09:07.200 on a 10-year track with no way of getting off without it saddling myself with huge amounts of

00:09:11.840 debt do i regret it not really but i did look at becoming a doctor again a few years ago and i wish

00:09:17.440 i had looked into it maybe a little bit earlier maybe in my late 20s i'm in my mid 30s now and i feel

00:09:23.040 like the door has closed for me i know i could still do it at any time as i don't doubt my ability

00:09:28.800 to excel in academic environments but everything else around it like opportunity cost the intensity

00:09:33.520 of residency and the inability to choose where i would end up for school and residency all of those

00:09:39.120 things don't sound appealing anymore and i want stability community and to put down roots i also know

00:09:44.480 that the grass can be greener on the other side especially in health care in the united states

00:09:50.720 where providers face burnout like no other if i were to win the lottery tomorrow i'd likely give

00:09:55.440 it a shot and only apply to schools in my area where i'd want to live but without the lottery money

00:10:00.640 it's not worth it since i already make a tax salary and that is as high as some doctors 11. i'm a teacher

00:10:08.080 and i'm not happy i wish i hadn't rushed to graduate when i realized that i wanted to major in computer

00:10:14.640 science i was already in my third year of college and i didn't want to spend three or four years

00:10:19.040 at college i just wanted to graduate on time and now i look back and regret it and i plan on

00:10:23.600 switching careers and i what i think we should take away from this is that we're never happy

00:10:28.160 like our gender we just are always complaining we're never happy there's very little gratitude because

00:10:33.360 i mean some of these jobs have great work like balance work-life balance like teachers

00:10:39.440 um doctors are complaining tech jobs are complaining that make more than doctors

00:10:46.160 like we just we just have a tendency to complain about everything um i fell into my career and

00:10:50.560 completely regret it there are days i don't mind it and actually like it but for the most part i hate

00:10:54.720 it it's a very unstable career when the times are good it's great but when the job market takes it

00:11:00.000 gets really bad i should have done something more creative technical or mentally stimulating 13. i went

00:11:06.320 into business for myself and became a boss and i hated every minute of it never again will i be a boss or own

00:11:12.000 a business especially in this economy number 14. i hate my career i hate it there are a million

00:11:18.240 things i wish i would have done but specifically i don't think i would have been capable of of them

00:11:23.360 at 18. for the most part i think i made the best choice i could have made given who i was

00:11:29.200 and what i was like back then so i've mostly come to terms with my career field at this point my biggest

00:11:35.360 regret is staying in a toxic job as long as i did 15. i wish i hadn't taken my first job out of

00:11:41.440 graduate school it was abusive as f psychopathic management and that job ruined my health in ways

00:11:47.680 that i'll have to deal with for the rest of my life i was caught up in competing with peers from

00:11:52.480 school and i felt like i needed to stick with this job because it was only the only thing i got after

00:11:57.360 graduation i should have had higher standards for myself and how i wanted to be treated but also gentler

00:12:03.280 with how i feel and with how i feel like i need to meet meet certain benchmarks in life to be

00:12:09.680 successful and finally this user shared how important it is to check on yourself and not

00:12:15.120 let the thought of forever fool you my regret is thinking i need to decide on a forever career it only

00:12:22.400 makes me feel constantly dissatisfied and it's such a big thing to figure out now i view it as what can

00:12:27.680 i do in the short to medium term what supports my life goals and priorities i reevaluate occasionally

00:12:34.560 do i need to change how big of a change can i talk to other people who do other jobs to see

00:12:40.320 what i might be able to work towards this also ensures that i may stay this also ensures that i

00:12:47.600 stay open to opportunities that i wouldn't have ever thought of there are so many jobs i didn't know

00:12:52.320 existed when i graduated from university and i continue to learn about new ones who knows where

00:12:57.120 i'll end up if you're 30 plus and want to share your experience or advice that you have when it

00:13:01.840 comes to career regrets feel free to share your story in the comments so women fought to go to work

00:13:06.880 and while some women do get fulfillment out of their careers what i would argue is that a lot of women 1.00

00:13:13.840 did not realize how hard a lot of the careers are and how long forever is and in the industries where

00:13:19.680 women don't benefit off of beauty it can be very difficult like engineering education 1.00

00:13:26.000 but it what's amazing to me is there's no articles like this for the man's jobs that are much more

00:13:31.600 difficult and grueling anyways let me know what you guys think in the comments please like the video

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Pearl - August 18, 2025

When Women Regret Their Careers Choices And Want To Be 304s Instead

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