Pearl - June 04, 2026


Who is The Head of the House Hold： Priest or Husband？


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In this episode, we discuss the topic of who gets to decide who is the head of the household and who gets the power to make decisions. Do women have the right to tell their husbands what to do? Is it okay for a woman to tell her husband how to act? Should a man always agree with his wife on everything? And should a woman be allowed to say no to her husband?

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00:00:00.000 Do you think it's okay for a woman to tell her husband what to do?
00:00:04.380 I believe the woman can, yeah.
00:00:06.300 I mean, like, if the husband's doing something that's not the smartest,
00:00:09.360 yeah, the woman should definitely speak up and then definitely guide her husband.
00:00:12.620 I think that's the point.
00:00:13.400 Well, I mean, the man should definitely have the knowledge
00:00:16.420 and definitely should be obedient to Christ and then obey Christ,
00:00:19.660 and so he can lead the wife and then the children and then, you know, et cetera,
00:00:23.200 being the head of the household.
00:00:24.840 So I think they should.
00:00:26.640 um and again it's not all the cases that most husbands are obedient to christ right um and
00:00:35.980 then you know they're lacking certain areas who gets to decide if he's following christ
00:00:40.040 who gets to decide who gets to decide i mean i would say when you say who gets to decide what
00:00:46.420 do you mean when you say that well okay in a marriage it's long yeah 40 50 ideally right
00:00:51.700 yeah yeah right there's gonna be times where he thinks he's following god an example i just
00:00:59.800 thought of that's common his tone right a lot of women think oh you're not following god because
00:01:04.680 you're talking to me in that way yeah talking to that person uh-huh um so she's gonna say
00:01:09.260 you're not following god he's saying i am oh you're gonna go to the you're gonna go to the
00:01:13.920 priest you're gonna always you're always gonna go to the priest yeah so what if the priest um
00:01:18.940 and the man disagrees the priest and the man disagrees so let's say she goes to the priest
00:01:24.300 and the priest says you know what your tone was terrible you gotta stop that tone and then he goes
00:01:30.200 to the priest and he says i don't i don't agree with you yeah yeah now what i don't i've never
00:01:37.140 seen that before i don't know that's a hard case um i've never seen two men agree on everything
00:01:44.160 Right. But then again, you're supposed to, when it comes to like the priest and then like the clergy, you're supposed to, they're your spiritual fathers, right? So they're going to be the ones that are going to be helping you or guiding you, right, to Christ and then also helping you, you know, through your walk.
00:02:01.700 So being ignorant or being arrogant and saying, oh, well, I disagree with you.
00:02:05.680 And just being overall, you know, confrontation, just not annoying, but you know what I mean. 0.98
00:02:13.300 So in a way, wouldn't I make the priest the head of your household, not you?
00:02:17.600 Not necessarily.
00:02:18.720 I think there's to be a distinction between within the church and then also within your family, you know, as the wife and the husband.
00:02:30.160 I don't think it's going to be on the same thing, right?
00:02:33.980 I think there's a distinction between it, both. 0.99
00:02:36.500 So what do you think about a woman? 1.00
00:02:38.840 There you go. 0.99
00:02:39.760 So, oh, do you think it's okay for a woman to tell her husband what to do?
00:02:45.900 I believe the woman can, yeah.
00:02:47.500 I mean, like, if the husband's doing something that's not the smartest,
00:02:51.240 yeah, the woman should definitely speak up and then definitely guide her husband.
00:02:54.500 I think that's the point. 0.97
00:02:55.320 They're supposed to be working together.
00:02:56.640 It's a collective, right?
00:02:57.560 It's not just the man doing everything, but it's also the wife supporting the man and helping the man
00:03:02.160 and making sure that he's in the comfortable place or right mindset to guide the household.
00:03:07.000 Wouldn't that mean that the boss, if she had a boss, she would never tell him what to do?
00:03:11.300 So in a way, wouldn't a boss get more obedience than the husband if she's allowed to do that? 0.89
00:03:15.460 You said a boss? Like a job, kind of?
00:03:17.880 I work for myself, but I used to work for a copier company. 0.99
00:03:21.860 Even if I thought my boss had a stupid plan, I could not say. 0.98
00:03:25.860 I think, like, everyone's had a boss. 1.00
00:03:27.420 You can't say anything.
00:03:28.860 You can't tell them what to do.
00:03:30.780 And if you can, you risk losing your job, right?
00:03:33.040 There's a level of respect that you have to have for the boss.
00:03:35.460 Yeah, of course.
00:03:36.640 What do you say by that logic that she would have more respect for a hypothetical boss than her husband 1.00
00:03:41.840 if she can tell her husband what to do?
00:03:44.380 But, like, I don't know.
00:03:46.660 So, okay.
00:03:47.720 Hold on, let me just get a second.
00:03:48.640 It's okay.
00:03:48.880 You can think about it.
00:03:49.320 Yeah, I'm thinking about it a little bit.
00:03:50.200 I know.
00:03:50.500 Yeah, it's a good question.
00:03:51.540 I know.
00:03:51.640 Some people never thought about these questions.
00:03:52.260 It's a good question.
00:03:53.200 Yeah.
00:03:53.400 If you don't know, that's fine, too.
00:03:54.520 But, okay.
00:03:55.860 So, um, would he, she have more obedience to her boss over her husband because she's
00:04:02.420 able to tell, or she's not going to be the one to tell the boss what to do right in her
00:04:06.520 job, but she's able to tell her husband what to do. 0.62
00:04:09.180 So obedience, you have more obedience.
00:04:12.260 Um, not necessarily.
00:04:14.880 I don't think having to tell somebody what to do, like tell, like shows you or tells
00:04:21.760 you how much obedience they have to someone in a sense.
00:04:24.860 I don't know.
00:04:25.520 i don't think that's necessarily the same thing you know until you tell someone like you don't
00:04:30.800 know if an employee is good until you tell the employee what to do and they work or they don't
00:04:35.460 work right you know yeah but i think when it comes to like a uh a job such as like a i don't know
00:04:43.980 say like walmart or something i used to work at walmart so like walmart i mean you can give
00:04:49.020 suggestions to your boss i mean when you say like tell them what to do it make it sounds like it's
00:04:54.880 aggressive or like in a demeaning way right you could just like give a suggestion like hey you
00:04:59.720 shouldn't maybe this is a better idea or maybe we should do this and then maybe give some um
00:05:04.660 understanding behind it i think you could do that both for your job and your husband right i don't
00:05:09.380 think it's a bad thing i think you can give suggestions right but there's a limit you know
00:05:13.480 what i mean like you can only come on like you can't like a limit yeah i had a boss okay copiers
00:05:19.320 right okay and he would give us a plan and i could say well uh based on my experience this is
00:05:24.920 a suggestion i would have but there's no way in hell i could say you should do this or you
00:05:31.600 should do that it would actually be like completely out of line yeah but that's yeah that's what i'm
00:05:36.200 saying again but like when you're asking where your question that's actually a really good
00:05:39.860 question you ask uh yeah so like you could say in a sense if you are in a job scenario
00:05:46.580 the woman she would be um i guess more obedient in a sense of the workplace when she's working
00:05:57.360 and her job but within marriage i think that's a completely different thing because you're
00:06:03.600 supposed to work together it's not like it's not like the men is over the woman in like value or
00:06:09.960 some sort of like it's not in value right so like they're supposed to be helping each other i believe
00:06:16.440 at the end of the day um what would be wrong with that if we said the men are more valuable
00:06:21.700 like what's wrong with that oh well no god created this all in his image like i don't think that any
00:06:26.200 of the fathers teach that men are more valuable than women we're all created in an image of god
00:06:30.940 so we have the equal and same value but then wouldn't we have to provide the same value like
00:06:36.160 to society and stuff provide the same value to society yeah because if you say we're equal in
00:06:40.420 value then like wouldn't we be able to provide the same value i don't know what that means i'm
00:06:45.920 not sure what that means like a boss is harder to replace than an employee right in general
00:06:51.300 yeah you're working for walmart yeah easier to replace the employee yeah than it is to replace
00:06:56.760 the guy who runs the whole thing because it's right right so isn't it kind of similar with
00:07:01.080 the husband and wife like it's harder to replace the husband than it is the wife no i don't think
00:07:06.040 so no i don't think so um i mean i replace the husband and the wife no not not at all no i don't
00:07:15.840 have like a long response for that but i don't believe so now and that's um what do you think
00:07:20.140 about women-led bible studies um i don't think that's wrong with that yeah um i mean we have
00:07:26.420 women that teach the children um you know in the bible studies uh for the children in the
00:07:31.880 they have a school um so yeah no there's nothing wrong with that okay do you think it needs to be 0.51
00:07:35.980 under the headship of a man or the woman can just do it on their own uh well no it's always going
00:07:40.420 to be a ruling of authority within the church so it's always going to be you know the bishop
00:07:44.660 the priest, the archpriest, the deacon, and then, you know, you have teachers, and then,
00:07:49.440 yeah, it's always going to be under some sort of hierarchy, in a sense, within the clergy,
00:07:53.800 so that's always going to be it. Perfect, well, thank you so much, sounds good. Yeah, thank you.